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[@EBWithLove]

Second story: I would bet money that the whole family is toxic and this isn’t the first time something like this has happened. The mother knew the brother and his gf were going to announce their pregnancy and instead of discouraging it she helped them. They got photos with everyone but those family members…. It seems like whatever is going on is a lot deeper than this one incident. Instead of uninviting them they let them come however they wanted to avoid any of their bs so they left. Which if the family is really toxic might be the best thing to do.

[@matrixiekitty2127]

My thoughts exactly, this has to be the boiling point of a lot of building issues

[@lisa.hernandezzz]

Yess 👏🏻 that was my initial take on this as well!

[@cassandra1418]

Oh good it wasn't just me thinking this, something just screamed "This is a recurring behavior".

[@leiapedro933]

Agreed. Almost seems like this was how they decided to go no-contact. At least all the guests know why. I wonder if the pregnant couple felt like their announcement was ruined because they couldn't steal the spotlight anymore. 🤔

[@FinallyIamAshark]

At ‏‪12:37‬‏ I was disagreeing with him so hard. No, don't tell anyone your brother is getting married at your own damn marriage. That will take the focus away, telling everyone yourself instead of them doesn't change a thing. 💀

[@friendzenn]

as a CS degree-holder, the idea of him translating C++ code into Rust being ‘him doing the code’ is insane. that’s not writing code, even disregarding the academic dishonesty that is claiming the tutor’s work as his own. writing code is not just typing the functions, it is thinking through and figuring out the logic of what you want to do that is the biggest hurdle. i hope that OP gets found out for academic dishonesty and has the consequences he deserves

[@AshmKemtchum]

Exactly, that's textbook definition plagiarism

[@vltMondanzo]

Reasons why 90% is figuring out what to do and 5% is writing code (and 200% debugging). From the story, the only strange part to me was the zero hesitation written down regarding changing the project to Rust. Either the OP just left the detail out of her, saying "I don't know Rust that well" or that didn't come up which would at most be odd. All in all though, converting code is not creating code.

[@SahilMakhijani]

As a fellow cs degree holder, I 100% agree

[@Subpar1O1]

I only have a surface level understanding of programming and that one made me mad. He practically did nothing of value, changed the entire programming language without properly communicating, and leaves her high and dry at the mercy of the professor? Who probably won't change his mind without the additional context to the situation? Fuck 'im.

[@codefreak8]

Yep, I've done some amateur coding just to learn a skill. Pseudo-code, understanding the logic of computer systems, and being able to translate that logic into the language you're using is a must. That's the whole point of the assignment in a classroom setting. Obviously in any academic situation, choosing to let somebody else do it for you is dishonest and prevents you from learning key behaviors. In this case, it's preventing him from thinking about what is probably a bite sized piece of what will be a larger program, if he was doing this professionally. His solution being "let me write it in a way I'm more comfortable with" should have been a red flag from the prof honestly. If this guy is apparently not doing well at the language he's *expected* to be learning, how was he going to make it work with something that's totally different? I hope for the sake of his partner that the partner got through to the prof and/or reported both to the dean.

[@a_natrr]

i'm 100% convinced he's only avoiding talking to the professor bc he knows he'd slip up and reveal that he plagiarised

[@Chrissykat24]

Well he did say that he didn't want to get into any trouble.

[@Yazy-tf1sv]

Paying a tutor means he was seeking help outside of the school which may or may not be allowed depending on the professors rules

[@dimsufferer9951]

@@Yazy-tf1svit’s not allowed, not only by the professor, but by the school. Also, the professor is shit too because the partner tried to show the professor her work but he wouldn’t even look at it because “it wasn’t turned in by the deadline!”

[@mariachi3217]

@@dimsufferer9951 not to mention, she literally had the original version of the work. How tf is she not able to appeal?

[@justinecorrington4106]

@@mariachi3217professor sometimes have big egos and don’t like admitting they were wrong. That and they can lazy and don’t want to do extra paperwork to fix the grades. I had a professor straight out tell me they knew they made a grading mistake, but they weren’t going to change it because it would only change it a few points

[@peerlesscucumberrr]

story 4: if you don’t want to be a father, THEN DONT FUCKING MARRY SINGLE MOMS??? ITS NOT LIKE YOU DIDNT KNOW SHE HAD A FULLY GROWN CHILD??? HER HAVING A CHILD IS NOT A BARGAINING CHIP FOR YOU IN THE RELATIONSHIP

[@jenellenelson4447]

My mom's ex told everyone he doesn't want kids but because my mom was 17 years younger, he saw us as trophies as far as I'm concerned. Until my 8/9 year old CHILD self, behaved as such... 6am to learn to ride a bike through the city, school didn't start til after 8am so we'd get subway and he'd leave me at my school for an hour at least twice a week. He started work at 8 those days so just left me at my school while she was sleeping (she worked til 2am at a college and had to drive another hour home)My mom had no idea, then she had to quit that job and get a different one. If she had kept that job and left HIM, she'd be in a much better career. BUT. She found my dad in less than a year after we moved out, so I fully believe things happen WHEN they do, for a reason 😊❤ He's the best dad. Regardless of my teen years when I put him through hell, he stayed, loved us and when I found out I was pregnant he wasn't pleased, I was 18 so no s$$t😅, but that didn't last longer than a week. I took a picture in the hospital of the moment he saw his grandson and I cry everytime I see it. The love in his eyes.. Men, single mothers don't have time for your bs. If you have no plans on being in a father role... DON'T. DATE. SINGLE. MOTHER'S.

[@islabee94]

That's the thing, he thinks she should be lucky he even picked her because she's a single mum and "damaged goods". Istg that disgusting mindset is common af

[@FattyButterBits]

Maybe the single mom doesn't want the man to be a father. The last thing I would want is a guy coming in and trying to parent my kids. That's the last thing my kids want as well. If I date...it's just for me. If I marry...my kids will be grown.

[@rc8330]

@@FattyButterBits The way he is talking about the kid goes well beyond just not wanting to play the father role. Plus, he already said he stepped into said role. He just seems to resent it. Forget being a father, the guy isn't even a decent human being. He puts the needs and wants of his dog above the other two humans living in the home. He doesn't care about his wife, let alone a child, and that is the problem. The dog is just an excuse he is hiding behind at this point.

[@Hind-0o0.0o0]

​@islabee94 yes disgusting mindset

[@mariapaz6379]

The coding story: The dude who wrote the post payed someone to do his code, thats what happened. Two students partner for a project, she does her part and he does not know how to do his, he then pays a "tutor" to do his part, but the "tutor" is better at rust than C++, so op decides to ask the teacher, change the language, makes the tutor redo her code in rust and then he gives the assignment by saying to his teacher "i had to do everything by the end". So yeah, op in that story is the worst kind of person, because at the end he didnt do shit. For the partner, the correct answer would be to get proof that op cheated and give her assignment in c++.

[@dimsufferer9951]

Yeah, i think that they forgot that at some point. Angela says both of them did work but differently when the reality is, she did work, his tutor did work, and his wallet did work. He didn’t do anything and I hope she goes to the Dean about this

[@mahbluebird]

C++? More like F--

[@rachelpetrilli3477]

Yeah this 100%

[@rachelpetrilli3477]

@@mahbluebirdoooooooooooooh burn 💀💀💀💀

[@Mooplebot-zk4rp]

This is how those privileged kids get to graduate from prestigious universities and claim they are the shit, and claim you just "need to work harder" to get where they are.

[@brittneemorman9443]

The whole reason the professor gave her a zero was because the guy said he did all the work. Even if he turned in the translated version she wrote the original code and he only translated it. It was still her work that he used but he said it was his. That’s what pisses me off the most

[@malkam.7543]

the professor for sure should also be more on top of this and listen to her. He should have asked her for her files and compared to see what the partner actually added.

[@MargaretBelle]

​@@malkam.7543absolutely. they're choosing to be difficult when this while situation was brought to their attention in the first place! it's maddening that they turn round and say she actually did nothing

[@annieminer-slothower0927]

Yeah. They went over this on the episode? That’s exactly why she got the 0. And she shouldn’t have.

[@CHiCguitar]

THAT HE DIDN'T EVEN TRANSLATE!!! The tutor did a lot of the work (it sounds like) and was against the terms and conditions of the coursework. He's the one who should get a 0 and fail the course!

[@dimsufferer9951]

@@CHiCguitarcorrection, the tutor did all the work. This man didn’t lift a finger, just his wallet

[@user_73727]

"But I got married in the offseason" is crazy lol getting married unlocked so many new jokes

[@johnathankorkie4984]

Whats funny is in my head as a bit of a cliche dude bro myself I jokingly thought that right before he said it. I died laughing.

[@Reidroshdy]

​@@johnathankorkie4984 well in the broncos case,the off-season started in week 4 or 5. Whenever they got 70 dropped on them.

[@johnathankorkie4984]

@Reidroshdy we won 7 games in a row at 1 point. Definitely didn't end at the 70pts. As a broncos fan myself I will admit we are pretty mif

[@highdefinition450]

yea they can finally be open about it and make jokes now lol

[@missylundeby]

My husbands family only came because because college football was off season. His dad didn’t stay for the reception though, because of the casino buffet deal going on 😂😂

[@PhoTC]

If I was at the wedding reception and was told the couple wouldn't be showing up and then heard it was because of the selfish other brother and his partner wanting to announce their pregnancy or what not, I would absolutely cheer my absent friends and have fun at the reception regardless. I wouldn't feel slighted - if I was close enough with the newlyweds, I'd understand, and if I wasn't close enough, hey, free food.

[@CharMS987]

Exactly. Even if you're not close, you've got a hell of a story to tell later on

[@P0rk_Sinigang]

Possibly open bar as well.

[@yjhult]

100% agree.

[@nabini]

exactly. we live for the drama ​@@CharMS987

[@mixedzebra18]

100% agree

[@lightningmcking_]

20 seconds in and Angela immediately turns into a demon. It's great to see your heroes at work

[@user-ej7zw2lm8y]

I can hear this in her voice lmao

[@pixyriri]

if this comment does the get into a smosh pit theater i will be upset

[@Deinobi]

This comment is crazy cause I just started binging Sword AF 2 days ago

[@st0l3nd4rts]

BAZONKA

[@nicolehealy7833]

best comment 😂😂

[@PJsutnop]

For the second story, there is a small part that I think is really important. OP says that the family knows that they don't want children. It feels like there might be some family pressure for them to get children, in which case an announcement like that could feel like a really disrespectful wau to one-up them. Like "look at us, we are getting married, AND we are actually having kids". The fact that they planned it and told some people shows they still cared about the guests

[@wombat4583]

Honestly, I don't care the reason. They didn't need a reception but they should have told people. Not have people announce it in the moment.

