Alcohol Relapse Prevention: What Is “Dry Drunk Syndrome?”

[@mrallison9968]

Today is my day 1. The last time I drank was about 2am last night. Enough is enough. I’m fed up of having to apologise to the people I’ve hurt, paying people for the damage I’ve done to their property, and of destroying my body. I’m 28 now and I’ve been an alcoholic since I was 14, so half of my life. It’s time for me to take this next step in the right direction.

[@SnakeBitesApe]

How are you doing?

[@artvrtlekame7351]

how are you doing man? I hope you are ok. You can do it.

[@TheVernongodlittle]

i wish i had stopped drinking at 28. I am 40 now and just stopped 2 months back. So Kudos to you!!

[@KonradvanderHorst]

The last time I drank was around 10 last night. Last night is the tail end of 7 or so days of drinking. I’m soo stupid. I want today to be first day of the new me but I’m horrible at keeping promises to myself. I’m my past I’ve had 1 year and then another 3 after an almost month long relapse. Then after 3 years of such a better life I was on my honeymoon and figured I would be fine to drink. That was almost 2 years ago now of day ones. I’m embarrassed and angry and I’m pretty sure my wife knows I’m drinking secretly. Thank you for these videos. Last night while drunk I was watching them. Woke up this morning and poured out both Mickeys of vodka. Here we go again.

[@_BatCountry]

Hey buddy. If you're horrible at keeping promises to yourself, don't. Make a promise to all of us here instead. Keep us updated on your progress man.

[@KonradvanderHorst]

@@_BatCountryI’m making my promise right now. I’m done. I loved the person I was when sober. I don’t like being a liar. I promise to you all, I am an alcoholic and I’m leaving it behind. And not just a dry drunk. I want to heal.

[@words4dyslexicon]

& as far as your girlfriend knowing/ not knowing that ur secretly drinking, my take is that we're all psychic, we know on some level when someone close to us is up to something, we may not know exactly what it is, or to what degree, but we can tell something's not right, & it generally pisses us off, right?

[@words4dyslexicon]

@@KonradvanderHorst I pushed send on my comment & then saw ur new comment, well done! truth is the only way! ( tho I do reserve the right to lie to cops, etc. long story..)

[@KonradvanderHorst]

@@words4dyslexicon it does piss us off when we feel like someone is up to something. I generally hate being like that too. I just seems that as soon as I have 1 drink all bets are off the table. I’ll lie and sneak around just so can keep drinking. And while it’s happening I think it’s all alright. Until I wake up the next morning. Then it’s self pity and loathing. Anyway we all know this shit. That’s why we are here.

[@mortyrosenstein4211]

I always took dry drunk to mean people who never found fulfillment when they stopped drinking and are miserable. I have known a few people like this. Who went to meetings and stayed sober, but they were just miserable. As if the light in their soul has been permanently extinguished.

[@alecogden12345]

I do think that is a manifestation of dry drunk since some people drink because they're "miserable" (like they feel empty and lonely or something), and if they don't figure that out they'll likely relapse.

[@harrybaker9044]

New Bat video = time to get comfy.

[@cjh0751]

I always find your videos insightful and informative. I'm also worried that I will eventually get complacent and relapse. I guess I'm in the honeymoon period of sobriety. I'm liking the new me and enjoying my life again. I just need to keep reminding myself the benefits of being sober and not to get complacent. I realise for me one little drink can send me back to a litre of vodka a day and back to a life I cannot live anymore. It's early days for me, nearly coming up to a month without alcohol. I take it one day at a time because that's the only way I can keep reminding myself that I do have a problem and I can never be a responsible drinker ever again. Keep up your great videos. I always look forward to them and stay strong brother. I'm thinking about you and all my brothers and sisters who watch this channel. Keep the faith.

[@_BatCountry]

Hey CJ! It's good to focus on the positives of sobriety rather than the negatives of drinking, that's a healthy mindset. But I'm like you, if I have one drink, then I'm immediately gonna drink a whole bottle and a week from now I'm back in hospital. It's always, always going to be like that for me. I'm happy to see your progress mate, stay with it.

