ADHD - What Is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria?

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[@tjbarke6086]

"I have to wait until I'm absolutely perfect." This. All this. This sabotages everything in my life...

[@robynb7083]

Same man

[@jdglen24]

💯💯💯💯

[@Weeflowerofscotland]

Yuuup I felt that

[@azraeltarquin7946]

So many things are finally clicking in my mind

[@psoup.42]

I feel u man

[@annsparta2222]

Same here.this explains my extreme fear of ppl rejecting me and my fear of “failing”

[@janicewhite225]

Me too! I'm so overcome by it but it's so... validating! To finally understand it

[@EmmeNrUno]

Same here! 🙋‍♀️

[@streamsofdreams6705]

The KZbin algorithm has done more for me than my therapist

[@jaeshasway]

streams of dreams Same 😯

[@SarahAnew]

Yep 👍🏼

[@xinaesthetic]

It does work both ways, though. The hit-rate from the algorithm is sufficiently high that a lot of time can be spent refreshing the feed...

[@keikei1943]

Facts

[@theSEGAtwistisover9k]

sadly relatable 🥲

[@legioninkheart9867]

Why did I go to 5 therapists for my adhd and never hear the words 'rejection sensitive dysphoria' or 'executive dysfunction' even once? I got diagnosed in 7th grade and they just immediately put me on zombie drugs and I'm slowly realizing no one ever actually explained to me what adhd even is.

[@4203105]

Because they are not in the DSM and so only specialists will know about them. why they still aren't in the DSM? Hell if I know.

[@animalsandiphones]

It’s new

[@elisalabarge3516]

RSD was only recently discovered within the past couple years and isn't in the DSM yet

[@thefox.7346]

Im sorry that happened to you.

[@foodisgoodthatsthetruth3231]

Well shit. What Medication were you taken, if you don't mind me asking?

[@lukasilver115]

😲 I always though the pain in my chest was what everyone felt! Thank you so much for doing this! So much of this makes sense now!

[@angiedecker8100]

Same here though!! Like, the other night my fiance was playing video games and didn't give me the attention I thought he would. He didn't completely ignore me, he was just having fun playing his video game which is fine because he should be able to have fun without feeling like he's letting me down. But in the moment it really hurt, and I ended up tucking it away because I didn't want to deal with the feelings right then, then last night at work I opened that can of worms and absolutely broke down. I just kept thinking "I know he wasn't actually rejecting me, but that's what it felt like. It felt like he was rejecting me" and I ended up having a mini therapy session with myself where I was just talking through my emotions and why I felt that way. It's so helpful to know that these bursts of emotion are normal for people with ADHD, because now I can properly articulate my thoughts to explain it to my fiance

[@angiedecker8100]

And I completely forgot to link that to the pain thing lmao thanks ADHD. Anyway before I broke down at work I was like "ok I need to work through my emotions because I feel That Pain in my chest again and I know it's not gonna go away until I face this" so then I just let my mind do it's thing and now I'm pretty much completely fine??? It's so hard to try to explain it all though

[@lukasilver115]

@@angiedecker8100 I know exactly what you mean. I've done the same exact thing so many times. And I play games as much as any of my boyfriends have lol. I feel the actual pain more though in worse things like breakups and really stressful times like when my mom threatened to kick me out cuz she doesn't understand how bad my anxiety is or when my boyfriend was homeless and I could do nothing to help cuz I didn't have a job either and lived with my mom who seemed to not care. (Yeah my mom can be horrible at times lol but most of it comes from her depression so I can't hold it against her too much). But thankfully my boyfriend now understands anxiety since he has it too and he knows that it's not a bad thing that I need reassurance once in a while and somehow that helps so much. But communication is the key. It took me so long to realize that I had to tell him how I feel at that moment. My old boyfriend would get REALLY upset about me wanting attention or reassurance so it made me quit talking about it and that nearly killed me. My guy now told me over and over to tell him what I feel so I finally started to. I told him I feel like he's ignoring me while playing a game and he would cuddle with me while playing and if I got scared he would leave me or something I'd tell him and he would tell me I'm being stupid (in a good way lol) and say he loved me and that we were made for eachother and stuff like that while hugging me if he could. I'm so grateful to him 💗

[@lukasilver115]

But just know that needing reassurance and extra attention isn't a bad thing. It's a part of you just like ADHD is. You can't get rid of it so make friends with it. It gives you way less stress once you accept it. People need to know when they hurt you even if they did nothing. It's wrong for you to blame them for something they can't help but its also wrong for them to not try to help make your pain go away if they love you. If you're with someone who truly loves you they'll adapt as much as physically possible and learn to accept you for you, mental problems and all.

