After The Breakup | Therapy Thursday | Jerry Flowers

It’s hard to grieve over someone who’s still alive, like you eulogized the relationship, but the person is not in the cemetery!
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[@paulabarker5715]

"God will wreck your plans when He sees that your plans will wreck you". That hit home!

[@Mariliza.]

💯‼️

[@shadchris2304]

This pain I feel is so intense that sometimes all I want to do is sleep. There was a fear that I messed up something that was great. But I receive Gods Word that even if it was me God still has a plan for me.

[@linnette6493]

I've been there. It will get better. Even if you messed it up, God still loves you. This too shall pass! ❤

[@ChadRobertson-mc2cp]

I messed up terribly

[@Ritatrue]

You got this!

[@antwan7836]

Thank you for comment. I feel the same way

[@Wealthybaby]

“You could be a whole package,but if you end up at the wrong address, the receiver could mishandle you”

[@goldenlifelove7251]

I need this word so badly!! I'm struggling so badly w/ this breakup! Nothing has hurt be this badly in my entire life. I'm in therapy, been in no-contact since he dumped me, deleted every picture, voice-mail, text message, sent back every gift he gave me & threw away all the cards & notes. I feel so stuck with this & I'm still so hurt. I miss his friendship so much, it's excruciating. I'm fine 1 day & not the next. I cry so much it's crazy😢 I've never been through anything like this. It's been almost 2 months & Idk how or when I'll ever get past this. I don't want him back, I don't trust him anymore, I'm just hurt. There were no arguments, I was happy & thought he was too, but there were so much deception & lies on his part it hurts so much knowing he probably never really cared about me. I just pray God delivers me from this pain soon.

[@cuttinupwithcrystal5484]

Same here ❤😢

[@dtjisdivine]

God will. It does get better. ♥️ I’ve been there. God loves you and I pray he comforts you through it all.

[@jasminedubose92]

😮‍💨

[@ladyrenee1956]

When your relationship grows closer to God you will forget him I'm going through the same thing but I know I'm worth so much more than sex and a late night blunt now I'm clean do drinks no weed and no sex praise god

[@alannahjack2188]

How are you feeling now? ☺️

[@natashatate2332]

I was dumped recently & struggling to move forward. Feeling blessed that God led me to this video. ❤

[@siaspence6333]

“You’re healed when you see the person who cut you and you don’t want to cut them back” - this is soooooo good! 👍🏾

[@siaspence6333]

“Healing scares people who benefit from your brokenness”

[@alexpeebz]

I think it was both: I was the problem and also divine intervention. I’m praying for all of us.

[@PreciousdaughterofChrist]

me too ☹️

[@eltigredemazatlan]

Dude, it was me all the time, I regret not changing while she was here and now that she is gone I miss her ☹️ Miss her so much, guys pray for me …

[@treasurehardy3711]

That’s my situation too! I miss him like crazy but I know he needs the space from me to move on and heal.

[@whitneyparker5168]

🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@lunas2551]

Sometimes God is kind enough to let us learn these hard lessons before your spouse comes along. You may have wanted her to be the one, but hopefully the clarity you gained can be a blessing. I am sorry for your heartache and pray God gives you the answers you need 💗

[@pwillskiapparel3886]

Bro I feel you, we got a son together so I gotta see her almost everyday. It’s tough but I’m taking it day by day

[@LuzMartinez-fl3qx]

It’s truly hard to think U had someone that was it for U.. Where U had all your hopes and dreams with this person only to find out he isn’t it… My situation is a bit unique I guess… I got married 20 years ago with my first bf to help him with his papers.. Long story short he ended up getting deported and I never got to getting a divorce… I met someone and we had been dating for roughly 4 months when I told him i was still married his perception changed of our relationship… I can’t really afford to get divorced at the moment soo after much discussion.. He basically said he couldn’t continue with the relationship because of the fact that I am still married on paper.. He said it bothers him and blocks him from moving forward with this relationship… I honestly dont understand that, I mean… If U really want to be with someone should that really matter? I mean it’s not like we are getting married now and eventually I do plan on getting divorced just not rite now.. Unfortunately financial circumstances does not allow me too..: Anywho, I really thought he was the finally the one! He was everything I had been praying God in a man and so I thought God had finally answered my prayer… Needless to say Im pretty tore up rite now… Just been praying for God to give me clarity and help me heal…

