ACA The Loving Parent Guidebook: Understanding You Inner Family

[@kriswalker3275]

I love the inner senior citizen part! Lol I'm heading that direction quickly myself

[@TheIntimacyGram]

My inner senior is like an inner grandparent: softer and gentler on myself for not being as quick or sharp as I used to be. :-)

[@Child_of_Jesus_Christ-w7r]

I would recommend reading bowen family systems theory aswell. Gave me alot of insight into my position in my outer family system. I wish you all luck on you healing journey. ❤

[@TheIntimacyGram]

Bowen and Bradshaw are both excellent readings to complement the LPG.

[@Child_of_Jesus_Christ-w7r]

Thank you for sharing this ❤

[@victorialukens5632]

Thank you Ken and to all your inner family. Love the troll dolls and a big shout out to the inner senior!

[@gregthepoet4038]

Great Video Ken! Thanks brother!

[@gregthepoet4038]

your inner senior is awesome lol

[@a.s.jackson8203]

Thank you for the video, Ken. It described the inner family very well. I'm doing some work in the ACA 12 steps workbook before I begin the LP Guidebook. I didn't know I needed to go through the inner teen to get to my inner child. I'll likely be working with a therapist when I begin this work. Good to know about the senior citizen member. It will be good for to get to know my inner senior as well. My therapist understands ACA.

[@CorePathway]

I’ve seen maybe 8 therapists over the years, all effing worthless to my healing. Worse than worthless actually, because I internalized the failed therapy. Be sure to find one who actually knows about CPTSD and ACA. PRO TIP: ask them if there are any support groups for emotional sobriety or inner child healing. If they don’t respond with ACA, thank them for their time - they know nothing.

[@Dave183]

Interesting overview. Along with my loving parent, I became my own therapist- because no-one knows me like I do. In my ACA group I am much much more functional, because I am now on my own case- and NOT other people's

[@victorialukens5632]

On second viewing I just got " Kenny for Shoes". Takes me back! Love, humour and respect 💗😁🙌

[@tromero8174]

I would never thought there was a story written about what I've been experiencing the same at age 30 being stopped mentality growth from age 12-18year old. This is way too good to be true thank you Gram

[@GratefulDeb270]

More about inner senior, pls? Ty for this! ❤

[@TheIntimacyGram]

I can only speak for myself and my own inner senior citizen. For me, this is the wisest version of my inner adult. He is less willing to spend time doing things I don't want to do. Every moment counts. He is also more altruistic and nurturing towards younger generations. 😊♥️👍

[@virginiaellis9245]

@@TheIntimacyGram I am delighted to have stumbled onto your channel. Thanks so much Ken! Brilliant presentations. I just recently heard a short podcast on nurturing our Future Self. The universe is always willing to share lovely little jewels. ❣😀

[@cms7190]

Wow! Love this explanation. No wonder it seems so daunting...

[@photos2cec427]

So very helpful. Thank YOU! Yes, I WILL keep watching and have subscribed. ❤️

[@TheIntimacyGram]

I am glad this was helpful! If you have any questions or thoughts on topics for future videos, please let me know!

[@photos2cec427]

@@TheIntimacyGram i have been in 12 step programs since 1983. THIS is the absolute core of it all...all addictions. My dream is to win the lotto and have huge homes for foster kids...recovering addicts and LGBTQ (am an ally) in the mix too...this type work will be in the forefront. 🥰

[@grassgeese3916]

This is really interesting. I have seen literature/videos discussing "inner parent" "inner child" , and I have met one person who describes speaking with herself past present and future, but I have never heard of a whole family inside.... I rolled this idea in my head for a little while, and I think it actually works pretty well for me, having experienced trauma both as a boy and as a girl through a very complicated racist sexist abusive life. Raising kids since I was 4. Shit. Well I'm out now but not sure what to do with myself. I think this video really helped me with some food for thought today. Thank you again for the video. Wish you some peace and safety as well.

[@TheIntimacyGram]

I am super happy to hear this helped you! Hopefully you can find a Loving Parent Guidebook meeting to help you on your recovery journey. Peace and safety to you, as well!

[@kathleenmcnally9583]

This was a great video. I have the loving parent guidebook . I have a therapist who I have been working with for trauma but I’m feeling like she doesn’t help since I e begun ACA I appreciate this video very much

[@TheIntimacyGram]

I'm glad it was helpful! Not all therapists understand ACA. Best wishes as you travel through the Loving Parent Guidebook!

[@Jo-annSamurai3069]

Thankyou for such a clear explanation of the inner family. That helped a lot.

[@TheIntimacyGram]

So glad to hear!

[@michaelsager5688]

Wonderful information Ken.. Thank you

[@TheIntimacyGram]

Glad to hear! More LPG videos on the way!

[@evelynmontez3565]

Thank you so much

[@valentina531]

I love ❤️ this - thank you so much 🙏😁

[@luisalamarca9446]

grazie,mi piace quello che dici e come lo dici.Comprero' il libro.Luisa da Bapoli Italia

[@TheIntimacyGram]

Grazie! Spero ti sia stato d'aiuto.

[@cms7190]

Are the Loving Parent Guidebook and Internal Family Systems similar?

[@TheIntimacyGram]

Yes! Just different terminology, but same concepts.

[@cms7190]

Thank you

[@itzelbp]

Thank you for these videos. What should be worked on first? The steps or the loving parent guide book?

[@TheIntimacyGram]

I believe that when you're working a traditional 12 step program that you should start with the 12 steps. The Loving Parent Guidebook is a process much like therapy and can get extremely deep extremely fast. A person really needs a foundation and stability, especially if you're not being guided by a trained professional. A suggestion might be to start with chapter 10 in the LPG, and then move over to the Yellow Book and work steps one through five (if not through all 12) before returning to the LPG. Remember that this is a process that is going to take a while to get through. This is just my suggestion. Other sponsors might have different ways of tackling this. Follow your sponsor's judgment.

[@itzelbp]

@@TheIntimacyGram thankyou so much for your reply. My sponsor is spanish speaking and LPG is not in Spanish yet unfortunately. So this is great help.

[@lindacarlton3154]

@@TheIntimacyGram I'm really grateful your videos were suggested. I've done intense step work and a program friend lovingly suggested my "ACA issues" are showing. I'm now doing a deep dive and it's unpleasant presently. I'm also going to school to get my LCDC. LOVE your Transactional Analysis reference, my research paper was Eric Berne and TA. God bless you, your videos are outstanding. After 4 years sober and recovering, working and living the 12 steps, I'm grateful to discover your videos so I can dive deeper in my recovery. Blessings to you as we trudge the happy road of Destiny. 🥰❤🙏

[@sharonwilliams6553]

The inner teen is also called the outer child.