CRAFT method - Community Reinforcement And Family Training / Addiction

[@PutTheShovelDown]

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[@ashleetarin4070]

Thank you so much for sharing this. I have been all three in my life for sure

[@SadMother360]

I must say when I first heard of CRAFT I thought it was so naive. I thought “addiction is a beast; you can’t be nice about it”. I tried to “detach with love” (a hypocritical statement if I ever heard one). I found I could not do it. Mother’s are programmed to never turn their back on their child. I came across these videos and thought, “These people are silly, but, what the heck, I’ll give it a try.” Guess what?! It is working!!! After 17 years battling addiction my daughter is finally getting better.I guess I was the naive one! Thank you for these videos; you are saving lots of families.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I'm so happy to hear that! You just made my day!

[@lynnej.9357]

Sometimes it's nice to be wrong.

[@Getbackup2021]

I needed to read this today. God bless you & daughter.

[@vclocals5536]

Good to hear! Looking for solutions here.

[@jennifermullins8673]

I have tried going through some lessons on this but I don’t think I have enough endurance for it. Make the addict’s life good at home so they stop using. They still use no matter what and it brings me and my whole family down in the meantime

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hey Jennifer, I'm glad you made that point. I've been meaning to clarify that issue for a while now. I don't think that making an addicts life good will make them stop using. I think it will make them stop blaming everyone and everything else, which makes them have to take a long hard look at what they're doing. They start to realize how their behavior impacts themselves and everyone else, instead of focusing on self-pity and resentment! I think I'm going to make a video clarifying this issue and send it to everyone inside the Invisible Intervention.

[@crystalmcfeetors9907]

Attended my first CRAFT meeting via Zoom and by the end of it that I had finally found my support community with a method that aligns with my beliefs and works. Relieved and hopeful 😌

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Love it! Thanks for sharing that ⭐

[@paulbrodie331]

A colleague just introduced me to CRAFT and suggested we start doing monthly seminars open to the community based on CRAFT. I'm in research mode now, this is the first CRAFT video I watched. This approach sounds like it fits with my approach to treatment. Should be easy for me to adopt. I'm a licensed alcohol and drug counselor, been in the field for 9 years now.

[@iggybiggy821]

This channel and YOU are making such a difference Amber! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I am learning so much I did not know before. I grew up in a household with addiction present, did lots of work in my life on dealing with being co-dependent after the end of my 25 year marriage. All that chronic trying to balance the boat and everyone else in it thing and nearly drowning myself. Yep. Onward. And then I married someone with you guessed it, a hidden alcohol addiction LOL! Shocking right? LOL....NOT! Hmmmm...we are indeed such creatures of habit I have learned. Well I'm one smart cookie: got myself in counseling and absorbing every single thing I can get my hands and brain on to do the work. This work is fabulous I must commend you for making a huge difference.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

😃😁😁😁 awww thanks Iggy! I have just recorded a video about the effects on adults of growing up in an addicted home. It will be coming out soon!

[@mariaandrearichards-HurtadoZ]

6:46 thank you so much for your showing this method, I am so relieved that my love one had the help and support he deserves, and also for us as a family it is not a day that we are not worry about him. He is passing over a year of being clean, the works continues. But let me tell you, you are not alone, you can help your love one, you can help yourself. And you can enjoy life with out shame. My advice give this a chance, and keep learning about it so you can be a head and no by surprise. Take a deep breath, take care yourself. You can be a good model of how to enjoy life. My heart with you. 🙏🏾

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Love This Advice !!!!! 💖💖💖💖💖

[@tleemf6923]

I ve come so far from being pissed at being told I had choices to do things differently as his parent ...Now I 110% see and agree with these sentiments even thou I'm in it again with my 25 year old son...I m definantly doing things differently...WISH ME LUCK ...and I'll never stop making room for miricles to happen🕊🙏💫🧡💫🙏🕊 My son also has schizophrenia and is off all meds ...making his behavior even more intence ..maybe not more as it's all relative...At this moment ..I am pulling tuff Love for self preservation...tired of feeling selfish ...but am also exhausted and refuse to give it my all anymore ...its honestly boring after years of doing more for your loved one than they do for themselves and literally do nothing in return ..except Lo e you in their hearts...there in lay the conundrum for me ...the LOVE...and yet I need ..he needs the LOVE 🕊🙏💫🧡

