Abusive and Manipulative Adult Children - What you Should Know

[@abathome7721]

My 25 yr old daughter has 2 babies with an emotionally, verbally, and financially abusive partner. He is 30 and has manipulated his way into his mother's home to live with my daughter and their children. This is so that he doesn't have to work and support them. He send my daughter out to door dash with the children so that he doesn't have to take care of them while she is gone. The 2 yr old repeats the insults she hears from him. She has left him several times and told me about his anger and entitled attitude. Then she packs up the babies and goes right back within days. She leaves when im at work and then keep the children from me until he is sick of them and wants me to watch them or he kicks her out. She has been living this way for 4 years. 5 homes and 26 jobs between them in 4 years. I made a list so that I knew I wasn't crazy. She will not stay with me bc i refuse to take care of a 30 yr old man. Last week, when she again, i told her that burned her last bridge with me and not to come here the next time he wants a few days away from her. Its not fair to the children who want to live with me and are taken back over and over. I can't bear to watch it again. I've repeatedly made room for she and my granddaughters and support her in her journey to improve herself so that she can be a better parent to them. She leaves every time and seems not to care at all how this affects her children or myself. Her every effort in life is geared toward keeping her man. Frighteningly so. I would provide a home for my granddaughters ina heartbeat, but i have lost respect and hope for my daughter. I cannot live in HER misery.

[@Midliferises]

Wow! This is some story! I will agree with you , in that, you cannot save your daughter from her situation. She has to come to terms with everything and slam the brakes -- if not for herself, for the children. Eventually, they will be old enough to understand what is going and that is not good! There is very little you can do in this situation, but don't ever stop talking. I do hope that your daughter comes to her senses sooner than later. In the interim, please make sure to not get sucked into it. Try to focus on your happiness and stability. Help where you can but focus on you. It doesn't sound like your daughter is appreciating the fact that you are coming to her rescue each time; be careful with that! Stay connected with us and be well, my friend!

[@TheGussie3d]

I have told her everything about this how she needs to honour her father and mother. And she still doesn’t. She can’t take the word no

[@Midliferises]

@@TheGussie3d You are probably taking a different approach now, so it id all new to her. She will come to terms with where she is going wrong soon enough; this, I promise you.

[@user-ng3xh9oo2q]

My biggest mistake is let my children go to my mother in-law after schools while growing up. My mother in law had turned my eldest into a Narcissist. The damage that she’s done is irreversible. That woman condoned bad behaviors, my daughter had never disclose or communicate anything with me because she doesn’t like what I have to say. What she wants is for you to side with her when you know she’s in the wrong. I can’t give her positive advice, she’ll say this is why I don’t talk to you. “You’re always negative”. I can’t reverse it anymore. This child is so disrespectful. I finally told her I washed my hand off. About a week ago. And she hasn’t contacted me since then. It hurts but, I’ll have to accept it. I refused to get abused by her. She is pregnant with her first child, I bought her everything she needed and more. But I didn’t really get a sincere gratitude.

[@Midliferises]

Hello there! Thanks for sharing! I will say that it was a good idea to release the situation so that you can keep your peace. Also, supporting your daughter with her pregnancy! Giving her the items for your soon-to-be grandchild was very nice; congrats with that! Hopefully, the time away will bring your daughter to some conclusions and that you two will come to some common grounds so that you can enjoy your grandchild. Keep the faith that everything will work itself out as it should because it will. Congrats, again, and stay connected with us.

[@carolineplant5510]

i know how you feel my dad hasnt let me be a mother everything i say no too my dad has let my child do

[@Midliferises]

@@user-ng3xh9oo2q Hi! Thanks for sharing your story! What I will tell you is that everything works itself out when you do what you’ve just done. When you come to the point where you have to cut everything loose, that is nature taking its course. Yes, it hurts but then it gets fixed. Your daughter is about to be a parent, that should be interesting - just keep the faith! Stay connected with us and be well, my friend.

[@user-ng3xh9oo2q]

@@Midliferises thank you for your reassurance…yes I will let nature take its course 🙏 god bless

[@TheGussie3d]

My adult daughter is one of the most abusive females I have ever dealt with. She grew up in church knows the word Butt has so many issues. It is so hurtful the damage that she has caused with her mouth. I sent this video to her.

[@Midliferises]

@@TheGussie3d Smiling…that is funny (you sending the video). I hope it gave her some enlightenment. It is crazy how some of our adult children are behaving with us, but we just have to come to terms with it and adjust. All I can continue to say is to protect yourself from the abuse. Everything will eventually work itself out. Thanks for reaching out and be well, my friend!

[@bobbibacha]

My mom is a narcissist I had no idea she was manipulative to my children against me behind my back to the extent she manipulated them is horrific. I had no idea the narcissistic game was a people game gathering all people for her side no matter what and turn them against me the mother no matter what but I know now as my children all hate me no telling what she was doing over the years. MY children are all brainwashed and now they hate me abuse me and are rude to me and evil.i love my mother im very kind to her but she has essentially usurped me from my life as a mother and now as a grandmother, my moms been really sick in the hospital I’ve been praying over her but it’s so surreal to see this woman all the time understanding all the destructive harm she’s caused me my children my grandchildren as they all gather around her being disrespectful and hateful to me. Thankfully I have my husband tha was brave enlightenment to be manipulated by her she caused issued in two previous marriages and most f all God is on my side I’m asking him to interview in all this because the damages are something no human could repair. I wonder if narcissistic people are actually demonic. Because she’s dine more damage than satan could if he tried.

[@Midliferises]

@@bobbibacha Hello there! I’m sorry for the delayed response!! You have a lot going on here! What is good is that you know who is in charge. Continue to surrender all to Him and watch the magic happen! I’m sorry to hear of your mother’s behavior! Give it all over to the Master and be well, my friend!

[@AmauriiKay]

I been clean 6 years I received my last lawsuit in life so I pack 15 laundry bags of clean clothes picked a new state and my children and I moved to a new to state for a fresh start a new beginnings and yet my 20 year old daughter is highly disrespectful towards me I battled drugs since a 14 yr old girl and I've been a mother since 16 I have surrender my children many times and placed them my self into foster care because I didn't feel responsible enough over there lives because I didn't want them to have the rape story that has stunned my growth many years that I used but I'm no longer that sick momma I'm running for my life I decided I wanna live in do want my life and the thing I love must my child has war against me and it. hurts to feel demonic anger from such a painful continuation redo

[@AmauriiKay]

My name is Kisha I'm so happened to see your videos while using my wife computer soni reach out

[@Midliferises]

@@AmauriiKay Hi! This is a very interesting story! You sound like you have been through a lot! It also sounds like you worked through it all and learned from it, which is amazing! I’m not getting a full feel for what is happening now, but whatever it is, just work to maintain your balance. Your 20 yr old is a young adult and if the respect is not there, you are within your right to separate yourself from it all. Remember, you have to be happy. healthy and balanced. You have to fight for that. Thanks so much for sharing and be well, my friend!