AITA for ruining someone's TikTok? (React Court)

This came from my livestream on August 31st, 2021. Catch me live every weekday from 11AM-4PM here: / northernlion
I wanted to mix up my content a little bit and I figured, what better way to use my unique brand of judgemental gaze than to read the top posts on one of the most entertaining subreddits out there: r/AmITheAsshole? Check it out!

[@fjmoneybagz]

"Someone slightly inconvenienced me and it really annoyed me so I cursed their entire bloodline with the Old God's blessings, AITA?" "NTA, Your house, your rules" Repeated ad infinitum on r/aita, stunlocking me until the heat death of the universe.

[@TheFreepie]

@@oliverwaldron3941 agreed

[@ThirteenRoses]

'stunlocking me until the heat death of the universe' is an absolutely S tier comment lmao

[@LordofFullmetal]

Agree. Some of the judgements on there are reasonable - others REALLY make you go "Oh yeah, a lot of these people are literal children with no idea how the world works." Like just today, a dude got a YTA judgement because he was annoyed that his wife called him every hour for an entire work day; and I was there like "y'all know most jobs will fire you for sitting on the phone all day, right? Have none of you ever worked?" And then I immediately realised "Oh that's right - most of you probably HAVEN'T ever worked, and thus wouldn't know that".

[@davidb4935]

AITA judgements on the sub may as well be "tell me you're a libertarian without telling me you're a libertarian"

[@coledorillo6685]

This is probably the best comment on all of youtube. The wordplay, the setup, the delivery, the references. Chef's kiss

[@florian3183]

Even if I'm distracted by something for some time, I always come back to NL. Amazing content quality

[@ezrabialowas2055]

I took a multiple year NL break a while ago but now watch every video he posts once again

[@SamuraiPipotchi]

@@ezrabialowas2055 I'm the same. I'll often take a break from people's content after a while, but I come back to NL regularly. He has a unique personality.

[@derekw9724]

My thoughts exactly, no matter how long I stray, baldy is here to entertain me when I return

[@sloppynegan3663]

Same lol

[@hospod163]

This is very true

[@yayrocks]

I'm in disbelief that reddit was in FAVOR of someone playing music on a bus for any reason, there's like a daily post about hating people playing music on the bus

[@ryandeklerk9553]

The TikTok bad circlejerk is really strong in reddit

[@joearnone9628]

feel like it’s fake, and i’ve never heard of anyone getting copyright strikes on tiktok

[@yayrocks]

@@joearnone9628 yeah i'm pretty sure the audio just gets removed. this is 100% some dudes fantasy about owning the tiktokers

[@MrVovansim]

Yup, music guy is YTA for making the situation even worse for third parties on the bus.

[@elguty4045]

they hate tiktokers and teen girls even more.

[@ianpeters1980]

"The sanctity of a Fry's Electronics" frickin SLAYED me

[@superpotatogod]

NL's reaction to edits in some of this videos shows that he doesn't realize that half the people of Reddit have zero reading comprehension and will ask questions that any normal person would've already gotten the answer to from reading the post, the end result is that the OP has no choice but to make the edits so that even the stupidest people can give a fair judgement.

[@superpotatogod]

This is also true for edits that NL considers irrelevant, people asked so OP answered, nothing more to it.

[@spyczech]

It almost doesn't matter most of the time though since it is like 5+ edits deep and like NL said, if your making that many edits even to respond to legit questions it is a AH flag

[@ClockworkEngineer]

Are you not entertained!

[@HolyDeviant1]

Reddit readership is that guy who walks up to a closed store with a big paper WE'RE CLOSED sign, yanks on the door, gets a foot up on the near wall for leverage, bangs on the side window, then shrugs in angry confusion

[@moooseman3]

AITA for assuming poor reading comprehension is a sign that people shouldn't be taking advice from those users?

[@jays.6843]

It's weird how many of these issues could be solved by someone just saying "that hurts my feelings" or "I'm sorry" at the start.

[@GregtheAwesomeNinja]

My realization of this has helped me become a better person

[@AirNeat]

Ego diff

[@80aj21]

NL - just to clear one thing up, when he says Auditor, he's meaning someone from the company that owns the brand/shop he works for maintaining 'standards' across the company. They come around to see all the seats at McDonald's are the same and not broken etc and stuff like that.

[@Nosirrbro]

At this point I’m just here for the references, it doesn’t matter how mainstream or incredibly obscure your sense of humor is, the egg has it all like nobody else could

[@litapd311]

i came for the react court, i stayed for the kpop bad boys and ITYSL references

[@Nosirrbro]

@@litapd311 See I don’t even get any of those ones, there’s something for everyone

[@AKASyx]

Why do I feel like NL has a pretty harsh bias against the posters? Seems like his channel, his rules, idk

[@2playusout]

he has a harsh bias against people that use reddit. he uses reddit too but he's self aware so it doesnt count

[@charliegorham8301]

Because if your coming onto Reddit asking if your an Ahole there’s a good chance you’ve changed it slightly to make u look better

[@zzeroara9511]

@@charliegorham8301 bad faith argument

[@fritzjackson4336]

@@charliegorham8301 aka bias/not giving benefit of doubt, assuming lying.

[@xXChipsAndGravyXx]

@@zzeroara9511 individually yess its a bad faith arguement, but the OP isnt talking individually, hes talking about why hes spotted a trend in NLs behaviour. So indicating a place where there could be a bias is a justifiable speculation, the guy isnt saying that everyone posting aita threds is bending the truth, just that if you are writing it there is obvious incentive to make yourself look good, and that insentive shown on a broad scale may result is a bias towards skewing the truth on average.

[@piiirke]

these videos are either incredible or incredibly infuriating. usually both

[@Northernlion]

I can live with that!

[@Adoptulous]

the best kind of these videos are when you're offhandedly listening to an opinion on a post and you go W H A T

[@erickcarrasco9013]

For real though, how does this person trust people enough to leave their personal period stuff in a public bathroom? Like, it's gonna get stolen, or some weirdo is gonna do weird stuff to them. Locked cabinet is the best option imho

[@toddydog3]

That would be my only concern. I think a small locked cabinet would help the whole situation.

[@TracyMorgan248]

“A legendary dumpy” -NL 2021

[@katscandance]

Regarding the tampons in the bathroom, I would actually be scared to leave a full box of tampons/pads in a customer restroom because that shit is expensive. It will prolly be stolen within a few days so might as well keep it in ur bag or office.

[@masterplusmargarita]

That's the thing that gets me - regardless of whether the manager's the a-hole or not I'm shocked the employee would want to leave them there.

[@jeremyphillips3087]

Personally, i find an open box of tampons sitting on top of a toilet pretty trashy looking. But its a weird conversation to have with your employees, "janice, were those your tampons?!?!?"

[@ThatResolves]

@@jeremyphillips3087 nah it aint, you should have this stuff in your own bathroom too for when you have "guests" over tbh, fairly standard practice now.

[@jeremyphillips3087]

@@ThatResolves in your bathroom in a cabinet? Of course. Just sitting on top of the toilet is a little trashy. Its a couple steps above having fast food restaurant napkins as toilet paper.

[@ThatResolves]

@@jeremyphillips3087 has to be visible, helps people who need to use it know that it’s there without feeling uncomfortable about rooting around and also that you’re cool with it and no conversation needs to be had.

