“After my second IVF failed, I wanted to die in an accident; I felt the baby rejected me”-Stephanie

This was a #WithChude classic, and usually those only happen with veterans. But this one was.
In between the most beautiful tears, cool kid and It-girl Stephanie Coker tells me about the heartbreak from her second IVF operation just last year, after spending over $40,000 and travelling to Los Angeles. She said after the IVF failed she called her friend and asked: ‘So where is the baby?’. She felt the baby rejected her because the baby didn’t like her and all she wanted to do after was die.
IVF was the only option because of her diagnosis of PCOS - a condition that led to her bleeding so much last year that she fainted and had to be rushed to the hospital, where she was confined to a wheelchair and at one point had to sleep outside in the garden because the ‘internal heat’ was too much.
And then in that same year, her husband lost his elections - held in the face of intense public scrutiny.
All of this while people think she has had the easiest life, using her British passport and her accent to build a career-to-die-for in Nigeria and having her wedding in an idyllic Greek island.
It was in the course of this interview that it occurred to her that, from the intense pain and shame of PCOS she has endured for two decades has finally come some light - her ‘Where the heck is my period? documentary that is rave of the moment.
“This feels like a release,” she said during the interview, and then at the end. “This was like therapy for me.”
I love our conversation so much, and I am so happy to be able to share this gem with you today.
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[@OyakhiromeOnosenigbuan]

Pastor Mildred Okonkwo had PCOS and God gave her 3 children.She won by the word of God. Mau God bless all waiting mothers with their babies.Amen.

[@francesada8488]

Amen 🙏

[@marilynhamilton9034]

PCOS doesn't equal infertility. A lot of women with PCOS get pregnant naturally.

[@user-xl5gn2lr3j]

Amen

[@enoo3393]

She has 2 biological children and one Adopted ..that's three in all

[@allegrabht8833]

I have 3 spontaneous pregnancy with endometriosis glory be to God

[@jaceewonderVevo]

When you begin find baby for marriage, you will know sex is work. It sucks to be a routine actually...😔

[@helinananky]

Absolutely right, is like marathon no finishing line, i will know my faith on Monday

[@OgaPita]

@@helinananky Hey. Hope it turned out as you hoped.

[@omowumiowoeye7898]

​@@helinanankyI pray it works out well for you. You'll have your baby in Jesus Name. Amen.

[@evolvingwithdebbie2502]

It's not necessarily silence, in my opinion many women experience the symptoms without a clear understanding of the condition. More than half are undiagnosed.

[@annabelenu1964]

Absolutely!

[@berniceako4956]

Yeah, i didn't understand until i understood

[@tegamerbeast7809]

Sometimes it is also silence, you'll be shocked at how many women know they have it, but don't disclose, cow of our culture of silence.

[@mojitaiwo2211]

I can relate, the cost, the effort, the pain, the disappointment. It's depressing.

[@ikechukwuluis-bruce2908]

Wow !!! Everyone has a story that you would never believe that happened to them.

[@AmakaN.]

The cost of having a baby is no jokes... ivf or not. Some people are just lucky, some ll have to just keep trying. I wish you can see these things in your palm lines or sth. Nothing prepares you for those negative results. I feel you steph!

[@murewaolubummo-ev2wf]

Told with so much grace snd humour.... Love her

[@obehigregory6714]

May God bless every woman desiring for the fruit of womb

[@user-xl5gn2lr3j]

Amen

[@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439]

Just a quick tip If you live with PCOS ,after 4 months of no bleed, please see your doctor to induce a bleed so that 1. Your protect your womb from cancer( this is one complication of PCOS) 2. And prevent such huge a build up as to make you pass out from bleeding I wish you well😊

[@ChidinmajenniferAkunyili]

May God heal you, Stephanie, and grant you your deepestdesires,amen..❤

[@OgaPita]

Chude is an interesting interviewer. You can tell he enjoys gossip. 😆 🤣 He knows how to get his guests talking.

