AITA Telling Wife's Cousin That He Isn't a REAL VETERAN!

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey all hope you're having a great day! Today I apprehended a store thief, very proud of myself 🤣❤

[@sealedspiritgaming7183]

How did that happen?

[@MarkNarrations]

Was walking out the food shop with my Dads food. Thief ran past me with 3 jackets, chased him outside the shopping centre and managed to grab and sit on him before he got into the car his girlfriend was waiting in. She kicked me a few times but the store staff caught up by then. Exciting day 😁😁

[@OhDangItsBazn]

Mark Narrations Damn Mark, good stuff! People like you keep faith in humanity alive! I’ve always wondered if you’re as swole in real life as your avatar, haha. I guess this answers that. My boy out here snatching up crooks like Batman 😎

[@digit5465]

Are you and everyone ok now?

[@MarkNarrations]

Yeah only happened about an hour ago. Adrenaline pumping, had an email from the store already too offering me a huge discount which is a bonus 🤣

[@torielric]

Mark: Who would use their special day to spite someone? Me: Oh, you sweet, innocent, man.

[@Cel3ere5]

🤣🤣🤣 ❤️

[@lenax9798]

Mark needs to check out the bridezilla reddit. Enough stories about petty bitchy brides making the day about themselves and deliberately making the day shit for others

[@feiruznoxravenus2093]

🤣🤣🤣❤ mark indeed a sweet innocent man for thinking thatv

[@pennyclark4844]

I was forced to be a bridesmaid at my sisters wedding. She deliberately picked a colour and a design of dress that made me look like a toddler and the colour made me look sick. So some brides can be vindictive towards family just because they can. Also no I have gone nc with her.

[@jazz-cat00]

Moral of the story: never underestimate the pettiness of a bridezilla

[@Cel3ere5]

This. Yeah people underestimate how vindictive other people can be. I've no doubt that this was actually planned but little information to say for sure.

[@itrasheditgood]

Then why did you participate, no one can make you a brides maid.

[@Evibbles]

Honestly some brides choose the worst possible dresses for bridesmaids so they can be sure they look the best, thankfully my friend is not one of them and is even going to allow me to wear flats because she knows I can't walk without falling over 😅

[@Evibbles]

@@itrasheditgood Because it would be a big deal if you said no to your sister's wedding

[@commander8625]

Story 1: that lady be like "Why didnt you tell everyone? I think you just want attention!" That makes no sense at all.

[@joimumu]

She was a narcissist who got jealous of someone for getting cancer

[@jujubees5855]

"Veteran" My dad was on a ship in the Pacific (WW2) that got torpedoed. My brother played kick the can on a flare can that was detonated (accidentally run over) near ammo near the mess hall in Vietnam while everyone else was running away from it. It exploded and he took the brunt instead of the people in the mess hall and the ammo exploding too. My partner patrolled the DMZ in South Korea. Yeah, y'all aren't the same at all, dude.

[@Torichan888]

I lived downwind of an oversupplied cesspool during a 140 F/ 60 C summer and still get nervous when I hear my local tornado alarms. And I don't talk about it like this guy. Wonder what his enablers would do if he was around an actual veteran that really called him on his bullshit? Maybe to the tune of having him investigated for trying to get veterans' benefits.

[@jujubees5855]

My husband didn't lose his hair during colon cancer treatment either.

[@mlapointej]

Neither did my mother-in-law hers just turned white temporarily

[@jameson1239]

And neither did chadwick Boseman

[@danielmonteiro4182]

Neither mine. I don't have a husband, nor am I attracted to men, nor am I of legal age to marry, but still.

[@somefool4625]

My mom had chesticle cancer twice and didn't lose her hair.

[@FlyingHeadbutt100]

My father and late MiL both had chemo and neither lost hair during treatment. Medical science around such things is way beyond what we did have years back.

[@goromajima7677]

Story 2: ‘hurt her feelings’ *hurt her feelings?!* Jesus Christ no, she deserves to be humiliated, you aren’t TA op! The entitlement of this woman- she got a taste of her own medicine, hope op is doing better *story 1

[@rielly02]

Story one

[@fireblast8972]

Story 3: NTA. There's no way the bride could've chosen this setup out of anything less than spite for the wife. Telling OP that he has to walk down the isle with a random woman in what's essentially another wedding dress just feels like an attempt to stir drama.

[@closeenough7043]

1st story, absolutely NTA My mother has been fighting cancer for almost 12 years now. She’s a powerful woc with a full head of hair, but her skeleton now is honey combed from the effects of treatments. Everyone handles cancer and treatments differently. I really hope OP has a healthy recovery where she never has to see a treatment again.

[@f.t.cnation9999]

I hope your mother goes into remission soon. And wish her all the best. Much love to you and your mum.

[@MsTemptation]

Story 2: NTA. My brother served in the military for about 30 years. He's a retired Master-Sargent. He is an actual veteran. He has done several tours during the time he served and he didn't come home because he hurt his ankle. He works with real veterans. The cousin is not a veteran. He's just some guy who served for 1 year and got out after purposely injuring himself to keep from serving his term. The way we treat true veterans in this country does suck arse.

[@mwillblade]

Six-month active qualifies you as a vet.

[@YukiTenno]

@@mwillblade he still isn't a vet, he didn't serve he injured himself at home right after boot camp he did 10 to 16 weeks max depending on what his mos was.

[@mwillblade]

@@YukiTenno Still, you go 6 months straight active in the eyes of the government you are a vet. If no straight 6, not a vet.

[@YukiTenno]

@@mwillblade you enter basic training haven't even gotten your first assignment and you think he should be called a vet? should this dude get benefits for doing basic only, hasn't done anything but be a trainee and then injuring himself at home? when there are real solders who served and have gotten hurt who do deserve benefits? he wasn't even active he was a trainee in those weeks they push you till you either quit and go home or toughen up to be a solder.

