Aggressive Behavior in People with Dementia | Linda Ercoli, PhD | UCLAMDChat

[@dcmcneillis]

Much needed in the UK, we have nothing like it and I would have loved to hvae discovered this months ago. Thank you for making the videos publicly available.

[@rebeccah.2524]

My husband is beginning to show signs of dementia- very mild right now, I love him so much, I’m going to help him all I can and God’s Grace help us with this real life.

[@topshotta2000]

Sorry to hear that my gma going through the same

[@rollingon6358]

How’s your husband now?

[@savgoulis2826]

Who the hell put thumbs down for this video? This woman's education & understanding is awesome x

[@DNAleguillou]

I know! Stupid kids probably 😄. Ignore it. She is great! 😀👍 I appreciate her knowledge and the information

[@margaretserehagel6820]

What about watching family caregivers. Who seem to know very little. About caring for this disease do you say something or just be quiet and let it continue

[@Exasia2010]

The dementia folks probably lmao

[@Shellzeva21]

Yeah Narcissistic people probably...Nothing better to do We have to pity them

[@autumnskye5882]

People who don’t believe in science and incredibly smart individuals 😉

[@LilibethHoldsworth]

As a personal carer i found this video is very helpful to what im doing looking after challenging people. She is very clear to explain and easy to understand.

[@lunarmodule9915]

This is the best video I've seen on dementia. I've already experienced much of this with my loved one. Anyone watching it as a caregiver try your best. Remember, your loved one is also regressing back to their childhood. That may help you in some instances.

[@moarroz]

When should they not be able to drive? My partner is 48 yrs older than me. He's on dementia meds for mild cognitive decline, but the meds don't work on violence. He's also seeing a psychiatrist and on seizure meds for mania. Idk what to do...I'm 29

[@jeanettesdaughter]

Lunar Module Understanding helps but the racial slurs and the bad words are the worst for me. I have to walk away. I do not think it is a good to allow the afflicted person to continue this anymore than one allows it in an enraged toddler. No I do not strike back anymore than I would spit back at an enraged toddler but I do not think it is acceptable to allow even the afflicted to rain down curses on you, yell obscene language, charge, push, and so on. You have to find ways to stop it if you cannot avoid it. Martial arts training particularly tai chi helps. I can tell when my sister is spoiling for a fight and Ive learned to sidestep threatening physical behavior. If I cannot redirect, I may have to remove myself because often the rage episode will be forgotten in 15 minutes or so and never remembered! I know it’s the disease process or the alcohol or the temperature or the confusion r Ben an infection ( treatable) but It’s primitive behavior and it has to be acknowledged as such because it can be dangerous. I have to prioritize health and safety in the home or on small excursions. We keep a very controlled and pleasant environment but the delusions can get out of hand.

[@SusanLynn656]

Thank you Lunar Module. I want my Mom back. But I have to move forward and get to know this new person, figure out her needs, find ways to cope with her strange hallucinations, delusions and confusion.

[@joycehewitt3633]

good one.

[@LadyNightOwl63]

@@SusanLynn656 I can relate. My mom is 91 years old, and up until last November was sharp as a tack - full of personality and always conversing. Slowly she became withdrawn, would not say a word unless she needed something. We have not had an actual conversation since January...she can talk, but she no longer can converse. Her nurse practioner now has her diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment, but feels the diagnosis of vascular dementia is right around the corner. I have already dealt with her paranoia, hallucinations and apathy. It's very hard as I am caring for her on my own. She still has good days whereas she is full of personality and conversing - but those days are becoming few and far between. I will add, my mom had her vitamin D level checked and it was critically low, she now takes a Vitamin D supplement daily and the paranoia/ hallucinations have disappeared - so have your moms Vit. D levels checked. Stay strong and best of luck to you.

[@user-if3lk7ct8k]

Thank you, I’m currently taking care of my Mom who is a stroke victim with dementia starting. This is helping me understand her aggressive behavior at times, and refusal of almost everything. 😩

[@mayamaker8841]

My spouse has been diagnosed with early dementia and has been put on medication. For 50 years now, I have been observing his strange behaviour, lack of responsibility for decisions made, lack of social contact, and always needing to be in the limelight. Now I know it's Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This coupled with this recent diagnosis is worrying. He has always had an anger management problem, and if I ask why he did something, his reaction is physical aggression and I have to stay out of reach. I am preparing for the future by taking over all responsibilities so that I do not have to interact more than is necessary. He is an insulin dependent diabetic and has always been very undisciplined about following his medical or diet routine. This isn't new. At 50 he had a quad bypass surgery and the attitude was the same. He also wears hearing aids. This video is excellent.

[@africanqueenmo]

I hear you. A narcissist who also gets dementia is a psycopath

[@melsmith5100]

What's the name of the medication for dementia?

[@ataylor3539]

I THANK GOD FOR PUTTING THIS ON MY MIND TO LOOK FOR THIS ON HERE..IVE BEEN CARING FOR MY MOTHER FOR 3YRS..I ALSO HAVE 3 KIDS AND I DEVOTED SOOO MUCH TO HER..I FELT SHE WASNT GRATEFUL...I HAVE 2 OTHER SIBLINGS WHO WASNT A BIG HELP !...I FEEL THIS IS OUR MOTHER...WHY WOULD YOU LEAVE ME WITH ALL OF THIS...HELP OUT SOMETIMES...BUT THANK GOD I PRESSED THIS..I REALLY THOUGHTMY MOTHER HATED ME...I FEEL SO AWFUL...THANK YOU FOR THIS..AND GOD BLESS!!