[@Caelinus]

I think an important bit of information that we do not have that might change everything: We do not know that the Brother and his Wife did not try to resolve this reasonably. If the whole thing was taken from them, no one was listening to them, and everyone just kept telling them it would be great, they may have literally just decided to ditch the day of. The brother does not seem like a reliable narrator.

[@fenzelian]

Yeah this is family. There could be layers to this. Grudges that go back decades. I’m surprised more people aren’t supportive of the couple, assuming this conspiracy of the other brother and the parents aren’t also deeply shitty in other ways the post doesn’t talk about. It’s such an extreme thing to do it feels like a “last straw.”

[@sisterseverus]

Honesty, it just sounds like only the grooms family didn't know about the plan. The bride's family knew, as did the couple's friends. OPs family were all in on the other brother hi-jacking the reception

[@Calacene]

​@Caelinus they were leaving for their honeymoon right after the wedding, that wouldn't have happened if they had decided to not attend the reception at the last minute

[@shannonfallon668]

Female computer programmer here: one thing that wasn't mentioned is that it's a male-dominated profession where there's often a lot of bias against women. That guy saying his partner's code was "convoluted"? I wonder if he just didn't understand it and assumed she did a bad job. The tutor saying it would be easier to write in another language? I wonder if that's the language the tutor was more familiar with. The partner was clearly trying to be accommodating by letting him rewrite everything she'd done, and her only mistake seems to be underestimating how much time it would take for her to learn what may have been an ENTIRELY NEW PROGRAMMING LANGUAGE in order to do one last part. It sounds like she could have finished the whole thing by herself in the language they originally agreed on. And he wasn't even allowed to use a tutor?! My jaw hit the floor.

[@AmoreMiu]

That story made my blood boil. Would be great if the classmate or the professor finds the post 🤞🏼

[@Thegolactika]

And also the professor believed him and not her, seems he is also biased against female programmers which is unacceptable.

[@shannonfallon668]

@@Thegolactika Entirely possible! That makes me even more angry

[@dlonska]

also seems to me that he isn't great at coding. He said her code was too convoluted, but the tutor seemed to have no problem with it, and this dude also needed help to convert it

[@lindsayf9225]

That's a thing that stuck out to me, too, like if the tutor could translate it to Rust, then clearly her code was decent, otherwise they would have just created new code. ​@dlonska

[@AliceFoxlaf]

Nothing like "hey bro congratz on getting married, but I'm going to use your party to celebrate my special announcement rather than pay for my own party"

[@allisoncastle]

ALSO GET MARRIED AT YOUR WEDDING. A lot of people missed this, but not only did the brother say they were gonna announce the pregnancy at the wedding, but also that they were going to literally get married!

[@dimsufferer9951]

@@allisoncastleit’s because shayne read it wrong when Chanse asked him to repeat it

[@allisoncastle]

@@dimsufferer9951 I know:/

[@redacted7555]

​@@allisoncastleohhh this changes the whole thing honestly. I feel like an engagement could be kind of cute (with permission) like a passing on the torch sort of thing but also getting married is crazy

[@weewahwahh]

@@allisoncastle no, they were just announcing the engagement. shayne reread it the way he did because he could tell angela and chanse were also misreading it in the same way, but “they’re announcing they’re going to get married at the wedding” was definitely meant “they’re announcing they’re going to get married, (so the announcement is going to be) at the wedding” not “they’re announcing they’re getting married at this wedding right now.” you can’t just do that, you need to get a marriage license and get whatever priest or ordained minister in agreement with the plans, they’d need to have a wedding dress hiding somewhere, it just doesn’t make sense. plus, i think OP would’ve clarified and emphasized that a lot more if they were doing a spontaneous wedding at someone else’s wedding, that’s wild. the OP definitely meant to say “they announced their engagement at my wedding” but instead of saying engagement they said “they’re getting married”

[@raen5256]

As a woman that studied a CS Major, I've always run into men that want to mess up my grade and generally make working with them impossible. One time, I had to spend an entire day at the college library/data center working on code with my project partner. He then proceeded to ask if this counted as a date because we had spent the day together, and when I simply stated that we're just working on a project, he decided to sabotage my part of the work at every chance he got. Even started calling me a trator because at some point he asked me to be his gf and I declined. Another project partner stole my work and presented it in front of class because his presentation day was a whole day before mine. I feel like being a woman in a male-dominated work/study environment can be extra harsh. Every woman I meet in these kinds of work/study environments had has eerily familiar or relatable experiences to mine.

[@avgperson6551]

I also think a lot of men that are attracted to careers like CS, for the life of them, do not know how to socialize. And when it comes to talking to women, what little skills they do have get completely thrown out the window.

[@mewithyouu]

💙💙💙

[@athenal2837]

well my CS faculty (it's kinda CS college inside Uni for you Americans;) was called a "Bride Finder" because only a few girls got through, and they were "smart enough to marry". yeah, like I've got here to start a trad family, not to get a degree🤡

[@UnpredictableV]

Female programmer with a CS degree here, when I was in school there was this arrogance of few male students(not all) having better grades than females and didn’t do anything to help them whether as a tutor or group partner. They would always intimidate or assume all females will drop out or fail their classes before changing majors. So they do that to reduce the numbers.

[@captainredclaw5864]

As a man who has never worked in that field I'm gonna say if you're a woman play the game or get out of it. Play dirty like we do and get a level up on the game. You're already a female in a male dominant field so you gotta adapt especially with nerdy men we already have issues with women and unless you dress down or at least act like one of the guys, nerdy men are looking for hot nerdy girls you're gonna get hit on regardless but if they make you uncomfortable respectfully make them uncomfortable

[@TMThesaurus]

Just to be clear, when he said that her code is convoluted, he meant that she's a much more advanced programmer than he is.

[@ultimategotea]

"Her code is so convoluted" (he doesnt understand APIs)

[@ebonyblack8109]

Literally, that was the first thing I thought😂

[@RottenSloth93]

Nobody was confused by that dummy.

[@harmoen]

​@@RottenSloth93not every smosh viewer is a programmer

[@gianni_descalzo]

​@@ultimategotea "wHy cAnT wE uSE sOaP tHoUgH?" ~ that guy, probably

[@sarahj.6326]

The last story is NUTS - they didn’t even mention that the wife has barely been away from home since the eldest child was born, and the one overnight she was away the husband told the eldest that “mom doesn’t care about you.” I hope that she was able to leave him eventually, because this dude is a garbage human being.

[@rosie2871]

she hasn't left yet according to the updates, but she's building a case in the event she does. she and the baby also ended up contracting covid from him, which is just the cherry on top

[@jennifervaughn2466]

​@rosie2871 omg how sad!

[@rosie2871]

@@jennifervaughn2466 right!

[@KarenAMathis]

"Mom doesn't care about you." What the fuuuuck?

[@matrixiekitty2127]

Oh my god wtf!!

[@impossiblewolf2371]

With the second story… did anyone else notice that the WIFE’s family was told ahead of time but the groom’s was not? He said “a few of their friends, and the wife’s dad and his wife.” Sounds REALLY like the groom’s family has a history and they decided to fuck ALL of them over, while letting the wife’s fam in on the joke.

[@sonotfetch]

Just got a degree in Computer Science so that third story really sent me war flashbacks. If I were the girl, I'd seriously consider accusing him of plagiarism. And if that Operating Systems professor was any of mine, they'd accuse the same. Translating pre-made code and claiming it as your own is plagiarism. It's the exact equivalent of translating Shakespeare to spanish and claiming it as your own. Just cause you had to adjust for grammatical and syntax rules doesn't mean its an original thought. She did all of the work. He did virtually nothing to create the system and the only work he might've had was porting things over to Rust, but even then, he had a tutor so his contribution is even less. Too many CS folks take the ethics or social classes to be nothing when this situation shows that they are everything.

[@sonotfetch]

Looking further at OPs comments, the code doesnt seem to be convoluted at all. Its just something he doesn't understand. Yes multi threaded programming can be complex but that doesn't mean its convoluted. Him thinking that way along with his love of tutors shows that he will get caught eventually and he is no where near ready to get an actual job.

[@lifewuzonceezr]

His Tutor wrote the code!!!

[@eb_is_tired]

Yes! She did the entire project on her own because he insisted he couldn’t understand what she was doing. If anyone did not contribute to the project, it’s him!

[@jk5238]

Yup I’m a CS major and relearning C++ (had a shitty teacher), and immediately I figured out that he didn’t understand the code and was too prideful to ask his partner for help. Instead he decides to get a tutor and plagiarize her work because he’s too good to ask a woman for help🙄I hope he gets into some serious trouble for this

[@redred7702]

Ethics in general are becoming deader by the minute because so many science people see it as beneath them and don’t value them for one reason or another. I’m on the bio side, so it’s slightly better since we deal with direct harm to humans, but so many people I know in either EE or mech engineer and computer science completely disregard all social sciences or just straight up don’t understand why ethics exist. It’s really concerning tbh 😅 (obviously not the majority, but wayyy more than there should be)

[@ashlynnicole5256]

angela doing the borat “my wife” under her breath for the first story is so real

[@anobservatory4227]

This made me realize that Ted and Grace have more in common than either of them would like to admit. If you know, you know.

[@radvelvetcakez]

​@@anobservatory4227 Duck is lord

[@somefreshbread]

1:30

[@danielladuck3323]

Hatchetfield reference?????

[@hernameispekka_Rebecca]

I noticed that as well! With how much the cast has been teasing Shayne in streams, you just know she wanted to do it in the video as well but stopped herself!

[@OptimusProvost]

I’m always so amazed that people can recount their story so accurately where they’re SO OBVIOUSLY in the wrong and still ask if they’re the asshole.

[@elijahd.7978]

It’s because a lot of them are fake and intentional rage bait 😩 it’s still entertaining tho

[@ellecimz6618]

​@@elijahd.7978sadly a lot are real though too haha I know people like that, they truly don't get that most people don't live in such a selfish bubble.

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

Either they don’t realize how messed up they are or want social validation while also acknowledging they’re assholes subconsciously

[@patrickrodriguez8797]

The wedding reception one: I just realized that the brother and his pregnant gf wanted to get MARRIED on the wedding reception. I thought they just wanted to announce their engagement, but they literally plan to steal the celebration a wedding and make it their own wedding. Imagine paying for a reception of your wedding only to have it made into someone else’s wedding.

[@lovelandfrogman9620]

Attending a wedding is pretty common but for an individual getting married is ideally once in a lifetime. I would rather remember running off and starting the honeymoon early than having to remember my sibling going behind my back and in turn causing drama at my wedding. Either way there’s drama, but at least you don’t have to sit through it at your own wedding

[@highdefinition450]

yea but you tell people, idk

[@lovelandfrogman9620]

@@highdefinition450 to be fair they did tell the attendees, they didnt make the announcement themself but they did let them know and didnt leave them in the dark. if the family would react that way i could see them trying to pressure them to stay and being passive aggressive to them on their special day which they seem to have wanted to avoid.