[@mwillblade]

@@YukiTenno Doesn't matter. Six months straight active equals being a vet. You don't have to like it but that's the rule.

[@alexsantoire4701]

Oh my gosh, I never knew there was a term for folks pretending to be veterans. I've been in a similar situation with someone pretending to be a vet. Except the guy quit because it was too hard to get through basic training, but still prides himself as if he served for multiple years. Good to know there is a term for it and that veterans frown at that too. I always felt guilty for frowning at his blatant lie for points.

[@ijornhribrudkrvir]

yikes. My best friend is a veteran and uve heard plenty from him about the horrors he's faced. I can't imagine trying to convince people of that just for attention/respect... That would really piss me off

[@Skyfire_The_Goth]

That is also highly illegal to lie about vet status if they are using those lies to get a benefit, like money, free medical care, free food, to better their chance at getting hired, if there is a tangible benefit to them lying about being a vet they could spend something like 15 years in prison for it.

[@alexsantoire4701]

@@Skyfire_The_Goth From my knowledge, they only used the status to get laid. Probably not illegal, but highly immoral.

[@Skyfire_The_Goth]

@@alexsantoire4701 Hmmm, yea, not sure if that would count as a tangible benefit, not something I'd bother reporting.

[@dinahr.tutein2255]

it's called stolen valor and NOT taken lightly.

[@bonniebaldridge1248]

Story 1: NTA. You werer justified to embarrass her. Story 2: NTA. I went through this same thing w/ my then-husband. He barely made it through basic training then was discharged for a 'shoulder injury'. He would yammer about 'when I was in the Army' like he was a grizzled veteran of the foxholes. I put a stop to that by asking him what he'd say if a Viet Nam vet asked him what unit he was in. Story 3: YTA. Either bite the bullet or drop out of the wedding. Story 4: YTA. Who knows what problems that kid has? Get earplugs.

[@Olivia-hx5co]

ALL of this. Spot on

[@Rainsoakedcoat]

"Who knows what problems that kid has? Get earplugs so you can exist in your own home."

[@sherisheepsworth8432]

That "vet" put his life on the line while having fun on a trampoline, what a hero r/s

[@86londongirl]

I hope he managed to bounce back after such a horrific incident!!

[@helema23]

just remember those trampolines are out to get us all

[@helema23]

@@86londongirl it most likely put a spring in his step

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

Lol right!?! I have a feeling he found a way to milk a discharge he could blame an injury on.

[@carmenbarrera80]

Cancer is a crappy thing to deal with. I lost my mom do to cancer she didn't lost her hair, how stupid you have to be to harass a person going through that hell. UGH

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

S4: NTA, its tough times and as someone who works in the school, it CAN be jarring to heard random screaming. Get some headphones for it and move on. People on reddit don't realize that those screams are NOT the average screams of children at play. They often sound distressed or just like a random utterance. It will make the average person uncomfortable if that is their first experience with hearing such a thing. Its not something you get over. Hell, in my school, I will still jump when one of our students with unique needs shouts. Its a valid issue, just the wrong course of action to solve it.

[@locusxe1411]

Did you not listen to the one comment that they had a disabled kid that screamed too? I have an aunt who’s disabled and screams like that and I can tell you it’s not that bad. He would be an asshole if he sent it because kids like that can’t help themselves

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

@@locusxe1411 you can't say that all people who have these vocal outburst are the same. I had a student who screamed at least every 10-15 minutes on a bad day and at least every 30-45 on a good one. One a particularly bad day, he was yelling for 30 minutes straight. It can and does get bad for some people, kids in particular. Like I said, I don't think he's an AH for having a problem with it, but he is taking the wrong approach. I think you looked at my NTA verdict and got defensive because I said nothing about the people having control over it, but rather I don't think he's an AH for being disturbed and should look at alternative solutions like headphones.

[@locusxe1411]

TheZombifiedFairy exactly. He asked if he would be the asshole if he were to talk to the school about. You say he’s taking the wrong approach which means he would be the asshole. It’s aita. Not am i justified in doing this

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

@@locusxe1411 and you can disagree with me, but thats my view on the story.

[@shinxgirl2947]

Reddit is basically rich entitled people judging the less fortunate especially the one that says JuSt Go VoLiNtEeR like thats not how that works even human societies have background checks and applications

[@mrandrews3616]

About the veteran one, I think it's a case that he's ashamed that he never got to serve properly. I saw something similar with my grandfather who, while he did do national service and many years in the Territorial Army, never saw combat and often regretted that.

[@BloodredRose84]

School: To be honest the first thing that went thru my mind was what if the child is being ignored and that's why he's screaming? I volunteered in a special needs classroom when I was in Jr High in the late 90's and it was quite interesting to help the kids. My favorite child out of all of them was Katrina she didn't talk and was stuck in a wheel chair but she loved chasing me around in her chair it made her so happy and it was good exercise for her arms. The ladies even told me she would sit by the window and wait for me until I showed up. The point I'm trying to make is whenever the kids had a problem they were taken care of right away to calm them down and the fact that she said this kid would scream for hours makes we wonder if he or she is not being cared for. If I was you I would stop by and just make sure everything is alright Say your the neighbor and you were just checking in. I agree about volunteering maybe the kid just needs someone to play with like Katrina needed me.

[@Cel3ere5]

You're a sweetheart OP. But the 90's were wild. Too much fear and red tape. Unless it's under an internship, they tend not to let people simply volunteer. Hope you're doing good and I hope Katrina is too. *One simply does not to volunteer meme*.

[@BloodredRose84]

@@Cel3ere5 Thank you! The special needs classroom was in the same building as my school and when I had an open class they asked me if I would like to help out the teachers in the special needs classroom and I agreed. I wish I knew what became of Katrina after I graduated. I don't know if her parents kept her there or transferred her to another school. I'm in my 30's now so it was a long time ago and sadly I don't think Katrina lived to be 20.