[@djallin2727]

I'm going through the same thing and my poor dad has to care for my mom for now. The messed up thing about it is that, it's agitation and aggression in the daytime and constipation and urination throughout the night.... Hopefully we can support one another, somehow someway..

[@ataylor3539]

@@djallin2727 OMG...YES..BUT THE AGITATION IS THRU OUT THE DAY...AND YES THE CONSTIPATION!!! I DNT COMPLAIN ABOUT HER URINATING DUE TO TGE FACT SHE STOP PRODUCING URINE AND WHEN THEY ADMITTED HER AT THE HOSPITAL I CRIED LIKE A BABY....IM JUST RESPONSIBLE WIT PUTTING FLUIDS IN THROUGH HER STOMACH TUBE...BUT ITS SUCH A RELIEF FOR THEM TO HAVE A GOOD DAY AND TALK ALL DAY...YES WE WILL GET THROUGH AND THANK YOU!!❤

[@djallin2727]

@@ataylor3539 most of moms irritation and anger stems from hunger. So it is imperative that she eats on a regular basis throughout the day and also I noticed that if the weather is bad that also affects her mood severely.. But thank you such much for a compelling story about your mom... It really helped me out one side was reading a story because it's just me mostly doing everything and I don't have the heart to let a complete stranger come into the home and take over for her ....I'm out of control freak I just want the best for Mom and I know no one's going to do it like I'm going to do it... Have a beautiful day and I'll talk to you soon.

[@danzbutrfly]

@@ataylor3539 what stage is she in....my dad cannot urinate and is stage 5 or 6

[@ataylor3539]

@@danzbutrfly THATS SOMETHING I REALLY DNT KNOW ALL I KNOW IS THATS ITS GETTING WORSE.....SHE HAS A PEG TUBE .. WHICH I HAVE TO GIVE HER WATER IN...SHES BEEN TO THE E.R DUE TO NOT URINATING...THEY KEPT HER FOR A WEEK ...SO PLEASE SEND HIM TO THE DR. TO SEE WHAT YOU CAN DO BECAUSE SHES SOOOOOO STUBBORN ON DRINKING WATER AND BLAMES ME WHEN SHE GETS AN INFECTION....PLUS IF HES DIABETIC AND HAS HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE IT WILL WORK ON HIS KIDNEYS....I HOPE THIS HAS HELPED YOU

[@shayanfazeli8211]

Dementia and Alzheimer’s are one of the saddest things this universe has to offer. Watch “the father”, sir anthony hopkins did a great job portraying dementia 😔. Thank you for the great video.

[@nonnywinner5039]

My mom is going through mid to late stage dementia with parkinson disease. She is paranoid and sometimes extremely aggressive verbally, her selfcare hygiene is major issue right now. Helpful video as I am learning everything I can about the disease.

[@Karen-es2ds]

Stay strong she needs you

[@sheliarossell3162]

Moving a person from where they live to new location, then bringing them back can be very upsetting to a person with illness. A person will always try to call others trying to get back to area use to live.

[@ramonakearns2101]

This video is very informative. I'm caring for 102yrs old auntie. She's very independent and recently she's acting aggressively. I'm learning to know what triggers her. She doesn't want me to help clean her house yet her bathroom is a little messy. She's constantly saying she doesn't need anyone to clean her house. She's cussing me out and I have to keep myself calm. There are times when I ask her if she needs something done she always says no. So I'm talking gently and calm. Here lately it's been difficult. This video is helpful. I will been conscious of what I do and say

[@sutash9043]

I have the same problem with my dad. He hasn't been diagnosed, I believe because we haven't known how to tackle it. We used to think it was just his personality because he's always been very stubborn and age was just doing its thing. Now, though, that I'm staying with him taking care of other issues, I see there's clearly a problem. Thing is, he wants to do things that are dangerous for him because he used to be so independent and resourceful, he knew how to fix practically everything, very good with tools and such, but he's not seeing the dangers and he gets aggressive when we tell him not to do what he wants. He also forgets doing things that created problems and blames everyone around him of doing that, and gets aggressive explaining what he thinks is the solution to a problem, specially because his ideas are so confusing and it's hard to understand what he means. I'm totally aware that he has to be diagnosed, but I don't know how to do it, because he'd NEVER agree to see a professional.

[@alicesamekbenoit5990]

*So sad, but anyone who has looked after a loved one with dementia will know how hard it is physically and mentally. My heart goes out to anyone/everyone affected by Alzheimer/Dementia. A huge shout out to any caregiver doing this alone! I feel your journey. I feel your pain because I've been there. My mom was also diagnosed in her 60s. Feeling absolutely shattered, heartbroken and drained , working with different physicians across the country, used Donepezil and other drugs, with little or no improvement. I was exhausted and overwhelmed to look any further. Crying a lot through frustration, anger and despair, But today with the help of Homeocure Worldwide Natural Medicine, my mother is completely healthy and well again. I think we only need more support and sunlight to overcome this dreadful disease. Search for support regardless and don't stop until you get it. With Homeocure Worldwide treatment, there is hope, don't give up! Check out this blog for useful info️; **homeocureworldwide.blogspot.com**, Be it any condition, natural treatment and a healthy diet is a road to fast recovery.*

[@kellykellykelly8744]

@@alicesamekbenoit5990 There is NO cure for this disease.

[@brega6286]

If sudden anger/aggression/increased confusion happens.. elderly persons should be checked for illness, infection as such as bladder infection can go unnoticed and yet cause behavior changes.