[@Fitz1993]

I really don't get the whole tampon situation. Why the fuck would you ever want to leave something as important as your tampons in what is essentially a public toilet... Even if it was a staff only toilet, there's no way on earth I would trust people not to either tamper with or remove such an important thing. Like what are you going to do if when the moment comes, you dash to the toilet to grab a tampon and they're gone? The whole situation just seems insane.

[@tresmith5224]

That was exactly my thought, I wouldn’t leave something out for everyone that I’d put into my body

[@KamiNoBaka1]

NL, the tampons in the bathroom story isn't about people being offended by tampons in the bathroom, it's more about the problems it will cause since the employee put them in there and doesn't want other people using them. Some customers will assume they're there as a courtesy and use them, then this employee will expect the store to replace them, which is unreasonable. Stores generally don't budget for tampons.

[@davidlazerz8564]

Head-canon alert

[@yogtheterrible]

Concerning the auditor of the store...that's very much a thing. You can't have anything out of place. I've been yelled at for having toilet paper on top of the toilet because they were going through more toilet paper than the dispensers held. When you're in charge of the cleanliness of an area you have to keep it a specific way or you'll get in trouble.

[@Reflexzzzz]

Yeah but it's like "oh you didn't get a perfect score on the audit", nothing of consequence happens. So basically you're saying the rules are misogynistic, or the system as a whole. If the manager can't do anything because of the auditors, the auditors can't do anything because they have to be accurate, and HR or the manager can't provide a cabinet, the whole situation is ridiculous and should be ignored.

[@MelancholicMuppet]

I feel like having to keep your tampons in your handbag isn't such a big thing to ask of someone either

[@DannyB1111]

@@Reflexzzzz It isn’t inherently misogynistic to have a rule against keeping personal products in a public bathroom.

[@Fitz1993]

Yeah I really don't get why you would even want to leave your tampons in what is essentially a public toilet anyways. Why would you trust strangers not to fuck with or just straight up take them? It makes no sense...

[@airget]

Ya and honestly, the 10 steps of bathroom from office makes the whole concept of leaving tampons in the bathroom lazy to begin with. If you know you have that time, is that extra 10 steps really a make it or break it for you? You just keep it in your purse and use it as needed. It just seems strange to want to keep something that you insert in to yourself or place on your panties in a public environment in which it has the opportunity to be stolen or tampered with.

[@SSJPoptart]

Sometimes I think NL forget that edits are normally after they've read comments so sometimes they need to reiterate points or bring up other "points".

[@spyczech]

I agree with him though that some people just repeat the same arguments even if its just constantly defending or reiterating points

[@SSJPoptart]

@@spyczech sometimes, yeah. I also get it may get played up a little being content and what not.

[@spyczech]

@@SSJPoptart NL has just the right dash of stubborn uncle for great content

[@Octoshark19]

the OP doesn't have to reply or acknowledge the comments that clearly didnt read the post. the OP purposefully chose to add edits that reiterate their own arguments. that's the problem

[@spyczech]

@@Octoshark19 True you and you can rely on the reddit army of people to help correct them too. What they say about if you want an answer quickly don't ask, say the wrong thing and wait to people to correct yoy

[@SamuraiPipotchi]

"People don't know how to argue and it pisses me off" Holy hell, YES. It is UNBEARABLE to see what some people consider as logical arguments! I fully believe children should be taught how to debate calmly and politely, because it utilises so many useful critical thinking skills. Ironically, if more people knew how to argue, we'd probably have less arguments.

[@bas_ee]

On the other hand. Arguing with an idiot is better because you know just to walk away. For example if the radical anti-vax people knew how to argue and make proper arguments they would be way more dangerous as more people might be convinced by their believes. Some people are just weak minded and believe everything they read on facebook, like chem trails, vaccins causing autism or the elite drinking childrens blood (thats a thing people believe here in the Netherlands). Do you want these people to be stupid as they are now, when you know when to walk away because you know they will keep saying stupid non-arguments and just keep talking louder than you etc. Or do you want these people to be fluent in arguing with valid arguments and you have to respect their way so to speak. Because making people better in something when they are a kid, does not prevent them from doing the wrong things with the thing. (No offense whatever one has learned but, ) let the debating and learning how to formulate better arguments to the people who take the time and effort to get a masters degree in whatever, if this makes sense

[@SamuraiPipotchi]

@@bas_ee The issue with that point is that people who have proper critical thinking skills rarely fall for anti-vax and other controversies like 5G poisoning us. People who know how to argue usually slow down, consider the opposing position and ask the questions they need to know to expand their knowledge of the argument. It's really difficult to become someone who believes in and spreads that sort of stuff when you approach the topic with a critical mindset. You end up seeing that most points made are appeals to emotion without evidence rather than appeals to logic, backed by research. Sure, critical thinkers could make more appealing arguments on behalf of the controversies, but they likely wouldn't find any reason to do so.

[@nyarlathotep1223]

So much this

[@jenm1]

Logic in humans is the memeiest thing in the world. It doesn't exist. We argue as far as we need to in order to win. You can't use natural language for deductive logic, it's fallacious. That being said, I kind of agree. They should be taught multiple forms of communication, not just western logic.

[@Smonsequenses]

@@jenm1 You can make logical statements in natural language. Just think of simple syllogisms. Natural language is ambiguous, not fallacious.

[@ultimecia102]

It blows my mind how often reddit puts personal freedom above all else. It just creates a world of bitching and jostling for tiny power plays.

[@jenm1]

some lore: reddit was started by a strong libertarian. That's why they had child-porn and pro rape subs for a really long time before being forced to shut down. it's built into the structure of the site. also, everyone's heros are elon musk and milton friedman.

[@ultimecia102]

@@jenm1 That is fascinating and explains a lot. I remember the complaining when the site became more mainstream. I guess that if there was a preestablished political bias then part of it was the widening of the ideological spectrum.

[@andreauscolon]

I've been on NLs side for most of his arguments but the bathroom tampon thing is tilting me off the face of the planet. In a corporation or as a business leader you just cant allow employees to leave personal items around. It honestly doesnt matter what it is. Also there are "ladies boxes" that dont require money here in the US. Just a small metal box on a wall you can reach in for when its needed. Manager is 100% right and employee is weird for wanting it left out.

[@nyarlathotep1223]

Okay here's a thought: company is weird for not wanting it out?

[@andreauscolon]

@Cornelia its 100% not that its a tampon but that its her personal tampons not intended for guest use.

[@andreauscolon]

@Cornelia yeah thats what i meant by having a ladies box. Its weird that they dont have them but its weirder to want to keep your own just out in the open.

[@Caminacels]

If I enter a public bathroom and there's personal items of strangers just lying around, I will immediately assume nobody ever bothers to clean in there. It's not about tampons specifically, like, isn't that basic tidyness? It's a shared space, it doesn't make sense for individuals to claim it as their own by leaving their shit in there.

[@TopOfAllWorlds]

This

[@rebeccaneville8968]

I think it depends a lot on the presentation - like if you put the tampons in a pretty basket it will look tidy and welcoming

[@Caminacels]

@@rebeccaneville8968 Oh, if it's meant and presented to be shared, I see no problem with it. But the post specifically mentioned it wasn't.

