ADHD Life Lesson 46

Can you relate?
ADHD Life Lessons I Wish someone told me after getting diagnosed, number 46 of 50.
If you have ADHD, it will be really easy for you to do what you want to do, but not what you should do. Whether it's at work or a side project, no matter how well you start, once you need daily effort and motivation, it becomes almost impossible because your brain lacks dopamine and so, you often switch to something else and lose potential compound interest on what could have been, all the while being called lazy.
This is when I had to learn about making my work dopamine-positive to help me play the long game. I realized that good things take time and that I needed to find a way to get dopamine from my work, so my brain can stick with it for longer. And while the work itself can't change, the environment usually can. Working outside, with other people or focusing on quality, rather than quantity has all made my work a lot more enjoyable, allowing me to stick with for years, instead of months.
Lesson 46: Make your work dopamine-positive.
Disclaimer: All my content is based on my own experience and/or research/observations from licensed professionals. Just because you do these things, doesn’t necessarily mean you have ADHD. If you think you might have it, please look to get officially diagnosed by a professional.

[@Sayyestoheaven2615]

This is why I’m watching KZbin shorts instead of doing my homework right now

[@ze2004]

right? the wrong dopamine hahaha

[@ak9868]

Agreed, like most things in this life, you have to change it up to keep interest & make progress; diet, exercise, routines, and hobbies. Thanks for the affirmations woven into your informative "Life Lessons".

[@womenfrom0202]

After realizing I really likes my field of work and what type of working relationships i preferred, I stopped looking for a management position and am currently the solo artist amongst a great group of people, LOVE IT!

[@elishawilliams4308]

Sitting in office all day trying to communicate as a receptionist is exhausting all day no outside busy streets no nature

[@BlizzyBeezz]

My lifelong passion despite the type changing has always been art, so I decided to go into design for this reason, I couldn’t keep living hating my job and life. Every time someone enjoys the artwork I make for them I get a boost of dopamine. I have cutouts of nice comments I get in email responses taped to the wall by my desk. I also have a bunch of fun dumb decorations on my desk like a line of rubber ducks

[@KevlarKoat]

I'm also a multi-canvas designer who collects comments to raise self-esteem and sets up rows of rubber ducks at work to make people laugh.. twins? Since committing to design, my life has been beautiful, now 9-5 work is just inspiration for me to overcome and do more of what I love. I'm an INFP-T 4w5 personality btw

[@BlizzyBeezz]

@@KevlarKoat Bro, Life Twins??? Hell yea that’s sick man. I never thought I’d want a 9-5 but I have to stick to a schedule to keep myself sane but my adhd makes it so hard to keep one myself so honestly it’s a dream come true, plus still have time for things in the evening. Even tho I never do anything in the evening it’s nice to know I could lmao. I can’t remember my personality type but I know it started with I. I also have a TY Chameleon, some pop figures and a ceramic mushroom on my desk lol!

[@woolypuffin392]

I keep not doing things I love like drawing because I feel like I don't deserve it or can't find the energy.

[@chrispasson1940]

I also put off doing things I love doing

[@mizbarehana5498]

Same... haven't drawn in 12 yrs now 😔

[@annap7678]

YES!! Same with me! Also because my “studio” is upstairs and I don’t need to go up there much these days, so I don’t get the visual cues or reminders.

[@W1HURI]

I have ADHD+OCD+autism+scoliosis+kidney disease+many others. Life is literal hell

[@ClxdyRosez]

i wish you luck because oh my god 😭 keep it up bro ur doing well ✨

[@earthrooster1969]

Had the best job of spending time with dogs, outdoors! However...as an ADHD person, i was so focused on my job, that i slacked off looking after my own downtime and rest! My health has taken a toll...but NOT beating myself up... learning more about my own ADHD self ❤

[@ranmakuro]

Good job! I'm the same. Starting off extremely ambitious, having fun, wanting to do more and more, missing out things I should do besides the job and someday just tripping over my own feet, cuz I'm extremely over the edge. Maybe try to work in cycles instead of steady, but slow streams. Not everyone is about working each and everyday straight.

[@amyd7794]

My 8 year old son just got diagnosed and I find your videos very informative and hopeful.