[@marisapaola9010]

Wonderful video. The best I've seen. Beware of knives on kitchen tables. My father snatched a knife off the table and tried to stab my eye out. He wasn't kidding, he was much stronger than me happened within a microsecond, I had to grab his ear. I was fighting for my life. Why all because I said ok in a minute, I'll just put the washing down. That was enough to set him off. Beware.

[@sheliarossell3162]

Yes it is dangerious you can get hurt at any time.

[@maryl8539]

Yes, I had this happen as well, so I have hidden all of the sharps.

[@ryanburns6284]

I’m now very aware of this . Very shocking when it first happens

[@melsmith5100]

My dad woke me up 2 hours ago to ask me for millions of dollars he doesn't have and because I don't have it to give him he gets really angry. My is spinning right now. HELP!!!

[@SativaVerte]

They can be just as dangerous with SCISSORS too😰

[@nahidsultana1352]

My father has delusional problem. He always said that he is seeing someone who come to his house to meet my sister in law in a very intimate way. And my brother and his wife yelling at him and arguing with him every time. It’s really upsetting. I sent them video links, google links to educate them about dementia and delusion. But they don’t want to listen to them or don’t feel interest to read. Don’t know what to do. My mother died 11 years ago. I’ve told my father many times to get married. But he didn’t agreed. Now this is the consequences happening. In our country there is no good care center or daycare for this type of people. Things are getting worse day by day. Don’t know what is waiting for us in future!

[@gabbylopez8613]

I remember caring for dementia and alzheimer's residents. It was frustrating because it was difficult to understand what they wanted or because they were repeating behaviors. I had to stay patient and kind despite being frustrated. I had a 99 year old lady punch me in the nose and bruise it up pretty good. Some residents were really nice though.

[@topshotta2000]

Wow in the face

[@pattiemaye1165]

Why is there such a turnover of staff?Why is thecarer's wage so low for such a difficult job?

[@ohbuck26]

Because the management doesn't want to get directly involved. It is ALWAYS the caregiver's fault and treatment for the patient may be expensive. She says at 3:50 ONE STUDY says aggression works both ways. I can't think of anyone that comes to work wanting to help people only to have the shit beat out of them. Then, your supervisor, who doesn't even know what the resident looks like says" what did you do to make the resident act that way?"

[@4Mr.Crowley2]

Do you know much about the state of healthcare in this country? Especially long-term care for the disabled and/or elderly? It is DISMAL unless you happen to have extraordinary wealth. A poor person has state-funded care, which pays very poorly. Most middle-class families can’t afford even basic long-term in-home care for a person with say advanced dementia, which can mean years of care at astronomical costs. And NO, these workers are not paid well by the companies that run these homes. They pay the lowest wages they can while charging enormous $$$ for services.

[@4Mr.Crowley2]

I should add that many employees at many of these care facilities actually work their arses off and care deeply for patients. But they tend to be worked to death and are not paid well by any stretch of the imagination. With the many baby-boomers that will soon be needing care I hope there will be more attention paid to improving elder care.

[@kevinking7860]

pattie maye low wages are a factor in this but also the pressure of a company giving staff too many clients because often they are understaffed Also the employee taking on more jobs than they can handle and become disillusioned with the job

[@marekbelec8896]

The thing is. It isn't difficult if you have training to deal with it . Certain things yes. It's hard but those are specific cases.

[@albertwertz1608]

Fantastic video. Should be a training video for all Health Care staff. Thank you very much! Albert Wertz, DO

[@macadamianutball7534]

There is training daily ! What is the point no one wants to work in healthcare anymore esp nursing homes . Everyone can deny that the problem is lack of staff but it is the problem !!!

[@dignairizarrycassens1113]

My dear friend and travel mate developed dementia rapidly during the last 3 years. Since January we noticed she was worsening faster than expected, and in October she exhibited a rapid deterioration manifesting almost every aggressive behavior mentioned in this lecture. She lives with her husband and he's been caring for her as she slowly entered her first stages and quickly catapulted into the final ones. Tomorrow she is admitted to in-patient hospice care since the daily visits aren't enough and he's exhausted. Even her dog is living with good friends and neighbors as her screaming was so upsetting to her and she wasn't eating worried about her human. I will miss my dear friend, my party partner and travel mate. I'll be having beers for her when her body finally rests. As a healthcare provider that has worked with mental illness and AD, losing a parent or a friend to dementia and/or AD is devastating, as then, it's personal.

[@aniciatan4589]

Dry

[@mindmyown1]

This is so sad. I am so sorry for your broken heart you endure for your best friend. God bless You, your a great bestie ❤️

[@cutechiangels]

Thanks for your openhearted comment. What a sad experience for you. And her husband and dog. 😢 And, it's so sad to know how fast she catapulted downwards. Ugh. I'm not sure those who have the illness suffer as much as the loved ones around them do. I don't think so. As, very often they miss a part of their frontal lobes. Or it's deteriorated. Which is the part in a brain that brings forth empathy, feelings, kindness and love. My adoptive dad is getting worse, now. I've always known him with bad memory, bad hoarding disorder, and wierd behaviour here and there. So his dementia probably started in his teens. But, he has never been diagnosed. I wonder... if a certain type dementia is related to people who suffered tuberculosis? He could always get away with it quite well, camouflaging the worse. He's always been highly afraid to go to the doctors. He does know he has a mental problem, but doesn't want to address it. I'm already sad of what's coming... And, it can be very hard and frustrating for us, the ones that love him. Any tips on how to deal with the decline ? Yes, at times it's easier to say to oneself, better they be dead than alive! Coz I don't see why, for which reason, we have to go through this stuff. And they can't even understand at that point... Good luck, and thanks. 🙏

[@dignairizarrycassens1113]

@@cutechiangels thank you. She died quietly in hospice care in March and we held a celebration of life in April. For weeks I kept expecting her to come running in the door laughing and saying "let's get a shot of Tequila and watch fishing and Cabo videos, as we did every Sunday afternoon.

