Abi Stumvoll - Breaking Shame and Performance | Teaching Moment

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"We all have in our mind what a perfect Christian is in our minds, and when we compare ourselves to this made-up person, we destroy ourselves." - Abi Stumvoll
Watch this lesson as Abi Stumvoll confronts the false truths and self-hatred that we believe with the truth that we were born to be loved and to love in return.
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Lesson Summary:
I spent my whole life performing and feeling the pressure of being a "miracle child."
I felt like I needed to save everyone.
We all have in our minds what a perfect Christian is in our minds. - and when we compare ourselves to this made-up person we destroy ourselves.
The image I have of who I'm supposed to be is a vain imagination exalting itself above who He is.
GOD SAID, 'ABI YOU WERE BORN TO BE LOVED AND TO LOVE.'
I can't fail at being loved by God and loving people.
If I can connect to his love in my failure, I can never fail.
What you sow in self-hatred you will reap in self-hatred.
John 15 - He is the vine, and we are the branches, we have to remain in him to bare fruit.
1 John 4:16 and so we KNOW and RELY on the LOVE God has, God's love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides continually in him
There's a lie in Christianity that if you beat yourself up enough that is penance to God.
You have to step out of the very nature of God to hate yourself.
If you let his love in it will change you more.
Genesis And the woman said to the serpent, "We may eat fruit from the trees of the garden, 3 except the fruit from the tree which is in the middle of the garden. God said, 'You shall not eat from it nor touch it, otherwise you will die.'" 4 But the serpent said to the woman, "You certainly will not die! 5 For God knows that on the day you eat from it your eyes will be opened [that is, you will have greater awareness], and you will be like God, knowing [the difference between] good and evil." 6 And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was delightful to look at, and a tree to be desired in order to make one wise and insightful, she took some of its fruit and ate it; and she also gave some to her husband [c]with her, and he ate. 7 Then the eyes of the two of them were opened [that is, their awareness increased], and they knew that they were naked; and they fastened fig leaves together and made themselves coverings. 8 And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool [afternoon breeze] of the day, so the man and his wife hid and kept themselves hidden from the [d]presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden. 9 But the Lord God called to Adam, and said to him, "Where are you?" 10 He said, "I heard the sound of You [walking] in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid myself." 11 God said, "Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten [fruit] from the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?"
They eat from the tree and realize they are naked. They became able to judge themselves. It was God's intent that we would never know any separation from love.
As soon as they realized they were naked, they figured out their own way to hide instead of bringing it to God. (This is where performance comes in.)
The snake tells them they will be like God if they eat the fruit. He says you aren't good enough, even though they were already like God.
The accusers' whole plan is to tell us we aren't enough, and we need to fix it apart from God.
Shame makes you believe that there is something wrong with you instead of that, you just did something wrong.
Shame wants to identify us
God set this up from the beginning to show us his plan for redemption.
We think as soon as we sin God turns his back on us. But God actually pursues us in our sin. And he has been doing this since the beginning. The first consequence he gives is his plan for redemption for all humanity.
If God responded to Eve with a plan for redemption, then what could you do that would be beyond God's love and grace?
We think that God will remove his love for us if we don't have a plan to make our wrongs right.
It's always been about getting love to you.
Shame wants to keep us hidden, but God wants to pull us out.
If you confess the little things, you won't get to the big stuff. When you own your story, it free's you from shame. Posture your heart that you'll never say "no" to love.

[@taunnychicago7684]

So this randomly shows up in my suggestions and I don’t know what to say. I am in tears. God’s love is real y’all. We just have to accept it.

[@carolinacorrea422]

omgosh! same!

[@robertokabir3628]

i know im asking randomly but does someone know of a trick to get back into an Instagram account?? I somehow lost my account password. I appreciate any assistance you can give me!

[@amyschuhmann1814]

"I can't be a good Christian unless I am radically loved by him." No performance thinking!

[@ams_tyquiengco]

“If we have to perform for real love, it won’t produce good fruit.” Preach!!!

[@manifestationqueen444]

I love this girl, her honesty, transparency and willingness to share her journey with others. She is super gorgeous.

[@Onlinesully]

Nivi Parthasarathy yeah I agree She gets bashed sometimes and it's not needed

[@DustSoilStudio]

Home girl is PREACHING!!!!!! I need a book on this.