[@rebeccaneville8968]

@@Caminacels I do find the desire to put stuff you don't want to share in a small customer restroom odd - like how are you going to stop people from thinking they are for everyone.

[@Caminacels]

@@rebeccaneville8968 No clue, but it's part of the reason why I thought the manager was right.

[@chiko4536]

Hard disagree with Ennell on the tampon situation. If theyre not for public use and its just her tampons, why should she be able to leave it out where the customers would be? Itd be different if they were just in there in case anybody needed them, but she wasn't planning on sharing. You can't just leave your stuff around where customers might be, the dudes razer/deodorant comparison was actually kinda spot on

[@NitPudez]

I still don't get how NL chooses how to approach each post. Some people get so much good faith and some don't. Like the Tampon Manager said that cabinet was possible and I don't think soap dispensers for example require payment so why would tampon dispenser require payment. But then everyone in the Celebrity crush gets all their sides looked at with good faith. Thank you for this great series. Love it.

[@yayrocks]

well tampon dispensers are typically more like quarter-operated vending machines than they are soap dispensers

[@bioluminenssi]

Soap dispensers don't work like tampon ones, vast majority of them need a coin in order to work. Same with pads.

[@NitPudez]

@@yayrocks I see, so there is precedence, my bad. I have not encountered these in my country and every other kind of dispenser is usually free rather vending machine.

[@yayrocks]

@@NitPudez Yeah, the US has a lot of these types of paid machines in public bathrooms

[@airget]

It's the way tampons are seen, as a product and not a "Necessity". Soap is a product that serves to keep cleanliness and used by both sexes however tampons are seen as profit. So the moment they allow a "free dispenser" of tampons, you will just have women coming into that bathroom to stock up since they do last which could cause issues if they now have to constantly keep an eye on the dispenser and cost involved with keeping ti stocked on top of now making sure it's being used properly and not being exploited by people who just want to get their hands on a bunch to use for themselves at a later date. And since I am curious to do the math. Let's say in theory you had 10 people exploiting this machine each week. So in theory let's say those 10 people needed 21 each and let's say as a wholesale they get 432 for 100 dollars. each week 210 are used so about 420 every 2 weeks, so -100 for every 20 people that use a full rotation of tampons. But these are just small numbers, if we say in a place with 1k customers daily, and 20% use it, that's 200. That would be 4200, or 1k expenses a week which does add up, could in theory pay for another employee and cut into other things like bonuses and then you have to take into account that if you were selling tampons and no longer selling to those 200 people that's an additional lose of 2k/week. So now you are -52k from the free tampon dispenser and an additional -104k from the lost of tampon sales equating to 156k. While yes I will agree these numbers are not 100% accurate, it's give or take, could be more or could be less the sad reality is that the rich who make the rules look at every penny and micro-manage their profit margins, that's why people get paid minimum wage and that's why the "free products" offered are limited, because if given the option people will take more than what they need every now and then, free napkins, sauces, straws, all that stuff adds up and while it might not look like a lot when you also consider things like how many stores there are, let's say this store had 50 other stores total, then you have to consider that 156k if we average it down to say 120k per store would be a total loss of revenue by 6 million dollars all cause of free tampons. They are just accounting concepts to take in mind in situations like this, if you think of something from a single instance it might not sound like a lot but when you take a step back and look at it from the whole franchise of a business, the loss of revenue adds up and can be especially damaging if say they had a bad year and are forced to let people go or reduce hours. People never think much of it, but imagine not getting the money they wanted and now they want to reduce hours by 80. So you have 2 less employees to work with, if we think of the cost basis of 12/hr that's them saving 960 per store a week for a total of 2,496,000 which they then could in their minds justify the use of the free tampon dispeners since they then found a way to regain some of that money, but then of course they could go further and be like -160hrs which would be 4,992,000 and still cause them to be at about -1million. But sadly that's how they see people, as just numbers, the rich have the money to survive and as long as they see their idle game increase in numbers they are happy, but the moment they see red they screech and demand changes so that they can see green again, without actually doing any work.

[@doggo9388]

The tampon one can only really be judged properly by people who work in retail or any job dependent on customer service. The decision to have personal use items banned from a customer bathroom is an effort to prevent customer complaints as there’s already so many of those a day and limiting them is ALWAYS the priority as a manager or employee. If even 5 customers complain about it to corporate, that manager will get yelled at. Enough times of that happenings and they could be fired or relocated. That being said, I think the cabinet solution which is so cheap and simple, fixes this entire thing so I wouldn’t say he’s an asshole as much as he is a bad problem solver and the fact that he suggest it can’t be one is evident of that.

[@froststeel1]

I need some additional info on the tampon one as a guy... because to me, it sounds like they can have their tampons at the store, just not in a public/customer use space. There is nothing about not bringing them into the bathroom as they need them, they just can't leave them there. Seems like a non-issue to me?

[@jakx2ob]

I mean yes that's sexism. Just not limited to the managers sexism.

[@CZProtton]

@@BritJim That is not the same argument, though. Would it be a non issue if I needed some special toilet paper but women would have a free tampon box in the toilet? Yes, that would be a non issue. As the bathroom is communal, so is the tampon box, while the toilet paper is my personal. Same if reversed, if its personal, it does not belong in a communal space for customers to use.

[@CZProtton]

@@froststeel1 It totaly is a non-issue for any normal human being. Just keep them in the office, as he said employees can. Other female employees find it a non issue. Only entitled karen in the making sees it as a horrible sexist policy. Its just not.

[@doggo9388]

@@jakx2ob it’s not really sexism. It’s not like he’s letting men get away with keeping stuff in there and not women, it’s just there’s no real equivalent. He already said the policy applies in the same way to men. As I said in my comment agreeing with NL, they could install some sort of cabinet. Or, as NS pointed out, she can keep them in her office, I really don’t know why that’s such a big deal. I get that it could be an emergency but if anything, having them in your office means you could access them quicker without having to worry if customers could’ve stolen or used them. You can say this is an American problem, great, you solved nothing cause this is in America. Just because a particular problem isn’t present in your country doesn’t mean that pointing it out is a legitimate response instead of being egotistical and nationalist. Lastly, NS already said this but I’ll reiterate: if you’ve worked in any service industry job, even in other countries, you’d know that the company doesn’t care about its employees nearly as much as its customer satisfaction, and even though most people might not care, there will be some loud minority that does and businesses ALWAYS listen to them due to the opportunity cost of fixing the “problem.”

[@tylersmith314]

NTA your bus your rules

[@katscandance]

Holy shit… people who clearly have never been in a healthy secure relationship acting like relationship therapists on Reddit made me furious.

[@excogitatezenzizenzizenzic8950]

Finally NL has joined the hive mind of “Literally who cares.” Even of all of these are real which I doubt very much; all of these are such non problems or things that could be solved by talking to the person in question. This is why I never have good stories to post on AITA.

[@LordofFullmetal]

Eh. I don't know how much time you spend on that sub; but almost every post I see, they literally SAY "we already tried talking and it didn't work". That's why they're there. The problem with talking is that it requires both involved parties. If one party is not interested, it doesn't matter what the other party tries.

