A Trans Man at the Doctor's | Toby Walker | TEDxCoventGardenWomen

In this disarmingly courageous and hilarious talk, Toby Walker exposes the obstacles facing the transgender community when it comes to accessing complete and competent medical care- in the hope of ‘making being trans less fatal and more fun’.
Toby Walker is a trans journalist and LGBTI+ Liberation Officer for Westminster University, where he is in his final year of study. He is particularly interested in intersectionality in news and the politics of who sees what.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

[@animalover21218]

Toby's voice is really nice to listen to.

[@sqtreasurehunting269]

Yeah she has a nice voice.

[@robbinjones4816]

Katherine Harrington *He

[@user-xm7qs4ui5d]

@@sqtreasurehunting269 Edgy

[@shobo4482]

@@sqtreasurehunting269 You know you have too much free time when you go digging for videos to hate on lol

[@sqtreasurehunting269]

@@shobo4482 actually I have a job that I work 40-60 hours a week to pay tax to keep the unemployed with a roof over their head and food on their table

[@tobiasdodd9521]

I’ve been questioning being FtM for a few years now, but every time I get certain of myself being trans my mind thinks I will regret coming out and that I’m not trans. This has caused me dozens of breakdowns and I don’t know what to do anymore.

[@IAMSTRINDOM]

you don't need to be certain! if you feel like you want to express or present yourself differently, make those changes and let the labels and pronouns come later. if you're able to, maybe talk to a close friend about your feelings. stay strong :)

[@user-ut7wi1if9q]

Maybe ur gender fluid? Maybe talking to someone could help?

[@artbydawnae]

Someone recently told me it is the moments of gender euphoria that matter? Like does it feel great when you’re not misgendered? Also when my son went to the doctor for T, she told us that starting hormones for people who aren’t sure helps them know. Like if they feel great on T then there are most likely on the right path. Some non binary or non conforming choose to have top surgery but not do hormones. Whatever you decide is the right thing. Whatever makes you feel good about yourself or more comfortable in your own skin. Also if you think your trans, come out as trans but then change your mind that is ok too!!! This is your life no one gets to decide what is right for you!!! Check out some good counselors, that work with gender dysphoria. Good luck, be easy with yourself. 💗💕💗

[@trinitylivingston1286]

Me too, I'm really nervous.

[@geraldinegregory.1803]

Give yourself some more time.

[@miloftm9800]

I am a young ftm trans boy, and I love this so much

[@idunno7427]

sonoki82 boy*

[@cxxldxde274]

@sonoki82 I completely respect your opinion (I don't agree with it at all but whatever, everybody to their own I guess.), however, I don't understand why you came onto this video just to disrespect people.

[@milesthemothman7650]

@sonoki82 well people are also born around 7-10 pounds but as you see a lot of things change over the years

[@Doglover-gh9ut]

sonoki82 Milo has grown into a strong young man who doesn’t care what strangers on the internet have to say about his identity

[@jamessorensen3447]

@sonoki82 I didn't come out as a FTM until I was in my 50s even though I knew as a toddler I was meant to be male. I'm 61 niw and my life is so much more fulfilled. I consider people like you to be nothing more than uneducated bullies.

[@juicy6994]

"Are u trans because of anxiety?" Wtf that makes no sense. Why would someone "become" trans because of anxiety? Actually a person with anxiety would avoid being trans because being trans gives u more anxiety....

[@jjjx32]

"aw fuk I'm so stressed i think I just might become a man"

[@hamstercult2280]

@@jjjx32 u will never know what gender dysphoria feels like :/

[@jjjx32]

@@hamstercult2280 im literally trans???

[@hamstercult2280]

@@jjjx32 ........

[@Geeky.rainbow.vampire]

My Dr. Just said that it'd "be a shame if I started playing for the other team" jokes on him I'm already on the other team, I just don't have the right tools to play the game and am Sidelined

[@carolpierce5204]

This is a spirit only coming to Jesus is going to help you, there are a lot of ppl coming out of this but it takes the spirit of God to deliver you..you're gonna be what ever you were born as you DNA doesn't change you can change your body parts but you can't change your DNA ...this is taking young ppl's lives and that's what satan wants is your soul, he comes to steal kill and destroy. Jesus gave His life so you could have life more abundantly and live with Him forever in heaven. Seek the Lord while there is time.

[@aidansevern3134]

@@carolpierce5204 No.

