Survival Strategies for ADHD Moms with Ellen Littman, Ph.D.

[@aleksandragiemza7015]

For the first time in my life I feel seen! 😊 finally someone understands my struggles, my pain and all that comes with being a mum with ADHD to ADHD and AS kids! ❤

[@kdiva8343]

This is spot on. I am this mom.

[@LorissaNelson]

I have never in my life felt so seen and understood than I do watching this. I can’t believe it…….

[@aisyahayob6880]

Me too. I even cried during the first few minutes, validating my feelings as a mom with ADHD

[@jonathanberry1111]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🎙️ *Introduction to the challenges faced by ADHD moms* - Being a mom is challenging, especially for moms with ADHD. - Parenting advice often doesn't consider the unique challenges of ADHD moms. - The goal is to normalize the experiences of ADHD moms and offer strategies to cope. 03:04 🧠 *Cognitive Regulation Challenges* - ADHD moms face difficulties in cognitive regulation, including disorganization and unreliable memory. - Inconsistent stimulation and restlessness can make certain tasks challenging. - A binary worldview and struggles with decision-making can affect choices. 08:17 😓 *Emotional Regulation Challenges* - Emotional hyper reactivity is common in ADHD moms, leading to quick and intense emotional reactions. - Recognizing signs like irritability can help manage emotions effectively. - Understanding how estrogen levels influence ADHD symptoms and emotional regulation. 12:10 🩺 *Physiological Regulation and Sleep Deprivation* - ADHD moms often deal with hypersensitivities, affecting their physiological regulation. - Estrogen plays a crucial role in ADHD symptoms and regulation. - Sleep deprivation amplifies ADHD symptoms and impacts overall well-being. 15:55 🚧 *Behavioral Regulation Challenges* - Behavioral challenges include rigidity, perfectionism, and binary decision-making. - Societal expectations for women with ADHD can lead to self-doubt and comparison. - Coping with societal expectations and avoiding self-invalidation. 24:11 🤝 *Strategies for Survival* - Acknowledging one's own ADHD as a mother and its impact. - Recognizing "bad fits" in family dynamics due to different wiring. - Seeking treatment, therapy, and support to cope with ADHD challenges. 26:28 🕒 *Challenges of parenting with ADHD,* - Recognize that parenting with ADHD can be incredibly challenging and it's important not to downplay the difficulties you face. - Don't feel obligated to take on additional responsibilities or say yes to everything - it's okay to set boundaries. 27:08 🤝 *Building support networks,* - Understand that you don't have to go through the challenges of ADHD parenting alone; seek support from friends, family, or support groups. - Focus on your strengths and your child's strengths rather than fixating on weaknesses. - Encourage problem-solving together with your children to share the burden of finding solutions. 29:16 ⏰ *Importance of downtime and self-care,* - Prioritize downtime for both yourself and your children, even if it's just 10 minutes, to regroup and reduce stress. - Schedule downtime and make it a part of your routine, as waiting for the "right time" doesn't work with ADHD. - Dedicate quality time for enjoying each other's company without the pressure to achieve tasks. 30:53 🚶 *Embracing individuality and self-acceptance,* - Understand that it's okay not to conform to societal norms and expectations. - Don't judge yourself harshly based on others' standards; your unique path matters most. - Embrace effort and progress, even if it doesn't align with conventional measures of success. 36:37 👥 *Seeking support and sharing your ADHD journey,* - Communicating your ADHD diagnosis to friends, family, and colleagues can be challenging but important for understanding. - Share educational materials and resources to help others understand ADHD better. - Encourage open conversations and engagement from multiple sources to create a supportive network. 50:56 🕒 *Balancing the morning routine* - Balancing the morning routine for ADHD moms and their children. - Building in extra time for distractions and challenges. - Reframing priorities and focusing on a smoother, less stressful morning rather than rigid punctuality. 53:01 📝 *Coping with lists and constant rushing* - Managing lists and multiple tasks as an ADHD mom. - Feeling in a constant state of rushing and catching up. - Concerns about children growing up without a benchmark for a "normal" life. 54:11 🧺 *Involving family and organizing together* - Getting spouses and family members involved in organizing and time management. - Exploring creative solutions, like individual baskets for children. - Acknowledging that organizing the family's world is a shared challenge. 56:03 📜 *Unique morning routines and accommodations* - Recognizing that there is no one-size-fits-all solution for morning routines. - Mention of IEPs (Individualized Education Programs) and 504 plans as potential accommodations for school tardiness. - Emphasizing that morning routines should be family-specific and tailored to individual needs. Made with HARPA AI

[@KosmikGawdess]

Thank you. Trying to focus on this video for too long just didnt cut it for me🩵

[@jonathanberry1111]

@@KosmikGawdess Yeah, ADHD is incompatible with many videos about it.

[@miglenahristoforovageorgie3651]

@@KosmikGawdess😢 yes but greatly presented

[@ashleywilson9814]

After listening/watching this (occasional pauses after getting distracted) I feel so validated and seen. I wish I would have watched this sooner.

[@aleksandragiemza7015]

Me too! 😊

[@Chaoticraindrop311]

One of my adhd sensitivities is listening to choppy talkers , who cannot get out sentences smoothly ...it's like fingernails on the chalkboard...my impatience wants the words

[@ashleyjean172]

😂😂😂😂😂 great talk though come onnn

[@1butterontoast]

I came here thinking this was a talk about moms coping with their ADHD children. It is about moms who are struggling with their own ADHD. I long suspected I was struggling with ADHD. A lot of my behaviors make so much sense now after listening to this. I wish I had learned about this long ago.

[@ericav3284]

i really i had access to this about 20 years.

[@Sanguelto]

a lot of this also applies to dads

[@amethystrocks6433]

And grandmas!

[@mangosandtea]

me scrolling & missing 5 minutes every few minutes n repeating the video a million times

[@tinasally379]

Holy Cow!!! I guess that is the reason why I LOVE Coca Colas. ... My mother definitely does not understand me. I am 56 now. I cannot believe how Dr Littman nailed all my problems. I am so blessed that both of my boys have completed school and through Universities too. I guess menopause is the reason I am like this. I have always been on the depressed side but 2 years ago is when my depression hit me hard. I also hid my true feelings from everyone. I do have ADHD medication now but I feel I need more guidance. How can I get more help? What is CHAD?