Adult ADHD | Hyperactive Impulsive

What does ADHD hyperactive/impulsive type look and feel like? MedCircle expert, triple board-certified neuropsychologist Dr. Judy Ho walks through each behavior and sign of ADHD (hyperactive/impulsive type) in adulthood.
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Topic:
00:00 intro
00:23 1. Fidgets or taps hands/feet when seated
01:27 2. Leaves seat in situations when they should be seated
02:25 3. Experiences feelings of restlessness
03:36 4. Difficulty engaging in quiet activities
05:06 5. On-the-go or acts as if driven by a motor
06:39 6-7: Talking excessively, blurting out answers
09:33 8. Has difficulty waiting their turn
11:43 Interrupting or intruding on others
12:40 What to do next
#mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #adhd #psychology #mentalhealthmatters #hyperactive #hyperactivity

[@MedCircle]

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[@amybe3]

I only got diagnosed with ADHD at 41 and ASD at 42. My mind is all over. I can certainly hyperfocus but I need to move. For me is mostly speaking very fast& excesively and not communicating accurately, forgetfulness, loosing things, restlessness, impulsiveness. I need QUIETNESS - noises triggers panic attacks. ADERALL help my mind come down for few hours follows by depression.

[@ammyd9437]

All of them except waiting in line

[@Edward-go3le]

Yes

[@ammyd9437]

@@amybe3 stay strong . God bless

[@francesbernard2445]

I am older and so I grew up in a home with lead pipes bringing water into our home. When learning during a lecture I don't enjoy being there much at all no matter how much more I prefer hearing from that professor while for example learning a new word. I prefer when a new word to learn is being spoken more often by the professor than other University students do while I often feel like fidgeting early on when sitting in my seat. When at home I don't enjoy watching a whole movie unless I can stop it more frequently than most people do. I often have to restrain myself from interrupting someone. Although I don't have much athletic talent I feel better and more on task while doing something simple when being constant on the move. I get exhausted sooner than most people do while doing my best to fit in maybe or maybe not because I have ADHD. People in my age group can probable relate better to my struggle. I was tested by a psychologist once to determine if I have ADHD with inconclusive results and I cannot take medication for ADHD because it makes me feel sicker. So I better not be too hard on myself while doing my best to fit in.

[@LaundryFaerie]

Certain aspects of "impulsive" ADHD aren't so much about impulse control as they are about memory issues. People who don't trust their minds to remember things long enough to act on them are likely to jump up and do something the moment it occurs to them -- because if they wait, the idea will leave their minds and the task won't get done. Likewise, when they enter a conversation with a germane idea, they feel the need to blurt it out not because they have no regard for others, but because they fear that if they wait for an opening to enter the conversation, the germane idea they wanted to share will have evaporated completely.

[@enemyofthestatewearein7945]

I agree about the entering the conversation while the idea is still in your head. It doesn't help at all if you are frequently around people who monologue incessantly. Even if you manage to hold the thought, inevitably the conversation has moved on by the time you can get a word in edge ways, usually several minutes later. The reality is that people who monologue and ramble are fucking selfish and it's impossible to have a proper interactive conversation when they are around. Many years ago I was told off by a former boss for interjecting inappropriately, but I realized that I grew up in a household where this was the only way to get heard. I will now willfully backtrack with 'we were talking about x, before you changed the subject'. If you start repeatedly counting your attempts to reply you are not having a conversation, someone is talking at you not with you.

[@norap.9663]

THIS! This is the main issue for me with managing myself and my chores! I need to write down the smallest tasks to not be constantly anxious about forgetting everything (and I will) and running around like a mad woman starting new chores midway through the last. My calendar is my to-do-list, everything is in order, visually accessible and timed.

[@emeraldstar373]

this is the same with me but not with germane idea bit but just impulsively saying things in a convo cause I know I’m going to forget them and if I try to not forget them then I can’t focus on what the person is saying anyway so I just say it

[@karae807]

I didn’t realize how many hyperactive traits I actually have. I was never the hyper kid. But my mind was always working. You don’t realize that it’s your brain that’s hyperactive, not your body. My ADHD was dx in my 40s. It was then that they became a REAL problem. My diagnosis explained a LOT.

[@mezlandia]

I was diagnosed with ADD when I was about 8 years old. It was really just this…

[@mezlandia]

Asperger’s was diagnosed at age 5/6 but no one told me until I was 31.

[@ericadacosta6992]

@@mezlandia oh my god! I'm so sorry about that

[@jacquesdurand8148]

I have lived with ADHD all my life and did not outgrow it as an adult. Awareness is key. Knowing that I do these things and being able to catch myself, even if it is seconds after doing it. I was diagnosed at 38. Medication helps to an extent, but I have learned that society is unforgiving about the behaviour and therefor I had to learn to manage myself. Remember to breath and forgive yourself when you don't. Today I am able to live my dream of being a writer in spite of my ADHD. Because I stopped saying sorry for it.

[@buddyrojek9417]

I moved to Ukraine, bought a house in the Carpathian mountains and never looked back.

[@idontknowwhatimdoing.imlau3911]

This! 🙌🏻

[@westernsellers9148]

As a mature adult, getting up to go to the bathroom more than once means you have bladder issues. You realize that you have ADHD when you begin falling asleep during meetings and the room temperature is warm.

[@keekwai2]

Soceity has no obligation to adapt to individual people's problems. It's up to the individual with a problem to adapt. Stop making out that society is at fault and it forced you to adapt. Stop passing the buck. Take responsibility for your own problems minus the bitterness to an innocent society.

[@kuroyamaevisekai]

​@@keekwai2 "innocent society" that punishes any kind of difference severely

[@tabithaannen4761]

As someone with adhd, I would like to add to #5 sometimes the executive function issue isn't doing alot of things at an "inopportune time", it's sometimes a coping mechanism for the executive function because you know you wount have the ability or motivation later. So you do things as you go, so they get done and you ride the dopamine where it takes you.

[@Thee_BreezyBeenie]

Exactly.

