Advice To Someone Going Through Divorce | Dr. Omar Suleiman

Advice To Someone Going Through Divorce | Dr. Omar Suleiman | Ask Me Anything

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10 ай бұрын

#divorce #islam #muslim
Disclaimer: This is not a substitute for one-on-one counseling. But many questions I've received are from sincere brothers and sisters navigating divorce. This is some advice that I hope is beneficial as they trek through very difficult waters.

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@khadijafatima9240 2 ай бұрын

“O Allah, I hope for Your mercy. Do not leave me to myself even for a blink of an eye. Correct all of my affairs for me. There is none worthy of worship except You.”

@Adam_Kazmi 10 ай бұрын

‘ *I’m divorced and I have No children and I forgave my ex wife and I ask God almighty to forgive me and my family and God Allah almighty to forgive my Ex wife and her family on the day of judgment and let us all enter the highest paradise*

@hasanrana1059 Ай бұрын

I felt like you were me. I pray for the exact same thing. I pray for her all the time. Miss her. but things got too complicated due to misunderstanding and the lack of trust. Allah SWT is the best planner.

@lailamohamed848 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Dr. Omar. , I’ve helped me fall in love with our Deen , they way you teach Allah’s words is beyond beautiful. You made me not to fear Allah but to love him. ; for that I’ll never be able to thank you. May Allah continue to bless and protect you and those whom you love ❤️.

@siegmeyer995 10 ай бұрын

Fully agree. It is a delight to hear Dr. Omar's teaching in this day and age

@meaningfeel 10 ай бұрын

Ameen

@sitimzee5817 8 ай бұрын

AMEEN.

@zezaaa123 10 ай бұрын

I feel most of the divorces are coming from women. Which tells me, that men need to change and behave better and treat their wife’s better. I don’t think any women would like to choose to be divorced. It’s easier for a men to get a new wife then for a women. I can only repeat myself, men need to change. Women need to raise good men. Fathers need to cooperate with their wife’s in order to raise good men! Everyone is envolved in this cycle!

@deedeee6271 10 ай бұрын

I think only a father can really raise a good man. We need more involved fathers. Women raise boys.

@zezaaa123 10 ай бұрын

@@deedeee6271 it depends on your definition about a man. My understanding of a man, is someone who knows his responsibilities, is nice towards his family and others because of his good character, someone who is trying to achieve his goals, is passionate determined focused and trustworthy. Someone who has his own thaughts and knows his only one creator. This person can be definitely raised by men and women. So both of them are involved! A women can definitely raise a good man :) and vice versa.

@deedeee6271 10 ай бұрын

@@zezaaa123I agree, and yes I think women can contribute to the raising of a good man. I am just commenting on whey you said that "fathers need to cooperate with their wives in order to raise good men". To men, it seemed like women are in the forefront and me are helping. I think in this regard, men must take the forefront and raise boys, not be on the sidelines.

@razamughal4582 8 ай бұрын

Women have made themselves WORTHLESS by preventing four marriages. The issue is with the WOMAN not the man. He cannot assign value to something worthless. These women have been raised by bad hindu mothers FULL STOP and then Allah is going to throw more women into hell than men. Because preventing four marriages comes under the category of showing un gratitude to your husband.

@cafer12098 8 ай бұрын

Some communities give marriage courses for the youth and I have taken one, it all seems to boil down to 2 things, live a healthy life (purposeful, curious and fulfilled) and be open to getting help.

@313289 7 ай бұрын

Assalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu Mashallah brother Sh. Suleiman you’re such a blessing to our shared Umma and to humanity! I recently went through a divorce after 19 years of marriage and 4 children, the kind of divorce that had to happen due to safety reasons. It has been extremely difficult, however Alhamdulillah due to the fact that I have been holding tight to the rope of Allah and the Quran, Alhamdulillah. I would never have chosen divorce if I had a choice. This is the first time I heard any Imam talk about divorce with so much hikma and kindness, it literally made me cry. I needed to hear this. Jazaakumullah Khairan May Allah Tallah continue to bless you and your family fee dunya Wal aahirah Ameen.