[@shanecogan9052]

I'm new to this channel comrades and really enjoyed your detailed personal experience of AUD and especially the descriptive delirium tremens of which I can relate.I look forward to your posts and the inforative nature in which they are shared.Dry drunk is a fascinating subject we could pour over with valour for eternity.Keep up the honesty my friend and I do love your quirky jokes brother.

[@toddstephen1957]

I identify with you , DDS is also when you swap drinking for a lesser addiction , it will inevitably lead back to Drinking in the End , the lesser addiction (less destructive) is anything that takes you away from reality , it doesn't have to be a Substance , ie over Eating , Binge watching Netflix, Doom Scrolling , etc Anything that Blocks you and takes you away from working on Staying Sober ,

[@_BatCountry]

Yes indeed, that's very true. Thank you for the comment my friend!

[@maryelizabethbutler4306]

You hit the nail on the head. I have to find that fine line of being happy in solitude or pure isolation. It's sunny and warm here. I'm finding romancing happening quite often. It's warm and sunny here now. You spoke of mail. My last three years of drinking I threw all my mail away. So I've had to face the heart pounding opening of mail from my mailbox soberly every day. Most cannot understand my quirks. Im finding this disease is so much more than alcohol. Great video. Thank you so much.

[@_BatCountry]

Thanks Mary. And you're so right: this disease is so much more than alcohol. They should tell to everyone on the first day they get sober.

[@jonathanlee8243]

This hit home more than anything else. The trouble is I really struggle to establish exactly what it is I’m depressed about. It sounds so stupid, perhaps there really is a more subconscious issue. I’m not drinking at the moment, but I’m almost expecting a relapse. Definition of a ‘Dry drink’. One day at a time.

[@AntonioBarsanio]

This is an important topic, DD Symdrome. You are sober but the emotional turmoil you wanted to hide or overcome with alcohol is still there and even worse than before. I'm no expert, no Doctor but I can guess it has physical as well as psychological roots to it and this is the ingredient that makes many alcoholics to relapse, this discomfort, this sense of emotional hangover, this emptiness, etc

[@_BatCountry]

Yeah. Gotta work on the foundation before you fix up the house.

[@timothyslaughter476]

That's what makes relapse so dangerous. The bodies tolerance has dropped dramatically. The mind can take us right back to herculean feats of strength with the booze. Really deadly combo. Sobriety ain't a hobby. Take it seriously or pay a huge price.

[@_BatCountry]

@@timothyslaughter476 oof, i should get 'sobriety ain't a hobby' tattooed somewhere

[@AntonioBarsanio]

@@timothyslaughter476 So true.

[@tompearce6312]

It always made a massive impression on me that my Dad never "Embraced" sobriety. He went from full on binge drinking and rehab level of alcoholism to drinking maybe once a week and still smoking way too much. To his credit he held down a good job and overall made a massive effort to be a good Dad, but i felt he never replaced the alcohol in his life with the gym or AA or a new hobby or something. It seemed he chose the hardest way to deal with it.

[@knobjob2839]

We also used to call it "white knuckling". Someone is holding on to sobriety for dear life, but they are still angry, bitter, and lashing out at others. They aren't at peace in sobriety.

[@_BatCountry]

Yeah that's it. Sometimes alcohol isn't the biggest problem with alcoholics. There's a lot of other stuff that needs to be addressed.

[@knobjob2839]

I love your channel. Keep it up 🙏

[@AlexGoldsmith-bf5nd]

Very well conveyed brother .. good timing for me as been aware of the DD Syndrome recently ...this helps me get back on the right track; resonated strongly... many thanks.

