After Trying For Years Wife Got Pregnant But Weeks Later She Had A Miscarriage, I Was Devastated

[@laurie2649]

I know this is a scorching topic in this country right now. But baby trapping is not OK. OP has every right to decide WHEN she wants children. That's why she was on birth control, to begin with. Her husband was just awful. He did not have the right to decide for her. She wouldn't have lied to him if he wasn't deceitful, first of all.

[@ilovela0068]

That’s why someone made this fake story. To get people riled up. Birth control pills don’t come in a bottle.

[@francoisseguin772]

It's Ryan who was the selfish one. Not only did he try to force her to have a baby, but he wanted to tear down her business as well. Op shouldn't have regrets over divorcing him. She should regret the marriage.

[@unicorngj]

I don't believe in abortions unless rape/forced or child won't live. Even being forced I feel is a stretch for me personally. But for a woman or child to also be forced to destroy her body and or life forever either way is major PTS for a female to be faced with. No matter my opinion, it isn't my place to condemn her for two choices that will have lasting effects.

[@carolconnell9521]

I applaud your response. People can decide that they would not choose abortion for themselves but respect other people’s feelings and decisions. This is not an easy decision but one that is usually made with much angst. Having worked with many women who have had to make this difficult decision, I have never encountered a woman who cavalierly approached this as an alternate to birth control. We cannot force our beliefs on others and we should not try. My heart goes out to all women who have or will have to make this decision.

[@Ralphies_Mom]

Yes! People say "Pro life vs. Pro abortion" but that isn't right, it's pro-choice. How did we get here, where the government has a say over our bodies, it's freaking terrifying. Can you imagine if men had the govt tell them to even blow their nose once a month? There would be a war.

[@oobooskeboo]

I just can't reconcile killing an innocent being (and, yes, I have been in a similar position, and, yes, having the baby changed the whole course of my life). If the husband tampered with the BC pills, then she should absolutely divorce him. However, why kill the innocent child? Again, not my place to judge, but dang, killing a baby ...

[@WPFLAWLESS]

Sue didn't want a baby...that's enough reason to not have a baby. Adoption is more often worse on the child (there are millions of children in foster care and the amount that end up with mental trauma experience homelessness is truly sad. ) Even if she were to divorce him and give him the child she'd still be responsible for the child via. Child support .

[@nuages8915]

💀

[@jeanninelockridge5235]

OP is so much better off without that creep she was married to. I knew when he was being so sweet he had done something to her pills. It's good she went through with the procedure. This way she won't have to deal with him ever again.

[@tracygardner6318]

She is not innocent either. It’s easy to blame up his husband 100% yes it is her body but there a better ways of handling this

[@Danarchy3]

@@tracygardner6318 it’s actually not her body. She doesn’t have 4 lungs, 20 fingers and toes etc. the only way the “my body my choice” argument holds water is if the mom has the pregnancy and then self deletes. Then and ONLY THEN is it “my body my choice”

[@nuages8915]

​@Danarchy3 a clump of cells doesnt have fingers silly

[@Danarchy3]

@@nuages8915 I agree. But that argument is so far debunked that not even pro choicers believe it if they have a shred of honesty…. You’re one of those lol

[@Muney-hl9jh]

Unfortunately you couldn't stay with him, he betrayed you in a way that is unforgivable by forcing your pregnancy with fake birth control. You shouldn't feel guilty for hiding the procedure from him, because had he not done this to you, or listened to your words, you wouldn't have had to do this. Good luck in your new life. Edit: I can see that people are a mad with my words. Listen, you guys have different lives, had different experiences, are you saying you condone him forcing a pregnancy? Guilt tripping her with that? I can't approve of her methods she used, but with her current predicament, what other options did she have other than that? It was illegal, and she wasn't mentally ready to give birth. No one should be forced to make this decision, especially this one.

[@jameseet]

If you don't want children and your husband does let him live when he wants a family if you don't want a family then you guys shouldn't be 1,001 dozen you really should not be together now you could have had the kid and let him take care of it and if you want to end it then that's fine that's good it's on you but remember in this instance you're not as innocent and of course neither is he 😮

[@tracygardner6318]

She’s not exactly innocent either

[@AndersonSilva-br1qt]

She killed his child and lied about it to stay with him.. and you are worried about him telling her she couldn’t perform an abortion because abortion is illegal in that state…. Lol evil telling good people that they’re bad… this is what it looks like

[@AndersonSilva-br1qt]

Now I don’t agree with his chioces to trick her and all.. I couldn’t forgive somebody for aborting my child.. been there done that. 10 years later I still mourn my unborn child, and still haven’t forgiven her.