[@cutechiangels]

@@dignairizarrycassens1113 So sad for you. But, everyone is better off now, without all the suffering going on. Afcourse, I understand you miss her, and it's normal you feel her presence, now and then. From above she's still with you, in spirit. And, you can also talk to her, telepathically or even aloud! You'll get signs, sometimes, that make you think about her. 😉 My adoptive dad can be very agressive at times. Especially now, when he's deteriorating faster and has to go into a different home. His hoarding and huge stocking in various storages far and near, is a supplementary problem we have to deal with. Lucky you're ok. Good luck, take care. 🤗

[@DrNeill]

As a postdoctoral fellow working with medically fragile individuals in a forensic setting, this was extremely informative and interesting. Thank you for sharing.

[@rain5920]

I started to get back pain after I ate a smelly pizza and I was making very loud groaning sounds on the couch and my mother was sitting on the other couch she got angry at me and told me to go to my room cuz I was acting like a wimp and I saw a dark colored puddle growing at her feet I was guessing it must be diarrhea or blood

[@tajbarbie3338]

I hate dementia .it makes me so frustrated. This is a very tough job and can be mentality frustrating .They are the most difficult to deal with vs someone who just is elderly and simply need care .

[@billyjokeveles2720]

Yes I am a caregiver of an elderly man that has both dementia an alzheimers it is mentally an physically exhausting I'm always looking for more ways to learn how to help me be a better caregiver this patient by far is the hardest one I have ever had getting old is one thing but when u have dementia or alzheimers...you have your work cut out for you it is not an easy road but be determined an patience is big key

[@syc9675]

I have a grandma who has dementia and living in a nursing home. On many occasions, she gets very aggressive and confused and screamed out. It made my life feel very hard having to put up with aggressive behaviour.

[@walkingthroughlife3517]

Never take aggressive behaviour from someone who has dementia personally, remember it's the disease not the person, speaking from first hand experience, believe me.....big love

[@asafaust6774]

A broken jaw, although the demented person is not responsible for their actions, is an injury that the carer cannot endure. What's next? A broken nose? This would be heartbreaking to have to place them in a care facility, but there is no other choice.

[@randygreen007]

@@asafaust6774 when they are physically combative ALWAYS try assist them from behind so once the swinging or hands or fists starts they can’t connect.

[@kristinamullen4066]

I intellectually understand this but sometimes react automatically to sudden and unexpected aggression.I need to work more on keeping calm and developing strategies for handling these situations.

[@possumofantikka8160]

@@kristinamullen4066 just to say yes you do. people who think they are 'helping' do so much damage to vulnerable people because of their own lack of education, lack of caring, lack of empathy, and just basic incompetence and being judgmental. if someone is combative chances are they are very scared. or in pain. you shoudlnt have to take abuse but yes many many more people need to rembember that they are the caregiver and the patient is suffering way worse than you... a lot of ppl in the care giving field cause so much damage cause they just have no idea what they are doing.

[@gabbylopez8613]

@@asafaust6774 I actually think an old lady I was caring for broke my nose when I was caring for her in a facility because she punched it so hard.

[@visionartstudio5330]

A complete University lecture for free on the internet. ❣️ Amazing quality and very concise. Much appreciated!

[@carersoutlook]

Thank you VERY much Linda. Your talk and the way you presented clearly with the graphics and scenarios made this easy to understand. An excellent training video. Congratulations!

[@cricket88671]

What’s really sad is my brother and I have spoke to doctors about changes we have seen and we could tell something was not right” Doctors Do Not Listen! They always say if you can catch something early” You can treat it more effectively! But Doctors refuse to listen! How does a person fix that? Doctors treat caregivers like they are ignorant or as if we are trying to diagnose and that offends them. We the family, The loved one’s See What is happening and or notice the change and Doctors need to listen. I’m so frustrated at this point because I’m listening and watching videos to learn and teach myself Because Obviously Doctors don’t seem to care until somebody has got hurt or the dementia patients tell the lies of abuse or stilling and get the very person trying so hard to give the best care” They end up in a hot mess of authority’s or police being called or someone has got hurt or dementia patients aren’t taking medication for other health problems and hiding medications or throwing them away and it also comes back as the caregiver problem of not giving medications or just flat out health issues getting worse when unaware of what WE are truly doing. Doctors need to start listening to family loved one’s! You can’t catch something early if Doctors don’t listen or help!! I’m definitely learning from the videos MORE THEN ANY DOCTOR THAT MY MOM HAS! She has several doctors and only one doctor has just now recognized that dementia is happening after 2 years! It’s really sad that Doctors are becoming so blind to helping loved one’s that scream or cry out for help! Then they wonder why people don’t care to even go back to their office or we find a doctor ( usually older one’s that do understand) because these days we got a bunch of Doctors that don’t care what you say or even show them Because they are Know It All Doctors that don’t really care about you or the patients…. They only care about what their science has recently taught them!! Honestly I blame the doctors in today’s world for dementia patients and loved one’s of the patient and caregiver’s going through way more then we should ever need to go through!! It’s totally unfair for a patient because due to Doctors not listening, our loved one’s suffer more and end up in a facility that scares them even more and definitely causes family members to stress more and recent doctors more!!! It’s not fair to pay doctors all this money and all we get back is Nothing or More problems!!

[@joebobjoesayshi]

Yea we need to start investigating medication's role in dementia later in life.

