Abusive Relationships Among Men | Menisms Ep. 16

[@Adabekee88]

You guys podcast are the only men podcast I actually enjoy and that makes sense. Keep up the good work! And y’all should have some female and male guests more spice it up?!💞

[@madeauxafrica]

🙏🏿🙂

[@martinettlin7996]

💯 it’s not toxic

[@folaitabiyi7327]

Omo I can relate wit that “who are you calling GUY” like how else am I suppose to address both of you together

[@theinformedstudent7395]

First, Most people who are abused don't know that they are abused. The key is to have knowledge about your situation and then have a circle of people you can be vulnerable with who can be strong pillars to support and guide. Everyone needs that

[@newgenerationmanwithsegunbash]

It's nice to hear a Nigerian perspective on this issue

[@madeauxafrica]

Yes!🙏🏿🔥

[@reneen8443]

This episode was sooo good. I always appreciate the vulnerability on this podcast‼️‼️

[@madeauxafrica]

🙏🏿🙂

[@jesseinit]

1. I'm never going to deal with anyone who is still healing, I'm not going to save you even if you want to be saved. I'd rather deal with you when you've got your sanity in check. You want to come and saddle me with the responsibilty of helping you heal from a trash person while I was busy making sure I dont deal with one in the first place, make better choices. 2. I'm someone that wouldn't tolerate BS in any form of friendship, be it casual friendship or full blown dating, mi o raye oshi(Lagos taught me some yoruba..lol), I'm very swift in nipping rubbish in the bud. Another thing that helps me better navigate human relationships is the mindset that I can always live without this abusive person and ultimately be fine(is mindset becomes more dominant when there has been antecidents of divided attention amongst others). This makes me move in such a way that this person has a clear understanding that I'm very open to leaving them if they refuse to make us work regardless of wether I've got contindency plans or not. In my head, they're simply not worth my time and value I bring to the relationship so lets cut the crap and all go home, the speed of this is 5x faster when shen aint got some 36DD set of knockers.

[@madeauxafrica]

🤯

[@michaelanifowoshe5243]

Deep conversations guys. Deep!

[@madeauxafrica]

🙏🏿

[@ajiboyeadeola9713]

Manipulators and abusers are super connected, Murewa i agree with you jare.

[@madeauxafrica]

!🙏🏿🔥

[@Nico-jt4jd]

I respect the vulnerability in this episode. 💪🏾

[@madeauxafrica]

🙏🏿

[@eugenetcgcomputer-guy6103]

menisms...!!! I salute you guys - been listening for a while - had to leave this comment here. I think y'all are making the world a better place. I love the "unlearning" bit and emotional trauma talks. Got to share this with my guys. From Ghana - peace.

[@madeauxafrica]

[@oluyedejames2257]

Omg I can totally totally relate to what Mute said about his mom having an issue with him referring to his parents as you guys.my dad has an issue with that also lol maybe he'd rather have me say sir and ma,or oga madam and mummy wa😂😂😂😂😂

[@nateeka9228]

personally believe it has a lot to do with the understandings of masculinity and femininity. The world dislikes “weak” men just like they dislike “strong” women. In spirituality, the significance of balance of masculinity and femininity is talked about. However, most people believe that masculine traits should be about men and feminine traits should be about women. What happens when a woman talks about her achievements? She’s not believed. She’s laughed at. It’s because that’s not who the society expects and wants women to be. Apply the same logic. What happens when a man talks about his domestic abuse? He’s not believed. He’s laughed at. Sad but true. Good topic❤️👍🏾

[@madeauxafrica]

!🔥❤

[@emmanuelanibaba4098]

You guys just talked about like 80% of what was wrong with all my past relationships and even my present one.

[@madeauxafrica]

We gatchu brov🙏🏿🔥

[@victoruwa4853]

Shoutout to this podcast menisms, the reality of this show will not be politically correct Summary: in communication women priority is CONTEXT, men priority IS CONTENT, this is the root of manipulation

[@madeauxafrica]

Madeaux!

[@ucheachay5885]

New productivity hack : "listening to menisms while working "

[@tosingeorge]

I agree💯

[@Adabekee88]

Lol I’ve been doing this actually since I found this channel 😂 Work from home life ehn

[@madeauxafrica]

Spot on! Tell your friends too 🙏🏿🔥

[@Yayape-f6j]

Girl I’m at the gym catching up on their episodes too

[@frederickforsbury1488]

Works every time

[@kaycenelson]

Once you start listening to menisms, there's no going back.. Kudos u guys🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@madeauxafrica]

Yes!😂🙏🏿

[@TayseysBoudoir]

Insightful conversation as always.

[@madeauxafrica]

🙏🏿🙂

[@teemusole1841]

Know your worth, let your self worth be stronger than how much you love someone.❤️Such a beautiful episode I really appreciate this coming from men.

[@madeauxafrica]

🙏🏿🔥

[@ademolaaderibigbe8478]

Loool! I went through the "you guys" thing too. Actually still going through it and legit I can't speak to my parents of older ones about personal things so ya'll are 100% right.

[@enuks6505]

This is what happens these days especially from both gender, love that this topic was talked about. I still use "You Guys" for my parents 😉. Thanks a lot 😍😍

[@madeauxafrica]

🔥 The last line 🤣

[@abiolamakay]

Definitely enjoyed this conversation. It is my first time listening and I am so happy to see men having these conversations. I could relate to a lot of things that you said. From knowing yourself and your worth, to the various types of abuse we suffer from our parents, great episode! Thank you for sharing.