@MSAMSAMSAMSA 10 ай бұрын

BarakAllah fik, thank you for the reminder. Gem for me : 'The other person may be more invested in the marriage. Don't play with their life like that. '

@amsatouaidara6576 9 ай бұрын

Specially that respect is important

@KnurSy 10 ай бұрын

JazakAllah Khair dear respected sheik!. BarakAllah Feek. Wonderful advices . Ameen .

@nagamanibattu5250 8 ай бұрын

Great information ,presented very humbly

@FarhaFarooq 10 ай бұрын

It's truly remarkable the amount of truth and peace you feel when listening to Dr. Omar Suleiman. He upholds great sincerity and pureness which you can hear from his heart as he speaks. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and for teaching it to the ummah. We all are grateful for it. May Allah continue to bless and reward you Ameen🤲🏼

@dialykabarobaro6358 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for bringing this topic May Allah help us all

@k.c3239 10 ай бұрын

Brother Omar Suleiman It's the kindness in your soul and the qualities of our beloved Prophet Muhammad S.A.W I see everytime you speak or are interacting with someone 💚

@batoolkhawar9191 9 ай бұрын

Jazakallah khair imam

@bizabbizimana1865 Ай бұрын

Beautifully Put. Jazzakallah khairan

@MS-gj5cp 10 ай бұрын

Thank you dearest brother 🙏

@mbisinojah201 10 ай бұрын

Jazakalah Khairan

@user-qg7ck7sg4b 10 ай бұрын

Masha Allah, Sheikh Omar, you are a truly inspiring scholar who has provided guidance and knowledge to me and countless others, enabling us to learn and deepen our connection with our faith.

@naziakhanum9937 Ай бұрын

Jazakallahu qairan for the advise

@ishmaelmansaray8719 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Sheik Omar for this advice about talaq

@bettinawilson9660 10 ай бұрын

Assalamu Alaikum to all...choukran to you brother and Imam Omar for this message it is definitely needed. Divorce 😢 often an ugly situation speak process. I believe that if two adults have a clear and honest mind and respect for themselves and their partner and families, they can make something positive with these shuddered pieces. IN'SHALLAH These were their partners wives husband's mothers and fathers of their children, and they still have a responsibility. But if the marriage was not healthy, how can the challenge of a divorce be healthy? Hate and arguing and bad talk are not basics of Islam..what do you children see..what you want them to see? Two respectable adults with dignity and respect for each other and all parties involved

@UmmI943 10 ай бұрын

Shaykh Omar jazakallah Khair for addressing this important topic. I have been looking for a book on divorce that explains how to tackle and handle it with Ihsan. Please can you write a book/let about this.

@themuslimmum 10 ай бұрын

Alhamdulillah akhi, good advice for couples going through a rough patch

@user-gc1rw9xq2n 8 ай бұрын

Subhanallah

@kamiksss 6 ай бұрын

‏السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته Please keep me in your duaas, as I just found out my husband (who I’m sponsoring) has gotten married back home. He was planning on divorcing me as soon as he got his conditions removed from his greencard… now I am going through a fraudulent marriage claim through immigration… it’s depressing on so many levels, I was a strong proponent for those who come to the USA legally and how hard it is for people to get here legally… now I’m dealing with this, and for clarification I’m not opposed to plural marriage, but I’m definitely opposed to abusing the system and using people

@shanazbegum5824 4 ай бұрын

So sorry to hear what you going through. I pray Allah guide you in this hard time, I had gone through same scenario once upon time, no fault of mine immigration thought it was a sham marriage . Now this man put me through such a mess. Now his in another country married happily with a kid. ALLAH help us.