[@SevCaswell]

@@carolpierce5204 The Trans community does not need your sky-daddy psychopath telling them they are broken and then peddling a fake cure.

[@andrew69007]

He’s so handsome.

[@thisperson345]

sonoki82 she wants to be a guy so any nice person should refer to her as a guy.

[@ph143]

She*

[@psychobitch821]

Ethan Arrow You mean he?

[@valeriemiller1601]

@@thisperson345 He is a guy

[@drakeblackamongusimpostert3547]

@OzarkoBlam *he

[@michikomanalang6733]

A SYMPTOM OF THE ANXIETY hdbskcns I can’t deal with that doctor

[@jjjx32]

you ever just get so anxious you turn into a man?

[@user-gu7lm2hy2w]

He is so handsome and funny, I think I'm in love;3

[@user-gu7lm2hy2w]

Jude George What do you mean?

[@mexicanradcen6405]

Jude George, she is

[@randompants7311]

Jude George no HE isn’t. HE is a man.

[@youruncledarnell]

Obvious troll is obvious.

[@michaelkessler3813]

his is not a reply to the original comment DO NOT RESPOND TO TROLLS! IT WONT HELP AND IT WILL DEFEAT THE POINT OF TROLLING

[@smallfootprint2961]

It shouldn't be so hard to go to the doctor and get help, for anyone.

[@carolpierce5204]

This is a spirit only coming to Jesus is going to help you, there are a lot of ppl coming out of this but it takes the spirit of God to deliver you..you're gonna be what ever you were born as you DNA doesn't change you can change your body parts but you can't change your DNA ...this is taking young ppl's lives and that's what satan wants is your soul, he comes to steal kill and destroy. Jesus gave His life so you could have life more abundantly and live with Him forever in heaven. Seek the Lord while there is time.

[@APleasantDaydream]

Carol Pierce no one cares

[@xanderb2377]

Carol Pierce nobody asked

[@amandacogger7014]

@@carolpierce5204 how about keeping your beliefs to yourself? Not everyone shares and nor should they given what its like

[@Seleteles]

@@carolpierce5204 Wow, what is it like to know everything without ever needing to look at evidence? Pretty reassuring, I bet!

[@jasonellis4330]

I'm terrified of going to my doctor because I dont have "the narrative". I was a typical girly little girl who then became a bit of a tomboy and less comfy with girly things, and then realised I was a trans guy at 16. I dont have the "proof" that doctors want, despite the fact that I've been consistently feeling like this for 3 years and the thought of never being truly seen as a man makes me want to be dead. So yeah, this is why I'm terrified to talk to my doctor, or anyone tbh, about it

[@charlesbellicoso7264]

Well said Toby!

[@carolpierce5204]

This is a spirit only coming to Jesus is going to help you, there are a lot of ppl coming out of this but it takes the spirit of God to deliver you..you're gonna be what ever you were born as you DNA doesn't change you can change your body parts but you can't change your DNA ...this is taking young ppl's lives and that's what satan wants is your soul, he comes to steal kill and destroy. Jesus gave His life so you could have life more abundantly and live with Him forever in heaven. Seek the Lord while there is time.

[@lost6435]

@@carolpierce5204 shut up

[@retnamyoga]

Bless him & other trans

[@Eliza_Goth]

@David Vanpatten, you know for a fact that's not what they meant and yes they can change their gender. Surgery of both body and mind will make them into the desired gender.

[@n210n7]

@@Eliza_Gothnah they are man cuz of that they take surgry

[@nickelcobalt98]

This is one of my favourite ted talks

[@carolpierce5204]

This is a spirit only coming to Jesus is going to help you, there are a lot of ppl coming out of this but it takes the spirit of God to deliver you..you're gonna be what ever you were born as you DNA doesn't change you can change your body parts but you can't change your DNA ...this is taking young ppl's lives and that's what satan wants is your soul, he comes to steal kill and destroy. Jesus gave His life so you could have life more abundantly and live with Him forever in heaven. Seek the Lord while there is time.

[@holliemarie8980]

I don’t care your opinions on it, if your a doctor it’s about respecting your patient and calling them the correct name/pronouns.

[@mads7477]

I guess you could say that I have some controversial opinions on the subject of gender identity and trans people however this makes so much sense, we should strive to make sure everyone has access to healthcare and can feel comfortable in themselves.

[@kittymasks]

Rad Mads what do you mean by controversial?