[@clem1578]

I really enjoyed this video and think you’re bang on about pretty much all of it, no notes. I’ve been in recovery for a long while now, nearly a couple of decades, but if im honest I’ve probably been in and out of (but mostly in) dry drunk syndrome for quite a few years of that. I‘ve not drunk, but I’ve had a couple of inpatient psych ward stays to keep me safe when I badly wanted to drink, and I’ve been deeply unhappy much of the time. After all these years a lot of the stuff I drank on- trauma, depression, anxiety, neurodivergence, the whole burrito (with extra guac)- honestly seems quite intractible, and it often feels like I’m barely keeping my head above water. But I am, a day at a time. I do need to look at what I can do differently for my recovery as well though. Thanks again for another cracking vid.

[@_BatCountry]

Hello mate! I truly think that checking into a psych ward even if you haven't *technically* relapsed is one of the smarted and most admirable things we can do. That's a brave decision. Thanks for the comment, I appreciate it as always.

[@nektariosvasilopoulos3841]

Hi, good morning. Wanted to thank you for your videos, and say your insight, understanding and explanation of alcoholism is very helpful. Ive watched all your videos. One month sober, now. 20 yrs heavy drinking. Twice gone 3 months clean ,once gone 6 months clean. Your honesty of how 'bad' things can get, how destructive we can be to others and ourselves is unbelievable. Your honesty of your own situation 'refreshing' , seeing as the truth is usually the first thing to go out the window with problem drinking. Your explanation of 'dry drunk syndrome', and what to look out for flipped a switch for me. My reelapaes were never as heavy as yours. But what id never realised was the slow build up to a relapse. I was always 'on guard' for the 'one off trigger'. The mood changes or behaviour change is familiar. Thanks because now I understand/admit ,that I am a dry drunk, and i cant stop 'doing the homework / work on myself,(reasons for drinking). Again,thanks. Im sure many more people feel the same way.

[@Zeuskazoo]

Your five points definitely ring true for me. This was very helpful in understanding my ups and downs in early sobriety

[@_BatCountry]

Great, I'm glad to hear it.

[@DaleCarlson-tl5vd]

Starts at 5:50.

[@Slayer-7373]

Another great/accurate video. Nothing worse than being called a dry drunk lol!! Take care brother. 💯

[@phychicmusic]

Last time i checked life is the cause!😭

[@Micru866]

Hey bat country- this is a very interesting topic. I can see how the behaviors still stay even when the alcohol is out of the equation. It’s great that you’re able to identify the patterns and address them. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Hope you’re well.

[@_BatCountry]

Hey buddy! I'm doing very well indeed, thanks for the comment!

[@jacksutherland846]

I was lucky enough to stop enjoying being a drunk which began my ambitions to finally quit once and for all, so then the war began. I have been a dry drunk for sure. But now the thought of drinking is absolutely revolting. I'm not going back. Alcohol is an inanimate object, and will not force it's way down your throat. What I believe, is that until you can understand removing the monkey wrench from the gears in your head, you'll never escape. The blessing of no longer savoring memories of drunkenness, is your best indication of success. I've been through all of it, and I truly believe that I'm going to make it this time. What a long strange trip it's been.

[@nicklafrance5949]

Insightful and very well explained. Thanks for posting!

[@_BatCountry]

Thanks Nick, I appreciate it

[@davidmacevoy5842]

Your story has been very inspirational dude and thank you for that. Being drunk (or dry drunk) makes me a liar, but I isolate to get sober, when I feel the need to be loved or to express love I hit the bar and get smashed, I don’t drink alone. I used too, but now I could go the pub every night and stay out until silly o’clock in the morning with my mates. I think I hate my own company, or myself, or both

[@_BatCountry]

Thanks mate! And yeah, it must be weird to hate your own company. For what it's worth, we all like you.

[@overit.4013]

Did you grow up with a narcissist maybe ? I did. I got out and healing began. I hope you find love again❤

[@TLMMM45]

This really resonated with me; so many similarities, I recently had 3yrs sobriety and relapsed over the last year, all down to my own complacency. I really thought the penny had dropped this time but I also started getting nostalgic about my old pal the booze, romanticised all the chaos and minimised all the harm it has caused me then got sucked back into the all too familiar cycle of lies, deceit and eventually the remorse and frustration as my life unravelled again. Thanks for the video, I really enjoyed it.