[@ledouxitnow4458]

Tysm. This blessed me on a whole new level of restoration. I related to this times 10! I’m a PK since I was 9, was molested since I was 5 by a relative... nobody knew & this person also did the same to my siblings. I was the shy & quiet & timid of the Brady bunch (literally) - and yet I couldn’t stand it anymore & spoke up in middle school. It was swept under the rug & my dad beat him up & sent him away. However, I always felt like I had to fight hard to be good enough to appease them for the hurt & shame I thought I caused for opening my mouth. I’m Samoan & my culture doesn’t help especially for a High chief & Sr. Pastor. Shame & Guilt led me to do things I regret even being married. God is so good for delivering my family from generational curses & shame & Jesus for bringing the ministry of reconciliation. I’m 35 now and leading worship in church & it is the place of no shame & healing & redemption that I lead from. It is from the grace of God which enables & empowers me daily!!! Tysm for sharing this! Deep truths

[@eleanorjordan3404]

Perfect love casts OUT fear!!!

[@mosthighschild]

this has been on my recommendation for days now. i'm glad i clicked it. i never know i needed this until i watched it. thank you for pursuing me God!😭

[@ASeekingServant]

Same!

[@irenethegreek3348]

Saaaame

[@PaulIsbell]

“You were born to be loved and TO love”

[@cirocasarin]

"BORN TO BE LOVED AND TO LOVE"... If I ever get a tatoo, it woud definitely be that one.

[@abhirai6124]

She is good and is being used By God to heal many lives.

[@renaerufus8707]

WHOAAAA!!! Lord God! You love us so much! Here I am stressing and letting my joy get stolen for pathetic reasons. Goodbye perfection. Lord I choose you!

[@CharlotteChan]

Love you Renae!

[@worshipeverywhere3515]

Wow she's encountered God REALLY.

[@marymcgeehan4060]

I honestly think everyone should listen to this every day; I know I am until it is written in my heart. Shame has been such a big part of my story, its been crippling my life. I am so encouraged and renewed in this message!

[@roarkjones5729]

MY LORD JESUS!!!!!! THIS IS GOING TO SAVE A LOT OF PEOPLE FROM SUICIDE, & MISSING GOD'S PERFECT WILL FOR THEIR LIFE!!!!!!!! THANK YOU MRS.ABI S. I AM APPLYING TO "WORSHIP U."

[@nancyarson1403]

Wow.this is so healing..😭😭have no words to express how it has touched me

[@carolynwhite9975]

This message is full of God's Truth and Love!! We must change our perception of who God is. He is not the tyrant that He has been made to be. Before I received the revelation of Jesus Christ, His Sacrifice and Love I walked before the Lord on eggshells, working, serving, not missing church, Bible Study, etc.to make Him happy and pleased!

[@c-3093]

Wow. This is just what I needed. I feel like God's lifted up a ton of weight off my chest after accepting His love. God really spoke to me through this video. God bless you!

[@kenieshasewell714]

Simple beautiful effortless truth in Love that redeems the weary soul. Glory be to God 🙏🏾

[@nm8790]

It's 2 something in the morning and God spoke to me so clearly through this message. I love You God, Thank You🙌

[@realliferealtalkwithbiggs777]

Bruh thats why I love the OT bruh. Its filled with SO MUCH REVELATION. God basically used Eve to fix the same mistake that they made by releasing that prophetic word about Jesus because she IS the mother of all creation. Crazy!!!!! 😍✨🙌🏾🕺😌🙏🏾😃

[@Londonislove]

Thank you, holy spirit, for leading me to this. ❤️

[@LukasiMusic]

Amen Jesus!

[@brinamarie9525]

WOOOW! She just called out the specific details of what I’ve been doing.

[@brinamarie9525]

I too thought that if I shame myself then God would be proud of me.

[@brinamarie9525]

I paused the video to go to Biblehub.com to read Genesis 3 (Adam and Eve sinning and banned) and Genesis 4 (Cain sinning and being banned). I felt God wanting me to ask if God yelled at His kids. So I looked for exclamation marks and saw God NEVER yelled at anyone except satan. God HIMSELF experienced pain in having children, but still multiplied and Eve shared in what God Himself was going through. He made skin garments (of an animal that had to be sacrificed unto death) and would cover their shame as a sign of what Jesus would do in clothing us in His righteousness, in His image through His sacrificial death. Adam was God’s firstborn son who, through sin, became a tiller of the soil as well as Adam’s firstborn son Cain. No exclamations were made from God when Cain killed his brother. The law wasn’t even made yet. It was all about living in love (now) in the midst of darkness. Cain was afraid of punishment and God marked Cain so he wouldn’t be killed by man or beast. Yet Cain left God’s Presence. The ground was curse because satan was cursed and Adam unknowingly gave his authority over the land to satan through the open door of sin.

