A Week in the Life of a New Graduate 🦋 declutter with me, new york + back home | Post-Grad Diaries

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UnJaded Jade

UnJaded Jade

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@ellengomm6972
@ellengomm6972 Жыл бұрын
"Why is everyone pretending this is fine? I don't want to do the next stage of my life right now" I felt this so much. I've just finished Year 12, and am not planning on going to University. I am scared of and sad about growing up, despite logically knowing everything will be "fine" Thank you for speaking about this, it needs to be normalized. You're not alone in what you're feeling
@geometrydashcrazee
@geometrydashcrazee Жыл бұрын
Same even tho I'm just in 10th grade after 2 years I'll finish school if I don't go to uni and im really anxious about the fact that I'm gonna be have to be on my own so much expectations I'm just scared about growing up I don't want to grow up 😕
@ruthfuller2105
@ruthfuller2105 Жыл бұрын
I feel your going the motions of loss, on many levels. But time is a healer. As one step of your life closes so does another one open. Let yourself feel this loss, then embrace the next chapter. New people, new experiences new adventures. I'm old now, but I see life as a book, and yours Jade has only just started. Enjoy the ride ❤
@VideosOfRandomContext
@VideosOfRandomContext Жыл бұрын
I graduated high school last year and didn’t want to go to uni. It was the most horrifying feeling ever because I knew I wouldn’t have something to ‘fill’ in all the free time I’d have like university would. But nonetheless university isn’t something I’ve ever planned on doing. Seven months later I’m working in a restaurant, still hanging out with hs friends and saving money to hopefully travel out of state. It’ll turn out fine in the end. The next stage is a scary prospect but once you get there it’s just like every other stage 😂 Just go with the flow. Life is one big improv performance
@eviedielehner428
@eviedielehner428 Жыл бұрын
I'm in the same boat as you, I have just finished y12 and feeling lost and anxious about growing up and leaving school. Thanks for sharing this, it made me feel less alone and I hope you find happiness in what's to come soon.
@ellengomm6972
@ellengomm6972 Жыл бұрын
@@eviedielehner428 Thank you bestie. There may not be a straight or immediate answer, but it's good to talk about these things so you know you're not alone. Best wishes to you too:)
@ferrentes
@ferrentes Жыл бұрын
When I graduated my undergrad I found it easier to say goodbye by being excited about the next step, learning more in my masters things i couldn’t learn at my undergrad uni. I feel fortunate we manage coming together with my 7 person friend group once or twice a year for the 5 years since I graduated. Still can’t believe it has been 5 years!
@marine3940
@marine3940 Жыл бұрын
I've graduated this year and I'm a bit frustrated that I can't relate to your emotions, even if they include sadness. My degree has been impacted by social anxiety, and then by covid... I feel like I didn't meet anyone and that I missed a big part of my 20s. I hope it can be a reminder for you that all the sadness and melancholy you are feeling are just reminders of your growth, happiness, fulfilment during these last few years ❤️
@Daemoarak
@Daemoarak Жыл бұрын
Its good that you’re mirroring your thoughts with your own words, then validating them, and then empathising with them as if you were a second self talking to your suffering self. Thats how you become secure and happy.
@CharlotteFurnessWriter
@CharlotteFurnessWriter Жыл бұрын
Hi Jade - I love how vulnerable you allowed yourself to be in this video and how you said out loud what probably a LOT of people are thinking. I'm 35 and I have friends all over the world and I have to say that is one of the biggest and most amazing things because you can go and visit them and spend time in so many different places. I know it feels like a huge wrench at the moment to be apart from them, but as you grow into middle-age and later life, you'll come to treasure the fact that there are people all over the world who you can travel to see and who will encourage you to explore worlds that are larger than your own. It's a gift that I cherish so much and I think you will too. Thanks for sharing
@sharonnn.zeller
@sharonnn.zeller Жыл бұрын
I’m graduating from my masters and this is an incredibly relatable feeling. I am exhausted and need a break, and we should all learn to not feel guilty by this. 💜
@Rinaa11214
@Rinaa11214 Жыл бұрын
That gratitude passage in your journal really hit home, it was so so so wise, thank you for the reminder !! 💛💛
@melissagrindon9074
@melissagrindon9074 Жыл бұрын
Babe! Don't get rid of your journals please 😂 I know it can feel like you crave real control at the moment but I promise you sometimes just letting yourself sit really really helps. You'll look back in a few years time and wish you kept them, I guarantee that 😇 Sending lots of love as you navigate this journey - the hard bit doesn't last forever 🥰
@alexw6582
@alexw6582 Жыл бұрын
The most ingenious thing Jade included here, is include the important memories while decluttering as part of the video. This way the things might be gone, but the video served the memories as a digital time capsule :) So nice!