[@Danarchy3]

You shouldn’t feel guilty for killing an innocent child? Really!? Please explain the logic behind that statement

[@amandagreen2806]

When hearing this story I thought it was sabotage and baby trapping. I was pointing at the wrong person, the person I was pointing at was mother-in-law. Women do have choices over there own bodies. Not only Ryan was showing some red flags. 1. Asking/forcing quit and shut down your business. 2. Yell at not making food 3. Controlling

[@mckinleygamble]

The first seconds told me all I needed to know. They're just incompatible. Why get married? Dumb story

[@erincrsmn]

IF A STORY IS ABOUT ABORTION DON'T LIE IN THE TITLE DESCRIPTION!!! I've previously left a comment the last time you did this as it's a very sensitive topic, specifically personally. "Getting rid of" an innocent life is NOT SOMETHING TO BE CELEBRATED !!!!🤬🔥👹🤬🔥👹

[@mevan883]

If it baby trapping someone.

[@canadianmom9404]

Specially when it’s quite the opposite

[@Allannah_Of_Rome]

Do you know how KZbin algorithms work? He can't just put that in to the thumbnail, he'd get flagged for it.

[@Danarchy3]

@@mevan883 so you think “baby trapping” is a good reason to murder someone?

[@thewriter2050]

1. You obviously don't understand the parameters of content creation...you also don’t realize that content creators don't have to cater to you. 2. Not everyone shares your opinion and people who don't want their bodies commandeered by a clump of cells, have every right to celebrate not having said cells in their bodies. 3. Being a Karen is not conducive to healthy social connections...grow up, get a life, and stop telling other how they should live their lives...

[@sherrischweigl6860]

Op, your ex had no business switching out your birth control pills. Bringing a child into this world needs to be agreed upon by both of you. I don’t blame you for what you did, because you had to decide what is best for you. Good luck in the future op.

[@jean-michelmansfield4083]

Umm, title doesn't match the story

[@ClaireKraehe16160]

Yeah, that's been happening a lot. It technically does, but it's from the opposite perspective than advertised. 😮‍💨 I'm getting a little tired of it tbh

[@beeniecat9411]

For real I thought it was gonna be the husband speaking.

[@shanapresley5688]

What drives me insane is how he puts am instead of I am or I'm. It reminds me of a little kid talking

[@angelicakaufman7183]

She just should have flat out told him on the phone look I'm not going to be able to grieve this with you because I never wanted to be pregnant in the first place and this is a blessing for me and going forward things would have been a lot easier

[@loudelk99]

Even tho I am opposed to abortion, a decision to have a baby is one that both people should agree with.

[@thehigherevolutionary]

Scientists should focus only making artificial wombs that can be connected to a man's body and systemically leeches all of his tissues and minerals to support the fetal growth. Then if they object to a woman's right to choose and wants to have equal say, they can choose to continue the pregnancy themselves. See how many men would step up if their own body was on the line.

[@mrsw2923]

He lied. You lied. Yours worse as it ended in a death. You sound perfect for eachother.

[@mevan883]

Considering that this is baby trapping I stand with OP.

[@jameseet]

If you really don't want😢 tell him before and tell him😮

[@jameseet]

Just because you have children doesn't mean you have to give up your career and to expect you to stay home and take care of the kids is bull

[@tracygardner6318]

@@mevan883 this is more about just baby trapping, it’s about two adults who should’ve communicated more and cared about each other’s boundaries. He didn’t kill a baby.

[@nuages8915]

Youre weird as hell

[@erikamccall6741]

Nope, nope, nope!!! This is all to much. WTH?? Between both of you? This is just craziness, you need to run from each other and try again with someone else. Maybe after a very long while.

[@angelafields3740]

I never missed a day when I was on the pill and yet I still got pregnant,didn't find out till almost 4months along.. I never wanted kids. But don't believe in abortion unless it's at risk of mothers health

[@thehigherevolutionary]

It's not a belief system, it's a medical procedure. Not sure why people incessantly use words related to belief.

[@melodyskinner5727]

Murder is still murder.

[@glendawhite4477]

He baby trapped her

[@k70freeman]

Op is so stupid and needs to stop. Who would though - A PERSON THAT WANTS, WANTS KIDS!!!!. I'm full equality. He should've hit her back. Op assaulted him, i don't give a crap he made her mad. You lose the " he hit victim card" , when they are defending themselves from your attack. If he said it , people would want blood. INFO - Nothing is 100% guaranteed to prevent pregnancy except not having sex.

