AFRICAN SPIRITUALITY: Getting married as a Bamileke

[@MsWade2012]

I was born in Jamaica, raised in America, and today I found out that my ancestors are the Bamileke people from Cameroon. This so exciting. I am ready to learn about my people.

[@chrismoore2918]

That's exactly how I ended up here too! Hi "Cousin!" My wife is Jamaican as well.

[@nows92]

Yeah ! I'm Bamileke from Bangangté !!! You should come and see your people just for a moment ... We are from Grassfield, our place in Cameroun is soooo beautiful and well to stay, the climate is good (Cold) ...

[@diannadanyahdandridge8569]

I'm happy to find your video. I'm African American and just got my DNA results that I'm Bamileke from 🇨🇲 Cameroon.

[@mclaincj1630]

Happy you found that out , our culture is very rich and abundant ! please dig into it from the food to the traditional garments

[@patriciaheath4634]

We had this here in Black America until my parent's generation (I'm in my 50's). My parents were introduced by their parents. Their parents were introduced by their parents. It wasn't as formal anymore, meaning the children were given a chance to make a choice, but they would be quick to pull their child out of there if they thought the circumstances were no good and forbid the child to see that person. There's no dowry that I know of. We had elders and families sticking their hands in all the younger people's choices. That's why the marriages used to last lol.

[@balindaewe6759]

Hi Ida, what about sacrifices ? Do you think that it's still something that we have to do ? Because I read an article which explains that a sacrifice is done to give energy to the ancestors and to God but, God doesn't need us to help him. He is all powerful. So what do you think about it ?

[@HarryJCLK]

I know this video is old but damn she's gorgeous

[@adrianborden1546]

I intend to become married to African spirituality.

[@anitawalters9250]

I really need to know dear since you know so much about Bamileke What is the significance of the father's family having the baby's umbilical cord in the village?

[@kojoelvis1124]

How do I know the traditional and list from the bride family? How much will that cost in dollars or pounds if I needed to send cash to have them purchased?

[@MakedaWisdom]

You would ask your in-laws. The price would depend on the local markets. For example, certain items may be way cheaper if they are in the village or rural area vs the city. It is better to buy the items and give them as it is not the monetary value but the symbolism that should matter. Thus, a family member or friend can buy the items right before you arrive so you can give them. If you are away, some families do a part without you present, represented by someone from your family and you do the rest when you get there. The point is that money should not replace you being there. Hope this was helpful.

[@kojoelvis1124]

@@MakedaWisdomAbsolutely splendid! I do appreciate your effort . The issue is both of us are abroad, I'm Ghanaian, she's Bamileke. Her family member rounded up the cost to CFA 200,000- 2,700,000f? Is that legit?

[@fanbatcher]

Certainly family involvement is much less in 2nd marriages or with older people who are living abroad

[@nates.2920]

What about about the polygamy element of Bamileke?

[@MakedaWisdom]

Hi Nate, What about it? Did you want me to talk about that?

[@abdullahrasheed1493]

@@MakedaWisdom yes.

[@kojoelvis1124]

​@@MakedaWisdom Can you please answer my question please

[@fanbatcher]

Sounds like Bamileke traditions are basically the same as the vast majority of non-western cultures. Marriage is communal act in most of the world.

[@FrnnkEducation]

So informative! Thank you

[@lovingLove2much]

Hello!!! This was a great post! Is the Bamileke people against letting the man marry a black American woman

[@wamba8520]

Absolutely not. I mean it depends on families but I'm pretty sure most families aren't against it as long as both parties respect the traditions and culture.

[@seekinggodfilms6966]

Hello how can we get in contact with you

[@MakedaWisdom]

my contact email is on my channel page.

[@juwe9516]

I have to a box full of clothes, shoes, jewellery etc among many other gifts to the family of the bride... No wonder in the modern day practices that the husbands easily away, take a mistresses but avoid any sort of bidding commitments.There are countless unmarried couples with children. These unwedded couples mostly prevalents in cities as oppose in the urban / villages. Divorce is always messy but it happens....no taboos about that.

[@balindaewe6759]

Hi Ida, what about sacrifices ? Do you think that it's still something that we have to do ? Because I read an article which explains that a sacrifice is done to give energy to the ancestors and to God but, God doesn't need us to help him. He is all powerful. So what do you think about it ?

[@MakedaWisdom]

Thank you for suggesting this topic! It is one that will cause many controversies but I will make a video on this because I believe it needs to be said and I have gotten many questions I cannot answer individually. Be on the look out for that video probably in August :)

[@balindaewe6759]

I'm always on the look for your vids ;) Thank you for doing this video :D