[@Seleteles]

@@kittymasks Shhhhh, he doesn't want us to die, just take the win...

[@alessandraferrara240]

Extremely pleasant to listen to.

[@hrikw4973]

Alessandra Ferrara he’s done radio and is becoming a journalist, I love listening to his voice it’s so relaxing

[@carolpierce5204]

This is a spirit only coming to Jesus is going to help you, there are a lot of ppl coming out of this but it takes the spirit of God to deliver you..you're gonna be what ever you were born as you DNA doesn't change you can change your body parts but you can't change your DNA ...this is taking young ppl's lives and that's what satan wants is your soul, he comes to steal kill and destroy. Jesus gave His life so you could have life more abundantly and live with Him forever in heaven. Seek the Lord while there is time.

[@doomeyay]

absolutely beautiful speech. toby handled such a sad topic with charm and grace, and im glad that he's on our side

[@soonhosh9458]

He is so cute oh my god

[@KaramelLolaBunnie91]

Liri 👽-"kirstyn k *_She/IT_* you moron!"

[@AlaniSugar]

no, he's a he... not a she and definitely not an it.

[@Notalex010]

ikr?

[@AlaniSugar]

@David Vanpatten shut up

[@chi1899]

@David Vanpatten Shhhh

[@sycopath6662]

Oh my god this person is precious

[@hrikw4973]

Sycopath 666 he’s my brotherrr💝

[@WantedWolves78]

please let it be that easy it would amazing!

[@jayfedder1578]

Giving into peoples delusions is not amazing

[@WantedWolves78]

The Dood Jay Fedder | if that's your opinion then fine but it's a toxic one and it's really nothing to do with you considering it's most likely not going to affect you in any way. Transgender people deserve to be treated with more respect, no matter what a person is we all boil down to human beings and that's all we are.

[@jayfedder1578]

Nobody says there not human beings... there just not the gender there saying.... also saying it's not A big deal because it doesn't affect me does not count as an argument.

[@jayfedder1578]

Also how is it bad to believe that giving into people's subjective delusions will end up horribly especially when this is what the post modernists want us to do on the far left.

[@WantedWolves78]

Jay Fedder yeah but that's my point it's not a delusion or an illness it's just life for some people and saying it has nothing to do with you is a perfectly good argument because you will not suffer no matter what way it goes

I'm a trans guy, and a med student. I trully hope through the next generations we could actually change the medical field for the better, until we don't have to justify our transness with stories, or where we don't have to worry about not being able to get medical help because we might be denied from the doctor's office.

[@flanexism0165]

No matter your opinion on ANYONES identity, NO ONE should be denied the proper health care and treatment they need and deserve. Basic human right and it’s just morally right.

[@seb.is.missing]

I’m trans ftm and this is so good to hear

[@carolpierce5204]

This is a spirit only coming to Jesus is going to help you, there are a lot of ppl coming out of this but it takes the spirit of God to deliver you..you're gonna be what ever you were born as you DNA doesn't change you can change your body parts but you can't change your DNA ...this is taking young ppl's lives and that's what satan wants is your soul, he comes to steal kill and destroy. Jesus gave His life so you could have life more abundantly and live with Him forever in heaven. Seek the Lord while there is time.

[@witchby9362]

@@carolpierce5204 Jesus wants us to love one another, and this is the message I thought I'd send for you.

[@mikurero1762]

@@carolpierce5204 god doesn't exist and jesus was just nice dude

[@dawgythegreat]

@@carolpierce5204 hail satan, at least that guy was hot

[@pepsimann2038]

@@carolpierce5204 you’re the reason people hate christianity

[@thebloopnet9723]

TedX thanks for giving me the courage to come out

[@fletchling3371]

I’m trans and from Wales and, as he said, we have to travel to London to get any care, and that is HOURS away. I’m closeted, but I have a friend who has to take time off of college just to make check up appointments that are hours away. It’s ridiculous.

[@AprilSunshine]

Always remember you are your doctor's CUSTOMER. It's no different from shopping at a store. If it's not a match, just FIND A DIFFERENT DOCTOR.

[@user-xw1yh2py4j]

Well, finding another doctor is a rather long process in many countries.

[@omarluatia736]

3.14159265358979323846 26433832795028841 ones with the awful system of socialized healthcare.

[@hello-vs4dc]

I would phrase this concept a bit differently ... You are not only the doctor’s customer, but you are also the doctor’s BOSS. For both reasons, all doctors should treat each of their patients with respect.