[@madeauxafrica]

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[@ibukunoluwadawodu1019]

Mehnn... You guys just gained a loyal subscriber. This topic really hit home. Kudos guys! 👊

[@madeauxafrica]

🚀 Yay!

[@michaelaliseberhard7677]

Thx 🙏🏾

[@madeauxafrica]

🔥

[@lizzylizzyshow]

I really enjoyed this podcast, It's really good to understand men's perspective on different scenarios. Bravo to both of you for expressing your opinion👏🏾

[@madeauxafrica]

🙏🏿💫

[@wordsbymaribeja1470]

Such a good discussion, I wasn't interested in the topic at all but the two of you had me completely immersed, very well executed 🤗.

[@madeauxafrica]

We're glad you loved it🙏🏿

[@_deolaalli]

Another great episode..

[@madeauxafrica]

Thanks🙏🏿🙂

[@sisi_mo]

Murewa ooo! The way he unraveled the whole thing. C'mon! My guy has had so many experiences. I love his vulnerability

[@madeauxafrica]

🙏🏿

[@moremiarowosegbe7665]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 wonderful episode

[@madeauxafrica]

🙏🏿🙂

[@wordsbymaribeja1470]

04:13 I think the person who wrote in with his comment was saying that he doesn't want that over-familiarisation where the child doesn't have a parent, they have a friend instead, which you recognised and touched on. I see where they're coming from as I grew up with someone (UK) who would be picked up by her Mum from school, and light up a cigarette in the car with her Mum, at the age of 13. This was in the the mid 90s so it was even more shocking than it would be now. I think her Mum's mindset was that "I would rather know my daughter is smoking and doing it in my presence as she would likely do it elsewhere anyway", but some people take the approach, in their parenting style, that they would rather instill the value in their child whereby they won't start smoking or having sex at 13, they (the child) just won't see it as acceptable. I think there is a balance and you need to strive to teach your child the values whereby they do not sucuumb to everything that is being normalised by their peers yet they know that they can came come to you to share any difficulties in not conforming and the peer pressure they are facing.

[@madeauxafrica]

We hear you!🔥

[@joshuaadebayo491]

Murewa.... We've both been through a lot 😢 And I'm sure you'd agree with me that gentleman no dey pay

[@madeauxafrica]

😪

[@ms_osoba6479]

Abusers are often manipulators! 💯

[@madeauxafrica]

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[@sandraronke7876]

Well done guys I love your content best male podcast

[@ekeovieh6336]

I love this show ❤️❤️

[@madeauxafrica]

And we love you too!🙏🏿🙂

[@chonaamos6389]

Deep conversation, love it ❤️

[@madeauxafrica]

Glad you did🙏🏿

[@moremiarowosegbe7665]

“Oh, low key???”😂😂😭😭 “mine is INSTANTLY”🤣🤣🤣

[@madeauxafrica]

😂

[@learninglololang]

Anytime I’m listening to this podcast with my eyes closed I always interchange your voices with your face like the other’s voice fits the other’s face lol

[@madeauxafrica]

😅

[@olutobiodeyale3536]

This is too relatable 😂😂😂

[@itstadiwa284]

there's something I need to say. he said he will be glad his kid is open with him but won't promote that sort of openness. the sentence speaks for itself. he wants and will be happy for his kid to be open with him, but doesn't doesn't want his kid to have that sort openness of doing "things" at thirteen/fourteen. which I get. I'll probably be the same, that's how I took his words. I doubt anyone wants their thirteen year old to become someone's father or mother at that age .💀🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️ but if he didn't mean it that way, then your video was great. it was great regardless I just wanted to say how I understood the guys words. And before people start misunderstanding me, talking about is fine. I actually think it's healthy having any type of conversation or rather being the source of information for your kid, or striving to make sure they are well informed. I value that heavily. promoting the doings of "things" at young age not good. that's why I agreed with the guy.

[@greatifyusoro]

Muyiwa, man you are mean. Jeeeezzzzz

[@julianaadeseye4130]

Omo I work as a child and adolescents social worker and I am 100% with murewa. Children and Adolescents have so much experiences and do not have anyone to talk to. I'll indulge teens for few hours in 2 weeks and they'll tell me so much in just 2 weeks and they have parents. Please unlearn this thing you are saying, it hurts me so much hearing someone have this opinion. If you can see it please see a Councillor heal, you need to be okay with your children telling you all things, everything they go through. You need to be able to counsel them about sex and not condem it because at some point in their life they are expected to have safe and consensual sex.

[@madeauxafrica]

This!🔥

[@Nico-jt4jd]

First-born trauma. So real.

[@madeauxafrica]

Yes!

[@thedukeofyewaland]

Great podcast.. Its better shorter tho. 30 mins max.

[@madeauxafrica]

🙏🏿

[@moremiarowosegbe7665]

Say nah past questions 😹😹😹

[@madeauxafrica]

😂😂😂😂

[@ikemmanuel-audu363]

Love language is a way for women to manipulate men they are not very attracted to. The guy they cheat with gives them nothing except for the shaft.. shout out to the Okada drivers whose love language is burning peeps

[@cherem2838]

Waiting for first born trauma. Nice work tho.

[@pjobah]

But this you guys to your parents bro I don’t support such