[@TheAnissaMonee]

I did not want to let go and I begged and pleaded because I knew I loved him. Yet his dismissive behavior and the words “ It’s time to leave this alone” woke me up and God reminded me that I am more and I will have great. My burden is light and my yolk is easy. I love you all and I wish you an easy process I’m running with you

[@Melaninnmuse]

I’m only 5 minutes through this video and Pastor Jerry is nailing my exact feelings. I always use to ask people how do you grieve someone that’s still alive, still breathing, walking around as if the hurt they caused means nothing. Oh but god, it truly blows my mind at how he works in the midst of it all. Cause in the end, it only brought me so much closer to him. And at one point I had to ask god “Did I hurt you the way he hurt me?” …because when god said no other idol above him, that’s truly what he meant. I’m so grateful for where my relationship is with him now, and if it took having to go through what I had to, to get here, then so be it. I definitely shared this with a few friends already ✨ “There is still more after this.” Amen 🙏🏾

[@OmariShorts556]

Hi! I would like to start a women’s group that uplifts women and we all help each other strive to be kingdom women that God has called us to be would you like to be apart of it?

[@ccartagena2262]

I said the same thing

[@jessicalong6011]

Amen!

[@tmarie9609]

@@OmariShorts556I’d love that!

[@tmarie9609]

This was well written and I had the SAME experience!

[@yahkar]

📖 _If your always the teacher and never the student, then your probably the problem_ . 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@LearninLyfe]

Yes Lord I needed this!!!!! I receive this message in the name of JESUS! Amen Amen Amen

[@imterry1914]

Wow....soaking myself in worship helped alot,It switches focus...I pray you focus on Jesus....I love this video...like this to remind me that can take it❤

[@jam09aica]

I allowed my insecurities and jealousy to take over my mind. I pushed away my ex. I am grateful that I see the errors in my ways. I understand my thoughts needed healing. I will use this time to mentally heal. I will keep God 1st pray for healing and seek help. I will renew my spirit and mind in GOD'S NAME AND WORD.

[@alenablanco5151]

I hooe youve been well my love remmever God is good!! How is everything now? If the time is right you guys can meet again

[@SGWAPO]

it’s been 10 months for me & i never experienced pain this intense. I truly thought she was the love of my life, but i was wrong. 6 years of putting my heart & soul into someone only for it to be a lesson. She moved on a couple months after the breakup & seems happy. Meanwhile i’ve been dealing with excruciating pain every single day. I pray to God everyday to heal my heart & help me move forward with my life but it’s a long process. I have faith that it’ll get better eventually, God is just working on me a little longer.

[@Bonafide0324]

Try fasting and praying it helps also delete everything that reminds you of her.

[@SGWAPO]

@@Bonafide0324 Thanks alot! Trying my best

[@familler7]

I ignored all the red flags. This person came into my life at my most vulnerable season in 1997, and I believed it was a God send and was married to this person for 25 years through all the narcissistic, childhood trauma and dysfunction. I am determined to heal from this grief from this divorce!

[@ChadRobertson-mc2cp]

I was so toxic ,narcissistic, manipulative. 100 percent wrong. I regret it. I will I've grown so much but extremely guilty.

[@mandysmith4901]

Same here!