[@k.v.7681]

It's a complicated matter. Trans people have a right to be considered with respect in society. But a doctor, in his job, is not held by society's movements. As a doctor, you cannot, for practical reasons, "switch genders" on documents, because of healthcare reasons. For example: Blood donnors. Biologicaly men people can give more blood. Female less. If a biologicaly woman person considers himself a male, it's all well and good, i'm all for it, but that does not mean the doctor can take more blood. It would be dangerous for that person's health. Same thing goes for surgery and anesthesia for example. It can be quite dangerous (lethal) to miscalculate the dose, and biological gender is a part of that calculation. So yes, doctors when interacting with patients should respect them and adress them in the proper manner, but that is a social matter, not a medical one. In medecine, men and women are cared for in different manners because their biology is not the same, and applying one to another is dangerous. Oh and Omar, Socialized healthcare makes me able to pay 10 to maximum 50 euros for an emergency room check-in and all medical attention I need when I break an arm. And I work, so I'm not a "vermin" for society. Everybody takes benefits in such a system.

[@macksthetigerchild3417]

Adylom Lomlom I agree as far as completely changing documents, but the doctor could at least write a note to use the right name and pronouns and file that with the documents. As for the switching doctors thing, that can be tricky because you can’t guarantee that another doctor will be a good match either. Unfortunately, most doctors are inexperienced and don’t handle things correctly when it comes to trans healthcare. My doctor was ready to give me testosterone hrt before I even had my hormone levels checked by an endocrinologist, and that’s really dangerous. He just didn’t know better because he hadn’t had any trans patients before, so it slipped his mind.

[@carbenart]

Ted Talks about trans topics always have the best/most accepting comment sections ♡♡♡♡ You all are wonderful

[@tobiaseliot4716]

Eyo, my name is Toby too! This is trans solidarity

[@LoverOfManTits]

@sonoki82 you're not supposed to ask a trans person their old name. It's a bit rude

[@LoverOfManTits]

@sonoki82 I think you're confusing transvestites and transsexuals. Obviously your intentions aren't well meaning so stop wasting your time and spend time with your family rather than acting like an angry little snowflake because not everyone is like you

[@tobiaseliot4716]

@sonoki82 Sorry mate, you'd be wrong there. Firstly *his. I'm a man. Secondly, I think that to avoid offending people, you shouldn't say "real" name because that implies that my name now isn't my real name. You should say "birth name" or "dead name". Thirdly, I'm sure you're a good person so I'm not going to get angry with you. Yes, my birth name is a part of my life story, but it isn't a part I often choose to share with people, especially strangers on the internet. Perhaps in the future you could be a little more polite and sensitive? Please don't go off on me, I'm trying very hard not to offend you. Anyways, I hope you have a good day!

[@tobiaseliot4716]

@@LoverOfManTits Thank you for defending me :) you are gentleman/woman/person and a scholar!

[@yourdad3275]

last week my doctor had to ask me what LGBT stood for so i think this would be out of the question ;;

[@yourdad3275]

sonoki82 wait never mind, just realised you were trolling lmao sorry for wasting your time

[@lizmowrey9866]

Beautiful presentation

[@laurawillson1627]

That was awesome, well said!

[@rondaborgert5170]

Thank you Toby, I really enjoyed listening to you:)

[@nicetoad]

Being trans isn't a mental illness but it is a medical condition that needs treatment. If it wasn't, then hormones and surgeries wouldn't be available on the NHS. And it's very important that they are. So I hope this guy doesn't mean he wants it demedicalised completely

[@andrewbuxton7309]

Aaron Pedlow T͟͟H͟͟A͟͟T͟͟S͟͟ S͟͟T͟͟I͟͟L͟͟L͟͟ T͟͟R͟͟A͟͟N͟͟S͟͟P͟͟H͟͟O͟͟B͟͟I͟͟C͟͟

[@nicetoad]

Andrew Buxton What?

[@nicetoad]

bish what the frack It’s definitely more than just those things. Quick google search: A disease, illness or injury; any physiologic, mental or psychological condition or disorder. Basically anything that can require medical treatment is a medical condition. You don’t have to view being trans that way, but I do.

[@cxspin4483]

@@andrewbuxton7309 I didnt read it all the way through. Yeah it is, sorry for yelling at yeh mate.

[@april-tui3524]

He is literally on twitter complaining women with cancer are prioritised over trans. Seriously.