[@nothinbuttajthang3445]

Omg! I did too! It’s sooooo strong in my chest!

[@Miss_Lexisaurus]

Thank you for being so compassionate when discussing BPD. So many people actively try to distance their diagnosis from BPD by making it clear that they do not like people with BPD or by outright saying that people with BPD are bad. So thank you for that, I appreciate it. That was a really interesting video, I'm sure it will help a lot of people feel validated and not alone

[@lewisprice5719]

MrsTeePotTV I was misdiagnosed with BPD and that’s as AMAB person cis-presenting. The negative treatment I got for saying I had BPD was awful I just stopped disclosing it. Thankfully I was diagnosed properly with ADHD and things are finally falling into place. But I agree with you, everything was discussed so sensitively and I am so grateful.

[@Alienqueen426]

Ever since my BPD diagnosis, people (including mental health workers) treat me like I'm a monster.

[@whifflingtit9240]

Unfortunately BPD does drive bad behaviors, that's part of the way its recognizable as a disorder, but too many people jump straight to the worst assumptions possible, which is super unfortunate because if someone isn't shown compassion and is instead repeatedly rejected they're not likely to change and are likely to stay ill. Treating people with BPD like monsters is a good way to break them down and keep them sick. We're supposed to help each other become better versions of ourselves, not keep each other trapped in illness.

[@halloweellahere7602]

@@whifflingtit9240 "trapped in an illness" God that's deep. Deep and scary.

[@simonmartineferland9419]

Thank you all for this bit of compassionate thread on BPD

[@igamealex]

Okay, I'm gonna have to get checked for ADHD, because this video made me cry so hard.

[@bean9815]

Isaac Michaelsen ❤

[@DonBrowsing]

i hope its going ok for you

[@DjAmaratziOfficial]

Just remember that RSD is not a common ADHD symptom in that they don’t use it for diagnosis.

[@DjAmaratziOfficial]

Good luck though! First step is realizing your need help is what my doctor told me before forwarding me to a psychiatrist

[@igamealex]

DjAmaratzi It’s (fortunately?) not the only thing about ADHD that fits. I’ve seen a few comics trying to explain adhd and there are a lot of things that fit perfectly with who/how I am. But I am worried about getting diagnosed with anything, the system hasn’t treated me nicely in the past. I always get professionals that either don’t listen or think I am untrustworthy.

[@jeromeabalone6000]

This is so interesting. I had no idea that this was also (partly) genetic. I thought that people with ADHD were simply oversensitive to rejection because they had been at the receiving end of so much of it growing up.

[@chaostheory16]

Jerome Abalone probably both, based on a couple studies.

[@whifflingtit9240]

@@chaostheory16 Yep, ADHD makes people more rejection sensitive, and also drives behaviors that are likely to result in rejection by those around them. Then the stress caused by rejection worsens behavior, and it's a vicious cycle.

[@llc1976]

Me too! Jesus

[@abbysworld05]

I'm starting to belive that my genetics are on my dads side cuz my dad said his grandparents were as short as i am and both my dads older siblings have some sort of metal problems, my dads older brother has adhd and is bipolor and my dads older sister is bipolor, my dad dosen't have anythig though

[@devent10n]

There are 20 genes linked to ADHD!

[@luciimarii885]

straight started crying watching this i’m 14, have been researching adhd for two years-ish now and still haven’t even started to approach my parents about me possibly having adhd, BECAUSE of my possible adhd. i can’t get my adhd treated if i have it because my rsd is making me so worried about risking telling my parents about it :/

[@sadiakausar6250]

Talk about it to your school nurse

[@ksln]

Don't think about approaching them about it. Write a note which will be the first thing you see when you wake up, and just do it the second you are able to feel your face again. Don't allow yourself to even consider it. Silently yell, hum, just distract yourself from the thought process that comes naturally to this kind of perceived risk. Just do it. I'll probably get ripped to shreds over this advice, but as someone who has been and is still suffering from this to a degree, it's as close as I ever gotten to a solution for this problem, before I got help. I hope you're not still stuck after all this time. If it's not useful for you or you've gotten help, hopefully it'll be useful for someone else. The fact that I'm writing this, is kind of crazy. Yay meds.

[@sadiakausar6250]

@@ksln write a note about what? Can you explain more clearly, I'm interested in what you have to say.

