Aging and the Solace of Solitude: An Older Person’s Perspective on Avoiding People

[@GC-Hiker]

Thanks for all of the comments. I hope to address each individually, but with the overwhelming response to the video, it may take me a while.

[@seanomaille8157]

We expand into life and then we contract back into source. The din and roar of youth gives way to the peace and solace of approaching mortality. Who knows, maybe we expand again and contract again ad infinitum? Every breath, every heartbeat, every pulsar, every atomic wave, a reminder of the profound, mysterious, rhythm spinning us along. Enjoy!

[@susie2157]

I absolutely loved your video! I'm 69 and I retired at 65. I had to have my hip replaced and it was right when Covid hit. I spent the next two years entirely alone as I have no children never married. But slowly I realized after all of the noise of being an elementary classroom teacher for 40 years, I began to crave the solitude that I found myself living within. Sometime later I had different family members asking me to get involved in my community or to volunteer or to go take a clas etc. I was struggling with what my life had been to what it was becoming. Then one day I suddenly realized I actually didn't want to do all these things I had done my whole life. I had actually come to enjoy my own company and my walks in nature and even the simple things I do in my community like helping the feral cats get TNR'd and even picking up garbage in my neighborhood on my walks. I feel like I am a part of my community without having to do all of the people engagement that absolutely wears me out. So thank you for your commentary it really helped me accept where I am in my life and to not only enjoy it but to seek it and yes it's not the quantity of life we have is the quality. You only get one trip around the Sun. You might as well make it the way you really want it at this point in your life. That's my motto

[@kristymoore7052]

I commented and then tried to read all of the comments. Great comments. Wow! You’ve hit some nail on the head. For 3k+ subscribers I’d say maybe this one went a bit viral or something. Definitely a hot topic us older folks have in common but rarely put out there or apparently discuss. I subscribed.

[@robertg786]

I get it but what's the purpose of telling everyone this.

[@vanwander]

@@robertg786 So they can see someone who might be in the same situation as them. If you are not, then don't worry about the purpose. Perhaps it was not for you.

[@markruddy5903]

I hear you. I'm sixty eight and I"m noticing that I am happy to have quiet time alone. Nature is a friend.

[@GC-Hiker]

I agree with you, the retreat to nature is one of the most stabilizing influences in my life.

[@KatMo7121]

63 and learned the same thing about 45 years ago. I spend as much time with Nature, and as little time with humans as I can!

[@blackpudding1000]

I'm also 68 and have been single for just over 4 years; the best choice ever. Next year I'll be living in a caravan in Iceland for six months. Alone. I can't wait.

[@keithwebster5418]

At 65 I’m happy to be alone with my dogs 🐕 at 62 I really realized how phony most people are and decided my dogs 🐕 are way better than people 😊

[@caroleminke6116]

Yup

[@Me97202]

When I begin my day and know I won’t be dealing with people that day, I feel joy.

[@higherperspective1756]

I get it ;-)))) Me too !

[@vidiot9000]

Freedom!

[@donaldmickunas8552]

I would describe my feeling as relief.

[@vidiot9000]

@ same here. Peace & Quiet!

[@Tooradj]

Yet all of you came here and posted a comment so you can interact with people.

[@peterbedford2610]

Yup. At 66, I find most conversations draining. A polite exchange is perfect.

[@KatMo7121]

Anything more than exchanging, "Catching any fish?" followed by "Yes" or "No" is my limit!

[@FrankMcDonnell-v1o]

I thought it was just me. 67 and several years back I completely lost interest in communicating at length with pretty much anyone but my wife and dog.

[@PennPearson]

"Draining". Exactly. When I was young, I looked forward to parties and other social events. Now, I look forward to them ending and the drive home to my quiet house.

[@swisstopia]

Most people suck. I love my solitude.

[@ladybooksmith3347]

@@FrankMcDonnell-v1oI am glad you still talk with your wife - and dog😀

[@AncestralFuel]

It’s great to hear someone debunk the myth that people have to stay heavily connected with others in their later years. As an introvert, I forced myself to be highly social for the purposes of work. Now that I am retired, I feel no need to go against my nature.

[@LaurenceDay-d2p]

That makes two of us. I hated working in a noisy office with a lot of petty quarrelsome people.

[@ROZ-y8v]

Same here at 70yo

[@MidnightExpressMC]

@@ROZ-y8v 💪👍👍

[@eazyt84]

Funny and paradox that this makes me want to socialize with you😂

[@MidnightExpressMC]

@ 😄👍👍

[@barbaram5214]

I’m 70 and I love to travel alone. I feel most alive and mentally happy when I’m exploring new places at my own slow pace. Thanks for this great video.

[@METALWERX]

I am only 56, however I am glad I am not the only one who values and understands your words.

[@Kentavious444]

At 60 I left the hustle bustle of Los Angeles after 40yrs and moved to a sleepy little town on the coast of Oregon. I don't miss my old life or friends. I'm happy to sit and watch the trees grow. I was so sick of the drama people were always injecting into my life. Everybody always wanting something from me. And for many of them it was never enough. I thought it was about time I look inward for my happiness.🙂

[@GC-Hiker]

I agree that there is a solidity and peace in nature that you rarely find in humans. Thanks for your comment.

[@monicaramirez51015]

😊I love my Solitude 😊and after being in Arizona for 5 years I’m ready to move to Oregon 😊which was my 2nd place I wanted to move to after becoming widowed after 21 years of marriage. May I ask what sleepy little coast town in Oregon? Thank you 🙏🏻

[@Kentavious444]

@@monicaramirez51015 Florence. It's on the Central coast.🙂

[@ginosalihbegovic7137]

I am like this since I am 19 basically , now at 26 I don’t even want a wife or anything. A little house in the woods is perfectly fine. All I need is already with me 😊

[@forestrun2967]

@@Kentavious444I love Florence! I’d love to live in the Redwoods, too if I could!

[@CraigAnderson-h2h]

AT 78, this is no time to suffer fools gladly or pretend that most people aren't as stupid as they seem to be, they are!

[@jenhasken]

I finally figure that out with a long time friend, I kept giving her too much credit and finally realized we were at completely different levels of shall we say understanding and that would never change!

[@artieash6671]

And yet you communicate with us, at considerable trouble.

[@CraigAnderson-h2h]

@@artieash6671 This is not personal. I don't know you or anyone else on here. Its social sharing.