[@elizabethstacie8039]

Yes , I have done the craft method with my alcoholic son. To me you do need a combination of all the methods but approaching with love when someone is sick and giving hope and encouragement is the only way I can conduct myself and feel at all good. CRAFT is a good way to deal with all people really. I do wish they had more access and why don’t they if the success rate is so high. Thank you for your Information 🌺❤️🌺

[@taylernoelle1]

I wish more counselors were trained in this approach. It's so hard knowing what option to choose when it's time to intervene. Good to know this is an option. Thanks, Amber!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Tayler Wurtz you’re so right Tayler, that why I’m so excited about this series. We’re going to be teaching families how to use this method to change their lives and families.

[@barbarafrancis533]

I attended Al-anon regularly after my divorce. It literally saved MY life. Most people I know attended or attends Al-anon to help their self deal with the emotional problems the alcoholic creates. But I agree, perhaps to help the alcoholic, there may be a better way. I am 75 years old and married my first alcoholic at 20. Then as they say, if you don’t recover you repeat. So after divorcing my first husband after 18 years of marriage and three children, I repeated my mistake and married the second one. That only lasted 5 years. My daughter is an alcoholic now and will soon be going to a Federal camp due to the long term effects of being born into an alcoholic family. I am so inspired to have found this channel. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with us.

[@jessnotliketherest85]

I thought there was gonna be free group meetings or zoom meetings but once I clicked on her link I saw they charge $19-$27 a month.

[@christineczyryca5820]

Well that's typical. Any service I sign up for whether a health lifestyle or writing group/coaching that's about what it is and then you pay extra for one on one work.

[@michellecarroll6690]

I am so grateful for finding your videos. I have a daughter struggling with addiction and it has torn our family apart. She is in a treatment program again, fifth time. I have been searching for help. I've done Al-Anon and tough love method. I'm eager to learn about the craft method. I wish you could be our therapist, you really seem to know what you're talking about. Your videos are giving me some hope that I can help because I can't give up on her. Thank you for your good work and advice. I will continue to watch your videos and with luck I can learn what I need to do to get some normalcy and healing for all.

[@jamesmowenby]

Amber, these videos are great and have been reaffirming. I had to break up with a woman-friend that I was very much in love with because of her drinking. I will always hold love in my heart for her but she has to make the decision to recognize the problem change her life. Your videos bring it home to me that I made the right decision to walk away. I had a hard time with being away from her but these videos have helped me heal. I hope someday she will get help and change her ways but I can't do it for her. Thank you.

[@lesleyce9131]

Tried this method...it brought relapse upon relapse. Mantaining the love but going Back to 12 step programs.... have really seen their successes!!

[@kathydixon1666]

Can you recommend a 12 step program on youtube that I can watch? Thank you

[@BarbraWhitman]

12 Step programs have a less than 1% true "success" rate. They do not work. Individual elements of them work, but those elements work independently of the 12-Step program, ie; a higher power. I lost my Dad to the effects of life-long alcoholism. When, he passed I got his Bible. In it were dozens upon dozens of little notes he had written and every one of them were about the guilt and shame he felt every time he 'fell off the wagon" and how disappointing his failure was to his Sponsor or the program as a whole. That's the problem with 12-step programs. Honestly, I blame it that model for costing me my Dad. 12-Step programs and Addiction rely on the propagation of the same two emotions to survive; guilt and shame. Given that, it makes more sense why the recovery rate is so low for those programs. Those programs have so many adherents because they inherently create them. Sure, they celebrate anniversaries of adherence to their program but what happens when one decides to have a beer because they feel like they have a handle on the issue or for whatever reason. They are made to feel like complete failures, "forfeit" whatever positive changes they had made and effectively start over. Unsurprisingly, this leads to more of the behavior that got them their in the first place which stems from the guilt and shame built into the model itself which is Addictions best friend. I've studied Addiction my entire life. No, I'm not an Addiction counselor, I've lived it. There are two Addiction counselors I've found in my 40+ years of near obsession of the topic that actually have the keys to help people. Amber is one of them. This channel is one of the few that actually can change lives.