[@mrsw2923]

He DID!! One never hears about when men baby trap.

[@mevan883]

You usually hear more about the guy just not using a condom.

[@k70freeman]

@@mevan883 Besides the BS ALLEGATION. Birth control is not 100%, it can fail. Op chose to marry a person that wants kids. Then goes "how dare you want kids". Hit someone then acts like a victim when they defend themselves. instead of get a will person that gets paid to carry other people's babies. Trick someone. Adoption is a thing. She could let him keep the baby and leave. having a baby doesn't mean will stay with him.

[@tracygardner6318]

Yes, he baby trapped her and it was wrong but so was she she could’ve given the baby up for adoption. There was no need to kill that baby this because the father was a hole about that and other things. They never should’ve married. There should’ve been more talk about starting a family and when they are both to blame.

[@Asia-sk8lc]

What type of birth control doesnt look tampered with? I wanted to add that when a man is controlling your birth control its time to kick rocks, kick them hard. Me and my ex worked together at a restaurant. He knows how shy and private i am. For some reason he shouted at me to snatch and pull out my BC and your going to do it right away in front of coworkers and guest. I was so embarrassed i could feel blood draining from my body. This bad man didnt like that i couldnt get pregnant, he knew its like a 99.9 percent chance. Few months went by and i finally got strong, got the strength to leave him. He did everything in his power to "get me to come crawling back to him. Hes called the CPS, the CDC, the cops, multiple times, i needed benefits due to him not paying child support and he got a job working at DHS just so benefits did not load every month for me and his own son. Mostly some stuff changed when i moved out of the state. Its a heartbreaking thing to go through. Please my sisters stay on your BC no matter how much he begs and whispers sweet nothings in your ear.

[@Melissa-tr8el]

Why did she get married if she never wanted kids.

[@mevan883]

She told him about it and still wanted to marry her and then he messed with her pills to baby trap her.

[@johvileeck4231]

I think you missed a big part of the story. She didn't say 'never', she said 'not yet'. She did want kids, she just wanted to wait a couple more years, to enjoy her own life, and career. They, especially the husband, insisted 'now'.

[@Ralphies_Mom]

You can get married and not have kids. I am infertile, doesn't mean I don't want to get married, that's absurd.

[@Danarchy3]

@@Ralphies_Mominfertility is not a normal occurrence. I am very sorry for your situation but that cannot be used as the usual situation. Under usual circumstances where both people are able to conceive, it absolutely is not absurd. Getting married if you don’t want kids is like buying a BMW when you don’t have a drivers license

[@thewriter2050]

You do realize that having children isn't an obligation for marriage...considering how many children are born outside of marriage should be proof of that. A marriage license is a legal contract between two people it has very little to do with having children. There are plenty of married couples who don't want children...more than likely they married each other because they don't want children...

[@tracygardner6318]

The mother-in-law needs to drop the baby topic. She is not going to be a grandmother yet.

[@beebee0417]

They both betrayed each other, they were not a match, and when Ryan started to show that his word means nothing and that he did not support her business, she ignored the red flags!

[@jayjaytaylor565]

Pro-lifers in the comments really do not understand nuance, huh? The reading comprehension is so subpar that it makes me laugh. 😂😂😂

[@thehigherevolutionary]

It's actually a tragedy. I never laugh at such stunted intellectual growth and lack of awareness. It's incredibly disturbing because they will go and vote on these issues.

[@coreydorsey4121]

OP is a little bit the AH, but the husband is by far the biggest. He tampered with her BC to baby trap her, told all his family to put pressure on her, invited her to his job and tore her down in front of his colleagues, and was about to hit her until someone stopped him. He's clearly a manipulative and abusive person that side of him was only going to come out more the longer they were married. They clearly made an agreement to wait a few years to have kids and he broke that soon after by tampering with her pills. He should've just found a woman who wanted kids immediately instead of marrying someone who wanted a different timeline. The OP was a little bit the AH for lying about the abortion and not considering alternatives like adoption. Especially since she was unaware of the tampering with the pills at the time. I mean the husband talked about all the families who want kids and cant have them, so she shouldve gave those words right back to him by offering adoption. However, she was actively taking precautions and likely wouldn't have even gotten pregnant without his tampering. She also was honest about wanting to wait to have kids. Holding her as accountable in that situation is like holding a falsely convicted guy fully accountable for something that happened as a result of being in prison. It would've never happened if the husband didnt manipulate the situation against her will. And for the record I don't support abortion. But I'm also someone who is mature in thought who is able to have a nuanced view of siruations instead of making 1 issue the determination for everything. People sound dumb who are overlooking all the lying, manipulative, abusive, and controlling behaviors of the husband to ONLY focus on the abortion.