[@Silkseb]

I usually have very similar takes to NL for these AITA, but the tampon one is just insane to me... I feel like NL was making way too much fuss about the manager being an asshole. This one is super understandable from his point of view. He's not at all in the wrong, but the girl isn't either for wanting it. If the policy is that you cant keep personal items in the bathroom, then you cant, simple as that. The girl is an asshole for saying its sexist/calling him sexist for this. The employee desk is also super close, so its accessible, and he said he wants to ask HR for a dispenser or something. I literally don't see the problem.

[@TropicalPhysics]

The tampon case is a classic case of microaggression. The law of "no sanitary product in public space" may be equal in theory, but in reality creates an additional hurdle only for employees who menstruate (almost 100% women). Men never have to think about this. Then, the onus falls into the employees who have to ask for their basic needs to be met from the society whose norm does not include them. If this is just one case, then it might have been fine. But women face a lot of these little hurdles daily in almost everything they do. This is what meant by systematic discrimination. The manager might have no malice, but he shows no understanding and reacts in a way that gives impression that women's needs are not valid. He adds to the thousand cuts women face daily, when he has an opportunity to do otherwise. There is a prevalent idea that true equality means everyone is treated under the same rules. Real equality, however, only occurs when everyone is given the same opportunity to succeed i.e. an equity of experience. Society should look carefully at specific hurdles that arise from biological differences, and try to smooth them out, rather than applying 'equal law' that instead perpetuate the inequalities that have nothing to do with a person's character. There is a really good comment on NL's subreddit that explains this. It's from the Post-Stream Discussion Thread on 31 August 2021.

[@Providence83]

@@TropicalPhysics I'd agree with this if I were Lawful Good, unfortunately for your argument I'm Lawful Neutral. The fact of the matter is that the "equality of experience" of life sucks _always,_ right since the start, and *for everyone* in different ways. (Antinatalists don't @ me.) The lady's life sucks because she thinks she's been slighted (people in these circumstances like to use the word "oppressed"), the manager's life sucks because his character is being attacked by her. For fun lets go down a couple theoretical timelines since the only thing that would matter in this scenario is the result: Lady doesn't actually go to HR, she sucks it up and finds an alternative to the _barely_ existent problem of not being able to keep her personal belongings in a public space; lady goes to HR, it's either addressed as a problem or it isn't, the lady finds an alternative like before or she gets whatever it is she _actually_ wants out of this. Hell, maybe if HR says it's not a problem the lady quits the job. Maybe if HR does, the manager gets fired! Maybe the lady ends up getting to put her own box of pads on the toilet and everything turns out fine or she gets angry her supplies are being used up by the patrons which share the bathroom. Maybe some fuckin' psychopath laces the pads with poison for gods knows what reason. Maybe the pads are put at the desk instead and someone with a grudge laces them with poison anyways. I said before that the only thing that matters was the results but funny enough, as it turns out the world keeps turning at the end of all these options anyways... Almost like this shit only matters to the people living their individual lives, huh? I don't see any greater level of equality than that.

[@Licw-Luxus]

@@TropicalPhysics Are people like you actually real? Holy shit what has this world become?...

[@legion999]

@@TropicalPhysics No personal ANYTHING in the customer-accessible bathroom. Also, like can't a woman keep couple tampons in her purse?

[@Providence83]

@Cornelia These problems _don't_ exist *for me.* You know the problems that do exist for me? Want to know how society performs these "microaggressions" towards _me?_ I'm a tall motherfucker and the toilets and sinks are too low in public spaces. When I go to a hotel, the showerhead sprays my neck instead of the top of my head. What's your take on that, eh? In a perfect world maybe there's all these alternative options to fit everyone's needs. I urge you to spend your life searching for such a world. When we're both dead and gone to Hell, you can tell me how that went and I'll spend eternity describing all the uncomfortable dumps I had taken throughout my life. It'll be fun! :D

[@papabaddad]

Tampons just sitting out on the counter in the bathroom is definitely weird. I'm not going to complain or really care, but i suppose i would find it pretty odd. My work just has a cabinet full of general maintenance items, and people stick person items in there. Seems to work just fine.

[@finbees]

They really just need a box or something to put them in, because I'd be afraid of customers touching them but overall I do not think it's weird or odd to be keeping tampons in a bathroom. Edit: just adding that my uni has an open-topped box with tampons and pads. My house has something similar on the counter. I live in New Zealand so that may be a cultural difference, but I'm not at all shocked by that concept.

[@samsukeandstuff6655]

I think it honestly depends. Like if it was a hotel then fine. But what if the relatively small company was a local gas station chain with dingy bathrooms...a lot of factors are needed to make a clear decision.

[@MrVovansim]

It's simple. If you put something in a customer bathroom, expect customers to use it. That's why tp, paper towels, and trash can are fine. You leave tampons in there, expect customers to use them also. If the employee specifically said she doesn't want that, she needs to keep her personal items wherever she keeps her purse and other personal belongings during the shift. Not the asshole.

[@johnfahey8590]

oooh i wish i could have seen the chat for the last one. i was mentally chatting about how tame impala is only 1 guy

[@OneRightClick]

I can see the no personal use products in the bathroom being more for safety reasons. Personally, I wouldn’t want to keep something like that in there for fear of someone tampering with it.

[@jakx2ob]

Are you constantly worried that people tamper with your toilet paper?

[@OneRightClick]

@@jakx2ob I’m not sticking toilet paper into a vagina.

[@Derek430]

Interestingly, a couple months after this video was uploaded, Ann Arbor, MI became the first US city to require feminine hygiene products be available in all public restrooms.

[@rjengar]

Honestly I think NL went too hard on tampon guy. I think it’s just common sense to keep personal items out of sight of customers whatever they may be. His suggestion of keeping them in a drawer would work perfectly of alternatively somewhere else hidden nearby that’s easy to access by the employee, but not noticeable by the customer.

[@XekTOr89]

Why is it impossible for the women to carry their tampons with their purses or bags? Literally every woman I know can do that, but apparently not in that store?

[@NeoBoneGirl]

Nah, NL was right

[@rjengar]

@@XekTOr89 this I disagree with since employees wouldn’t be carrying their purse on them. They’ll probably leave it in some area in the back which could be inconvenient to go back to get your stuff.

[@bittrippn6570]

It shows how long it's been since NL has had a job where corporate rules are insane but you have to follow them. I worked in retail for 15 years, and I can 100% see how a visit from corporate would chew out the manager for employees using customer accessible space for their personal storage. HR would tell them to keep their personal stuff in their purse or something and not where customers would find them. Also how he kept suggesting to "Just install a cabinet" , BRO do you have any idea how long it will take for corporate to approve that, If ever? Not gonna happen.

[@Pepepper]

Honestly I just think it's weird that anyone would WANT to keep their personal hygiene products in a space where anyone could be touching them.

[@jarmakey1]

As a woman, tampon guy is NTA. Especially if the employee doesn't want the customers to use/steal her stuff. I wouldn't want random strangers feeling up my stuff either. And as someone who worked in retail, there are plently of weird sometimes pointless rules. But you're right, they should install a small cabinet.

[@RurouniFlojo]

In defense of the tampon manager guy, you may as well flip it and make an "AITA for calling my boss a sexist, bc he told me we shouldn't leave personal stuff in the store bathroom" post. Sure the guy may be kind of a weirdo, but if you're managar asks you to not leave personal stuff lying around and you don't have a good reason to do otherwise (which she didn't seem to have) why make a big thing about it and just do it. imo Everybody sucks here

[@fadmanloki660]

Pretty sure having periods is a perfectly fine reason for having tampons close at hand. Employees probably won't have a handbag, and you can't just 'hold it in' to go to the office when you're already leaking.