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

That guy is a former servicemember but he is not a veteran. My dad is in the same boat. Whenever I told him happy veteran's day, he was always very clear that though he served, he never went to war and wasn't a veteran. I'm glad the dude is trying to stick up for real veterans, trying to portray himself to be part of that group is a form of stolen valor. NTA. Also the wedding thing is bs. Get over it. I was a bridesmaid (not maid of honor which is totally fine) in my sister's wedding and I walked with another bridesmaid's boyfriend, and the gf walked with another bridesmaid's bf. There was a reason my sister wanted it that way. The bridesmaids absolutely have jobs during the entire wedding. They don't just stand there. Get over yourself. The bride didn't orchestrate her entire wedding to spite your wife. You're not that important. YTA.

[@tonyblake7569]

I get why your dad would feel that way but if you look up what is a veteran and check put VA.org it lists the actual definition is "Title 38 of the Code of Federal Regulations defines a veteran as “a person who served in the active military, naval, or air service and who was discharged or released under conditions other than dishonorable.” This definition explains that any individual that completed a service for any branch of armed forces classifies as a veteran as long as they were not dishonorably discharged." So according to the VA then yes both your dad and this guy are veterans. Don't get me wrong this guy is kind of a douche, making it seem like he had it way worse then he actually did, but yes he is still a veteran. Also not that it matters but I'm also a veteran. 4 years usmc, infantry. Went to Afghanistan, again not that it matters.

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

@@tonyblake7569 thank you for your service!! And thank you for teaching us the official VA definition of a veteran. Forgive me for my ignorance, if someone gets a medical discharge before their term of service is up, does that mean they completed or didn't complete a service?

[@tonyblake7569]

@@UzumakiDonnoHinata not exactly sure, personally I think it does. Not the same but hypothetically if someone went to combat and lost a leg they would probably be given a medical discharge. In that case I 100% believe they completed their service. Yes this is a very different situation so I can only go off the definition I saw, and since it wasn't dishonorable then yes. Although, and I could be wrong, there's another possibility. I knew a guy that was kicked out because "the voices in his head told him to kill people", don't believe that but he was 17 and his parents signed him up it wasn't his choice so I don't blame him for finding a way out. Anyways since he was in a very little time I believe he was basically separated, like they just let him out of his contract so he didn't have to serve it but he couldn't actually say he was in. It's entirely possible here they voided his contract so he officially wasn't in, not positive since I got out in 2005 so been a long time but from what I remember that was an option if you were in less then a year. Also thank you for your dad's service. I know you say he doesn't view himself as a veteran and I wouldn't argue with him about his beliefs because I know some people feel that way, I know some people believe unless they saw combat it didn't count but it's still something that they served.

[@LinneAzalea]

At my best friend’s wedding we were 3 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen (no maid of honor and no bestman, only a toast master), and several of us had partners that attended the wedding but only as guests. This was 6 years ago, and I can’t even remember which one of the groomsmen I walked up the aisle with. And not a single one of us nor our SOs even cared about us walking up the aisle with someone else. It was literally 30 seconds, and only for the aesthetics of it. I can’t believe what an absolute non-issue this is

[@suzieseabee]

I joined during war time and was told by higher ups I was a veteran straight out of boot camp because of that.

[@thebladeofchaos]

That wedding story........I'm gonna be the odd one out and I know people are gonna hate me for it but I'm a very close NAH/ESH as opposed to NTA or YTA The bride and sister don't get along, so it makes sense not to include her in the wedding, but then to have OP walking in with another woman because one of the bestmen gets to walk in with his wife sets a bit of an odd tone. OP and Sister have some assholery here because it's not their day. if he doesn't like it he should just get out while he can but consider the friendship never the same again. but then I don't see why Bride can't, for one day, give her a chance to not cause issue and give her jobs to do so that she can walk with her partner instead of this. on the other hand, I don't see why OP and Sister aren't giving them the understanding that it's the happy couple's day, not theirs. they don't get to dictate what happens and if they have issue, TOO BAD. To me it's less about the wedding itself and the dynamic between them. and it does feel like Bride is trying to spite Sister by pairing OP up with someone else and moving around one of the best men to be with his partner.

[@jazz-cat00]

Op had only said that they didn't get along because there was a "falling out" between the families, and I got to wonder just how much the info of THAT story would sway everyone's minds about who's actually the asshole...

[@thebladeofchaos]

Exactly. I can't help but wonder if keeping that under wraps for a reason.

[@EMELLYSELMER]

OMG I agreed 100% with you. I’m my country is normal to have a lot of bridesmaids in a Weeding and usually the weeding party is composed of family members, so I would be pretty upset if I was left out of my brother’s weeding party. I know the bride doesn’t HAVE to include OP’s wife in the weeding, but if I was in the same situation as OP, I would drop it too.

[@dequasont1063]

I don’t understand how he can be the ah, its his choice and he said no, you cant change that you cant force him to dance with another woman while hes married

[@thebladeofchaos]

@@dequasont1063 because it's less the dance and more the walk up the aisle, when everyone BUT him is with their partner from how it sounds. I can't tell you who to dance with, but when it comes to the wedding photos, the big ones, that's what matters

[@Kimi_Khaos]

Ugh! I literally had to pause the video to comment on the first story. My best friend's mother, both of whom live in the UK, has been fighting colon cancer and it's after effects for years. OP was certainly NTA and the ex friend needs to be taken straight to her local cancer ward so she can share her opinions with those there. I'm willing to bet she'd change her tune rather quickly. What a complete and utter B! I'm friggin livid right now just thinking about it and with the title of the second story, likely to get even more heated as my dad is a Vietnam vet who did two tours as a Green Beret. Ok.. deep breathing.. here we go! Lol

[@mazdarx-8rotary.97]

For story 1 I’ve gotta say yta for not roasting her more!