[@nuages8915]

This comment section is flooded with pro lifers ugh

[@Energywitch]

Few times I say ESH.

[@B-hb2zv]

OP, you were also deceitful and did worse things than your ex husband

[@jayjaytaylor565]

The moment he told me to shut up and go make him dinner, I would have left so fast. You don't tell me what to do in the most disrespectful way possible. Ryan needs help.

[@caseydemmings6666]

Yeah birth control doesn't show up on blood test.

[@ilovela0068]

Nothing about this is real.

[@daisyfaye3630]

There’s no such thing as fake birth controls that look exactly like the birth controls that you’ve been taking from a pharmaceutical company that has their name stamped all over it.

[@Programmer_Brian]

People are going to think I am a religious nut job which I a not even religious, but I never understood the argument that a woman can do whatever she wants with her body completely missing that she is doing it to her baby's body. Sure the story is fake and all but also not sure 2 terrible acts make it right.

[@tracygardner6318]

Divorcing was the smart thing to do. Both of them are still holes for a bunch of different reasons. No one is innocent in the story except the baby that was killed.

[@claramunoz5330]

Both of them are pathetic.They don't need to be together

[@stephenstevens6573]

If its about abortion, say its about abortion. Thumbs down.

[@thehigherevolutionary]

It's about abortion.

[@NPRYRS]

She didn't want to have kids with him so why did she get married ❓she knew he wanted kids so OP is the a hole and deleter, premeditated 🙎🏽🙎🏽‍♀️

[@Danarchy3]

A married woman sad that she was pregnant with her husband and who KNEW she was going to kill her baby. YATA no contest, 3000% TA!!

[@thehigherevolutionary]

You can't kill something that wasn't able to sustain its own life functions without someone else's body. If it was capable of life, they would've just given her a c-section.

[@Danarchy3]

@@thehigherevolutionary by your logic you could kill a 5yo because they can’t sustain themselves without an adult. Hell neither can some 25 year olds.

[@andreachristensen5383]

You just said you took your birth control at night before going out, so you don't take it every day in the morning like clock work, duh

[@daisyfaye3630]

I caught that too

[@nuages8915]

These stories are fake lmao

[@torgiebride8558]

Hoping somebody can help me here. I've been searching this channel looking for an animation I KNOW I've seen before, but I just can't seem to find it now. It was about this girl (the animations were of black people) being opposed and all uppity about her brother marrying this lovely Asian woman, because she was sure the woman just wanted a 'Green Card'. In the same video, the brother's POV was at the end, showing the sister was a blatant racist and abusive to her husband. Can ANYBODY help me track that down, I've been trying for a while? 🙏

[@christinunya72]

He has other channels that I believe he does this animated style on sometimes too. Maybe it was on one of those?

[@torgiebride8558]

I'll check those too, thanks!

[@Danarchy3]

11:10 hubby has a point. Anyone willing to kill an innocent baby because they “arent ready” is not only a selfish brat but also a heartless monster. 12:17 do you have 4 lungs? 2 hearts? 20 fingers and toes? Then it’s NOT YOUR BODY!!

[@thehigherevolutionary]

She didn't kill an innocent baby...the product of conception didn't have 2 lungs, 1 heart or 20 fingers or toes. If it did, they would've delivered it, and when it continued to breathe on its own, it would've been a living person that could be adopted rather than discarded. Whatever her motivation to discontinue her pregnancy is not your concern. Only comment to share your own experience when you get pregnant and decide to continue your own pregnancy - tell everyone ALL about it. You don't need to worry about what's happening inside of someone else's womb. All you care about is policing the lives of others, like you are some moral paragon.

[@Danarchy3]

@@thehigherevolutionary all i care about is policing the lives of others… you mean like your post was trying to do to me? You see I agree that people are free to do as they please within the law. This doesn’t mean they are free from the moral and social consequences for those actions. As for being moral, you’re the one advocating ending the life of a baby, not me. I submit that you have less than zero legs to stand on in the moral department. I’ve heard fetus, clump of cells but never have I heard “product of conception”. What would that be exactly? Could it possibly be…. A baby? No it can’t be a baby, cause that would prove my point. No one has ever gotten a baby from conception. And you are correct, they would have delivered it, if OP hadn’t killed it. You say her motivation is not my concern, I say the shedding of innocent blood should be everyone’s concern.