[@Bspammer]

Honestly if she’s fine with giving out free tampons I don’t see the problem with it. Pretty sure if I saw a box of tampons in a customer bathroom I would think “aw that’s pretty thoughtful of them”. I think it’s unrealistic for her to expect they won’t get used by customers.

[@Bspammer]

Also, tampons are a lot more like toilet paper or soap than razors or toothpaste. Single-use, sterile, you can tell they haven’t been used. In a perfect world every bathroom would provide tampons, but obviously they’d get stolen because they’re pretty expensive.

[@MelancholicMuppet]

@@fadmanloki660 I'm pretty sure most people bring their bags to work

[@graystone2802]

@@fadmanloki660 the office is literally right next to the bathroom, this reasoning is ridiculous. If it’s a personal use product, you don’t get to keep it on the sink of the public bathroom, this isn’t some insane sexist policy.

[@SaruCharmed]

Okay, knowing it's Tame Impala I get it. He's my type too. But it was kinda shitty of her to so blatantly say straight to her husband's face that her husband isn't her dream man and that her dream man is so different from him. I don't think it's wrong for him to want to go, and I don't think what he said was particularly nasty either, but I do think he should talk it out with her and tell her exactly how she made him feel, because clearly it's not such 'not a big deal'.

[@user-jt5qc9og1p]

AITA mindset: someone slighted me and hurt my feelings so I dropped a verbal atom bomb, AITA?

[@amicosayshi865]

The term "Verbal Atom Bomb" tickles me pink

[@timsimon8665]

I am very amused that NL will go through Straw Man after Straw Man and then talk about how the post he's reading shouldn't have them, all in the same story.

[@legion999]

Well true he does do that a lot

[@jacknelson6010]

One word. Content.

[@mrgreen497]

there are alot of things that could go wrong, with keeping tampons in a public restroom. but like whats wrong with her just keeping her tampons in the break room like he suggested? he literally does not care that she has them... just dont have them in reach of the customer...

[@AmuseableClementine]

If you're leaking, it is an emergency, and you want to be able to take care of it as swiftly as possible. And, it's about quality of life.

[@KAGEFOREEVER]

she clearly wants someone to tamper with them or flat out steal them.

[@mrgreen497]

@@AmuseableClementine if its so bad that she can't walk "10 feet" from the office to the restroom she needs medical attention... my gf says you normally feel that coming before it happens and hers is extremely irregular.... also, have you seen the degeneracy that thrives on tiktok? people cutting themselves and touching stuff in grocery stores with their bloody fingertips? imagine one of them touches their asshole and then spreads fecal matter on her tampon? yea enjoy your new STD, have fun explaining that one to your SO.....

[@mrgreen497]

@@AmuseableClementine i just read another comment about random vandalism. people could just flush them in the toilet and flood the place, like there are so many reasons not to do this...if you give enough people an opportunity vandelize someone will take it. leave a sharpie in the bathroom i bet it only takes an hour to get some nazi shit scribbled on the wall

[@AmuseableClementine]

@@mrgreen497 You are literally being so weird.

[@lycos94]

if i had a partner and he would say someone that is very different from me is his ''dream man'' i'd have trouble dealing with something like that too, but i am also very insecure, i assume that OP is as well

[@gingerale1591]

@Karon Nuva this is why, if such a thing happens, its really important to tell your SO that it hurt you, so that no resentment is built up. sometimes people say things they should have thought about more. it happens, and it can either become a big deal if its not talked about and gets built up, or it could be brought up early and get resolved quickly

[@fritzjackson4336]

this goes hand in hand with a relationship. of course there's always someone better, but when you commit, the bond you form elevates whatever you may have "settled" for and makes the desire to leave for a hotter person vanish from your body. however literally me and my bf will say "that guy is hot" in private when in the store or when watching a show and often times we agree about hotness. Like the new personal assistant in Hacks, Bolin from TLOK, the tall guy at our local Target, musicians, etc. It may be different cause we're both bi and don't have to feel too insecure because i can also recognize someone's attractiveness where as straight guy might not understand what his gf finds attractive about a guy and then gets insecure because they don't understand and don't get that they're just attractive and that at most means "i might hook up with that guy if i was single and had the opportunity." but that then implies that they actually have the opportunity and you aren't together. unless they are referring to people they actually have a chance of getting with as their dream guy, i don't see how this is a problem.

[@swimminginhoney]

“Tampons, open drugs, whatever!” Really got me 😂

[@nicholaslogan6840]

"I got cyberbullied IRL" is a gem of a statement

[@minoibwoi14]

As for the thing about people saying the same thing in their edits: Peeps on the internet have a habit of completely ignoring multiple things that were clearly stated and making comments that make no sense when you factor them in so I get why it’s done but sadly it’s meaningless, people are gonna be stupid no matter how many times you say the same thing.

[@RatedX29]

the pipes of the toilets in my old workplace got clogged up regularly by my co workers flushing down tampons, having a box of them available to random people, random people who oftentimes clog toilets with anything they get their hands on for sport, doesn't seem like a good idea. just keep tampons in your bag like everyone else

[@KillamriX98]

Oof, good point.

[@SemiIocon]

Wtf, "clog toilets with anything for sport", do you work at a daycare?

[@spyczech]

@@SemiIocon For real people wouldn't say that about men with toilet paper or public seat sanitary covers, what if they clog da toilet!!1 lowkey sexist people in the comments

[@Kagemouru]

@@spyczech Toilet paper is a requirement. If we didn't have to have it, I would be glad, because working in food service for like, 7-8 years, you get PILES of TP in the corners of stalls, strewn about the floor, it's awful, and having any thing that small children can access is even worse.

[@huskrzfan024]

Do you just open a mail slot.... I cant stop laughing

[@tatokainjones9029]

Personally don’t even know how it’s up for debate. You can’t keep personal items in a public bathroom. It’s just unprofessional.

[@fujster]

Wow so unprofessional to *checks notes* Be on your period??

[@tatokainjones9029]

@@fujster oh so we a little slow and don’t gather context of a situation or have any kind of critical thinking? Bruh you don’t keep personal crap in a public restroom you moron. Comment on something from over a year ago. To say something so ignorant lol.

[@Potatezone]

If it were a privately owned business, I'd be 100% on the tampon manager being an asshole. However, this guy is just trying to avoid a situation in which actually mysoginistic people using the bathroom would complain and get him either in trouble or fired. HR doesnt give a shit about equality, just about minimizing costs and complaints. Him reiterating that there's no room in the bathroom is stating that in its current state, having ANYTHING on the floor/sink would probably be too much clutter for someone to NOT complain. The best solution would be for this guy to just get a small basket to put on the toilet to hold tampons/pads. They belong in bathrooms for anyone who needs them to use, this guy is just either thinking too discrete or too corporate with trying to have a wall-mounted box that costs money.