[@JimmiAlli]

This guy looks like the 4th Jonas brother

[@saff1257]

i’m trans and i believe it’s okay for it to be classed medically as a mental illness. it may sound like an insult, but if they view it more as something that is limiting you or needs to be fixed, rather than just a 'hobby' or phase, that’s when it gets recognized as something that needs proper attention. if it’s (gender dysphoria) classed as a mental thing, like depression etc, then the doctors need to 'fix' it, by giving therapy and hormones and surgery etc. it needs to be seen as an illness because then there’s reason to help people transition and lessen their dysphoria etc. i get that 'mental disorder' can be used as an insult, but it’s what gets it recognized as a medical thing rather than a phase. no one wants it and that’s why it should be given attention

[@rocketpsyence]

From what I understand, this is kind of how it works in japan...possibly some other places...and it seems to be what works for them. So I see your point. The only real issue with gender dysphoria being classed as an illness though is - as you point out - the stigma of it being an illness, but also the fact that then it's dependent on the doctor and whoever is defining the official symptoms - and it's almost definitely going to be cis people making the decisions - to define transness. And as he kind of touches on, if the doctor decides you're not "trans enough" based on the list made by cis people, then you won't get the help you need. I like the model we currently have in Texas, where it's informed consent - meaning you can go to a doctor who can prescribe hormones, describe that you're feeling dysphoria (or that you feel more comfortable when coded as another gender), and then get the prescription based on discussion of the results you want to achieve with HRT, assuming you're in good health. This way, drugs like testosterone can still be regulated and there is a chance that the appointment at least can be covered by insurance, and that the therapy will be a legitimate medical expense, but it gives more power to the person who is ACTUALLY trans.

[@snakebitepellehue]

That's what I was thinking too.

[@psi_rockin]

Thank you for saying this, I couldn't have put it better myself. As a trans guy, I actually find that people are much more understanding and sympathetic when I explain my perspective with gender dysphoria as a mental condition. All these people that want the negative stigma removed from "mental illness" that go on to deny gender dysphoria of being a disorder is just adding to that stigma. It's not a bad thing to have it labelled as such, and in my opinion it would be better that way. That's just me though. I worry for young people who think they have gender dysphoria or say theyre trans but lack dysphoria and decide to transition anyway, only to regret it while also harming their bodies.

[@featherrin3540]

The real problem is the stigma of having mental illness, not the mental illness itself :/

[@tubester4567]

Thats like saying a doctor doesnt know how to treat schizophrenia unless he is schizophrenic. There are a lot of gender clinics and child psychologists being FORCED to affirm gender transition regardless of the circumstances. Doctors and experts have been attacked and fired for not affirming all cases. Trans activists are also changing the medical manuals to deny that being trans is a disorder, which begs the question, why do you want medical assistance if its not a disorder. Trans activists want everyone affirmed even at a young age and given medical treatment but I think its a recipe for disaster. There was a study around 80% of kids who say they wanted to transition as a child, grew out of it by the time they reached adulthood. I think asking trans people to treat trans people is also a recipe for disaster.

[@eviesharp17]

Oh my god I love him

[@giovanniespinoza3463]

Devin Molko her*

[@cattyghostly7414]

Giovanni Espinoza him* he's trans.

[@parrotdoesasploot2381]

@@giovanniespinoza3463 him you moron

[@notausernameyt9661]

@@parrotdoesasploot2381 wow, hes using facts and you are calling him a moron for simply stating a biological fact?

[@Eliza_Goth]

@@notausernameyt9661, they're trans. They identify as a he.

[@treesbiologist8562]

I hate seeing inspirational trans speakers and so many of the comments are about how the trans person is attractive as if it is impressive, or that it matters in any way.

[@whyarepeoplesubscribedtome]

sonoki82 and I bet you’re a real gem, eh?

[@LoverOfManTits]

@sonoki82 you're just jealous because a trans person makes a better man than you

[@LoverOfManTits]

@sonoki82 and you're not a man either than. A real man doesn't go out of his way to bring others down because he's insecure

[@Tr0llShaman]

You are brilliant, Toby.

[@Laghagua]

Thank you too.