[@thehigherevolutionary]

@@Danarchy3 I never said I advocated anything, and I am not pro-abortion. I have the intelligence to recognize that what happens in other people's wombs are not social issues - that's the problem that people who use your rhetoric fail to see. It's a medical issue - and just like any other, it's not your business because someone made a choice to proceed with a medical procedure regardless of their reason. If your own kid needed a kidney, you would never be obligated to give yours up, and if your kid died because you didn't want to, no one would be using words like KILLED or MURDERED. You don't have to use your body to support any other person, but you expect someone else to do it over some misguided and sanctimonious rhetoric. Most people who echo your sentiments really don't care about "innocent" lives. You likely aren't funding research to combat spontaneous abortions... i.e. miscarriages; if the loss of innocent lives were your real concern, you'd be on the front lines advocating and lobbying for research to preserve all pregnancies and prevent miscarriages. You really don't care, you just virtue signal. Shameful.

[@Danarchy3]

@@thehigherevolutionary your analogy about the kidney is counter productive to your argument. In the kidney example my child would die from lack of medical intervention. If OP would have a lack of an abortion (which in your words is merely a medical procedure) the baby would grow, be born and have a life. So you kinda stepped all over your point with that one. And I don’t expect anyone to do anything but take responsibility for their actions. If you don’t want kids keep your legs closed. If you get pregnant there are other options besides murder. Again using your kidney argument, the only way it can be compared to pregnancy is if my child needs a kidney due to my actions. You cannot get pregnant if you are not sexually active, you can however need a kidney through no fault of your own. So to compare apples to apples, if I forced my son drink until his organs began to fail then it would be my actions that led to his situation and I would be responsible. Likewise if the mother is sexually active it is her actions that led to her condition and therefore she needs to step up and be responsible, not murder her child because she doesn’t want the responsibility.

[@thehigherevolutionary]

​@@Danarchy3 Interesting, how you "missed" the point. The point was about being socially compelled to use your own body to support an "innocent life." You went straight to crux of your argument: "...keep your legs closed." You focused entirely on controlling someone's actions, in this case, a woman; you simply don't care about the innocent lives, and it shows. Just how you dodged commenting on your efforts to support research in preventing wanted pregnancies from resulting in miscarriage or how many innocent babies you've opened your doors to. It's so sad how you walk around with a modern-day slave owner mentality, while masquerading as a concerned citizen.

[@Danarchy3]

26:55 serves you right

[@tracygardner6318]

I don’t like the fact she’s happy that she got an abortion

[@robertbuswell7378]

You could always tell them you had a miscarriage like you did even though you probably should of kept it cause it might cause complications when you do want a baby

[@jamesfeltman3300]

Normally I really enjoy your work but I have a pet peeve that when the thumbnail is one thing but the story is set up differently. I was expecting one story and got something fr9m the flip side.

[@Danarchy3]

28:06 you didn’t want to stay in a state that considered murder illegal. Bye Felicia!

[@tracygardner6318]

OP and her husband are both a holes, the big difference is he did not murder a child. They need to find partners that they are more compatible with. I hope both of them have learned their lesson, Unfortunately, they had to learn it the hard way.

[@ansariansari3190]

Op isn't a hole

[@heatherbeau4759]

There are birth control methods for both sexes. If you want to play, there are rules. If you don't observe them, think about other possibilities. That life didn't ask to be created. You decided to be careless. I understand there are mitigating situations. Again, I would urge adoption. There are many couples who want to become a family.

[@angelicakaufman7183]

I don't know man I'm thinking maybe this is creative writing by a teenager because when do you go to a doctor's office and they take out a pregnancy test and have you go pee on it in the bathroom

[@jayjaytaylor565]

Most doctors do? My doctor did when I was pregnant with my daughter.

[@angelicakaufman7183]

@@jayjaytaylor565 I myself and nobody I know ever in the place where I am have ever had this happen. If you're going to go to the doctor for the test you pee in the cup and you hand it to this nurse that they have their for walk-ins. That is fascinating to me. Do they charge you a big old doctor's visit for walking in and then handing you a test you could have gotten it at walgreens? How does this work

[@mevan883]

OP you should have never married him the red flags were there.