[@berylwheaten9385]

😂😂😂💯💯💯😂😂😂 I totally agree 😂

[@feiruznoxravenus2093]

Omg i agree 🤣🤣🤣

[@Mimiroo]

While I do agree that the husband is TA about the wedding, Markie I can absolutely say that I’ve met some brides who were that spiteful and petty. Some people really suck and believe when it’s their wedding they can command other around them. Not saying that is this specific situation but just saying it’s not out of the realm of normal 🤷‍♀️

[@dequasont1063]

But you cant be controlled just cause it’s someone’s wedding, imagine if you were married and your wife’s brother asked you to dance with his fiance in spite to your wife?

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

I was going to be a doctor before I had to stop schooling for medical problems.... do I get all the honor of being a doctor? No? Guess the little snot doesn't get the honor of being a vet. He is a service member, which is honorable, but isn't the same thing.

[@TheAzynder]

@@thatguyonyoutube989 It does vary a bit, in general the definition does seem to lax enough for him to qualify. No one here is considered one though if he did not fight in a war, by some of these definitions even I am a veteran, but here is not there is it... :)=

[@TheAzynder]

@@thatguyonyoutube989 What I was saying is that in my country the definition seems to be different, and those who saw no combat are not considered veterans, it appears the US definition is different and by US definition even I would be considered a veteran. But not here. Is this any clearer?

[@rebeccaspellmeyer5761]

@Talsong Kingslayer I don't agree with that one bit. I made it through all my training and then was hurt at my duty station. My outgoing captain started my discharge and the incoming captain tried to stop it. I came home and was given a 50% disability rating(later changed to 70% and my is education paid for. I get VA care as well. My dad on the other hand served 4 years and had agent orange exposure and has a 10% disability rate. To some I am more of a vet and to others my dad is or they just consider us both vets. We have our names next to each other on the local veteran memorial and when this covid gets over with I will be joining the American Legion.

[@reptiles3244]

@@thatguyonyoutube989 actually no he is not e veteran a vet is someone who served a minimum of 2 years of duty

[@reptiles3244]

@@TheAzynder 99% of people who joined the army see battle I hope you understand that

[@lizcatty9281]

I empathize with 1st OP so much! Having many internal medical issues & conditions I've found is difficult 4 a lot of ppl 2 understand, particularly if u'r a happy person! Coz "How could u possibly have certain issues & still have a smile on ur face each day?!" Lol, coz who/what would benefit from me being miserable all the time? Be safe & be fabulous people xo Thanx as always Mark😎 Much love from down under every1! ❤🇦🇺

[@oldwoman5942]

My ex used to tell people he was a Vietnam War vet. Yes he was in the Air Force during the war...in the US, he never left North America. He did maintenance on staff housing and got a less than honorable discharge. He got angry when I called him out about his claiming to be a combat vet.

[@digit5465]

Huh, wonder why T is sensitive about being a “vet”

[@tonyblake7569]

2 reasons I can think of are 1 he's just a douche, or 2 his dream was to be in the military. He got in and then through some stupid accident his dream was shattered. Now he resents not being able to stay in and he constantly has people belittle him for not being able to do what he loved. Even when he trys to speak up for those who are treated poorly he is insulted and reminded of his ruined dream. Not defending it but how about if a white person talked about how horrible black people were treated by police and they were told they have no right to talk about it since they weren't black. Just because you're not something doesn't mean you can't stand up for their basic human rights.

[@thislookslikepatrick5070]

@@tonyblake7569 I agree you dont have to be a minority to fight something but hes trying to make it out like he was vet.

[@tonyblake7569]

@@thislookslikepatrick5070 and if you look up the definition at VA.org he is one.

[@thislookslikepatrick5070]

@@tonyblake7569 but not to the extent he makes it out to be. He acts like he fought for his and was injured in the line of duty

[@GreyFoxVinzin]

The real vets don't gloat about being in the service, it's something we volunteered for so others don't have to.

[@DarkAngel65989]

Story 1: OP is not the AH, the girl is an AH, and it none of her business and she brought the conversation, she the one seeking attention . Story 2: OP is not the AH, since he pretending to be an hero to me it look like stolen valor as he hasn't done any trip and job where he can say that . Story 3: OP is the AH, well one why is OP and the wife going if they dislike the the friend's wife so much and it's only for the short time not an hour. Story 4: OP is the AH, it's a school for special need and these kids alot of the time can't control their behavious and it's a school of course you're going to hear kids yelling.

[@patsstuffclark9522]

We are on a role today! Bridezilla story: Bridezilla is manipulating the whole thing. I'd just go to the wedding as a guest so you can sit with your wife and talk trash about the wedding and reception. You will be way happier.

[@JayeEllis]

Story 4: Get a white noise machine and/or search KZbin for loud fan videos. Play those while you sleep. Problem solved. There was road construction directly outside my window ALL summer long; I slept through it. Trust me.

[@jayjahn7081]

Second story: going to serve is not the same as survey. It’s still stolen valor. It’s a shame he couldn’t serve but he was jumping on a trampoline and got injured. Doesn’t change the fact that he’s not a veteran he went to Basic training and get sent home. He didn’t serve in any wars so I’m curious what kind of a vet is he? Far as I know The army doesn’t pass out metals for jumping on trampoline, but I could be wrong.

[@AlexWatsonMusic]

Your right about colon cancer, a close family member of mine had pre cancerous cells and the doctors had to remove their entire colon because the risk was too great. All cancer is serious.

[@Akichan07]

Chadwick Boseman literally kept his diagnosis from us for 4 years

[@horseheadlegman414]

You ain't have to bring that up now I'm sad

[@Hanzo1]

@@horseheadlegman414 its because he wants attention/likes and sadly people are falling for it

[@RaeAngel07]

@@Hanzo1 Is that based on fact or opinion? If it's the latter then it's simply that. An opinion.