[@beebromley]

Thank you for these videos. They are important to many of us. I live in the UK, in a city that has a world renown teaching hospital and they have *closed their adult ADHD department and it will not return* . There are no private companies specialising. If you are an adult with adhd or undiagnosed adhd that lives in my city, you have ZERO professional help. and obviously the rest of the NHS will be following suit if they have not already

[@leogrrrl5876]

Sorry to hear that. Why did this happen?

[@erinw.9256]

Why tf did that happen?!

[@0jeej0]

There's some online private practices you can get for free with Right to Choose! I can say from experience that getting your GP to give you a referral is a different matter however 😔

[@beebromley]

@@0jeej0 yes, the referral is very very hard. I kept notes and then put it all together, all the things I do etc and presented to my GP who still took some persuading.. and the main problem for us Women is that we end up having to "sorta" diagnose it ourselves (we must not diagnose it fully without medical help) and then go and try to persuade your GP.. I realised I may have adhd after seeing some video's on youtube and suddenly it started clicking... So we're not supposed to have 100 different thoughts at a time? etc.... Its not like we WANT to have it!!

[@beebromley]

@@erinw.9256 Funding.... We've been passed off to other mental health departments.... ones that don't specialise. The Hub etc, they are great departments but they don't specialise.. eg : zero tolerance for being 15 mins late, which is what we've had to put up with our whole lives... ppl thinking we DGAS when we do

[@Iva.the.Southern.Appalachian]

No hate intended whatsoever towards my own Country...but thank God for other Countries sharing their knowledge, research, and useful tips for managing ADHD, Autism, all sorts of mental health conditions, physical health conditions, medications, and natural and herbal remedies for SO many conditions because for some unknown reason to me, the USA does NOT do as well in ANY of these areas as many other Countries do. (I hope I worded all of that in a way that made sense.) So a HUGE thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your knowledge and experiences with the entire World!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@meercat70]

This is why I want to work with children or animals.

[@ann-mariegavette7669]

Great insight. Thanks for the science of dopamine info. Very helpful 🎉

[@trailtoimprove]

I love that cup shape. I have one and it keeps drinks hot for a long time.

[@spoiledwitch82]

I love these videos because although there are many ADHD videos n I don't know if they actually have or just speak on it but I don't relate to most of them. These I highly relate to. So not only is it nice to find people that actually understand me but I could watch these all day because they help a lot. My doctor that diagnosed me made it sound like it's not normal but I've always been great at multitasking n getting things done on time I felt like it was my super power where I know other people struggle with things plus I'm a perfectionist so I don't give up even though I always have multiple things I work on at once lol

[@ljc3484]

Dopamine. Maybe this is why when I sit down at my desk at the office, I’m so unable to focus and only want to stuff my face with any and all food. Gives me that high, wakes me up for maybe 30 minutes- then I’m reaching for my lunch box grabbing another snack. This doesn’t happen when I’m working from home as much at all

[@MrKrtek00]

love your videos. esp when i can watch them instead of doing work :)

[@MissEAG]

I am soaking up all you are sharing and it is invaluable...Can you please talk about any insight you have about relationships when you have ADHD as well?!

[@gigzz]

Thank you

[@juliarogers8253]

I needed to hear this! I struggle with this exact situation. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@beesmongeese2978]

Man, the inflection you use in your intros grinds my gears every time. Please don't take it the wrong way.

[@spenserclarke5956]

I believe this is why I talk a bit more in my work (which WAS call centre and hospitality) because 'I' enjoyed it. The same is with chatting with co-workers, and people in general, as it lifts MY mood, it is also a 'distraction'! This is after more than 30 years working, but I was only diagnosed 12 months ago, aged 53, and AFTER years of mental health issues, AND having reached a 'breakdown' and loss of previous cognitive/executive functioning. What would have happened has I been aware of this years ago, as well as unfortunately having had most employers over the past 10 years that have been absolute A-Holes and making me worse.

[@russiangalaxy7398]

Could you please give some examples of how to effectively do this? I have struggled my entire life with being “lazy”

[@ivydaimond6715]

😂😂😂😂. He got side track and forgot what the purpose of this video was. Bro said everything but.

[@keontebaker5916]

The ending was fire🔥

[@lizzywilliams9880]

Soooooo many people contributing to the ADHD phenomenon and yours is like relief cos you are moving out of any wallowing 🙌🙌🙌 😋🤪 I have found that I can be less ADHD when assisting friends who are deeply ADHD IF they are appreciative and work WITH me. And we have soooo many wins 🥰

[@gamejane5193]

Are there any tips for going outside to either learn or work but stay focused? I get anxiety pretty quick as my brain takes EVERYTHING in at the same time, making it hard for me to keep my mind on the task

[@wilhelmnurso5948]

You are a nice man. Thank you for your insights.

