AITA for Backing My Husband in Asking My Sister to Stop Snooping in Our Home?

[@ketienne1021]

OP NTA for standing up for her husband, but this should've never been an issue to begin with after catching her. I would go full no contact.

[@jimdob6528]

I hate people snooping. I call people out on it immediately. Cameras are always a good idea in common areas.

[@prudencek7087]

OP should have been the one to confront her sister, not her husband. I had this issue with my mom snooping in our home and I spoke to her about it, I got the same defensive, screaming and crying reaction and she had the audacity to ask me if my husband had an issue with it; I told her it didn't matter if he had an issue with it, I'm the one addressing her actions and it needs to stop. She tried to rationalize and justify her actions and she threw a couple tantrums and after she realized that my boundaries were set and I was not backing down she played the victim and acted like I did her wrong. Her excuse was that she's my mom and she should be able to go where she wants in MY home and look at what she wants. NO MA'AM that's not how this works.

[@dailyRddit]

Snooping is wrong, OP’s sister is shameless. NTA for standing in husband’s side. Just go low/ no contact with her bc she sounds like never admit her fault or never change

[@JBKShadow09]

It sounds like at least part of the reason OP’s sister thinks she can get away with snooping and being horrible to her family is that her parents have not made her take accountability for her actions and therefore enabled her.

[@alicem5649]

NTA. Go NC with sister. Do not invite her or her kids to your gatherings. She admitted to snooping and admitted to saying something awful just to hurt you. That's not what a good person would do. If anyone in the family has opinions on this situation tell them she has been doing it consistently for months and is looking through medications and bank statements, and sister admitted doing that with every home she's been in.

[@cyberhard]

This.

[@uroosakhan2514]

NTA, your sister is trying her level best to play the victim here which she is not definitely, you don’t need to apologise at all, stick to your words and actions, she should better learn her lesson, no matter what mental health issues she is going through that doesn’t gave her any right to snoop in anyone’s personal space or belongings, that’s seriously disgusting

[@1bestfriend2u18]

She's probably already done it to your mother.And your mother has no idea how much of her personal information she's stolen.

[@OnnionOnni]

I hate when people try to put the blame on the people who call them out for it. Your sister has a big problem I get is a new place and want to explore and it seems that you host all lot in your house and she doesn't know how to behave at someone's house. I think you should go low contact with you sister. Nta

[@TheGosgosh]

ESH Family for expecting OP to just keel over and play happy Sister for multiple obvious mental health problems and not going to therapy (she definitely needs to work on herself; „I do this to everyone“ is something that’ll land her in jail sometime soon) OP and husband for not putting their foot down sooner and threaten legal action for the „recording kids in bathroom“ accusations

[@1bestfriend2u18]

The sister needs professional help. If you let it go, you'll only be enabling her addiction. You also need to check your credit reports and watch your bank statements.This is not gonna end well

[@Shinypotatochip]

Lmfao I would’ve told her to keep herself and her family away from my house

[@fedupinOhio]

NTA. But why keep inviting her over or keep having contact with her? She is dangerous to you and your husband!!!! Your job is to protect him, your marriage, and your immediate family. Your psycho, narcissist sister will have no problems falsely accusing him of horrific things and putting him, you, and your kids through hell. Keep her away from you! And if the rest of your extended family wants to keep coddling and making excuses for her, stay away from them, too! Protect your husband and yourself.

[@lisaclark7810]

She's reflecting and your mom needs to let you all handle it. Don't apologize and don't let her back in your house and if you go to another house just take your id, put it in your pocket and leave your purse and wallets at home if she's there

[@rickraber1249]

OP, your sister is a bully. All she has to do to fix her supposed "problem", is to stay the h_ll out of other people's stuff! She's also a great manipulator, and your mom is her best victim - sticking up for her and supposing that the "problem" is fixed. Don't buy any of it, and frankly, I would never let her back in your home. If you roll over on this one, she's won, and who knows what else she might decide to do to you. And it will all be your fault - in her eyes.

[@RileyPope-uo6ox]

0:59 for shorts people