[@ImNotaRussianBot]

Yes. And? Also, what does the word "literally" add to your statement?

[@Hanzo1]

@@RaeAngel07 based on the fact that it has literally nothing to do with the video and that people are still mourning his death

[@jennysmith38]

Never heard of the groomsmen walking the bridesmaids down the isle, that is the part that sounds like the bride is trying to make op's wife uncomfortable, plus, the bridesmaids are wearing white, weird

[@katie8732]

I've heard of groomsmen and bridesmaids leaving the wedding in pairs, but not entering. They're always usually at the front already

[@horsepuncher95]

Interesting, in my culture that's usually how the wedding party is introduced. It doesn't sound like the people in this story are from my island though lol

[@janejones7638]

My father was in the navy during the Vietnam conflict. He served stateside, he was a corpsman at a major VA hospital. During the majority of my lifetime, my father never claimed he was a Vietnam Veteran as he wasn't in the line of duty . However, seeing men come back from the front-lines all mangled up physically or psychologically or both, really effected him and made him realize how lucky he was to serve where he did. Anyway when my father retired, he got a special stipend for his Vietnam Conflict Era Serivce. A family friend's partner stated that it was stolen valor. My father said it wasn't stolen valor because he did serve during the War and there was always the potential that he'd be needed in the field of battle. I was quite angry at the family friend because she didn't ask her partner to drop the subject. My father got upset because this time period of his medical career he almost never talked about, so he walked off. I yelled at the partner to check it out on the internet and not to badger my father anymore. He said that his brother was a real veteran. I agree that his brother had seen things far worse than my father and this is partly why my father never claims his war service despite the fact he technically was a Vietnam Vet. But my father did have to see the real effects of war that the average non-combat veteran did not face.

[@becausemynameiscommon5609]

(1) NTA. You didn't embarrass her, she embarrassed herself. How badly do you have to want attention to call someone a liar, with no proof, about their cancer diagnosis? How crappy a human being do you have to be?

[@patmccann2696]

On the Vet story, I agree with OP mostly. I am a veteran myself and they wouldn't give someone a medical discharge when person got hurt at home. It takes a long time to receive a medical discharge. It's started at the lowest level of care and then goes up. That easily takes a year for most injuries to raise an eyebrow. What probably truly happened is that he was discharged due to being unable to adapt to army life or not passing his physical training. But the vet is correct that he doesn't have any access to the VA or benefits from injuring his ankle at home. Military will only compensate if you're injured on the job. Think of it in a way like Workman's Comp. BUT regardless, he is still considered a *veteran. Ask for his DD-214. That'll explain a lot. *Edit-I say he's considered a veteran since my drill sgts said that. And it's hard for me to see others that I was in basic who didn't pass as anything else. BUT for those who are chaptered for not being able to adapt to the service, I consider them to NOT be a Veteran.

[@ljh5141]

NTA! This is just every bit of awkward. OP, be with your wife and be a great guest. Enjoy the wedding with your beautiful wife.

[@thedestroyasystem]

S1: NTA. If the girl think colon cancer isn't serious, she should talk to Chadwick Boseman... oh wait.

[@lailukaislurking]

:(

[@FlyingHeadbutt100]

F.

[@velvety2006]

she embarrassed the other girl and hurt her feelings? sorry but the other girl was not nice either, don't dish out what you cannot recieve

[@thedestroyasystem]

@@velvety2006 Okay, calling someone out for being a bish and saying someone is LYING ABOUT THEIR CANCER are two totally different levels of asshole. And one is deserved.

[@Mhidraum]

I can try to explain the "volunteer at the school" comment. My sister is disabled, and while she attends a regular school, she's part of a special group/class that caters to her special needs. That class is always in need of people on stand-by because they sometimes need more than one adult pr child.

[@patsstuffclark9522]

OMG 2nd story: I bet you 10 bucks, cousin would have baled out of the military or been "discharged" early if he hadn't hurt himself on leave. He sounds unstable and so do his parents.

[@oldwoman5942]

I was lucky, everyone treated me with sympathy during my cancer treatment except one woman who tried to pull me out of my seat on a city bus as I was on my way to the cancer hospital for radiation treatment. I was a bald senior woman and this crazy 40ish woman tried to pull me out of my seat. The bus driver intervened and kicked the woman off the bus.

[@SCScholar1]

Story 2. Stolen valor is where you claim service or medals that you didn't earn. He didn't serve long enough to be counted as a veteran.

[@wandering_penguino]

I want to see that Zoom call too. Someone told a friend of my mine that even though they knew it wasn't medically possible they thought I somehow gave myself cancer so I could get more attention. I think she's still mad I got her removed from a soccer game in HS because the coach chose me over her when she decided to publicly bully another girl on the team and I said I wouldn't play if she was. Second story the start reminds me of Adam Driver. He was supposed to be a marine but had a mountain biking accident right before he was to deploy and was discharged. He then became an actor.

[@nuttmare9438]

Story one; I couldn't believe what that ex-friend had said and had to replay it. But when I did and heard properly what op clapped back at her, I did a thumbs up 👍 salute to OP, who's a CHAMP!! Well done. NTA. She deserved it and more. I hope op's well onto the path of recovery

[@thecraftycyborg9024]

Three of my family members have died from colon cancer. My dads entire career for 20 years was designing surgical tools to allow them to actually surgically reach the tumors in odd spots without destroying the pelvis. The improvements in its treatment have been vast but it’s still a very deadly form of cancer.

[@ravager0292]

That guy would be stolen Valor since he didn't get deployed which means he is just an army recruit that had to go on medical leave so all he can say he is a military medical leaver

[@goromajima7677]

Story 2 he’s just playing victim. NTA

[@elijahdavidsmom]

My brother's now ex-wife left him (an actual veteran), for a guy that got kicked out of boot camp (dishonorable discharge) and tells anyone that will listen that he's a soldier. 🤦‍♀️

[@jacegallagher8589]

Mark, even a veteran can be guilty of stolen valor. For example, if a veteran who spent his entire time stateside (meaning never deployed) claims to have gone on deployment, that is still stolen valor.