[@joebobjoesayshi]

Get brain scans ordered.

[@vijay85321]

Please pray for healing of dementia patient

[@StephenStHill-si7en]

Deep thanks to UCLA and their generous contributors for these open access webinars etc. There is some speculation that dementia occurs outside LA, and even beyond the USA.

[@edensmith552]

Our mum has a Dementia, thank you very much Dr. for this video. God bless you🙏

[@kevinking7860]

I work with dementia clients and found this very informative I attend one client his wife lives with him she too is disabled mobility probs Often when he becomes aggressive she becomes sharp and demonstrative with him I try and calm using distraction It dosent always work

[@alanshort1401]

i think I may have vascular dementia, i cant remember anything and I keep losing stuff.

[@cricket88671]

I do want to give out a big thank you for this video. This video has hit on every issue I have spoke to doctors about and I have learned more from this video then any one of 7 doctors that my mom has. Thank you for the videos. I will continue to educate myself more because I love my mom and it hurts me when nothing I do or say seems to help her. With these videos, I can now better understand why. Thank you very much.

[@MultiCamOrange]

Thank you very much indeed! I'm hoping to work in a nursing home soon. While I've done a lot of community work with clients with dementia, I've not been in a residential setting, so this is really useful.

[@christar9527]

I hope you are okay and liking your job. You couldn’t pay me enough to work in one of those!

[@MultiCamOrange]

@@christar9527 Hey, thanks! Actually I left the nursing home after six months, but not because of the residents. It was severely understaffed and there was bullying from middle and senior management. Not a supportive place to work. I now work in the community again :)

[@ruthwhall3020]

Brill video this should be shown in every care home .I would like to say if your family member is in a care facility, please appreciate the staff the job is very hard ,normally the staff have bigger hearts than any other medical profession, they constantly deal with aggressive behaviour on a daily basis and yet go back day after day wages are normally minimal standard and there normally under staffed ,so please it doesnt take much out of your day to accurately say thank you to them there the people who are still giving dignity to your loved ones

[@melaniemetcalfe3354]

Thank you so much for these very profound and professionally insightful lecture. I feel better and confident understanding and how to react appropriately to these patients at work now. Cheers👍

[@wahkuna_hoes]

With a heavy heart I did a preliminary KZbin search for aggression in elderly people because I'm caregiving for my grandmother and I have suspicions but no medical records I'm not going to lie part of my heart saying when she said Don't expect them to remember who you but I couldn't give up on my grandmother I love her so much

[@kittiekat8920]

In my mother’s case, she has always been violent. She has visual and auditory hallucinations. Nothing we say or do to re assure her that her hallucinations are not real is met with aggression and swearing a blue streak

[@brega6286]

She n needs a good psyche evaluation and medication.

[@timetraveler1973]

God Bless This Woman.

[@marciamellow1211]

This is a fabulous video...I the caregiver of my husband... really needs to step this up... this has really helped me... alot to think about... all do able....

[@larryjanson4011]

this is all the more reason to stop this social distancing stuff. my mom is cooped up in her apt. no interaction with anyone even bingo has been stopped. my mom is getting very verbal ( no cussing yet), but has gotten physical with a couple hospital staff ( police/security called). getting her into a care home is hard. she wants to walk out the door. saying i am waiting for her. accusing staff of theft, etc.

[@ramonakearns2101]

Yes, I'm glad you're talking about suicide. Every time auntie gets agitated she says I know why people do what they do because people are telling them what to do. She says she's not happy. Her doctor diagnosed her with memory loss, but I think the doctor needs to make a recommendation.

[@marycarricaburu3683]

My husband is in the early stages of alzheimer's. This video is totally discouraging for me. It makes me just want to cry. I don't think I can do this. I love him, but I don't think I can let him throw things at me if it comes to that. I am so discouraged.

[@davidlo168888]

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[@4Mr.Crowley2]

Mary, I’m sad to see there was only one (very unhelpful) response to your post. This is a medical situation not a personal one. You need to realize that your husband needs MEDICAL care (and doing it all by yourself is dangerous for you AND FOR HIM). Please, please, please look into everything available to you as you must accept that you simply won’t be able, physically (or mentally), to care entirely for a man (I know he’s your spouse) with a very serious advancing disease like Alzheimer’s. AND THEREIS NO REASON WHY YOU SHOULD FEEL ANY GUILT WHATSOEVER FOR ACCEPTING THAT HELP IS NEEDED FOR A SERIOUS MEDICAL PROBLEM.

[@denissr7762]

Mary Carricaburu I know it's going to be difficult but just remember there is help out there. You can do this, just be strong not just for yourself but for him. Also remember to take care of yourself and find support from meaningful people in your life because you're going to need it.

[@kare1972bear]

I'm a paid caregiver with over 9 years experience, most of that being with Alzheimer patients. Aggressive behaviors can be scary and very concerning but this is when you should be in contact with the doctor. And hopefully you have a doctor who is knowledgeable with elder care and/or dementia- that, I have seen, is very important. There are medicines that address this behavior and are not "restraint" medications. They are a calming med and are started out with the smallest dosage needed. Support groups are so beneficial! You interact with people that have the same experiences and concerns and you may find how to resolve certain issues you are currently having. Please look into that for yourself. Also see if there is respite care you can access. There are programs out there that you may qualify for financially. Now is the time to research your community for any programs or help for yourself and your husband.

