ADVICE TO YOUNG WOMEN | Watch this before you turn 40 feeling like a loser with no life or purpose

[@niceplayground]

1. Start family on your own terms 1:00 2. Never settle for less 2:16 3. Travel now 2:48 4. Advocate for yourself 4:04 5. Dare into challenging roles 5:38 6. Manage your finances 6:38 7. Healthy relationships 7:10 8. You are not God don't try to control everything 7:54 9. Self reflection 9:02 10. Build resilience 10:26 11. Believe in yourself 11:40 12. Never stop learning 12:48 13. Be flexible 14:46 14. Be an example 15:18 15. Self acceptance 15:40

[@zariayong]

Thank you for watching dear

[@HisPrincess_]

Love this !!

[@neomasenkane5267]

I'm 29 with a 1 year old. No job, not married but I feel so grateful that I came across this video. This is a message I needed to hear from God and thank you so much. I want so so much for myself and my son.

[@zariayong]

Friend I am glad the video reached you and you found it helpful. Part 2 will be live in a couple hours. Please come back soon

[@dorothytulah263]

This get married mindset from our parents needs to go. Agree

[@zariayong]

It is. Thanks for watching

[@flyflyfly2123]

Not too far behind you but Im black American and was forbade from dating as a teen. It didn’t help that i had very very low self esteem and confidence as a child. When i went to college I was completely lost in dating and it was a very rocky time in learning what I should’ve learned as a child and also building up my confidence from scratch. I went through 2 tumultuous relationships that both last 2-3 years. I went on a 4 year break to really find myself. Now I’m 31 and healed and finally ready to be in a serious relationship again and I feel like I’ve missed my mark. 31 no kids, no relationship, my career is the only thing i have to take pride in.

[@zariayong]

Thank you for your feedback. I would not say it is late for you. You have healed and can start in your own terms and that is a good thing.

[@zariayong]

Don't rush to get into a relationship or have kids. Let the kind of partner be the determining factor and not the time

[@sbusisiweshaba1715]

Just curious, do you think dating as a teen would have helped your self-esteem and confidence?

[@zariayong]

@sbusisiweshaba1715 Sure ill try but stand to be corrected. It may or may not have. Dating a narcissist at any age for example can reduce your self confidence to Zero and this can happen to even the most confident person in the room. The goal In my opinion should be to get to know self, have self love and self confidence prior to dating such that we are able to tell which date will potentially contribute to growing our confidence vs running it down. At any age you can only make a decision based on the info you have and you may be lied to, pick wrong, have a heartbreak but then learn a lesson or 2. Flip side you can meet people who bring out the best in you and even teach you to value yourself more and keep up with your standards. That said we want o have high self-esteem, self love, and a healthy self while dating in order to be a healthy partner in the relationship too, not go in looking for someone to fix/ complete us. Hope I made sense. 🙏

[@joanmuraguri1382]

I am 31, a young child, a silly ex and trying to get a career. Its okay x. You are doing amazing

[@lmusima3275]

I was brought up by a west African mum. She never allowed me to even stay out after 8pm when I was 16. Even when I went to college and university I missed out on travelling and widening out. Then I was asked one day you will be married. I thought how since I lacked certain social skills

[@zariayong]

It's al lof us from the continent. Not cool at all. Thanks for watching

[@mosesomorogbe3678]

You don't need social skills as a woman to be married. In fact, social skills might be counterproductive in finding a mate. We like your purity and innocence. Don't listen to BS everywhere.

[@ScissorN]

@@mosesomorogbe3678 purity and innocents that you yourself don’t even have 😂 when have you seen the devil going around asking for people to be holy? 🤔 you man are confused …

[@chingangsandra716]

Working towards my financial independence. Goal is to grind now and enjoy my later years

[@zariayong]

Routing for you boo

[@thephoenixlady]

Same here, It's tough but, I will keep pushing All the best 😊

[@zariayong]

@@thephoenixlady You got this sis! We keep pushing

[@mineandmine4528]

I am 40 years old. Love yourself first , walk away from who ever doesn’t value you. (This also includes family). Take care of your health and well being. Do not build up anyone else but you.

[@zariayong]

Thank you for sharing!!