[@Kyman23]

True

[@shakodeycarson9253]

Yes! I have said this my whole life. I just have to ride the wave when I get the itch to do stuff

[@GeordieNovaScotian]

This. ❤ I am so happy you worded it this way. This is 100% me but no one understands why I do things like that. And ive never known how to explain it. Now I do ❤

[@tumiseshoene1255]

Spot on

[@ItsAV2023]

I feel like my ADHD is so debilitating in my adulthood. I totally relate to “masking” and being misunderstood because of these behaviors/urges/impulsiveness.

[@Irishjay-gu5pb]

I have, and am having the same experience as an adult. It was manageable until I had my daughter, after that forget it!

[@Edward-go3le]

I feel you my friend

[@therocknrollcook]

Ugh. . . Masking is my life. 😭

[@xautumnx123x]

I got diagnosed with Bipolar Type 2.

[@soloslimeiiv3168]

Mask off. - future

[@truthh8597]

1) Moving hands or tapping feet, tying shoes, move around 2) Leave seats in situation or move out 3) Experiences Restlessness/ Impulsivity 4) Difficulty engaging in quiet and leisurely activities 5) On the go, act like driven by motor 6) Talk excessively 7) Blurts out answers 8) Difficulty waiting for their turn 9) Interrupting Others

[@ecb1979]

I made it to 3. Well done. Lol

[@truthh8597]

My adhd be not letting me pay enough attention to complete the list lol Someone else please put it down in the replies

[@kuchbhi508]

5. On the Go, or act like, "Driven By Motor" 6. Talking Excessively . . . .

[@Addie231]

Thankfully, the video has time stamps! When you tap on the video, then press the words on the bottom of the video, you can see all 9 traits

[@Krystiro]

Next time just speed up the video to 1.5 or 2.. it will help you stay focused

[@sophiek9745]

In both videos you don't mention the emotional disregulation (impulsively reacting on them) and difficulty sleeping (because of hyperactivity and ruminating thoughts). All really debilitating symptoms! Can you elaborate more on those in a future video?

[@jenniebeez]

I liked how Dr Judy mentioned that restlessness feels like anxiety or that something is "off". This is SO true for me. It can make me feel depressed as well. When I feel like this, I try to acknowledge how I'm feeling and do some self care.

[@elaine8985]

Self care is EVERYTHING 💗

[@ravingcuriosity6345]

@henniebeez Id love to know more about how you feel. I think I might feel similar, but it is all so foggy for me. And when you mentioned that it makes you feel depressed... it was more relatable. Like the urge is blocked, leading to anxiety, which then becomes a sort of anguish/depression. Is it more or less like that for you?

[@emeraldstar373]

ohhh I understand it now. I feel “off” or “depressed” sometimes and it feels a bit empty like something is wrong but it feels like lots of things are wrong but idk what and I just wanna feel better again but then I do and I forget it happened at all like I get distracted from my emotions

[@emeraldstar373]

@@ravingcuriosity6345 eXACTLY! is that definitely adhd? I didn’t know if it was normal or adhd because I’m not good at labelling my emotions lol

[@anniegrace7896]

I'm 37, multiple degrees in the medical field and have a mensa level IQ. Still....I get up during meetings when I shouldn't. Sitting and listening to something I find boring (or not for me) for extended periods is literally painful and if I don't get up and refill my water, use the restroom, etc, I feel like I'm going to explode. I also talk to people on the side anytime they are willing to engage. I have every single symptom! Medication doesn't even truly fix it. I am a highly effective and efficient person, surprisingly. But there are things I just can't seem to manage.

[@noraaa8479]

How did you survive the medical field? I graduated from med school after experiencing a lot of hardships mentally and one of them was the excessive boredom making it extremely hard for me to sit still and study I get distracted so easily and feel on the go all the time and now I have an big upcoming exam in a month and so and I just can’t study every time I try I zone out or get distracted and it’s making me feel anxious but I can’t seem to sit still and study and it’s just adding more stress

[@zerosoma33]

Menses level IQ

[@englaodevil]

I think the difference in how the doctor explains the difficulties with adhd is that I always know I shouldn’t intrude on a conversation or get up in the middle of dinner to do something that can wait, is that I know if I don’t do it right away I’m gonna forget it and maybe not remember it later at all. So for me it’s not so much that I can’t stop or control it, it’s that I’m afraid it won’t get done at all if I don’t say or do it right at that moment! So that feeling gives me much more anxiety than what I know will be awkward if I interrupt in a conversation or cut someone off in the middle of a sentence. Unfortunately, because I know it’s rude and probably obnoxious behavior and I obsess over it and feel bad afterwards, but I still do it 🤦‍♀️ I also think it’s important to say that you don’t have to have all these “symptoms” to have adhd and that it shows differently in every adhd’er so that people don’t think that if you don’t act Exactly like what you describe here, that the person can’t have adhd because of that. But otherwise a really well explained episode and look forward to more about this topic. I got diagnosed late in life (40) and I don’t have all the answers yet but trying to learn more to understand myself more and more. Can you please consider doing a segment on adhd medication? Im gonna start treatment soon and have a lot of questions about that topic. (Excuse my English, I’m from Sweden 🇸🇪😊)

[@ravingcuriosity6345]

I can totally relate to what you said! For some reason whichever thought I was prioritizing at a certain moment (out of about 10 thoughts going on constantly at any given time) simply vanishes at the very moment something slightly distracts me. What helps me is taking notes of things to think more about later, or to-do lists. Altho, being honest, in the end I have like 6 to-do lists spread all over my computer or my apartment, that just get neglected for months...

[@75ENVY]

Same 🤗

[@annabradshaw213]

If it's helpful for those who don't have it, for number 5, when I think of any of those little things that need to be done, I won't be able to relax or focus on anything else until it's done because I will be worried about forgetting to do it later. So when I think of it, I have to get up to do it if I know it's important (or feels important at the time) so I don't forget about it and end up not doing it.

