Stop Destroying Your Hair! The Worst Haircare Advice On Social Media | Hair Myths Debunked

[@kcee9111]

All I use is drugstore shampoos, I just can’t afford the expensive ones with a family of 6. You have no idea the guilt that has been lifted off me from this video 💕

[@AbbeyYung]

❤️❤️❤️

[@thegreenmanofnorwich]

It won't ruin your hair. I do find that I get better results and feeling with some of the more expensive ones. I do find that some are pretty awful. Dove I tried using the second time I grew out my hair at 22, and it was just awful. I have to be much more careful (and often more sparing) with bog standard shampoo and conditioner, but there are some pretty decent ones. Besides, unless your family all want terminal hair length, it's wildly excessive to use those more expensive products.

[@kristenadorno]

I’m a master cosmetologist and I can promise you that L’Oréal and Clairol own most of the salon brands!

[@Arianacccosta]

Not all the expensive shampoo works. I tried shampoos from A…da and Living P…f. One make my scalp itchy and oily, the other one, nothing special. In contrast an organic shampoo bar that only costs me 14 aud makes a difference to my hair. Just to tell you, sometimes expensive product might not be worth the price tag

[@artchick07]

Just check the pH of your hair products. The pH can make the biggest difference. I had a very luxury shampoo destroy my hair recently. I switched to hibar, like $6, and my hair/scalp aren't super dry

[@annecathymoore3810]

For me avoiding silocones was the absolute worst advice. I have very fine, fragile hair. It needs all the protection it can get. Without silocones it just gives up and snaps off 😆

[@van2165]

Yes! Silicone is the only thing that keeps me from getting split ends

[@krissymc7085]

Can you please tell me which shampoo n conditioner that u use???

[@krissymc7085]

@@van2165 which shampoo n conditioner do u use??? Ty

[@van2165]

@@krissymc7085 I use Kristin ess clarifying shampoo and the one conditioner with sauce guacamole hair mask and 2 hair oils

[@platina1502]

Is that you with your natural hair on ur profile pic? Cause of course silicones aint that bad for ur hair, silicones are worse the curlier and coulier your hair is

[@maevehickey8590]

With the cutting your hair to make it grow longer, it’s definitely supposed to mean that if you don’t get trims every so often to remove the dead ends, they will keep splitting upward and break off, so the speed of your hair growth definitely stays the same, but it’s about maintaining the length by trimming split ends before they split up or break off, preventing the “growth” (actually the length) of your hair. I think some people think it’s affecting the literal growth when it’s effecting the progress of growth. It’s still an important tip for growing long hair, people just need to understand why!

[@Anonymous-uw4sr]

Exactly

[@BitchChill]

I haven't cut my hair or trimmed it in s year and it's the longest it's ever been

[@larawanderlust4539]

It depends, some people don't have a lot of dead ends so it's not useful to cut them!

[@Popicat527]

Yep. When my hair reaches my boobs it’s usually so damaged that even without cutting it for a year, it would not grow a millimetre. My hair stayed at the same length for an entire year without hair cuts because the ends would break off at the same speed as my hair was growing from my scalp

[@ybell1294]

I think that "brush once a week in the shower" one was a game of telephone from the curly hair community. Because for curly hair, it is common to 1) wash weekly and 2) detangle in the shower with conditioner in. At a certain point, the lessened friction from water+conditioner outweighs the benefits of dry detangling. Especially when your dry hair curls back into tangles...speaking from experience 💀

[@tankgirllovesroos]

I'd buy that for a dollar.

[@hannahallain]

Yup this is a curly hair technique, brush only on wash day with lots of conditioner so it loosens the tangles

[@michelledailey8505]

Totally agree. I have curly hair & only brush on washday too. I wash every 3-4 days. If I brushed every day my hair would be such a mess!

[@samgay9571]

I have wavy/curly hair and whether I brush or not it looks like a disaster. 😂 I have to get it wet, brush it, then shake/scrunch it to get nice happy curls. I have to do this every morning, whether it's a wash day or not! I wash my hair 1-2 times a week.

[@daniellewinkelspecht8356]

Definitely a curly hair thing. Wet "brushing" for curlies is using a detangling brush in the shower on wet hair with conditioner.

[@jakebeauchamp3com]

Jail time for whoever started the hair scraping thing.

[@AbbeyYung]

😭😭😭😭 agree

[@Andrea-dm4gd]

It was a hair dresser telling people that was product build up, cosmetology school failed so many people lol

[@lizbarrand7701]

Abbey’s face the whole time she talked about this 🤣🤣🤣

[@jakebeauchamp3com]

@@lizbarrand7701 I know. Like who thought that was good idea 😭🤣

[@melodielumley6450]

I had hair loss, I was washing my hair every third or fourth day. My dermatologist told me I had to wash more to help clear the hair follicles, remove build up, dead skin cells and this helped to encourage my hair to grow again. she was so right. Now I wash every couple of days. I would never go back knowing what I know now. And yes, I have processed hair.

[@julieme7927]

This is so interesting. Do you know how to tell the difference between hair loss and hair that is actually breaking off? I wonder if all the hair I find in the brush and after washing it is actually hair loss and not breakage like I thought. I do only wash once a week. It never looks dirty but my scalp does itch like crazy sometimes (no dandruff though)

[@melodielumley6450]

@@julieme7927 For me my hair thinned and broke, I had a couple teeny tiny bald spots and my scalp was soo itchy. My derm did blood tests, biopsy and didn’t find anything. I think I was over processed and my scalp needed to breathe more from not washing. I wash 2- 3x a week now, use good products mid to ends, no more hot tools and the itch is gone and it’s growing and looks better. I also use the irestore red light cap. I’m at 6 months and it’s crazy better.

[@fairypousymfairy]

I had the same problem. I have very oily hair. I wash every three days

[@mmmmmmmm1942]

Definitely depends on your hair. I could never wash my hair daily. It doesn't get dirty that fast

[@emilyheadey9099]

This is why specialist medical advice is so important for individuals experiencing issues. I think she makes it clear this is general advice that worked for her and could work for most people 😊

[@DoubleMD11]

Another problem with scalp oiling- if you have dandruff (seborrheic dermatitis) the yeast on your scalp LOVE oil and multiply. AKA more oil = more yeast = more dandruff. No one ever told me that until I saw a dermatologist.

