Love and Hope: Life after the loss of a child

[@gabbiesmeemee]

In so sorry, I couldn't finish the video. It triggered a whole slew of emotions. You see, I lost my son 7½ years ago. It's something you never forget. I had stepped out of his hospital room to accept a phone call from my son's father. My son had been in a coma for 3 weeks. Something told me get back to his room. As I stepped off the elevator, I saw the carts of all the nurses on his floor were surrounding my son's door. I ran a fast as I could pushing carts as I entered his room, he was screaming " HELP ME MOMMA, HELP ME MOMMA. I JUMPED INTO HIS BED WITH HIM AND WRAPPED MY ARMS AROUND HIM AS HE TOOK HIS LAST BREATH. I'LL NEVER BE THE SAME. NOTHING MAKES THAT PAIN GO AWAY, EVEN TODAY. I'M SO SORRY FOR ALL THE LOSSES THESE PARENTS HAVE HAD TO GO THRU. I KNOW THEIR PAIN GOD BLESS, DEB

[@ruthadeogun2856]

My life is not the same after the loss of my son to cancer. I live with grief every day. Miss you so much Faith 😭😭😭😭😭

[@purebride8600]

Your sons name was Faith?

[@Toffee146]

Faith??? A son?

[@anniewebber-gs5ju]

My deepest sympathy- lost my man- agony.

[@sebastianblackandwhitewatc2722]

My condolences ❤ please, never give up, you're such and strong and brave person for keep going, and also never forget your son❤

[@sandycares2995]

My baby died shortly after we were involved in a truck accident. We are all kindred spirits. Healing and peace to you all.🙏

[@sdclayFam]

Thank you all for this. 25 years later for me and every single word and emotion is exactly as you so bravely expressed. We still have our moments and I still worry that she will be forgotten, I catch myself sometimes feeling guilty because I wonder if I thought of her yesterday. But I did. There's never a day I don't. We have great friends who are not afraid to say her name, and I'm sure they really have no idea how huge that is for me. Thank you for honoring all our children and helping us parents and reinforcing that our brains have changed, and that our new normal is normal, we have been remodeled. Sending you all love and support in this journey of moving forward together alone. ❤️

[@Lakotajo2]

You never "get over" the loss, you just get used to carrying the grief. Our son, age 23 has been gone more than 10 years I still think about him every day.

[@oraclera6934]

Just loss my 11 yr old to cancer after being diagnosed with cancer on 10/06/23 she passed 12/18/23. Im devastated and I can’t live 😢

[@coromandelle]

It is suuuuch early days for you and I think you are amazing to put your experience out here. Your saying "I can't live" really moved me as I know this feeling. Can I please just say that I think she would want you to. For her to see you having this human experience - out of the love she has for you. One day you will surprise yourself when you realise you have smiled, that you are not in that moment, unhappy - and I truly believe, that if our loved ones that are not here, could see us smile, they would be content. When my daughter was little and I was frequently broken hearted and stressed, she would say " smile muuum, I don't like it when you don't smile". I heard her words in my mind after she died at 17 and I still hear it now, 24 years later. In my life's journey I have twice had the shock of losing a child and just today learned that my niece has lost one of her two gorgeous little boys to an accident. From this distance of time having passed I can now deeply appreciate the gifts of a child coming - and of their mysterious leaving... The fullness of who they are I will never know, we gifted ourselves to each other for just a fleeting time. I would not have liked someone to tell me, soon after both my daughter's departing, that one day I would be grateful for the huge gifts they brought with them, even in the pain of loss. At the time of these losses I would have gladly joined them, I wanted to, but I stayed because just by being alive I felt others would not have to go thru another loss. I thought, I don't have to be anything for anyone, just alive. It was the right decision. I could not have forseen that there would be several little people and others too who would appreciate having me in their lives. The emotions you have now will change over time. Slowly and easier, day at a time.

[@williamelmore9740]

As a bereaved parent I can tell you that the grief never goes away but it does get softer with time.

[@jessebourneau6426]

Lost my 28 year old son July 14, 2023 to a non deliberate overdose. Lots of personal therapy and group therapy time. It's so helpful. We parted on strained terms. That's another hard part. Couldn't reach him. Prayed every day for God to keep him alive one more day for 14 years. Wasn't to be. His torment is over. Ya, his torment is over. There's a certain comfort in that.

[@comacat45331]

My son lost his daughter to fentanyl poisoning on Aug 8. She was 19. Most horrific thing I’ve ever experienced. I lost my mom when I was 17. But losing a child is the worst.