[@_BatCountry]

Thanks buddy. That thing about romanticising the chaos is so real to me - that's the thing I have to fight against the hardest. Some days I even miss the psych ward. It's such a cunning condition.

[@TLMMM45]

@@_BatCountry Yes very cunning, it's still pulling the wool over my eyes after all these years. I also have those heroes like Bukowski, Lemmy and the rest that I admire with envious eyes. Crazy stuff.

[@inkstainedpanda501]

The isolation aspect that you address here, my friend, is soooo recognizable for me, both when I’m drinking and when I’m not … thank you so much for another great video ❤

[@onlyme7308]

I always see it as sobriety is ceasing to drink and recovery is actively pursuing life that has meaning. Pursuing a life that is guided by love. Love encapsulates all the principles that will keep us well. Connection, compassion, empathy, thoughtfulness, truth, acceptance, looking for the good, gratitude, responding over reacting, responsibility, accountability, community, letting go, meeting people where they are, integrity, congruence and the list goes on. In active addiction I am opposite to all of these things and should be avoided like the plague.

[@jamesgorden5072]

Great video. Currently I am only having one sign, self isolation. I don't really interact with anyone if I don't have to, (but I have always been that way so it's normal for me) Next week I am starting online "therapy," for addiction and mental health support. Since I have social anxiety and don't like large groups of people it was my best route to go. I hope it helps, I know it doesn't work for everyone, but I figured I would give it a try and see if it has any benefits.

[@_BatCountry]

Thanks James! Yeah, let us know how that goes, and if you would recommend it to others. Good luck with it.

[@PaulIsaacT.PowerPoet-so1gh]

I really love your style. You are Heroic!❤ Keep it up!

[@lucistired]

i wish i had seen this before my current relapse. i had all of these factors

[@markjones1337]

The easiest thing in the world is to 'not do something'. Don't get out of bed, don't go to work, don't have a pizza, and don't drink.

[@Mrstrachan242]

I needed this type of content so badly!!🥺😭 thank you. Please don't give up 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@ryandubyah2345]

I’ve had so many new 1st days I’ve honestly long since lost count. Had the debate with my wife a million times about how this is a true addiction and as such, you never have that moment where you ‘just stop drinking’ or where ‘it clicks’. It doesn’t. It takes time, practice, countless failures which become immensely demotivating, almost overpowering. But with time and practice, it DOES get better. I’m almost there, I just know it. But it’s different for every single person so believe in yourself in this journey. I’ve been up, profoundly down and everywhere in between, just like many of you. You are not alone. This is the ONLY drug which can kill you from withdrawals, so please bear in mind you are fighting something incredibly dangerous, but you CAN win. I’m not there yet, but I believe in you. I believe I can do this too, but none of us can do it alone. We can all beat this beast united.

[@kathleencoxkullman7278]

Thanks for being open about your own struggles, you are relatable and that is part of the connection we all need...LOVE your videos and use them for my groups and they are always appreciated and provide much food for thought!

[@raindog3706]

Thank you for the great content. I appreciate your channel.

[@CatC-cow]

This was good. I spent my childhood in AA related activities because I have several family members who all went to treatment at the same time. I always thought of a “dry drunk” as someone who was as scary or more scary sober than they were when drunk. Now that I am an adult trying to figure out if I can live sober, it is interesting to hear the adult perspective on this.

[@TheLasTBreHoN]

Hope your doing well buddy! May the power protect us all as we boldly follow our inner truth. I love ye all ❤️ whoever ye are

[@_BatCountry]

ODAAT brother.