[@roypublic3269]

@@artieash6671 "Us?" Lines on a Blog?

[@jeffhildreth9244]

I'm too busy to waste time considering I am 78, healthy, no end to projects. I do some art work in my studio, often without the radio on. I drive my 1963 MGB frequently.

[@bella612854]

When you love being alone, you have truly become a Zen Master

[@carolynw3602]

Or a disciple of Jesus

[@junepearl7993]

@@carolynw3602 Don’t you have to proselytize? That means talking to people. If only Christians would go off on their own and leave the rest of us alone!!

[@donnasmyth45]

​@@carolynw3602❤

[@eazyt84]

Not yet

[@scottchristopherwilkie1664]

When one can remain Zen, even amongst the chaos, you've become an even higher master

[@scottwagner6302]

The path of the lone wolf is not for everyone, but it is simplicity, self confidence, and peace. People only disappoint and I don't need the drama. Relying on yourself is freedom in its purest form.

[@katharinawelles6540]

I understand. As I get older I value my solitude more and more. I find most social interactions exhausting and of little interest.

[@PennPearson]

"Exhausting and of little interest." Exactly how I feel. Exactly!

[@SpeedbirdConcordeOne]

Me too. I have a tendency to feel guilt about how little interest I have sometimes. It’s not that I don’t care but rather that it uses too much of my energy.

[@bluwtrgypsy]

This resonates with me completely. When you love being alone, you love yourself.

[@juliesmith6228]

This is IT! I love being by myself. I am complete. I laugh, enjoy things, learn, rest, savor, think, question and make choices for >>myself

[@van_antwerpen]

@@juliesmith6228 could not have said it better myself! 👏👏 Being alone is magical. It’s the purest state of being. Zero outside influences. All joy and problem solving comes from within. Ahhhhh….😁🥳

[@anns1921]

and no drama!

[@van_antwerpen]

@@anns1921 yesssssss 🙌🥳💃🏻

[@higherperspective1756]

@@juliesmith6228 Savour ..!!.. YES !! --- my favourite occupation ... which is harder / almost impossible to do in company , I find !

[@rangeorge85051]

loneliness is complaining about being alone, solitude is loving being alone

[@Firedog53]

What a GREAT definition! And very true!

[@KatWoodland]

@rangeorge85051 Poetic 💚

[@Missusri]

We loners are not alone then, tons of us.

[@estherromo7689]

I love my solitude ❤

[@forgottensage-o5o]

I disagree. I feel lonely a lot but I also enjoy solitude a lot.

[@DoubleDogDare54]

Yeah, I hear you, buddy. I'm in my 70s and have lived the majority of my life alone - by choice. The last 25 years I have lived as a semi-"hermit", only communicating with people at work. Since I retired I have been a "happy hermit", sharing my home with a couple of dogs, only going out once a week for groceries, then pulling into the garage, pulling up the drawbridge to my castle, savoring the solitude and peace that goes with it.

[@bradsanders6954]

I think modern society and it's shallow nature, tend to make for more people who want nothing to do with any of it. Some want to be friends, just as long as it only goes so far, like 1" deep with no duty to help or connection. Better to go solo.

[@stephencampbell2018]

I am 71, and I became a hermit of sorts about 5 years ago. I found that it was difficult to be honest with myself when I was surrounded by others. When I am alone, there is truth, and honesty. For me, it is a spiritual experience, and at times I feel as tho my solitude allows me to connect with a force much greater than a babbling human. ❤

[@GC-Hiker]

Well said. The power of nature is in some ways mysterious and unexplained, but I think it helps to make us more whole and balanced.

[@groovyme1234]

Awesome! I was about to reply similarly to this video but lucky I came across your far more articulated version

[@Paul-qe1uf]

You have managed to express my feelings on the matter...perfectly.

[@soulfools4093]

Amen brother!! My saying is "The more time I spend alone, the more I want to be alone."

[@sunnysmilessunshine4060]

Absolutely.

[@krazmokramer]

I was thinking these same thoughts yesterday. Having retired several years ago from a 34 year dental career, and before that as a bartender/restaurant manager and DJ, I find that I really don't like being around people any more. No people = no hassles, IMO. I don't feel the least bit lonely, and am quite content spending my days with my rescued border collies and my newly rescued cat. For me, I got tired of being everyone's entertainment, or being the one to solve their problems. THANKS for this video! I now know I'm not the only senior who feels this way.

[@hotrox2112]

Touche'... Bartending & Hospitality can deem exhausting, hearing all the noise that it can harbour...

[@MidnightExpressMC]

😎👍👍

[@MidnightExpressMC]

@@MichaelTheophilus906 Reclusive …or maybe we should term it rejoiced 😎 👍 👍

[@dorseykindler9544]

Good for you for helping animals. I find animals to be loyal through and through.

[@timothyj.bowlby5524]

Being able to think my own thoughts in peace and quiet. There's NOTHING better than that.

[@paddy6295]

Yup, I feel the same. Nobody wants to listen ro me, anyway.

[@MotherShip-u3k]

@@paddy6295 😂

[@syl3993]

Just turned 60 a month ago after going through a separation in June where I bought her out of her share of the house with her moving out Oct 1st. At first I was panicking thinking I would never be able to live on my own, the loneliness would get to me. I don’t have any friends except for a couple of people I seldom see. Two months later and I’m loving my life. No longer worried about my girlfriend being gone to see her friends or family on the weekends or the relationship that just slowly died over the years. I have myself and my dog and we are awesome…cheers!

[@GC-Hiker]

The solace of solitude. I think so many people make compromises to avoid being along, when perhaps being alone is what would benefit them the most!

[@nealjohnson6369]

I get it but I’m happy with my wife as my greatest companion. Blessed she realizes I need my alone time and gives freely that time. Always come back together stronger in our bond.

[@rosaoddin4338]

Neal, agreed, nothing more wonderful than that special compatibility with a loved companion. IMO that beats solitude any day!

[@izom]

20 years ago i wouldnt believe how much love and loyality a dog can give you - without talkin ;-) - bycicle- atv- buggy- or just walkin around- shes always with me

[@donaldmickunas8552]

Awesome. Enjoy!