[@kzvegansuperstar]

This this this

[@andreavin3674]

This is why I have to wash my hair every day. My scalp and hair has never been healthier. The trick for me is to not use a medicated shampoo every day, use a mild shampoo on the other days, and using an oil on the ends pre wash. And I am very gentle with it when it’s wet (no brushing). Luckily I never get tangling.

[@IndecisivegurrlAlex]

Are you serious??? well F me. Ive been struggling with my scalp for years and have never heard this. Ive been oiling my scalp like crazy to combat dryness.

[@andreavin3674]

@@IndecisivegurrlAlex It’s only if you have yeast overgrowth (dandruff). I’d also get red patches on my face and neck sometimes. That’s how it looks when it spread to my skin. Once my scalp was better my redness went away. If that’s your situation the good news is you can heal with Nizorol, stay away from irritating things like tea tree.

[@kzvegansuperstar]

@@IndecisivegurrlAlex flakiness and inflammation that might look like dryness to the untrained eye can definitely be seborrheic dermatitis, which is actually an oily skin condition. if your scalp is flaky, think seborrheic dermatitis, not dryness and go see a dermatologist if you can. scalp oiling really doesn’t have any objective benefits

[@stephaniem1107]

I feel like the 'Anti-drug store' movement happened because 15 years ago we were all using Pantene and they were doing shady stuff that wrecked people's hair and there was a class action lawsuit against them. Fast forward to now and the drug store beauty and hair scene is WAAAAAY different. Customers expect good quality products and so a lot of brands have listened and upped the game.

[@dudie5403]

Pantene Pro V.. don't get me started on that one. I like the smell and feel as it left my hair really soft but my scalp on the other hand... I never saw so much flakes in my life after using it. First you think maybe I didn't rinse it well or my scalp needs to get used to it. But nope it was snowing so badly all the time. My scalp just does not like it. I really wanted to like it but no... LOL

[@Willowy13]

The anti-drug store movement was born when influencers started promoting products that weren't available at a store. I took care of my mane of curls for 38 years and it was just like HiF3licia (I think it is written like this). This was done with drugstore products containing sulfates and silicones. The problem is that influencers, either to make money or just sheer ignorance because youth nowadays think they are discovering the wheel, sold the idea of defined curls and 200 different products for hair care.

[@stephaniem1107]

@@Willowy13 so accurate

[@buckyyyb]

My hot take is people were not taking care of their hair properly during that time. I guarantee a lot of them were not using a cleansing shampoo in between - I know I wasn’t! We didn’t know then what we do now in terms of washing our hair and it showed

[@Grape_Fever]

I can attest that drug store products are lacking. You get what you pay for and I found that out when I upgraded. I use Paul Mitchell products now but Nexxus is a good choice if you don't have the funds for better

[@priscilabee583]

Clean hair vs dirty hair goes far beyond it being oily- there’s pollution, dust, pollen and particles, etc. dry shampoo does not solve any of these issues, it needs to be washed.

[@lisarhoades3559]

Thank you! I am allergic to ragweed so when it’s in my hair - I have to wash it or I’m sneezing all day

[@libbyt2581]

Thanks for pointing this out. I have the oiliest hair EVER and I used to get shamed by anyone I told for washing it as often as I do. But I live in a city, I exercise daily and if I didn't wash it often, it would not only be super oily but it would look and smell bad too.

[@AccidentallyOnPurpose]

Washing frequently/whenever I get oily was what caused my hair loss, so no thank you lol

[@grecia.g.arely8]

@@AccidentallyOnPurpose what you did instead?

[@AccidentallyOnPurpose]

@@grecia.g.arely8 I started increasing the amount of time in-between washes. My hair naturally became used to it over time. I wash with tea tree and a special shampoo and make sure my conditioner doesn't touch my scalp at all. ~4 days is about the balance I found where I'm not washing too much to irritate my scalp but I'm also not going too long to where I have scalp buildup. I notice I can go longer now that it's becoming winter. On the last day before wash I typically use dry shampoo because I wash my hair at night, but I try to wash that day and not sleep with the dry shampoo in.

[@HeatherSingsChannel]

I would love to see more drugstore hair care recommendations! I’ve gone out and gotten a bunch of your recommended products and have seen such an amazing difference in my hair! My boyfriend has even incorporated some of the products into his routine, and he says he’s noticed how much stronger his hair feels.

[@AbbeyYung]

Wowww 😍 I’ll definitely do more!

[@Katherine_xs]

@@AbbeyYung whats that lip gloss?😍

[@salenawaaka6258]

What peoducts did you buy?

[@Haleighh11]

For some people, washing once a week is not beneficial, and does more harm than good. I am someone who benefits from washing at least 3 times a week and my hair has grown so much, and my scalp is SO much healthier (allows it to grow). Everyone is different, do your research and do what’s best for your specific situation. 🥰 Abbey, thank you so much for your tips, you are my go to recourse for all things hair. I really appreciate how you take a fact based approach!

[@karaj.guthrie]

agree! I was going a week between washing and my scalp was so itchyyyy and my hair was so dry. now i was about everyday to everyother and my hair is way softer, smoother and healthier.

[@IndecisivegurrlAlex]

Ive recently started washing like every two days, and I think my scalp and ends need it so bad, I need to use the conditioner and masks every couples days or my hair feels like straw.

[@joannamarie_]

Exactly! It’s all about what works for you!

[@ellnine66]

I braid my hair every night and put a small amount of oil in my palms, rub my hands together and gently squeeze the oil into my braids. It gives a little extra slip to help with overnight friction. Along with a satin pillow case I have to say it has really changed the health of my hair.