[@ksln]

@@sadiakausar6250 No problem! What I meant was that in stead of thinking "I'm going to do this tomorrow", and then "I'm gonna do this" when you wake up; write a note that says "Talk to your parents about ADHD" and place it somewhere you will be guaranteed to see the note immediately after you wake up and have put on your clothes. Maybe immediately after you wake up and before putting on your clothes is better for some. Then, and this is really important for my brain at least, is that you don't think about what the note says. Just react immediately to the instruction you've written to yourself and walk down and say "We need to talk about a high probability of me having ADHD". It makes things I thought previously to be impossible, to be at the very least much easier than it have been previously. And I'm an artisan level procrastinator, so... I like to think it works, but maybe not for everyone. : ) Good luck! It's worth it! So, so worth it... Life with medication makes everything else from therapy to just dealing with your own thoughts alone so much easier.

[@thedokkodoka4349]

If your parents seem unsympathetic, you might consider consulting a doctor/therapist on your own. Trust me, it might me a good step to get professional help early. Fighting ADHD on your own is a battle you probably cannot win. You need allies.

[@priscilla2009ish]

I wasn't diagnosed until last year at the age of 27 and I feel so seen and understood right now. I went so long without a proper diagnosis simply because I'm afab (words from my psych) and to hear someone just get me...it means a lot ❤

[@igamealex]

I'm calling my doctor first thing on monday to get tested, because this was too much a description of me. Also afab.

[@stepheng.5623]

Bravo to you Merlin, so happy to hear you're understood and getting proper treatment. 👍✌️

[@michaelharris8176]

Diagnosed last year at 55.

[@MultiCappie]

@@michaelharris8176 Here at 49, going to ask my doctor about it as soon as I get an appointment.

[@michaelharris8176]

RDS is the WORST!

[@DrDingsGaster]

Thank you for explaining feelings I thought were just side effects of depression or something else. I didn't know this was a thing and it explains so much in how I act. I've ruined a few friendships because of problems related to this. I ghosted them because I couldn't explain why I couldn't just talk to them all the time, and then I couldn't explain why I wasn't talking to them on top of it because I was afraid they were going to yell at me for being such a shitty friend. I can tell you fear of failure is a big thing and the thought of messing anything up or not doing anything the right way like everyone else or doing it to their specifications keeps me from doing a lot of things most of the time.

[@108wee]

Ahhh! Ive done this! Someone told me they really enjoyed their time with me and i kinda freaked out and stopped interacting with that person. I ghosted them basically. Arughhhh!!! i need to contact them but im scared to talk to them after not talking for a year. I also have pretty bad imposter syndrome like all the time and purposely will keep others expectations low so its more difficult for me to fail them.

[@liammsalvador]

And all this time I thought it was just anxiety.... It's this. Even my therapist said I suffered from anxiety and feared rejection and being judged, and she never mentioned that it could be RSD. This makes so much more sense. Thank you, Aaron, thank you so much for shining a light over this!

[@HeyThere005]

Such a GOOD video!

[@AaronAnsuini]

Aah thank you so much Ash!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@allyas]

I was diagnosed at 23 and nobody ever told me about RSD or any other symptom of ADHD other than trouble focusing and hyperactivity. I hyperfocused on ADHD during my diagnosis and learned about RSD and it all made so much sense, like RSD (even more than trouble focusing, the reason I sought out diagnosis) explained my whole childhood and early adult years.

[@feignamnesia]

We did not cover RSD in therapy school. Thanks for the thorough education, grad school.

[@kaitlyn5324]

feignamnesia ... you know. It not being taught to the people who are supposed to tell the people with it (I’m guessing that’s what therapy school is, if it’s not ignore me) is probably a reason so few people know about it. This is, of course, not the therapist or doctors fault, but it’s still kinda terrible.

[@4203105]

It's not in the DSM. It's part of the eemotional dysregulation... which also isn't in the DSM. According to the how to ADHD channel the emotional prolems that come with ADHD were well known for hundrets of years, but in the 70s sceintists threw out everything they couldn't measure in a lab...

[@mikelmontoya2965]

A few months ago I went to a psychiatrist to get my ADHD diagnosed and she said there was no way I had it because I spend most of my time doing nothing and in her opinion in order to have ADHD you have to be doing things all the time because of hyperactivity. And I'm like "how am I supposed to do anything with my severe executive dysfunction and my RSD???"

[@AaronAnsuini]

UHG omg - I really hope you get to see a different doctor because that one has clearly not kept up to date with ADHD at all, and is clearly not aware of the DIFFERENT manifestations of ADHD Not everyone is a 7 year old boy, you know??