[@sparrowsayshi]

​@@highdefinition450 they did all the photos in advance with the bride's family. People knew. OP's family who tried to steal the spotlight seem to be the only ones who didn't know.

[@natashacatino5444]

@@highdefinition450I think they knew exactly what they were doing and hopefully they never have to talk to that side of the family for a long time

[@lizzyblitz07]

​@@sparrowsayshi I get OP being upset that they were left out though, since they had no idea the announcement was planned. I can imagine them misplacing their frustration about being left out as frustration the wedding couple did it at all Aka - I wonder if OP wouldve been fine if theyd been allowed to get pics early and celebrate too. It seems their whole side of the family was left out instead of just the 4 that were the actual problem

[@haleighbrie]

first story is already making me feel very midwestern bc i thought it was very normal to know your mailman 😭 if you’re working on your house outside often, you’re simply gonna see the mailman, and god knows us midwesterners can’t resist a friendly hello

[@boxturtle5643]

i get it i used to live in the suburbs and i was friendly with my mailman but now in the city? not at all

[@stellamariss3335]

@@boxturtle5643wow can’t imagine not knowing the mailman 😢

[@LOKDOWNKING]

Yup. As a MAILMAN in the midwest U r CORRECT!

[@baydiac]

​@@stellamariss3335Even I, who grew up in the suburbs, never interacted with any mail person. Maybe if someone from UPS wanted a package signed, but I've never had a conversation with a US postal service worker while they were doing their drive-by. Not that I don't doubt they're nice, I just think I didn't want to interrupt/delay them if I could help it. Didn't feel the need to talk to a stranger that bad. Not even sure it was ever the same person delivering mail each time. And that's from someone born in the 90s.

[@TM.BECK14]

Same, I grew up in the Midwest and it was very normal to know and talk to/be friendly with your mailman. Unfortunately where I live now is in a weird area between a city and woods and my mailbox is too far from my house to even see who drops off the mail. But I miss having more of a sense of local community!

[@augustinjanuary]

A thing about the coding story - Rust is fucking hard. It's a infamously complicated, especially compared to c++, the language that most colleges use to teach comp. Sci. This is like doing a spanish class and then converting the whole project to fucking pig latin because your tutor said it would be better

[@lindsayf9225]

Right?! Like deciding to code it in Rust from C++ is wild. Sure it may be better in the end (because Rust is great), but how many fucking classes have they taken using Rust vs C++? I imagine none or very few for Rust and many C++. Also the whole convoluted thing is BS, just ask her to add notes or explain where you're confused. Sounds to me like the dude is just inept and relying on this tutor to actually do his work.

[@rinylvinyl]

I don't understand the professor giving her a zero unless the guy lied a lot more than just omitting the tutor part. If I as a professor knew that the group was switching languages, but the bulk of the work was originally completed in C++ by the girl, I would just ask both code bases to be submitted if I had a question about it, not give a 0. Also, it's wild that one group assignment would be 75% of the grade.

[@lindsayf9225]

@@rinylvinyl I'm think that he used some of the same phrases talking to the professor as he did in the post and gave the professor a very clear impression that she contributed nothing. Also if it's a class whose focus is application, it could be a multi-part project that is the bulk of all course work. That wouldn't surprise me at some technical schools.

[@jk5238]

⁠@@rinylvinylMy school has a similar system for CS majors where basically if you fail the final you don’t pass the class even if it’s worth less than 30% and you get a good grade in everything else

[@bunji_beans]

100% he doesn't want to talk to the professor so he can try to hide the fact that he hired a "tutor" to do the work for him

[@ToxiqueTrone]

I had the DJ ready at my wedding with clown music incase someone decided to propose. I was like "yeah throw down!"

[@soullessdoll4129]

I love this 😂😂

[@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202]

damn, and did you end up having to use it? lmao

[@thepopculturedilettante1194]

I would be horrified and mortified if my bf proposed to me at someone else’s wedding!! I feel like maybe more men don’t understand etiquette like that. I don’t mean to be rude but it’s usually boyfriends or men who ask me or other women about appropriate attire or other matters of etiquette so I can totally see certain types of men thinking it’s a great idea to propose at a wedding (efficient!) but I feel bad for their partners because I’m sure a lot of them would feel like I do and know that’s not the right thing to do

[@FullmetalAsian]

I would not want to spend my wedding reception with people who would try upstage me on the day where its a celebration of my wife and I. Also im guessing that, like with a lot of these stories, this isnt the only time theyve tried do something like this. The fact that the family tried to do it in secret tells me they know the brother who was getting married would have had a problem with it.

[@carat_light]

i actually hadn't even thought about that, did the two getting married even know there would be an announcement at their wedding?

[@ohaiitsurrn8922]

​@@carat_lightI'm guessing they found out during or right after the wedding.

[@Amzzyyo]

I personally wouldn't mind because it's just spreading the love and joy, but people are obviously allowed to be upset about it. I definitely get the sense that their family does shit like that all of the time, and that was the last straw.

[@hernameispekka_Rebecca]

Yeah, I honestly feel like that was probably the latest of a long line of family drama. As Angela said, they might not even have wanted the big hoopla but got pressured by family to do it. So when this extra thing happened they just said screw it, we'll do this for us!

[@hernameispekka_Rebecca]

@@Amzzyyo I think it's totally a fine thing to do when everyone is already gathered IF (and that's the important part) you check with the people getting married and get a clear and genuine yes from them. Can be a very sweet thing and perfect when your important people are already gathered. But just trampling on someones occasion is just... unnecessary..

[@yeetboi3205]

The last story is literally insane, I went to check out the wife’s Reddit and somehow it got worse. The wife + the baby got covid because of him, according to her it was the sickest she had been, but luckily nobody was hospitalized. And during said time she wasn’t able to take care of the rest of the kids, so the husband had to “step up” and solo parent their kids for the FIRST TIME. Genuinely baffling. Then she caught her husband badmouthing her to his coworker, saying she was ‘divorcing him and trying to take the kids out of nowhere,’ letting those people have this weird untrue perception of her. So that coworker and his wife avoided her at some sort of party. I honestly hope she’s doing better now, and is far, far, FAR away from that man. Edited to fix some grammatical mistakes.

[@ajc1482]

And how do you know her account is more accurate than his? She could be lying to get sympathy.

[@fairlysleepy]

@@ajc1482yeah a wife with two kids, her first pregnancy was a covid ridden one, barely has time to relax, yeah she’s definitely lying about it

[@ДиМон-г9ъ]

⁠@@ajc1482and why you think she’s lying?

[@5JSX5]

This is one of those times where I would've been happy to see her post her venmo or some other way to help her financially so she can leave that man.

[@sorraw1]

​@@5JSX5 I disagree the man should step up and be a better husband/father id rather not see another single mom struggle to raise their kids the answer isn't always bail them out with money so they can leave

[@alabastergoblin]

The fourth story literally had me floored. How tf did they even get married? I can't begin to fathom how this man came to the conclusion that bringing home a pet against his partner's wishes was a form of vengeance for having to treat her son like a human being...

[@blackoutamvs6550]

Especially considering that in return he is "Not cruel to the son". So basically this dude brought home the subject of his wife's trauma in return for him treating her son like a stranger. Wish i could meet the wife and tell her to leave that man ASAP

[@pipticken]

I'll never understand why people would marry someone who already has kids if they don't want/like kids and refuse to become a parent to them. He clearly doesn't even particularly like his wife either, so god knows what was going through his head when he asked her to marry him

[@moyaxoxo5923]

@@blackoutamvs6550yeah but maybe she is cruel to his dog….

[@maeo316]

@@moyaxoxo5923there was no evidence of that… if there was any moment that the wife would hit the dog it would be when it ate $50 worth of food

[@sariahrivera1253]

@@moyaxoxo5923honestly from what it sounds like she seems to avoid the dog since she’s terrified of him.

[@kat756]

I died laughing at the people who dipped at they’re own reception 😂😂😂😂 they literally said “nope you aren’t going to ruin our wedding”

[@abigailfoster3342]

About the coding story: something I haven’t seen anybody mention so far is the fact that she will FAIL the course unless he clears things up with the professor. Not only will that tank her GPA, but also impact her financially! College tuition is insanely expensive, and scholarship/grant money usually doesn’t cover courses you have to repeat because you failed! Not only is OP a MAJOR asshole, he’s also potentially putting his classmate into the hole for thousands more dollars in tuition. What an absolute scumbag.

[@abigailfoster3342]

@@ItsMeBarnaby Alright, let’s recap this slowly with a new example: You’re in an English lit class with Shakespeare. For your final project, Shakespeare writes the entirety of Macbeth, and all you gotta do is insert the stage directions into the script. Except, English isn’t your first language. So you ask Shakespeare and your professor if you can write the script in German instead. Your professor says that’s okay, so you pay a German speaker to translate everything Shakespeare wrote to German. You go in and add the stage directions in German. Then, you turn the script in and claim it’s all your own work when really you put zero original thought or ideas into the plot, dialogue, setting, story. Shakespeare gets angry with you and you tell him “tough shit, not my problem”. But all you did was plagiarize. See how that would make you a major asshole? Keep in mind that the story is written from OP’s perspective (aka the party who has a vested interest in fudging some details to make themselves look better) and it’s still ABUNDANTLY CLEAR that he’s the asshole. It’s not “making the woman the victim”: it’s basic listening comprehension skills. If you can’t understand that, set up an appointment to get checked by a neurologist- ya got some brain worms there, bud.

[@SkylarCzaplewski]

@@ItsMeBarnabyfound OPs KZbin account

[@harmoen]

​@@ItsMeBarnaby She did her half. He translated her half to another language and then claimed all the credit for her half.

[@dimsufferer9951]

@@harmoen he admits in his comments that she did 85% of the project in C++, and she offered to do his parts when he couldn't understand what she wrote.

[@harmoen]

@@dimsufferer9951 reply to the other guy not me

[@tttttt-pk5jq]

that dog owner is like actually psychotic. "i stepped into a father role" yet he makes it clear he thinks of the kid as her son only. and using someones trauma against them for revenge because YOU decided to date someone with a kid? i dont know why this relationship even lasted to the point of getting married

[@Michelli131]

And nobody FORCED him to, either. I was a step-mother for 5 years. I knew that my then partner would come with a child, so I thought about it and to me it was obvious that my love for him also meant I love his daughter, because she is a mini-version of him and she is a child who deserves a loving adult in her life. But I knew full-well that children are not easy, and even (or especially so) 6-year-olds have a lot of needs that need to be met. Homework, hygiene, activities, socialising, dinner, whatever. I did that because I WANTED TO. Not because someone forced me. Him complaining about a "problem" he created for himself (basically saying "well she has a kid so I'm here I guess I gotta be nice to it") is insane. Then break up if you don't give a sh*t about her son. People are ridiculous.