[@kzvegansuperstar]

I have seborrheic dermatitis and, before it was diagnosed and I had an oily-ass scalp, a hairdresser told me that I needed to wash less frequently 🤢 Now after talking to my derm, my scalp and hair overall are doing so well with washing daily/every other day with my Rx ketoconazole shampoo

[@suzanne296]

Do you color hair? I so and worried about shampoo

[@kzvegansuperstar]

@@suzanne296 Nope, I don’t color my hair

[@rachelfishbein1478]

Here's one for us curlies that is on my mind because of the recent back-and-forth between Manes by Mell and Brad Mondo: air drying is always less damaging than blow drying with heat. Highly recommend Mell's video from last week that gets into the science of how air drying can be more damaging than blow drying in response to Brad accusing her of "capping" with that claim. Brad just did not get it.

[@arika4936]

Yes!!!! You naturally would think natural is better but I always have more breakage when letting my curls air dry!

[@Becca-kr7kr]

Yes air dry damages more found out the hard way use heat protection and hot and cool settings. Basically think of your scalp like a loaf of bread and you put that bread in a bag and close it the bag is going to get nasty with condensation ruining the texture and quality of the bread over time.

[@ItsLaurenE]

@@arika4936 I'm being the process of understanding i actually have curly hair and embrace the fact my hair isn't a natural disaster. The irony of my hair is prior to knowing my hair wanted to curl if i let it air dry i was a fluffy wreck. jealous of summer friends who could get out a pool and air dry while looking normal. Now i can let it air dry without ugly problems. Intrigued by the idea of being able to not air dry. And also learning it can make things worse. I would like balance of doing both air dry days and dryer days. I have chemical and heat damage I'm repairing. I'd like a diffuser though for faster drying time. Yesterday i cleverly hovered in front of my electric fireplace 😂 the "breeze" is super low and lowered the temp. Rotating position5 every 5-7 minutes I was ready to scrunch 35 ish mins. Lol. The things we learn and do! I can now say i understand why curly hair girls say they have a love/hate relationship with their hair. It's a learning curve for sure.

[@nonjabulomangoro1871]

I think it depends on how long it takes for your hair to dry. It takes less than 2 hours for my hair to air dry. If I use gel in my hair it can take 10+ hours to dry and your hair being wet for that long IS damaging. So if I use a gel, I will diffuse/blow dry my hair, if not then I won't.

[@Justamillenialworkinmomma]

My hair has improved when I decided to wash it every 2-3 days. I also love the L’Oréal bond building pink shampoo bottle and got it from you! Personally I like it more than the pureology strength cure lol. I also reintroduced sulfates rocky hair and feel that my hair does better with some sulfate shampoos than it does with some sulfate free shampoo

[@LoversLane16]

I went to get my hair colored and cut last week and my hairdresser was SO impressed with my hair growth and strength. She kept mentioning it over and over! I told her how proud I was about my current hair status and that its all because I obsess over Abbey's videos and will buy anything she recommends and take all the advice she has!

[@francesca1687]

The brushing weekly thing in the shower works for curly hair, as brushing when dry is difficult and turns us into puffballs. Not straight hair though

[@kayleeparr8635]

abbey!!! i would LOVE to see a review of brad mondo’s haircare line xmondo hair! i’ve always wanted to try it but would love to see if it’s worth it first!!!

[@shannonoc2017]

Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@nicolekesselring3398]

I feel like there needs to be a disclaimer that these tips are primarily for straight Caucasian hair. Other types of hair like curly hair is treated very different. An example is when you recommended brushing it daily. As a wavy haired girl I can’t even do that. It would ruin the waves. I can only brush it with slip in the shower. I can’t image someone with curlier hair trying to brush it out daily.

[@daniellewinkelspecht8356]

Facts!! My hair is curly and it get brushed wet, in the shower, with conditioner and that is it.

[@jenniferford2067]

1000%. Curly hair does not get brushed until wash day for me.

[@sarahyount9927]

I have to wet my hair every day to refresh the curls, I couldn’t not wet my hair every day! I don’t wash it every day but I wet it and sometimes use a little conditioner if needed

[@delancey3181]

Straight “Caucasian” hair? You know people who aren’t white can have straight hair right?

[@MelissaCornwall]

I agree. I have curly hair and if I followed this video my hair would look and feel like cr@p. I know because that's how I used to treat my hair before I accepted my curls and changed my hair routine.

[@SheilaM-2020]

Definitely would love to see a part two! Your videos are great but this one stands out as a new favorite for me. Thank you!

[@AbbeyYung]

Yay! ❤️

[@Lilly_eve]

6:15 i want to add that sleeping with wet hair can lead to scalp problems like itchiness or fungus on the scalp because you press your wet hair on the pillow and the scalp doesn’t ‘breathe’ well (hope it makes sence). Plus, puting wet hair into a hairstyle or a bun is not a great idea, because for me, i used to wake up with still a little damp hair and not fully dried

[@laurennicki4991]

I used to work at an Aveda salon and two of the EXPERIENCED stylists sat me down and did that strand scrape test on my hair. One told me that because the residue was more white in color it was a build up caused by hard water and not product or color build up. It was my hair cuticle. They would use that to sell customers “clean” products instead of “cheap drugstore” haircare.

[@jessicac6445]

I’d love more videos on drugstore haircare, please!!

[@SarahJane96]

It is MAD how people will see stuff on Tiktok and take it as fact!

[@A_Girl_named_nick]

I love how personable you are in your videos! I seriously laugh out loud and feel like we are just girlfriends and you are telling me about something you are passionate about! The "full body chills" and the close up on Ph level 9 and taking about the TMI on a pedicure. I legitimately laughed out loud. I love your content! You seem like such an awesome person Thank you for all the clarification on these crazy tiktok treads.

[@ejbooks]

Glad you took the time to remind everyone the cons of over washing, along with the information that hurts rather than helps women who are truly interested in caring for their hair with the knowledge and research you have done. I am so grateful for your efforts to help us by giving us such excellent videos on this subject. You are my guru when it comes to hair care!!! We are lucky to have you in our corner 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰.