[@alliederubeis6417]

ah I love him

[@shiroh3581]

I don't get why so many people call him she, it just looks so wrong and try hard

[@cuesitiondedibujotec]

He's so cute he even applauded himself when he was done ahahahahhaaah adorable

[@notausernameyt9661]

She's ok not my type tho i like girls but they got to believe they are one. LMFAO

[@Eliza_Goth]

@@notausernameyt9661 he*

[@rickeyskingdom7546]

I recently found this and I really respect u bro👍 and m also trans man

[@l.lawliet258]

I'm subscribing

[@15step]

Yo he looks great

[@pocketlizarddd4549]

Ajskdldk I swear this is so crazy lil story..: I came out to my mom at the doctors because I went there for a limphnode I was v anxious about.. my doctor just stopped me and said..'has your anxiety gotten any better?' And we were talking about things that bothered me, etc etc then it lead to me saying I was trans lol

[@pocketlizarddd4549]

oh thanks!! you cured me of everything :) i no longer hate myself and no longer have any anxiety about anything!! i realized im just a woman and definitely should take opinions about my life from a youtube comment!!

[@vijetatayade6313]

You are whatever you want yourself to be

[@cornflakeslover3219]

Im trans girl and ive been rejected by both biological genders either causse im tall and or have a fake genitalia (cause of my srs) and i could understand them for being nice about the situation and not being rude like transphobic people and im also insecure because of it :( but hey im still best friends with them.

[@alexanderdecarli8349]

Im a trans man, and id disagree with the “being trans isn’t a mental disorder” because A. Gender dysphoria is quite similar to body dysmorphia and that is a metal disorder in which you, in layman’s terms, hate your body. Honestly they are so similar the only difference is dysphoria goes away when you transition and body dysmorphia has to go away on its own B. If being trans is not considered a mental disorder insurance companies will stop, in lack of a better word, insuring our transitions. They will make us pay full price for hormones and surgery. I don’t know if you’re aware of this but hormones are very expensive C. The way trans peoples brains are set up are typically more similar to the gender they identify with than the one assigned at birth. However, it is still, in a case of a transman, a female brain. Making myself consider this more so a mental illness than a “feeling” or a “i just know” kind of thing However, this is my opinion and I would be interested in hearing other trans peoples opinions on why is isnt a mental illness

[@TeslaTritone]

AlexThatItalian It's proven not to be a "female brain" in trans men case, and vice versa for trans women. Not by structure, nor by response to stimuli, and surely not in psychology. Debate's up if it'd be a "male" brain or intersexed brain, but its surely not a "female" one. "" used because there's no such thing as male or female brains, just statistical groupings.

[@bluegreen1182]

I'm trans as well and him saying that its not a mental illness is basically saying that transitioning is a cosmetic issue and not a need.

[@bladenot-runner1795]

There's a difference between a mental illness and a neurological condition. Mental illness is more of a side-effect, and it can be temporary.

[@astrostar9188]

Gender dysphoria itself isnt a mental illness. It is only if the feeling is si strong you cant live everyday life. When It turns to gender dysphoria dysorder, wich is a mental illness.

[@RC2214]

He's really cute! :-)

[@bonelesspizza24]

He kind of sounds like Bemo from Adventure Time

[@lolak3044]

Can I be so annoying and ask if there are always men speaking at TEDtalk events that have the specification women in it? But I really liked his talk. And I hope you believe me, that I would have asked the same question if there was a cis male on stage.

[@tobysinbad]

Lola K I wasn’t the only guy sadly. I thought it was pretty weird too, but couldn’t turn down the opportunity. I likely wouldn’t do the same today- unless I was specifically discussing male privilege and feminism from the perspective of a trans man who knows how people treat women, if that makes sense.

[@salemmonahan8555]

A doctor thought I had chronic daily migraines because I’m “not the norm” and a teenager. (I’m asexual and agender) me and my dad had a conversation about it later. But I’ve been agender before I got the migraines so XD

[@elizavetaskulskaia1320]

Demedicalization of gender dysphoria will lead to no insurance coverage of trans-specific health care.

[@johannageisel5390]

What a cute young man. Reminds me a little of the protagonist of the original three Karate Kid movies.

[@stargazer1359]

Truly frightening that a doctor with so little intelligence could have passed an exam to graduate.

[@einjans]

king

[@littlemisslizilon]

Great talk, but why is he featured at a women’s conference?

[@simplystoned420]

just the fact that i plan to change my name to Toby once i transition..........and then i find toby.....is this meant to be? or am i just under the influence of laght-night coffee?