[@mikelmontoya2965]

@@AaronAnsuini yes, I'm seeing another psychiatrist now. He doesn't seem to get everything and is definitely not in a hurry to get me formally diagnosed, but he did say that I have "ADHD characteristics" (he also calls my ASD "ASD characteristics", even though I do have that diagnosed, so whatever), but most importantly he says he'll seriously consider getting me on ADHD medication if once classes start again I still struggle as much academically (which I will lol), and that's honestly what I care the most about. It'd would be really affirming and validating to have a proper diagnosis though.

[@allyas]

That's so wild, because in society's opinion I would also 'do nothing' most of the time before my diagnosis, but like I always did something? To the extent of not sleeping, because putting my phone down and stopping scrolling through tumblr/twitter/instagram/KZbin was too boring and understimulating, even if I was exhausted? Doing something doesn't have to be productive, especially for us ADHD people, why don't therapists know that? :D

[@mikelmontoya2965]

@@allyas yeah, exactly, I totally relate. I'm all the time with my phone searching things on the internet, watching KZbin videos, etc, to the point of putting sleep off even while being completely exhausted too, so I do think that I show hyperactivity traits too and not only ADD ones despite almost not doing anything productive. The six-year-old unable-to-stop hyperactive stereotype isn't the only way hyperactivity can manifest itself (although I totally was that stereotype when I was six, idk how the hell am I not diagnosed lol).

[@brandydinsmore8214]

Mikel Montoya Also called hyper focus with no brakes.

[@laurablair1487]

WOW. I finally have an explanation for soooo many events and episodes in my 54 years of life. I've taken antidepressants for 25 years, and I've just recently been tested for ADHD and am trying to find a therapist; this is going to be one of the first things I'm going to ask about.

[@Cotton_Candy_Corn]

I cried, literally in the middle of work. I never been able to describe what I was feeling. Since I was a kid every one called me shy, when I was a teen was still classified as shy but one you got to know me I was totally different, especially with my bffs, but always had doubt in my mind. Got married, had four kids with my husband the doubt and fear never left and is still there. Took until yesterday to know why, I know now.

[@jamiemika5485]

I love that you put different ADHD symptoms into words because I've never been able to do that, which has lead to me being misdiagnosed for so many years. Your videos are a big help in the process of getting the right diagnose🌻

[@bunnyskull4788]

This was extremely helpful. RSD, Overstimulation and not being able to start a task r some of the main issues I'm dealing with and I had no idea they came from my ADHD so I never mentioned them in therapy in that context or at all really. I recently got a therapist (aside from my regular one and one for trans stuff) for things that specifically r an issue in a work space and we're currently really looking into the roots of these things and how to work on them effectively so I can be functional enough to start my training and this video cleared up a lot. Thank you very much!!

[@tigress1girl]

what kind of theraphy you go to or work space?

[@bunnyskull4788]

@@tigress1girl my regular therapy is just classic behavioral therapy for other reasons but the new one i mentioned in the comment is a specific service our local jobcenter (they help you get a job or training and support you financially until you have one) offers to their visitors who have issues getting or maintaining a job specifically because of their mental health issues.

[@miraz4841]

Hello Indian boyz

[@cacaputa3078]

I got diagnosed with ADHD and I’ve always felt like anxious about meeting new people and always making super high expectations for myself and now I know why

[@madigriffin122]

IV NEVER FELT MORE UNDERSTOOD IN MY WHOLE LIFE. Crying. Thank you

[@chewingpeppers]

I swear to god, I gasped so loudly when you talked about texting!! I'm studying ADHD a lot these days and while I still haven't been diagnosed, I'm so sure I have the inattentive type... I've been struggling so hard with texting since always, and the more I try, the harder I fail. No one ever seemed to understand what I feel, and now, like a bunch of other things related to ADHD (including this whole hyperfocus mood I am right now about studying it), everything seems to be making sense. I'm just.... wow.....

[@gabersgalore]

I play this video on repeat when I'm going through a dark episode. Just hearing you explain this makes me feel so seen & makes me feel like I can touch the ground again. Thank you so much.

[@nilllukka]

At first, I was confused as to how the fear of rejection is any different from the fears of social anxiety -- I don't have ADHD, but I do have loads of anxiety and a massive fear of rejection. The fear often impairs my ability to function. Then you started talking about the genetically sensitive nervous system, and it clicked: nervous sensitivity is a common trait for both people with ADHD and highly sensitive people, which I definitely am. It's so interesting that people can have the same symptoms, and for the same genetic reasons, even if our disorders or conditions are different!