[@straceshow3212]

I agree 1000% and I'm a lot like you. I'm 71 have been retired for 6 years. I've heard the advice of all the so called "experts" - stay engaged with people, maintain social ties etc. Guess what, the best advice I've received since retiring is "Do what you want, don't do what others think you should do"; and that person is the farthest thing from an "expert". Turns out doing the socially acceptable thing or doing what's expected is a complete waste of time and energy, both of which are dwindling. There's no benefit to me or anyone. To thine own self be true is much better advice.

[@anns1921]

Those "experts" saying to stay engaged or social are probably people who hate to be alone. Peaceful solitude is the most beautiful thing. God bless!!!

[@Freedom-Fighter1]

Gen X had a saying when we were younger. FTW and that still holds true today.

[@GC-Hiker]

I am with you. I am chasing down some research that says people who are comfortable with solitude are just as health as the socializers, it is the lonely who do less well. Hopefully, I will get something posted on this in the next month or so. I think people who are comfortable with themselves are likely the most healthy!

[@bradsanders6954]

Absolutely, society has it's rules that work for the "general good". In general those rules are crap. Being told from early days to "get married, have children,buy a house, debt is expected, work hard retire at 65". F that. Everyone is different, those who buy into what they are expected to do often end up rebelling against it. Having kids to "complete yourself" or "save the marriage"........is why there are so many un loved un wanted children. Be yourself, easier said than done.

[@KvichakSmith]

I’m retiring from a 45 year career as a chef/restaurant owner. Like the dentist said above….I’m tired of people. At first I thought there was something wrong with me. But after listening to your comments I’m not alone. Thanks I love hiking too! Alone! 😊

[@reneejones7807]

You are definitely not alone in your thinking!

[@LaurenceDay-d2p]

I am also a solitary hiker, and enjoy it. Just make sure you take a map, compass and a gun, where legal.

[@higherperspective1756]

No . .... you're not at all alone in loving aloneness !! Me Too

[@KvichakSmith]

@@LaurenceDay-d2p Right-guns weigh too much and I’ve never needed one.

[@12wingwfetech]

Same here I thought there was something wrong with me not wanting to be around people

[@willblack5419]

65 and feel the same way. Best part of my day is a long morning walk with my dog, avoiding any other people.

[@hotrox2112]

What a great way to start the day...

[@YudronWangmo]

65 and also feel the same way. Favorite part of the day is watching the sunrise over the Sierras. Don't leave the house much.

[@jld4870]

@@YudronWangmolucky u!!! 🌄

[@KAT-dg6el]

I’ve been taking my walks through cemeteries. It’s quiet and there’s hardly any live people there. 😂

[@darylfoster7944]

@@KAT-dg6el any zombies?

[@paintingworlds]

I felt this way with my late husband. We walked on trails and at times infrequently used by others. We’d walk mostly in silence apart from each other alone in our thoughts … not needing to share since we had a common base (perspectives and life experiences). Felt very lucky. Being comfortable in silence is special.

[@paulevans6403]

It's true. Friendships become less rewarding as you get older. This guy is a breath of fresh air.

[@frednorman1]

Actually, long-term friendships become more important as we get older..

[@Freedom-Fighter1]

@@frednorman1 not if those so-called friendships are users and narcissists.

[@viviennepastor3188]

@@Freedom-Fighter1could not agree more with you. Of course there are genuine people but they are hard to find.

[@pauldarbishire7226]

I am similar to you and could relate to much that you said. At 72 years old I enjoy an active life, walking 3 days a week and hammock camping another 2 nights a week in the mountains that surround me here in northern Spain. As a young man I was popular but never a person for small talk. The village I live in has 600 inhabitants and I am on speaking terms with most. Winter and summer you will find me in 1 or other of the coffee shops where people congregate for breakfast, I will pass the time of day with whoever is there but they know that once I sit down I am not to be disturbed while I enjoy my coffee, read the papers and look at the beautiful scenery. The truth is I just don't have the time for peoples' trivialities, gossip and general reminiscences of the good old days. My time is precious to me. Thanks so much for your thoughts.

[@user-dq2ym1nn9k]

I'm 43 and aspire to live like you at 72! Can I ask what you recommend for a hammock? That sounds really fun :)

[@pauldarbishire7226]

@@user-dq2ym1nn9k Hello - I use the "One Tigris" double layer hammock. It is a full lengeth 84" isometrically cut hammock so the lay is perfect, the double layer allows you to put your mattress system inside the envelope created by the 2 layers. I have been using it now for 4 years all year round and have yet to find a fault in it.

[@TerriblePerfection]

The profound pleasure of solitude has to be life's best-kept secret...and in nature there's truly nothing to talk about. 🍂🌱🍁

[@dalewilliams8001]

Nearly 69 and I can relate. Some old friends passed away; some dropped off, some moved on. I'm good.

[@nelsonpagel2175]

You explained how some of us introverts feel. I enjoy "thinking" my own thoughts in solitude, no distractions, making my own observations and conclusions but having an open mind. I like the word "solitude" instead of "alone". Not always alone, independent thinkers, Know thyself.

[@MidnightExpressMC]

But being alone should not infer that somebody is lonely 😎

[@jessstone7486]

@@MidnightExpressMC Totally right. I know folks who actually think that. Scary. I was thinking just yesterday, I don't think I even know what loneliness is! I've never felt a need for another person. I do miss company at times, a social setting, but only for short periods of time.

[@MidnightExpressMC]

@ 👍👍😎

[@roselinnear3040]

💯 on point. Have always been an introvert in an extroverted world and it got exhausting. At long last just in pure joy in solitude. TY

[@MidnightExpressMC]

@ 😎👍👍

[@deathofcommonsense]

I'm 74, unexpectedly found myself no longer with any living family at 65. I was a very sociable person in my younger years, but on facing that lack of family I found myself with a significant increase in feelings of gratitude for the life I had had. It became an almost permanent, serene feeling, almost telling me "this is you today", your needs are different, the enjoyments and values of life are also different now, embrace them. I found I had no need to be sociable, to look for others to be with. Any casual unexpected meetings with others could be ignored, or valued for a short time, I had no desires for them. Have never experienced loneliness, don't know what it feels like and that is simply one of the things I have a gratitude for. I feel lucky that my head and soul are full of beautiful times and people that were part of the majority of life and they still give me their beauty and specialness carried like a family in my head :) Guess I was fortunate to make the decisions I did as a young man which allowed me to have those memories as permanent loving friends I carry in my soul.....that's the only way I can describe it?