[@alicesamekbenoit5990]

*So sad, but anyone who has looked after a loved one with dementia will know how hard it is physically and mentally. My heart goes out to anyone/everyone affected by Alzheimer/Dementia. A huge shout out to any caregiver doing this alone! I feel your journey. I feel your pain because I've been there. My mom was also diagnosed in her 60s. Feeling absolutely shattered, heartbroken and drained , working with different physicians across the country, used Donepezil and other drugs, with little or no improvement. I was exhausted and overwhelmed to look any further. Crying a lot through frustration, anger and despair, But today with the help of Homeocure Worldwide Natural Medicine, my mother is completely healthy and well again. I think we only need more support and sunlight to overcome this dreadful disease. Search for support regardless and don't stop until you get it. With Homeocure Worldwide treatment, there is hope, don't give up! Check out this blog for useful info️; **homeocureworldwide.blogspot.com**, Be it any condition, natural treatment and a healthy diet is a road to fast recovery.*

[@LOVELOVE-du5ut]

Thank you so much for your very helpful webinar videos. As a caregiver, this is a very scarey and isolating job.

[@black_sheep_nation]

Thank you💗for all you do.

[@hellobye900]

I agree. We are in the same boat.

[@sharontyler8905]

Your presentation is sophisticated. Thank you. You are articulate & you share well.

[@sabirahmikell5858]

Im so glad I found your presentation its spot on what my mother is currently going through. You helped me better understand moms dementia.

[@cathypurnell9331]

Thank You, Ms. Linda just the information my family needs . Thanks. ..

[@Friskyhorton]

It is much better to medicate the violent dementia patient, than to need the police to come and help. My nurse was attacked and almost raped: and nothing was done. She quit. This happened due to not enough staff. I would have sued the facility!

[@sheliarossell3162]

Wow aggressive behavior physical attack she didn't talk about physical attack any type of attack is possiable.

[@now591]

Something is VERY WRONG that this has become such a common problem. Elderly people used to be far more healthy decades ago. =FACT.

[@piccadelly9360]

Our diet has deteriorated and so is our health. We poison ourselves with food that was previously poisoned (antibiotics, pesticides, etc.)

[@joebobjoesayshi]

@@piccadelly9360 Could be sugar, too. And plus there are more types of drugs being prescribed to people now and whole-life longitudinal studies are lacking

[@oddestcat7717]

This video has been so incredibly helpful

[@dvbuildingservices771]

Ignorance to this reality is at an all time high. My father has been suffering with Alzheimer's for the last few years and it has become abundantly clear to me during that period how little help there actually is! When you consider that 1 in 6 of us will experience this disease (and that statistic is growing fast) we need to address this now and stop thinking that they're just 'stupid old people'..........it might be your experience before you know it!!

[@dewiialjoe711]

Very helpful and educational video this will help me with me , when I am working with the elderly patients

[@veefriend4201]

This was a welcome presentation, thank you - a few things I was unaware of in people with dementia.

[@57ncis6491]

This is definitely a very informative video on what to expect of people with dementia. Wow - every boomer should see this so they know how to handle this disease and cause less stress on the family.

[@moonstar4121]

Not all baby boomers get dementia and I'm not interested all the time and dreary stuff

[@ellekopera2915]

Dementia is not a part of normal aging!!! Dementia patients are in another world! They can’t learn something now & remember it later once they have dementia!!! Wow you this video really went over your head!!! Be a better human!!!!

[@eastcoastnews9529]

I take care of my mom and I’ was a nurse 20 yrs ago and my mom refuses to go to doctors or get tested. She has beat me / stolen from me and bad mouth the family help

[@randygreen007]

I’ve already gone down that road with my mother. You posted this 4 months ago so things have likely changed for you by now. If you’re still in charge of her care and you’re living in a state where cannabis is legal I strongly suggest administering her a very light dose of an edible. It behaves like a switch in their brain making them happy and joyful. They go from fist fighting and scratching to laughing and giggling like a girl. Also research amino acids and their place in helping combat this horrible disease. Google Scholar, search dementia amino acids. Also research gamma light and sound therapy for Alzheimer’s patients.

[@randygreen007]

My mother canceled appointments that I made for her to see a neurologist. Eventually I just instructed the doctor’s office to ignore her call and to not call to confirm that she would be there. I then drove her to her appointment and she had no clue about who she was going to see. It worked perfectly for us.

[@adasimonetti2232]

Thank you very much for your very informative information on Agrression and Dimentia. I wish I had viewed this video when my mothers condition was at its onset. The early stages as a caregiver were devastating. Now my mothers final phase at the age of 92 is a bit easier. With such a large population reaching this condition this information is critically needed, because quite frankly it may be difficult to discern. Thank you and god bless you for your insights.

[@mthomas1160]

Thank you doctor, I needed to watch this video.

[@amandaallen9460]

My Maternal grandma is aggressive and annoying right now about not being able to drive and feeling like her life is over..she was just diagnosed as of March 6th..I don't know how much more my family and I can take

[@curly2387]

Excellent video! Thank you.

[@wysokawieza]

Very good presentation

[@ednaninnis3251]

Why has this never been a priority for the medical profession,, we can talk untill the cows come home,,, still nothing has been done,, talking allday won't help a violent person

[@johnnyangelcarranza]

I wish I watched this sooner. I miss and love you Grandma, mucho mucho.

[@劉麗美-r2k]

Thanks so much for the kind advise, they are really helpful.

[@craftpaint1644]

People requesting this job think they're ready for what they imagine will happen but are then upset by what really happens.

