I got a text from my sister’s bestie about her and my husband “loving me too much” to hurt me.

[@ferrolhubbard4275]

The mom calling it incest! 😂😂 Go mom!!

[@stephanieshupe3985]

I love that Mom 😂

[@mangamegbe]

Oh he knew and he liked it. He is taking his wife for an idiot by trying to pretend he’s in any way innocent in this. She did not “ take him hostage”. He liked it until she bragged about it and he realized he couldn’t have his cake and eat it too. He is every bit as guilty as she is.

[@ladymorrigan5950]

They’re having an emotional affair at the very least. He can’t be that obtuse. **EDIT** He should have distanced himself when the sister admitted feelings.

[@tohrurikku]

He cut off the sister only because she was bragging about it online. He was hoping to get OP back if he gave her time, and at the same time keep the affair secretly going, but since the sister made it apparent that they were together his plans went down the drain. I am sure the husband and sister had harassment training, so there is no way they did not know any better. If he was above board then he would have brought others along to these lunches.

[@queenjackson1037]

Yep! Plus, a week was all it took for reality to hit. OP & her soon to be ex hubby are childless. Her sister is not. For a man in his mid-40s & almost married for 20 years means that it was probably intentional. To go from zero to multiple is a HUGE change in such short time (among other things)

[@captainfluffypaws7068]

​@@queenjackson1037 I agree that change is a lot to some people. My brother in law is with his girlfriend, who has three children. It is a lot for him to adjust to

[@yamairad1]

I think its because they had sex and he realized that OP is the hot and sexy one.

[@queenreg7]

He was enjoying the attention and letting that sister just be in love with him, knowing he wasn’t going to necessarily fully reciprocate. He screwed up by entertaining that nonsense.

[@LessaCaira]

Okay. So the week-long "relationship", let me explain. Here we have two intellectuals, one is married and loves his spouse but she doesn't necessarily 'feed his mind'. The other one is a single mom of two so dating is already hard, finding someone she can talk to who will accept the kids is highly difficult. They start talking and ooooh you scratch that good conversation itch. And oh hey... they aren't bad-looking either. Look at all this cool shit we have in common. They fall in love with more the idea of the person than the actual person. OP leaves, it's done. Well, she already thinks something is going on so let's give it a try. One week is about long enough to realize that 1. you don't mesh well romantically and 2. you don't like who the other person actually is.

[@nikwalters1029]

Nope. He let her in, realized that he was infatuated with an idea not the actuality, told sister he was still in love with his wife and "would do anything to get her back", and sister sees this as OP's fault because she handled everything with class. Happens all the time.

[@gschneider225]

Hubby was gaslighting her for sure.

[@broadwaybaby05]

I love how Dusty is so level headed and is so loyal to his beloved Candy. They’re so cute. This is my new favorite channel.

[@frigid4real]

I hate when we don't get any closure in these stories!

[@funnyfoxbird]

Yea, it was pretty recent. Might be a while

[@animatedaries6806]

Husband claimed sis came over once she heard wife left and then stayed more and more. “ after a night of drinking heavily they slept together. He awoke freaked out disgusted with himself & told her to get out he never wanted to see or speak to sis again” That was his explanation. I found it way down dip on her off my chest post.

[@AbigaleKirsten]

‘If i didn’t meet you i probably would be interested in another’. These kinds of people choose people in their life out of convenience, not for the ‘you’re the only one for me’ factor.

[@Reilakai]

11:49 he like the thrill of the forbidden romance with her sister and it made him feel good and wanted. Instead of addressing the issues in his marriage that left him feeling unfulfilled he lead her sister on to feed his ego and when he got what he “wanted” he realized he threw everything away for nothing

[@jamijenkins3507]

OP needs to call CPS on sister.

[@kayjacoby290]

I find nothing in OP's posts or comments to indicate she is lacking in any intellectual capacity. She is articulate and insightful - barring not expecting her husband and sister to lie about the depth and nature of their relationship. They seem to be gaslighting her, so no wonder. But I do wonder if sis is the golden child and OP grew up with the narrative of how very smart sis is and how very ordinary if not lacking, OP is. Which begs the question, if OP is such a dunce, why did hubby find her wife material? He should've been "smart" enough to find himself someone on his (alleged) level. Unless he wanted someone he thought he could control; and always planned to find someone else to fulfill him...otherwise. As far as the sudden turnaround: 1. Hubby talked to a lawyer and found out how the divorce is likely to see him lose half of the marital assets, if not more. 2. There is a morals clause for university employees. Or one of hubby's superiors told him how this reflects poorly upon the institution and if he wants to keep his job, he needs to get back with his wife or at least dump the sis. 3. Sis is a crap around the house and doesn't do all the things hubby wants in a partner. 4. Sis is a sleep farter.

[@sianpinnell6155]

This makes me laugh so much! Hubby has been blindsided! Sis is jealous. Because OP has a an educated, loving husband and sis doesn’t.