[@miadalessandro1769]

I have both :)

[@saartjepoezestaartje8216]

I also feel that physical pain with a lot of things. With small things people say, or small failures I do. Also your example of seeing a full mailbox really resonated with me. It's cool to know that it is really physical, because I often feel like my chest has turned into stone and it makes me tremble. Thank you

[@ziggybaker3446]

I told my mom a few years ago that I was pretty sure I have ADHD and she laughed at me. There is such a HUGE misunderstanding in this world of what the disorder is. Thank you SO much for uploading these videos to help educate people. I'm still learning about myself and this disorder and your videos definitely help. I'm still not sure what route to take to get help for this as it's often hard to get a diagnosis as an adult, so I'm trying to just learn to manage it on my own.

[@OliverHatched]

I had that somatic symptom as well and people did assume I was being metaphoric. It was like there was a needle in my sternum, and like my ribcage was being expanded well past a comfortable level.

[@deadboy5678]

I HAVE N E V E R FELT SO CALLED OUT IN MY LIFE WTF The minute you started explaining RSD, I froze skdkdkdk 💀💀💀 Also I got a 93% on the self-test so,,, 🙃🙃🙃

[@nadiawilkes8130]

Omg you literally explained me throughout this whole video. I have ADD. I definitely experience RSD and Executive Dysfunction. At times I feel like there is something wrong with me. And it doesn’t help while I’m teaching at work. Thank you for this video 💕 I know I’m a year late lol.

[@thekenzokassshow3313]

Wow I feel so relieved that someone spoke on this because I never knew how to describe the feelings I had about rejection especially when it comes to texting and responding to dms. Thank you for speaking on this topic

[@OliverHatched]

I'm disabled by mental illness, my main diagnosis being bipolar disorder type 2, plus PTSD and BPD. With the exception of PTSD, my diagnoses never seemed totally accurate to me. I'm certain I'm on the spectrum and have ADHD, and I believe my depression is a result of unaided autism and ADHD making it difficult for me to succeed, which really damages my view of myself. Plus having the trauma of people hurting you in the past is pretty depressing. In five weeks I'm finally getting psychological testing from a doctor who specializes in ADHD, autism, trauma, and mood disorders. A second opinion from someone who knows her shit : )

[@BrendaRodriguez-lv7li]

Is she from New York? I've been diagnosed with, depression, anxiety and social anxiety, but I feel like some of these are wrong. For the first time I feel like I've related to something which is RSD, and some ADHD. I even looked into autism bc I knew I was "different" but I dont know. Rsd seems to be the most accurate thing. It is the root cause of everything that puts me down. I'm asking because I think I need to find a therapist or a psychologist again, but I dont want to disappoint my family, they think I'm doing really good rn. And I am, but I want to go back to college, and work again, and that causes me a lot of stress.

[@sunnybunnysky]

I relate to this so fully. The fear of rejection, which causes me to isolate. The physical pain that I feel when I feel really rejected. The perceived idea that I have to be perfect to do anything. I can't leave my house unless I look perfect, I have to take a shower anytime I leave my house or meet with anyone. I can not respond to someone over text sometimes because I feel like I'm not going to say the right thing, or they're going to judge me. I have no fear of abandonment, it's just a fear of rejection that dictates my whole life.

[@pixelrose6881]

I learned about this not too long and everything just clicked for me. RSD Is not talked about enough. I always thought there was something off about me and that I was just insanely sensitive. Thank you for bringing up this topic and talking about it 🦋

[@OliviaDoesDarkMagic]

The texting thing hit me so hard it made me cry because i always feel like a terrible friend because i can't message back and i was never able to put it into words. Thank you so much for this video. I think I'm currently in an RSD spiral and this really helped

[@Undeadpuppyprince]

"Go into the avatar state" That made me chuckle

[@Hitachi007]

Wow, I didn't even realize that this is what's happening with me so often when I'm unable to respond to messages. I'm diagnosed with ADHD and for a long time I knew of certain ways it affected me, but somehow I hadn't even realized overstimulation was part of what has been making me "shut down" and not reply to online messages, emails, or texts for days, sometimes weeks, at a time. And then I feel like it's this task looming over me on a mental "to-do list" that I dread. I often feel really anxious about it and like I'm not a great friend. I want to be able to open the message without hesitation, and easily correspond regularly-- I want to be able to do these things that seem to come naturally to others, but I feel like I need to "prepare" for the conversation, and then I have to keep refocusing my attention so I can make sure the conversation is meeting a certain expectation (from myself and others). This video made a lot of sense to me. Thank you for talking about this.