[@CZProtton]

I disagree. If there is no place for it (as maybe a closed cabinet) and its just lying there, its a unisex bathroom for both customers and employees. If she needs a pad or a tampon, get it from your office (as he says she can totaly keep those there) and take it to the bathroom. Its bad hygiene to just have those in the open in a bathroom anyway, it should be in a closed cabinet. More over, she stated that its for HER ONLY and noone else can use these, but she keeps them in a communal space that is used by everyone in the store? She is just unreasonable. Either keep those there as a benefit for women, who can just take a tampon if they need to or keep them in your own space. Yes, he wants to prevent customer complaints. That is literally his job though, as a customer service manager. The pro of leaving it there is that this one female employee can use these, the cons are everyone else is inconvinienced by those (he said its a really really small bathroom, not enough space already and she wants to take up some of that with tampons that belong to her and noone from the other employees or any customers can use those) and customers (close minded customers, but such is the service industry) might complain about it being there. It has pros for one employee, cons for the company, all other employees and all customers. She is an entitled asshole, really, thinking she can just use a communal bathroom as her own personal home bathroom. You cannot, that is simply not how it works. If you leave it there for others to use aswell, you might have an argument. If its just yours... this is not your house. Its a store.

[@LordofFullmetal]

@@CZProtton Tampons are wrapped and sterile until you open and use them lmao. It's not "bad hygiene" to leave them on a counter, for any party involved. That's on par with saying "ew, women are dirty". It's just not factual, and it sounds like thinly veiled sexism.

[@Licw-Luxus]

@@LordofFullmetal please stop

[@CZProtton]

@@LordofFullmetal What are you smoking that you equal "leaving tampons outside so anyone can fuck with them" with "women are dirty". It sounds like you have a problem, not me. I have not used one, as I am a man. How sterile is the wrapping, is it sealed plastic? Do you trust it to remain that way in a public bathroom, as is this? I would not trust leaving anything in a public bathroom, much less an object that will then touch my genitals. With the wrapping being super dirty, can you unwrap it without making the tampon dirty? Cause that is a real issue with sterile bandages and so on, they may be sterile inside their package, but they can become contaminated as soon as you open the wrapping. All of that aside though, the bathroom is too small for anyone to leave anything there. As was stated by OP. That alone settles it.

[@AceofJays15]

Finally someone gets it. If you've ever worked retail with upper management that comes to the store to inspect stuff, you'd know that there is a lot of dumb rules at these stores. If say, the regional manager came and found out an employee was keeping personal hygiene products in a public bathroom, there wouldn't be any discussion. They'd simply say, you can't do that and tell your employees to stop. Like it's not an open debate and yes, HR would do anything to minimize complaints and that will get customer complaints because people are stupid. The manager was not at all being an asshole

[@xoire9754]

I don't understand the tampon thing. I feel like everyone is predisposed to seeing him as the villain because the word tampon was used. He clearly has no problems with tampons, he supports public access tampons. His issue is leaving personal hygiene products in a customer bathroom like you personally own the bathroom. It sounds like common sense to me. What if people tamper with it? What if people think it's for public use? Why can't she just keep it in the office? Or on her person? Honestly, the solution here seems to be to just tell her to keep her personal tampons on her person, and just buy public use tampons that remain in the toilet and get restocked. I just think it's absolutely valid to want some structure in what is and isn't meant to be in bathrooms that are accessible to customers - they don't belong to the staff. Again, it's not like he banned tampons. He just doesn't want personal items finding a permanent home there. Like he probably doesn't want people's coats in there either? Keep your stuff with you if it isn't for everyone.

[@vincethegreat15]

"Even though he's intentionally be an asshole on the bus dude isn't an asshole." Oh boy reddit good take

[@mybesttoast9605]

"Cyberbullied irl" NL I think thats called bullying, might have to check my facts though

[@syrello4408]

Losing my mind on the first one. The guy meant she 100% was good enough, not that she 100% wasn't

[@BIuejacket]

I’ve been watching React Court a lot during workouts, it always makes exercise more entertaining. Thanks, NL. 😎👍

[@murphthasmurf5923]

Watching this makes me want to go and brawl in the reddit comments but I don’t want to lose half my day

[@Whatsuppbuddies]

I went to a Tame Impala concert something like five years ago. It was kind of boring except for the part where these guys had this huge banner that read "KEVIN SUCKS" (the singer the dude's wife had the hots for) and the band stopped the show to congratulate them for being 'true fans'.

[@JobroskiSwaqqman]

Twiddle my thumbs for just a bit, sick of all the same old crap. Nl uploads a new react court and I’m effin poggin.

[@calituesdays1156]

Feel bad for the tampon guy, it's not difficult for her to keep her tampons in the office like the other female co-workers in the office. She should have just bit the bullet and waited for him to bring the idea of a dispenser up to HR instead of accusing him of being a sexist.

[@wildcard3617]

She did call him a sexist

[@toddydog3]

But what's wrong with the products being in there? What's the problem because it all boils down to "I don't want to see it" or "the customer doesn't want to see it" which is not a valid reason to be angry.

[@jenm1]

@@toddydog3 yeah, it's an inherent 'society is still kinda sexist' moment w biases we all have against women. not much you can do though

[@gowford]

@@toddydog3 cuz it's a public bathroom and people can fuck with that box or steal it, plus stores can get shut down for less (like a cleaning product that just so happens to not comply with an obscure rule barely anyone knows) PLUS her office is 10 steps away from the bathroom, it'd be more than understandable if it was like a whole floor away but it's right there, no reason to call the guy a sexist for that y'know

[@NearoC]

Man, NL being like "women talking about men is more normalized than men talking about women in society, so you maybe can't just flip it" is a weird one... like brother, something being normalized doesn't make it right, and it's good to critically evaluate that kind of thing instead of accepting it. You can honestly argue that either they're both fine or both not fine, but letting them remain different is a pretty awful standard.

[@Nosirrbro]

Yeah I mean I think if people want to be in a relationship where they can talk freely about celebrity crushes thats fine whoever they are

[@mmallowwxp]

I agree with the tampon manger one. She doesnt need to keep something meant only for her in the public bathroom. Your period comes once a month for a couple of days. You don't need to keep them in the bathroom unless its for everyone. That seems hella selfish.

[@zzeroara9511]

Other women don't exist. Thanks for the info

[@Isuperspy]

@@zzeroara9511 That employee wanted them all for herself not for other women to use.

[@joshuabarnes1486]

The tampon one is a classic “Canadian don’t understand” moment. Corporate chains in America are relentless when it comes to that kind of stuff.

[@fujster]

No they are not. It's a wrapped tampon package. The worst they will do is say "Might get stolen, store it somewhere else is a good idea"

[@joshuabarnes1486]

@@fujster brother I said this 11 months ago. Make your own comment but don’t make me relive the past lol

[@Hadradavus]

the stealth incel in the comments of the concert story was the screwball i didn't know i needed to see torn down

[@thegreatdestroyerr]

I for one, will support this OPs girlfriend on her quest for a legendary dumper. YTA

[@NicolaeHolley]

11:40 I don't think this guy is the asshole, I think "don't keep personal items in the customer bathroom" is a valid policy, and tampons aren't an exception to that.

[@loafy2]

So glad I decided to click on my first react court video a month ago. This content is so pogged

[@amicosayshi865]

I gotta say, I agree with the manager about the tampons. It does just kinda seem wierd to leave a personal use product in a customer shared bathroom. If I was a customer, walked in and saw a tampon on the counter, I'd think "Huh, kinda wierd that's there."