[@Emjay_blackdogranch]

For all the people talking about the sister tricking the cheating POS, it wouldn’t have happened if he wasn’t crossing boundaries and being inappropriate from the get go.

[@reevesavage]

found out this one chick was a backup singer for a Reba McIntyre tour but she threw it all away for one night with the married drummer (he threw his marriage and the tour for that one night) so yeah...there are people who throw it all away for scraps

[@jordanas3750]

Do the Math. Sis is 34. The marriage 17yrs. Sis has been in love with him since being a minor. This is long-term planning.

[@susanland9856]

Sis is 38

[@AnnMegFair]

the mom's a lil confused, but she definitely got the right spirit.

[@MphoenixE]

He knew sister loved him but kept up contact and going on dates with sister. Ewww

[@funnyfoxbird]

I like these longer videos

[@lindalauver8602]

There are certain things that you should NEVER share as sisters.

[@palithaolden8214]

Hw may have handed over his phone so easily to support the narrative that he is oblivious to the sister's feelings and he thinks everything is innocent. Therefore his wife can't blame him, just the sister.

[@vrocstar9737]

I thought this too until he openly admitted to knowing that the sister loved him

[@palithaolden8214]

@@vrocstar9737 That could still be him saying "Well she loves me, I don't live her!" Haha

[@miss__monique]

She abandoned her kids for her sister's husband (a married man) and got mad that the relationship didn't work. You know the old saying. How you get them is how you lose them. The sister had a lot of nerve.

[@colleengaddy2958]

I hope there's another update coming, because I've got questions!

[@LadyEvelynL]

3 people I used to work with fancied themselves in love with the younger brother of the owner of the hotel I used to work with. 1 of them, who is in her 60s, has gone full on delulu with her infatuation for him, to the extent she assaulted a friend of mine for asking her to put her hair up.

[@tammydownes2413]

I just recently like a guy who i got close to just long enough to say "im not over my ex" afterwards. So your husband may have did that to your nasty sister. Id go no contact with the sister and go through with the divorce. They both crossed a line they should have never thought of crossing.

[@DragonLady465]

Listening to the first half I honestly thought the guy was just oblivious, o dont see them having lunch together often as a red flag onnits own, they are inlaws with a good relationship and they work together. The biggest red flags are when she told him and he 1) didn't tell his wife and 2) didn't reduce the time he spent with her sister. Literally the exact opposite of how he should have handled it. Should habe told her "i understand hownyou feel but i dont feel the same, im gonna give you some space to work these feeljngs out so it doesn't mess up my marriage or our friendship" and then let his wife know encase sister got weird. At the very least he liked the attention and was entertaing the thought of an affair with her, it probably only lasted a week because he realized her sister was nuts

[@SmallTownAngel86]

Funny enough, I know someone who did cheat with their sister-in-law, then left their wife for said sister and then had kids with her. He was a higher up in a company that I worked for years ago. My brain couldn't get past half siblings also being cousins.....

[@NonexistentIntellect]

@5:37 tbf i've been called a liar for not telling my wife about something i didnt think to mention because to me it was entirely inconsequential

[@HuntingForHannah]

Giving 80/ 20 rule he got a taste of 20 percent and regretted it 😅 poor op though 😢

[@elainemorgan6205]

Men really can be oblivious. But her Sister is not and continues the constant interaction. Salt 'N Pepa comes to mind...

[@stephanieshupe3985]

The husband is a cheating jerk. I'm sorry they hurt and betrayed you, and hope you will find peace without them.

[@HuntingForHannah]

They need to cut the connection with the sister, this has the potential to turn into cheating as he hasn't dismissed her advances.

[@borderlinepup1603]

My mum would react the exact same way to something like this 😂 screaming Incest until she was horse

[@kursmarie1653]

I know someone who cheated on her husband, left for three months to find herself and abandoned the kids, came back and they tried to work it out and when they moved into his friends while they got back on their feet she cheated on him again with his friend, the friend kicked the wife out and they kicked my friend you. She tried to get back with him but he moved on so she married the guy and now he cheats on her all the time.

[@jennipherharrison623]

Well that took an ugly turn

[@amyschell4511]

The cellphone is the single thing you can find out if your SO is cheating. 2 exes one a fiance and one a husband. Geez, I'm realizing I've probably missed out not posting on reddit. Lol

[@NicoleBrown-oc7je]

Did Hubby even know she was going to stay for a week?You miss what you don't have and Sis ended up coming off second best.

[@Justin-A-Carter]

Just spoken from my own place. I had somebody that had feelings for me and I didn't for them... We were both single but I just didn't feel a spark for her. You know? You're 100% correct. You can't be friends with somebody that has emotional feelings for you, play offered my friendship and she kept on pushing for affection and love and we had to end our friendship. You can't be friends with somebody that's in love with you. You are 100% correct. ::Edit:: The rest of the story just hits the eww yuck vibe, I could never imagine sleeping with somebody that was with one of my siblings. That's nasty sticking your Ding-A-Ling and where someone never mind just no.... that is as nasty as pineapple on pizza

[@amyjean999]

Completely disagree! Pineapple on pizza is the best!