[@uaelifewithanam2259]

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[@avocado184nhs82]

Washing your hair everyday might be worse for you hair than washing more infrequently, but washing your scalp more often if you have oily scalp it's much better for you to wash whenever necessary. I prioritize my scalp because healthy scalp=healthy hair. I tried scalp training for long periods of time and it made zero difference. I have very fine hair and fine hair means you have more hair strands, and more sebaceous filaments. There's nothing that's going to stop the oil from coming, and for the majority of people the amount of oil you produce is down to genetics and there's no amount of scalp training that will reduce the oils.

[@kaylan2083]

Yep. "Hair/wash training" is a bit of a myth. Unless you wash several times a day and need to lessen the frequency, you can't necessarily change the amount of oil your scalp produces. Anytime someone talks about hair training I just wanna be like, show me the studies with oil production changes.

[@tamaramegan2942]

i found this tip from a girl on youtube with really long hair where you put your length in a shower cap and secure it with a hair tie, and then only wash the scalp. I think that's a better option for those of us who want to keep our scalp clean, but not swell the cuticle as much as abbey mentioned.

[@heather2615]

Fine hair doesn’t equal more strands. That may be the case for you but not a lot of others. I happen to have thick hair and also have a lot of it.

[@tamaramegan2942]

@@heather2615 thats cool thanks :)

[@avocado184nhs82]

@@heather2615 fine hair has more strands per square inch since each strand takes up less space.

[@acmc126]

Yes, I can't stand the salon-brand snobbery, especially because the most common complaint against drugstore shampoos is that they have sulfates, which . . . isn't true anymore. Most of them don't, and yet most of the salon-brand shampoos do (kerastase, redken, aveda to name a few). I'm convinced it's because they want you to buy their sulfate shampoos to strip the color out of your hair faster so you'll come back sooner 😂 Obviously, there are good quality salon products and bad quality drugstore products, but I can't stand it when hairstylists demonize them all.

[@AbbeyYung]

Agreed- there’s great and not so great and both price points!

[@mommyof3girls]

So not all of Redkens products have sulfates! As a hairdresser, I can say they do have some great products! But,....I totally love some of my drugstore favorites that I do recommend to my clients! So the way the industry works,... if your working in a salon and they sale retail, they ofcourse are going to push their products because of the % of the sale they will make!!!! Now if your like me, and own your own salon and still recommend a professional product....BUT you resell it to your clients at the exact price you paid, then it's just because it's an awesome product!! 😊 And not washing as much is good for people that have oily hair, and you can train your hair to make less oil! But it's totally true If your scalp is sensitive and your due to dermatitis...that's a recipe for disaster! You don't want your scalp to be dehydrated nor do you want a sore, sensitive grease pit!! 😩 And I've actually read a TON of articles about sulfates because it was odd how long we have used them, then all of a sudden they were just bad!!!! But to be fair, they aren't! Someone with very sensitive scalp or skin could have a reaction from then, and that would be bad! And surfactants CAN cause color to fade faster...but thats usually only if you have vivid colors (that already fade fairly quickly) or it can cause reds to fade even faster! But that doesn't mean they should throw the entire world of people into that category! 🙄 Our sales industry is something else!

[@Mary-it4om]

Can you recommend some drugstore shampoo/conditioner that you personally like for damaged/dry/bleached hair in desperate need of moisture? 🙏

[@daniellewinkelspecht8356]

The drugstore snobbery is beyond ridiculous. my favorite is "Salon brands use higher quality ingredients" Reeaally?! prove it. Prove to me that the Cetearyl Alcohol in your salon brand is of a better quality than the Cetearyl Alcohol in the drugstore brand. Prove to me that the manufacturer of each brand is not actually using the same cetearyl alcohol, since manufacturers of ingredients are pretty limited. "Salon brands are more concentrated" Again.. Prove it. Salon brands, and drug store brands both show water as the first ingredient. By law, the ingredient used at the highest volume percentage in the overall formula must be listed first on the ingredients label, and the rest must be listed in descending order based on overall percentage used in the formula. So, that means both brands highest used ingredient is water. Unless you know the exact formula that was used for both brands, then your OPINION that one brand is more concentrated than another brand is just that. Your opinion. And that opinion was loosely based on the fact that you do not know how to read an ingredients label, are unfamiliar with professional formulation, and because you were taught its true in Beauty School. I absolutely loathe people who try to shame other people for not purchasing salon brands. They are literally not worth the money they charge. And not everyone can afford to spend that money. If you are the type that shames someone for what they use on their hair you are an ass. Period. Let people use what they want without judging, shaming, or getting uppity about it. I dont care if you went to Beauty school or not. They do NOT teach product formulation so you have no actual background in that area to speak as if you have professional knowledge about it, so stop shaming people.

[@daniellewinkelspecht8356]

@@mommyof3girls Or someone could have textured hair that gets dried out exceptionally easily, like when sulfates are used. Sulfates can be bad for curly hair. Skin and scalp sensitivity has nothing to do with how stripping sulfates can be to people who dont have enough natural oils to begin with. I stopped using sulfates and silicones 2 years ago and i finally, finally, have healthy curly hair. Thank goodness someone turned me on the no sulfate and no silicone movement. My hair, and scalp has never been happier or healthier.

[@alihaefner7194]

Thank you for this video ☺️ I struggled with an irritated and itchy scalp for so long. Then I started washing everyday and my scalp is happier than ever. Though it’s not the best for my length 😕 I switched to a very high quality moisturizing shampoo and conditioner and deep condition 1-2 times week and my hair is better than ever 🤗 I was also always told by hairdressers to wash as infrequently as possible. A dermatologist told me that’s very wrong and to wash as frequently as your hair will tolerate as everyone is different.

[@sylviesuccubus8503]

If your hair is long enough it is possible to braid your length and hold it out of the way of water and only wash your scalp, if your scalp needs it every day but your lengths can’t take it. I’ve done it by clipping the braid to the little safety rail thing in my tub/shower and using my detachable shower head to really direct the water to my scalp

[@Cinderoyal]

@@sylviesuccubus8503 I'm imagining you as Repunzel washing her hair 😂 glad that works for you!

[@sylviesuccubus8503]

@@Cinderoyal I’ve gotten to knee length a few times over so you’re not wrong! 😅

[@bnb0510]

Yep. So many people think washing less or once a week is “healthy”. Most derms out there will tell you otherwise. There’s even several on YT that don’t recommended going more than 2 days without washing.