[@deleriumslayer4931]

Def makes sense. It's been close to a year for my sobriety. This time def feels great. Unlike my past relapses, iv gotten into working out before work in the a.m and after work. 6 days a week. Sunday I'll do some lighter stuff. Cut all sugar out. No more creamer in coffee, late-night icecream ect. Most importantly I quit cigarettes. I'm 35 now but smoked a pack from 21ish to 34ish lol after a couple weeks I was gold. My point is after my last relapse I knew I had to do a lifestyle change. It's far from easy, or else everybody would do it. It got easier tho. Now I look forward to the a.m p.m workout. I catch myself saying outloud " I'm so fucking happy I kicked ciggs " 😂. Overall that's what has been working for me.

[@_BatCountry]

Hey, thanks for the comment! That's awesome to hear - I'm glad you're focusing on the positives of being sober rather than the negatives of drinking, which is a mistake most of us (me) make. And I know everyone's sick of hearing it but exercise really is one of the best treatments, isn't it?

[@rossthemusicandguitarteacher]

Very interesting. I've never been a person that drinks a fifth a day, but recently I caught myself treating my stress with whiskey and not music. I decided to get off the elevator before the basement. I drank 1/3rd a bottle of whiskey and 2 beers. My dry drunk behavior would be not indulging my need to create art, be it music or software. When I am not doing that..... Danger is in the cards. It is hard to understand.

[@MrRiouxc]

I met a lot of dry drunk persons. They usualy think they are OK but they absolutly need a AA meating every day and take some pills (Ativan or other) to calm down the cravings. I would not like to be in that situation at all. Like you said, they are sober because they are not consuming. A lot of introspection must be done here, or see a toxicologist for help.

[@slauge]

That part about being verbally gifted and gaslighting those around you was really interesting. In another video you talked about how the alcohol will turn your own mind against you. The corollary must be that it is all the worse if that mind is formidable. Do smart people make worse drunks? It is often said that smart people will still believe stupid things, that in fact; they are better at it since they know just how to rationalise the irrational. So many geniuses were alcoholics, like William Rowan Hamilton. Im sure Christopher Hitchens was gifted enough rhetorically to where he could convince anyone, including himself, his problem wasnt serious.

[@Kaysune1]

Can you do a video on cross addictions - dry drinks replacing alcohol with another addiction - food / sex / nicotine / gambling…

[@_BatCountry]

Yeah I'd like to talk about that soon.

[@stanleycostello9610]

Later this month it will be 20 years since I've had a drink. I am a recovering alcoholic. Nothing more, nothing less. There are some people (not very many) who say, "I used to be an alcoholic." Pisses me off.

[@_BatCountry]

Congrats on your time! And yeah, I've started describing myself as a 'functioning alcoholic' now - in the sense that when I was drinking I was an alcoholic, and now that I've stopped, I'm still an alcoholic, I'm just functioning.

[@Luke-ye5ul]

Why would that 'piss' you off?

[@phoebehill953]

Your channel has a lot of good advice, and food for thought, for people recovering from heavy, long-term marijuana use. Thanks.

[@_BatCountry]

Thanks for watching!

[@CMoore8539]

Finland definitely summed it up correctly!!

[@julietkeers2016]

I believe seeing it is halfway to the solution. Thank you for this helpful video for those people dealing with Dry Drunks. The emotional volatility is very interesting. The definition makes me think is only happening within the person but the reality is it effects both inside and outside of the person. Do you believe them when they say, It's you? Best wishes to you and hope you are in a better place today.

[@cjh0751]

Hi Stuart, i found AA very distressing. It was like fight club. You have people that go there to command the narrative and speak about themselves. I found that they don't let you speak. I attended twice and didn't give them another try. The people that were forceful commanded the narrative and wouldn't let the rest of us speak. So i said im not bothered with it. Its a waste of my time. Its like fight club where people want to command the conversation. Sorry its not what i need. I have a voice but they wont listen because they are so involved with their our problems. Basically narcissists.