[@AmyConlon-u6i]

Thanks to the parents who shared their stories which I found helpful. Grief because of the loss of a child has changed me, something I work on accepting. Space and time to grieve is what I need these days, honouring my sadness honours my beautiful daughter.

[@jeffyoyo3059]

I just lost my 3-year-old son to neuroblastoma last week. The parents in the video who lost their son to this disease were touching. Thanks

[@BredaOgrady-i2o]

I lost my beautiful son 😭💔 22yrs old never get over pain in my ❤️ l don't understand it's excruciating l feel sll these peoples pain God bless them

[@hayleygebhart1764]

I lost my son to suicide 7months ago today. My son was 25 years old birthday Dec 26. I also have a 23 year old daughter. There’s no words to express how awful losing a child. 😢

[@pudik2008]

My heart breaks for you! There are no words that can make that pain go away! Sending you hugs from a grieving mother! 💔💔

[@sylvanaesparza639]

I lost my only son 2.18.23, there's no words to describe how painful and empty I feel today..God bless us all..❤😇💔🙏

[@joyce7724]

I'm so sorry 😢❤

[@annastrouse-wishard2097]

It's the pain that doesnt leave. It's so deep down. People say they are with jesus.. they are in a better place.. No.. Here with me is where he needs to be... my heart aches for you .. cries for anyone that has to go thru this .. guilt.. nobody will talk to me he was friends with from his job. They were told not to by my daughter.. unbelievable.. she took over..left me in the dark thru the whole process.. I relive the event and how it happened keeps playing in my head... Why didnt his sister call me.. anyone.. he was reaching out... I've never felt so alone..

[@hadi1197]

I am in same position that you are he went through lots of up and down and finally he ended his life due overdose, I'm sorry for everyone who expressed what I'm going through , reaching out to people who had the same experience might find way to deal with this tragedy, thanks everyone who are shearing their experience ❤❤❤❤❤😢😢😢

[@kimcalderon55]

each story was very touching an thank you for sharing although i was very young when i lost my son at 20 weeks a hour after birth in 98 you never forget that day you remember everything what you were wearing what the room look like all the questions people ask you an it sounds muffled to you you never get past it you just get stronger but you always remember

[@christine1448]

Thank you! I lost my son 12/15/22. It still feels like it happened yesterday, a year later.

[@Julia-uq3np]

I lost my son 9-26-22 he was 34. I will never recover, I'm still broken. He was and always will be my Hero 💔 😢 4EVER34

[@connorwareing5261]

I miss my baby girl so much everyday its so hard to love without her it's only been a month and I can't even en shower now because it's hard to even move out of bed I hardly make it to work I've been late more often than not I wish it felt any kinda better but it never will

[@ghiyuyuyyyyyy]

Thank you all so much for sharing your broken hearts with my broken heart💔 #BenBright

[@juvel852]

I lost my baby daughter on Xmas eve few years ago she was full term as she was due on Xmas day that was so hard losing her it took me years I found bereavement counselling helped me but she will never be forgotten as every Xmas I light a candle for her altho I have another daughter who was 8 at the time still miss my baby especially more on a Xmas and her birthday

[@Colorado_Avocado]

I lost a daughter two years ago when I was 40 weeks with her. I understand your pain. It’s so hard to move forward and life is never the same.

[@juvel852]

@EAConant aww sorry for your loss of your daughter I went to cruse bereavement they helped me a lot yes the pain I was going through as you ❤️ know yourself as you lost your daughter was unbearable I went to an artist who drew my daughter perfectly 🥰 💞 so I found that helped me as well but a strange thing happened to me a year after my daughter died I was in a shop there was only me and the shopkeeper in there wen all of a sudden a little girl wearing the same dress i had bought for my baby daughter ❤️ came running in the shop I was in and was shouting to me mammy mammy and then went out the shop I ran outside to see where she had gone and she was nowhere to be seen she disappeared before my very eyes the shopkeeper said to me that was my little girl came back from heaven as he knew I had lost my baby daughter. for that brief moment I was in shock 😲 I couldn't believe it she was perfect in every single way ❤️ 😍

[@gloriawilliams1030]

How can a parent move forward knowing their family is no longer whole? I don’t feel I will ever truly feel the joy of being a parent again even though I have other children. I feel guilty for not being present in their life due to grief and depression. I’m just not me anymore.

[@grandmastermario3695]

Same way some people learn to deal with, going through the worst types of trauma, like being brutally tourtured everyday during childhood, with using lots of things therapy and other resources.

[@rozan3757]

It's a bitter pill that parents have to swallow. I lost my 1 yr old baby bearly 3 months now,,i miss Naomi

[@ComfyPOV]

I understand that I lost my 15 month old four months ago I really just feel bad but I try to push for my oldest

[@Judy-ys2ge]

We lost our 20 year old son in a car accident just 4 months ago. The emptiness of his being is intolerable .