[@ComedyGlor]

Men calling women psychotic or hysteric are usually projecting.

[@Mamabear8654]

I always wonder how so many couples who clearly don't even get along end up married. WHY?!? It's like they pick someone at random with no regard for compatibility and assume marriage is "the next step". Marriage Should never be just the next step it should be what you truly want

[@ellecimz6618]

Yeah these type of people are terrifying. My dad is like this 🫠🤮🤮🤮

[@_emilydavitt]

28:16 That coding story - I hope the girl finds the Reddit post, print that all out with the top comments, the conversations that the group had together, the fact he got a tutor for the project, and then print out her coding that she was able to do and put that on the professors desk. Like what!? Actually so selfish and just no respect of that guy … that’s so frustrating omg

[@EmmaBonn96]

Fingers crossed this girl in a coding class is on Reddit Odds might be good

[@SakuraMoonflower]

I hope she gets the evidence before the teacher, but the teacher is clearly in on it. Still, plagiarism is taken pretty seriously in college. Dude could lose his tuition over this, and get banned from the school.😅 GOOD. 😈

[@dimsufferer9951]

OP admits she tried to show her original work to the professor, who refused to even look at it (including the timestamps that would prove she did her work before he stole the fucking code and paid someone to translate it) because “it wasn’t turned in by the deadline”

[@socahha]

KFC Guy never cared about the dog. If he did, he would have prevented it from getting into the chicken because the chicken bones are dangerous to the dog. He just wanted to ruin the party his wife planned.

[@danielladaurizio9692]

He didn't care for the dog or his wife. He would've consulted his wife before getting the dog and he would've trained the dog. The guy has no empathy.

[@syedaalmasraza1015]

the thing that the guy glossed over is that the party was her SON'S birthday party not just a random gathering

[@anastasialecter4394]

I think the second story got weird responses because Shayne misread the line where the brother and his girlfriend weren’t announcing their wedding they wanted to get married at the reception. That’s very different.

[@naylas3908]

Even if they just announced the wedding, that would have been awful.

[@theray-venfam1536]

I don't think they were planning to GET MARRIED at the reception. But that they were going to announce they were going to be married. But it depends on punctuation and how it was worded. I watched it back and it can be precieved either way. Hard to say, especially with an overbearing, entitled family that it seems they are.

[@kayl4.44]

@@theray-venfam1536the OP says the brother and gf planned to get married too at their reception

[@KindredKaye]

@@theray-venfam1536 if you look at the post that’s linked, it says they wanted to get married at the reception

[@kamrynmann6596]

Yeah their opinions about the second story were weird. Like the bother and gf were trying to steal the spotlight and be sneaky about it. Like absolutely not

[@kelliesharpe1067]

My 31yr old middle son, aka the sweetest human alive, is a mail carrier. There are elderly people on his route that he makes time to have a conversation with every day he works because they have no family. AND…he has a few on his old route who he stops by to say “hi” to because they also have no kids or family. My kid does that! MY KID!

[@darkdecidueye9628]

You clearly raised him well :)

[@feralthought6282]

He single?

[@TheodoreStagnum]

i love that youre so proud of him

[@daisyallen4954]

he sounds like a gem and from this sweet comment, he obviously gets it from you :)

[@morerobotwarscontent1476]

@@feralthought6282 Does he sound like he has time for a relationship?

[@matt8cake147]

Chanse and Angela really are the perfect duo for this

[@deviantash]

I was so excited to see them both!!!

[@fran-yt4ok]

They look like Fear and Anxiety from Inside Out 😃

[@taylorowen9144]

Either one of them makes a perfect duo as well with nearly every other cast member as well!

[@pinguufuuuu]

the vibes were so off today tho

[@BandileNzimande]

Yes, and Arasha is a close 3rd, Damian 4th. My fav reddit commentators 😂

[@purplediamond5867]

58:09 “they’re both on opposite sides of the house scrolling through Reddit” Bro that was so funny it didn’t get the chuckles it deserved

[@marshmallowcreep9043]

My husband and I left our reception early. It wasn't planned but his family were being awful to me before the ceremony (which I set up basically by myself). They were yelling at my friends that were trying to help. They made the day absolutely awful for us so after cake, we left and 16 years later, still glad we made that decision.

[@lifewuzonceezr]

That's different. They could have announced Bro was going to steal the reception..but it sounds like it was His parents doing the reception. Glad you two are well.

[@CrazyAuna94]

Ayo, but they still got fed and whatnot! The mom and the dad were in on it, and I absolutely would do the same thing instead of being there and being miserable because of my family (who should be supportive and not playing favorites). It's gross :/ Fuck. Dat.

[@naylas3908]

@@lifewuzonceezr, how is it different if his family was conspiring to steal their day from them?

[@lifewuzonceezr]

@@naylas3908 from the comment..

[@ElectricFury]

As a software engineer, Shayne's English-Spanish analogy is a perfect way to describe what this d-bag did. Not to mention hiring a "tutor" to do the work for him which was against the rules, but the fact he's allowing her to get a 0 is evil, because it's not even that he thinks he's in the right, he just described exactly how he screwed her over and said "not my problem"

[@normanpsycho9627]

It's even worse, first of all there's no tutor, he paid someone to do his part, but the person he paid didn't work with c++, he changed it to rust, the worst part is he on purpose told the teacher he did everything to screw on purpose his partner. My guess is he doesn't know how to code and just screwed over someone with him doing none of the work

[@baltoen_]

As he read it I thought, "If a book is translated and published into a different language it's not like the translator is credited as the author of the book?!?" 💀

[@highdefinition450]

yea, surprisingly good comparison to explain to people who don't get it lol

[@nnilkyway]

The way it wouldn't have cost him anything to just actually credit what she did! Like he screwed her over for literally no reason and then tried to act like he's a bystander??

[@dimsufferer9951]

@@nnilkywayI mean considering she did the entire project, both her part and his, then yes it would have hurt him because he didn’t *do* anything. Also the partner tried to rat him out to the professor and show her original code that he stole but the professor wouldn’t even look

[@complimentsofanna]

Chance talking about an “anti-wedding” reminded me of a friend that had an “anti-bachelorette party”. Her engagement was broken off, but she and her friends had already planned and paid for a bachelorette trip, so they still took the trip and had a blast. I just love that she was able to celebrate a new chapter of her life with the support of her friends, regardless of how anyone may think she should’ve reacted.

[@Shoulderpads-mcgee]

Legend behavior

[@sxrxnlty8438]

For the couple leaving the wedding reception, the wedding still happened, so it wasn’t really waste anyone’s time, they still had the ceremony and got married just didn’t attend the party after

[@ratmackay]

This...exactly. People were there for the important part. They witnessed their union. They got to see the bride in the dress, etc. Then they got to enjoy food and such without all of the worst parts of a wedding (speeches, cheesy tradition things like the bouquet/garter toss and first dance). They paid for their loved ones to have a party without them...and with no pressure to stay until this thing or that thing has happened...the only people who should be butthurt about it are the people who had their own agenda in mind for the occasion.

[@Kate-n2310]

Exactly. They were SO wrong here.

[@blaskiewicz]

from the first story - sounds like she works from home. she might just look forward to talking to someone besides her partner all day.

[@kyndramb7050]

​@@KnightMcfleeI feel like she was doing light yard work. Which you wouldn't be doing in the fall or winter.

[@loulalala_user]

​@@KnightMcflee or she's always done this and he might've taken issue with it this time because the new mailman happens to be "objectively attractive", as he described. we can't know for sure

[@RiveroftheWither]

​@@kyndramb7050Nor would you wear long sleeves and jackets outside in the summer. Her behavior is normal, it's going outside in summer clothes when the weather is hot and staying inside and covering up when it's cold. He's just delusional.

[@carat_light]

i agree that could've been a possibility, imo no matter what your take on this is he probably could've done anything else other than make an excel spreadsheet to track data of his own partner

[@Etat7]

@@RiveroftheWither Yeah the only "slightly" weird thing (Her husbands behavior is very weird not dismissing him at all, he's a weirdo). Is the $250 gift to the mailman. I've been on great terms with our mailman since I was born and one time for his retirement we got him a cake. 250 dollars is a bit strange, but again the husband is 100% the weird one here.

[@Igoligirl2]

Oh no! A computer science dude who is self-serving and will throw a woman under the bus and refuse to set the record straight? Sounds right.

[@komal146]

Right? I can already hear him whine about diversity hiring after standing over a woman colleague and making uninvited suggestions. (Source- me lol)

[@blammo5226]

I'm sure he'll have a long and prosperous career at Blizzard

[@보모]

welcome to STEM where inflated dudes will dismiss work simply b/c of the source demo then claim as their own… *intellectual gentrification*

[@romanaww]

Omg I might be a guy who is in computer science but almost finished his degree in English studies and my god can guys in CS be tediousssss. I have to routinely shut down some... less than appealing behaviour from some of them bc I refuse to let those nerds get away with it and also it's annoying. No wonder there are like 10 women in my freshers group.

[@sarahhaseley8805]

@@ItsMeBarnabydid you listen to the story?

[@atthepartycheers]

Getting a dog as an an emotional support animal (ESAs do not need any training and just need a piece of paper from a therapist saying that a pet would be beneficial to the person) while your partner has visible scars on her face from being attacked by a dog as a child is…let’s all say it together: PSYCHOTIC.

[@meggsntoast]

I went to the post and someone in the comments pointed out that the dog must be pretty big given how much it ate in such a short time which makes it that much worse. Like, you know your wife is traumatized from literally being attacked by a dog that was bad enough to leave physical damage and decided to not only get a dog anyway but one that’s big enough to jump on the table/counter and scarf down a shit ton of chicken. It’s like he wanted her to feel unsafe and threatened by it.

[@spoopy132]

LITERALLY! If he just needed an "emotional support animal" he could've just as easily gotten a cat. No, he just wanted to get his way without giving af how it affected his family

[@mushroon4950]

@@meggsntoastyesss and not training a dog when you’re in that situation is absolutely insane

[@meggsntoast]

@@mushroon4950 Right?! He knew EXACTLY what he was doing by getting a larger untrained dog to keep in the same house as someone who hates and fears dogs. He was probably so smug whenever the dog would act up and she’d have to deal with it.

[@mushroon4950]

@@meggsntoast but he tolerated her son so clearly he can’t be in the wrong 🤷‍♀️

[@Daughter_Of_A_Demon]

With the fifth story I think with the way he treated her after, he must have been confusing “friends with benefits” with “fuck buddies” because that’s not how you treat a real friend

[@parrotross71]

Rewatch the reading. The actual problem is directly she knows he has feelings. She stepped back knowing that isn't what she wants. He was her friend before the sex but for some guys it is hard to remove the feelings he caught so I understand backing away and not being a core part of her life and support system. He ultimately couldn't hold in the resentment from the rejection of his feelings and spitefully cut her off as a friend. I think it's sad to kill a friendship but maybe he will emotionally grow if he looks back on this.