@leniolesch896
@leniolesch896 Жыл бұрын
Cloth that hug me - oh yeah, that’s got me. That’s so appreciating one‘s own body.
@esto11213
@esto11213 Жыл бұрын
Had the most stressful week filled with interviews at the end of my internship. The sky looks like it's about to rain, I made myself a hot cup of chai, and ready to watch this video. My casual magic ✨ exploring the streets around my neighborhood in the afternoon and having a slow, mindful day. Making space for good things in my life. Thank you for sharing the video jade so excited to see
@esto11213
@esto11213 Жыл бұрын
Such a great video, got me excited to light some candles, do meditation and yoga 💗☀️
@JTjelly14
@JTjelly14 Жыл бұрын
Hi Jade I know you’re probably still navigating your post grad feelings but I think it’s very beautiful that you’re feeling so sad about moving on because that means you made such meaningful connections and memories. I’m from the us and during most my undergrad experience I felt extremely lonely and overwhelmed I also graduated during 2020 so I just scared about the current state of the world. I’ve only recently made progress on my depression and social anxiety and finding my people. I’m going for my masters next month and hope my next experience is at least half of what you described
@zahra.mo11
@zahra.mo11 Жыл бұрын
Love you so much Jade. I know you've heard this a million times and you already know it but, you are a good person, a kind soul, and very hardworking. You are going to meet so many wonderful people along the way, and someday you'll look around and see a few(or maybe many) wonderful people around you who are permenantly in your life(and journey) and are never leaving. Then you'll look back with a smile and thank all the people and places and decisions that got you to that point of your life and it will be the best feeling ever. Indescribable❤
@sydneydelix6071
@sydneydelix6071 Жыл бұрын
Hey Jade, I have a great tip for decluttering sentimental things! If you stuble across drawings that you want to toss but cannot due to sentimentality, just take a picture of it and you can put it on a onedrive folder named ✨memories✨. You can do this with anything really :)
@harrihamalainen8367
@harrihamalainen8367 Жыл бұрын
You are adapting well to a new phase of your life. It is not easy, keep your head up Jade.
@harrihamalainen8367
@harrihamalainen8367 Жыл бұрын
You inspire me so much Jade. In terms of graduating next year, I'm extremely excited and scared at the same time.
@UnJadedJade
@UnJadedJade Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!! 💛🥹 excited for this new chapter, even if i don’t know exactly what it’ll look like yet
@harrihamalainen8367
@harrihamalainen8367 Жыл бұрын
@@UnJadedJade ❤️ I am sure you'll make it very beautiful and you'll learn and you'll grow. Loads of love from Finland 🌼
@phoenix_hall
@phoenix_hall Жыл бұрын
Just finished my last year of high school. Wow. Like 6 years of my life in that place and its over. Things will be okay though. I'm glad i've finished school im uncetrain about the future but a good thing I heard is "you were once scared of this moment, unsure what would happen, yet you did it, you were okay. And before that there was a time where you didn't think you'd get to the moment before that but you did." You always were scared of future moments before and it turned out okay then and it will again too. Trust the process and flow of time it'll come and you'll be ready when it does.
@raquelfernandez4599
@raquelfernandez4599 Жыл бұрын
When I graduated, I felt exactly the same. I was moving for my Master's and my community, my uni family, everyone I had loved and lived with for the last 4 years of my life was staying put. All I can say is that it gets better but meanwhile there's nothing better that allow yourself to feel your feelings and be patient with yourself!
@sophie_n_1398
@sophie_n_1398 Жыл бұрын
Dear Jade, I know that this is a different situation but I really resonate with what you said about saying goodbye to your friends. I did voluntary work in an inclusive community for people with and without disabilities and all the volunteers there became my family too. We stayed on through covid and faced many challenges together as well as incredibly happy moments, loads of casual magic in sharing day to day life to the say the least. Now we're also scattered all over the world and when I said goodbye to them I was extremly heartbroken and couldn't imagine my life without them. The truth is I don't think I'll ever love a group of people like I love them (even from afar) but that's okay. I've realized that I'll meet more people that are important to me, that I'll love equally but just in a different way. It does get better but it's okay to grieve the ending of a chapter- especially when it changed you a lot❤ You've been inspiring me for years, I hope this helps a bit. Feel hugged!!! The casual magic will eventually return💫
@lilyy1150
@lilyy1150 Жыл бұрын
Its like you are feeling everything at the same time.. I'm sure you'll come through.. glad you had happy memories.. now make more of itt!!! 😊 ❤
@travelmel904
@travelmel904 Жыл бұрын
I haven't graduated yet but my friends here at uni have become family and so I 100% get what you say about not wanting to create another community, because your uni friends are just THE ONE 🥺
@Uhhit67
@Uhhit67 9 ай бұрын
Jade, i thought i was ALONE in this. So so so alone. I didnt get how everyone seemed so okay with it whilst i felt like my whole world collapsed with me. Thank you for giving us the strength to move through these intense life periods and just life in general🫂 im sending a big virtual hug. We are proud of you and so grateful for you.
