A scientific study into why ghosting happens in dating and what to do 👻

[@donnaconley2417]

I was ghosted after a 4+ year relationship. The pain was equivalent to the other person dying. My heart hurt so badly, I thought I would never recover. It took me three years to start to function in a normal way. I think of him every day, still. I love him with all my heart and that will never go away. Even though I know I did nothing to deserve him ghosting me, I felt like the most unworthy person on earth. I can’t move on with my life, I’ve tried. Time has a way of healing your heart, but it takes a long time to pick up the pieces and move forward. I will spend the rest of my life alone, because I can truly say, I’m done. God, has a way of removing toxic people from our lives and that’s the conclusion I finally have come to. Please, don’t ghost, it’s unnecessary and very painful.

[@rungeon83]

This is a fantastic video, I've never ghosted someone who I've talked to a lot, I will always let them know if I'm going to go away. I don't feel I've been ghosted either. But I did talk to oddly enough my ex now on a dating app and didn't message her back for a week and she said "oh I guess it's just the times now people ghost, but wanted to make sure you're okay" as a result I felt guilty and felt I should reply, I wish i didn't but yeah! Always best to just say "hey it was lovely talking, but compaitbility for me isn't here" and if they ask for more reason than that you're well within your right to say "No" or not reply as you've let someone know that you're not feeling it. Better than them wondering.

[@kathleenanne]

Thanks for the feed back and thoughtful comment - agreed, better to be upfront and say if you're not feeling a connection!

[@TrueMa-k3c]

If we weren't official there's no such thing as ghosting.

[@rungeon83]

lol so you're dating for 3 months every weekend (no sex/kissing, just hugs) and bang they ghost you? (And yes most my relationships take 3 months to develop as I can't just commit to someone so soon)

[@TrueMa-k3c]

@rungeon83 I dated a girl 3 months and was all the way up to, but not having sex. I just quit calling/texting. If she texted or called me to ask why I would have answered but she didn't, so it's good.

[@rungeon83]

@@TrueMa-k3c That doesn't seem like ghosting to me, it seems like neither of you was feeling it. The issue is when one person speically after 3 months (if you're meeting up often) suddenly blocks, no warning, no goodbye, just acts like a coward and runs away. Losing contact with someone happens a lot naturally but if you've not blocked her everywhere you didn't ghost.