Accepting the Night: Taylor’s Story of Finding Sleep (Talking Insomnia

[@sabzrina1611]

I love her energy. Gives me so much hope. Thanks

[@victoriacoultas8509]

I've had this problem 26 years it's a lonely place. I understand that not putting pressure on it is the answer. I find it so incredibly hard to think it doesn't matter if I sleep. It's led me to be off work and hate life a bit. I hope we all get well.

[@pergolafish]

This story gets me. Taylor reminds me of me and others I know with the type A personality that predisposes us to insomnia. Maybe more so - I feel like it is me talking. The only difference is I can't seem to recover so far. Got better sleep but recently it's hit or miss and I am discouraged. Daniel's program is the answer but I can't seem to get unattached enough to the outcome. Yet. Taylor's words about surrendering give me hope. I know it's better when I don't care as much but I'm so miserable when I don't sleep.

[@aquariusstarchild5156]

You poor women .I understand chronic insomnia .❤ I'm Laura been suffering since a very traumatic time ❤

[@brittanymordovin3975]

Thank you for helping so many of us with your gentle approach and words of wisdom and kindness and sharing other peoples stories. I have a question. I’ve been going into bed around 8:30 because it can sometimes take me long to fall asleep so I feel more “comfortable” and less anxiety with that time. The problem is I’m waking up at 4:30 now and my alarm is set for 5:10 I want to be able to sleep 40-45 minutes later (not longer). How do I approach this? Do I just start getting into bed around 9 instead of 8:30 and eventually my circadian rhythm will adjust? Please let me know xoxo

[@11ellie7]

Very relatable story

[@Sunflowersarepretty]

I have so much in common with her the only thing different is our age gap. With that said one thing that stresses me is how insomnia can be so mentally draining and requires so much patience😢 Im gonna ask a ❓ in hopes of getting something from Coach Daniel or any other coach. So i have been struggling with insomnia and it all started with the usual thinking too much at night time so my bed became a place of worries and in order to break that association i would leave it and just go to washroom to wash my face because i heard that if you cannot fall asleep within 15-20 mins leave the bed. (Huge mistake which i wish i could time travel and stop myself from doing) Now it would've ended here except i decided to attend nature's call when i didn't even have to. As a result i started having false urges (to pee) just as im about to fall asleep in the form of a hypnic jerk, palpations and immense pressure in my bladder as if i have been holding my pee for eternity when in reality i didn't even have to pee. Also this habit of going to washroom got so bad that i would get up and leave every hour or 15 minutes or so. So i have these "physiological" symptoms? If that's the correct term? I'm so scared because on night's when i dont actively think about it i experience very light sleep caused by hyperarousal. I cannot do any muscle relaxation exercises when im awaken mid sleep because that triggeres it 😭😭😭. See i have a unique situation. Im so sorry this turned into a long paragraph. But pls do reply me as your teachings have given some hope and some ounce of relief. Ps i Know this isn't coherent oe articulate as im living on 2 hours of sleep and my head húrts a lot.😂

[@christinalockington8222]

I can relate..with the peeing and also being incoherent.. sometimes I wonder how thise with sleep issues write or talk.. 😢😅

[@Sunflowersarepretty]

​@christinalockington8222 just seeing your comment now and wow i thought I had it only. If you don't mind could you share your story? How did it start for you? How long have you've been dealing with it? And has there any tiny progress or point where its severity has lessened???

[@HannahLucia]

Hey Daniel, I’m so confused. About a month ago I had a 3 weeks streak of sleeping without any sleep aids and it was so wonderful! But out of the blue I had a bad night and ever since then I’ve been having a hard time getting back on track. My anxiety and fear around sleep is significantly better (not 100% but close). Since my anxiety and my reactions are so much better shouldn’t I be sleeping better without having to take stuff? I know the “wonder wall” is a factor but even so I feel like I should be making more stable progress. I’m just confused 😕

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

Hi Hannah, I’m very glad you experienced how sleep does happen by itself when we no longer try to achieve it or wonder how to get it back, and that things overall are easier 😊 But yes, speed bumps are so common in our world. Study our speed bump playlist and I think you’ll find the answers there. Rooting for you

[@emilycompton2765]

Currently in the same exact boat. Going through a speed bump right now and it feels horrible, even after a week of great sleep. We got this!!!!

[@mestayno]

@@emilycompton2765 I don't even have speedbumps as I'm constantly sleeping unwell. I have glimpleses of great sleep here and there. Sometimes even though I love this channel I do wonder if recovery is even possible for me.

[@Studentaccount2005]

I'm having a very bad fever and I'm worried if I'd sleep tonight or not, and if I didn't then tomorrow is gonna be hell 😂, I think I'll have to at least keep sleeping pills for extreme emergency situations like this.

[@mestayno]

oh my god I had the exact issue twice. High fever, and I actually remained awake. It's a horrible horrible time. The same issue. Sleep is important because now I'm sick. Insomnia feels impossible to break out from.

[@Studentaccount2005]

@@mestayno Getting rid of sleep anxiety and hyperarousal has only helped me manage my insomnia, but I believe that going to sleep at the same time every night is very important. For the past month, I’ve been going to sleep at 9 PM, and now I always feel sleepy around that time, no matter how unwell I am. So, I never have trouble falling asleep. But I do struggle with maintaining sleep, but I don’t think it’s impossible to overcome. I also believe that taking sleep medication in emergency situations, like when you're sick is okay. You don’t have to be too hard on yourself. Taking sleep meds once or twice a month in emergencies doesn’t teach your brain that there’s a threat. This is what I believe.

[@mestayno]

@@Studentaccount2005 I understand you point of view but I'll never take meds again no matter what. I never needed them before. No one did. I either crack this naturally or remain like this forever.

[@mestayno]

@@Studentaccount2005 because it's not solving anything just makes you dependent on something external while your body is fully capable of doing this task. It's a very fragile solution. For 3 months yes, you may sleep like a baby on 2 mg-os of xanax, and then a stressor comes so now you need 4mg-s because you had all nighters on 2... You find yourself taking the maximum allowed dosage and still not sleeping but now you're in deep dependance. When you feel better and want to taper off you remain awake the whole night because you decreased your dosage by .10 mg-s. now not only insomnia controlls your life but the drug too. I'm having one or two all nighters each week while managing my new job. But I rather stay awake than taking drugs.

[@leafsleafsleafs2]

What if your insomnia is not from anxiety but from trauma and ptsd? Yes everyone has trauma but I mean severe levels of trauma and ptsd diagnosis by multiple psychs. Do you truly believe everyone's insomnia stems from the same place? I don't think it's fair to compare someone with sleep anxiety with someone who has bipolar with someone who has ptsd. Their brains are all extremely different. How is it possible to generalize the root of it for everyone despite having completely different situations?