@emmasawyer4260
@emmasawyer4260 Жыл бұрын
This was so lovely to watch in the midst of my own “what is next” post-grad stage of life. Also did a big clean out this week so it’s good to know I’m not the only sentimental one holding on to flash cards. 💛
@julsjourneys
@julsjourneys Жыл бұрын
seeing you declutter and everything you're donating is so nice. i also just decluttered my room, which was a huge accomplishment for me bc finding the motivation to clean is the hardest thing ever w adhd. everything piled up in my closet for years and i couldn't even see the floor anymore. and now i can!! i have like 4 bins of stuff to give away and i wanna go through it a second time, so i'll probably find more :)
@cinephile1712
@cinephile1712 Жыл бұрын
It can be hard transitioning to the next chapter in life, especially if the former one was so positive and full of growth and grounding relationships. Let yourself feel the feels - as long as they don’t consume you in a way that’s overwhelming and too sad. Then make decisions about the next chapter that feel as good a fit as possible. You won’t know for sure whether you made the best ones until you’re in it, but you can usually change what feels off or add in things that feed your soul, whatever that looks like. There’s a pervasive attitude that we somehow know who we are and have certainty about our next steps after graduating, but that’s BS. You’ll figure out where you want to be over time. Just listen to your gut, heart and soul, and you’ll increasingly build more certainty. Good luck and congratulations on graduating! xx
@easternblot
@easternblot Жыл бұрын
I read Humankind in Dutch but the title works SO much better in English! It's almost like he heard the word "humankind" and then decided to write an entire book about humans being kind :)
@SuperTech59
@SuperTech59 Жыл бұрын
Your college experience was so unique! My college degree is in the medical field, I graduated on a Friday and went to work on the following Monday-boring!! I wish I had traveled. I can't imagine you'll ever regret your experiences.
@mariagabriela5721
@mariagabriela5721 Жыл бұрын
I am graduating very soon after having studied for 5 years and it is one of the scariest and most anxiety inducing feelings I have ever felt to not know. To not know what’s coming next, to partly not want change, etc. Thank you for your video Jade, it’s good to know that I am not alone in this
@1280ss
@1280ss Жыл бұрын
"Braiding Sweetgrass" is such a good book. Robin Wall Kimmerer is an amazing storyteller. Maybe you can find a way to store your journals/writings. I feel it's important to keep those and read and reflect back on our previous feelings at different periods of our life. Just a thought. Anyway, welcome to this new season of life!
@UnJadedJade
@UnJadedJade Жыл бұрын
yesss I’ve loved it so much!! 🦋 so glad you’ve also read it
@smilingeva
@smilingeva Жыл бұрын
I just graduated as well and definitely recognize a lot of these feelings! I went to filmschool and working night and day on all of our assignments and projects together really made the bond with my classmates very special. It's good to know I am not the only one craving rest and reflection!
@erinmitchell3921
@erinmitchell3921 Жыл бұрын
I'm in high school and I love watching Jade's videos cause they give me so much motivation especially when I'm finding it hard to focus on my studies💕
Жыл бұрын
Hi Jade, It’s been 4 years since I graduated from uni and I want you to know that it’s so normal to feel sad after leaving your uni community and it’s needed to be feeled too. Yesterday we attend to wedding of one of my closest friend from uni and it was like reuniting with family. It’s hard to be apart but also so nice to have people that you can call family 🥹
@isabelking3803
@isabelking3803 Жыл бұрын
Hearing you talk about all the feelings you have post-graduation made me well up. My uni experience was much more regular than yours, and my friends live much closer to me (as in, all in the UK) but with all of our lives going in different directions, we hardly see one another. I graduated last summer and I was completely miserable for months, but I'm slowly getting there. I genuinely don't think anyone is fine when they leave uni, unless they really hated it. One year on, I still haven't been able to get a career and being a graduate is still one of the hardest things I've experienced, but I know I'm not alone, and neither are you!! Thanks for showing the good and the bad of everything you do, it's so refreshing!