[@bedfordtutor]

I was diagnosed combined type but pretty sure I am actually hyperactive-impulsive. My boyfriend has inattentive ADHD and it's like we have two different conditions: he is zoned out, slow and unreactive and I am constantly flitting from task to task, speedy and highly reactive to pretty much everything. I do have elements of inattention, but my hyperactivity-impulsivity is ALWAYS in control.

[@AS-kf1ol]

I was never physically restless, but I was always mentally overactive and considered dramatic. It's weird bc you would never think mental/emotional overactivity has anything to do with adhd bc it seems like it has to be wholly physical.

[@Sarcasmarkus]

No it doesn't have to be only physical. My Adhd is also more mentally overactive. Thats more typical of the inattentive subtypes than the hyperactive subtype.

[@nicoleeddington1427]

Just want to say Kyle you are an amazing interviewer and deserve all the respect from everyone , reason I say this is bec you touch on subjects that most wouldnt and your compassionate about it , you care about what you get out to the public but you also care about the people you interview you def know how make people feel comfortable I for one would like to thank you bec I've learned so much from your channel and I enjoy watching your videos , your so down to earth and dont let your knowledge go to your head thank you for that Kyle your absolute amazing keep up the awesome work 😊😁🤗

[@sgjoni]

I would like to add that it is not so much that you know that you shouldn’t blurt out or do the thing, but you do it anyway… it’s more like the action/response comes out despite you knowing you shouldn’t do it or respond… as if the breaks or the gears are not working. I’ve had many instances in my life where I’ve started speaking when I know I shouldn’t… and my conscious mind has been going…. “Not a good idea!… Zip it!”…. “What every you do wrap it up and don’t finish this story!”… and still it keeps going… right until the final point… even if you know that the final point of the story was the one thing that I needed to avoid blurting out. Almost like watching another person doing it… except its you. And the same thing can apply to actions… though my hyperactivity and impulsiveness is more verbal.

[@susanbyron6499]

I teach teachers and special ed assistants learn how to interact more resourcefully with neurodiverse children and youth in various grades, schools, organizations and institutions. These interviews are such a treasure trove of well-delivered high quality information and really enrich my research. Thank you from Germany!

[@kittttcattt]

I take comfort and have wow moments watching you, thank you. I am a bit concerned the nice dude here seems very sad in this video. I have all 9, struggling my whole life. Square peg/round hole life.

[@95turbogirl1980]

I wasn't diagnosed til college because I lack the hyperactive part as does my child who was fortunately diagnosed in middle school but my GF, OMG she's got it all and isn't diagnosed

[@katye3397]

I have found it takes so much energy to keep on track when I’m telling a story without going off the rails. It made my past partner so frustrated when I couldn’t keep a story straight. I need support not ridicule. I am what I am and have ….which is a great person with ADD. I try not to take it personally ,but at times I just wanted to say “ Deal with it or Don’t ! It will always be part of who I am”. It does not define me. 👍, Self ❤️

[@ItsMeVolatility]

I appreciate her advice on what someone should do if they feel like the symptoms resonate with them. Spot on. Don’t self diagnose, go to a professional, and let them lead the way into figuring out what’s wrong.

[@smilingu2741]

The professionals i have seen to try and get some help has made me feel alot worse. I've tried to explain my symptoms to get a real diagnosis of all my symptoms but within 10 minutes they stop me talking and they just prescribed antipsychotics. I nearly committed suicide because of those tablets. I'm 49 and last year was the first time I actually told my GP what was going on with my mental health. I started to lose control of my ability to calm myself and my thoughts and I felt like it was someone else controling my body and mind, feeling scared is an understatement so I sought help to have some sort of clarity to why I had no control and to finally get a proper diagnosis. It's a year later and I haven't seen anyone because I've had to care for my brother but I'm ready to face my demons and put them to rest because I can't live with the unimaginable, consistent thoughts I have day in and day out. I'm so frustrated with the GP's I have seen as they don't have the time to listen and this sets me back into a deep depression which makes it hard for me to make another appointment to discuss my mental and physical health. I've also been told that the things I'm feeling physically is all in my head and suffering with childhood trauma and trauma in my adult life made me feel helpless and so vunerable but a year later I was diagnosed with lung cancer so my symptoms were not in my head. I have trust issues with doctors because of the way I have been treated. Now I don't let them make me feel like I'm losing my mind and I will fight for a diagnosis with my mental health, I'm afraid that they will misdiagnos my symptoms from the lack of time they will give me and trying to make an appointment in the first place is hard as an appointment can only be made by phoning the receptionist and the receptionists these days determine if you can have an appointment. What is going on with the health system is unfathomable because medical help in any form is like trying to get blood out of a stone.

[@donnarae8602]

Just watched this…you just described me to a T in many ways. I’m 62. My family just thought I was an idiot…losing things…accident prone. I realise I have great ideas but no follow through..go do one task, then sidetracked….I zone out of meetings if not interested…now I’m not sure what to make of it…

[@sarahsanders7127]

You're not an idiot, and you might have ADHD. ❤️

[@AmandySue]

I remember in school I would always feel restless like I had to jump out of my seat, but I couldn't because I would get in trouble. So I would always scoot my chair back, then forward, then back. In high school I ended up doodling a lot in the margins of my notebooks for literally every class, which I learned was stimming. Don't get me wrong, I was listening to the teacher and taking notes all while doodling on the side.