[@mugiwaradevoted]

Skyler WOW the part where you said I feel like the conversation needs to meet a certain expectation and like you should prepare for it, I’ve never related more. I thought I had social anxiety bc I HATE talking to people bc it feels like a performance bc I need to do my best to have it reach my expectation of the conversation which is so tiring, and sometimes I didn’t “perform” well enough which would make me hate myself hence my dislike.

[@mugiwaradevoted]

Skyler and I also shutdown and stop replying to my friends bc it’s too much

[@666Blush]

This is exactly me, I turned of my number and all my social media because even texting people gave me such bad anxiety, all my friends thought I legit died. It just sucks because I’m always ready to have my friends leave me, it’s like an over whelming feeling that no one is ever gonna stick around.

[@maya07_11]

i should "prepare" I started crying I feel like im not enough I can be weird or wrong and others can tell me that I'm wrong and then I will start thinking that I'm wrong forever and no one will like me even writing this makes me feel insecure and idk why

[@maxstevam430]

I love your mental health content, it's clear that you put a lot of effort on it ♡ you're doing great

[@c0ffee2k]

7:20 a pain radiating from your chest to your fingertips. This was the attack i had when i was about 7. I was rushed to the emergency room with concerns for my heart, my heart felt like it was literally breaking. I turned 45 this month and this was like putting on glasses for the first time. So many things have become clear... here's to learning i have ADHD

[@tkmry158]

Oh my gosh the physical pain! Even though I've heard of rejection sensitivity before, never realised that was what it was feeling.

[@wegotthepower]

I just love when you do these informative videos on mental health!! Please never stop doing them!

[@Chrstne81]

Aaron, you are so well-spoken and explain these things very clearly. Thank you for the time and energy you put into making videos!

[@mysobermission2509]

Thank you so much for putting this out there, this is amazing, I could never put all of this into words or describe it. I cant even explain to people because I'm so scared they will think I'm mad! Thank you from the bottom of my heart this has been amazing to hear that I'm not totally mad or alone with this x

[@yelyahcos]

thank you yet again for another amazing ADHD video, you bring to light and explain soooooo many symptoms that I've been dealing with for so long but never been able to categorise or explain to myself. you honestly make the massive dark cloud of possible mental illness that's hanging over my head so much lighter and easier to understand. I can't believe I've been dealing with really intense ADHD symptoms for literally 9 years but always just put it down to a random mix of depression and anxiety until I found your channel. thank you so much

[@TheTiffiny777]

“I need to wait till I’m perfect before I talk to her” bro that line rang so true to me

[@lovelaceakuma]

My, mind has been open by your video, thank you so much for making this video. I've had these feelings for such a long time without a word for it. Please share more about RSD and executive dysfunction!! You have made me a subscriber, thank you!

[@Jorg-ug3ie]

Thank you so much Aaron, for this quality video and great explanation! Also for being respectful towards BPD, and taking the time to point out the differences. I Dont have ADHD but close familymembers do, and It is relief to listen to you in comparison to many other vloggers with ADHD; not because theyre not good, they are; they're just soooo hyper and loud and all over the place while explaining haha. Bless them. Wishing you nothing but the best in life!

[@LindseyKrassin]

THANK YOU for this thoughtful and personal explanation. I’m crying because you described what I experience so perfectly and no one understands that it is physical pain. Now I’m going to go research more about the nervous system. Thank you!

[@kamberosa]

I have never related so much to a video in my entire life. Thank you so much!

[@ravenhawkins991]

I love this,, but i feel like youre just reading me goddamn. Thank you for explaining and clarifying terms like this, especially from a trans perspective because it makes things sooo much clearer

[@abpgrace]

You are a magnificent teacher, thanks! You speak clearly, at a relaxed pace, and provide examples that clarify your driving home the knowledge & wisdom that you’re presenting. You are a gift 🎁

[@HOUSEOF1000VOICES]

You literally just blew my mind. I have never heard it explained like this! It just all started clicking while I was watching this! Thank you!

[@lauraann1]

You did a wonderful job presenting RSD & explaining it’s symptoms and orgins. Much love!

[@ellecapone1337]

Oh wow thank you for this ... I have adhd and was also diagnosed with bpd but have never quite felt like the latter was a good fit- everything you just described matches me perfectly to the point that I am in tears ... just wanted to let you know that what you are doing here does make a difference and has had a positive and profound impact on the lives of at the very least one person ... thank you.

[@IndieBirdieMusic]

Oh my god. I have never met a soul who understood. When I feel a sense of rejection or judgment/criticism from others I feel emotions that accompany physical pain. No like actual pain. When you said that your chest hurt and it radiated through your body I started to cry. Thank you. Liked and subscribed.