[@stephnyamify]

I also ignored the red flags 20 years and 4 kids later 😢 I'm struggling to move on

[@sincereshay]

I was with a man who eventually said he didn’t want to pursue God yet, It’s been painful and I never stopped seeking God. The pain drew me closer than ever because I just didn’t understand. But I’m healing, God never chose this for me.. my actions led me here but I know better now. He’s helping me every step!

[@godsgirl4241]

Shake off the dust. Don’t allow heart to be calloused. Staying in a place where you’re not received is wasting time. If I’m at the wrong address, the receiver won’t receive us. Shake it off and enter my new season!! Go and take my peace with me…to the new village.

[@ebonydixon3568]

Thank you Lord for using Jerry for delivering this message

[@sanders4911]

The way this man preaches is astounding ❤

[@jasminedahna9901]

You can tell that Jerry genuinely loves the Lord and wants to help others

[@BNT1130]

Grieving and they’re still alive! Definitely that part!

[@iamdawnharris]

“I just don’t want to move on, I want to move on right and with health.” A powerful message! Thank you for allowing God to use you. 🥹

[@shaqwannacole4419]

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[@lucasb4590]

I just broke up And seeing right away is just God😭

[@jessieoakford6113]

God provides, the love we can trust

[@alenablanco5151]

@@jessieoakford6113 are you okay now?

[@rotjames1]

Thankful for the Lord letting me see it was me and the relationship was not good for me either! Grateful to God for caring enough to snatch me out when I didn’t have the strength or sense to do it myself. 🙌🏾hallelujah for freedom and true healing to move on! 🎉

[@tydance8865]

i was planning on marrying my ex we haven't spoke in three weeks.. i'm really struggling. we were unevenly yoked & did alot of fighting but had amazing times as well. God has revealed he separated us to get me closer to him and if he didn't i was only going to stray away from him even more.. hallelujah.

[@user-dq1in3vt6p]

Same here 😔

[@deec.christian7012]

Understanding my purpose...even as a single woman and mother

[@ellysavatia]

That was spot on! The worst combination is when somebody is arrogant and ignorant 😂😂😂

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

Lol

[@kaleighaalejaga7470]

THERES STILL MORE AFTER THIS!! Lord your story for me continues onward,,, heal my heart, spirit, and mind the right way, the way it's intended for, Hallelujah! Thank you brother for being a vessel & allowing God to speak through you!

[@sebastianwilson8899]

My mother always warned me about this: “You can’t be wrong AND strong….

[@charliemcindoe3539]

Omgoodness I really needed this today because I’m in the middle of the healing process of healing from a six year relationship with two kids out of it 😢it’s really hard thank you lord for this

[@tyralewis5394]

Hi girlie! How are you doing now?

[@essmomanyi470]

I feel so broken right now......everything in my life is scrambling down but wat scares me the most is my relationship with God and my career 😢.....leaving this comment here in april 2024 for future reference coz i know God is gonna deliver me 🙏 🙏 Glory be to God

[@cherankimiorak1739]

What a word 🙌🏽🙌🏽 Yes when I was with my ex narc my spiritual life greatly declined. Stopped going to church, prayer life came to a halt.. Thank you Jesus my Boaz is on his way 🙏🏽

[@user-pk7se9hr1w]

I miss him for real and it's a roller coaster day to day and I know I can't go. Back

[@naenae106]

It’s me, I have gotten to a place where I almost hate myself. I see all that is within me and how I push away everyone I loved…and I hate it. I’m so sick of myself, I’m sick of the result of what I’ve inflicted on others.

[@Withlove.K95]

There is still more for me after this! ❤️🙏🏼

[@Destiny-pq6zd]

THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS, THE BREAKUP

[@cecemoon9692]

The death was my doing. I lied to him because I was afraid of telling him the truth and fearful of the reaction I would get from telling him the truth. He was my best friend and I betrayed his trust. He had the grace to still forgive me but we’re no longer together. I recognize that I have unhealed issues. I pray for him to this day. Currently in a phase of suffering and shame but grateful for this suffering otherwise I would not be changing for the better. I am striving to walk with God more and strengthening my relationship with Him. Thank you for this video. God Bless everyone who is in the same situation as I am, I pray you heal and learn from the word so you can stop hurting your loved ones.