[@tobeodika8549]

My dear sis, don't worry. God will compensate you in due season. Please, I know it's not easy, but just trust God & free your mind from worry. You will surely testify ❤

[@umeasiegbuchioma3596]

I love Stephanie so much🎉 God will give her the best ❤

[@toese]

😂😂😂😂 she's so funny... the stories were everywhere in the 1st half but so hilarious.... Steph, have you considered 'comedy'.... .... so sorry about the failed IVF.... God will restore. ...

[@aishaibrahimabbas5867]

Story of your life is inspiring dear Stephanie ❤ you will tell a different story soon and it will be beautiful. ❤

[@diywithlots3870]

Wooo!!! People go through stuffs, mehnnn...😭😭😭 How can we not just be kind to people around us? How can we just assume that things are going perfectly for the other person and not you. Life experiences can be tough. Dear Steph, you're such a strong woman and I pray God answers your heart desires ❤️❤️❤️ I celebrate you 🍹

[@temitopekareem9118]

The way she said this gist is so sweet. Was captivated and laughed alm through 😂

[@lindaegwuonwu3287]

Women go through a lot. Dear God, please help us.

[@user-ef9zz6sh4y]

PCOS comes with its different effects on women. I have learned to love myself and all my imperfections, because it is mentally and emotionally draining. And like she said, it affects EVERY part of your body/life. I never understood the pain of a miscarriage (pregnancy loss) until it happened to me. IVF is no joke, the process, the toll and the price. Women who are able to get pregnant easily do not know what special gift they have. Be grateful where you are, you do not know what other people, are going through. Some just know how to package themselves better than others. Stephanie dear, you are a public figure that I admire so so much. Never knew you had PCOS as well. I am sending you lots of love girl 💕💕💕. Focus on your healing. You need to heal first, give it time and do some therapy if you need to. Wishing you so much love and peace!!! 😘

[@helinananky]

We all have our stories after I had my multiples fibroid surgeries i try getting pregnant no way now i went for scanning and they discovered that there was uterus infection, next week I'm going for hysteroscopy procedure to know exactly what causes the infection, i hope and pray that i get treated and get pregnant, if not is either possible or not but i hope in God 🙏🙏🏻

[@chrysterfung5983]

Wishing you all the best. God is in control 🙏🏽

[@ejirougono7150]

May God see U through this

[@omowumiowoeye7898]

I join my faith with yours. May God grant your desires.

[@ugochijane_]

You will carry your babies.. Amen

[@promiseukpong9043]

They that put their trust in Him will never be put to shame.

[@Ngoziem]

I really appreciate this we need to talk about it more

[@messikalu9483]

Hmmmmm pcos is not a joke atall It drains me emotionally, financially because after I find out I had to change my diet , loose weight do this do that because I no understand y I have excess hair , excess fat even without eating Acne … my partner at that time he was telling me is normal but still no pregnancy anyways thankGOD for GOD mercy and grace I have my bundle of joy now ..

[@florenceflourish6367]

Please bring Actress Nse Etim or Model Nike Osinowo. They both went through endometriosis as well. Stephanie , thanks for enlightening women . God will make it easy for us all.

[@abbyo4632]

Endometriosis is evil!!!

[@agoiobunso]

She is amazing and beautiful very funny😂😂❤

[@jewelsbyk]

I have PCos been trying to conceive for 4 years now. I didn’t ivf twice and failed.

[@BrightEbimoboere]

I was more interested in the work gist. How mean people can be at work! They just collaborate to frustrate one. Interesting thing is like she said, she had no idea who or what was going on and she only sat but there's always someone in every Organization to misrepresent and misinterpret your actions. Humans! 😢

[@khemmai]

All you need is just that one door to open. The rest is history

[@RebeccaArewa]

It is well my love all this will end in praise IJN 🙏🏽 to her husband God will continue to strengthen you

[@Adebayobamidelealfredmoses]

Whao ! What a great experience girl !

[@sherifaadenmosun2512]

Such an honest conversation of raw loss. Sorry you had to go through this 😢

[@Timi-rw9hg]

Interesting conversation.

[@user-ej9yh4xc3t]

Your interviews always ends unexpectedly. Where is the complete interview na?