[@ShadesOClarity]

One of the oldest and founding member of my A.A. group had a copy of the First Edition of the Big Book. He passed in December of 2018. He was of the generation who did not want any mention of "dry goods" at the meeting. Since he died, that has changed. Nobody cares now if someone mentions they had a problem with H, meth, coke, etc; They not looked at with scorn anymore. As far as I know there is no N.A. meeting in this town. I was dry drunk for three years. I wasn't going to meetings. I just quit but was not doing any 12 Step work. Ultimately, the relapse was inevitable. I haven't really been going to meetings like I should. Now it is time to get back in the rooms. I started my channel for the same reason.

[@_BatCountry]

Hey mate! I haven't really been going either, I have a complicated relationship with it. I think it's time for me to get back in the rooms too.

[@Goodvibes-gu8dv]

So many of us have a complicated relationship with the rooms. Would be great to hear your take on it all - I think the more we can share our perspectives with transparency, the better shot we all have at staying healthy.

[@_BatCountry]

@@Goodvibes-gu8dv I've been meaning to talk about it, but that conversation comes with risk. I can be persuasive, and I don't want to accidentally talk people out of going to the rooms if they might benefit from it. I'll do it when I've got a bit more confidence in my opinions.

[@npblosch19]

I’m lucky where I live has many different kinds of meetings SMART, Life Ring as well as the usual 12 step groups - I’m another professional ex-pats so a lot resonates with me other than I’m not a black out drunk but I try keep on track with anything I find helpful. As I designer I also appreciate the work you put into these vids, cheers from (currently) Victoria BC.

[@junkequation]

Hah, I could never come home even slightly intoxicated on any substance because my mom could freaking tell the moment we made eye contact.

[@fatman989]

you realise that at the start of the music video for bat contry by avenge severn fold theres a quote from sam johnson? so weird

[@_BatCountry]

Oh yeah! I never made that connection before, what a weird coincidence...

[@smoozerish]

Most people who are or were alcoholics come from toxic dysfunctional families. This has to be dealt with in therapy along with maintaining sobriety.

[@RodSherwood1]

“Dry Drunk” is a pejorative term used by AA cult members to describe people who have quit drinking without joining the AA cult.

[@_BatCountry]

YOU'RE a pejorative term

[@words4dyslexicon]

@@_BatCountry *_R_* -o- _u_ g -h- *l* _y_ speaking ☻️

[@RodSherwood1]

@@_BatCountry a mature and intelligent comment….. NOT!

[@_BatCountry]

@@RodSherwood1 to be honest rod i didn't know how to reply, your comment was kind of all over the place to begin with. Took me a whole day to write, film and edit this video, and you tried to just undermine the entire thesis with a couple of unsolicited words. So, I didn't think it deserved a well-considered response.

[@RodSherwood1]

@@_BatCountry all over the place?! It was very succinct. I can understand you wouldn’t know how to reply as what I said was a fact that cannot be disputed which ruined your video. If you are going to produce a video about BS, expect to be called out on it.

[@trangledangle]

It was actually this concept that got me into recovery rooms after I'd been independently sober for a few months-- I heard someone there describe my state quite accurately, albeit unkindly, as restless, irritable, and discontent. I was restless because I was constantly fleeing the flagellations of my inner monologue-- my "ego." Irritable because I knew relief was only a drink away, yet here I sit. This "always-on" connection to alcohol, the long-lingering knowledge that it will bring you the sense of well-being you crave, is what makes it so hard to quit.

[@_BatCountry]

Well-said, as always.

[@EdwinHeijmans-rn6fb]

PAWS headache after stopping alcohol is normal? Can this take a year ?

[@Redsnapper123]

Remember dr Johnson in blackadder

[@ThinkyPain]

The most useless book since "How to Speak French" was translated into French.

[@Redsnapper123]

@ 😂

[@MyDarkMuffin]

Alcohol use is often a symptom of a problem way before it becomes a problem on its own. If you haven't gotten to the root of the original problem then you're going to have a tough time.

[@rossthemusicandguitarteacher]

Stay strong my friend I hope you stay dry, are you writing enough?