[@sglaser4777]

Totally get it! Silence is golden! No carrying around other people's garbage! Clear mine, clear thoughts, clear soul!

[@GC-Hiker]

Thanks, yes, I get the best opportunity to think in solitude. No interruptions. I have worked out many issues in those times.

[@mtnman6557]

: ) Did you clear all the gold from your "mine" or did you rather discover the gold in solitude? Just teasing; I'm always on the lookout for a dash of humor. We all do typos (esp. those of us in our 70's) & I'm sure you found what many of us do in solitude, a calmness & clearness : ) Silence is golden indeed & Neil Diamond's, Solitary Man, also fits solo hikers.

[@jennajewert]

At almost 49, learning to be my own best friend has been a surprisingly powerful journey. Chronically single, never married, no kids and not even desiring a pet (for now), I seem to just want to be alone. I often find interactions with others to be unrewarding, over stimulating and a bit stressful. People seem generally on edge and unfriendly these days, and I'd just as well steer clear and mind my own business. I enjoy my own company and feel close to God in my solitude. He is a great companion.

[@brianmorrison7542]

I know EXACTLY what you mean about people being toxic these days...I value my solitude and peace of mind more than anything now...Love, Bri

[@brianmorrison7542]

@jennajewert Chronically single is not a poor health condition...haha XO BRI

[@Freedom-Fighter1]

Amen to that! I call my house my fortress of solitude. The only one allowed in is me and my dogs.

[@20bluelilies]

You did the right thing, staying unencumbered by intimate relationships. Being an introvert and homebody while also having to be involved with family can be hellish at times, much as I love them all. I get so filled with guilt at not being the person everyone would prefer - always doing something new, travelling some place, having loads to talk about, etc. I'm so boring by most people's standards. And my HSP aversion to excessive noise, mess, etc., can't help but peek out at times, and then I hate myself even more.

[@aps4264]

I’m 55 now. The past 5+ years…. I really enjoy my Solitude/Thinking! I’m an HSP as well, and noise is so prevalent in this country, there is a lot of noise and, people literally scream as talking! Self absorption really, and inconsiderate. I’ve found that most people are annoying. I have my partner and my dog. I always tell my partner…. “you’re my last” and my current dog is probably my last (don’t want to leave any pet without a proper person). Yes…I agree…people can be toxic, family and friends as well. Love them but, for my own well being….. stay well everybody.

[@randyshaw2706]

I appreciate your outlook and opinion on what you said. I have found for myself that hell is not a place, but rather hell is other people. I don’t want to be bossed , bullied, judged, criticized , threatened or provoked. I don’t want or feel the need to explain myself to anyone else. I just want to be a free spirit at peace exploring and enjoying my own company.

[@geertstroy]

The famous existentialist French writer Albert Camus wrote " L ' enfer c'est les autres" , Hell is (all) others.......

[@idaspidalegs]

Oh my gosh! I love being alone. Sometimes I feel guilty that I don’t have a need to be around friends and family as much as they want to be with me. People consider me friendly and outgoing because I’m not shy. They are always surprised when I tell them I am an introvert. I love going to the movies, walks, shopping, museums and even out to dinner alone. My favorite place is my home, home alone.

[@higherperspective1756]

I agree ! Love going out for coffee or dinners alone , and movies --- eveything you said . The food tastes better alone ... I can people watch without interruptions , when alone .... and watching a movie alone I can completely immerse myself ... and snivel / cry shamelessly , when necessary too !

[@TylerG7777]

Fantastic comment. I feel the exact same way. It feels so great not knowing that I am not alone, in just wanting to be alone.

[@123playland]

I was widowed at 58. I bought a van and did my own conversion. Traveled the US by myself and loved it. My own schedule, seeing what I wanted. The United States is a wonderful place to explore. Being free to do what you want is a liberating experience. So many people are afraid. There is always somebody to talk to. Campgrounds provided a friendly environment. If you have the chance to be free take it.

[@LylasDad]

I’m 58 and being alone is absolutely wonderful

[@mattvaandering]

this is encouraging. I'm in my late 30s and usually enjoy being alone. I have come across many articles and videos etc. which claim (based on "studies") we are happiest when we age in a tight knit community. This has always troubled me, making me feel that I am destined for a depressing and lonely time later in life. I see myself in you, and feel heartened by your experience. thanks for sharing.

[@enough1494]

I am 67, have been a loner most of my life! As a child I got lost in the farm I grew up in. Became a widow with four little kids, never remarried! I travel and visit my kids. Love FaceTime and my dog! 🤣🙌😉

[@k.k.9897]

I have been a loner all my life. Never had kids. No living family. At 69 I am still a loner and life is good. You do you and you can be very happy. Don't let the " experts" sow doubts.

[@theymademepickaname1248]

I'm a 49 year old loner with no kids. I'm not going to say it's all sunshine and rainbows, but it definitely has some advantages.

[@jem-j1j]

All those studies are done by extroverts - they don't understand introverts. Extroverts need people to give them energy and give their lives meaning. Extroverts are charged by being around people - introverts are drained by being around people. Introverts need solitude.

[@naimatayo8300]

Those articles are descriptive of what extroverts need to be happy. As for introverts, our solitude is how we recharge our batteries and find zen away from the overstimulating and draining world of buzzing extroverts.

[@laurencoyote4]

I hiked the Grand Canyon South Rim to Phathom Ranch with 14 other people. As we descended into the canyon, I became weary of conversing with everyone. So I dropped back about 500 feet behind them and took in the grandeur of the canyon in silence. Instead of racing down the Kabad trail, I lingered in a profound quietude alone. It was heaven.

[@mtadams2009]

To be honest 14 people is way to many people to be hiking with at any age.

[@hotrox2112]

Good call, the equivalent of road less traveled, and taking in All the surroundings on the trail...

[@bradsanders6954]

@@mtadams2009 Yah. I do these group road bicycle rides, and its a chatter fest at times. Can be 25 people. Its like people are over dosing on their one social event of the week. I can do a little of it but its wearing on me now. Many are there as they're scared to go solo, they cant fix a flat, they need others. Long solo rides, I go my pace, I go where I want, I go as far as I want.