[@mkr6214]

Amber, I first heard of the CRAFT approach when I stumbled onto your channel in July 2021. My bf has severe AUD and has been change-talking for months. I've been researching and looking for answers for both of us since Oct 2020. I wish I could've applied then what I've been learning about for the past few weeks! Everything about the CRAFT method feels right to me. It has certainly helped me understand his addictive behavior and struggles much better. It has provided me with a bazillion tools that I believe will enable me to support him WAY more effectively. Lastly, I'm learning how to take better care of myself. I feel empowered, patient, and truly hopeful. I have had so many questions and can't get over that I have found answers to every single one of them through your channel so far. Wow! I can't wait to see over the coming weeks and months how my guy will respond to such positive, healing and strategic reinforcement. I think he will come to believe that he can successfully beat this! And I'm going to cheer him on. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, Amber. You are a treasure to so many of us--addicted or non-addicted--who are caught up in some seriously wacko craziness.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Yay! I love it!

[@crazyloon56]

I came across this model a few months ago through a family support group. They also recommended I read Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People to Change. I have begun implementing some of the principles and it has opened up lines of communication with my son. I made an error with the intervention approach and ended up the 'bad guy'. This is a long road and there are no immediate fixes. I look forward to becoming more empathetic and supportive with the hopes it leads to him seeking help.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You're on the right path, D!

[@rhondacheramie9173]

I appreciate all of your advice and videos Amber. I have been coming back to them so often in the past year since my sons use had taken a turn for the worse . ( he is now in a program and doing extended stay and planning on going to sober living) Also I lead my new puppy into the correct behavior with treats, so it definitely works. 🙌🏼 Thanks for all that you do Amber .

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You are so welcome!

[@juliastefanko2711]

My first time learning about Craft Community! Going on 11 years with my daughter. Thank you so much.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You are so welcome!

[@travelingtiger8657]

Yes I am doing the training now and have completed 2 classes out of 12. More awareness needs to be made so families and friends can get involved and make a difference

[@samdung5630]

Thank you!! This makes so much sense! I have BEEN arguing this point. Of course I have SOME influence.

[@meganeff]

I have not heard of the CRAFT approach, but I can’t wait to learn more!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

meganeff it’s sort of the opposite of the tough love approach.

[@agopedro2671]

Thank you Amber - KEEP SAVING LIVES!!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

😁😁😁

[@tleemf6923]

You are such a blessing ..thank you for you Light..those who lash out at you ..there just not there yet ...fully committed their drama .I was there once..Some folks grow up and threw the hardness of it all like the flower from the cracks ..others just wont budge....POWER TO USE WHO also reach the bottom of our desperation and trying to help ...I sm so ready for different ..Bought BEYOND ADDICTION it's in my hands now 🧡💫🙏🕊I met a lady who did loose her son to addiction ..but this book gave her her relationship back with her son the 2 presious years befor his death at 17 from an overdose...She stressed she wish shed had this book when he was 10 ..before it all began

[@catherinecook9260]

I just found your videos, I love them! Thank you for your direct speak. Please keep them coming👏🏻👏🏻🎉 We are watching and want more. Tell me MORE about Craft please. I’m watching everyone. Thank you!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thank you so much for your kind words and feedback Catherine! You can learn more about the CRAFT method in the book Beyond Addiction, and we also teach the CRAFT method in our Invisible Intervention online course: www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/

[@joeortiz6664]