@celinefuchs4095
@celinefuchs4095 Жыл бұрын
When you asked how do people do this…honestly, I think many have done like how you’ve done it. You’ve got this. Thank you for bringing us along in this time of transition; I think many of us (I know I have) have been through a transition where we suddenly feel untethered and unsure of where to go, and to be honest it feels cathartic to share in your moments of the unknown. Many times we only see moments in people’s lives where even if they don’t know, they have (or pretend to have) at least an idea of where they’re going, so to see this as a moment of complete unknown makes me feel somewhat validated in those similar moments I have felt, and will probably feel again. Do you have some dedicated book videos from the past few years? I’d love some review/recap/recommendation vids if you feel like making them 😊
@qmuhammadahmed
@qmuhammadahmed Жыл бұрын
Jade, the way you are able to speak all of your thoughts and feelings out defines you and your inspiring content.✨It elevates relating to you to such new heights that you stand out as unique amongst all others! Also, extremely impressive story-telling skills ! 👏👏 Love you Jade and wishing you all the best of luck in this world! ❤🍀
@hi_itsgabriella
@hi_itsgabriella Жыл бұрын
Hi Jade. Nice and heartwarming video as Always. I think the only time that I was sad about graduation was in primary school. And that was the last and only time. My experience in school was bad, and I never really had that " this Is my second family" feeling. That's why I think that what are you know experiences ( even if painful) it's a gift. Love some people or some places it's beautiful, fulling living your life it's magical. So be hurt, be sad, be angry, and be grateful that you were lucky enough to be able to feel such things. With love , Gabriella.
@sophiepaul6303
@sophiepaul6303 Жыл бұрын
I had similar feeling when I finished sixth form! I was so happy there, my friends and teachers were fantastic and. truly felt at home at my college. Leaving was really hard. I'm 20 now and I honestly still really miss it but things change in life to allow room for more experiences! You'll find your way 💗💛 Also, I've recently been forced to embrace minimalism a lot more as I've moved into a house much smaller than my old one with a teeny-tiny bedroom! But my soul feels much better for it, re-evaluating what belongings actually add value to my life.
@Shaunashares
@Shaunashares Жыл бұрын
When you mentioned about not wanting to make investments into your childhood family home girl.... I was laughing because literally this is me RIGHT NOW and why I also did a massive de-clutter of my room also. Here's to minimalism and moving out...
@verabergshoeff
@verabergshoeff Жыл бұрын
I can totally relate to how you describe the feeling after graduation. I was scared of making decisions and crying constantly for nothing which is not like me and feeling constantly stressed. I recently decided on doing a master degree instead of finding a job and had been applying for both but not gotten any interviews until I gave up on the job hunt. After I told my parents i was going to do the masters I booked my student accomodation and then my parents started looking at ferries to drive me to the uk since I am currently in the Netherlands. I just got a feeling that I needed to get myself out of that situation and that I needed to cancel my masters which I had been looking forward to since before I applied. I had never felt this anxious stressed and confused before. I had to get myself enthousiastic again for the masters and a week later got offered an interview for a job I really wanted to had to reject the offer for the interview as I was now going to do the masters degree
@lyphan308
@lyphan308 Жыл бұрын
Hi jade I'm back. My examination result is pretty good. Although I can't get into my dream university, i can still study at a good environment in the next 4 years. Thanks for besiding me and you are my motivation. Big love from Vietnam ❤
@tr9066
@tr9066 Жыл бұрын
You would probably feel much different if you had a job lined up to look forward to this next phase in life. It’s ok to stay in this place for awhile, but don’t stay stuck. You have such a bright and exciting future ahead!