[@carol127v]

@@sylviesuccubus8503 thats such a great tip, i never thought of braiding it before, and I always thought it was just going to get wat anyways so i never tried washing just the scalp.. i'll try it today!! thank u

[@libbyt2581]

Thanks for bringing some sense and logic into some of these conversations, especially with hair washing!!! Love that you always include time stamps too. A suggestion: maybe you could sometimes cite your sources for the info? Not that I don't believe you-I think it's clear you've done your research but I just think it could help even more. Just an idea!!

[@AlbertPikeCarWash]

In this video you explained what happens when hair gets wet then dries, gets wet, then dries. I'd never heard that before and the science of it makes perfect sense. I'm a month into trying to learn about and take care of my hair. For decades I've been misting, spraying and wetting my undamaged (by heat or chemicals) , low porosity, frizzy hair to hydrate it. Have I been damaging it by doing so? What should I use to refresh my 2b & 2c hair? I am excited to watch all your videos to glean all I can! 😃

[@ms_mafia4224]

Hey Abbey! I came to this channel because I’ve always been confused with my hair. It was curly and frizzy during childhood and then became wavy as an adult, but it has always been FRIZZY and coarse. I used heat on my hair often throughout high school without protectant for awhile, but it’s been 5-6 years since I stopped doing that, and I’ve only ever gotten my hair treated once or twice in my life (like a relaxant treatment), and again that was 7 years ago. My hair has gotten a little better but my main issue is that it’s so dry that it takes on average about 3 weeks to get oily to the point that I want to wash it. I do put products in my hair after washing it to try to get it to retain moisture. Everyone always thinks that’s nasty that I don’t wash my hair every other day or at least once a week, but I’m afraid of drying my hair out if I wash that often. Is that just how my hair is, or am I doing something wrong?

[@andreaceleste2664]

My hair is like that too! It’s okay to wash your hair once a month and just rinse and restyle every week!

[@deandrajohnson1973]

Yes! Definitely part 2!

[@HannahCobana]

I just gotta say, a few months ago I purchased your top 2 shampoo/conditioner sets and adjusted how I wash my hair based on your recommendations and my hair has never been healthier. I bleach my hair fairly regularly but it feels way better now than it ever has.

[@pandora9814]

what shampoo is that

[@HavingAGoudaTime]

I would love to see more content/research regarding oil on hair/hair masks and oil absorbing into the hair or not! I've heard so many mixed things on this

[@jumanahxb4087]

Different oils work for different porosities of hair once u know if ur low or high porosity it makes a massive difference

[@HavingAGoudaTime]

@@jumanahxb4087 Yes I'm aware. I'm a hairdresser and deal with porosity daily. However I would like to see more content backed by experiments/research on the hows and whys of what absorbs better and benefits the hair more so I can help my clients more with some factual evidence instead of everyone's opinion on what works best. There is an incredible amount of misinformation present in the advertising market and almost all of it contradicts itself. A type of oil is claimed to absorb into the cuticle layer more or less than another, based on the molecule size, but some other study (funded by a product trying to sell something) says that that isn't the case and that THEIR product oil thing can absorb but nothing else can. Something 'adds more moisture' to the hair, but it doesn't actually add moisture as in water or hydration, it adds a type of oil based conditioning agent. Moisture doesn't mean what we think it does in hair terms. There are so many different products that claim to change everyone's hair in dramatic ways but only have their statement to back it up. the only actual studies that I'm aware of on these topics are funded by brands pushing their products and are biased. This is a complicated topic and I would love to see more work done on it.

[@juliea.]

My hairdresser explained the reason why people say that cutting the hair makes it grow more: it's advice for people who are growing their because they want more length. The hair grows from the root, so obviously the ends of the hair don't dictate growth rate, BUT she stated that frequent trims keep the hair healthier by avoiding split ends. She said that a split end is kind of like a run in a stocking: it splits "upwards," and then you have to cut that part off. You'll have to cut more if not addressed routinely, therefore cutting off the length. I hope that makes sense. :)

[@kathleen5800]

It's simple: we have to wash our hair when it's dirty! so sometimes it can be everyday, it depends on our lifestyle. Scalp=Skin, it's not good to keep it dirty too long. But if it's everyday, protecting our hair with coconut oil before is a good idea!

[@chailatte5633]

I think it's hard for a lot of us, including myself, to understand that what works for you, works for you. Much like skincare and everything else about our bodies, everyone's hair isn't the same and it is totally possible that what works fantastic for one person doesn't work for the next person's hair type. I've been trying really hard to rememeber that!

[@MaayanLovesUnicorns1]

Licensed cosmetologist here 🤚🏼 My favorite shampoo & condition that I keep coming back to are the L’Oréal Bonding shampoo & conditioner! I do recommend some professional brands to my clients but I always recommend the L’Oréal one as well because it’s great and affordable!

[@DanielaSantos-gy4lf]

Is it okay to use it if my hair isn't that damaged?

[@kerneedavis2315]

Omgsh, I just tried the K18 and wow, what a difference! Thanks for the recommendation

[@heathermccuin9555]

I am in love with k18 too!

[@natmya243]

That product seemed so great to me when I used it, but when I couldn't afford it anymore and stopped oh boy the fall out from that was so huge.

[@Knap4501]

13:17 I have very oily and tangle-prone as well as pretty curly hair. All the advice I was given when I was younger was to never brush my hair between washes or only in the shower because I'd lose all my curl definition and my hair would get frizzy. But what they didn't tell me was that if I brushed my hair every night it would be frizzy, but only until I spritzed it with water the next morning and got all my curls back.

[@apollosartz4487]

Your channel just makes me feel glad for having pretty nice short hair bc i dont have to worry about half of this stuff

[@Iwona886]

The tip sbout brushing your hair only when you wash it is probably intended for people with wavy/curly hair and it does make sense.

[@march3547]

I would love a part two. Recently I’ve been seeing a lot of people on Instagram selling their ‘custom hair growth oil’ and taking about how certain natural oils can help growing out your hair. I’m wondering wether there’s truth to that.