[@aetheronautsomnid5261]

None of these sobriety programs ever address the fundamental assumption that existence is good or worth doing or that we aren’t cursed to be free. Like, sure, I’ll sober up. Just prove to me the purpose of life, objectively, and that it is a good thing, and then I’ll go through your nonsense.

[@blipblorp6347]

Sounds like my thoughts

[@Methuselah5]

None of that matters. What matters is that you have a choice about what to do with existence. You decide how to deal with it. If you make the decision to deal with existence by getting drunk, then so be it. As long as that's what really makes you happy, or feels right for you. Is it really what you want?

[@Dodgerzden]

I've always been offended being called an alcoholic because I love myself too much and deserve better than to be called something derogatory like that. I prefer the phrase, "Grumbling bumbling mumbling stumbling drunken old fool". It's more accurate.

[@_BatCountry]

hahahaha! You're a master of irony.

[@cjh0751]

Yes

[@AboveEmAllProduction]

I've come to realise whenever I have money in my account I get drunk. So to keep me from getting drunk I try to waste my money. I've been gambling in online casinos. If I hit big I guess that's great but most of the time I lose all my money. For this month I have nothing left for 30 days. Which means 30 days free of alcohol. Since I can't control it myself this little trick helps. So what if I win big? That hadn't happen yet so I don't know what I'd do if I do win big.

[@_BatCountry]

Man you got ALL the addictions huh? A lot of people in recovery, me included, will tell you gambling is one of the most dangerous and weirdest addictions of all. I can assure you mate, while you're living like that, you'll never 'win big.' I think you need to speak to some specialists pretty urgently.

[@AboveEmAllProduction]

@@_BatCountry no I don't have any addictions luckily. I don't think you read the comment fully or maybe I was unclear 😋 anyway with 0 on my account means no beers so now I have a whole month of no alcohol to look forward to

[@Candyrock15]

You are deep in denial.

[@AboveEmAllProduction]

@@Candyrock15 nope, I'm alcohol free now for 30 days 😊👍

[@voteforhamsandwich1112]

9:47 - i strongly disagree with the usage of the word "all". Its just not the case.

[@VonDutchNL]

I binge drink every 2 weeks. Weird number, I know. But it has been much, much worse.. I'm 37 now, but i started to drink age 15. I used to drink only with friends until maybe 20. Then i started to drink alone in the evenings, maybe 2 times a week. It gradually progressed to 4/5 days a week.. but alwats at least 1 or 2 sober days a week. Now, for the last 5 years, I'm binge drinking once every 2 weeks.. but until the point i pass out, and say stupid things to my loved ones. I don't understand why i can't just fully stop drinking if i can make it without a problem through 2 weeks being sober. I'm not sure if im classified as an alcoholic.. but im definitely a problem drinker.

[@_BatCountry]

You need to try to get out of it before it gets worse. Because it does, and quickly. The late thirties are when you stop being able to drink like you used to: 37 is consequences territory. Keep us updated.

[@VonDutchNL]

@_BatCountry I will, I'm very aware I'm in the danger zone. Also I am very ashamed hurting my loved ones on a binge night. And I definitely don't ever want to experience the delirium tremens you described. I'll keep you posted.. and I'll even promise you I'll come back to this comment IF I'm binch drinking again. I'll be honest about it. Thank you again for sending me the picture btw, it will be a reminder for me where I DON'T want to be.

[@_BatCountry]

@@VonDutchNL We're all with you.

[@VonDutchNL]

@_BatCountry I'm binge drinking ugh. Sorry man. I'm so ashamed of myself, hateful of myself. I don't understand why I do it

[@_BatCountry]

Dry out, go to hospital. You know the drill. Where are you now?

[@newoization]

Ive gotta say bat. You look fucking awesome for 62. And they say alcohol ages you.

[@_BatCountry]

I feel so bad about making that joke. I'm 39.