[@TheCuddlebun]

Something that I didn't hear anyone discuss in the video is that 1) while he knew her all those years, the friendship never progressed to something more for a reason - regardless of adding s*x to the mix. 2) since he retold her stating she knew he had feelings for her, we know he had at least once clearly demonstrated that he wanted to be more than friends but something didn't allow them to progress beyond friends with bennies. 3) If his f*ck buddy felt the same in the past as she does now in that she doesn't want to be more than friends, we can safely infer that a certain amount of time had passed since the first time he knew she didn't feel the same as him. 4) The most destructive thing that so many people who feel unrequited love mistakenly do after being rejected is to NOT move on. They FOOL themselves into thinking there may be a chance in the future for this now-objectified person to eventually love them back. Once this act of not respecting the other person's wishes and of not respecting oneself is chosen, the situation can become full of misplaced resentment and blame. The person fooling him or herself is then no longer thinking with reason, is no longer caring about healthy reciprocal love, and is focused on a fantasy ending. This OP guy may have been hasty to burn his so-called friendship, but I think his action was safest for both involved.

[@MegaMyown]

Well we also don’t know the dynamics of their friendship. And frankly what’s the point in keeping any relationship in your life you’re not benefiting from? He said he wasn’t getting anything from the friendship, we don’t know what that entails and that could mean he wasn’t getting more from the friendship than just sex. Maybe he wasn’t having his emotional needs met, maybe she used him as an emotional punching bag, maybe they didn’t do anything outside of fucking, we don’t know. I just think that either one of them had every reason to cut off an aspect of the relationship for any reason. And they were both openly communicative and had everything laid out for one another and were honest. I don’t see the problem with him not wanting to be friends with her anymore the same way I don’t see the problem with her not wanting to fuck him anymore.

[@nomernomznomz6015]

​@@TheCuddlebunthis!!!

[@tree_limbs]

Chanse sort of coming to the realization in the last story that the woman is stuck felt pretty awesome. I don't think it occurs to a lot of men that stay at home moms are often financial dependent on their husbands and it's hard to "just leave him" because she would still be pretty much solely responsible for the kids as well. Props to him for really putting himself in her shoes.

[@johnnyarellano6903]

Angela unhinged immediately

[@Sophia-sm8gj]

FRRRR 😭😭❤

[@aestherien]

always on 10

[@michaelmacdonald334]

​@@aestherienahhh, 10 is Angela on low idle. I ❤ when she dials it up and brings her EH Game! (Canadian here 😊😂)

[@ZT3G]

She always brings the best vibes!

[@bernbar]

I worked at an art museum and the biggest tell for if a pet was an actual service animal was if they would pull on the leash and ask for pets. Properly trained service animals stay by their human at all times and only ask for pets when signaled by the owner that it is okay. The one time it was a real emotional support animal, we made an exception because the guy called us in advance to check if it was okay and he held the tiny dog the whole time so there was no worry about damage to the art. People really use pets and kids as excuses for preferential treatment and respect but don't seem to own up to the huge responsibility that guardianship entails.

[@play-fool]

The grossest part is that because so many people do this they themselves will turn around and accuse anybody who uses the system of being a fraud, and now everyone who needs those accommodations has to fight those stereotypes to even get the help they need. It's so frustrating.

[@bernbar]

@@play-fool For sure! That's why I would go above and beyond for the people like the guy who called or just anyone with a trained dog inside. I wish there was a way to hold the frauds accountable without hurting the people who actually need these animals, like you said.

[@TheAwesomes2104]

Yes, however, I will forever be emotionally scared from the time my service dog got frightened by a sculpture at a museum, and barked at it. I immediately removed him from the environment and we worked on not being afraid of human-looking (but not human) things. There are the occasional things, especially with younger dogs, that you just don't think to get them ready for, loke mascots and funky sculptures, until you're in the moment. But honestly, I completely understand how, if you didn't know what a sculpture was, a very exaggerated, unproportional, big humanoid thing, menacingly standing in the corner, could be extremely terrifying. We came back to that museum to train on it many times, but my dog never stopped giving that same sculpture the side eye.

[@silentfriend369]

Yep

[@bananatlw]

Happens all the god damn time, I love dogs and the amount of entitled pos people who bring them into grocery stores or other public places not meant for animals is too damn high. I feel pity for the animal they have such irresponsible and ignorant owners.

[@cloudysky82]

Im a software engineer, Ill tell you that the teacher is also part of the problem. The fact that he won't talk to the student that submitted about the areas of code to see if he cheated, or the fact that he won't even acknowledge the female side of the story, or how the parted ways at that point. If i was an employer, I'd be embarrassed for both of them on how they decided to approach this project, for not considering each others strengths and weakeness in working together.

[@kam3509]

I’m pretty sure the guy never communicated strengths/weaknesses. Instead of letting her help him he paid someone to do his work. The girl didn’t do anything wrong

[@dimsufferer9951]

According to OP, the partner tried to show the Professor the finished, timestamped, code that OP stole and had his “tutor” translate but the dude wouldn’t even look at it

[@soulofash9751]

For the coding story, she did all the work, he then converted it and said HE did all the work when he just converted her work into another language. In a music context imagine you wrote an entire musical with a partner who ended up outsourcing all their (minimal) contributions, then they said they didn’t understand it in the key signatures you chose, so they change the key signatures and claim they wrote the entire musical themselves, that would be equivalent.

[@a-mac025]

Not only that, he then refused to let her help at the end... allowing his own "frustration" to disallow her from doing the rest of her part. It was definitely entirely his fault. Awful partner in every way

[@llynxfyre]

Or like, playing the piece on a different instrument. More work to convert but still not his creative piece.

[@itsohms]

She didn’t do the work, he did. She did 20% of code and he did the rest. And then she didn’t do the last part that she said she’d do. It’s her fault

[@redcup5234]

​@itsohms were you listening to this with your ears closed? She did most of the work, then he had to just translate it and do a little bit of other stuff.

[@kimkardashi-un2.051]

@@itsohms mama let's watch the vid again

[@birdy9549]

shayne’s thing about not being able to be mad at dogs as a dog person is so painfully real. i work at a boarding kennel and unfortunately a lot of irresponsible owners bring in completely untrained, crazy, intact (not spayed/neutered) dogs, which makes my job very hard. no matter how hard of a time a dog gives me, i can’t bring myself to be mad at them. drag me across the yard? poor baby i know you’ve never been taught. shit all over your cage overnight? poor baby is way too stressed and shouldn’t be boarded. at the end of the day it’s always the owner you have to scrutinize. op in that situation sounds like a wildly irresponsible owner and i hope that poor woman divorced him fr

[@keeganmc]

@@birdy9549 oh absolutely. poor training by owners is never the fault of the dog.

[@lindsayf9225]

Also like even if you were mad at the dog as a dog person, like you wouldn't not care that they ate chicken bones. Clearly this women is terrorized by and terrified of this dog because she has trauma and her husband didn't train or care for the dog or respect her wishes.

[@exist4046]

help are we twins im literally at work at the kennel rn while watching this video. Its so real, its literally why i choose to work with dogs rather than the service industry. I never go home feeling angry at any of our ‘clients’. A dog could be sitting next to the nastiest pile of shit and looking up at me like “do you like it?” and i would only be able to laugh.

[@adieljonsson864]

@@lindsayf9225 If she's not familiar with dogs she may not recognize the danger a chicken bone poses. But it definitely sounds like this guy has allowed this dog to run rampant (probably after promising he'd train it), and favors the dog doing what it wants over his wife and stepchildren.

[@Maevden1322]

I truly think the only thing my dog could ever do that would hurt me is attack me or my daughters, and she wouldn't because dogs don't attack unless they feel attacked. But I agree, I may get annoyed situationally, but I'm over it by the time I clean up the mess or within a few minutes. I trained my dog as a puppy and she's a sweetie. That dog deserves to be in a home that can care for it properly

[@figaeroth]

like angela said, the coding guy pisses me off because instead of working with his groupmate, he decided to use his *own* way and hire a tutor instead of speaking with his groupmate. definitely "MY way isn't wrong, YOURS is" energy. like..... 😭 sorry this guy pisses me off. in my brain i'm putting him through a shredder

[@CrazyTributeGirl]

such man in STEM energy 🙄

[@AshmKemtchum]

Even I, as a man, can feel the patronizing attitude throughout that post

[@demetriam2408]

Even with the most stubborn people to have in a group (I'm one of them) I've only ever had a third party brought in because we all agreed to it. And even then it wasn't because we needed someone to do the work for us, we just needed a decision to be made and again we were stubborn and the people that weren't didn't care lol

[@SoleilQuiles]

@@CrazyTributeGirlI have a Computer Engineering Bachelor’s. Men like this are SOOOOOOOOOOO prevalent, and the sucky thing is that its normalized. I went through a situation similar to this, where I wrote all the code and my male partner did nothing. I spoke with my professor, and he still got an A on it. It discouraged me so much I lost the love I had for coding and I still work in IT. Which is another whole ordeal with sexism. It pisses me off so much because other people, especially fem looking people and women get discouraged from the field, so we have VERY little support once we’re in.

[@Shoulderpads-mcgee]

Bro really said “your coding is so dumb I gotta pay someone to help me understand” instead of “hey I don’t really understand what you wrote, can you walk through your work?” He really paid money, kept secrets, and lied to not look dumb in front of his female classmate

[@SponsoredByAnxiety]

There’s a difference between a stay at home mom and a solo parent. My mom stayed home when me and my brother were kids and my dad still helped with dinner and did the dishes and took out the trash. A stay at home parent doesn’t excuse weaponized incompetence.

[@shelbybabcock8779]

Added context on Story 3: coding languages are very distinct. Knowing how to code in C++ does not mean you know how to code in other coding languages. So what OP was proposing would be like writing an essay in French instead of English. Now, Rust is syntactically similar to C++, just as French and English have the same root languages, but that does not mean a person skilled in one can completely switch to the other without issue. Not only that, but OP mentions the tutor doing parts of the project, which makes me wonder just how much OP actually did. Maybe he’s unwilling to defend his project partner because he thinks the professor will realize OP didn’t do as much of the work as he claims.

[@captsparrowslady]

that's what I'm thinking too... like if he were to go in with her to say "yeah she wrote it in C++ but then I converted it to Rust" the Professor would probably have some questions about WHY he needed/wanted to convert the code from C++ to Rust and HOW he went about doing it... and if OP doesn't actually know Rust well enough to explain the process because HE didn't actually do any of the conversion, but rather the "tutor" did all of the work converting the code... it could easily out him as a cheater/plagiarizer and then HE could end up as the one with a Zero and maybe even put on academic probation.