@VictoriousDrucilla 10 ай бұрын

Ameen 🤲🏾

@rayaanshafi99 10 ай бұрын

Right after seeing the title of this video, I was expecting that you will say something on taqwa ... and alhamdullillah (and not surprisingly) you did! Jazakumullahu khayran, Shaykh. The command to have taqwa in Surah At-Talaq reminds me of another verse where Allah said, "Satan threatens you with poverty and orders you to immorality (fahsha) - while Allah promises you forgiveness from Him and bounty. And Allah is All-Encompassing, All-Knowing" (2:268). The connection that I see here is that, during or after a divorce, people tend to operate according to a "loss" frame of mind. They think that getting divorced may result in a reduction in their food, income, support, rizq, etc. (and this may then compel them into making an unethical decision). So, in Surah At-Talaq, Allah reverses this loss mindset into a gain mindset by telling us about the miraculous gains that can occur for the people who are God-conscious: Allah will make a way out for them, He will make everything easier for them, and He will provide them with aid and rizq from unexpected places. I shared more related thoughts on this idea in the following post on QuranReflect: quranreflect.com/posts/19138

@FarhiaAbdi-ei2tf 5 ай бұрын

Allahu Akbar 🤲🤲🙏☝️😘🥺

@MsMoonsClassroom 10 ай бұрын

Ameen 🙏🏽

@haleemanaseer8228 10 ай бұрын

Jazakallah khair brother to give small talk on this topic. May Allah protect us from shatan’s wispers and guide us to the right path. 🙂

@meaningfeel 10 ай бұрын

Ameen

@Youbettersaysubhanallah 10 ай бұрын

سبحان الله وبحمده عدد خلقه ورضا نفسه وزنة عرشه ومداد كلماته Subhan Allah wa bihamdihi 'adada khalqih wa rida nafsihi wa zinata 'arshih wa midada kalimatih

@samisalauddin4472 10 ай бұрын

May Allah swt reward you for your hard work.

@FarhaFarooq 10 ай бұрын

Ameen

@dhurata2461 8 ай бұрын

Jazakum Allahu Khayran. I'm terribly devastated by my divorce. I cannot get over it and am so depressed yet he moved on.

@softwaifu 4 ай бұрын

Inshallah you will find something so much bigger and more beautiful than before 🤲🏽

@user-jl2gp2ef3h 3 ай бұрын

May Allah Almighty ease your pain , Ameen!

@_dee_3127 9 ай бұрын

Ameen 😢

@everseeking60 10 ай бұрын

MashaAllah.

@tanzilaleeya 6 ай бұрын

Ameen Ameen Ameen.

@tanweerchiktay7482 10 ай бұрын

Wa Alaikum mus Salaam wa Rahmatullahi ta Ala wa Barakatu

@heenasyed7861 9 ай бұрын

Ask me anything,so I just want you to make a video on how you manage time,obviously full time job for your deen,other than that I just want to know everyday routine and if you’re not in this field like serving islam,helping others understand religion etc I just want to know if you weren’t in this place what job you would have taken ?Just want to know your routine,forms of dhikr,how much time you allot to family and oll If you could just wrap up it in even 1min short that also would be a lot of help😊

@rachidablg4819 10 ай бұрын

Well that’s advices are when divorce isn’t for a major reason exemple kofr apostasy. a man who make bad actions and don’t have fear of Allah swt you can not say to the women to think about what good he have done during the nikah… wa allah o a3lam maybe I don’t have the ability to think like you said on the video. Jazakallah ustad.

@ts7371 9 ай бұрын

I stopped my kid from seeing her alcoholic, drug addicted, physically abusive father. No regrets

@julaighkha2502 9 ай бұрын

Bismilllahirahman neeraheem ASALAMU ALAIKUM Warahmattulahi Wabarakatuhu Shiekh was I married to him the Shiekh that recites

@Ayisha857 10 ай бұрын

Assalamu alaykum! Could we pray duhur qadha in Asr? Which prayer time convention method is one supposed to follow in Mumbai, India? (There is no mosque in my locality. It's a non- muslim community) What if one doesn't want to get married. Is it obligatory in Islam?