[@jackfabulous758]

I was literally just telling my sister how much I dislike going into the public now. Good to know I am not alone. Thanks GC.

[@enough1494]

The golden years are best alone! 🙌🌹

[@skippylippy547]

Agreed. I was in the grocery store checkout line yesterday and a much younger woman behind me impatiently placed her items on the conveyor belt before I had a chance to get all my items on. She bumped into me during her haste. I turned around and graciously offered for her to go before me since she seemed to be in a hurry. She declined and from that moment on never made eye contact with me. Suddenly, it was as if I became invisible!

[@remlya]

“I was just telling my sister…” Nothing unclear about that. The word literally added nothing to the sentence.

[@MidnightExpressMC]

@@skippylippy547😎👍👍

[@dorseykindler9544]

People are unhinged. Let them rush around like lunatics from the time they wake up to the time they go to bed. A wise person knows how to manage time.

[@annevogtle5016]

I’m 64, retired, my mom passed away 6 weeks ago. I was the primary caretaker for both my parents, and am now realizing for the first time what it’s like to have a life on my own terms. My husband and two kids are introverts, we love being in solitude together, not a lot of conversation, just presence. I’m just now finding the joy in choosing to be alone. I thought something was wrong with me, my mother was lonely and miserable for the 7 years after my dad died. My dad once said if you have one or two friends in this life, that’s more than enough, and he was comfortable without any. I think he was very wise.

[@GC-Hiker]

Sorry about your Mom passing, but also there is a certain liberation in the passing of the prior generation, having experienced it myself. There is more opportunity to be who you truly are. Several commenters have mentioned the possibility of a genetic component, which is an interesting issue. I wish you and your family all the joy found in quiet contemplation.

[@annevogtle5016]

@ So true, so many expectations are gone! Thank you for the reply.

[@jmitch5161]

So very sorry for your loss. Love and blessings 🙏

[@waterboxer87]

I am with you. I am extremely happy alone. I can go to worlds within myself for entertainment and contentment. It seems that other people bore me, want something, or just cannot stop complaining. I don’t want that. I am pleased to know other people my age (72) feel as I do about the joy of solitude.

[@JM-tb9fs]

I can go to worlds within myself for entertainment and contentment.- yes

[@mplate1792]

I never cared for the one size fits all advice to work hard at maintaining friendships. I appreciate your words on the pleasures of solitude.

[@micahwise4212]

I’m 27 and already there brother! My only true freedom comes from my time alone in the wilderness, just me and God! I strive to help others where I can but I find without my solitude I am of very little help to anyone, including myself! Thanks for your video man! And enjoy the views!!

[@Slo-ryde]

You sound like a true ascetic. I envy you😊

[@d.taylor3760]

I burst out laughing at "Heaven forbid, I don't want any overnight guests." I'm not the only one who adores the shimmering silence of living by myself!

[@suemiller9506]

I've been living alone in the woods for 20 years now. I meet with a friend for a couple of hours a week, or see people when I do a grocery run. There are local group hikes in the area but I find it distracting to hike with others. I much prefer exploring the forest alone, and in fact that's what I was doing earlier today - communing with huge hemlocks, touching soft moss, listening to brooks running over rocks.

[@stevenmccarthy112]

sounds like a wonderful day.

[@9liveslisa]

I totally get you! I've been retired for 8 years now and I have loved every single day of it. I like people, but I love my alone time. I'm never bored. I have lots of interests. I wish as a woman I felt comfortable hiking alone, but I don't. Enjoy all the beautiful scenery!

[@vc5243]

Get a big scary looking dog! I hiked alone for years with my two Rottweilers.

[@kate3460]

I’ve often thought it must be wonderful to be a man and be able to hike out in the wilderness without any fears… As a woman it just isn’t possible unfortunately

[@bobgaines2399]

I never entertained the idea that there was someone else that felt like I do. I dearly love my wife, my children, and grandchildren, but honestly, I enjoy my own company, with my own thoughts, and doing what I do at my own pace. I've had co-workers volunteer to backpack with me, and I always came up with a reason why I was ok by myself. I'll be turning 67 in a few weeks. I'm so glad I found your channel! Thank you for your video and your thoughts.

[@slyborg1]

I agree with your comments. Although I could "play well with others," even as a child I loved being alone, sitting in trees, walking in woods, ice-or-roller-skating, cycling, reading, day dreaming. it's a great thing to enjoy your own company.

[@omarose7504]

How about me? Yup! I'm there too. I love my solitude and the freedom it provides. Time and space to just "think." Total luxury!

[@GC-Hiker]

Thanks for responding to the final comment. Perhaps solitude is also an indulgence of age and retirement. Anyway, it feels like a treat to me, that I may not have had access to in my earlier years. Thanks for your comment.

[@zz-.-]

Thanks for sharing. Retired at 38 after making enough money to do so. Been a couple years and friends slowly disappear, texts stop coming, calls stop coming. Favors go unreturned. Nice gestures never seem to rarely make their way back to me no matter how much I give to others. The change that happened once I “checked out” from working, has been eye opening. Friends can’t gain from you as much so they stop coming around. Family doesn’t understand you because you make different decisions than them. Further, everyone at this age is obsessing over children, and making you feel bad if you don’t have any, to justify the decisions they made themselves. It has always seemed to me that people don’t put a lot of thought into having kids, it’s just “the thing to do”. And once they do it, they make it about themselves. The clothes they dress the child in, the education, the language, it’s all just a big masturbatory “i made a little me, look how cute!” distraction. It’s like they are walking around with blinders on, unable to think critically, unable to realize a world exists outside of their inch-deep environment of baby shark and wage slavery. And that’s not to say everyone is, and that’s also not to say what I just described is even bad, it’s just not what makes me happy. The whole thing has turned me off and I’m at the same point you were, considering “do I even need people or do I just go to an island and think?” This has been helpful to hear you share your story. It’s always great to hear other people’s perspectives and experiences. Thank you!

[@GC-Hiker]

Thanks for your comment. The early retirement issue is an interesting one. I retired at 41, but more because I lived simply, rather than that I had money. Did my interest in solitude lead to the early retirement or did my retirement lead to my interest in solitude? My experiment with "do I need people," led me to the conclusion that I do, at least to some degree. I would be interested to hear what you conclude on that topic. But honestly, the more time that passes, the less I am interested in socializing. Maybe because I spend time alone, I am surprised at the number of people interested in this topic. I hope to do some more thinking about it and a bit of research, as for me, it is simply a preference and a lifestyle and I have not really put too much thought into it. It is just the way I like to be.