[@billyjokeveles2720]

This entire video is soo helpful tha k u soo much as a caregiver this I will return to this every so often thank u

[@casualonemmo-player2167]

In my city, there are 3 regular nursing homes. And 1 that houses any distruptive etc etc patients. So whenever a patient cant, for a reason, live at one of the normal 3 ones, they get transferred to the locked down facility. Every caregiver has to work x number of days at the locked down facility, during their 12 week rotationplan. This is to prevent burnout working at the locked facility. The wast majority of patients at the locked facility are not sane and are, very often, forcefully sedated to complience, in order to keep everyone inkl the patient and the public, safe. Sometimes patients also need satation just to get washed and cleaned once awhile. Etc etc Once a week a special group of doctors and pharmasy experts goes thru all the patients meds, on all 4 wards, to look for interactions.. consider to remove x and x... change doses etc... + two of them are on call 24/7 in case shtf. And the cops gets here fast if help with restraining is needed. Its overall great.

[@Karen-es2ds]

I really thank you I'm taking care of someone with dementia you have really helped me thanks. I hope I can keep in touch

[@anaaguilera6100]

It was excellent! Thank you so much

[@brandyhuffman8672]

You guys should be a CNA in a nursing home and give one of them a shower. I had a lady bit a hole out of my neck, and then spit it out, I totally understand the disease, and I never blamed her, This disease is long slow death sentence, and a mental torment in there head.

[@nishanisha1924]

Very useful knowledge for phychological disorder patient. Thank share this knowledge

[@ckeck402]

What do you you if you can’t get them to a doctor? They refuse medication and is very defensive about anything being wrong.

[@randygreen007]

My mother would cancel the appointments that I had made for her to see a neurologist. I simply asked the doctor’s office to not call to confirm that she would be there. The day of her appointments I would take her for a ride and told her that we need to pop in and see someone. She went along with it and before you know it she had been seen and evaluated. Just be patient and creative and hopefully everything will work out! If they are still driving themselves you may want to call the DMV on your own and explain your situation so that they can call them in for an evaluation. That takes the responsibility and heat off of you.

[@ajm3821]

My mom has diabetes, CKD, obesity, HBP and ALZ. She doesn’t believe she has any of this.

[@letiahenson1740]

Excellent also works with young children

[@carmenmayberry9453]

My husband, has several behaviors that you mention.

[@reginamcguire3454]

The idea of a daily schedule makes my mom upset. She has so much back pain on top of the dementia. She complains all the time with pain. She had had several back surgeries.

[@sandralaing8688]

I also think if you"ve always been a kind person that it wont change your personality...just my observation as a carer. Those who were always controlling, manipulative, domineering and quite a bully type carry on till in their ripe age.

[@karen1866]

I’ve noticed exactly the opposite….my once sweet, gentle, funny mom is now bitter, angry and aggressive!

[@Natsariyth]

I agree with you. It’s ingrained deep in their subconscious and can come out more noticeably in their elderly years.

[@briabba123]

But my mom is narcissistic too how do I tell the difference

[@TheSerwow]

@@lorrainekelly6416 the best advice is to smile, stand up and go the fuck away for good.. this is the safest/best solution

[@sheliarossell3162]

Wow that difficult.

[@tbrowne3734]

Thank you for useful information for my new job in career.

[@ianlight2141]

If there is pathological jealousy can it be treated with behaviour therapy or is medication inevitable ?

[@shellyja121]

My question is, a patient with dementia can be aggresive to everyone or just to one person?

[@mrs.e3909]

Shouldn't caregivers in nursing homes and senior living centers be trained in dementia care? No reason they should be seeing these patients as problems, and restraining them. Positive Care training/Teepa Snow is a good place to start.

[@brandyhuffman8672]

I am a CNA in a nursing home, they made us take a 2 day class to learn how to fight this nasty disease.

[@getoffyourbutt.3654]

I'll come at home we can't you know sedate a person with medication but at a nursing home they can shouldn't any caregiver of anyone with dementia be able to just sedate their person they're sitting that they're taking care of so that nobody has to put up with this kind of violence

[@bow2theprincess]

What is the solution when you have tried literally every suggestion listed here, but your loved one is aggressive, high-energy but low functioning, highly destructive, and hell-bent on escaping the house around the clock? When distractions and redirection don't work, kind and gentle tones do nothing, there are no means of safe exercise, and no amount bribing, coaxing, or trickery do the job? When nearly every task is met with resistance and agitation. When Medicaid won't cover memory care, but you can't afford out of pocket treatment. When every hired help quits because the patient is too difficult to watch and work with. When wandering, escaping, and emptying every drawer in the house is the only activity they're interested in? When you have no help from family or friends. When no medications even slightly touch the behaviors. Are caregivers expected to spent every waking moment in utter exhaustion and defeat? What then? Why is it acceptable for facilities to lock patients in safe places and medicate to sedate, but not family?

[@lunarmodule9915]

Been through all of what you've described. Find the best facility you can and the closest to you. Visit at various hours of the day. Observe the staff and administration. Ask many questions. A facility will take Medicaid. The longer you wait the more people there are on waiting lists. To hell with family and friends that don't help. Statistically I've found there is primarily one person that's the caregiver. It's unfair but that's the reality.

[@johnhoude1340]

Perhaps a very foolish idea but what if the person commits a crime? Wouldn't they have to go to Jail? Then they would be sent for medical care almost immediately. Surely this can't be worse that what is happening now. Our health care system also results in people living longer but without the ability to do so on their own or with reasonable assistance. I sometimes think walking away and letting nature take it's course would be the most ethical thing to do. I'm now taking care of the fourth person with dementia in my life. It started when I was 53, then years ago. All but one was aggressive and ALCOHOL was a monster problem. Last week my uncle slit my aunts throat and then sliced his wrists. He died and she is still alive but barely so. Their only daughter has to take care of all of this. I honestly feel the caregiver should walk away sometimes. In any other context it would be grounds for criminal charges. Anyway what else can I say. Be tough but know when to stop and walk away.