[@wombat4583]

OP admitted that their 'tutor' really did his part but obviously won't admit to that because that's an easy way to be kicked out of the program. Edit: OP also talked at length how their prof is sexist so uses that as an excuse.

[@katyj6058]

Because I’m a little linguistics mad, I just need to point out that though English and French certainly both come from the root language (indo-european) they don’t come from the same language family and aren’t closely related in origin. The similarities between the two languages are largely due to the Norman conquest of England in 1066 which predates modern English by 400 years or there about. French is a Romance language and English a Germanic one. English used to sound a lot more like German, and still sort of does if you squint at it. It does have a lot of French influence, but not in its origin- its origin being all Germanic. Before language standardization of course, there was a lot more variation. But I would be interested in how that relates to coding languages. The languages we speak all by necessity evolved organically and messily, influenced by conquest and cultural mixing on the one hand and isolation on the other. It’s much more of a tangled web than a tree, the further back you try to go especially. Since coding language is by its necessity invented, does it have that same quality or is it more direct in its origin? Do you know what families so to speak a coding language belongs to, etc.

[@MiraBoo]

@@katyj6058Perhaps a more apt comparison would be translating Italian to Spanish. The two languages are very similar, yet they are still two very distinct and separate languages. Or, better yet, translating Sicilian to Italian. Sicilian is an Italian dialect, but it is so distinct from its mother language that being fluent in Italian won’t necessarily aid you in understanding Sicilian. I’m not a coder, but I do enjoy linguistics.

[@shelbybabcock8779]

⁠@@katyj6058Coding is interesting because, unlike humans, a computer cannot estimate or infer. Humans can use context clues to decipher things we don’t fully understand. Like, if I see the word “gato” below a picture of a cat, I will assume that “gato” means “cat”. But a computer has to be told explicitly that those two things are related in order to understand them. Also, over a third of all programming languages use English. So that means it uses English words like “print” or “run”. It’s because, out of the 8,500+ programming languages recorded in the world, about 2,400 were developed in the USA, 600 in the UK, 160 in Canada, and 75 in Australia. So English is considered the “lingua franca” of computing. Though, at its core, all computer code can be boiled down to 1s and 0s. On and off. Yes or no. True or false. There’s no room for estimation. Computer code doesn’t evolve quite as organically as spoken languages as a result. Programming languages are called “formal languages”. In computer coding, the biggest change between languages is usually the syntax. Because, as demonstrated by the cat/gato analogy, a computer cannot guess or infer or estimate. Humans can often grasp the meaning of sentences even if that sentence has improper syntax. A computer cannot.

[@theibault]

It's not so much about the dog, but how well the dog is trained. A poorly trained dog could be a menace and even a threat to people. It is the responsibility of every dog owner to train their dog properly.

[@cranklefob]

especially if that dog is supposed to be a emotional support dog

[@amythibodeau3186]

They didn't even mention how big the dog was, and did they say the dog has bitten faces before? That's a terror. Makes me appreciate my big dope.

[@ashleyjohnson9651]

​@@cranklefobESAs dont need formal training. just that the person applying have an appropriate condition that an ESA would help and basically a doctors approval. we got our dogs approved for my bipolar moms ESAs and one is a (small and very sweet) pit bull puppy, and he hasnt been formally trained yet. we obviously dont take him into stores and what not because he hasnt been trained not to bark and react to others yet and thats obnoxious and embarrassing, but he is still officially an ESA, which mostly helps us with trying to find housing that is iffy about animals or his breed

[@honey.possum6351]

@@ashleyjohnson9651i have an ESA and yes, they don’t need formal training, but as a pet that is then supposed to go in public/be in spaces where pets typically aren’t allowed/approved of, they need to be trained as in normal pet training. they need to understand simple commands and at least have decent temperament around people, other animals, and other objects like food and furniture. that’s what i think that commenter meant

[@ashleyjohnson9651]

@@honey.possum6351 oh yeah they definitely SHOULD be trained if you are planning on having them in public spaces, ive just seen a lot of comments that seem to think ESAs need formal training/certification to even be an ESA (confusing them with service dogs i think), when in reality you just need the equivalent of a doctors note

[@emeraldowl3591]

Chance is so right, not every person is fit to be a pet owner. People do not train their dogs and it becomes a danger for people, children, and other animals. You also can't be mad when no one likes your dog because it's untrained. That's directly your fault.

[@carnuatus]

This!!! This is the crazy part to me, that they're such dog lovers that they skipped right over the wife saying how the husband didn't train his dog. I'm an animal person but immediately he lost me.

[@TheBecca2232]

17:13 if I already knew that my brother was gonna announce a pregnancy at my reception and it was at a different location than the ceremony, I would’ve sent him, his gf, and anyone who knew about that plan, to a bowling alley or somewhere else an hour away and claim that’s where the reception is. Last minute changes. Don’t tell anyone else. You get your dream reception and don’t have to worry about someone messing with your day.

[@lyndsycarson8302]

Not only risking their newborn child’s life for a non-mandatory work trip, then expecting her to take care of him and transferring germs to their baby and herself while she would still be the only one caring for the babies. He skipped mother’s day for a fun out of the house weekend. Not to mention a mothers immune system is way down for the first year after giving birth, especially a difficult premature birth. he is a c-u-next tuesday and awful!

[@rosie2871]

yeah she said in updates that she was physically unable to take care of the kids because of the toll that covid had on her body

[@VoidCrow35]

40:45 Angela's "It has a duel citizenship" = underrated comedic genius

[@EdibleStars369]

I disagree with the "eating a load of KFC is what a dog does", as someone who works with dogs, that is your responsibilities as an owner to never put your dog in the situation. It's dangerous for the dog, they should be trained, but also you should never be leaving them with access to get in to the food. Yes, mistakes happen and dogs can be quick and sneaky, but he sounds like he never took responsibility for training or ensuring the dogs safety

[@Heytheremeg]

I felt like they were saying it was more like it’s in the dog to take the food, but it’s up to you to stop them. He’s responsible for his dog.

[@trailblazer225]

@@Heytheremeg Yeah I heard it more as them saying, "The dog getting into food around the house because you were absent-minded is something that can happen unfortunately, but that's exactly the reason that everyone in a house needs to be on the same page about taking on the responsibility of a dog before you do it. The only thing that changes is that the problems here go way further back than when the dog got into the KFC." Plus if the wife is doing all the work of getting ready for the party on her own and all she asked you to do is specifically to watch *your own damn dog* to make sure he doesn't get into the food because he has a habit of doing that, then "That kind of thing just happens when you have a dog" definitely no longer flies as an excuse.

[@geckopecko]

well he also said he wasn't paying for the food HIS dog ate so it doesn't sound like he's used to taking responsibility in general

[@Fan4toggo]

Yeah no I do think too, that he meant exactly what he said. It's the dog thing to just eat whatever delicious meat is available! It's the owners responsibility to make the meat unavailable to the dog, or to at least train the dog to a level of discipline where it doesn't eat without waiting for the command.

[@MrsPhillipsFanNumberOne]

I wonder what the dog ate, because I can see a large dog snatching maybe one box off the counter, but HALF THE FOOD? Even if all of the chicken was spread out in a pile, the dog wouldn't have been able to eat that much and not been noticed. Considering he mentioned the dog ate bones, he should have heard it sooner.

[@amandajoslin-kk5zc]

“I can’t even text my friends back during a shoot week.” 😂 Angela being the goat as always

[@arrowhead8856]

living with an untrained dog is miserable. my family has a dog that is aggressive towards my cats and they won’t train him. it’s not fair to live with other people and not train your dog

[@devinlewis5116]

🙌fr

[@C0co_577]

THANK YOU. I feel like that point was missed. Even if the wife likes the dog, that’s still an uncomfortable environment to be around, and he still absolutely owes her the money back for that. It just kinda sounds like he’s not a good dog owner or partner…

[@dominiquekramer4060]

Totally agree I’ve had dogs basically my whole life til I moved out on my own and got two cats lol WHICH I made sure my bf was okay with! But having dogs will show you that they can be a lot sokwtikes! My dogs always knew better then to eat iff the tables. There was one time where my dog got a hold of some raw chicken my mom had sitting out in the oack didn’t think anything of it that’s a different story but ??? That dog ate half of the food she JUST bought??? Also do not get in a relationship with a woman who has a kid if you don’t actually want anything to do with the kid?

[@alexkaen1701]

I'm in school for coding too, and this story is vile. Basically, the guy faked his half of the work, took credit for hers, and then said "It's not my fault I got away with it".

[@dimsufferer9951]

She *finished* the code and he stole it and had someone else translate, and then went out of his way to say she contributed nothing

[@Rhi28]

As someone that was also attacked by a dog as a child and has deep seeded trauma from it (dog latched onto my neck, I'm lucky to be alive), if my SO brought home a dog that I had repeatedly said no to, that would have been the end of that relationship. I would have simply told my SO to pack his stuff and find a place for himself and his dog to live.

[@phaerius8265]

Amen

[@lynndragon2536]

The fact that the brother announcing things at the wedding story had parents who didn’t see an issue and the op didn’t see an issue kinda points to a pattern so I understand them dipping out

[@eclairdawnlight8470]

"emotional support dog" Trained dogs don't scarf down half a feast when you turn away for a minute... MF dog owners not training their pets are infuriating Edit: I understand you don't need training or certs legally for ES pets... I DONT CARE! If you're bringing an animal into public space it NEEDS to be trained. If you're bringing it into a home it needs to be trained for the comfort of ALL who reside there. No exceptions

[@patrickripleyiii134]

Yeah I have never had a dog that would do that, if they would, you need to get a professional trainer or rehome the dog to someone who can take care of them properly

[@cranklefob]

yeah that dog isn’t a emotional support animal because they need to be trained

[@kszoknyik]

That man is a pr!ck. He got the dog out of spite, because he had to "acknowledge her kid" "her kid, her problem" your dog made it a your problem. Sit down. The way she wrote the message to him, I knew things have happened prior and this was the straw that broke the camel's back

[@DPWFG]

I was about to write almost exact comment

[@SyňthŴavə]

Exactly what I was thinking. Trained service dogs are taught to ignore food unless its given to them in their space/bowl

[@iansorono5376]

Regarding the wedding story Chance and Shayne immediately went to the "the guests were affected negatively and were collateral damage in their attempt to get back to the groom's brother and his wife and their parents" but the more I think about it... were the guests really that affected? Like as OP says, the newlyweds did take photos. Some of the guests knew. They got pictures of friends and the bride's side of the family. It was intentional that they didn't take photos with the groom's side of the family (who are implied to either sided or would've sided with the brother that wanted to "steal the spotlight"). We don't know the situation or the relationship the newlyweds had with the rest of the guests. Angela and Chance made a joke about the joy of spreading gossip and what if that was exactly what happened tho? They got pictures with the people that they were close with. Some of the guests were likely just there out of obligation or just wanted to dress up, that's a thing. Because here's the thing, OP's doesn't mention the other guests were upset ... at least not immediately. The first thing he says is "Obviously we were embarrassed." His first instinct is to point out the how embarassed his family is (which seems to be the scenario the newlyweds wanted). When he does mention guests being upset, he goes "lots of people are upset especially my brother and his girlfriend" AGAIN focusing on HIS family, not the guests. I can't help but imagine the rest of the guests being just as Angela and Chance joked going "did you here" or "have you heard", 'cause like idk it's gossip. I can't really relate, but afaik family LOVES to gossip. This could've been a gift to the rest of the guests honestly.