[@islandbreeze2102]

Love the way you have explained this transformation that many of us seniors are experiencing as we grow older. It is in fact happening to me as well. I see it as a time to go inwards and enjoy the wealth of knowledge and experience we have acquired through the years and having the time and freedom to connect with ourselves and with nature. Well done!

[@annwe6]

That "How about you?" at the end was wonderfully ironic. Solo hiking along empty trails is by far and wide my happy place too. I'm pretty sure there are many more like us.

[@sq5]

My happy place too.

[@2hands_and_a_brain917]

I have good friends but they live in far away places, so we leave Whatsapp messages for each other, sometimes going on in a monologue for an hour! We do get together from time to time, but mostly I live with my wife on a remote farm where we grow our food, hunt, hike, and do creative artistic projects that benefit ourselves. Life is good, since so many people are unable to make interesting conversation, we do that for each other, sometimes we spend the whole day apart doing individual projects. But it's really heartwarming to have someone to come home to at the end of the day, who cares about who you are, how you are, and where you have been. We are made as social creatures, we just have to find special people who are like us!

[@jessstone7486]

Well stated!

[@MartinJefferies-j1d]

Backyard chickens make wonderful companions. Plus they give you free eggs! I never get tired of watching them throughout the day.

[@GC-Hiker]

Something I have never though of. Do only the roosters crow? I do not think my neighbors would tolerate that. : )

[@MartinJefferies-j1d]

Hi GCHiker, we had a rooster, but he made too much noise. He is a beautiful bird but really mean to my sweet chickens! I gave him to a friend down the street and he can make his rooster noises all day long and not bother anyone.

[@murphthesurf3409]

I started feeling the same way several years ago after turning 60. Life exposes us to lots of noise that continues mostly unabated for decades, particularly during all the working years. I reached a point where I grew tired of it and find quiet solitude to be refreshing.

[@GC-Hiker]

I think retirement frees us from so many social obligations and helps us to be more our true selves.

[@gerrycoleman7290]

I chose a career of working in the outdoors as a soil scientist. Spent most of my career alone in a natural setting. Now I am skilled in understanding horses. I prefer to be with them rather than people. As my life begins to come to a close, perhaps I will find comfort in a good friend. But none have come my way.

[@tierrabear10]

💕🙏

[@gerrycoleman7290]

@@mikejensen4238 I retired at 48 years old. 72 now.

[@aboveaveragejoe6795]

Jesus is the best friend!

[@jessstone7486]

@@aboveaveragejoe6795 Exactly! with Him, you have it all.

[@user-dq2ym1nn9k]

do you read books? maybe you could look for (or start!) the local chapter of the Silent Book Club.

[@soaring1]

I am 69, no kids and took myself away from people and have had a similar personality as you, just a few short years ago. A lot of comments on here have a similar theme of being the helpful comforting kind of person and now noticing how drained they feel being around others. While out running errands I have felt so drained sometimes I come home early with only half my errands completed. I have come across several posts on this subject. Thanks GCH.

[@SophisticatedBob]

I'm 62, and retired at 60. I've always been a loner, so much so that I sold everything, left America, and moved to South America where I knew nobody, and couldn't speak the language. This was good video, I liked it.

[@enough1494]

Hey Bob! Me 2, I am in the US till Jan 4th, then headed to Guatemala and Nicaragua. Got a Lilly casita near Flores, but want to visit Nica again! Blessings! 🙌🤣🎄

[@bevanbuckwheatshea5520]

All the drama and complications dealing with other people means alone time for me is absolutely wonderful!

[@GC-Hiker]

I am with you (in thought but not in fact : ) )

[@Raymond-d2l7n]

Marvellous video, Sir. The Grand Canyon. Wow! What a place to go hiking! I was never much of a mixer myself. Very shy and self-conscious growing up. Alcohol and prescription drug dependency until I encountered AA. About 12 years down the pan. No-one to blame but myself. Rather than thinking, I prefer getting to a space where I'm not thinking! Walking helps me to get there! As for conversations, it's amazing the number of people who are actually incapable of a two-way conversation. They just rabbit on inanely without asking any questions of their captive listener. Strange, that. All they seem to want is someone to nod their head in wonder and agreement rather like the nodding dog you sometimes see in the back window of someone's car. To finish, some wisdom from the East: Minding working normally is neurosis Mind working fast is madness Mind working slowly is sainthood Mind stopped is GOD. ~ Meher Baba

[@GC-Hiker]

I like the bobble head dog analogy! Congratulations on your sobriety. I do dabble in meditation and I find the thoughlessness an enigma. Fascinating yet frustrating. I do like the concept of walking meditation though, something I can claim I am doing when I pursue my passion for hiking. Thanks so much for your thougtful comment.

[@tina74166]

Couldn't agree more! Thank you for saying everything I wanted to say 🙂 Life is amazing as you live longer, if we make sure to do what makes us happy, and stop listening to others that tell us what we are suppose to be doing ~😍 Your video is much appreciated!

[@tracynorris5012]

Yes indeed, I love my solitude at nearly 60. I did go through the empty nest blues for a while, as I raised my great kids alone. I've got my 2 dogs I love and enjoy. I love my home in my family's private woods. So, I'm blessed. I was an ER trauma nurse and I saw too much pain and death. I cope with PTSD. I prefer to not be with people. I just feel better. Thank you, sir. Blessings to you ❤❤❤

[@bdflatlander]

Wow, this describes me to a ‘T’! I am a 71 year old white male, retired from a career in Finance and Accounting for 13 years. When I was a young man I was very social. I even lived in the dorms at my college for 3 years because I loved the constant social interactions of dorm life. But sometime around age 50 I started becoming much less social. I began to decline invitations to large social gatherings. I hated having to go to work functions like holiday parties. The only way I could stand going was to get stoned beforehand - that way I could pretend to have a good time even though I hated being there. I have also ended a couple of long term friendships with people who I found too toxic be around plus in one long term friendship there were multiple acts of betrayal. I enjoy my own company more and more as I’ve gotten older. I prefer solitude rather than being around people I find unpleasant. Also at my age the less drama the better.