[@miseducated7185]

Move on right; walked away hoping they’ll stop you;don’t know how to grieve about something that is dead but the person is still alive…. Move on with health, Heal with clarity

[@deec.christian7012]

That whole part...grieve someone who is physically still here

[@beautifulb2078]

My heart is so broken right now I don’t love myself so I couldn’t love him neither. This man loved me unconditionally and I couldn’t give or receive it back. I promised God before I met him I would work on and heal myself before I entered a relationship I didn’t keep my promise and now Ive ran off a good man. I know God is working in my life but it’s hard not to feel anger with God! when does my happiness come when will the pain from my past not affect my present and future

[@Nicole__97_]

YOU CAME FOR MY SCALP ON THIS ONE JERRY!! THANK YOU!!

[@wdsanders04]

We have to move on the right way .

[@ray.bailey]

Amen 🙏🏾. I needed to hear this . Went thru a divorce and I still find myself missing her and thinking about our family . Healing is messy, but necessary. Amen 🙏🏾

[@jecintahwanjiru1606]

I feel you, going thru the same😢

[@blaquecinderella3560]

Pastor Jerry Flowers ALWAYS delivers God's message in the most loving, gentle yet firm & simple way. God bless you Pastor. I totally needed this. Watching from Nairobi Kenya 🇰🇪

[@priscillacastro224]

I’m on your cuffing series, trapped series, timing series and the current…. Recent breakup that effected me spiritually, mentally, emotionally the past 3 years. Coming across your page has been a blessing from God. I have been praying and I watch a few pastors online who I absolutely love and you have just been absolutely amazing because it’s biblical. It’s not sugarcoating. It’s exactly what I need to hear and this therapy Thursday is it on another level!

[@IntegraTypeSPerformance]

I’m getting my peace back. 🙏🏽

[@HorizonEast72]

Amen and Amen. Thank you Lord for showing me that I had to end that relationship. Thank you Lord for showing me my own brokenness. Please help me to heal and to get on the right path - to get on Your path Lord. I can’t do this by myself anymore without You. Thank you Lord for Pastor J and his ministry and for access to Therapy Thursday. In Jesus name Amen!

[@sarahdelisca9435]

There is still more after this! Thank you Jesus!! 🙏🏼

[@DrJohnwhancock]

It feels she is dead… but I’m finding, The more the world takes away from me, the more I see Gods hands. THERE IS MORE!

[@jernassedixon4299]

THERE'S STILL MORE AFTER THIS!

[@rhodaparker-wilson7362]

I dont want to just move on but i want to move on right😢. Help me Lord🙏🙏

[@user-ww7zh3kv7t]

I just want to grieve and get over him 🥺

[@blepaok]

I needed to hear this today. I have held on to the dust of another village with dear life because it's what I want even when I heard a whispering in my spirit that God had to close that door.

[@christeesdale5537]

So timely for me but hey that’s the power God! I needed today after a ending of a 9 year marriage and whatever the last 2 years were about. Grateful to the Lord for His strength, grace, and the healing of my heart… Time to shake that dust brother!!!

[@ciaputter7462]

After 15 years of marriage I felt like I gave birth to a long awaited child (future) and it was dead. Its like this eye of the hurricane... everything feels surreal and like youre holding your breath, looking for the next step but there is no path illuminated.

[@theselflovebae]

This message is so healing. I’m going through a breakup and I know this has to be God sending this message. I literally had a conversation with my ex 2 months post break up. I gave him a message God put on my heart. Extended the olive branch and told him I’m dusting my sandals off like the disciples. He laughed but I was serious I’m going to move forward and wait for Boaz.