[@ericf.1410]

My dad was injured at the end of boot camp for the Marines, he has a lot of marines memorabilia (which is partially from relatives that served) and wears Marines t shirts but he doesn't go around claiming to be a vet or talking about veterans affairs

[@j.erider2748]

Story 2: I'd actually be willing to put money on the "fake veteran" hurting his ankle on purpose. He's a coward so he faked an injury to get out of active service. Sadly my grandpa fit into this category, peeling potatoes in Alaska while people were in real combat. Wouldn't know it to hear him talk though. I loved the man to death but occasionally he could just be insufferable.

[@zarennaangel1198]

Mark,Colon cancer took my uncle I watched him keep getting sicker and sicker. Last few months of my uncle's life he was on a morphine drip

[@MarkNarrations]

I'm so sorry to hear that Zarenna, cancer is bloody awful :(

[@neneka]

that first story aggravated me so much.. I am a adult and not living at home but ( my dad is stage 3 colon) so hearing the toxic ex friend talk about it not being that bad was infuriating, trust me it is for his wife for him and for all of us kids he's dealing with the illness I am dealing with the fears from him and myself and the family that it wont be beaten.

[@afatcatfromsweden]

Falsely claiming to be a vet is a crime in America...

[@joimumu]

He is on the grey area on this but I personally believe that he just wanted the attention

[@cyber_cober6679]

Have to say something about story 2. Living in a country where every eligible male from ages 18 to 30 are forced to serve in the army for maximum a year or do the one year civilian service. I spent three months serving in the army but left voluntarily for medical reasons. By the cousin's standards that would make the entire male population of Finland veterans just for doing their mandatory service. So yeah, good for the OP for calling the cousin's bullshit. It takes battle experience in defending your own country to be a veteran.

[@exilhannabal]

If you dont want to be publicly embarrassed, it might be a good idea not to be embarrassing in public

[@candiebarr6745]

Not everyone loses hair from cancer. My dad just looked skinny af with the only noticeable sign of his cancer being a raw neck. And the one has me curious if my grandpa would be considered a vet... no idea if he got any sort of benefits afterwards, but i know that while he was allowed to join, his health kept him from going to the front lines

[@chaseashley6775]

Day 39: I was listening to the mashup of “Bohemian Rhapsody” and “WAP” also known as “Bohemian WAPsody.” It is truly and experience.

[@danielwarren7110]

second story .... A veteran is a former member of the Armed Forces of the United States (Army, Navy, Air Force, Marine Corps, and Coast Guard) who served on active duty and was discharged under conditions, which were other than dishonorable. or A veteran is a person who had long service or experience in a particular occupation or field. A military veteran is a person who has served and is no longer serving in a military. Military veterans that have served directly in combat in a war are further defined as war veterans. he has neither long service nor active duty service.

[@josephbons1]

She deserves to be publicly embarrassed; she felt the need to try and publicly shame you and then when she was wrong and it was flipped on her now she's butthurt. Colon cancer leading killing cancer in men right now in the United States. It's like third or fourth killer as far as cancer goes for women. The Second Story is called Stolen Valor and is a federal crime. As an actual combat veteran this pisses me off. He got discharged basically under failure to adapt because he was injured and he never even made it to his first Duty station. The government does not consider him a veteran in any way shape or form hence why he does not have access to any Healthcare or services. He is a failure to adapt he never became a soldier. It sounds cold but it's part of what being a soldier's about; is being able to take harsh truths of the world and fixing what we can and not letting but we can't get in the way. To be 100% clear he is committing stolen Valor which is yet again a federal crime which you could be held complicit for if you don't report him in somebody else finds out that you're covering for him.

[@frith.calluna]

Wait I'm a bit confused about story 3. So OP's wife was still invited to the wedding, just not in the wedding party? Cause I really don't see the issue if that's the case..?

[@skjarvis110]

Story #1 OP is NTA... My father had NonHodgekins Lymphoma and although his hair thinned, he did not lose all his hair. He died with a full head of hair 7 years later from the cancer. Gauging whether a person has cancer on whether they have hair loss is stupid. That chick should get bent. #2. OP is NTA... I spent 1 full training day in the Navy before getting injured and sent home. Since I was in during the time of war I can claim veteran status. I don't bc in my opinion, if one hasn't spent time in combat... You have NOT experienced what our men and women have over seas being shot at on a daily basis. Not to downplay anyone who has served and never seen action. But to me Veteran status is something that is reserved for those who have seen action. #3 OP is NTA as his wife has been left out and would be forced to walk down the aisle with another woman who is not his wife. Its a matter respect towards his wife. The fiancee is the A$$hole. My ex husband did that to me 2 times, once at his cousins wedding and then at his best friend's wedding that I didn't attend and consequently he cheated on me with another woman at that time. The whole time at his cousin's wedding his time was taken up and he didn't even bother to dance with me even once. I knew no one at the wedding except for his parents who also ignored me. Now, his attitude towards the bride justifiable or not, is arseholish. He should just pass on being in the wedding. #4 OP is the A$$hole. Close the window and get a fan. Some kids will be loud, especially kids with autism when over stimulated.

[@petercampey2910]

That cousin, willing or not wanting to serve--IS NOT A VETERAN!