@Bayoo2022 10 ай бұрын

Assalamu alaikum Dr.Omar, Is it ok to do Arabic calligraphy with Quran verses on canvas or something and keep on my wall?

@hasanrana1059 Ай бұрын

Taqwa is a two way street in a relationship!!! I can forgive my spouse but I cannot surrender my life. I still love them, care about them, pray for them and will remember them for the rest of my life. I cannot give them the KEY to ruin my life if they decide to divorce me down the line with kids involved. I live in Canada - and I believed it is better to end it now because I did not wanted to live a suffocating live where my feelings and mental health didn't matter. What the point of a relationship if there is no transparency, no trust and above all it mainly one sided!!!. I have people depending on me and I cannot go to jail on false charges or become a servant to the government. The details at immense and I still pray to Allah that it could have worked out and my heart aches everyday. If there was a way to hold my spouse to their promises then I would get back together immediately. I want nothing from them other than sincerity, guidance, care, kindness and love. Allah SWT knows best.

@Omibrahim21 8 ай бұрын

Please give advice to us reverts. I am in a position where I know divorce is necessary even though I don’t want it but my husband is pushing for it. I live alone in a Muslim country and I fear that going back to the U.S. with my children may cost not only my akhirah but my children’s as well. I fear going back as I don’t come from a Muslim family, I always wanted my children to be surrounded by Muslims and for that reason I have been trying my best to make this marriage work but it is only I putting in the effort and he is adamant on divorce. How can we make the best decision for our children and their upbringing? I would not bear the pain of leaving my children behind in this country so it isn’t an option for me but I also fear them going astray in the U.S. I don’t have a Muslim community to go home to or even Muslim family to feel comfortable enough to raise my children around. I am truly shattered.

@313289 7 ай бұрын

Assalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu sister 😢My heart goes out to you and your family. I just went through a divorce and I don’t wish it to my enemy. I was born and raised Muslim and I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you. Please be careful and find someone who you can trust to support you but most importantly trust Allah. Also read Surah Baqarah as much as possible even daily if possible. May Allah Tallah show you the way and protect you and your family AmeenAllah

@seekthetruthandthetruthwil2388 7 ай бұрын

Call upon Jesus, Who will answer you. Be blessed!

@irumkhan3381 25 күн бұрын

Sister, is he a good Muslim and a good father? If no to both, then leave him, take your kids, and work hard at raising them to be good Muslims, in your own country . Allah will provide, and protect them

@gawageldenhuys1896 10 ай бұрын

Algamdoelielah. All that ribald against my name is clear . During my divorce. Allah Akbar. I wnt going to do it again

@MsSham5 8 ай бұрын

Divorce in anger ? Which is valid please ?

@gawageldenhuys1896 10 ай бұрын

All that riba is clear.algamdoelielah

@Ash23 10 ай бұрын

👍🏻

@abcd1903 5 ай бұрын

Me and my parents are very stressed. I recently got married. Me and my husband we both work. First, he asked me for 50% financially contribution in our mutual expenses like food, rent, bills,groceries. I didn’t want that and refused. he started threatening me for divorce so, I said okay. Then he asked me to give up my personal bank account and to put my salary and his salary in one joint account. I didn’t want that. I told him that we can have 4 accounts.1 account for mutual expenses, 1 account for savings and 1 his personal account and 1 mine. He doesn’t agree and says that if I can’t give up my personal account we can’t live together. He will consider that I don’t trust him and since then he is telling me that we can’t live together. I have spoken to his mother and his parents support him and I’m living at my parents house. What should I do? Should I get a khula?