I love, love, love CRAFT! I am a man in recovery from alcohol and drugs for nearly 9 years. 4 years ago I made a career change and entered the world of Addiction Treatment. Last year I decided to become a Professional Interventionist. I trained in the BreakFree method initially and then I discovered CRAFT. CRAFT aligns very much with what I've believed in for a long time....that tecovery is for the WHOLE family. We ALL deserve to get better! Detach with love? No! Engage with love. Improve your family situation. Confrontation? No! Conversation. You can let your addicted loved one know where you stand and do it in a way that is not hurtful to either one of you and yet be effective in promoting change and recovery. I help families and watch families get better all the time. So far, my practice boasts a 70% success rate. 70%!! I encourage everyone to find a professional interventionist that specializes in CRAFT. Learn a new perspective and approach! Become educated, enlightened and empowered! A much better life awaits! :)

[@raek8940]

This is the first I have heard of CRAFT, I am interested.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hi Rae, There's a good book called Beyond Addiction. It listed as one of our recommended Amazon books. Here's the link in case your interested. www.amazon.com/shop/addictionrecoveryresources-hopeforfamilies

[@raek8940]

Thank you! I am reading it on Hoopla now because of you. 🥰

[@jocelynnowen3078]

Concerning the alcoholics in or not in recovery and all the efforts you’ve devoted to your service I would just like to throw in the mix here that without AA I would have been history long ago. About the criticisms, sit them out. Somebody once said that if I had some haters it’s because I must be doing something right. Kind of cocky but I like. Looked like a good idea at the time. Right? My favorite Alanon thing is , ‘ what is it you don’t understand about the word no.’ 😁

[@resilientrecoveryministries]

Thanks for sharing this evidence-based information. I appreciate it!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

My pleasure!

[@dubliners0999]

I'm in Nar Anon. I consider it a 100% success rate because I don't feel crazy. My relative will NOT reach out to me for help, so this is the best way. I have no family support, so this is the way to go.

[@brook7880]

Thanks again, wish you were closer to us. To help

[@PutTheShovelDown]

We do offer virtual coaching if you think that would help. www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/consultations

[@daniellecole7333]

Where is the link for the next video on the craft?

[@ruandahaasbroek1950]

I agree with this approach much more than the others. We have tried the other methods with my son's drug addictions, and it doesn't work. I would like to try this approach

[@PutTheShovelDown]

it works much better in my experience!

[@CMoore8539]

Thank you for sharing this video!!!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Cindy Moore thank you Cindy! Any special request?

[@lindabriggs9481]

Just found this and I'm hoping to learn a lot because I feel like I'm losing my son. All in my family has blocked him out of their lives and I know from witnessing this that is torn him apart not only the drugs but the loss of all the people he loves I am hoping to get a lot out of this. My family all wanted an intervention but I never felt that was the right way my other son wanted us to kick him out on the streets and I couldn't do that either but it's about to go in that situation He lives with his dad and his dad is done! I hope this works because I don't want to lose him I lost his sister and a brother to drugs and alcohol and I don't want to use my lose my own child

[@carolsims1408]

I am in the same situation,

[@Medietos]

All methods prerequire us to be healthy, balanced family. I haven't been able to be consistent but acted typically Adult Child: Periods of non-care and oblivion, thinking that meant not being Co-dependent. Or hardening inside, harbouring resentment, bitterness and false-martyr- and false-victim thinking. I bet the CRAFT methoid costs money that I don't have access to, or is for Americans only. I need some CRAFT to myself and my addiction/attachment, please! I could owe the money, or pay by work of many kinds. I want to get (us all) well,and I am sure it is possible.

[@djames5137]

What is the name of the communication video you mentioned? Is the link in the description?

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I think it's probably this one: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qHO7e6qtjZaKmaM

[@aletamigliero6432]

I am being told to kick my daughter out and I just cannot bring myself to do that. We are also poor and cannot afford the long term rehabs. It's so frustrating.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Aleta Migliero hi Aleta, there are free treatment options. Check out boy playlist on Understanding Treatment Options to learn about all the different options.

[@anthonyrossmaund3161]

I'm not sure what mine is but I have a PO Required treatment 14 hours of groups.