[@TerrellJones-Official]

This was so on time and good! I needed every word spoken!

[@Londiebeantown]

Cover this MAN of GOD!! I am so grateful for your obedience, which is teaching me obedience. This one hit real different! I am so grateful that you and your amazing family have been apart of my healing journey for the last 3 years. God bless you all!

[@newenglandtoffee9190]

I'M GETTING MY PEACE BACK🙏🏽

[@msaverielle]

THERE’S STILL MORE AFTER THIS.❤

[@mp31wellnessbridgetmccray57]

Wow! So relevant & timely!

[@AimeeCastle-tz4eb]

I'm getting my peace back!!

[@user-pk7se9hr1w]

Amen and this person never considered I didn't even get to grieve the deaths of loved ones

[@tessasmith565]

It's hard for me to move on because I have seen and felt that those persons where literally sent by the devil but because I am so broken, and used to the mistreatment, abandonment and DYSFUNCTION I allowed myself to be a cheap discount. I watch all these therapy Thursday sessions in the moment yes I have gain insight but nothing changes I'm still broken, life is empty and meaningless. Why is it that prayer doesn't change all things? People who abuse and mistreat me always enjoys life and nothing ever happens to them... Why is it that whenever someone is broken and is desperately reaching out for help only people with malicious intent entires there life no matter how you pray against it??? That's what keeps happening to me so what's the point hoping, praying believing

[@SunnyLadyFannie]

I thought I wrote this my own self! I’m 54 years old, and I am still wondering if I will ever experience safety, love and trust in a relationship, friendship, or family member. I give so much to get so little in return, just so they can abandon me when I speak up. I never thought it would be so hard to find good love , friendship or companionship.

[@tessasmith565]

@@SunnyLadyFannie we just have to keep heart and trust that God has our tribe and the connection will be made in his timing. We have to also keep the lessons learnt dear to our hearts to guard ourselves and not to allow others to continue to do us dis service irreagrdless of who those persons are, its extremely hard but boundaries are to be set especially when you are the one who is constantly been hurt. I have to try and take my own advice I'm offering you now, one thing I learnt people are never what they appear to be and they will use your vulnerability against you to gain your trust just to hurt and mistreat you, the whole time you thinking they care they have a totally different motive. So when you consider all those things its best to choose yourself the moment someone shows you exactly who they are, because how a person treats you is exactly how they feel about you.

[@SunnyLadyFannie]

Thank you, Queen! I’ve come to realize that hurt people hurt people. I’ve also come to know that the hurt can be healed as long as we are a witness for Christ! The boundaries you speak of help us not to be doormats. Today, I aspire to be more patient and to trust the process! Thank you for responding back to my comment. I pray that you and I ultimately get our Boaz!🙏🏽🤗

[@tessasmith565]

@Sunny Fannie you are welcome. I agree with you, and to add to what you said, I pray we not only get our Boaz but everything God has for us and to sustain it. And to be completely healed from all the things and persons that broke us so we can be fully whole, showing up in our purpose and seeing and valuing ourselves knowing we are more than enough and the validation we need was already given by CHRIST.

[@SunnyLadyFannie]

In Jesus name, AMEN!!!!🙏🏽 OMGee, Tessa your prayer brought me to tears! I have screenshot this prayer to save on my phone to quickly remind me what you said! May the anointing richly bless all that read it! I don’t even know you, but I thank God for you!!😘

[@dweignadams5711]

Definitely agree with this, not easy to move on from someone u cared about. But when u do…😫🙌🏽

[@jecintahwanjiru1606]

💯

[@chsnbytmhnyki56]

I was the red flag and I messed up, sabotaged so bad. Acted out from feelings I thought were present. They were so recurrent that I couldn’t deny them. I would ask and it would either get no energy or denied. Either I was a huge narcissist and did to him what my last did to me; or my gut was right and there was quiet manipulation. After grieving there’ll be more clarity. Our relationship didn’t start out bad but at some key points things changed. I think this hurts so bad bc I messed up and wished I had enough strength and wisdom to fix my faults. I need to change. Be happy be tender be Loving. I just don’t know how. I projected too. I didn’t give him what he needed and he didn’t give me what I needed. I’m broken. Be fixed My Love 🤍