@zarakareem4716 3 ай бұрын

Splitting the bills 50/50 is fairly normal now a days. However do not share all your money with him and don’t put all your money into a joint account, he can take all of it. Your point of 4 accounts is reasonable. If he is against it, he is just trying to take your money. I would end it

@Kurt5Dobson 9 ай бұрын

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

@DarylSimpson58 9 ай бұрын

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

@Kurt5Dobson 9 ай бұрын

@@DarylSimpson58 Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

@DarylSimpson58 9 ай бұрын

@@Kurt5Dobson Her name is *Victoria Lee hess*, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

@Kurt5Dobson 9 ай бұрын

@@DarylSimpson58 Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

@salmaz315 9 ай бұрын

😢😢

@sarahally2821 10 ай бұрын

Salam, I would say people entered marriage not with high expectations but rather unrealistic expectations

@WipedOutTears 9 ай бұрын

Shahana Dhagha, ICNA, ISB represtative first told me about a marriage of 2006. It wasn't me. Had no idea who is this person or where she got this info. Nasreen Rahman, ICNA specialist work together with Shahana Dhaga. My ex husband said, police knows how to find me. Now, this Muslim community in Waldorf, keep telling me SHOULD WE CALL 911 FOR YOU? How do I response to them? Where I have no address, no court filing yet, what I am going to do calling 911?

@4evrcursed 2 ай бұрын

I am divorced in Shariah but not on papers. Wasn't a good wife, he lost his temper , said I divorce you a couple of times and now I am a single mother of 3 and he not able to move on to a new marriage😢

@Ichbinmich346 10 ай бұрын

Asalam Alaikum brother. I have a question. Are women allowed to travel alone in islam or she must travel with her mahram? Can you please talk about this in a video 🙏🏼

@zahidavally6193 10 ай бұрын

Please talk about this, and for hajj and umrah jazakallah, women group do hajj and umrah please advise what is sunnah, to much confusion

@deedeee6271 10 ай бұрын

Ustadha Maryam Amir addressed this topic. She is on YT under her name.

@Ichbinmich346 10 ай бұрын

@@deedeee6271 thank you so much🙏🏼

@Ichbinmich346 10 ай бұрын

@@zahidavally6193 yesss I really wanna know if it’s permissible to travel alone for trips or with friends and hajj etc…

@razamughal4582 8 ай бұрын

No they cannot. The fact that price salman allows it for hajj and umrah is simply because he now has a way of making profit from women.

@cheekiangel95 9 ай бұрын

Do you have to observe Iddah in situations where the husband has been verbally abusive and also physically violent?

@AhmedRaza-lh4oj 2 ай бұрын

Don't forget your abuses

@gawageldenhuys1896 10 ай бұрын

I'm sorry for my behavior. I feel 😪 bad . Forgive me .

@munisahasanova9587 10 ай бұрын

Assalamu Alaikum! I have a question please can you answer me? In our country they don’t allow women to wear hijabs at schools or work places. I went to study abroad without knowing that it’s not permissible to travel alone, I found out about it a month ago and told my parents that it’s sinful and I don’t want to be sinner but they don’t listen to me and forcing me to go and continue my studies! Please can you give me advice 🥺

@jammysUlagam24 4 ай бұрын

Assalamu Alaikum ...I lastly met my husband before 3 years I was taking care of my bedridden mother she died before 6 months...He and his mother didn't support me ...finally through Fasah procedure we got divorce.. I am not clear about what is the iddah period for Fasah procedure and how to be in iddah period can i stay in my home during my iddah period... Someone please clarify URGENT..

@khadijafatima9240 2 ай бұрын

Walaikum assalaam sister Divorced women remain in waiting for three periods,

@khadijafatima9240 2 ай бұрын

2:227) And if they resolve on divorce,247 surely Allah is All-Hearing, All-Knowing. (2:228) Divorced women shall keep themselves in waiting for three menstrual courses and it is unlawful for them, if they believe in Allah and the Last Day, to hide whatever Allah might have created in their wombs.