[@Proto61]

Thats me, started 100 projects, ended 0 and constantly switching between them

[@starrynight1329]

This must be why I want to go to the library to do boring paperwork.

[@SaltAndVinegar42]

I love your videos

[@YvonneWatson-ff5ex]

Now that I’m retired, I make a list of things I need to do and play music while doing them. They seem to almost get done by themselves.

[@kikidevine694]

This is why I have several sewing projects on the go; when I get bored with one, I move to the next one

[@fayekalantzis-oy6dp]

Thank you for sharing So I'm wondering if you expand this habit in other areas of your life as well and if it works for you

[@LanaMuckraker]

great thanks! Diagnosed at 51

[@maisasantos3715]

Thank u ❤

[@MarcelinaMasuk]

❤i love your videos! thank you for sharing ❤🎉

[@YardyBritishfamily]

Omg this is me

[@SamJ-vj5ip]

Oh that explains why it takes so damn long to get out of bed

[@FaithAndRepentance]

I think I love you 😮😅😂❤

[@user-tp7yp3oj6i]

A lesson for everyone.

[@RayRay-jj4zu]

💯 I’m supposed to be job hunting … but I’m currently completely obsessed with teaching myself to touch type. What on earth is that about?!

[@Raelunil]

Something about job hunting is not stimulating enough at the moment, so your brain picked something with novelty to help you get more dopamine. I suggest going ahead and working on the touch typing, and when your mind is less resistant to job hunting and/or tired of typing practice, switch to trying to job hunt. And if it doesn't work right away, do more little things that make you feel like you've accomplished something. Then try job hunting again. It's all about building up enough dopamine through small achievements to give ourselves what we need to tackle bigger things. I hope this helps! ❤

[@Raelunil]

And as a side note, being able to touch type is a VERY valuable work skill! So you're also making yourself more ready for whatever job you get later!

[@RayRay-jj4zu]

@@Raelunil thank you & also for the advice! You’re right about building up the dopamine supply … I think of it as having to psyche myself up to do the things I hate (applying for jobs is definitely one of my least favorite things) maybe it’s less psyching myself up and more building up the dopamine by indulging in my latest addiction (the typing)

[@KylianMbappe07303]

i dont like studying which I should do but I finised my demo resarch within like an hour

[@soaringblackbird4431]

Thank you!

[@user-zl3fp4bq2z]

Thank you. (I think I have ADHD but I'm not sure)

[@YourCapyBruv_do_u_rmbr_3Dpipes]

True facts. Damn guy you have some very nice clips. Fireworks! 🎉😄 🎆

[@patriciajohnson7369]

Oddly, i could always get my work done on my job. I found myself doing the racing thing, g but didnt know I had ADHD. At home however, I had NO motivation with most things like bill paying, dishes, etc. I had to make up a boss who would be checking on me in 20 minutes and if the work wasnt done, I'd be fired and fined $5,000. Isn't that pathetic? It's not dopamine positive, but it worked.

[@Nekesu]

The fact that there are 50 parts to this feels depressing in some ways.

[@syncringe1885]

And this is why I'm struggling to get my license... AND YET I WANT IT SO I CAN MOVE TO MY LOVED ONES

[@MaddoBatto]

Are people really convinced that doing something boring in a new location will magically make it not boring anymore?

[@mynameis_________5875]

So I just need to trick my brain in to thinking that work makes me happy… Alright I think I can do that.

[@sanafizasana4351]

Thanks

[@blwlmnswg]

hahh not me watching yt shortts w books open by my side aight time to get back

[@THEDARKNIGHT8657]

Months I’m lucky if I get two weeks that’s about how long my average hyper fixation lasts two weeks and then I forget about it

[@Leopardv8448]

Great video

[@maniya6830]

I wish i could work outside. Its 50c here

[@IEMedia]

This is the story of my life 😳 #adhd

[@PolinaPolina938]

Exactly 😊

[@myrden]

I think I need to take in this content

[@Lexi_Con]

Is there a video that gives strategies to make work/chores "dopamine positive?" Actionable steps if working outside or with other people is not an option?