[@brinamarie9525]

God didn’t want them living forever in a cursed world away from a Paradise filled with Love and His Presence there to love on His children that He created so He kicked them out for their safety. Their ways were no longer pure enough to handle the fruit given to them. God wants us to hold onto good Spiritual fruit and discard the bad fruit from our presence. It was symbolic of what was to come. God still went after His children to be with them and be their Provider and Protector. Their sinful nature never changed His mind about wanting to be their Dad and desiring a Father-Son/Daughter relationship with them. He was the same loving Father yesterday as He was the next day.

[@Woobi11]

I' ve never wanted to shame myself so God would love me. I've always known He loves me ,but thought He was ashamed of me for not learning to love myself ! Still, He never turns away, He has shown me many miracles in my and my family's life and has blessed us abundantly! He has answered every prayer I've prayed for others His will, His way. And I count every miracle,big and small ! I stand in worship in awe of the love God has for us,that he would sacrifice His only son, Jesus Christ, who would show the entire world an undying love... the greatest love of all ! I'm going to watch this powerful teaching and prayer and declaration and affirmation of freedom until the little girl on Santa's lap God showed me in prayer, quits trying to leave his lap , because that's truly where she longs to be. God bless you all ! This beautiful message has touched and deeply blessed my heart.

[@carynncondon]

This. Is. Amazing! The Lord gave me revelation about my own shame and need to be perfect while watching this. I feel more free as that burden has finally lifted from me!

[@edwinqalo6690]

Amen and amen ,, God keep pursuing us to the point that he gave us Jesus,, what a amazing loving father He is.

[@Hellothere23344]

Self-hatred doesn’t bear good fruit

[@faithlasela1851]

POWER FULL...THANK YOU AMERICA FOR YOUR HEART FOR GOD...IT IS LIFE CHANGING.. TO ALL YOU SINGERS & PREACHERS..I LOVE YOU ALL. YOU REWARD IS IN HEAVEN.

[@BigBlerd24]

This was SO good. Had me in my living room bawling like a baby.

[@mik8864]

As a worship leader, I struggle with the same sin and shame. I hide myself from God because of the guilt. And the fact that I'm on the worship team made it more harder to me. People see me on the stage and lead worship every Sunday but my mindset is this, I should be a good example to everyone especially on my walk with the Lord. My ministry became a burden to me and I feel like everything doesn't make sense at all. Then our Pastor once said that "We work for the kingdom but forget about the King" I cried in my room while I listen to her as I felt God's presence embrace me. I know it's not an accident that I heard this teaching, it made me realize so many important things. Lord thank You so much.

[@huldahh444]

Ohhhhhhh, Jesus, this was what I needed right now! wow, when she said tug his beard an look into his shiny eyes, I expected to see fire that would burn me to a crisp but I saw that sparkle in his eyes, the sparkle in his smile and I lost it. Wow. Jesus loves us so radically

[@Hellothere23344]

There is nothing that we can do to make Him love us more!

[@unicorn_033]

I met Abi who was on the stage when I went to HK. She is so honest and shares amazing inspiration of God’s Grace . Thank you Abi!!!

[@laurencastillo9741]

Abi I love you. You have helped me beyond measure. God bless you

[@edwinqalo6690]

ALL GLORY TO GOD, LOVE YOUR TEACHING, God is really using you

[@Megan-kw1bl]

This was such a timely word for me, and exactly what I needed to hear. God has been showing me much of what you said the past few days. It has been such a blessing to hear this. So much confirmation!

[@ptmchildofgod8346]

I remember watching this when I was in a deep place of insecurity.

[@realliferealtalkwithbiggs777]

Insane preaching bruh. So good!! Thank u Jesus!!

[@DamilolaOsunneye]

So timely! Thank you !

[@brittanyjackson6432]

Soo needed! Thanks Abi!

[@warriorBRYDE1990]

This is an incredibly necessary WORD ~

[@Appleiluv1]

POWERFUL!!

[@KRL]

This is SO good! Thank you!

[@Shells51]

Thank you for sharing. Your message blessed me!

[@shanonkulkin3290]

Thank you. Just thank you. Thank you for your honesty!

[@shinecreatively4832]

POWERFUL!! FREEING!! Thank You Jesus and thank you Abi!

[@BeastonChaste]

I needed this!

[@kimmymichele12]

JUST WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR AND KNOW.....GREAT WORD...THANK YOU FOR SHARING!!!

[@Onlinesully]

this girl went through a lot. she touched on it very briefly but it was big stuff. and she seems to have done a great job getting past it all.

[@randynash8368]

Amazing, passionate, truth! Thank you for being real @Abi Stumvoll.

[@irenethegreek3348]

That's so deep & rich & simple at the same time!

[@Kimrules502]

Wow. Thank you.

[@hollikrebs]

Thank you for giving "God''s Message" LOVE, His Love for us

[@ams_tyquiengco]

Wow, this is so good! So timely for me. I really like how she explains God’s love and goodness.