[@jakx2ob]

I feel it shouldn't be a personal use item.

[@kloaf1131]

@@jakx2ob but thats what it is? It's their personal tampons.

[@amicosayshi865]

@@jakx2ob I mean, if you have to put it inside yourself for any reason, I'd say that definitely qualifies as "personal use". No one else is going to use it after you so...

[@jakx2ob]

@@amicosayshi865 Replace tampon with toilet paper and see which parts of your argument still work and where it falls apart.

[@amicosayshi865]

@@jakx2ob I sure hope you're not putting toilet paper inside of yourself. That seems pretty inefficient

[@axelnilsson6478]

I think you didn't really present the tampon one fairly, he said it was completely fine if employees kept the tampons in the office, and you seemed to suggest that he didn't want the tampons in the store at all.

[@spyczech]

I didn't get that from him AT ALL, he clearly states as much when OP himself mentions it and says it wasn't where he thought it was going 100%

[@anjalis4845]

Ok boys. My verdict on the tampon situation is that the employee is being kinda unreasonable. She can keep her tampons in the office which is next to the bathroom. There is a place for them. That's what matters. Needing it to also be in the public bathroom is kinda weird. Like it's a public bathroom? Gross?

[@JD2jr.]

How is "no I don't want to go with you, enjoy it with a friend" going to "ruin the experience", but making a huge deal about it before going or not is better?

[@kloaf1131]

Honestly, I don't really why people default to something like it's sexist if it's something that would apply to non-feminine items. And I could totally see an inspector or auditor could cause write-ups for something like that. And again nothing in this is because of what it is. It's because of the personal use category it's included. Also egg. The edits may seem irrelevant but I'm guessing that they were asked in the comments somewhere probably multiple times.

[@kloaf1131]

Also in retail or most stores. it's not about if people complain. they will complain.

[@DannyB1111]

@Cornelia It is personal if the person who bought it and put it there isn’t doing so officially. If you bought toilet paper, left it in the company bathroom and said you’d not want anyone else using it, that would also be weird.

[@MelMelodyWerner]

I, uh, don't understand why the lady in the tampon story wanted to just leave her tampons in the public bathroom when random people could easily steal them, kids could play with them, etc.. is the office not a better place to put 'em until they install a cabinet or dispenser?

[@spyczech]

Woah are you OP?

[@GardinerAlan]

Right, but they haven't yet done anything about a cabinet or dispenser. The manager could help with that but he doesn't. Cares more about potentially annoying HR than helping his employees. That high morale doesn't last when managers make decisions like that.

[@mrgreen497]

@@GardinerAlan the manager says she could put them in the office "10 steps away"

[@GardinerAlan]

@@mrgreen497 Right well if that's all, why don't they put the toilet paper, hand soap and light bulb 10 feet away. I'll wait.

[@mrgreen497]

@@GardinerAlan ok i just asked my gf and she works at a daycare 100% of the employees are female at her location, also her hr is female. ..... they have an employee bathroom and they STILL dont put feminine hygiene stuff or ANY personal stuff in the bathroom. she said its not even against the rules, they just dont do it. she says "if you need your tampon that bad to where your can't make it 4 steps away your already fucked and your gonna need a new pair of panties before you even get to the bathroom, having them in the bathroom wouldn't help you" idk about you but ive been increasingly cautious about using anything in the public. on twitter some girl posted a pic of human blood on the edge of all of the toilet paper rolls in all of the stalls, why set yourself up for something like that? as for me, im a trucker i bring my own baby wipes whenever i go, so whatever your point is it doesnt matter to me ive seen filth you wouldn't believe, ive pooped in the dark due to poweroutages so if theres no lightbulb idgaf i have a flashlight on my phone, ive pooped next to some asshole that shat on the TP roll holder thing so since then ive never trusted that public tp. edited spelling

[@_roy_1_me643]

The whole tampon thing is wild to me, like in our school toilets there’s free tampons and there’s literally zero reason why anyone would have a problem with it??

[@TopOfAllWorlds]

Wait wtf. NL employees can't keep personal items in a customer accessable bathroom, that's weird.

[@Nosirrbro]

Why

[@verbfrombonsai8852]

@@Nosirrbro Possible customer complaints

[@Nosirrbro]

@@verbfrombonsai8852 Okay but why would they be right to complain

[@verbfrombonsai8852]

@@Nosirrbro Customers will assume employees do their hygiene stuff (i.e. brushing teeth, putting on deodorant, shaving, etc.) in the bathroom that the customers also use. Some customers don't like that, and that's why in most company policies, they are not allowed to store personal hygiene items (personal as in you don't intend customers to use) in the public bathroom.

[@verbfrombonsai8852]

@@Nosirrbro And since it is against company policy, somebody will get yelled at or even fired if word comes out

[@gorpazorp7309]

NL actually taught me some very important life lessons this episode i cant believe ive been the asshole this whole time for the reasons this man was an asshole towards his wife, i didnt realize the psychological attacks ive been putting my so through and i feel terrible

[@enslimed]

Same bro monkaS

[@bas_ee]

Someone can be toxic without knowing they are. I was too. I understood that only after she broke up with me for stuff. Ive learned from that a lot. Ive worked on myself and im sure i am not like that anymore. Im glad for you you found out you are toxic. Change will not happen over night. But when you catch yourself, right away stop being toxic and apologize (or whatever it is your problem is). Maybe even tell her you are sorry and will work on it and tell her to tell you if you are acting like that. Good luck

[@cooraa]

Makes me happy to read this. Being an "asshole" doesn't always mean it's done intentionally or in bad faith despite what the word might imply. Sometimes we forget that the other side doesn't see things the same way we do and get irritated by them seemingly ignoring a so "obvious" issue. It's good to do some introspection and recognise own mistakes and flaws. Especially in a relationship with a loved one it's best to work on these issues together instead of hoping the other one will "notice someday" and make the expected change one-sided.

[@nyarlathotep1223]

Just ask for love and reassurance whenever you feel scared

[@ivantumanov1015]

Northernlion:"You're a man, men don't have feelings, just go to a concert you dont want to go to and wont have fun at, but also don't let it show on your face that you're not enjoying yourself for your girlfriend's sake"

[@fujster]

Exactly lmao. He doesn't seem like he often deal with insecurities so he doesn't understand I think.

[@missingneck367]

'are you harboring any, Tampax?"

[@Ausecko1]

It's unfortunate, but everytime i watch one of these NL seems to not understand that the OP is repeating a point in the edit BECAUSE posters didn't read that point in the post and he's sick of restating it in replies, not because he's trying to get extra traction on that point.

[@nyansugoi]

2nd dude is in a pickle. If it's a customer-accessed area and HR *were to be* against it, it's "tough luck" for his associate. He comes off as your typical "ew periods" guy but it's clearly about just not leaving any personal articles in the bathroom

[@spyczech]

He's not willing to stick his neck out for employees which isn't a good leadership trait. From point of purely self interest i agree completely but he has to lead and keeping the women working for you's trust matters

[@whatwecalllife7034]

@@spyczech If your job was potentially at stake for something like that what would you do?

[@kloaf1131]

@@spyczech Ya. If it was my situation. I am the sole income for my entire family of 5. That would be a decision I couldn't take. Managers have lives and money needs too. Sometimes more than cause they can make little with how much extra time they have to work in some spaces.