[@ClementineShmementine]

I have hyperactivity big time I have since I was a kid I've been pretty severe my whole life, but I don't understand why there's not more people who post about hyper active women

[@QueenHalo]

This video came at a good time. I was recently diagnosed with inattentive type since I’ve been struggling my whole life. I kinda hate how it’s been seen as trendy now when it literally causes a lot of issues. Can also be seen as a super power tho lol

[@flawlix]

The anxiety = hyperactivity thing frankly explains why ADHD meds, which often are thought to make anxiety worse, all but cured mine. Like, I haven’t had a panic attack basically since I started taking Adderall 4 years ago

[@kristinakomarova7555]

Wow... How long have you suffered with panic attacks prior to that?? I seemed to have "developed" them under severe stress 2 years ago at the only workplace I've managed to stay the longest at

[@ibrahimissaiaawad2888]

very good, thanks dr. Judy

[@Sarahclarkxo]

Wow this is accurate! Good thing I am seeing my therapist tomorrow to bring this up :)

[@DisabilitysAREabilities]

Jesus Christ your a dixkhead scamming like everyone else

[@katy525]

Thank YOU Dr JUDY I AM SO READY FOR YOU AND YOUR INSIGHT AND KNOWLEDGE THAT I APPRECIATE IT BECAUSE IF WE WERE A PATIENT I CANNOT IMAGINE THE COST WOULD BE I AM GRATEFUL THANKFUL AND MAY YOU BE BLESSED WITH ALL THE GOODNESSE

[@revivemi6234]

I’ve had this today all day and everyday

[@nataliarengel3072]

I absolutely loved this video, however I disagree about the "don't diagnose yourself" part. I understand it is not benefitial to self medicate whatsoever, but nobody knows my experience better than myself. Same applies to you. I was diagnosed with GAD, treated for it, and it messed me up even more. Years later I discovered what ADHD reslly was after doing a test, and one simple look at the symptoms and the different manifestations of ADHD in women was enough for me to feel that I had found the reason why my brain has been screaming at me my whole life. After three weeks and A LOT of research, reading and watching, I'm in the process of getting my official diagnosis, but no psychiatrist could ever convince me that I don't have ADHD. Unfortunately, in a lot of cases the system puts pressure on the professionals to the point that they tend to be quick rather than thorough, and I do believe you are your best chance to help yourself. The research is there, the studies are there, the experiences from people all over the world are there for you to relate. There is a lot you can do to try and understand yourself. Thank you for all the work you put on this channel, it's really helping me manage my hyperfixation on a daily basis

[@phil2768]

Being aware and recognising what you do is key. I found out the hard way (on quite a few occasions) about interjecting when not wanted - in fact, once a pool teammate get very angry with me when he missed a shot during a match and I'd said "unlucky" after. Obviously it was just a way of actually saying "unlucky" about the miss but he said "why do you always have to commentate and talk at the side-lines every time, you're really p*ssing me off". I was embarrassed when he said it in front of everyone in the pub and it wasn't until this point that I realised how often I was doing it. I try to be mindful of doing this but sometimes I still find myself being impulsive and blurting things out when they are probably best left unsaid. I'm diagnosed with both ADHD types as well as autism.

[@Sarcasmarkus]

With all the overlap between ADHD and ASD, and their comorbidity rate, i'm curious why ASD isn't mentioned in these ADHD videos or why this channel doesn't have any ASD videos. I was diagnosed add in grade school and rediagnosed ADHD mixed types and am on a waiting list to go through the ASD diagnosis process. There is a lot of good info on KZbin.

[@brianmcleod3435]

That describes me exactly

[@shanehendricksom8404]

It's very hard for me to plan anything at home. My spontaneity has me bouncing from one thing to another.

[@Chizuru94]

Same. Can't stick to plans unless others made them and it HAS to be, usually and I never had any routine not made by others (liek school).

[@laraoneal7284]

Same for me .

[@dailydoseofmedicinee]

Important topic

[@emeraldstar373]

Oh my god this makes everything sound so much more sense now! I basically have all of these symptoms I just didn’t understand what each was. For example, with restlessness, I thought that was being unable to sit still but I definitely relate to the actual definition. The other thing was the driven by a motor thing, I don’t describe it like that so that’s why I didn’t know that that’s what it is but I definitely have that! For example, in school, I can’t get up and do things so I’m sitting there moving my feet and hands so much and my mind racing and like a tingly feeling all through my body cause I wanna get up but I just can’t cause I don’t want to be told off… (that’s the symptom I don’t relate to, staying in my seat. I stay in my seat cause I don’t want to get told off and I have anxiety about it but it’s so hard.)

[@millerlyte87]

Is expanding the description to read all the bullet points instead of watching the entire video a sign? If so, I have it.

[@donnaallgaier-lamberti3933]

I have been listening to your videos lately. I had been "thinking" my 77-year-old husband's behavior was insulin resistance driven cognitive decline...I am now thinking it (or some of it) is ADHD. These videos have opened my mind. to a new place He is impulsive, cannot finish any task or even stay on task. He cannot make a (high quality) financial decision. He is totally unorganized and has no self-control or executive function. I am taking to him and making a sustenance and always interrupts me mid-stream (before I am finished.). Do some adults get "worse" as they age or if they are in pain? His adult son has ADHD/bi-polar and is now on medication.

[@TheSquidder]

As someone with ADHD, I can't even stomach the idea of Disney Land haha. This was great to show my wife, now she better understand why I do the things I do. Thank you!

[@DaisyMay0]

Aha! That explains why I start interests and becoming uninterested, and stopping. I want to learn piano and guitar…but I just can’t. Meds help with a lot of my symptoms but I still can’t stick to anything I want to do. Yes, I used to get up all the time, and now that I’m older, I sit a lot. My family, and my husband, are agitated with the way I am. They aren’t willing to research ADHD. Not my problem if they won’t research.

[@antionetteb7298]

What's frustrating is I have very sensitive skin, I get blisters if exposed to sun for 10 mins, hives sitting on grass, lotions, soaps, gotta use sensitive everything. I skin pick subconsciously and any break in skin gets badly infected 9/10 with cellulitis. Combine that with the fidgeting especially when in line Somewhere and I'm labeled a tweeker, . I get self conscious about it because I've been sober for 6yrs from meth. In fact I was less hyper using. Now I'm all over the place.