@SaraRRD-lu5nc
@SaraRRD-lu5nc Жыл бұрын
Love you jade and stay strong we're proud of you ❤❤
@UnJadedJade
@UnJadedJade Жыл бұрын
gahhh thank you so much 🥹💛
@ymkekok2944
@ymkekok2944 Жыл бұрын
This is a very different situation from which I was in, but I think I emotionally felt the same way when I broke up a 3-year relationship. I just felt so lost, even though it was a good decision and I came out better after processing and reflecting on everything. I feel you Jade, just do want you feel like you need to do right now, that's what works out best in the end❤
@joshrichardson9542
@joshrichardson9542 Жыл бұрын
I graduated on Friday and have been feeling very lost in the last few weeks as well. I didn't really make any friends at my university or feel particularly connected to my uni but I still feel very weird about leaving and going into the "real world". I just feel very unprepared and a lot of "what's next". I'm trying to rest and reflect and work out what's next for me but I also need to constantly be busy otherwise I get depressed so my mental health is very all over the place atm 😂 this whole graduation thing is very weird but it's good to know you're not alone in feeling the way you do
@slimeapple0103
@slimeapple0103 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Jade! This is exactly what I’m feeling now after graduating last week with all my friends moving back home across lots of places around the world. Hearing you feeling the same way makes me feel less alone now ❤
@sashasanya2549
@sashasanya2549 Жыл бұрын
oh Jade you inspire me so much every single time I watch your videos 😪🦋 just wanted to say how grateful I am for your channel because every time I feel lost or unmotivated, I go here and just get so much energy and desire to live my life in the best way possible. I think you are one of the reasons I managed to get to the uni in america (i'm from russia) and experience the best freshman year I could possibly imagine. And the reason for that is not the physical stuff I got with moving abroad, but as little Jade once said, the attitude that every person can control. You taught me to find happiness in little things and appreciate the current, and that ability awarded me with a dream coming true. I'm currently at home but I'm very excited to go back to uni and enjoy my sophomore year even more (but also enjoying home right now cause that's the present :33 ). and for those who are stepping in the new era of life (and for you Jade), I just want to say that feeling lost is okay, feeling sad is okay, feeling that you miss someone very much is okay. those feelings show that you appreciate your life and you are grateful for the moments that already happened. and your past will always be a part of you, those memories of good times will never go away. so don't be afraid of losing what you had, keep going, keep looking, and trust the universe cause I know it got something very special for such a magical person like you 🌠 love you dearly -sasha
@MusicForever167
@MusicForever167 Жыл бұрын
this post graduation feels you talk about is EXACTLY how i feel atm
@laurelmonterosa7586
@laurelmonterosa7586 Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for doing this video. I've just graduated and am feeling all these things... Its rough and feels like things might not change (even though I know they will for the better!) but it means alot hearing where you're at and where it resonated with me
@VideosOfRandomContext
@VideosOfRandomContext Жыл бұрын
8:55 a ray of sunshine oml-
@AO2437.
@AO2437. Жыл бұрын
It’s ok to feel negative. Everyone feels differently. Be you
@luciafernandes8680
@luciafernandes8680 Жыл бұрын
Jade, I wish you all the courage in the world, you have it in you. I can't imagine get away from University, I absolutely feel home there... I really feel you. But life is so full of surprises and you know it. 💙🫐 We are here for you and to share these feelings with you. Thank you for sharing your connection with us... on this corner of the internet. 🌷 Big virtual hug
@moonkrystalkid
@moonkrystalkid Жыл бұрын
I'm very grateful for everything you share with us, your videos inspire me so much, to become the best version of myself even when I feel like the world is ending haha. I know this may be a scary time emotionally for you, I can't imagine what that feels like, but I can imagine that you will get out of it glowing as always
@sillygoosegoose
@sillygoosegoose Жыл бұрын
i feel like how hard graduating is isn't talked about enough. i promise you it's not just you. all we see is the smiley instragram posts of people in their caps and gowns, and we very rarely get to hear about the scary transition and teething problems of being flung into the real world. i finished my masters last year, aged 25, having been a student continuously since starting school at 4. i felt relieved to have got my masters but so lost without the safety blanket of university. i went from living in a cambridge college, surrounded by people i loved 24/7, to living in a houseshare, totally broke, applying frantically for jobs... i had no furniture, except a mattress i'd bought on my credit card, and could barely afford food. it was scary and anxiety inducing and took some real adjustment. but over time it was better than things had ever been before. once i got a job, i felt settled for the first time in my life, knowing that i was building a home for myself in a new place and that i wasn't trying to jump through the next academic hoop. i had time for hobbies and friendships in a way i didn't during uni. having my first full time "professional" job meant i had so much more money to be able to enjoy things. a year down the line, i now feel very content and at peace, more so than i ever did during uni. the transition is hard, but the destination (if you can ever really call it that) is so totally worth it.
@lovelyy6491
@lovelyy6491 Жыл бұрын
i guess it's easy for a lot of people because their college experiences were probably not so good, like mine for example. nothing too fulfilling happened to me back in college, but my high school years were definitely more significant, i was happier, i made some dear friends, life was easier. it's not even that i peaked in high school, because i didn't, it's more that the community around me was just so great. i like my current self way more than my past self, i just wish to have that sense of community again, even if very different. idk what's my point with this, maybe just that no matter in which stage of life we are, we need to seek for community to feel at peace, but unfortunately that requires some luck too and i haven't been lucky in that aspect for a few years now.
@cambriajade8313
@cambriajade8313 Жыл бұрын
I love how you talked about Lyn’s album, I am absolutely in love with that album right now ❤️
@MasiaMaksymowicz
@MasiaMaksymowicz Жыл бұрын
I think it is easier when you already find something to do after while you are still finishing uni. On the other hand it means that you don’t usually give time yo yourself to process everything and relax..