[@legion999]

He didn't come off as an 'ew periods' guy at all

[@minmatenx]

Love u ryan-teacher. Thanks for always being there. Hope things have been well for y'all

[@SilverionX]

I'm gonna have to disagree on the tampon thing. Not because I don't think women shouldn't be allowed to have female hygiene products, but because there's nothing the guy can do under the crushing fist of corporatism. AITA?

[@mantasr]

Having tampons in the common bathroom is an intentional power move.

[@frogman1]

yo ill admit the tampon thing kind of went over my head but when he compared it to toilet paper, i instantly got it

[@MalcomQueneau]

This is my new favorite content. Never dreamed I'd be here but glad that I am.

[@Kasparovwannabe]

I really think the whole culture argument is a tad...I don't know...irrelevant? Like, yes, the culture is that men suppress their feelings and therefor shouldn't be upset by this, but culture or not it's totally toxic and doesn't change assholeness. That being said, I'm not saying this makes the wife the asshole or anything. The cultural normalcy of it explains why she might not realize how she was hurting him, and an adult would, ya know, talk to her about it and they would both grow from the experience. He's totally the asshole for letting the whole thing fester and then picking a fight.

[@dilliedAlly]

so many of these situations could be avoided by the OP starting therapy years prior to posting lol

[@novataco5412]

49:05 “constantly.” It happened once about a month ago and seems to have not been an issue-it should’ve otherwise been mentioned-since then.

[@lilywalker4606]

She’s so real about BigBang. Also when he said Tame I was like 💀💀

[@brokengirrafe]

Hearing the names BIGBANG and G-Dragon in 2021 is so weird. Reminds me of how much K-Pop has evolved in the last decade, but also of how much more I liked early 2010s K-Pop compared to what’s popular now. But I guess I’m just getting old…

[@hugoribeiro5114]

This man said he doesn't like The Killers. I need a minute.

[@seda_11]

34:27 hilarious if you imagine someone coming to the stream and hearing this with no prior context

[@Procrastinater]

People get upset because a manager at a store draws a line and figures "no personal items in the bathroom" MUST be sexist, but we're supposed to not be upset that such a non issue warrants the sexist tag? Calling someone a sexist is not a light accusation. Beyond that, this is really watering down the term. I'm more upset that the bint figured that accusing someone of being a sexist is the appropriate thing to do, as if she was commenting on his new glasses.

[@lazigoguyman4414]

Cut the tampons in half

[@TheEpicPancake]

Tampon guy, if he actually argued any sort of point whatsoever, would have a point if he went about it from the lens of not wanting them to get stolen or something. With a small convenience store it's less problematic, but I'd remain uncomfortable leaving personal toiletries in the bathroom if replacement and whatnot isn't handled by the store. If they're personal, that sort of implies a want to have them at hand when the need comes, which can't be guaranteed if they're put out in a public space. Overall though, I think he's worried it'll get noticed and he'll be chastised by either a crazy customer or an audit for some ungodly reason.

[@oceanviolets1306]

15:55 I'm actually gonna defend this one. As someone who works for a convenience store gas station(whos company name I by contract cannot say since this counts as badmouthing) branded hygiene products not associated with the company cannot be kept in employee bathrooms. We have no public bathroom, but someone had brought in a bottle of handsoap that had moisturizer instead of the bulk stuff we have. My manager told me that despite it being better, if inspection time came and it was seen, it would absolutely be a mark against our score. Our store is tiny, so a store with a public bathroom would no doubt have unannounced audits way more often. And to be clear, every little bit counts for store inspections. Maybe it's cause my store is old and fucked, but passing inspection is by the skin of our teeth every time. This guy is still the asshole for how he handled it, and the policy itself sucks, but I 100% believe that this is a legitimate thing to worry about.

[@carsonroach-howell6945]

It's not fair :( I had tickets to see Tame Impala last year but of course the pandemic caused the tour to be cancelled. At least my relationship was saved.

[@robertfusilier5180]

Idk what this says about me, but I've agreed with the egg so much during this series that it was super jarring to hear a dissenting opinion. Still, big fan NL. Keep it up.

[@robertfusilier5180]

Replying to my own comment minutes later to say I take it all back. The Killers are a great band and I've never felt so betrayed.

[@danjackson1016]

Why can't the lady just keep her things in her bag? That's what the ladies at our work do and we do have a staff only toilet. Retail auditors wouldn't shut you down but you would lose points. Lose too many points and people will come down on you.

[@danjackson1016]

@Cornelia do you only go to the toilet once per month? It's more convenient to keep my medicine in my bag but company policy is to keep it in the safe so guess where I keep it. In the safe. I take em 4 times a day, usually twice at work. If I can do that you can carry your fhp in your bag.

[@danjackson1016]

@Cornelia Alright if you want to be pedantic let's do it. Do you only use the toilet 1-2 weeks per month? Medicine can easily be taken whenever wherever? Are you crazy? You ever seen how big pills get? There's nothing easy about it. It involves alot of gagging. Sure in a few months I'll be used to it but not right now. Have you not had long enough to get used to dealing with the menstrual cycle yet? Also this is a little personal but I have to take a suppository once per day and there's nothing easy about that either. Genuine question here: many of the women I've worked with simply keep tampons in their bags near the top. Why not just do that? Don't tell me to shut up either. You are just as ignorant about me as I am about you.

[@TwiCaCaX]

im surprised how many people uses the "its within your rigt to...so you're NTA" point since the whole POINT of being an asshole IS that the actions are unreasonable where the legal rights are irrelevant here, thats why the subjective adjective "asshole" is used here.

[@tomhall6410]

First post has major Assistant to the regional manager syndrome

[@Cinnamon420]

holy shit the impractical jokers rant was dead on

[@M0DIDDLY]

Yeah gotta disagree on tampon guy. This isn't a personal bathroom. Just like if an employee wanted to store their razor or hair gel on the sink would be wrong. This is a bathroom everyone, both customer and employee alike, have to use, and shouldn't have to trip over employees personal items to get to the toilet or sink. You leave it the same way it was as when you entered.

[@spyczech]

I would agree if it wasn't a sensitive area for women's equity in the workplace, HR could easily come down on him and he will lose the trust of the women he is supposed to lead

[@cptKamina]

@@jpryan90 For real. Even as a man, imo female hyggine products should be as accesssible as TP.

[@esoessify]

All of you are missing the point, yes there should be access to feminine hygiene products, but they should be from the companies pocket, these things should be free and part of the natural layout of the bathroom. But this is just a manager, they're not responsible for this change and he's not an asshole for protecting his own income against complaints that could lose him his job/future in the company. And even if he wants to support the employee in this subject until this is brought up with HR and fixed he still has to enforce no personal products in the public restroom.

[@derangedberger]

I gotta side with the boss on the tampon issue. Just because tampons are a woman only product does not make it sexist to hold them to the same standard as any other hygiene product. She is not being given special preference as a woman, and is held to the same standard as a person of the opposite gender would, Isn't that the definition of non-sexist? Also it seems bad sense on her part to keep tampons in a public bathroom in the first place. Have you ever been in a public bathroom? It's a lawless land. Those tampons are getting stolen sooner or later.

[@BLM_Lucifer]

best case scenario stolen tbh, more likely a child or a very upset customer flushes them all and floods the bathroom