[@valishandra43]

I hate how they say suffer from adhd the real issues is being surrounded by people who think moving around is weird and not just standing still to appear normal. I'm now in a place where there are a lot of people like me, I get up walk through the institution and no one says I thing and I feel so happy. I love my restless energy and other than it being an inconvenience for other people and having the urge to pace at 3 am when I want to sleep. I love wanting to be everywhere and do everything there's going to be a time where we won't be able to move or walk so I appreciate every insane burst of energy. If it makes you're job difficult instead of altering your biology maybe find a place where your traits suit you! Somewhere active to use all that energy. So many people with this can't be a coincidence. Maybe we're supposed to be on alert. Everyone in society has a role to play. I couldn't be haply sitting around for hours in a meeting when I can jump run play no matter how old I am as long as my feet work

[@dmulk1]

I have this type of ADHD and most of what was discussed describes my behaviors. One thing that I felt wasn't discussed enough is the constant feeling of boredom that people with ADHD feel. I take a rather large dose of medication for my ADHD but even with the meds it's as though I need a lot of stimulation in order to sit still and focus on anything. I'm not sure if its because I've taken such a high dose of medication for so many years that the meds just don't work for me anymore, but it has become very difficult for me to relax and find pleasure in anything when I sit still. I'd be interested to know if anyone else experiences the same thing ?

[@amy2434]

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[@someguy34231]

i have ADHD and find extremely difficult to even get bored. i never mind lines or traffic even if i cant use my phone. i zone out so easily that i can just skip out on time (but at the same time i have dissociative issues from other things, soooo... not the greatest comparison)

[@tonyromano6220]

More a less, try Zoloft.

[@dmulk1]

@@tonyromano6220 I already take Zoloft and have done for ten years.

[@anafe2301]

This is exactly how i feel. I haven’t been formally diagnosed by ADHD but most certainly sure that i have it. I have to be alway moving or doing things to keep me occupied. I get sooooo bored when i don’t have anything to do.

[@Diva369]

I was diagnosed with Hyperactive impulsive ADHD in 1st or 2nd Grade. My parents were against meds.(Began Adderall in my early 50s) I always thought it mostly went away as a teen. Talking too much and interrupting didn't go away (Much later in life realizing none of it hadn't "went away") I loathed faculty meetings; if snacks were served that helped me get through it. I wonder if this type of ADHD covers Family gatherings. I looked forward to seeing everyone, but once that novelty wore off, I couldn't listen to an entire conversation without tuning out and nodding my head as if I were listening. I wanted to contribute to a group conversation, but I would concentrate on my comment so I wouldn't forget it when it was my turn. Before my turn, I interrupted with a response either expressing agreement or to instantaneously fact-check their statement. If there were two separate conversations that I had no interest in or had nothing to add on the subject and then wander around to empty rooms. Occasionally I would sit in on one, and fade in and out of attention, feeling the desire to leave, but most times I carpooled with another family member, so I would go back and forth, between the two occupied rooms. I don't see my family much these days, and I don't much care.

[@collmarsh9819]

100% me I'm waiting to see adhd specialist thank u x

[@felipesystello]

OMG I feel like this woman is discribing my accurate personality!!! Everyone always say I have ADHD Iam quite sure I have it 🧐

[@sainaram6978]

Okay? How about providing ways to manage it?

[@ronalddesiderio7625]

I was a fidgeting nightmare from day one ☝🏾 As a kid and young adult my energy was boundless. Till late 20’s I hit a brick 🧱 wall

[@themaucks2254]

In the last few months I have come to realize that our son, daughter and I have signs of ADHD. Our daughter is in counseling and has been told that she only has anxiety. That doesn't seem to cover all the problems she has. We all struggle with deadlines, organization is so bad, procrastination , always bouncing from project to project, finishing things may not happen. I wonder why it's so hard to get a diagnosis. We also noticed that a trip out to do a few errands that might take 45-60 minutes for most people, takes 3-4 hours, this is the squirrel effect of distraction.

[@emeraldstar373]

I thought restlessness was the being able to sit still thing, thank you for explaining that, I definitely have that symptom…

[@noraaa8479]

I’ve been convinced for a year that I have adhd but I haven’t found a good professional in my area. I’ve been diagnosed with anxiety, depression, having traits of bpd and ocpd and I’ve been taking medication for years and it never seems to have worked I really wish I would just get diagnosed with it so I can treat it correctly instead of always having a freaking different diagnosis and feeling lost and being more anxious all the time

[@sugoruyo]

1) Constantly bouncing knee. If someone puts a hand on it and stops it the other one immediately starts. I’ve had someone alternate between stopping my knees bouncing (and shaking the table) and when they brought it up I was stunned because I hadn’t even noticed it. 2) 20 minutes of meeting is a stretch, I need a fidget to get me through that. At 30’ I’m bouncing off the walls. 3) Best way I can describe this one is like hearing the buzz of electricity moving up behind me and feeling like I gotta keep pushing forward or it catches up and I get shocked. For these first 3, best way I can describe it is that it feels like there’s a pressure buildup driving a motor to do something and blocking that motor from spinning just results in the system not releasing pressure until at some point it explodes. Physically, I get the sensation of a wave of heat following by a wave of tingling from my torso to my face and eventually it gets to the point of panicking. 4) Love classical music, can’t do concert halls. That bouncing knee might be shaking 4-5 seats at a time. Been kicked out of a couple major events. Same thing in the cinema; give me the most engaging movie, I’ll be randomly pulling my phone out and checking the time every 5’ or making comments to whoever I’ve gone with. 5) Meal time is sacred, not getting up from the table unless my plate is empty. Any other time, I’m getting up and doing the thing that needs doing now before I forget and it gets done in 2 years time, okay? 6-7) 100% You need 3 hours worth of context for that 5’ story and if I know the question you’re going to ask and the answer to the question you’re hearing that answer before you finish asking the question. 8) Definitely done the supermarket thing enough that I’ve learned to check the line when arriving at the supermarket. I’ve also dumped groups of friends because they were fine joining a queue that I couldn’t stand to be in and come back after to rejoin only to have everyone be so offended. 9) I can keep in control of the impulse to go out and interrupt other people’s activities but if we’re talking and I feel like something’s gotta be said it’s super-hard to resist. I’ll add my own #10: impulse purchases.

[@SomeGuy-hd4cn]

I have been a courier for over 20 years and my adhd has been a benefit to my job. Quick talk, fast joke, sign here and gone. I also have no problem with walking right past a line to get the package to a person. I always tell new trainees that we are couriers the rules of polite society dont apply. I have strolled confidently past security at nuclear plants, hospitals, city halls, construction sites, military bases and banks. (It is amazing where a fast walk and some confidence can get you.)