[@lullaby2711]

We are all where we are supposed to be , married women are not always happy,being a mum, to be a single mum is not the best. So enjoy your Life and be grateful for what you have

[@zariayong]

This is an excellent point which is very often overlooked. Thank for sharing this! Grass is not always greener on the other side.

[@mercedesnicole641]

Look getting married and staying married is a beautiful thing but don’t feel like a failure if ur not married or no kids or no husband ur still valuable just because ur alive n kicking n needed in this world-

[@zariayong]

Yass @mercedesnicole641. Totally agree. Better than married and miserable

[@labaker3477]

Thank you

[@AkosuaBiggles]

Married to the right person is beautiful

[@Oliviaaaalove]

I’m 26 with 2 kids NOT MARRIED, however, I am taking what you are saying into consideration & I appreciate you making this video I am grateful for coming across this, I have been settling for less in the relationship with my children’s father but I am waking up , owning my part in it & taking the right steps out of it ‘ I know that all great things are still available to me, I may have to travel with my boys but I wanted that anyway ☺️ thanks again

[@zariayong]

I'm glad you found it helpful. Thanks for your feedback. Wishing you just the best 👌

[@moonwqlker5844]

ngl all i want is to get out of my family and move in to someone else’s house. don’t worry tho they’re someone i can trust. got no money, no job, don’t even know how to drive. but i know that moving out is the next step to having the rest. i know it, i’m sick of my toxic family, and i know i am better off without them. no matter how much it hurts. more than what has been advocated in this video (which is important i will not deny that) you gotta get rid of the old skins, get rid of the ones who don’t align. even if it’s family. let’s hope i make it out. and soon 🤞🏼

[@zariayong]

Tell me about that. I am for non toxic environments. Totally agree. Wish you the best.

[@sbusisiweshaba1715]

African parents not wanting 15, 16, 17, 18 to date is actually a good thing, protected me from bad choices. Dating after 18 or later is better, cause you are more mature and better at decision making. Guys below 18 are kids themselves and mostly not looking for anything serious, same goes for alot of men in their early 20s. So in my opinion i support African parents trying to protect their children, but i don't support pressuring people into marriage and my parents never pressured me, I thank God for wonderful parents.

[@zariayong]

Totally agree with you. Thanks for your feedback. It's about the pressure right after. Some do so while finding someone they think is a good fit to marry their girls. Not to say people cannot find love earlier or later in life.

[@tessy28]

Actually I agree I didn't date in my teens. My first bf was at 18 and I still had enough time to experience relationships. Relationships in early teenage years can cause a lot of issues later

[@zariayong]

@@tessy28 Totally agree. Thanks for your feedback.

[@tinalove7860]

My life was cut short in my twenties. 23 I got married the relationship was abusive and shouldn't be i got pregnant and had my daughter and was left completely on my own when she was 9 months lol so my 20s went by quickly. Im in my 30s now single mom although my child is a bit bigger now it's hard. Everybody says just find a good men now and I had some options with good men I just didint love them felt nothing for them. Now I sort of feel a bit stuck in my life but hopefully this will change soon 🙏

[@zariayong]

Hi @tinalove7860. Thank you for clicking on the video and leaving your feedback. You mentioned the point of finding a good man but not being in love with them and that is a great point. I am glad you won't settle for what your heart does not desire however, I don't want you to think you are "stuck". Trust me each new day comes with its own miracles. Remain hopeful. I personally just leave it to my God because what really can we control in life? He makes everything beautiful in his own time. That is what keeps me going. I hope you get the change you desire in your heart sooner than you expect. hugs!

[@mariekano9730]

You're young and gorgeous and intelligent. Life is not a race! Society always has these ground rules on what age you should be doing this point of your life etc. You should be married etc. DO YOU! take care of yourself, you have time! Life plans you. All you need to do is keep moving forward. God will do the rest

[@mariekano9730]

P.S I'm 30 no kids not married. I have a bf but I'm not wasting my time on him if he's not willing to commit to marriage.

[@zariayong]

Totally agree. God makes everything beautiful in his own time. Thanks for your feedback!