[@elsagrace3893]

No! Scammy scammers!

[@Ms7of8]

There are also lots of people on YT claiming to wash your hair with onion juice, etc., etc., and your hair will grow like crazy. Wonder if it's all bunk.

[@saraha5522]

What made my hair grow faster and thicker was taking hair vitamins and getting better nutrition.

[@buckyyyb]

no. and the same can even be said with everyone’s coveted rosemary oil. There was only like one study with it, and that is not nearly enough time to get good data. others like castor don’t either. the reason people are probably noticing a difference is because it’s protecting their hair. but no, so far the only FDA approved hair growth/regrowth treatment is minoxidil (: (also proper diet)

[@mariemcgrath8681]

Great informative video. I often feel guilty because I only wash my hair twice a week, but actually looks better the longer I leave it .... hate the fly away hair & dryness after a shampoo & conditioner, usually let it air dry as much as possible before using hair dryer. I'm 76 & have a natural looking shoulder bob, also going grey naturally ?!!

[@connie6410]

I have also heard drugstore products are all garbage, but I totally have some favorites that are drugstore along with my higher end faves. Love this topic!

[@lizbarrand7701]

I don’t know why people make blanket statements like that. All drugstore isn’t garbage any more than more expensive = better. There’s good & bad for both.

[@charizmaticchronicles]

Shea moisture was a god send for my hair!! It’s the only thing that works for my hair! I bought the baby version for my daughter I love their products 😍

[@kathleenadeshoga8415]

The brush once a week with conditioner in the shower is mainly advice meant for curly girls to get rid of shed hair that builds up during the week. Since it's not ideal to brush daily with curly/kinky hair. I agree with you it depends on hair type

[@melissaedwards2409]

I get a kick out of your videos. Super helpful. Would love a part two!

[@kmendez9474]

Yes! More drugstore hair products please!! 😁 I'm halfway through the Loreal Bond shampoo and conditioner 😍 I love them! Also, started using the Mielle rosemary mint scalp/split end oil and wowza!! My hair has never been in better condition. I wash every 3 days

[@0eveez]

Heyyy, any update on the Mielle Rosemary oil on a longer period of time?

[@AshleyMova]

Would love to hear your take on the new Virtue Flourish Denisty Booster at Sephora!

[@MURPHxiii]

I would LOVE virtue brand review!!!

[@JaeGemini]

If you have wavy or curly hair do not brush your hair everyday especially if it’s dry or you going to be wondering why you have a head full of fairy knots. Water and lots of slip is your best friend. And if you use a brush use one that’s targeted to detangling. Also brushing too often can damage the curl structure of your hair.

[@tessskye4133]

Please make a reel or video on leave in conditioners and how often you can use them❤️❤️❤️

[@muiawat]

This video is very consistent with your channel . So nice to see the same solid messages

[@claudettewatkins4237]

Oiling your scalp can caused clogged follicles. Also oil in your scalp is called sebum which is God's gift to us!!!! It's the best conditioner and protectant for your hair it coats the strands and protects them. So prolonging wash day helps your hair get coated with the oils and protects the hair which is why you should brush more then once a week. however not washing your hair will clogged pores as well I wash once a week for some twice a week is great but everyday is a lot

[@lexvirgilio]

I’m so appreciative for all the effort and research you put into your videos!!! You are such an amazing educator, love you so much!!!

[@BeHealing]

I workout every day and I have a very sweaty head, so my hair is saturated dripping with salty sweat at least once a day. If I don’t wash it the salt absolutely wrecks my hair, it gets like straw. So I wash every day, rinsing doesn’t cut it, just washing does. Saying that I am very careful about touching it gently when I am washing it and I use a deep conditioning mask every day. I do an olaplex treatment once a week and a keratin treatment once a week too. My hair is long processed blonde and it’s very healthy.

[@silverkitty2503]

i trained as a hairdresser ..you are the only one that talks about swelling of hair when wet and its why we were always told drying your hair as quickly as possible was best i.e with a hairdryer just not too hot or close and with the correct brush because it was less damaging than natural drying. i have told a lot of people who don't believe me ..water damage is prevented only THREE ways ...not getting your hair wet or drying it as fast as you can.....ie with a dryer the longer its wet the more damage you get or lastly oiling your hair before you get it wet ...the oil helps protect your hair from the water ...and it doesn't matter if you put it in a protective hair style it still swells but if you have to let it dry naturally put it in a protective hairstyle ..also dont mistake your hair just drying frizzy or weird with actual damage ...people get too fussy

[@daisyjohnson7588]

I love hearing wash frequency addressed, the only thing I wish was more explicitly touched on was that some people really do need to wash their hair every day due to lifestyle. I work in a barn, in a manual labor capacity, in a tropical climate. My whole body is dusty, dirty, and sweaty enough at the end of the day to need a proper wash, hair included. Maybe in a different life I wouldn't wash every day, but just talking about breakage isn't the full picture of what's right for each person

[@Alex.Rivers]

I need a part 2 please I have heard all of these misconceptions!!! Thanks for sharing :)

[@mentalhealthwithalana]

As I have curly hair I only brush when my hair is wet cos obviously you can't brush it when it's dry. Also it's good to put curly hair up in a lose style with a silk srunchie and then put on a silk cap or scarf on to protect the curls as you sleep. A lot of common hair care advice only suits naturally straight hair and never looks at how curly hair is very different! I'd be interested if you could do some hair care advice on curly hair to be more diverse ❤

[@lorraineriley6393]

Thanks for your hair advice Abby, I'm loving my Pureology as per your recommendation. Hope you've settled in . X

[@samiiiib]

please speak on the affects of dry shampoo- thinning hair/ hair loss. i used to have such thick hair and then i incorporated dry shampoo in my routine regularly for about 2 years and the difference is crazy. i now stopped using it all together. also PLS review maui moisture!!!

[@heathermccuin9555]

Me too!!!! I tried MANY high end dry shampoos and it didn’t matter - they all caused hair loss for me, even when washed the very next day.