[@Justin-A-Carter]

@@amyjean999 ew. It's the worst thing Canada has ever given the world.

[@maryannnicholson2844]

I think he wanted both, he wanted cake and pie. It was working for a while 😅

[@m0L3ify]

The romance was only supported so long by its clandestine nature. It was exciting because it was taboo. Once they were free to be together, it fell apart fast because they're not actually as compatible as they thought. Husband probably finally saw Sister's true nature and gave her the boot. Sister sounds like an effing mess abandoning her kids like that. My sister also lied about loving me for 10 years. Spent time with me, made me feel like we were close and had a lot in common. I thought she really enjoyed our time together. There was some ghosting along the way or her being too busy to talk to hang out. But I brushed it off as actual busy life. Nope. Eventually the rages started over extremely trivial things followed by "I was just kidding" excuses. One day she sent me an email letting me know she'd lied to me for 10 years, that she hated me and we had nothing in common. She'd just been mirroring me. It was devastating, but disordered sisters will do that. OP's sister sounds like she also has something going on. Maybe it's a personality disorder, maybe she's just emotionally immature. Who knows. But I can understand how this whole thing went down. It's not super shocking to me.

[@ms.tdorsey3490]

Not sure the ages of the kids but child abandonment should've been filed...if she did it once, she can do it again. There are a lot of What Ifs questions but either way, he wrong & sister wrong. He lied from the start bc he didn't admit to knowing how the sister felt and didn't distance himself from that moment. Sir, the sister was never your best friend...but to say that you can't have the same intellectual conversation with your wife is straight BS. Sister thought bc she had higher education that she was better than the wife...clearly not. You destroyed relationships for multiple people for nothing: her relationship with her kids, her relationship with her parents, her friendship with the other woman, her relationship with her sister, her standing with her BIL, her kids relationship with her sister & BIL & friend, the parents relationship with her sister & BIL, sister & BIL,

[@lindalauver8602]

Wait! She dropped off her kids for a piece of a$$

[@jordanas3750]

Eq and Iq are to different things. His Iq is high, probably with a low Eq. Aka clueless. So yes, he can not see the boarderlines.

[@anakaliaeastwood]

She left her kids?????

[@MommaSkelly]

She could have Kathy Batesd him. xD Could have... could have... still wouldn't' take him back though, not a flipping chance ... Keep that Divorce a rollin'. I can understand the possible "Just wanting a friend," but once he knew she 'loved' him... then yeah gotta nip that "friend" in the bud. Sis is A1, sh*t crown wearing A1.... just wow.

[@venessascott6223]

so they are calling you stupid?

[@Faelani38]

dang

[@scarletking927]

it seems like a honeymoon phase then the realized it wouldn't work out ? 11:55

[@bookwyrm1383]

guys are famously oblivious about some things, hopefully it's not conveniently oblivious

[@bookwyrm1383]

well, nevermind

[@Rainbowofthefallen]

😀

[@monikaski5449]

Is anyone bi-polar?

[@jambalie]

I wish she had gotten his side of the story, just to know if your conspiracy theory was accurate 😅 Because I actually had a similar thought, wondering if she showed up with some sob story about needing a place to stay and took his phone when his dumb ass let her in. It was super weird and wild for it to only last a week and for him to go no contact during that week. It is still entirely possible he is just a cheating AH, but he came across as more of a general emotional dumbass who enjoyed the attention. The sister needs therapy in the worst way. They all do, but sister is nuts.

[@daniellestow4802]

It’s not often I disagree but here I do. Working at the same place it’s not a big leap to think they would eat dinner together daily. I also don’t agree that he should cut off the sister just because she has feelings for him. If he knows nothing would happen between them then why should he care about that.

[@14hoursahead]

It all hinges on him knowing that his wife's sister had feelings for him. Once he knew, it was his responsibility, out of respect for his wife, to distance himself *at the very least*. He also should've told his wife when her sister confessed to him, then his wife could've said whether or not she's comfortable with them having that frequent, meaningful, contact. As for them having lunch together, I'd say the same. If he truly didn't want to encourage the sister's feelings or allow them for his own ego, he would centered his relationship with his wife as being more important.

[@likeagdphoenix]

Because hanging out with her knowing she has feelings for him only adds fuel to that fire. If he knows how she feels, and she realizes that he knows, she could potentially see that as a chance at reciprocation. If my husband was hanging out with a woman who had feelings for him, knowingly, the boundaries are too damn blurred and I would be very upset. This is a line in the sand type of situation.

[@daniellestow4802]

@@likeagdphoenix this is where we differ. I wouldn’t care if my husband spent time with someone who had confessed to have feeling me for him. The two are adults and a boundary has been set. They both have already admitted nothing would happen.

[@likeagdphoenix]

@@daniellestow4802 She didn't have a crush. She said they were soul mates. Boundaries have to be put in place.

[@daniellestow4802]

@@likeagdphoenix as I say we will just have to disagree on the situation.