[@krii998]

no other words just straight up perfection 👌💯

[@zariayong]

Thank you

[@PurpleCrack13]

This vid felt like chatting with the big sister many of us girls never had a chance to have❤❤

[@zariayong]

Awe. Look here. I didn't have one myself so I understand that feeling. Subscribe dear. Editing more bc there is just a lot to be shared so we are aware of what's coming

[@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439]

Telling your kids to avoid strangers is great disservice to them

[@zariayong]

Thank you for watching and sharing your opinion. Appreciated!

[@accordingtodaye]

I'll be turning in 5-months. I have no partner, no kids or anything. I use to idolize marriage alot and I want to get married one day, i just had to stop idolizing it and focus on my purpose and what God is wanting me to do for his kingdom, and in Gods timing my husband will find me. But I am working on some projects and a brand i want to fully launch next year and just heal, be in therapy consistnetly , grow my relationship with God etc.

[@zariayong]

Sounds like a great plan. Routing for you!

[@dshericemo1144]

Omg, I love you. I’m crying, I needed this! ❤

[@zariayong]

Kind of sorry you have to cry to know this but I am glad you found found it helpful. Its okay to cry. Hugs!🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@Tenacity_Daily]

Thank you so much 💓 🎉

[@zariayong]

You are welcome. Thanks for watching

[@aurelie1167]

this is such amazing advice, thank you for sharing🥰

[@zariayong]

Thank you for clicking on it, @Aurelie. My brother's name is Aurelian😉.

[@lakieabradley5095]

There are all types of women going through this reguardless of age...younger and older.

[@zariayong]

Totally agree. Thanks for your feedback

[@toquell7386]

Thank you so much. Such a role model!

[@zariayong]

Awe. Thank you!!

[@zariayong]

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[@chenaim23]

Smart advice 😊

[@zariayong]

Thank you @Chenaim23. Glad you clicked on the video

[@RidingInCarsWithMen]

40 second in… LIKE 👍🏽

[@zariayong]

Thank you so very much

[@RidingInCarsWithMen]

Thank youuu

[@dorothytulah263]

Ayeeee the video too sweet. You are our traibilizer❤

[@zariayong]

So are you boo!

[@cyyrious]

The fact you got 13k views vs other videos leads to believe many people feel like you, or loves to hear others doing worse, or just curious. It is very telling

[@zariayong]

I think people are looking to gain more info and do better, and a lot of the viewers are women who grew up without sisters to guide them. Parents usually shy away from these conversations with kids too. I will like to know why you clicked?🤗

[@RoseTheRealest]

It’s just not your time yet, please stop letting society tell you when you should get married.

[@zariayong]

Totally agree. Thanks for your feedback.

[@ericaamariajonas2383]

Yesssssss

[@zariayong]

Thank you dear!

[@Web543]

❤❤ AGREE

[@zariayong]

Thank you Mo!

[@SILENCIAQUEEN]

Good talk

[@zariayong]

Thank you Alliyah

[@ArishiaMosely]

I am 32.... 1991. We have a ways to go... stay Narrow. Grow Boldly.

[@zariayong]

Thanks for watching

[@Haphor]

Smart babe ❤❤

[@zariayong]

Thank you

[@sherry-leeadams1355]

Do your birth chart or natal chart to gain insight in your life

[@zariayong]

Thanks for watching

[@zoilalulu3798]

Consider yourself lucky that you don't have kids or a husbands. It's a thankless job.

[@zariayong]

It is. Thanks for your feedback.

[@ArishiaMosely]

Have you every truly study scripture???? Have you known of an Eunuch? Yahuah design every person as they own individual. Every person do as they please. Even eating something which had life, The Most High Yah requires dem life with overstanding 1 shall not kill any way.... so, Why not study A Eunuch? Yahusha, son of Mariam, son of Yah, He spoke to the people saying people may and may not accept themselves as whom they are.... so why not just embrace the imagine Yah created You and just keep clean for Heaven's sake... so many people today suffering because they know not the Word. Yahuah is the Almighty and You are probably set apart. You are probably set in positioning for a spe ial purpose. You are not truly losing. I know having family etc is nice however, people do not entirely overstand spiritually the original context. In fact, the seed of man is corrupt . Hence why Yah send His son Yahusha to be perfect. So, what are you missing? When He said to be fruitful..... that is misinterpret of having babies....however, does anyone in dem conscious MIND see that we as a people are to be the Fruit , spiritually..... We as a people are to multiply in love joy peace self control..... Does any 1 Inna conscious MIND think, for ooonnee steady minute, lusting for sex is NOT a command of Yahuah... in fact We as a people never knew what was of Good and Bad till We fornicated with Satan in the garden to exposing us spiritually as Naked.... There are lessons to be learnt. May Yahuah deliver your mind and place you in the right heat for a good growth.