[@michaelcordero-martinez-5341]

I can’t even make it through this video. It’s a miracle I even made it halfway 🤣🤣

[@anahithovhannisyan8954]

It's wild seeing family traits just listed out like that. On movie nights, everyone is providing commentary, lol. It was a good way to grow up, though, because none of us thought any of it rude at all, and even in friends I find myself gravitating towards neurodiverse ppl because there's no worry about being seen as 'rude'.

[@TheClintonio]

I literally learned to absolutely fucking hate theme parks because of the arguments about waiting in line. I went to Disneyland Paris as a child and often just opted to sit outside and wait. Now in reality I was buzzing around the area chatting to everyone and anyone I knew (from my school) and that was a MILLION times more rewarding than the intense suffering of the queue. I also got to be in the sun too. Nothing is worth a two hour wait. I've even given up on healthcare over these waits. I literally didn't get my asthma medication for a year because of having to wait and other parts of my ADHD. Then I found out Japanese doctor waiting times measure in the minutes not hours or days and I've been much healthier since.

[@IndicaPrincess]

I can never sit down or relax. I’m always busy tidying up, organizing, starting projects, taking care of personal affairs. I feel like I have a running to do list that never ends, so it’s hard to relax. I have to make a conscience effort to sit down, lean back and be comfortable. I can’t sit through a movie. We have a running joke in my house that I’m perpetually getting ready for something. It makes me late for pretty much everything. Definitely has impacted my personal and professional relationships. One thing is, I’m very patient and occupy myself with something I can get done if I’m waiting in a line or something like that. I would never just barge in on someone and expect their time and attention if they were doing something else. That’s just rude. Once I embraced reality and accepted the way I operate isn’t typical of other people…I always set everyone with realistic expectations and plan accordingly instead of making commitments I know I’m more than likely unable to keep. It’s been really helpful to do that.

[@fayeabdulateef802]

Thanks for this informative talk👍 Typically me..we ADHD know it😊

[@andreajimenez6601]

Thank y'all so much I learned a lot and never knew it why I do the things I do I will look for a shorter line or I will only do self checkout it's quicker and hated school I try not to speak when others is talking but hard to wait my turn it sucks to have this I look at my older sisters and I am like they normal and calm and I am not calm I am trying to make my self calm I always talking but try not to

[@peytonpage-xz2sg]

I Pace a lot Walking Back and Forth when I am at work and I am waiting for dishes to finish washing or putting on Gloves or today at Starbucks waiting for my order i pace back and forth

[@vibesmom]

Can excessive talking, and talking at, not back and forth, with others also come down to anxiety? Or a combination of both? I’m not trying to self diagnose or diagnose anyone else. I am just seeking to understand a friend who does this. It’s hard to deal with, and understanding sometimes helps me build strategies to handle situations, and be more patient and caring when Im feeling like Ii’m being hit by words. At this point I try to stick a guitar in his hand when I’ve reached my limit because he totally focuses and stays silent. It’s literally like a quiet pill.

[@rynndoza]

I have adhd inattentive-type. I do have some hyper active/focus moments though. At work, I get so overwhelmed with the amount of work my job gives me to the point where I just shut down or disassociate from “work-mode.” And my job doesn’t understand that. But at the same time… ppl without adhd even say to me “idk how you’re able to manage so many completely different tasks at once.” I’m just like “🥹 I’m managing well to you?” Because to me, I’m just trying not to have my 3rd mental breakdown and not trying to use “I have adhd” as an excuse to be taken off of projects without being fired or looked at as lazy 🥲 but like I said… ppl who don’t have adhd wouldn’t have the mental capacity to handle as much as me. Side note…. I don’t meet my deadlines 🙃 and I communicate my frustrations loud and clear to my manager but nothing happens. But if someone else of a different race who doesn’t have adhd communicates their frustrations, it’s a different outcome 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@noperception5073]

The need to blurt out answers or saying things now instead of wasiting comes from the fact that in 1-2 minutes we'll completely forget what we wanted to say that we feel contributes. To counter that, it's better to write the ideas or thoughts down so you can remember them for a more opportune time.

[@philbarone4603]

No way am I waiting for this to end.

[@NiSE_Rafter]

Lol I've done that grocery example at the gym. I'd decided to try out a different campus gym at a different time and when I saw it was packed and I'd have to wait on the equipment for every single exercise I straight up turned around, hopped on my bicycle, and went home. Woke up early to lift at the start of the next day instead.

[@cassiehobbs5751]

I have so many learned coping mechanisms, masking. I doodle in meetings to try to not move and interrupt. I have ADHD so bad, I lost a job that I worked at for 23+ years.

[@dhevi9139]

I’m not diagonosed but I can like relate with so many stuff to an extreme level I can’t maintain eye contact with someone for long that’s why I really have trouble asking questions while in class because even if I ask I’m not able to maintain the eye contact with my professor which then makes me very uncomfortable and restless 🤧 also I completely relate with the hyperactivity stuff and not being able to sit still and making excuses just to go out of the room and also doing something out of impulsiveness and regretting it later it’s so hard to focus in anything that doesn’t resonate with my interest

[@matthewpetersen4417]

God her we go, I keep denying it's my add from early years. So, as I've gotten older, I have controlled some of the outburst. My attention is gone with the wind, I'd rather stair at the wall and dream. I have been seeing a psych, and I have other problems added to the add and medicating is a problem because I react horribly to antidepressants of anti-psychotics. After a recent bad accident in 2021 things have been horrible, I've never had such a focus removal like this, I'm tired, I've absolutely secluded myself. But I feel depression is never an issue. What I think my ADD with a learning disability was not looked at right when I was younger, learning now. All this happened after a violent attack in 3rd grade, I was stabbed 3 times and the kid tried cutting my throat. To this day I feel that day so real and I'm 40 now.

[@beatrizvignoli4053]

That may have caused a huge trauma!

[@IndigoCosmic]

I think a lot of professionals avoid dealing with adhd because they don't want to prescribe the medication since certain medications are being used recreationally.