[@rocketpsyence]

I assume he's talking about the UK but it's kind of relatable to the US too. I definitely avoid going to the doctor for things because I know I'll have to out myself and then it's anyone's guess how I'll be treated. So usually when I have an infection or something, I'll just wait it out and hope it'll go away on its own. I do have a nurse practitioner I see who's trans-friendly, but if I need to be seen right away for something it doesn't always happen. We're lucky though in that in many places, we can find people who do "informed consent" for HRT, meaning in most cases we can get a prescription right away. But then of course you face issues with the pharmacy - who will often do everything they can to make it difficult or impossible for you to fill the prescription- and insurance companies, who either don't cover HRT or make it extremely difficult to get coverage (as in, there are a bunch of forms for clinics to fill out and often they just won't). Things have gotten better here (well unless you're going to join the backwards military now), but there's still a ton of progress we need to make. I really want there to be a day when I can be like "oh I have an infection - I'll just hop on over to urgent care and get some antibiotics" instead of "whelp time to take my chances". In any case, I think that our informed consent model is a good balance. It allows for medical help for people who want to physically transition, without the issue of having the mental illness requirement - which in all honesty is kind of just a list that allows cis people to define transness and can PREVENT people from obtaining the care they need.

[@lost6435]

Funny, my names Toby too and i almost look like him

[@spanar233]

the accent is so thick

[@emblackett_x]

Hafiz iqri It really isn't...

[@schwammi]

What accent?

[@morellapoe2814]

i *love* it! where is he from? wales?

[@aldenheterodyne2833]

I'm fortunate enough that my doctor was just like "oh cool". But because phonecalls sometimes get picked up by my parents I have asked them to deadname me and misgender me on the phone. I mean, I also get misgendered unintentionally because... Like... How are the staff supposed to remember? Most people aren't trans, and I don't look like a guy so.... 🤷‍♂️

[@rdr6858]

❤

[@parisz]

Handsome!!!

[@nicholewojtanowski43]

If someone’s male child is very feminine and (when making avatars for himself) always makes a very girlie female avatar, is there something I should be speaking to him about? Like I wonder if that’s his way of showing who he believes he is?

[@eristaylor9936]

Depends on the age in my opinion, most children eventually grow out of these behaviours, but if he is a teen then, by all means, talk to him about it. Either way, be supportive.

[@jjjx32]

ask him if that's who he wants to be, see if he enjoys feminine things, ask him if he wants to be a girl. if you hit most of those markers than maybe experiment with letting him present as female at home. if not then just let him be a kid.

[@novemberblake9505]

It depends on the age,I think the most important thing you can do is give him the freedom of expression and show that you’ll stand with him no matter what he identifies as

[@huikwonyang720]

what a snacc what a EFFIN MEAL

[@laurischoolmarm]

Well, I guess the annual pelvic would be awkward.

[@xanderb2377]

Lauri C no, not really

[@cameronwarmerdam4251]

depends, some people are ok with it, other people its a very dysphoria and anxiety inducing experience

[@JK_JK_JK]

Gynecology (n.) also gynaecology, "science of women's health and of the diseases peculiar to women," 1847, from French gynécologie, from Latinized form of Greek gynaiko-, combining form of gynē "woman, female," from PIE root *gwen- "woman." Second element is from French -logie "study of," from Greek (see -logy).

[@laylabergman4823]

if its not a mental illness than how will transition be covered by insurance?

[@notausernameyt9661]

it wont just like people who think they are a cat wont get a tail and people who think they are a car wont get a V5 engine 4 wheels and a pair of tail lights. but if they want to change your name to fluffy and "2017 nissan pathfinder" ok fine but i will identify you as human

[@brittanybaldwinvlogs9663]

It seems to me that your doctor was doing their job by asking follow up questions.

[@asterismos5451]

About an ear thing and a cold? Unless he's on testosterone and that might affect any medication he'd need to take, that's the only possible way I could see it being relevant.

[@novemberblake9505]

A M. But the doctor didn’t ask “do you take hormones” but “why are you trans” he’s not a gender therapist so it’s none of his business

[@baboman3541]

FFFFfunny

[@MuhammadAdamGhamkoley]

It has female pelvis, jawline and voice. Doesn't align with any gender. If the person knew that they were trans why did they require for the doctor's affirmation

[@sallyannekloar1470]

This person's nice that was born a women bout transgend to man bout this person still sounds women not a man that transgended in to a man

[@astronaut132]

Smoll boi

[@maybe.yellow]

Why is this TEDxCoventGardenWOMEN? Isn't he a man?