[@7.Stunde-Weisheitskunde]

Thanks for sharing. On another level, you subsconsciously causing conflicts with your GF and your colleagues might also be a method of telling your conscious seld that you dont want all of this. that maybe your way of living as a domesticated male sapiens with office job and monogamy is not for you ? just a thought Im having for myself when I am doing this. In this layer of interpretation, the urge to sabotage and numb yourself with alcohol would be also an urge to break you awayy from all these human responsibilites and could subside once you entered a different, more free state of living?

[@_BatCountry]

Yeah I've thought about that. The conclusion I came to was that I was mistakenly automatically believing my subconscious was correct, when that's not guaranteed. Sure, it's true to say that my subconscious is encouraging me to run away for a more adventurous life - but just because that's true, it doesn't make it right. That's a great comment though mate, thank you! It's a thinker.

[@7.Stunde-Weisheitskunde]

@@_BatCountry I think I know what you mean. It is not safe to believe our subconscious urges are right if from the same pool of murky impulses stems the impulse to drink ourselves to death. True freedom after all is only the freedom to pick one's liabilities deliberately and wisely, I think. The same bond with the other person we might have the urge to run away from, at least in my case, made me survive, or at least contributed to my survival a great deal. Given my "selfish, emotionally unavailable sobriety condition" I personally declare myself unable to be in a romantic relationship, and if the other person decides to stay nontheless, it is her choice. Which is far from being a stable condition, but at least upfront. Greetings from Berlin!

[@pangeanshores]

@@_BatCountryjust because my subconscious is telling me it, doesn’t make it right.

[@robertbosson5223]

Dry drunk syndrome is called being human. Go easy on yourself.

[@_BatCountry]

Go easy, but be firm.

[@gerodwyer]

Mate - did you say in another video that you are 24? You sound like you have the life experiences of a 40 year old. You also speak like a much older person (if that makes sense). You also seem far wealthier / established than most 24 year olds (in this video you say you run your own marketing agency, in another you were offered a senior executive position in Berlin). I’m having trouble getting a picture of your background, do you come from wealth? If self made, how have you managed this whilst being an alcoholic and by such a young age?

[@_BatCountry]

@@gerodwyer I'm 39.

[@gerodwyer]

@ that makes a lot more sense. I found your videos recently and I think they’re great.

[@mattg4836]

You stopped itching your skin raw and bloody but you did nothing to stop what's causing the itchy skin.

[@Racy_michael]

Another great video

[@_BatCountry]

Thank you!

[@Gotchaaaaaa]

I know you thought it when you were talking about it. I think you are worthy of reassessing and perhaps rewriting some of the inaccessible language in the AA big book. I think you have it in you. Think about it again. You could set a new path. Like you did on the road x

[@_BatCountry]

haaaahahaha yeah it did cross my mind mate. I think I would like to, but it also feels like hubris, and ego is the enemy right?

[@johndobbs6379]

Jesus. Its not enough to just stop drinking!!! Listen, I am 6 weeks sober and my personal life is infinitely better. Just stay sober and ignore sayings like "dry drunk". It's no surprise thst people drink again with pressure put on them when they are sober.

[@_BatCountry]

I want you to come back in another 6 weeks and let us know if your opinion is the same then as it is now.

[@johndobbs6379]

@@_BatCountry of course it will be!!!

[@Em-im1yz]

Dry drunk...I understand now

[@rabbitguy337]

I want to drink lots and lots of

[@ChristinaUniverse-lq1ex]

I thought drunk syndrome was a person who stopped drinking,yet still behaves as of they are.maybe i was kinda right?

[@Zeuskazoo]

PWAUDAs of the world, unite

[@_BatCountry]

Hahahahaha i see the beginnings of a popular movement here...

[@2MDP]

interesting, this old pronounciation for church is in finnish language.

[@codyschwabe7697]

Just my opinion, but I believe that if one thinks there is even an iota of a chance of getting back on the booze train then one is not truly sober. Having a drink terrfies me more than anything else on this planet, including sharks.

[@_BatCountry]

what if the shark was drunk