[@ariatlast.8362]

Oh my god. Thank you for this video, so much stuff makes sense now. I had no idea this was my ADHD. You have helped me so much by bringing it to my attention, I can actually work on this now and also I would totally be up for hearing more about this, I found it invaluable and informative.

[@kaithecat9732]

Thank you so much, its so comforting to know that pain and heaviness in the chest isn't just me. I've been searching for answers, thinking it was just me over reacting, but now i know it has a name, and it's overwhelmingly comforting and relieving.

[@beepbopboop2446]

I.......I've been looking at a lot of ADHD videos today and this one shook me. I relate to all this a lot........

[@laniaini]

i love how you emphasize Can't because I've tried explaining this to neurotypicals and it's so frustrating.

[@caseyyork5331]

I finally feel validated. I’m so glad I found your video, thank you for this.

[@jayrob5270]

Man you summed it up perfectly, really good to hear it from the horses mouth instead of some clinical psychologist or psychiatrist. It's one of the many symptoms I have which until adulthood and was diagnosed I thought everyone had but just dealt with it better than me.

[@scarlettdamante4945]

I was diagnosed with bpd & ADHD and this has given me a lot to think about. Thanks for the video (also you're very calming to watch as well as informative!)

[@hollyperry9131]

I felt so much less alone watching this

[@rubylocks799]

I love you video, your voice is so gentle and clear, I could have listened a lot more but you got to the point so it works 😊👽❤

[@mieja6181]

After this video i've been doing some research more about RSD. I always felt that i was more emotional than the people around me and got really hurt when i was rejected. I always thought that this was just a strange thing that no-one else had. But after my research i found a quiz with 15 questions and all of these 15 questions had situations i've had. Thankyou for sharing this video as i now get to know myself better and better. And to know that i am not the only one dealing with this

[@Hannah-hx5sp]

oh wow this is literally something i really needed to hear! I went on a date with a guy, and he liked me at first but said things with his mental health changed... I was absolutely devastated.... and i constantly have to talk to myself like OMG IT WAS ONE DATE WISE UP!! but now i suddenly feel heard. Thank you Aaron, from the bottom of my heart

[@kim-raqueltaillard1549]

I’m in tears. I’ve never felt so understood in my life

[@nickatkinson430]

Thanks for sharing, Aaron. I know just how hard it is to put yourself out there like that but you definitely helped me with this video and what seems to be many other by the looks of the comment section. ❤️

[@BlackCampariBlue]

that's the first time I heard someone describe the same struggle with texting people back that I have. It's so relieving to hear that. I've been struggling with it for years and trying all different things (making a to-do-list out of it, setting daily goals to answer a certain amount of people, laying off half an hour a day only for texting with people), but it's like this constant up-hill-battle-feeling. I'm honestly so happy I clicked on this video and found you. It's such a nice feeling to know there are other people who share your uncommon struggles and that there probably is a word for that

[@ohlanky]

Thank you so much, I've been really struggling recently with stress I didn't understand why I couldn't handle the pressures of life. I was diagnosed when I was a kid with ADD but I never really understood what it was and I didn't make any attempt to understand it until I started breaking down. What you explained in this video is literally exactly how my life plays out on the day to day and its a relief hearing this because I've really been struggling with why I'm like this recently and it never made sense. Glad I found this video thank you!

[@bertzerker747]

Great work Aaron !!! Improved my view on this subject in an instant. So glad you can provide these relative distinctions so openly.

[@spfi3111]

Thank you for this video. I'm tearing up because it all resonates and I've struggled with it for years but never knew it had a name - I just thought I was tremendously flawed. I hope this can be a step in the right direction. Thanks so much Aaron

[@kayelyle8403]

These videos are so wonderful. You really give me a lot of "aha" moments. You explain a lot of things I notice about myself but didn't know how it fit into the puzzle or why.

[@gagekeranen8593]

Wow! I didn’t know about this. Thank you. I have ADHD, but I hadn’t noticed that other issues were connected to it and this helped me understand myself a bit better.

[@Trixy3Trixy]

It’s hard to write a response to your video, I’m sure you understand! I’m 43, have 2 weeks ago been diagnosed and have been trying to focus on watching so many videos to understand myself more. I’m so relieved to have some answers. However, hundreds of videos did not do what you just did. I don’t even know what you just did but I say in awe of your simplistic relatable explanations and when you explained the texting scenario, I cried. Finally, someone who understands. I’m constantly told what an awesome person I am but equally always put down and criticised for many behaviours. This is one I’ve always felt a lot of shame about. Thank you for explaining this all and for the comfort of not feeling like I’m all alone in the world. You awesome human you 💕

[@lauragallaher4529]

Also i saw another video that mentioned RSD briefly but I didn’t really understand it. I had to rewind a lot of it several times, and turn it from 1.75 to 1.25, to 1 speed but finally I was able to understand what it is clearly now! Thank you for explaining it so well!