[@stephaniezephia]

@@heathermccuin9555 have you read the ingredients guys? It’s literally butane lighter fluid and alcohol - I read the back of them when it was very popular, and I couldn’t even believe what you could put on to your scalp/ Skin, without expecting damaging affects! Read the label and you’ll be on a healthier journey!

[@virozadesign]

Abbey, your reviews are spot on. I really benefit from your techniques and I love how my hair improved and same for my skin.

[@autumnbell9233]

Hi Abbey, I recently purchased/just started using the Amika Kure Repair Shampoo and Conditioner. I went to a new hairdresser to get my hair lightened, I was told by the hairdresser that anything purchased of Amazon/EBay/supermarket/chemist will ruin the blonde the hairdresser achieved in salon and the only way to guarantee the blonde will remain for as long as possible is to use Salon products only 🤨 I was annoyed as the hairdresser didn’t even know the brand that was being dismissed.

[@itstia552]

I loved this video Abby thanks! I have long, lightened snarly tangly hair extremely similar to yours and I only wash once per week, brush once per day and I use oils mid lengths to ends midweek then an intensive oil treatment over night before washing the next day, I wear a silk bonnet to sleep in too, I use bond builders and a Milkshake leave in conditioner moose which dosnt leave hair greasy or weighed down, I also have always used drug store shampoo and my hair is better than its ever been! I Also get a trim about 4 times per year. Love Tia 💘

[@prilknight]

I dearly love the way the milkshake leave in smells. It’s the best to detangle my hair also😊

[@TheKristinjackson]

I agree with all of these... especially about the hair scraping, omg so tired of that being spread

[@jimbearone]

My favorite ‘Natural’ hair care Fix: Cold Pressed Wheat Germ Oil - I add about 1/2 oz. Well shaken Oil to 2 oz. Mask or Conditioner and mix well apply to wet hair and use a blow dryer to heat it until excess water is gone and hair feels “Oily” add water and emulsify, rinse well and shampoo this gives the hair a deep oil treatment that lasts for several shampoos without leaving hair oily or greasy.

[@melissafox6488]

Thank you Abby 😊

[@tiffanylovesjesus5072]

Washing and brushing my hair everyday makes my hair thrive!And it's therapeutic🥰

[@sophielaboissonniere4132]

You have an amazing smile! Thank you for your channel, much needed in the youtube world.

[@roxystaranl94]

In mid-2020 I was looking up ways to remove an Arctic Fox dye. The particular color (diluted burgundy to make pink) was difficult to remove with normal washing so I went to youtube for help (BIG MISS STEAK); one of her recommendations was to use the "baking soda method" to remove the color.....YIKES. The color came out all right but my hair was breaking off in clumps after trying it. I was lucky enough that a lot of length stayed in tact and it only looked like I got layers cut. But I will never, ever let baking soda near my head again LOL.

[@kaylan2083]

Can you settle the debate that's going around online about if blow-drying is more or less damaging than air-drying? 🤔 Of course everyone has different hair densities and textures so the amount it takes one person's hair to dry is going to be different from another. And some people hover-diffuse or hover-blow dry so the blow-dryer isn't in direct contact. Just curious because I keep seeing stuff online?

[@witchf4ce310]

Of course blow drying is more damaging. Heat damage is really horrible for the hair.

[@queenkoi]

Blow drying is a little rougher on the hair due to the manipulation and heat.

[@CJbrieflittlecandle]

But letting your hair sit wet for long periods can be very damaging as well

[@witchf4ce310]

@@CJbrieflittlecandle how? That doesn’t even make sense. What about that is damaging unless you’re touching it?

[@potat19]

@@witchf4ce310 I’m wondering the same thing. Many people claim that you should wrap a t-shirt around your head and let it absorb the water because air drying is damaging but I’ve never seen them explain why :/

[@concettinaaversano2059]

The best advice I have received in the life in you advice about coconut oil!!! Fantastic.

[@vernadix3251]

Part 2??? YES PLEASE!! 😊

[@KMariMusicOfficial]

So fine-medium, curly/semi-coily hair? Honestly, I have no idea what hair type I really am. I didn’t know how curly my hair was until I stopped straightening it after high school. Now that I let it be natural I cannot stop it from tangling. People say don’t brush when wet/don’t brush when dry. What do I dooo? It feels like my hair was thicker when I straightened it…? Just because there was less tangles. But obviously, heat is damaging. Please help me, Abbey😭😂💕

[@Yogi-Bajogie]

Abbey, it's such a pleasure to watch and listen to you. Logical and pragmatic, so refreshing and needed in our world today. Hope life is treating you well:)

[@nikki2370]

Hi Abbey!! Thank you!!

[@brittanysnyder5795]

It’s definitely taken me a long time to figure out a good washing schedule for me, especially with changes to moving and my water source changing, my workout schedule, and change to products. As for a protective style at night, I do a loose braid normally but after wash day it’s different. I know a lot of wavies/curlies put hair in a pineapple, but this doesn’t work for my hairline. I now flip my hair up loosely, but use a small jaw clip and clip the ends of my hair up on the top of my head. The key is to not clip tight to your scalp and don’t pull hair tight. It works to keep my waves in tact for a day or two longer! These are excellent points to go over and you offered a lot of clarity on all these! Thank you for all the research and explaining you do for us. 😃

[@faerieminds]

I brush every day to distribute oils and use a wide-tooth comb while I have shampoo/conditioner in the shower, that seems to work super well for ME because I have fine hair and because I use a scalp scrubby brush thingie which can tangle me up a bit.

[@kjp2314]

I'd love to see what she thinks about Hask argan oil or any of their stuff because I used to swear by it!!

[@jimbearone]

Frequent washing and using a stripping shampoo can create a dry, tight scalp which pumps out oil to soothe the scalp and protect it from cracking which can make the scalp feel greasy just hours after washing and this can create a viscous cycle of washing / oily scalp especially when you are having hormonal issues ( pregnancy / stress / puberty / menstruation ) this won’t make hair more oily just the scalp area because it can’t spread down the shaft unless you comb or brush it.