[@regancrawford4428]

"Love me radically in the place(s) I think You can't get (to)" … Love this. Desperately need that prayer. Thank you for sharing your testimony with us! "He's more angry at that something you think can block His love than He could ever be at you."

[@laviniaborota9374]

So good!

[@malien4761]

so thankful for this word. amen

[@emmandungu1971]

Left in tears. So much presence in this, my heart is so full. Thank-you so much

[@opirijiteijikere2956]

God bless you Abi..this’s so powerful, am blessed listening 🙏

[@Preshgaza]

Thank you Lord!!

[@davidodangla233]

Look who I found 😁😝

[@RiddleTales]

Thank you sister in Christ

[@kimmymichele12]

WOW....I SO MUCH NEEDED THIS FROM GOD....SO TRUE...IT IS SIMPLE!!!

[@sandrapegg5209]

Great message.

[@jaclynzisk2711]

Wow. Absolutely amazing word. Thank you, Lord!

[@michaelherbert9381]

God I needed to hear this

[@katiewolff6342]

SO GOOD!

[@jeremyorina2103]

Thank you!

[@lillygirl66]

Wow, how wonderful!

[@TheBakersDaughterSM]

You go girl!!! Preach it

[@fil-amlifeingoergia8765]

Amen thank you for sharing

[@kimmymichele12]

The more i listen....the more i get it.....Praise GOD!!!

[@GrantJolanta]

we are the spitting image of his son we have been made perfect.

[@gw8712]

Straight FIRE🔥🔥🔥

[@jameswebb375]

This was just absolutely amazing ❤️wow

[@radicalmermaid7600]

holy moly this is INCREDIBLE

[@mrs.hannahchiang]

sooo goooooood

[@Fino71]

TRUTH!!! So freaking good! Thank you!

[@GrantJolanta]

guys at 26:50 you can see at god takes over her body hjesus is literally screaming at us saying no THE PRICE WAS PAID I NEVER WANTED U TO FEEL SHAME this is amazing i cried

[@mstance8134]

Praise God!!

[@mrfive3413]

WOW! This is so AMAZING! You are AMAZING Abi! God is AMAZING! WOW... This is so indiscribable much more valuable than pure Gold. I mean, I don't know the meaning of gold if there is such thing as spiritual meaning about it... But WoW! Amazing... just so Amazing!

[@padlolin]

Abi! Thank you so much for this! What a Holy Spirit inspired talk! Get it girl! This is 🔥!

[@sparklyhomesteader5414]

Beautiful. I love this gal. I wish they would have pulled back the vocals and piano at the end.

[@brimil7844]

Love is only One of His attributes. She only focuses on that. There’s so much more to God.

[@blessingnjoku606]

Bri Mil I’m sorry but according to 1 John 4:8, God IS love. Love is not just one attribute of God. That is his whole entire make up. Love encompasses everything else that He is. Love is His ONLY nature. God IS love. Also, as children of God we are not supposed to tear down those who are working for the Kingdom. So many people are dealing with shame and this message is well needed, especially in this generation. Division inside of the body of Christ must end. We are called to be united in Love.

[@jennymatsuda2741]

Wow, God touched me deeply through that.

[@GrantJolanta]

wow this woman how much revelation i

[@natalieohlsson7777]

Profoundly powerful ❤ epic

[@sonyapapelyan3583]

Soooo gooodddd

[@lilmisshoney88]

In literally five minutes alone this woman has literally revealed.me. So crazy how the enemy uses the same tricks.

[@Erix7810]

‘Santa Claus is the best visual of the God that I’ve encountered.’ One of the most grievous things I’ve ever heard.

[@emilyafo]

This!!!!!!

[@denisecovarrubias4552]

Jesus , our Pursuer 😭😭❤️

[@kimmymichele12]

WONDERFUL WONDERFUL WONDERFUL

[@kristabinkley5228]

This is sooooooooo good

[@jameswebb375]

Changed my life

[@LaMarBoschman]

Yes...very good. Shame is from Satan. Jesus despised the shame! Amen?

[@WorshipU]

Amen!

[@GinaDuffify]

Amen

[@kristabinkley5228]

Oh girl!!!!!!

[@DailybreadwithBreeMinistries]

Amen

[@obong1]

Shame has no hold on me.

[@Onlinesully]

Abi got whacked with some unfair bashing or comments elsewhere. yeah she can be dramatic and stuff. but she tackles some stuff that others don't or won't. fair play to her for that.

[@EvaCortez]

😭 ❤️

[@happysunshine5906]

She and her husband have a podcast! Be sure to check them out by searching The Connected Life in the Apple podcast app.