[@PreciousdaughterofChrist]

I’m going through the same thing…I’m so sad

[@chsnbytmhnyki56]

I pray your healing is complete with clarity and peace

[@user-wh5zc8lg2x]

Amen ❤

[@brianalysn]

There is still more after this Lord You have a Plan for US❤️‍🔥

[@sieglindeallen9626]

There’s still more after this… glory to the most high

[@Memorialann]

I'm getting my peace back.

[@janinedelport5532]

Thank You for covering emotional abuse. I am Blessed that God removed me from an abusive marriage, but at the right time He sent my Boaz

[@user-pk7se9hr1w]

I did my share of hurting others and I am not denying but I want to never contribute to hurting anyone again

[@leeah911ify]

I needed thissss!!!! I will be okay! God will never crack a Red Sea to return only to depart!!!!!

[@porchewilliams1422]

MANNNNN YOU BETTER PREACH because I can’t stand my ex/baby daddy!!! Whew yeah you talking to me ‼️

[@jernassedixon4299]

I am getting my peace back

[@mbalindzinisa1791]

AMEN!!!!

[@Jenya20]

THERE’S STILL MORE AFTER THIS AMEN❤️🙏🏽

[@courtneyoliver5901]

What a word.

[@LanaiahTaylor]

There is still more after this in Jesus name

[@dorien2725]

Amen

[@beardedpanda5216]

Ouch. We will betray Jesus, because we are bored. Because we are emotional. We will do it because someone double-dogged-dared us. SMH. This is real. Thank you Pastor Jerry. Thank you

[@rueymurowe4592]

This is what I needed

[@dorien2725]

This is going to be good..

[@mishamelvin9666]

Lord thank you for leading me to this ministry during this time. You are truly using it to grow me and I am extremely grateful! Thank you to everyone involved in this ministry for being willing vessels. Especially Pastor Jerry!! ❤❤

[@anissatention8565]

THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS

[@vandasoares9312]

This is going to be good ! I need this

[@beccawilliamsme]

Amen !

[@DebDaBrat]

Amennn how do you grieve the person you thought there were and let the die in your mind so you can see them for who they are

[@ccartagena2262]

This is more Self Reflective and Mirror moment in ourselves to take self inventory and awareness. This phase is so vital . Thank you Jesus

[@angelaspinks4158]

Oh yes " shake it off grace"Thank you Jesus

[@KCjusWright]

Amen! Make me whole again Lord!

[@DanielMunoz-sq6bh]

Amen!!!

[@iameunicee8318]

I’m a single mom / annulled and my ex’s family didn’t like me because they said I’m used and 2nd hand already. They said their son can do better, that he deserves someone who’s brand new. My ex can’t also fight for me and he wants to follow his parents’ wishes. Just trusting God thru this season. I know He loves me and wants what’s best for me.🙏🏼😔

[@RicanOnARant]

This is going to be good 🙏🏼

[@nevergiveupneverforget]

My goodness Pastor Jerry, looks like your reading my notes!!! 🗣️🗣️🔥

[@mzanudo86]

It’s always hard to listen to the truth. I self-sabotaged my own marriage.

[@DanielMunoz-sq6bh]

Im getting my peace back

[@nicolebullock236]

Shake of the dust. POWERFUL 💯💯💯 TAKE YOUR PEACE WITH YOU

[@daphnesmith5850]

There is still more after this!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@VeronicaRobinson-vt3ye]

After listening to all the points that maybe I was the problem I saw all of them in myself and I accept them and I’m learning to change me for the better

[@anissatention8565]

This is going to be good