[@craftyink70]

The wedding, mmmm seems someone's not told the full story. Could be that some one might have swooped partners

[@dequasont1063]

Yeah it didnt talk about what the bride did

[@camdanebbett-urquhart9443]

I've been to spit wedding brides will and more often then you would think taylor there wedding just to spite one person and im giving buddy a nta if he is uncomfortable with it he is welcome to not be a best man he just can't be upset that he got replaced

[@jaycooper2812]

NTA the former soldier who claimed to be a veteran IS NOT A VETERAN! He was discharged for an injury NOT related to his service before his enlistment period was finished. He DID NOT serve in a combat zone. He was in for less than a year and DOES NOT QUALIFY for veterans services with the VA or other government agencies. If he had served an entire enlistment period or had been in combat I would agree with veterans status for him, but as he never served in a combat zone and did not complete his enlistment he DOES NOT qualify as a veteran and IS NOT A VETERAN. I am not a veteran even though I come from a military family. My brother, father, both grandfathers, and 7 uncles have served in various branches of the military. My brother is an Iraq war vet, my father and uncles served in either Korea or Vietnam and one grandfather served in World War 1 and both grandfathers served in World War 2. Between my relatives there are 2 Silvers Stars, 5 Bronze Stars, and 6 Purple Hearts. I also have a hand written condolence letter from General Douglas McArthur that accompanied my Uncle Bobby's body back form Korea after he was killed in combat. I could not serve myself as i have severe asthma and a heart condition that prevents service. I have 1 uncle who retired from the U.S. Navy after 30 years od service and 2 others have retired from the Army and Marine Corps respectively.

[@francit4856]

Zoom Call....... NTA! Toxic girl doesn't deserve an apology. OP didn’t embarrass her. She embarrassed herself by her remarks that revealed she is an idiot to everone on the call.

[@RandomTrinidadian]

Story one: NTA I want to see that video too. I wanna see OP tear into that Karen Story two: NTA again. The cousin was in the army for less than a year and was never deployed and never saw combat. He can say he served in the military, but i dont think he could say he is an actual veteran. I very certain real veterans who got injuried while depolyed might take offense to the Cousin calling himself that.

[@dr.health1688]

For story one, even if op didn’t have cancer for the girl to start bring all it up in front of others, op is perfectly justified in shutting her down.

[@nimrath]

Last story: At least in Sweden there are noice laws that the school has to abide by too. If the child screams incoherently at the top of it's lungs, that not something neighbors are supposed to accept. There are limits to what you are meant to be forced to accept.

[@ravertaking6343]

Salty sailor vet here. The "veteran" served for a while but when he hurt his ankle he may not have just gotten a medical discharge but he could have gotten a Dishonorable Discharge to go with it. That would make him ineligible for any VA benefits. He must have really fucked up his ankle to get a medical discharge. Hmmm.

[@wolfielawless1819]

My dad was also medicly dischared at the beginning of his army thing so hes NEVER considered himself a vet.

[@emm_uhh]

1. My roommate in university hid her cancer from me and her other friends, got treatment over the summer and told us when she returned with a scar on her neck. It was her struggle and journey to share. 2. I have a few friends and family who went into the US military who get discharge from basic training for medical reason but left with veteran status and benefits. The mentally of once a member always a member. Now it is kind of a dick move to brag about being a veteran in this case.

[@BankruptMonkey]

My grandpa served his full career in the military but never called himself a veteran because he was a military accountant and only experienced a hint of roughness walking between tents in a military camp far away from war. It's pretty egotistical that a guy whose only time in the military ended after bootcamp has the nerve to call himself a very with even less proximity to battle.

[@JohnSmith-zw8vp]

Story 2 -- As long as he completed basic or boot camp (whichever the case would be) he is always and forever a soldier/sailor/airman/marine. At least that's my understanding

[@michaelalpert8328]

I read the title and was like 👁👄👁

[@livewellwitheds6885]

3:08 the "friend" essentially was trying to embarrass op in public. if anybody deserves public humiliation, its that person! I also find it weird the other friend didn't care about the potential harm of the "friends" invalidation but focused on the harm of OP simply saying facts and defending herself. I would cut out thag person too

[@tk6239]

Veteran here...No you are NTA for calling him out. And I do appreciate you telling him to STFU!

[@bonniebaldridge1248]

Hope all is okay with you, Mark, I'm having a good day! Much love back to you.

[@WiseWordsbyWiki]

Story 4: I feel like that is something the relator or landlord should have mentioned

[@jayjahn7081]

First story: I can’t believe nobody comment about this. Op didn’t put it on any social media about having colon cancer, ex friend mentioned that she’s only doing this for attention and Colin cancer ain’t that bad. That’s just sad.

[@robertmesser557]

On that last story, sometimes people need to vent to SOMEONE. The OP might be OK for a time just venting on reddit... or maybe he'll vent to the school (and be told to pound sand). But he might be happier just for talking about it.

[@1992KCWolf]

Any type of cancer is serious and should not be downplayed! OP is NTA. Poor dear...

[@bridgetbenson6291]

I'm a Navy veteran I did 4 year and I did 2 "cruises". My little brother joined the Navy and got injured during bootcamp he is not a veteran and never claims to be. The dude is right that veterans are treated pretty trashy here but stolen valor is also trashy. Everyone should demand better treatment of our veterans but you don't need to pretend to be a veteran to want change. One day it will be very hard to find people willing to join and it is 100% because of the treatment of veterans.

[@Evibbles]

Cancer story is 1000% NTA She is early on in her treatment, you don't lose your hair day one, and to claim to be a cancer expert Because your uncle died from it. If I was diagnosed I wouldn't post it online because I don't want to become that girl with cancer, I want to be me and not have people I hate crawl out of the woodwork pretending they were always my friend just because they want to be seen being nice to the person with cancer

[@joreyn7656]

I think the OP is reading into the wedding stuff. We had two groomsmen and a bridesmaid who were engaged and walked down the aisle with someone other than their partners. It was no big deal.

[@Chevytrucks2021]

If I'm not mistaken when your discharged that early you have to sign papers saying that you won't claim to be a veteran or use any discounts or benefits for being one

[@BonniRaven]

My aunt died from colon cancer, it was caught too late, the chemo was too aggressive and yet it still kept spreading

[@nyashahardley]

Chadwick Bozmen passed of colon cancer and no one outside of his family knew. He made movies and his co workers never knew. The woman who challenged the OP about her cancer battle needs to take all the seats.