[@ohhi7168]

I'm so confused how they went from "they shouldve told almost everyone" to 'love the gossipers'. It would've immediately got to the brother.

[@iansorono5376]

@@ohhi7168 yeah I agree. That said, I do agree what the couple did was fairly petty. Shayne and Chance's stance is arguably the mature way of doing it; communicating with the guests what's going on, why they aren't comfortable going to their own reception, etc. But like my first instinct is to be petty (irl I do hold it back) so to me the way the newlywed handled it MAXIMIZED embarassing the grooms family as intended. If I was their I'd be at the reception poking fun ("cant bElieve they would do that to their own brother's wedding! My gosh!!") at the whole fiasco by the open bar.

[@FinallyIamAshark]

And the food was still payed to them, right? So basically it's just whining.

[@char4177]

It was basically a free party for the guests anyway. I wouldn’t be all that mad

[@3n3my33]

​@@iansorono5376 I don't know if it was really being petty. It sounds like the newlyweds were like, "screw this, I can't take this anymore" and their friends handled the rest so they could enjoy their wedding and honeymoon

[@PinkGrotesque]

“People still have mailmen ??” Who do you think delivers your mail 😭

[@danielladaurizio9692]

Storks lol

[@yerocc]

the postal fairy obviously ✨🧚‍♂

[@coffeebubbles22]

I dont know who needs to hear this but they will NEVER leave their spouse for you. And yes if theyre willing to cheat on their spouse, theyre willing to cheat on you. Its never worth it. No matter what they tell you about the state of their marriage.

[@Scarlet_Phoenix]

Last story: My unchanging opinion is this…a couple can have a single income household where one partner has a job and the other runs the home. BUT…it’s immediately unbalanced because the outside worker can leave their job after their shift and go home. The home-runner can’t because their job is their home. THEREFORE, an even balance is they are both responsible for their respective “jobs” for the same about of time (ie 9 hour shift) and then they are equally responsible after that. For example: husband works in an office and wife runs the home (budgeting, groceries, cleaning). Then husband comes home and it’s immediately a joint thing, especially if there’s kids involved.

[@ashdean3474]

Plus giving the SATP time to go out and do their own thing. Though that has to be handled carefully, because the SATP may end up feeling as stressed if not more, all because they worry the working parent won't properly take care of the child/ren.

[@punkithecat]

THISSS, this is what I try to explain all the time when my mom keeps defending my dad and making excuses for him about not being as responsible with housework. She complains about it but then defends him, and it's been going on since the beginning of their relationship, like even when she also had a job outside of the house she still took care of me as a baby and the house at the same time, that's crazy...

[@punkithecat]

​@@ashdean3474yes because sadly a lot of the times they don't even have a social circle that's not connected to the family, so they are just isolated with all these problems and no one to talk to. I feel like they should also get paid for the work they do at the house since it's literally needed and lots of things would crumble if it wasn't done, that way the stay at home partner can also secure their income, without it being behind their partner if that makes sense. Seriously, I could talk hours about this subject bc the effects it has on ALL of the family members is often not seen or taken seriously, it creates a lot of issues.

[@MarkusZM]

@@ashdean3474 just to expand my knowledge and because I can't find the definition online.... what's SATP?

[@Scarlet_Phoenix]

@@punkithecat it’s a hard balance, especially for previous generations. I’m a millennial who got out of an abusive marriage for reasons not only but including these ones. It’s fine having a person who prefers to keep the home running and organized but it can never be only their responsibility. And childcare especially is BOTH.

[@sydneys207]

The "tutor"... wasn't a tutor. It's a notorious thing that some CS programs have people who will do your work... for a fee.

[@joyceannedeleon8894]

related to the dog story: my hs english teacher told us an anecdote from her young adult years about how her very serious boyfriend before her husband told her to give her dog away, and if she didnt, he would dump her. so, she dumped him, left with her dog, and then met her now husband who loved both of them and the dog passed away while with the love of two owners instead of one. being on the same page with pets is TREMENDOUSLY important!!

[@avgperson6551]

Do people not understand that when giving an ultimatum between “me or the dog” , the dog is/should always win.

[@rachecology]

Yes, but it sounds like OP got the dog after they moved in together, and she had been adamant that she didn't want him to bring a dog into her house.

[@joyceannedeleon8894]

@@rachecology i totally agree and i think that OP is an ass, im just saying that like kids and dinances, pets should be a thing discussed between couples before things are taken to marriage!

[@horizonkyun7203]

@@avgperson6551 i mean… not in this video’s reddit story 😭 but sure sometimes

[@BasicGeometry]

Ya know with Covid, that last husband probably wouldn’t taste the rat poison

[@lillyanyoung3099]

My mom is a mail-lady (we live in the south) and she gets HUGE tips, gifts, giftcards, etc. It is normal and people also love talking to her daily so its pretty normal. The husband is WEIRD for that

[@patrickripleyiii134]

Yeah most people have a healthy respect for mail people, they do a ton of work

[@ruanquang3367]

$250 is a really HUGE tip, but then again we don't know ops living situation, maybe they are well off. That being said, making a spreadsheet is freakin wild

[@AlexaDenisexo]

THIS! Is she a walking mail person, too? I feel like a lot of people forget that the mail people walk in small towns.

[@HeroicPie885]

Yep I had a paper route as a kid and would make hella bank around the holidays

[@vicks99vl]

​@@ruanquang3367 I thought so too. But the way he describes it makes it seem like $250 is a lot for them. (But then again maybe he's an unreliable narrator and could be witholding information).

[@ShrimpEmporium]

Got my cookies, my milk and a warm blanket- I’m ready

[@tylermullins3680]

Glad I’m not the only one. 😂

[@holdingontohope23]

Oooh love that,I have cereal and my favorite Dunkin coffee

[@somefreshbread]

There is no way you were ready for this

[@tylermullins3680]

@@somefreshbread not even a little bit lol.

[@Joibuzzr1]

How was it?

[@Aro_dynamic46]

That last guy has absolutely no room to complain, YOU 👏🏻 ARE 👏🏻 A 👏🏻 RISK 👏🏻 TO 👏🏻 YOUR 👏🏻 CHILD 👏🏻

[@sparrowsayshi]

Apparently per the wife's comments, he previously accused the wife of being abusive in front of their eldest kiddo, who told everyone at school that Daddy called Mommy a bad word and had to spend the night at a hotel. Then he cried to anyone who would listen that she was trying to keep the kids away from him. If this is real, wife may want to consider leaving.

[@Aro_dynamic46]

@@sparrowsayshi _wow_

[@alexiatr]

​@sparrowsayshi she needs an escape plan first, starting by getting a job and daycare established

[@booterfly6367]

“WAAA I wanna sammich who cares about my children” f-ing grow tf up dude you made adult decisions, endure the consequences

[@Haru_Misu]

Lmaoo the husband in the last story was like “So this is what I get for working overtime😒😠??”

[@morganbrockman4626]

Coding story was predictably infuriating. Code is INFAMOUSLY difficult to collaborate on. If you read someone else’s code and don’t understand it, that is completely normal and does not speak at all to the quality of the code? Also, since it’s a graded code, my guess is it needed to be commented significantly, meaning the code is literally laid out intricately so new people looking at the code understand it, so it’s very hard to believe it would be convoluted. Also, RUST??????? For those who don’t know, C++ is like the first coding language most people learn. RUST is a crazy language to translate to. My guess is this poor girl figured the syntax (how to code in the program) would be close enough to C++ and then realized how difficult rust would be. I really do feel for this girl. I can’t imagine doing all that work just for it to be plagiarized and to have the person who KNOWINGLY plagiarized it be like “that doesn’t sound like my problem”. I hope he’s found out and I hope she gets the grade she deserves. It’s difficult not to make her work being insulted, plagiarized, and then her not being believed into a gender thing as well. Just a big yikes all around. This guy can go to hell.

[@mihirx27]

Yeah, I can only imagine the horrors of someone who just learned C/C++/Python having to contend with Rust.

[@allyperfectcosima5472]

To make it worse he mentions that she couldn't do it in rust because she had a ballet competition the weekend it was due. So even though this was such a long and huge project that it was 70% of the grade he waited until last minute to ask her to do the final part and turned down her offer to do it in the language she's actually familiar with 😭

[@herpesshingles]

i love how shayne knows when to pause after reading for the guests reactions AND when he needs to immediately start speaking/clarifying etc. its almost like hes a professional or something idk

[@shineyluna1268]

Back when every mom was a stay-at-home mom, it was super common for the other moms in the neighborhood to help each other out. The mom group would visit each orher and gossip/hang out, helping that mother with anything she'd fallen behind on at the same time. now days a stay at home mom is expected to do everything by herself.

[@naturesfinest2408]

I dont know if this is true but I believe it *and* this is one of my issues with the modern structure of society. People are expected to be able to do everything (or, at least, expectations are unreasonably high for other people. You cant be most everything someone needs. Its simply too much.) There is a lack of true community and support. Family may be there for you but they are usually further away and not always there for you, arent good family, or in and of them selves not that many, only a few relatives near by, may be inconvenient Instead of being surrounded by your aunts, second uncles, third brothers wife and all the relatives that come with marriages. You only have yourself and maybe a few others. And now days both parents need to work, unless one of them is trained and very good at home stuff; sewing, cooking, preserving and growing food etc. But even then you may be risking your childs future because of the lack of money. This problem is further exasterbated by the mobility of the modern person. We move when we go to college, for work, for a different life, job, etc. Leaving suppprt systems that were once ingrained in society. Now the state is expected (and usually argued) to pick up where the community no longer does. Which is not the same thing.

[@avgperson6551]

As the saying goes, “it takes a village to raise a child.” But today, people have to be their own village and that’s a lot of responsibility for one person to bear.

[@hyperhyrax]

Angela pretending to try to kiss Chanse because what he said was so good she couldn't resist was hilarious to me 25:58

[@ninjazohan1]

Chanse's explanation of a wedding is exactly why I don't want a big wedding. Just a one night party sometime afterwards Edit: also Angela having her glasses for the one video she doesn't need them is hilarious to me

[@Jmg5594]

That is so funny about her glasses lol

[@lahhhhhren]

That coding story is insane, shocked that no one brought up that she'd have to pay to take the class again if she failed.