[@annieandaj]

The spontaneity in life becomes more apparent when you let things be as they are and don't try to force anything....i.e. social contact. Trying to make things happen in ways that you think might be pleasant is a lot of work. Just letting the days flow as they will is what brings clarity and reality into focus. When I'm not trying to find something or someone to fill my continuous and authentic spaciousness I feel much more attuned to myself and what's real. Being alone is often essential for the availability of this beautiful silence that is filled with contentment. It seems as if we find this authenticity in ourselves more and more as we age. This is the promise of old age. We don't have to perform any more. What a relief!

[@TattooedGranny]

Nature is my happy place. Been that way since I was born. Inner peace, connection etc. I’m a talkative, outgoing 60 something lady that never married or had kids. I have had such a happy life. My time is my own. Traveling alone is awesome!

[@mikef2571]

To simplify and keep my answer short, I say, "Ditto."

[@GC-Hiker]

Thanks! : )

[@marlinweekley51]

“Ditto” now there’s a trigger word. Who else can smell that sweet ditto machine ink on the handout ther second grade teacher passed out? 😆

[@trickywoo5165]

Yep, “and then i grew 🆙”

[@pietwandelaar1743]

@@marlinweekley51 It wasn't the ink smell; rather, it was the smell of the methanol solvent used to make the ink soft enough to transfer to the paper as it passed through the ditto machine. One of those machines was still in use early in my teaching career. Still have a can of the solvent left over from when the machine was decommissioned 35 years ago.

[@TheNicestAssholeYouWillNvrMeet]

​@@GC-HikerI was done with the herd delusional mentality 5 years ago, couldn't be happier living OFF-THE-GRID 😉

[@user-ri2ee4qg7k]

Yep. Feel pretty much the same. What's different for me is that, in my own youth, I never really was much of a social person, nor the life of any party. Not so much "anti-social", and have had plenty of close relationships and been part of many groups/teams/crews/etc. and would do just fine in them. It's just that given the choice, I would generally choose being around less/no people over more. It's less a thing about avoiding people (though I definitely do engage in this at times) than it is that I've always been perfectly comfortable with "the solace of solitude", and more often than not I rather prefer it. I don't NEED a lot (or at times any) social interaction. What is the same is that as I grow older, I'm more and more like this all the time. Tomorrow is my 61st birthday. I will be spending it on my own, hiking in the mountains at a place where I rarely see anyone else. And that's my own choice, and I'm very much looking forward to it.

[@TalesFromAbroad-SJ]

Really enjoyed this. It’s refreshing to hear such an honest take on finding peace in solitude. The Grand Canyon looks amazing too - what a perfect spot for reflection. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

[@robertbrozovic2895]

In this video, everything that I feel as an introverted person throughout my life is said, but I didn't know how to say it in the right way without others understanding me! Thanks!

[@GC-Hiker]

Thanks so much, that is a very kind compliment.

[@alwina2452]

Thank goodness! I have just found your wonderful channel, your solitude video resonates deeply with me, I get terribly worried that there’s something wrong with me because I feel my best when on my own. But I now see there are many kindred spirits out there, and it’s all going to be fine. A xx

[@GC-Hiker]

Thanks. I think if you read the comments you will find a suprising number of people who share the same approach. It surprised me as well, which is some comfort.

[@bobnankervis9722]

For me, I grew tired of dealing with OPP (other peoples problems). I chose peace, quiet, and zero stress instead

[@racerx6]

Exactly!!

[@martynlaverick3405]

What a great vid. I am 64 and am on this journey. I have a very very small number of friends whose company I enjoy and treasure as they are also on this journey. The main change I feel,is that I am very comfortable with who I am .

[@TylerG7777]

This video is relatable! I feel the exact same way. I used to be so social and had many friends. Now at 57, I have pruned away almost all of my friends and I just love being alone. My dog is my best companion. Over and over I hear the expert advice of staying connected and having friends. But I just can’t fake it. I’m just so much happier and energized when I am alone and doing my hobbies. Thanks for this great video.

[@GC-Hiker]

Thanks. I think the comments to this video enforce that you are not alone. And the more I age, the more I like solitude. I think the trends are related.

[@idem0david]

It is all about balance in life. And the balance shifts throughout your life. I feel it too. Right now i like a few people around me to feel grounded but i love to be by myself.

[@GC-Hiker]

I do think it is a function of age and maturity.

[@crandall761]

I'm never more fully relaxed as when I'm by myself.

[@JACKIEMONSOON]

I had just spent a fantastic weekend with old friends coming from near and far gathering to watch an NFL football game live at the stadium. The event was filled with all the noise, excitement, and entertainment you'd expect from a professional game. Now, as I’ve grown older and let go of the social lubricant of alcohol, it can be challenging to keep up with the fast-paced humor and energy that once came so easily when hanging out with the guys. Still, that rush of camaraderie is something we all need now and then, even if I eventually retreat back into the comfort of solitude.

[@momsterzz]

This is the way

[@reluctantme5183]

Yep, I have pulled away the social thing this past year. 61yrs old/retired ... morning walks, quiet interactions with people passing by. I grew tired of dancing on the head of the pin socially. Seeing others reactions and view points. Text with a former friend this morning. "yes I had a quiet thanksgiving here" his response was" had 16 people over, cleaning up today" LOL I felt stressed just thinking of that situation. 🖖

[@WalkingthePath-z7c]

I need to the Grand Canyon at some point!

[@Robnord1]

Agreed. At 71 now, I Love my solitude, and prize time when with total flexibility, I can go where the day leads me. So many years of tight schedules and wearing a watch that needed checking all day makes me appreciate today's freedom.

[@missshalvah]

0:34 Thank you so much! I appreciate this so much. We keep hearing on the news and everywhere else how we are social animals and how we need community and people- but I’m not so interested. It made me think something was wrong with me. I lived 2.5 years in van and loved it. I’m 68 now. I was always first on dance floor 😂 I love traveling by myself.

[@timpeda1537]

55 years old, find that I feel exactly the same way. Carry on!

[@richardkorcyl4743]

I lost my wife 4 months ago and starting a new chapter in my life. Yes, people act strange now, even my daughter doesn't bother to call. Slowly I am discovering that every day is a good day and I don't need people's acceptance to live my life.

[@djpowell4928]

My condolences in your loss.