[@111455]

this almost makes me wish for legal euthanasia, if i was like this my sane self would want to be put down to prevent this suffering on both sides and the hazards i may pose. i know this seems stone cold when it's regarding a loved one but it is a terminal condition, much like many cancers and diseases/ organ failures, and those are candidates for legal euthanasia.

[@bow2theprincess]

I never considered legal euthanasia until I started caregiving in memory care. It's the most brutal, cruel, and evil disease. Patients should have the right to leave with dignity if they so choose. If I ever face this disease myself, I'll take a bullet before I let myself become the shell of a former human.

[@janetsavona3542]

I believe they will do euthanasia one day

[@chrizv.1451]

Agreed man, if I'm ever diagnosed that's it for me. I want my last years on earth to be filled with happiness for myself and those around me, not constant stress and suffering for both sides. The problem is if dementia patients say they want to be euthanized, people will think thats just the dementia talking and that they don't know what they're saying or what they want.

[@janetsavona3542]

@@chrizv.1451 If they legalized it Things would get out of hand Then would be getting rid of anybody they thought was useless

[@randygreen007]

This is a valid solution as long as it’s initiated by the person with dementia who has specifically stated this desire in their advanced directive or living will. It should never be initiated by a loved one or physician.

[@tombob4139]

Very useful thank you!

[@dgmnhn2098]

Thanks for this educational lecture !!!

[@asseelyako4338]

Thank you very much for this thorough and nice presentation

[@laurah.160]

my mother wrote a 17 paged manifesto about me; it was so cruel and inhumane.

[@marillynlewis231]

What happens when I'm having my own medical issues?

[@zahriemurtaj2598]

Thank you Linda for your speeches that’s really good help!!!!👍👍👍

[@maryellenlibonati4901]

When would a driver’s license be taken away. Procedure. .???

[@zuzuspetals8323]

Ask the individual’s doctor to intervene. This can be a very touchy subject-dangerous, too. And it would be not only the license, but the keys and the car. God bless you.

[@sheliarossell3162]

Person family not doing anything to help family with illness. Driving on wrong side of highway into on going traffic. When you see signs of illness it will Only get worst. Did you hear Dr say remove all thing that could harm you. Yet they can hit you with not normal strength like 3 times human strenghth. Placement is best.

[@maryhickel1477]

Then why hasn't someone,somewhere explained anything anytime of what is going on .Seems like a money making pay for someone.Never and I mean never has it been said anything of this incredible mess that people are put in. At any time ,any time. I have waited for ever for some one to come forward of anything.Imagine now ,all of a sudden hmm.And Iean no one mentioned any of this and now ,all of a sudden.

[@AngelEyes-xm7el]

This anger thing at 64 is about everything. He calks himself a monster. Is now punching the dog, kicking it. He is telling boxes of cereal he is going to kill them if it falls over. I am getting scared he rants kicks and throws everything now. His mother had early inset of Alzheimer's at 62. We are not married. Each day gets worse. Husband siblings will not talk to him. I don't know what to do. He is also an unmedicated diabetic. This is serious issues. I want to leave. He lost the house now lives in a parking lot working at a gas station. I do not know him anymore. 20 years ago I never saw this coming. Now everything is my fault. He for got his dog outside in a parking lot unleashed for an hour. He went to work. Forgot he put hum out.

[@fafi19374]

Thanks for all the information and explanation

[@carolgoddard1073]

My husband is in a Pychic ward. I have expressed the environment is a big issues besides he can hear well. He is aggressive towards care. They are using medication for all incidents. How do I address this with care staff and feel heard.

[@Luv-x8k]

Really good info thanks for the posting

[@joecatalanotto2129]

Very informative

[@leemccutchan3371]

would love to hear you but volume is too low

[@Schwabian]

Oh my god.. no wonder careers often die before the person with dementia. This is why euthanasia is essential. Quality of life is more important than quantity

[@sheliarossell3162]

Person needs to be placed.

[@_Siyana8_]

Where should I find video about deaf and impaired vision person dealing with dementia? Approaching her is almost impossible.

[@karenrehm9423]

Thank you Blessings

[@nancyadyer4368]

Thank you

[@sq3611]

Thank you so much ❤

[@rebeccasimpson923]

Is the responses to physical and social environment the same in each individual living with Alzheimer’s disease

[@nabihahabdulmalik7820]

hi, what can I do to help the woman who has dementia, who also tends to be a little aggressive but severely depressed, who is also being emotionally abused by her husband and who has a daughter that is in no way being supportive, if anything she is making her health worse in a sense that she can not get the proper support she needs due to the financial instability her daughter is giving her. what should be done at this point? She has no piece of mind, is constantly anxious and paranoid, is very stressed, and her son and I are trying our best to deal with the current situation that we have. Thank you.

[@ataylor3539]

HELLO..YOU MIGHT HAVE TO TALK TO HER DR. TO SEE WHAT MEDICINE SHE COULD GET ON TO MAKE HER CALM...OR FIND ACTIVITIES SHE ENJOYS TO TAKE HER MIND OFF WHAT SHE IS GOING THROUGH..I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST AND THANK GOD FOR YOU AND HER SON..

[@ed7519]

Natalia Malik: Please contact the Dept of Aging where you live. Have a social worker come to evaluate her and her living situation. This poor woman with Dementia should not be left suffering in this situation. Good luck, don't give up until she gets some help. Thank you for caring.

[@joannkeen7145]

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