[@Cece9090]

I use to go to bed with wet hair a lot, and my hair is so thick it takes hours to dry and if I went to bed with it wet, it would still be damp the next day. Now I only do it once in a blue moon when I only have the option of a late-day shower. It has helped a lot too. Could you make a video on protective hair styles for under helmets and hard hats? I wear both a lot and I just bought bandanas to help cover my hair but I need more styles to figure out what works best for me with my hair and my time.

[@JTDumpling]

I have curly hair, use a conditioner as a detangler when I dry brush my hair before washing it once a week (sometimes two, but that's pushing it). For light tangles it combs right out but I wet my comb for the extra slippage for bigger tangles. I find having control over how wet my hair gets when combing it out gives me less breakage then just soaking my whole head. My hair has never looked more healthier! Everyone is different though, so saying everyone MUST do something just doesn't work.

[@karenmccann8644]

I can't imagine only brushing my hair once a week. Im always seeing girls with messy straggling strands and I think 'don't you ever brush your hair'? I brush my hair several times a day and my hair isn't damaged from brushing it, because brushing so often means I don't have tangles in my hair.

[@tiashiraz8430]

I have very fine hair and I wash my hair every day in the week, because if I don’t then it has no life/volume. I am thoughtful in how I do it though. I use very little shampoo and only shampoo once, I rinse thoroughly, use a cotton t-shirt for drying, and apply treatments and protectants regularly. My scalp is very healthy. I have no dandruff or itching, little to no split ends, tangles, breakage, loss or damage of any kind and I am in my 50s. Frequent washing does work for some people.

[@simoneclarke5104]

Yes, please do a part two🥰!!

[@katiesalvadore7306]

You kind of have the same tone and inflection in your voice as Alex cooper. Love your videos!! Thanks!

[@TheLauren1113]

Overall good video but some of the advice is really targeted to people with straight hair. Those of us with curly hair cannot dry brush or we’d break up our curl patterns and cause a lot of frizz. Curly hair should be brushed with conditioner in the hair. Many curlies also brush only once a week because we only brush on wash day. I personally like to do damp refreshes but not everyone does the same! We also don’t use shampoo as often as people with straight hair - we sometimes conditioner wash only.

[@erelldavy5206]

For the shampoo part it's not true. Having curly hair mean the oil doesn't go down on the hair aswell, so the length is more prone to dryness but it doesn't mean our scalp is less prone to oiliness. Some of us are just unlucky 😢

[@buckyyyb]

“But some of the advice I’d targeted to people with straight hair” she says in the beginning it’s what works best for her hair type, that’s why

[@73245bibi]

thank you so much Abbey! I love your channel! My hair is a little finer than yours and I’m trying to grow it out. Love your product reviews and advice!

[@SGSG-jf1wu]

I wash my hair 3-4 times a week at least, if I don't my hair starts to look flatter or weighted down, and itchy but it also depends on my workout routine. If I work out every single day I will most likely increase how much I wash my hair. I fell into a trap of using only "green" "natural" hair products and found that it made me shed more than normal so I went back to drugstore shampoos and my hair shedding reduced substantially, having said that some drugstore shampoos weigh my hair down too much that it feels as if I haven't wash my hair in dayssss.... so what might work for some might not work for others for sure!

[@mcookie0983]

Another dry oil mist is the one from verb!

[@muiawat]

Yes a part two !

[@edithrodriguez5418]

Yessssss continue with the drugstore videos 🥰

[@lian7354]

I think it goes without saying but everyone's hair is different. I thought it was bad to blow dry my hair because of heat damage etc. But for me, I'm very prone to scalp yeast infections/ fungal infections on my scalp from damp hair. Blow drying helped my hair so much because it helped my scalp and helped stop the fungal infections, I also use anti fungal shampoo with active ingredients but they have harsh sulfates in. This still works well for me. Everyone's hair is different, if you find something works for you don't necessarily have to change it based of what people say. :))

[@sammiels12]

Im a natural redhead and have fine hair strands but I have ALOT of them, my hair gets super tangly from just exsisting, my hair feels healthier and drys faster if I brush my conditioner through it in the shower. Everyone's got different hair and lifestyle, just have to find what works for you! I also have been using the viori rice water shampoo and conditioner bars for over a year and I can't even tell you how much of a difference they have made.

[@Johuma27]

idk but from my experience, applying oil to my scalp has helped a lot. I have an oily scalp and often get dandruff and applying oils has helped with the dandruff. I feel like the oils help remove those residues from the scalp or idk it what why but my scalp does feel cleaner. I usually apply the oil for a few minutes or more then massage my scalp before washing. Helps remove residues and buildup.

[@anya9212]

I do not understand the whole fuss with the “drugstore products are bad” “they will ruin your hair overtime” no it won't?? I like to brag that I have very thick, naturally wavy-curly bleached blonde hair that is pretty long and healthy and gets lots of compliments from hairstylists. Even though the same hairstylists would probably throw hands when I tell them what I use 😂😂. I absolutely love Loreal Elvive Paris. Hands down. The best products for me are the Dream Lengths and Color Vive shampoo and conditioner. Using Elvive for YEARS has made my hair grow so much and keep it at its healthiest, plus my hairstylist loves these products too! I can wash often as they’re not stripping despite containing Sodium Laureth Sulfate (an ingredient SO many people demonize nowadays). The moment I tried out these sulfate-free, silicone-free popular brands everyone on social media is talking about my hair had been at its WORST. It didn’t feel right, it was brassy and got split ends from them drying my hair out so much. So I realised I have to stop listening to people that have no real knowledge of what a good shampoo and conditioner is. My opinion is that all of them are good! Just like these “natural” products didn’t work for me, Elvive might not work for you. There are products out there for everyone. Please don’t be ashamed if you use drugstore products as they’re amazing and in most cases it all relies on publicity and people trying to sell their product + sponsors.

[@anya9212]

I do use professional hair masks from Wella though, as professional hair masks in general are very hydrating and amazing. That is just what I prefer! Go ahead and experiment and see what your hair loves. ❤

[@mooniecri]

This was really useful!! Thank you! 😊

[@polinavinogradova9892]

great video, but we need part 2! 🙏😊