[@ashleetarin4070]

She contacted me saying that she was scared for her life, so I literally made sure that she is OK and the fact that she allows this guy to show up again, knowing that he is a toxic person and brings her down and she only does drugs with him that bothers the hell out of me

[@jaimep.7022]

Does anybody know if this program is in North jersey?

[@melonqueen5138]

Isn't this in smart recovery? I'm new there. Maybe I'm just thinking of the card acronym.

[@vclocals5536]

Those stupid tv interventions really are setting the person up. Talk about burning bridges...! Thanks for all your helpful info! CRAFT sounds interesting...👍🏻

[@giselleteller3944]

Al-Anon is NOT about getting the addict clean/sober. It's about our ability to thrive in the face of someone else's disease. Please stop dissing Al-Anon. It has helped more people over the past 88 years than any other resource out there.

[@catm5549]

My daughter is creating chaos and took my car for days. It's not acceptable and I'm looking for options other than kicking her out. It's very difficult as I already lost my son to addiction fatal overdose. 😢

[@brendareed5050]

Haven’t heard of CRAFT before, what do the letters stand for?

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hi Brenda, CRAFT stands for Community Reinforcement And Family Training. It's not well known, but it's been proven to be the most successful family intervention method.

[@albemac9730]

Are there treatment centers in North Carolina that teach the Craft method

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hi Albe, The CRAFT method is mostly geared toward the family members of a person with addiction. We teach it inside of our Invisible Intervention Program, but there are lots of other places to learn about CRAFT as well.

[@albemac9730]

I would like to know more about the craft method. I have a grown son who is showing possible signs of drug addiction and I would like to have an idea of how to help him. I’m always praying for him. I’ve never seen him do anything, So I don’t even know what he’s using. But He’s moving different, won’t stay employed, asking for money! And my son has always worked since the age of 16. I would appreciate any information you can give. I just found your channel this morning 🙏🏽

[@ashleetarin4070]

I personally don’t want to control anybody but I want to make sure that my ex-wife is OK and she is not manipulated by the guy who helped her become addicted to meth

[@desiraevest4250]

how do i help a brother, and father who has an 8 year meth problem and acts like a hostile, narcissist. everyone is the problem but him! according to him we're the reason and problem. hes never wrong and he yells and breaks things, breaks into our house when we kick him out, and fights everytime hes in our home. hes a natual yeller. what do i do? no job btw, no car, no home, he just uses the kids to come and go as he pleases and uses our home to disrupt any peace we can have.

[@sheliahgriffin5150]

My son hasn't called me are texted me in 2 weeks he's not checking his phone I'm so scared

[@mariaandrearichards-HurtadoZ]

Im sorry you are passing for this, you are in a safe and good place here you will find good information.

[@wackywally69420]

its a little embarrassing when you realize this method works, because you start to realize its exactly what many addicts are begging for all the time, but it obviously gets translated through their addiction and gets lost.

[@amylebaron6544]

?? Can you do a video just about sex addiction? Like porn/masturbation and more severe down the road. Thanks so much for the videos! You’re doing awesome!

[@tamz3653]

Hello sister 🙋🏼‍♀️ wanna know who’s got the 90% successful rate !?!? Adult Teen Challenge 👏 hallelujah-- see the thing is - they don’t label it as “ disease “ 🙅🏼‍♀️ OK - & they don’t bs around with calling on “ higher power” 🙅🏼 to JESUS be ALLLLL the glory - it’s about true healing & deliverance & no meds either btw (( hugs!))

[@nmartin5551]

nothing works 100%. Really hurt people who have lost people are probably your haters

[@nanamc881]

Where’s your proof 🤔

[@PutTheShovelDown]

The statistics used in this video can be found in the book “beyond addiction”

[@veggigoddess]

Reese's Pieces NOT Reessies Piecies😂😂😂😂

[@Angee82111]

I’m getting so annoyed going to so many videos get to the point

[@christineczyryca5820]

The point was that the CRAFT method isn't like al anon or professional intervention that you typically see on TV and it has a higher success rate: that's the point.