[@cameronwarmerdam4251]

From a previous comment, Toby said that he wasnt the only man and had misgivings about it but didnt want to pass up the opportunity (clarifying that he would not make the same decision today unless he was speaking about something like male privledge)

[@alyssawilliams1372]

Being trans is a medical condition tho

[@helicopterboat]

The trans people just gravitate towards each other.

[@jjjx32]

yeah we find a sense of community together like any other minority

[@tomcahill1609]

Romans 1:20 For the invisible things of him since the creation of the world are clearly seen, being perceived through the things that are made, his everlasting power and divinity; [t]that they may be without excuse: 21 because that, knowing God, they glorified him not as God, neither gave thanks; but became vain in their reasonings, and their senseless heart was darkened. 22 Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools, 23 and changed the glory of the incorruptible God for the likeness of an image of corruptible man, and of birds, and four-footed beasts, and creeping things.

[@MrJames-qu4kz]

Well, you can't be mad at the doctor its not like being trans is a normal thing. But ya good luck to ya out in the world

[@acajudi100]

dude with a split.

[@tobysinbad]

It’s true I do. I also have like five penises ranging from “travel” to “obxious” in size though so

[@finnp5132]

Toby Walker IM WHEEZING

[@poketcircuitfighter8288]

Sir you.... It's ma'am Ma'am you have testicular cancer

[@angele1966007]

TOBY, LIKE SHAKIRA SAID "HIPS DONT LIE"

[@stopsign2510]

julio iglesias testosterone, which is what toby is on, actually removes the hips from most of his weight and redistributes it,,,

[@angele1966007]

THEN SHE, OR HE, OR IT, WILL NEED A TRUCK FULL OF TESTOSTERONE, THOSE HIPS ARE HUGE, WHAT A WASTE OF A FEMALE BODY!!!

[@stopsign2510]

julio iglesias you literally can't even see them but go off sis

[@angele1966007]

LOOK AT MIN 1.07 AND TELL ME THOSE ARE NOT ROUNDED VOLUPTUOUS FEMALE HIPS

[@stopsign2510]

julio iglesias they're not ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@bilbobaggins5815]

Please can you stop telling other people what to do.

[@angele1966007]

TOBY, GIVE ME SOME GUIDANCE, I WANT TO BE A CHINESE GIRL, BUT I AM CAUCASIAN MALE, IS IT POSSIBLE??

[@stopsign2510]

julio iglesias wow what an amazing argument. you're obviously going to make toby change his identity completely by using a stale joke.

[@angele1966007]

NO, I WANT TO MAKE HIM/HER/IT/THEM/WHATEVER, REALIZE THERE ARE THINGS YOU CAN NOT CHANGE, NO MATTER WHAT

[@angele1966007]

there is something called "common sense", Its about time some one tell this "people", no mater what, they will be what they were born to be.

[@MrGoofyTeacher]

julio iglesias what exactly are you getting out of this

[@angele1966007]

I AM TRYING TO EXPLAIN THAT THE ONLY WAY THEY WILL BE HAPPY IS WHEN THEY ACCEPT WHO THEY REALLY ARE, IT IS NOT WHAT THEY THINK THEY ARE, WHAT IS THE LIMIT??, HENCE MY QUESTION

[@samsmith1580]

Remember when TED used to be interesting and informative and not a platform for socially destructive ideologies?

[@AndalusianPrince]

Oh did your mom forget to give your bottle again? Boohoo im so triggered.

[@nightingem]

I mean, the APA, NHS, and other professional medical organizations acknowledge trans folk exist and transition is the treatment.

[@DirkAustin]

Why are you a transphobic bully?

[@andrew69007]

This is interesting and informative to people that aren’t like you.

[@cxspin4483]

Remember when people remembered its almost 2019, and trans and LGBT should be accepted by now, but its not because of idiots like you? Oh wait, sorry for the "offensive" reality check, but you needed it.

[@marcwyant1217]

the victim olympics

[@franciscovasquez8512]

Poor lady pray to Jesus for her. Jesus loves you

[@idunno7427]

Francisco Vasquez Him*

[@jjjx32]

jesus loves him just as he is, as a man. there is no gender under god.

[@witchby9362]

Jesus loves us all, and wants us to love each other as we are. He is who was meant to be.

[@notausernameyt9661]

i rate her a 2/10 for a girl and a 3/10 for a boy... either way didn't help

[@eduardgabrian6424]

He.