[@jmitch5161]

So very sorry for your loss. Love and blessings 🙏

[@lew0017]

Interesting, I lost my husband 4 months ago and slowly people quit calling and I’m learning to be alone. I actually like it, I’ve always liked solitude, but felt there was something wrong with me because I lack the enjoyment of groups of people. I find small talk challenging, I always have. I’m rethinking how I want my life to go now, interesting possibilities .

[@marasievers]

100% agree. The mental stimulation and education I can get from books is so much more interesting than most people’s stories and opinions.

[@surenm4981]

This is exactly how I've been feeling for the past some years...and living to some extent. Feeling good after listening to you.. Thanks.

[@raneylee9617]

I’m only 38 and this has been pulling at me the last few years. I am an extrovert, class clown, life of the party, had to make plans if I didn’t have any so I would be out of the house with people. It was a must. The last few years it’s gotten old and these old friendships are more nostalgic than actually rewarding. The more I stopped desperately trying to maintain these relationships and social calendars the happier I got. The slower my life got. The more meaningful my life got. Having slowed the pace of my life, doing hobbies alone, appreciating quiet and alone time has been incredible. And something even a few years ago I wouldn’t have believed something I would have liked.

[@GC-Hiker]

Thank you for sharing that. My path was similar, and in some way unexpected and inexplicable. But I think we need to follow the path our hearts dictate. Congratulations on finding a way to be the more true you.

[@showme1127]

I just found this of your videos, Sir. And I am happy to know that you enjoy being with yourself like I do with myself. I have lived alone in my apartment since 1994, with siblings living nearby, within less than half an hour of driving or within walking distance. I find the most happiness while I am in Nature. Getting close to Nature enables me to liberate my soul and mind and thus to think more clearly. Turning 70 next year, I am still aiming to live a high-quality life as I'm aging. To reach that goal, health is key. In the past 11 years I have cycled around the island where I live seven times and I have also been getting into the habit of hiking/walking. All in all, staying physically active makes it possible for me to enjoy life all the more.

[@Tblillard]

Spurs thoughtful reflection. Thank you. I've always enjoyed solitude. Now my social connections are richer, more nutritious. And my alone time more precious. More of what I need.

[@lordkorner]

Listening to you describe your life , it is such a familiar story and so relatable. The friends you had and probably lost over unpaid loans, to the story of your answering machine, been the life and soul of the party. Now i too prefer solitude and often worried if that was normal. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

[@richardfish3650]

👍 Sauntering the Canyon backcountry is my retirement happy place. On day three, solo wandering happily up the Monument Creek drainage from Granite Rapids last year, I had an epiphany. Immersed in the solitude and silence of that great, timeless and remote place, I was solo, but not alone. It was a very warm and comforting awareness. Impossible to explain to family, who think I’m just a socially awkward old dude losing his marbles.😂 I care not.😎

[@caroleminke6116]

Nature meets almost all my needs now

[@GC-Hiker]

That is a deep statement. I wish I had emphasized the value of the retreat to nature a bit more. Thanks for highlighting that.

[@jdtracy]

I have two adult children and separated from my wife of 30+ years a couple years ago. I have since retired and spend most of my days in glorious solitude. I love hiking but absolutely refuse to do it on weekends or weekday evenings, when everybody else is out there. Being alone with your thoughts can be a negative if your thoughts are negative. I have been working on being positive and feel better than I have in years. The trouble with relationships is that they aren't always a positive influence. More often, they are a negative influence. There is so much misinformation out there and I have found that avoiding a lot of random opinions (including news) is the best way to stay positive.

[@warrenb9343]

Thank you sir! I thought it was just me. I feel better now.

[@darkangel-io3ob]

"solace of solitude" , amen to that! I am 50 and intolerance is the key reason to my solitude. I cannot tolerate people speaking loud and rude, nowadays, common curtesy is a term long forgotten.

[@SoulCareOver50]

Like you, I used to love being at parties and just being around people when I was younger. Now I really enjoy the peace that comes with being in my own company 😊

[@Gedstravels]

Great to read all the comments of which I’m in agreement, my friends think I’m lonely because I travel alone, nothing could be further from the truth, I love to meet new people for a short while and then go back to being solo, most people these days are too opinionated about everything and don’t bring any value to my wellbeing.

[@bradsanders6954]

Hanging out with people these days, its like your filling in the seconds between the minutes they are on their cell phone. This passes for socializing. A few phone addicts staring at their flickering screens and clicking and swiping non stop. The internet has destroyed much of humanity but we, most of us cant look away. Is it any wonder so many turn away from the drudgery and rudeness of humanity? The minute the phone comes out I get moving, Im outta there. I dont carry one with me.

[@DrProgNerd]

I'm 55. Everything you said resonates with me. Books are more stimulating to me than the banality of conversations with most people. When I take my daily walk or I'm driving, I love to just let my mind wander. I made a conscious decision 15 years ago to be single. It's funny to hear the reaction of people to my intentional 'non-coupling' life. They say, "You want to die alone?" I tell them, "Yep, that's the plan." I think most would rather keep the company of people that don't enrich their life - than face being alone. With all of the chatter and noise in our culture, being alone is a gift to be guarded and embraced.

[@GC-Hiker]

Well said, I really like "Yep, that's the plan." I find driving the best meditative state, because occupying 5% of my mind with the driving tasks allows the rest to roam free. The same with swimming for me. What really surprises me is the number of people who take offense at this choice. Thanks for your comment.

[@bradsanders6954]

At 67? Dating is like a stunt sport, I wouldnt suggest it. Granted maybe something can happen, but who you tend to meet are women who are looking for a hand up and a hand out. They need help. And helping someone out is a good thing, you can end up being their bank, you can end up giving and giving. The back story is some will act in any way that can get them ahead of the 8 ball....................this can go to $hit and a spiral starts.

[@KrystianDawes]

I'm 45 and I luxuriate in my solitude. Glad to see I'm part of a community that I will never meet. Thank you.

[@GabBanks]

Totally understand what you are saying. I am with you. I have enjoyed this video very much and thank you so much for sharing. This is the best video I have ever seen.

[@NewHorizonsTravel]

I cherish my solitude and enjoy spending time alone, especially during my hikes. New visitor. Thank you for sharing💕

[@GC-Hiker]

Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

[@Data_on_trail]

Sharing this with my entire extended family - especially ahead of the holidays.