[@blazypika2]

the payment is not even thw worst part of having to redo a class, it's having to spend 3-4 months again on it.

[@Anonymous-p2z6u]

Did everybody miss the fact that the brother and his gf wanted to get married in the reception? When they planned that, that reception is not a wedding reception anymore. It’s a whole ‘nother wedding.

[@ashleymccall4468]

Yeah I think so cause when Shayne reiterated it he misspoke and said the brother and girlfriend were announcing that they’re getting married not actually using the reception as a wedding

[@mumplaysthesims8396]

Yes!!! That's what I heard, that they were going to announce their pregnancy and have a wedding!

[@apsomya]

That's what I understood from it too.

[@livi1477]

that's what i thought at first but i think they were "announcing that they wanted to get married at the reception" as in they were announcing that they wanted to get married and they were making that announcement at the reception.

[@dathoneybadger2954]

Went to the post; found the quote "Apparently the whole reason for this is that my other brother's girlfriend is pregnant and they were going to announce it and that (!) they want to get married at the reception (!)."

[@imcarakins]

36:14 as a chihuahua owner, YES! They're devils to most, but they are SO dedicated. She would RUN INTO BATTLE for our family 😭 we've had her for 9 years, and if one day they said, "Sorry, times up! Get rid of it!" It would hurt so badly. But, that being said, op was DEFINITELY the problem in this story. It's not fair that the dog gets the boot because the owner is the worst.

[@malcolmsilva]

The coding one is really just funny to me. The "tutor" thing specifically. There are aspects of coding that can be tutored, like if you don't understand how a function handles what you're giving it, someone can help clarify, but usually if it matters, you're writing code at a level that you're expected to have the ability to figure that out yourself by reading documentation (RTFM). This is kind of equivalent to a math tutor at this instance, where someone might get a tutor to help them through exercises on the subject to solidify their understanding of that specific mathematical principle. If the "tutor" is telling you to re-start the project in another language, in a different way, that's not a "tutor", that's the equivalent of a mathematician hiring someone to work on a proof for them to then claim the credit. Tutoring is absolutely allowed, no professor would punish someone for struggling with a concept and getting help understanding that concept, what he got was a freelancer to re-architect the project for him. 100% plagiarism, this dudes a little bitch, and his salary in the future isn't going to cover paying better engineers to do his work unless he's using daddy's money.

[@lindsayf9225]

That's assuming he makes it through an interview.

[@twosheepinatrenchcoat5116]

From experience, tutors can be super helpful to guide your thinking around concepts and whatnot, but in this case I feel like he just hired someone to do the work for him without checking that the person knew C++ first

[@wombat4583]

@@twosheepinatrenchcoat5116 He admitted that the tutor did his part. But that's something he clearly isn't going to admit to their prof.

[@carlacamp3846]

Chanse calling the word “mutt” a slur is sending me

[@EulogyPlagerism]

THANK YOU, I searched the comments for someone else mentioning this, I can't, I was actually cackling and losing it!

[@carlacamp3846]

@@EulogyPlagerism right I was like no one is giving this the proper credit 🤣😭

[@superstraintoku7513]

Angela leaning in for a kiss and Chanse going "NOOO!" is the same energy Angela gives with Straight Chanse

[@gothbimbo9470]

23:37 this dude just doesnt take responsibility for his own actions. “the professor took that to mean i did all the work” YEAH BECAUSE THATS WHAT YOU TOLD HIM. oh my god. Men taking credit for a womans work. tale as old as time.

[@harpermackenzie95]

I respect the married couple immensely. Don't think they could be more wrong. You don't pay for a whole wedding day for someone else to capitalise on it. They still paid for EVERYONES meals, the band, etc so they can have a good night. It is one night of these people's times in decades worth of other days and hours and they got a free, good night. The couple are 1000% NTA. I love this for them and hope they enjoyed their honeymoon.

[@joevictor53]

You said you don't think they could be more wrong? The married couple. So you're saying they are as wrong as they could possibly be? I disagree. Even if meals and stuff were paid for, some people might not have wanted to travel all that way, pay for babysitting, pay for travel, take time off work, just to have their time wasted. If I had the choice between doing something I wanted to and being forced to wear formal clothes and be at a reception for a non-event, I'd definitely rather do something I want to do. Respect other people's time and effort

[@wanderandwonder121]

The commenter was saying they think the Smosh cast were way off with their takes on the situation. I agree. Also, having just been to a wedding in another country, it was a lot of fun. If my friend and her husband left early, leaving us all to eat delicious food they paid for and have some fun activities/ dancing, under the same circumstances as this Reddit couple? I would’ve been so grateful they invited us, I got to travel (which is very difficult for me, but was still fun), and that my friends got to avoid some awful conflict with inconsiderate family and instead start their marriage off with joy. People who actually care about the people getting married wouldn’t mind they made this decision. Plus, they said in the story it was a local wedding, so if someone really didn’t want to stay they could’ve easily gone home. But free, top quality meal and fun night in nice clothes? I’m guessing most stayed. Also, from the story, it sounded like the only people the couple hadn’t told were the groom’s family - for obvious reasons.

[@caitwon]

@@joevictor53 they meant smosh couldn't be more wrong. also if you'd rather do something you want to do than attend a wedding, rvsp no. you are not obligated to go to something you don't want to go to.

[@lustrousient5584]

⁠​⁠​⁠@@wanderandwonder121Definitely agree. I don’t understand the “wasted time” thing. You got good food and didn’t need to travel. You saw the couple at the most important part of their day. In total, there was no real loss here.

[@FinallyIamAshark]

​@@joevictor53I think that was a typo because after that they said they are not in the wrong lol

[@mazzybananas]

Literally been refreshing my feed all morning for this

[@porkroger]

well it comes out at 1pm EST, so now you know

[@matt8cake147]

@@porkroger 3:00am here

[@roycastio]

Same

[@wantonlaughterb5559]

Same 😂

[@cozymoggele]

​@@porkroger Yea but I couldnt remember if it was 7 or 8 pm in my timezone ʕ •́؈•̀)

[@elizabethmcdonald9164]

Guys I’m being so honest. These episodes get me through work. Please do not ever stop making them PLEASE. Idk what I would do if they ended.

[@Coffee_Bean08]

I listen while I crochet 🤣 and I love it

[@TimothyHartwig]

24:00 the professor is the biggest AH in this story. Design and concept are biggest parts of a project. OP is just the code monkey

[@LeachZeech]

angela leaning in and chanse's immediately "ew" i love themmmm

[@elenasimone2773]

37:50 is absolutely insane because when you marry someone who has children from previous relationships, you knowingly step into another parent role whether you like it or not. That is what happens, you become another parent. My step-dad pays for a lot of my stuff and if asked by my mom, would 100% get me fucking KFC for my birthday, because he knows he's another parental/father figure in my life.

[@Shoulderpads-mcgee]

Like bro, you agreed to marry her knowing she has a kid! You did that my guy. The kid is part of the deal

[@j3llyp0p]

Second OP skipping over the fact they wanted to take over the WEDDING is insane, only acknowledging the pregnancy. I’d bounce too if someone wanted to take over my planned event

[@undeadtentacion2023]

As a mailman from canada, It's not rare to have tips, especially during the holidays. However, it's not 250$, it's more like 50$ max😅

[@tdelioncourt1268]

maybe while talking she discovered he had a debt, or is a student, or a solo dad or whatever that would justify the big tip?

[@Xavis0]

On that second story, I love how the brother and wife left their phones with their friend while they went on their honeymoon. Their family couldn't even contact them to complain.

[@24shineon]

Those have to be some high tier friends too for them to be trusted with the phones 😂

[@hernameispekka_Rebecca]

@@24shineon Having such close friends and fully feeling ok with ditching the reception really makes Angelas angle feel likely. The reception wasn't even much for the couple, but for the family. And/or the family is always drama and they decided to prioritize themself for a day that should be about them

[@Djinnerator]

​​​​@@hernameispekka_Rebecca Even though, yes, the day should be about them, it's not really about _them._ I agree with Chanse that leaving before the reception and not telling anyone but one or two people who wouldn't tell anyone is asshole behavior because you asked all of these people to make time and pay for travel arrangements _for you_ just for you to abandon them. People keep having this mentality that weddings are only about the couple and anyone else is irrelevant. If you want to have that type of wedding, don't ask all of these people to come. The very least they could do it tell people about their plans. It's extremely disrespectful to all of these people's time and money. Not only do people have to pay for travel arrangements, they have to take off from work and may not have paid time off, so that's more money out of their pockets, parents with small children need to find babysitters, etc. I would honestly say they're much more of assholes than the brother and his gf that were trying to announce their pregnancy and marriage.

[@SUPERduperCami]

I agree, it seems like they told some people, also, they probably didnt want the weeks leading up to their wedding to be full of drama. I feel like they handled it the best way they could. Seems to me like they just wanted to enjoy their moment, especially with the whole having their friend keep their phones thing.

[@hernameispekka_Rebecca]

@@Djinnerator I agree with that. But also, sometimes family push and take over. I can see both points. We don't know what kind of wedding it was either. My aunt had a small-ish wedding. They were at the party at their apartment for an hour or two and then ran off to their honeymoon. I honestly don't know if it was announced before or not (I was a kid!), but people seemed to be vibing. I agree that you have to respect peoples time, but I also understand things reaching a breaking point where you've compromised so much for others without getting the same back that you just... eject out of the situation.

[@Dearestreaderdarling]

I currently have a *service dog* in training. The tough thing with the dog story is that emotional support animals are NOT the same as service animals. They are not protected by the ADA, and they don’t have to have any sort of training. They don’t perform specific tasks. People abuse the misconception that ESAs are the same as Service Animals. If the dog is constantly wreaking havoc and completely untrained I can completely understand why the wife would snap. Especially with the fear of dogs after a known attack.

[@mariapaz6379]

for the second story i think its important to point out context. If your whole family is ready to let your brother upstage you at your wedding, it makes you wonder how are the family dynamics working. I would bet that this is a last straw situations and not a normal crazy idea followed by a crazy reaction.

[@nicolebesser3548]

I was thinking the same. OP said parents knew brother was going to do this. Apparently the bride's parents did as well because they were included in wedding photos.

[@jbaby362]

Yeah, like if two people are trying to mess up your wedding, you can kick those people out. But if a majority of the wedding guests are already poised and ready to steal from you, you're only option is to leave and take the time to consider what your future looks like

[@starliz1006]

As someone who has to code for their job, the coding story is insane - first off, her writing the base means providing most of the logic, plus C++ is a super commonly used language while Rust I've literally never even heard of before. Not to mention that at my school you can get in trouble in CS classes for getting too much help from the TAs - hiring a tutor is crazy