[@angelazeigler2904]

For the past 20 years I have struggled with starting college, and just not being able to do the classroom, I've always thrived at manufacturing work because I can let my brain go full speed while my body os going through the motions at top notch. I'm always saying "I'm so sorry I interrupted" I'm sorry for this or that, because I act before stopping to think. I go shopping and buy all the things I want at that moment and get home to see the stack of bills. I have wondered if I have adhd or some form that truly hinders my ability to actually think ahead and plan. I literally am notorious for going into a store (usually walmart) and seeing the line and leaving my cart and walking out. I joke about ot the next day. I have mentioned to my primary that I would like to be tested and I was met by that look of shame. As if I'm asking for drugs. How do I go about asking to be tested without that type of response? I'm absolutely not looking for medication but to think of a life that I didn't constantly feel as if I'm constantly spinning in circles to accomplish nothing. I have considered hiring a cleaner because I can't seem to focus long enough to even clean my house. And its embarrassing. But as I stand here writing this, my dish water is getting cold. How do we ask? Or should I seek a specific specialist? What would I look for?

[@angelazeigler2904]

Edit to add, I'm 44 years old and have raised an amazing son that I see so many of the same traits in.

[@laraoneal7284]

Angela Ziegler I have the identical problems u have. Ty for sharing this.

[@The-Lost-Attic]

waiting in lines, sitting in the dr. office, sitting at my desk in the office,

[@BigTough]

What about impulsive anger? I have a cousin I want to help. I also have ADHD and have also had impulsive anger and Ive mostly dealt with it, but we are different people with different experiences who also had different developmental environments. I may just be answering my own question here but anything helps. He gets angry and agitated as soon as stimulation stops, he's constantly on the go looking for the next thing, attending hockey games(his passion), football games, restaurants, buying clothes and video games which is all hard on his wallet and affects how he handles responsibilities. He's 37. Talks very loud. When he's drunk he goes on repeat mode even when told we all heard him the first time, I realize he's seeking some sort of stimulating validation when he does this. But what new engaging perspective can I give him on these fronts that could help him? He's not yet medicated yet but we are working on it.

[@sarahsanders7127]

The more that he can learn and understand about ADHD and how it can look and what comorbidities it has, the better. He may want to learn more about things like rejection sensitive disorder, low frustration tolerance, oppositional defiant disorder, etc. Even if none of those apply to him, emotional dysregulation is a huge issue for many people with ADHD. In addition to working on trialing meds I'd highly recommend he pursue therapy because most people get the most benefit from doing both, rather than only meds or only therapy.

[@cezexcezex9888]

what about the I have moxo test and done it 1-1-4-1. impulsivity is very bad rest is very good but I have problem with focus and memory and learn .... my doctor said that I don't have ads

[@abigailbarfoot3846]

I have add/ADHD and Aspergers. When I get anxious and depressed I am really impulsive and obsessive with spending on stuff I don’t need but want. Im info dump and talk over people as my auditory out out get overwhelmed . I have five though before people finish. I struggle to keep my to Self awareness in large groups and sometimes or do strange things that can perceived Arrogant or rude and I’m neither. I have most of these and have been diagnosed adhd and no high functioning autism . I Have a rare condition that included autism ADHD and other contains as part of the condition. I have also been told there is a high chance of me having complex ptsd because child/adulthood trauma of many kinds

[@thechurchofdave]

So this video is basically about how it's OK to judge a person for being themselves because the non ADHD people can't accept other people who won't conform to their behavior standards. Except when they NEED the ADHD type person to help them, usually in extrme type situations, then low and behold. . . the person who is actually well suited to run directly into dangerous situations or come up with snap decision solutions or can quickly figure our how to run straight into the fire and put it out. . . metaphorically or realisticly. . . is somehow acceptable enough to save their asses. But when we need the slow folks to just ease up and tolerate us on boring days. . . oh THAT turns into we are broken and don't fit in. ADD a Different Perception is a great book on this. It talks about the Hunters and the Farmers being two different types of people who are skilled at different things. Farmers can do the same exact thing, over and over and over again, every day, and not focus on anything but the one task. Which makes them a good farmer. Hunters though, see, hear, smell, feel, spot, evaluate. . . EVERYTHING AT ONCE. . . in order to spot danger and oportunities. They can make fast decisions. Can be running full speed in one direction and then spot a change and make instant adjustments to stay on track with the target until they catch it. Yet they can also freeze and hyper focus in ways that make their fast movements vs their hyper focus look like their are actually conflicting. When in fact, they are turned to work together perfectly. ADHD is a damned super power if you know how to apply it and don't let the slow folks drug it down to a drug induced behavior modification. So if you don't like ADHD, might as well say you don't like blacks or gays or women or good dancers. Just another way for the judgemental to figure their way is the ONLY right way. Cuz factories and offices must be the only way to be a proper human right?

[@oabilemmatli4150]

I wasn't really paying attention but I get the idea 😅

[@kartofelmel]

When i go shopping, and see a long line, I often walk around more in the shop waiting for the line to be shorter. The worst is if i am in the line and the chasier felles slow or a person in front of me have a lot of items, i will pretend i forgot somthing leave the line and walk around the store. This often means i buy more stuff and it takes longer.

[@kekedwyer6340]

I used to take a “personal day” the first day back to work after summer, which was a “conference like setting” with 5 hours of groups shuffling.

[@Mumu_UwU]

I’m not sure of how many of adhd symptoms are actually normal human mammal behavior, like, we’re not meant to be sitting down for hours, our body might be telling us we need to move because being still will be harmful to our bodies, I’m curious about that fact, are there any studies that highlight the range of movement a human normally needs on a day to day basis to be healthy?

[@coolco1619]

So what cures there are please?

[@Mdaisydoodle]

I always have lots snacks and lots coffee or tea when I have to sit for any amount of time. Meetings, or even sports games.

[@katyellen4843]

If I don’t do it right now, I will forget completely.