[@SpoonieCreates]

I went through something similar to the third story. My husband’s oldest brother got married and he (husband) was a groomsman. I was not in the bridal party. I didn’t get to walk down the isle w my husband. I didn’t get to sit w him during the ceremony or the reception. I didn’t get to dance w him because he “was supposed” to dance with the bridesmaids. His mother got drunk and said I was afraid of her during her speech at the reception. I didn’t say a word. I wore an appropriate dress and sat with the bride’s extended family during the reception. It kind of hurt but her day wasn’t about me.

[@leow637]

That last story, I get it completely...but there's nothing he can do. I'm sensitive to sudden loud noises so I don't think I could cope with that. The type of noise and the consistency is not something you'd expect from living near a school (I grew up with one on each side of my house) but this kid has severe difficulties and they can't just force him to stop or keep him inside without harming the work they're doing with him. I don't think OP is an arsehole, as he's coming for advice because he recognises all of this. He clearly sees his frustration is offset by that kid's educational needs. He will definitely not be the only neighbour feeling the same way but they've all probably come to the conclusion that there's no way to solve the problem without negatively impacting the kid.

[@pallydan893]

THIS. Especially the part about "he's coming for advice because he recognises all of this." but it seems like everyone's knee-jerk reaction is to call him an AH. Sure if he had made the complaint he would be the AH, but everyone seems to have the impression that indecision and asking for advice still makes you a terrible person.

[@Tacobat]

There are people I went to boot camp with who didn't make it that: 1. Post photos of them in uniform taken at the ship shed (before training even started) on Veterans Day 2. Put their U.S Army and nametapes on their dogs harness (not a service dog) 3. Use their dress blue photo as their profile pic (taken before training starts) 4. Take pictures that a photographer took throughout training and post them weeks/months apart as if they're still serving and they were taken recently It baffles me how much I've seen it. And it only seems to be Army or Marines. My husband is in the Navy and always laughs and says "wtf is up with the Army?"

[@9999plato]

If he never served in a combat zone and got injured on leave right after boot camp HE IS NOT A VETERAN.

[@ChaoticNalilitoMC]

I just commented on the colon cancer post last night. Honestly, I'm still fuming from reading it. My family has a history of cancer (grandpa even had colon cancer three times himself) and hearing her try to downplay cancer made me want to bash my head on my keyboard.

[@yenfr5306]

I have a family member who was in the army, but I'm not quite sure what he did that they kicked him out. I never knew they could even kick someone out. I wonder what he could have done for them to kick him out. I only know he was kicked out because his sister told me. He usually likes to talk about being proud being in the military that he served, but due to a car accident he had to get jaw surgery and is now considered disabled so he can't go back even though he wants to. Which sounded like such a huge lie, but when hearing him talk he always sounds so convincing. He never was deployed anywhere he never went to war. He was in training and I think that's when he got kicked out. Or maybe he got kicked out when he passed his training idk. I just know he likes to mention he was in the army. If we are out somewhere and we are afraid of getting lost he just says hey don't worry I was in the army so I know everything about survival. Or he just says he knows how to survive. He likes to say he knows when to actually worry so if we see him get worried then yeah it is real. 😐 he can be annoying, but oh well he is family.

[@LadyLeomon]

1) NTA, your response was perfect and your bf is a hoot (sounds like a keeper)! Notice how your “friend” didn’t remark on how the toxic girl accused you of lying about cancer? You seriously need a good update, cos your Friends.exe is seriously lagging! 2) NTA, he isn’t “a veteran” and is acting like he is, this is spitting in the face of all the brave men who actually served! 3) NTA, if this tiff is so bad she’s been excluded from the wedding party ... _why even invite her at all?_ Then ask her husband to walk down the aisle arm-in-arm with a stranger? This is spite, pure and simple! 4) YTA, kids are noisy little creatures, how do you not know this? You want perfect silence? Live next to a bloomin’ cemetery! Thanks for the new vid Mark 💙🐱💙

[@pallydan893]

4) They addressed in the post they wouldn't mind regular school yard noise, what I assume OP is hearing sounds like a Child being murdered.

[@Fatherosama]

Story 2 pissed me off. I was in the forces (canadian military) for 3 years and while legally being considered a vet I refuse to call myself one. I had the ambitions but never got the opportunity to serve overseas. I too was medically released from the service (diagnosed with MS) but I'd never be caught dead running around pretending to have gone through what better men and women then me have dealt with. That kids a scrub at best

[@ChangedWinds]

Story 1: "I'm suffering from cancer and getting treatment, but a former friend says I am a liar and I told her off. Now people said I hurt her feelings, despite getting treatment for cancer. AITA?" No. Story 2: NTA. I had a former friend try to claim more than what he is. He broke his pelvis at basic and went home uploading pics of his USMC tattoos and motorcycles talking about vet issues. Dude spent less than a year as a marine, but tries to push this narrative that he did what others won't while "forgetting" to state he got broke on duty and the only thing he served was a mop and bucket. If it's about legality of Veteran status, you must serve for three years total to be legally identified as a Veteran. Exception being killed on the line of duty or being medically discharged. That's why so many retirees argue whose actually retired (20 year minimum of service) versus those who are medically retired (severely injured to the point you can't serve but all/most injuries are on the line of duty). Lil' bro isn't a vet, period. Again, NTA.

[@130shooter1]

OP in story 2 is not an asshole. Depending on how far the guy is taking it this could be considered stolen valor. Yes even vets can be called out for it, for claiming to have done something they didn't do. Since this guy didn't even make it through basic, he's not a vet.

[@lynn-marieflechner5406]

I’m with you on the first one. Cancer patient here, (Hodgkin’s lymphoma) if someone told me that I’d fucking throw hands!