[@paulamartin591]

So heartbreaking 😢

[@pioneersaigon]

"Come to the ring, daddy!" I still hear ... All was fine and sunny on Monday 1th July. But that night, my 9 years old died suddenly .... He was a great little man. My hart is broken ... Still can't believe it ...

[@maryannhope8276]

💔🙏🏼🕊 there's no worst group to be in.😭

[@scottcurran6192]

I paused the video nine minutes in to post my frustration with the brutal music soundtrack and noticed the post below by Mercedes which I totally agree with. It's so bad I can't even watch any more although I wanted to as I also have lost a child and really appreciate the folks being interviewed for sharing their stories.

[@rozan3757]

May God shower us with peace in our hearts

[@joshi1955]

I lost my married daughter due to antibiotics resistance resulting in what is called SEPSIS. I stopped eating sweets after this. Closed all social media accounts to keep away from people. Every day think I couldn't save her. I am 69 and don't think any reason to get more life for me.

[@sebastianblackandwhitewatc2722]

C'mon, keep going, I'm pretty sure that your daughter would want you to continue and never forget her...also...my sincere condolences, she surely was a great girl, please, don't give up ❤

[@jeannecroghan3701]

God Bless You All!

[@crownsbritain933]

What happened to Wes? His was the only one that wasn’t explained.

[@faridaaminy9734]

I was wondering about that as well 😢

[@k.rebuilding]

My 2 yro daughter has been dead for 9 days. We bury her tomorrow and I can't think straight

[@Sept2cfm1953]

So sorry, remember the kindness of people, it will bring you comfort.

[@delmanpronto9374]

lost my son 6 months ago in the hands of doctors who were negligent. there is only pain in my life now.

[@k.rebuilding]

@delmanpronto9374 I am so sorry. I know how bad it hurts. It's been 20 days for us. I can't even imagine 6 months yet. It does seem like the pain is unyielding. I exercise - A LOT - to deal with the anxiety and crippling sadness. It helps me to manage the pain. It's always just beneath the surface.

[@delmanpronto9374]

@@k.rebuilding sleep is the only thing that helped numb the pain for me. it remains as a dull persisting heaviness in my heart. so i try to avoid intense exercise. memories are constant, and i just let them flow by like traffic. but there are moments, when i break down terribly. you're right about it being just beneath the surface. couldn't have said it better. 6 months have not changed that for me.

[@24carlam]

@k.karmas1126 im so so very sorry.. I know ppl tell you that all the time & it doesn't make a difference, but I lost my 4 year old beautiful son in April of this year so I know how it feels! I'm comming on 3 months in a couple of days & i still havent accepted it..The pain is so big& strong.. it consumes me most days.. I hope you can find peace& strength soon & if you don't at least take a little comfort knowing your not the only one going through such a hard time..

[@afiaafroze1782]

How can i contact Alberta Health Services???

[@smokeybobca]

From within Alberta call 811.

[@Judy-ys2ge]

Can I reach out to the mother of the teenage son? How do I connect with her? and also with the mom of Michell?

[@lindasharp8523]

Music is really annoying.

[@UncleDavesKitchen]

it's bizarre and unusual 'music'. the pain in the parent's voice is the message not yodeling noise

[@gemmadargan5722]

💙💙💙

[@k.rebuilding]

The music is awful. What are y'all doing?

[@mercedesgonzalezamezua6688]

Who needs that horrid nonstop music, it's just heartless, unacceptable!!

[@maaaaaaaaaaaaaaatias]

i lost my child at 33. im 35 now

[@JB25956]

Grief is forever it just changes may yours get easier to take overtime

[@sandycares2995]

Matthew 19:14 “But Jesus said, 'Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.'”

[@kathythureen9341]

THE TRAGIC LIFE OF KATHY THUREEN,

[@hellokittyfifi]

why is your life tragic kathy

[@faridaaminy9734]

What's going on in your life?

[@hellokittyfifi]

@@faridaaminy9734 that’s what i’m still tryna figure out ngl i’m heavily intrigued

[@marlyncouchman9169]

The background music is really annoying!

[@UncleDavesKitchen]

yes totally inappropriate, the words of the family is enough, it doesn't need bizarre bellowing in the background.

[@chellesama8256]

@@UncleDavesKitchen It's vocalizing, not bellowing or yodeling. It's fine if you hate it, but it's so far from bellowing I wondered if you were joking.

[@Castilda0311]

It really sounds like inappropriate wailing.

[@collinreesejones5525]

God Bless these beautiful families!!!!!!!!!😇