[@Sereno44]

The employers start to realize all those behaviors pretty soon but what trigger a real process is when they discover the absence of executive functions

[@idontknowwhatimdoing.imlau3911]

Diagnosed at age 38. I honestly do not know how I was not diagnosed earlier.

[@bonkers420]

I think I was misdiagnosed by my therapist, I believe that I have ADHD not bipolar

[@matthewcuriel991]

Oh for sure the Waiting the turn thing is so debilitating for me that i honestly think its on a level an impairment ... Ive had a difficult life situation with both parents kinda abandoning me immediately after failing to get a college degree. Dont have the life skills where im use to job searching on top of many other things, dont have transportation and have a lot of other issues regarding that. But to my point, ive had the WORST time apply for jobs and doing that whole process or even do job interviews. My brain shutd off and even if i try to persevere my body panics or i become overwhelmed and regardless at a point i black out and find myself distracted at a point regardless. Its very sad because even though my parents took me and i got diagnosed with ADHD. I feel supremely unaccomodated. And havent really been doing the Adderall because of many implications requiring me to depend on my parents always having to every other month go to the ace to get meds. At the time, in college i felt it was placebo and also the idea i as a person heavily preoccupied with school and sucking at time management and organization i had to self monitor my Adderall intake was just highly stupid because id miss cycles often. But all that to say i think life with adhd as much as i Love to hyper focus on thongs especially things im passionatr about ... its in more ways been to my detriment and in many ways has fed into feelings of more codependency than i was already raised and conditioned under ... and all i want in life is really to not have to rely on others at all because im kinda over other people honestly.

[@susangoodchild4869]

Hi Mathew. Please don’t worry about relying on others. We all need other people to help in our lives in some way. Not only ADHD people. It’s hard when your time management is bad. I’m not diagnosed but have lots of traits including bad time management and I know it really annoys those around me but it is who I am. Using alarms on my phone and notes around the house helps me . Sometimes I might have 3 alarms in a short time space because I can be distracted easily and forget again. A little excercise and fresh air each day helps me too. Wishing you well.

[@matthewcuriel991]

@@susangoodchild4869 appreciate the response truly by the way! I do need to get into the habit of trying more alarm setting for the more routine aspects of things because i did use to feel alarm setting had benefits in college when i did it. And the walking outside im also inclined to agree ever since i started doing that things have been better especially in clearing my mind and stress relief. Again thank you for responding ill take what you said with me

[@laraoneal7284]

I get easily overwhelmed thus very stressed when possibly others in my same situation would not be as stressed. That’s why I think I’m misunderstood but I’m doing the best I can. Executive function is not my strong suit to say the least.

[@Chizuru94]

I have ADHD-HI and my symptoms are not as apparent and people can even have ADHD with not all of this or not much of this applying, sadly. Or well, maybe I'm not noticing my symptoms as much atm (like, the classical ones) since I'm depressed nowadays. Also, sucks that the kid symptoms are used here and not other stuff :/ But oh well x-x Hope everyone will figure out if they have it or not, but best if they all do a deep dive and check other resources also. Not everyone with ADHD is the same, not everyone has this or that or every symptoms or that apparent and for some, it's masked (whether due to bad experiences or depression etc.) But the symptoms I had the most as a kid were severe impulsivity and doing some risky stuff without thinking, interrupting others all the time, saying stuff I shouldn't impulsively, always had smth going on (like in forums or later on anime fansubbing for 3-4 years and me subbing 2-3 anime alone a season), talking too much and too fast and yeah, interrupting on and intruding on others (I never had any idea that was bad until the age of around 18). So yeah, with 18/when I got out of school, some of my symptoms calmed down a bit, but my emotional dysregulation, impulsivity and lack of motivation are still really bad + depression + anxiety + OCD + social anxiety and more now due to untreated ADHD for years (despite being diagnosed as a kid with around 10, but the meds were unbearable for me). And yup, I also write way too much. All the time, every time, since I learned how to write x-x

[@laraoneal7284]

You are very self aware. Congratulations on that. Most don’t have a clue about themselves.

[@laraoneal7284]

When I’m interested in something I am never distracted. If I don’t like being in a meeting or wherever I’m very distracted I want to leave. As an adhdr from what I’ve read it’s the mind that is overactive not necessarily the body. There is primarily a problem with executive function. We have disregulation problems. I have big problems with procrastinating also.

[@Marses970]

ADHD IS A different wiring of the brain, not a sickness. Give us clues, kindly set limits and enjoy our creative problem solving and amazing ideas observations and quick fun minds. We are not sick ADHD is p need to educate those I work with or care about me for to help them helping me, around me

[@Yumamafresh]

For ADD/ADHD people being around loved ones will have no symptoms or less, like when I was little.

[@joannegiven189]

I have really bad ADHD and I find horseback riding is the only thing that calms me down 100%🐴🐴🐴💛

[@cabococarlos1936]

Hi

[@danholm4952]

all of em

[@Pathdrc]

For me, I feel like I have to do it now, because I fear I will forget why I needed the other person's help.

[@richardpickles6026]

Had it all my life can't take meds for it ad it causes psychosis iv also got eupd gad depression schizophrenia

[@nigguhplzx6672]

for point number 5, I do that because I know I'll forget about it if I don't

[@clifb.3521]

I'm still trying to figure out if both Dr Judy (😍😍😍 ) & Kyle are really interacting with each other or was this stitched together in Godzilla meets Raymond Burr style biz

[@a1ar127]

Re: #8. Nothing drives me more nuts is waiting in a line where there might be 3-4 terminals (eg grocery cashiers) and they all have, say, 5 people in each line. I’ll INEVITABLY choose the line where somebody ahead of me takes forever finding their cash or card…. By the time I get waited on there’s NO ONE in any of the lines any more. I could’ve showed up ten minutes later and checked out an any line without delay. Why is that???

[@rongike]

I understand Kyle doesn't want to live in LA but I miss MedCircle's old format 😞

[@smilingu2741]

I get that feeling when you need to sit and listen but I always thought it was my anxiety. I move my feet alot and move my legs but the worst part is losing concentration. Is that my anxiety or could it be ADHD?