Adopted Child: Talking About Birth Parents

[@Revelation21-4-]

Thank you so much for encouraging the adopted kids to love their birth mum,well I happen to be one of the very fortunate ones who as a birth parent always longed to be with my twin girls again one day and now I know they also want to met me.

[@michaelprokop7314]

I just came across this video. I am an adopted child and yes you do wonder about your biological parents, but depending on what age you were adopted at can mean a lot also. I was adopted at about 2 months old and am now 51. A few years ago I tried to look for my mother, with no success. The way I look at it since I was adopted at 2 months old, my adopted parents are my real parents, as far as I am concerned. If after 51 years and she doesn't want to contact me or respond to a request to respond, I say the hell with her. Actually, the only reason I went looking for her is because I would like to know my family medical history, since I was born with abnormalities and suffered major health issues for the past 35 years. On the other hand, my sister went and found her family, and now we are treated like a second class family. It's hard when it comes down to it all, but I believe that when a child is adopted at a very early age, as soon as they can understand. Keeping it from them and having them find out at a later age is a lot more damaging. It is like you were holding a secret about them all that time.

[@aliciajodi]

That’s beautiful

[@arima3499]

thank you for your message. tough in my case because you said, if I know I can trust you to talk about something .... that hurts deeply in my case.

[@stephaniehansongmail9934]

I told my beautiful 8 yr old the same thing and I’ve been saying it for years. She is absolutely aloud to love her bio mom and me (her bio aunt, now Mom by adoption.) Who am I to tell any child who they can and can’t love. I know my baby girl will always feel safe to share anything with me. As a matter of fact, she was very scared it would hurt me to say she loves her bio Mom too. I told her, “ That doesn’t hurt me in the least sweetheart. You should love us both and I get it. I really get it.” There’s a lot of love and trust because of that types of conversation. Mothers of adopted children, even if the bio parents have been users of drugs, abandoned, or neglected the child or have narcissistic mental disorders as my daughters parents have.... Just remember, Your child will always feel a bond and a draw their bio family regardless. It’s human nature. Just because they may miss them or love them, doesn’t take away a single ounce of love they have for you. In fact they will love you more for allowing them to be open with you. You will have given them the greatest gift a mother could give. Unconditional love and trust is everything.

[@LB-uo7xy]

I can tell you from every instance where this happened that I read of online that EVERY.SINGLE.TIME you let your adopted kid get in contact with their original birth abusers they will come to love them and want NOTHING to do with you.

[@jackierose9262]

all I ever wanted was to meet my biological family

[@kathleenmcloone7127]

Searching for my birth daughter, baby girl brady. Born, July 5, 1984. catholic Charities in New Jersey placed her with a family. Never a day goes by that I don’t pray for her cried for her and love her. If anyone can help me, l would greatly appreciate it. ❤️🤞

[@aliciajodi]

Good luck. I’m also in NJ :)

[@jackierose9262]

I was adopted in 1986 and I want to meet my real mother

[@sarahhomrighausen7349]

I am not allowed to tell my daughter that her father and I didn't consent at all last year. We were threatened by the 7 attorneys involved with GIVING OUR DAUGHTER TO A CPS EXECUTIVE. HOW THE HELL CAN THIS SITUATION BE RESOLVED TO LEGAL AND EMOTIONAL SATISFACTION FOR THE POOR AND LOVING FAMILY WITH GRADUATE DEGREES AND PHYSICAL CONDITIONS AND THEIR LITTLE GIRL WHO WE SEE A LOT BUT CAN'T TELL HER WHAT HAPPENED WITH CORROBORATING EVIDENCE??

[@agoogleuser3918]

Stop the gaslighting and abuse of adopted PEOPLE. We are PERSONS, with opinions, values, and FEELINGS😢

[@camivolkova182]

Thank you. Thank you so much for spreading such a wonderful message. It means the world to me.

[@butywbrainz]

Beautiful ❤️

[@MarySchipke]

If you are one of the "adoptive" child slavers who has stolen the child from their real parents - then Hell can not burn hot enough for you when you die. My children were STOLEN from me and I will NEVER forget or forgive.........

[@roypullin2155]

They weren't stolen.

[@aliciajodi]

First 34 seconds: yep. 😕🤷🏽‍♀️ love closed adoptions, I still won’t know anything.

[@karen1306]

That was beautiful....

[@jackierose9262]

and I was adopted by people who did not love me

[@calibear3717]

No we don’t.

[@agoogleuser3918]

And " we" are NOT perpetual CHILDREN!!