[@zariayong]

The for watching

[@swisdom9117]

13:13 I don’t think that’s why they do it. They pay someone else to do lower level task so that they can focus on the more high level aspects of their job

[@zariayong]

Thanks for your feedback

[@evelyna_paula1747]

Marriage isn't for everybody. It is all sad, with or without a family. We shall all die, there is hate in the world your kids will face, etc.

[@zariayong]

It is not for everybody. Not everything is for everyone.

[@Mampleasewhat]

Can I just say u have a beautiful face.

[@zariayong]

Awe @jellybean9216. Thank you for the compliment. Put a smile on my face. I am pretty sure you even have a better one yourself. Thank you!

[@lc-il6wr]

The men are God!

[@zariayong]

Thank you for sharing. I may need more info to understand your point. You mean like Men feel like they are superior?

[@mwelukimindu5175]

A husband, children or a job doesn't give you purpose.

[@zariayong]

Thanks for your feedback. I think these may be what is important for some people though. Care to share with us what gives you purpose?

[@kneishaneefrancois]

if children a job marriage my only purpose i probably wouldn’t last with him 10 years what you say someone’s husband who has all these things?❓

[@zariayong]

Thanks for sharing dear. If I understand you well pls correct me if i misunderstood. I think a lot of people do. I am sure God wants us to find love, have a family and also fulfill our purpose in life. That said as adults we choose if going after one or all is what brings us joy and do just that. It is ok not to have any of the above so far as it makes us happy.

[@kneishaneefrancois]

periodt not looking is when all these things come sometimes we’re ready some we’re not 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@janayalaude4722]

You are beautiful beautiful 🥰😍

[@zariayong]

AWE!! Thank you beautiful!

[@themacandcheese2240]

Respectfully, this is the worst advice ever. I was OUTSIDE at 16 and all the people who was outside after 9/10 pm when they were 16 went through traumatizing stuff. You messed up when u didn’t prioritize making a family. All of your efforts should have went towards that in my honest opinion. U should’ve chosen a career to work hard to build for a family….: bc as a woman a family IS priority. Everything else revolves around that. The job, the trips, the fun, the passions … ALL are still possible with a GOOD partner.

[@zariayong]

Thanks for sharing your own point of view. As always, people have to do what's best for them despite the opinions on the video. If family is your priority, go for it. If its career go for it. No worries at all. Everyone knows best what's best for them and should follow their gut.

[@adaoraifeanafor9758]

Who adviced you to stay outside after 9/10pm? … everyone knows that it is late. The video never said such. How can you label her video as the worst advice ever, I bet you didn’t finish watching the video, cause she said a lot of good stuff.

[@MegaBladerunner007]

Not bad advice however, this monologue is incomplete without talking about geriatric pregnancy. Unlike men, women don't have all the time in the world to begin a family. Just sayin'.

[@zariayong]

Thanks for your feedback Mega!. I discuss this in pt 2. Will be live tomorrow

[@gailainsley6939]

Everyone already knows that. Most women do not want kids these days and men can have as long as they like but it’s women who choose whether he gets to be a father or not 😂 plus, many women are freezing their eggs now. So.. 😅

[@gailainsley6939]

⁠@@zariayong. Do not cover this. Men typically bring up age and fertility to Shame women into settling for them and giving them babies. We’ve heard it all before. 🙄 Do not cover it. Or if you do, tell women the importance of things like saving up towards procedures like egg freezing etc. rushing is never good for a woman.

[@MegaBladerunner007]

Besides stating your opinion and innuendo, what's your real point@@gailainsley6939

[@Baddiesoftheglobe]

Honestly its very important to feel fulfilled as a woman everything is not about a man the life of african woman is typically go to school then find husband then bare his children the end its very important to reach your goals before you get married or at least have children because once you have a family it will be very hard to focus on yourself lol i so dislike this part of being nigerian

[@zariayong]

Thank you for your feedback. Totally agree.