@alaskaaurora3723
@alaskaaurora3723 Жыл бұрын
🦋 Oh Jade, thank you so much for this video!💕 I feel like the way you feel right now is also tied to the way your studies were structured a lot! So it can make you appreciate them even more!✨I‘m graduating my Master‘s from a European Uni next week and here student life is very different: We live off campus, with other people who often do not study the same thing or at the same pace we are. 🏡We are immersed in the city we live in, people scattered around and friendships in all corners - not just university! I have a lot of friends in my program, but just as many who I know from making music or sports outside of the university, who live in the same neighborhood, worked in the same place or were randomly met at a sunny day in the park. 🛼💐🎷🫧 So graduating only means that your everyday-life-occupation will change drastically📚 (which is super scary!) but as life is embedded in so much more than uni structures already, that just means as many things can potentially stay as there are changing!👑 So that might be a reason the post-graduation-feels aren‘t the same for everyone, or specific to UK and US systems of studying! I chose the everything-changes-option anyway and will move to a new continent directly after my Masters (which, yes, wildly scary!! 🌎), but most people don‘t - so for them graduating is a very slow change! Many people, occupations, routines and ways of life stay the same for them! 🍭
@KtT-sn8cy
@KtT-sn8cy Жыл бұрын
That doesn’t sound too different to most US schools but Jade goes to quite a unique university where she travels round to different countries each year, so all her uni friends are in different parts of the world which is prob why graduating is so sad in this case!
@alaskaaurora3723
@alaskaaurora3723 Жыл бұрын
@@KtT-sn8cy Well I have also studied in the US and on-campus-living and the tight uni structures there do make a huge difference - and as Minerva through its affiliation with KGI is an American university at least that part of their education resembles a US-experience rather than e.g. a European one.
@femkeisondernemendonderweg
@femkeisondernemendonderweg Жыл бұрын
This might end up being a lengthy letter to answer your question “how do people do this” in the first part, but here goes: I graduated in 2020, after 7 weeks interning at the museum (doing very little marketing because I was still training for it) and 11 weeks from my bedroom (but this letter is not about lockdown, haha). I was so genuinely scared I was going to fall back into old habits of not being productive or a negative headspace, but mostly I was scared that now adulthood was really around the corner. For me, graduating had always been about becoming an adult and I was so not ready for it. It was awful. Mostly because I was also being pushed (hardly) towards an ‘official’ desk job by family, while all I wanted to do was grow my business. I had my graduation ceremony on the 15th of September and on the night of the 14th, I had a massive breakdown. I felt so intimated by fellow students, who got to keep working at their internship after graduation while I had to quit (museums still had to be closed because of lockdown) and I fell into a hole (this was all in July). Until that breakdown in september. I had just published my first book and everything just ‘dissolved’. It was horrible. And on that night, I decided to write about that ‘post graduate’-feeling and ever since your previous video, about post grad, and especially after this video, I want to advice you to try the same: write about your experience. It was so healing and relieving to write about how I felt post grad, but most importantly: it helped me prove, to both myself and my family, that I was ready to fight for the creative business route I wanted to take. And now, three years later, I’ve gone to Australia for five weeks thanks to it, but most importantly: I am now able to rent a house. And I still get to help other students, just like I did back during my studies as a study guide, but this time way after graduation. I was you ALL the best, dear Jade
@plumsarethebestfruit
@plumsarethebestfruit Жыл бұрын
Who else is a massive Jade and Ruby fan
@shesthunderstormsx
@shesthunderstormsx Жыл бұрын
I’m gonna pause the video to leave you a little comment 💗 I think the closest thing I’ve felt to what you’re feeling now is when I came back from my semester abroad in England. It’s crazy meeting people from so many different places, bonding with them, living in a happy fun little bubble for months (in your case, years) and then having to say goodbye to all of it without any guarantee of seeing them again soon. I didn’t have a group of friends in my country so losing that sense of belonging was beyond hard, I felt depressed and tremendously lonely when I came home. So yes, it sucks and I’m sending you a big hug. You’re a positive vibrant person and I’m sure you’ll be feeling more optimistic soon and you’ll meet again in the future if you really want to. 🫂
@shesthunderstormsx
@shesthunderstormsx Жыл бұрын
I loved that journal entry, so wise!! Good thing to remind ourselves from time to time
@lucieanna6679
@lucieanna6679 Жыл бұрын
I'm in the same exact situation as you rn!! Plus I'm also graduating in a couple of months. I miss my study abroad experience so much and I'm also beating myself up for not living such an active life and not trying to socialise sooner. But I'm trying to feel grateful and accept where I am right now and take steps to where I would want to be.