[@meganlopus7853]

I never comment on videos but i just wanted to say thank you so much for making this video. Everything about my life suddenly makes sense. Especially the part about physical pain spreading from your chest to your finger tips when experiencing strong rejection. I have experienced exactly what youre describing since childhood and i felt like nobody understood when i said that it actually hurt. Up until now I felt completely alone in this experience and now i know that im not crazy and im not alone. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!

[@cocoathewolfdragonfurrytra1866]

this just answers questions that I did not even know I was asking, thank you so much for making this video

[@jackieamason]

Thank you so much. This is what I needed to hear. You described exactly what I have experienced all my life.

[@kevinhe8907]

so I don't think I've ever felt more understood, thank you so much

[@koset]

Aaron, this was a brilliant description of the topic. Thanks very much. 👍

[@littlebird3495]

Omg this explains so much including years of battling social anxiety without knowing I had ADHD. Thank you, this is so well articulated.

[@DonnaSnyder]

I've been in therapy for over 40 years, sporadically. I actually, as well, worked closely with mental health professionals, training them and cooperating with them. And I've never heard of this before. So thank you. Very good video.

[@thevirtualtraveler]

Watching this was such an Ah Ha moment! I sent it to several people. I was not diagnosed ADHD until I was 41, but I was diagnosed as BPD when I was 18. But BPD never quite fit, where was my childhood trauma???? Now I know I was misdiagnosed.

[@helenaw5272]

I was diagnosed with BPD and wow this video makes me feel so safe. Thank you.

[@vikshere]

as someone who is afab, im lucky i was diagnosed with adhd really young. that being said though, it wasnt until the last couple years i really understood what that even meant or how it affected me other than the fact that in school i could take tests in separate rooms and i took meds to help me focus. its kind of bizarre realizing how many symptoms there are but it's also nice in a way. like, being able to put a name to what ive been experiencing and knowing why its happening is nice. rsd is such a huge thing for me and i didnt even know it existed. thank you for this video aaron. i would love to hear more about this from you tbh. videos like this are so important and can help so many people.

[@joakescarnival8303]

When people think you're being poetic when you say "I am in literal pain" but it actually physically literally hurts....

[@emoluv190]

A sign I need to watch this video all the way through is the fact I knew exactly what was coming when you said "It's not just a fear of a abandonment from others, but also a fear of abandonment from yourself!" 😥

[@Angelawiersma17]

My mind is blown! I was diagnosed with ADD when I was 24 years old. Never heard of RSD during my treatment. But I recognize a lot of it. Thank you for this video. Greetings from the Netherlands. ❤

[@yasminecavelius1731]

I just want to give you a big hug. Thank you, so so much for this video

[@lewisprice5719]

You’ve explained this so well and it resonates with me a LOT.

[@InkyBink]

So happy I found your channel. Got diagnosed with ADHD a few days ago, I’m trying to learn all I can

[@luanntexascitizen4345]

Thank you. Been having these episodes more recently. My episodes are strong but short lived. Great video. I will subscribe.

[@IbelinnCreations]

This last year has truly sent me down the rabbit hole of ADHD and I’m getting so close to going to my doctor and try to figure out if I actually have it. There’s just too many things that could be explained by this…thank you for such a good video explaining this!

[@bm4shooter76]

Great video!!! One of the best I’ve seen on the topic. Thank you!!

[@c.f.6840]

Thank you so much for posting this!

[@eccentricqueen372]

Woah!! This was amazing. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. This seriously gave me a bit of clarity & understanding.

[@elliediringer3821]

Oh My God! Thank you so much to telling me about this! Yes a longer video would be awesome!

[@moonrise3251]

You did a wonderful job explaining RSD. And I am so grateful you differentiated it from BPD because I have ADD but thought maybe I could have BPD too, even though I wasn’t exactly fitting the bill. So this helps a lot! Take care.

[@rwyke1]

OMFG. Aaron you have yet again given me words to describe something that I struggle with, along with my brother and also my dad. This is at the root of a lot of our struggles, but in particular it marked my childhood and I saw it paralyse my father. The texting thing is so real. Wow. Will share!