[@hawraquettawala7983]

I have very important and difficult exam tomorrow and I haven't even opened the book. I am so unprepared. And thus video is so me. HELP HELP HELP HELP HELP HELP 😭😭😭😭😭 What do I do now!!!!!! Biggest problem is that I am deep in ocean addicted to Youtbe / watching all day to point I am getting angry on my family. I am verge of losing all love from my family😢

[@GT0_]

does not feeling emotions have anything to do with ADHD

[@tiredartistt3875]

i struggle with the same thing and it's possible it's connected. people with ADHD are at a higher risk for depression (not feeling anything), because of the dopamine seeking brain

[@beebromley]

not really., but many people with adhd also have a form of autism which IS known to have the symptom you describe. Do not self diagnose yourself, go to your family doctor and tell them you want to be tested for any kind of autism. Many forms are not obvious

[@smoke12785]

Not really . Most people with ADHD will usually feel intense feelings throughout the day, such as intense happiness when you get a dopamine rush from stimulating activities such as video games , or intense sadness depending on if you also suffer from some form of depression, hence it's old name Variance Disorder . The worst part about ADHD emotions is that they are usually exaggerated due to the lack of dopamine in the brain and can lead to impulsive behaviour such as unnecessary arguments and having difficulties in changing perspective.

[@meenuchoudhary5287]

Did you also get communication problem in your childhood due to ADHD? And please let me know when did start speaking language

[@pickle1667]

Real talk like would be vaping nicotine and tipsy daily affect my ADHD

[@Varenyam86]

Kitteeeeeeeeehhh Psp psp psp And yet another quality comment 😂

[@love18death]

what do i do if its school work? i cant go outside bc of where i live and what creativity can i find in homework anyway

[@foljs5858]

are you kidding? you can find all kinds of creativity in homework - whether it's math, or an essay, or history... those are huge fields one can lose themselves in

[@love18death]

@@foljs5858 how?

[@katiegriffin3286]

Hope do you manage to have a job with ADHD? I just can't work full time. And my brain is kind of failing to operate very well, probably due to my PTSD. 😢

[@Yellow-draw.yourheart]

Focus on quality instead of quantity

[@Reblsmirk]

Most of these are just "gaslight yourself to be useful."

[@foljs5858]

who'd rather be useless?

[@Reblsmirk]

Why do we have to be of use? Why can't we just be?

[@foljs5858]

​@@Reblsmirk Because we aren't born into some wilderness. We are born into a society, with all kinds of things made available for us - from basic roads, food production, electricity, medicine, city cleaning, legal protections, art, entertainment, running water, and so on. "Just being" means either getting away from all that and getting them from raw nature (which is fine, but few if anyone does it) or staying and being a freeloader

[@beebromley]

@Rebsmirk This is a terrible attitude. You are basically saying you want to do nothing to help yourself and want others to revolve around you... I guess you're a victim too...? We ask for understanding for our condition, not to be looked at as weak victims or have everyone revolve around us. We are still civilised human beings

[@mxymlnghnm5711]

i am late for uni gotta go

[@louiseisobel]

This ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😢❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@abiblue8613]

These AD HD videos are always stated in negativity.I've had this for 70 years and it's my super power.Stop being negative and start stating things in a positive way.Learn how you learn

[@Kvmnza]

Gotta change your mindset that there is reward in long term work

[@user-hb2vc7sd5e]

Kindly try to figure out solution how to get out of this

[@AntoniosKalogeropoulos]

Any medicine;😊

[@thebitesbetween]

What is your work anyways? Such a smarty pants. 😋

[@mitonitro]

Bruuuuuuhhhhhhhhhhh......😢😢

[@KPie-kg6gv]

Dude are you from 🇩🇪

[@HebreosCincoDoce-nt8rx]

📜 Ecclesiastes 3:22 I have seen that there is nothing better for a man than to enjoy his work, because that is his lot.

[@fayekalantzis-oy6dp]

I don't think so

[@legoguru3000]

Gucci

[@user-zl3fp4bq2z]

this is funny af because my phone keyboard corrects "fudge" into Gucci sometimes

[@user-bz7gt4zi7r]

Are u on meds

[@daytradersanonymous9955]

Almost skipped halfway thru ... shit

[@islamocean1]

Hello from the smallest Republic in the world calling ingushetia! Thank you for the videos! Can I invite you to read the Quran?