@1SophieDEF1
@1SophieDEF1 Жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness the first time I listened to that Lyn Lapid song it gave me the strongest Jade vibes! So nice to know you also know & love it :)
@millyd9481
@millyd9481 Жыл бұрын
hi jade! I really needed this today - been feeling really down ever since I finished gcses this june. I haven't been sure what to do next, if my alevels are right for me, and i'm scared of the changes that are going to come next. Thankyou for making me feel less alone
@OttoVanluchene
@OttoVanluchene Жыл бұрын
Something I remind me of when I come across something I keep for sentiment or just to remember, is to just take a picture and throw/give/sell it away.
@barbaramccoy3592
@barbaramccoy3592 Жыл бұрын
Congratulations on your degree 🎉. This may sound counterintuitive but I think it’s quite healthy to feel disoriented when you’ve completed a major stage of life. You put your heart into it of course you’ll feel out of sorts when it ends. Remember: You’ve got this. Stick to your core.
@nikitataneja9241
@nikitataneja9241 Жыл бұрын
This was such a sweet vlog!! Even I'm very emotional about my high school notes and flash cards🥺
@liahlow1435
@liahlow1435 Жыл бұрын
People are not fine after graduation. I felt very similar. ♡
@ekulture
@ekulture Жыл бұрын
Wow! Watchibg thus at a similar time in my life. Can't wait for he future while also a little nervous. I can't wait to see where you end up in the future as well
@Anu-D
@Anu-D Жыл бұрын
I love ur concepts a lot gurl ❤️
@aesthetic_disney_1239
@aesthetic_disney_1239 Жыл бұрын
hiii, i just finished year 11 and am starting a levels in September! i feel the same as you, so scared for them and also a bit excited! i am doing biology, chemistry, maths and either french or further maths (haven’t decided yet!!). i will definitely be using your videos to help me!! i’m also reading your book- it’s AMAZING!
@niamhclarkson1347
@niamhclarkson1347 Жыл бұрын
awww bless you jade, it will pass I promise graduating is so hard because it becomes part of your identity- most people are not fine haha they are just hiding how much of a mess they are!
@shainaasefi
@shainaasefi Жыл бұрын
Yayy I've missed your vlogs❤🌻 hope you're having a nice day✨
@sakz6064
@sakz6064 Жыл бұрын
So excited to watch this new video! 🦋
@UnJadedJade
@UnJadedJade Жыл бұрын
hi hello sooo happy you’re here hehe!! lots of love 🦋✨
@zaasaa_art
@zaasaa_art Жыл бұрын
Thank you for being real! ☺️✨
@caitlinsexton2213
@caitlinsexton2213 Жыл бұрын
Jade, i loved this video. I recently graduated university and hit what i call the "post-school existential crisis" around 5 months after graduating and moving back to my hometown. I am also not planning on being here for a long time, so I have been focusing less on what is around me and more on re-discovering myself as someone no longer defined as a student with a big course-load. Embracing my hobbies and taking care of myself has really helped :) know you are not alone!
@cynthj
@cynthj Жыл бұрын
I think post-grad life probably so hard because of the style of uni that Minerva is... the fact that your greatest times take place in fantastic metropolitan cities and your classmates coming together at that specific unforgettable point in time... and that it can't ever be recreated. That would be hard on anyone! It's a lot easier for someone who goes to uni in a big city, stays in that city after graduation and most of their friends are doing the same, that way it's sort of like a minor continuation of uni times (this was my case, basically). It would be interesting to see what alums of your uni recommend or have to say about this topic, because the end of the whirlwind sounds a bit brutal.
@nu_aliin
@nu_aliin Жыл бұрын
hi Jade! i have been following you for just a few days, but i already love your vibe and your videos)) i really hope that you will get used with the post-grad time and find your best life soon:)
@silvialogan9226
@silvialogan9226 Жыл бұрын
Jade, when I graduated with my BA in Classics and my MA in Classical Studies at all. I was quite happy and excited that I did not think that I would make it that far. These are memories which I will cherish forever. Jade, what are going to do next?