[@ritaekhaguere8769]

She's so hilarious ❤

[@zarahabdulkareem9769]

I can't wait to watch this interview i really love her❤

[@fatimabintjibril3038]

Did my baby not like me 🥹 mhmm that hurt

[@ChizobaGloria-hs4oy]

So much about women issues. A lot of men are having worse fertility issues and one can hardly hear it being talked about.

[@OmaTV821]

Chude pls continuation ooo, I love her ❤

[@WithChude]

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[@thekyauta364]

Alot of women are going through symptoms they dont understand, women related health issues should be discused and adequate easy to access care should be available in this country

[@lifeofanafricantailorgirl2168]

A lot of women who have the condition don’t know they have it until there is delay in conceiving and they go for compressive fertility tests. Is good there is more awareness about it now.

[@coralo2689]

Ruth? It’s the woman with the issue of blood but you could be right sha. She bled for 12years…

[@estherabiodunomolara7043]

Was surprised when she mentioned Ruth too

[@clickmama4857]

That sent meee lol girl even if nit a christian, Sunday school teachings ?

[@omowumiowoeye7898]

No, Ruth wasn't the one.

[@LoideNghidengwa]

What is the name of the documentary? I want to watch

[@Tia_13]

“Where the heck is my period” it’s on Amazon prime

[@chinezemadu3843]

Is there a reason for doing IVF in LA versus Nigeria? I thought it is more affordable in Nigeria. Praying you get another baby soon Stephanie 🙏🏾

[@mariantenzagh]

Yes, you’re right. It's mostly cheaper in Africa. A friend of mine came from Germany to Ghana for IVF treatment because their health insurance doesn't cover it.

[@helinananky]

Is cheap in Africa but the facility and support system is better in LA

[@estherabiodunomolara7043]

800k for skin monthly😮 . Thank you Jesus

[@humidg355]

God does the impossible do not worry. When you focus on God and daily happiness deriving activities, Jehovah Overdo shows up

[@BinaKerekebuna]

2023 was horrible to me too

[@adelajagrace6755]

So sorry

[@BinaKerekebuna]

@@adelajagrace6755 thank you 🙏

[@GodSpecialDaughter]

Hugs 🫂

[@BinaKerekebuna]

@@GodSpecialDaughter thank you 🙏

[@user-vt8yx3zr5s]

❤❤❤❤

[@tejiribuebu]

What her full name

[@onasanyabusayo3401]

Stephanie Coker Aderinokun

[@Soselari]

I thought it to be Okereke until I open the video

[@OmaTV821]

@@Soselariit’s her

[@humidg355]

IVF is done in Lagos Nigeria

[@jewelsbyk]

Did I hear Ruth in the Bible went through this? How?! 2:50

[@Theomaah]

I think she meant the woman with the issue of blood not Ruth Plus the woman's name wasn't even mentioned

[@Stephanieiyaye]

Oh my !🥹

[@elizabeththomas3196]

There is a word called adoption.

[@OgaPita]

You make it sound like it's that easy. It's not.

[@rhodyagbenyameohui9708]

U say it so easy because u are not in same situation

[@Christiana_Ifeyinwa]

Adoption is waaay bigger than a word.

[@olayideeleso7840]

Same people who would castigate her for adopting ....you people need to rest over people's issues. Face your own struggles and worry about your own life.

[@elizabeththomas3196]

@@olayideeleso7840 not when is in the open.

[@edehoziomairene7553]

Am i the only one that feels the ascent is being forced. I feel her natural eloquency is good enough

[@akwaraomamuyovwi2565]

Nothing is forced there jeez....let's try to applaud pple that speaks fluent english and Eloquently

[@bolajokoonabolu8171]

Stay focused on the content. Accent can’t be the most important thing here gosh !!

[@rhodagbolahan3375]

How will it be forced... someone that left Nigeria @ 1 year

[@marilynhamilton9034]

You feel it's forced because it's not natural to You.

[@onyinyelee8089]

It's real man ..that's not even the point of the content listen to learn not listen to judge

[@hopesolomon871]

Olodo lol, Ruth bawo? read your Bible it's the woman with the issue of blood.

[@marilynhamilton9034]

You are toxic! How do you find it in you to insult someone going through this?! Gosh!

[@firstlady6662]

😅😅😅😊