@isabe11e6
@isabe11e6 Жыл бұрын
let us know how a little life goes! i have it on my bookshelf but i’m also terrified to read it because of what i’ve heard😭
@autumn62
@autumn62 Жыл бұрын
I wish I could give this video more than one thumbs up. It made me feel less alone, thank you Jade
@Melinda-xx8oe
@Melinda-xx8oe Жыл бұрын
is this a new editing style? so documentary-like and aesthetic~
@allisonmartinez3322
@allisonmartinez3322 Жыл бұрын
The fact that she got up and standed in that chair, says how talented she is 😂 love u Jade
@AndromedaMoon888
@AndromedaMoon888 Жыл бұрын
thank you for your vulnerability to Jade 💖 I can definitely relate to a lot of what you shared at the beginning. Jesus loves you!
@rhythmicelegance4670
@rhythmicelegance4670 Жыл бұрын
I’ve definitely been avoiding sorting through three large bags of papers and folders for months…! I know I’ll have to get to it one way or another. The sooner it is done, the sooner I’ll be free of the psychological burden of procrastinating it, and my space will look its best! Just sorting out a way to make it a bit fun, might possibly play a video or audio while getting it done.
@tearsofawaterfall2656
@tearsofawaterfall2656 Жыл бұрын
Jade please do some videos on your favourite go to vegan recipesss
@livtupi
@livtupi Жыл бұрын
Just did my post grad clear out a couple days too! 🎉
@Fandoms4Life
@Fandoms4Life Жыл бұрын
I haven't graduated my masters yet but I've been so demotivated and stressed about my dissertation for months and I also don't know what I want to do career wise so I just got a teaching assistant job for the meantime. I don't want to be an adult even though my masters experience wasn't that good and I'm just constantly overwhelmed by the lack of fulfillment and enthusiasm for life 😢
@mvstrqrdd
@mvstrqrdd Жыл бұрын
ah yes yet another amazing video ✨
@UnJadedJade
@UnJadedJade Жыл бұрын
ahhh hi hello i appreciate u !! 🦋
@mvstrqrdd
@mvstrqrdd Жыл бұрын
@@UnJadedJade
@myriamtouil3347
@myriamtouil3347 Жыл бұрын
Thank you jade❤❤❤
@hailamusalli3020
@hailamusalli3020 Жыл бұрын
To me i am honestly always afraid of moving a grade and absolutely terrified of graduation even if i am really young and i can’t imagine it because ever since a very young age school or learning in a way is an every day thing and after graduation you haven’t got any more controled learning to do and that always scares me
@JP-qn3wt
@JP-qn3wt Жыл бұрын
17:10 Aww… you are so cute in this oversized hoodie 😊
@jennal1260
@jennal1260 Жыл бұрын
A Wild Ruby Appears! lol
@Celtravels
@Celtravels Жыл бұрын
Jade i have the same ikea wardrobe and im sorry to tell you but mine is totally fine 😅😂
@J9rdynn
@J9rdynn Жыл бұрын
Same😂
@justanotherpiccplayer3511
@justanotherpiccplayer3511 Жыл бұрын
Oke so I don't have time to watch the vid rn but like I am literally going through my room after graduating also and it's like actual hell 😂😂😂 Managed to sort my bookshelves so far and they look fabulous hehehe
@banerisima
@banerisima Жыл бұрын
Everytime I watch Jade's videos I have to stop every few minutes to have my own reflections about my life and I feel sooo grateful for this part of KZbin 💛 + I have just thought that I have been subscribed for six years to this channel wow ~ Thanks Jade! Greetings from Galiza, Spain!!!
@nojerama788
@nojerama788 Жыл бұрын
Please look up content warnings for A Little Life if you haven't already! It can be extremely triggering for a lot of mental health themes, look after yourself! ❤
@unpersemprefa
@unpersemprefa Жыл бұрын
Jade, I followed you since years now and I watched you grow... I'm so proud of you for how far you've come. I love your contents here, I have a KZbin channel too here but I'm Italian (if there's some Italians here I wait for you on my channel eheheh, I post about personal growth, vlog and psychology). Thanks for making us part of your journey... 💕🌸
@SeanCollins-v2o
@SeanCollins-v2o Жыл бұрын
How can you get a science degree from Minerva if there are no laboratories?
@franklinguallpa6072
@franklinguallpa6072 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, maybe you should stop feeling sad for yourself and your friends after graduation. I'm sure everyone after graduation goes through uncertainty and loneliness about what's next. You'll manage it and I know you will. Your personality keeps me going by watching your videos to get a sense of every chapter you willfully cared to share.
@rachaelpowles8902
@rachaelpowles8902 Жыл бұрын
Jade you standing on that wheely chair is stressing me out 😂😅
@Joana-iy1uy
@Joana-iy1uy Жыл бұрын
Im exactly in the same situation of coming back home after studying abroad and not being able to deal with the clutter ahaha
@aishabah9401
@aishabah9401 Жыл бұрын
please do a book reccomendation video
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