Dear Myka Stauffer.. (reaction from a girl adopted from China)

[@astronutn]

As a Chinese adoptee, I think they need to delete or demonetize the videos with Huxley in them, and they should never be allowed to adopt again bc they clearly can’t reason beyond what will get lots of KZbin views.

[@alexjayne_]

YES YES YES!!!!

[@jvance6]

Yes. Not just this, Huxley made them rich. Someone needs to sue them for Huxley's share of the earnings, so he can get the therapies and care that he needs and deserves.

[@susangrote9231]

They owe Huxley hundreds of thousands of dollars.

[@foxgeirgesda]

Perfectly said.

[@hollyh5032]

@@susangrote9231 YESSSS!!! I agree 100%!!

[@annelenan3010]

She obviously adopted Huxley for the wrong reasons period.

[@alexjayne_]

Yes, I believe that somewhat... I try to be more positive but at this rate yeah

[@mrsdigz3718]

definitley! They also apperantely had a donation fund for adoption! Yeah they didnt care about the child they just wanted more views, clout and praise.

[@tammirybacki607]

So sad-for the little boy.

[@agostinamandarina]

they* there are two parents

[@Magnolia-qo8wr]

She deleted all of Huxleys pictures.

[@sarademiraj3808]

People are saying “how can you rehome and child, he’s not a puppy” but to be honest I would never rehome my dog...LET ALONE A CHILD

[@alexjayne_]

Amen!!

[@mybby1966]

That’s what I say also I would never rehome my dog who is my furbaby! You never hear anyone use the term rehome for a child! Its heartbreaking

[@danielledones5579]

I don’t think people are justifying the act of rehoming a pet, I think it’s more a comment on the fact that she’s using a term that is usually used to talk about a cat or dog, not a little boy. That shows how she really felt about him.As you said, I would never “rehome “ (I.e., get rid of because they’ve become inconvenient) one of my cats...let alone a child.

[@mrsdigz3718]

my dog with all her problems still with us after 13 years, i cant have her around my kids as she is old and blind but she still ours and we adjusted our home for her. No way im giving her up even tho I will be first to admit i thought about it many times.

[@Black_and_Green]

GIRL! I had a chihuahua that was sooo sweet.. to me..only. He would chase anyone down who came near me in an attempt to bite them. I tried training, twice! He had major anxiety issues from the breeder I picked him up from. When he almost bit my mom, I had to let him go. I STILL REGRET AND WONDER WHAT MORE I COULD HAVE DONE TO HELP HIM!

[@jillyjills1]

When I adopted my daughter I was told she would never develop beyond a four month old.. When I was told this, would I have let her go? Never in 1 million years. Just like my natural born children she was part of my heart. She is now an adult and instead of not developing beyond a four month old, she went on to take her A-levels in mediaeval history and English, has a job and writes articles for an international newspaper. This woman simply didn’t love Huxley, it’s a simple as that. Love doesn’t give up.

[@alexjayne_]

Wow that’s so inspiring! Yes of course, no normal parent would give up on their child.

[@jodeming5088]

Thank you for sharing. God bless you for loving & not giving up on your daughter. You should be very proud of her & her accomplishments, that were because of you. Take care.

[@RachelCameron87]

THAT PART!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@NickanM]

Unconditional love is the recipe behind a lot of miracles 💖

[@Sunflowers9191]

Exactly, love doesn’t solve it all but love for something does keep you fighting for someone.

[@josselinnefigueroa9394]

My issue with it is that she LOOKED for a kid with "issues" they wanted a baby with an illness. She stated it in like the first adoption journey video. She supposedly did her research and knew what they could and couldn't deal with blablabla. She's bad, once you adopt thats your baby you can't return or give him/her away. He must be so confused as to why he doesn't see his family anymore, poor baby...

[@virtuousme4096]

She knew a child with disabilities would bring more money. I hope that's not the case but that's what it seems like.

[@agnedragunaite3418]

Yeaah, she was looking for conditions that would give her the most attention from people, asking what conditions could look very hard but is easy to take care of

[@sanjanapatwari910]

Not just that she looked for a kid with special needs(some people just want to help these kids) but she looked for a kid with special needs that looks like they're too much work but actually aren't. CLEARLY her motives are wrong.

[@lunalove9395]

@@virtuousme4096 It definitely seems to be the case judging from what people who allegedly knew her said (in one of Without A Crystal Ball's videos). She seemed to base her entire brand around what she knew would be popular and bring in views, regardless of whether or not it was authentic.

[@charlotte7657]

@@lunalove9395 that's so messed up. Additionally to @Josselinne Figueroa's original comment, all the money they've earned through videos on him (or at least every video where his face is shown in either the thumbnail or throughout) should be given to him in a bank account they can't touch once it's been transferred over so that he can use that money once he turns 18. Or, at the very least, to his new adoptive parents to help with his uni fund etc.

[@sarahludwig7436]

They are also on parent pages asking about adopting another “special needs child who isn’t a lot to handle”. They should not be able to adopt again. They need investigated and people should be calling cps and filing reports against them.

[@sarahludwig7436]

And they also said that Huxley asked them to rehome him and this is what he wanted. He’s three with a special needs disability...?!

[@alexjayne_]

Yes a child cannot make a decision like that. You are correct!!

[@rosepuppy1984]

How much you wanna bet we’ll hear that they adopted another child? And how long do you think it would be before they abandoned him/her as well?

[@sigulfursdottir9817]

It's like they're want to adopt dog. Child isn't dog.

[@beccac6812]

Because they want the headline “Adopted a special needs child” but not the work i

[@vivvygipe9605]

I feel like, after this whole thing has transpired, that Myka and James should never be called Huxley's "former parents". They were never his parents.

[@prakritimahajan88]

Yesssss this needs to be said! I love this comment!

[@MagieeO]

„Myka & James, former business partners of Huxley, who was severely exploited by said business partners. Their initial contract stated the exchange of „being an adoptive parent“ in exchange for „love & support“. What actually happened was, the Steifflers secretly changed the deal to „money, views & riches“ in exchange for „abusing and scarring for life“ without Huxleys consent. After they fulfilled what they wanted out of the deal, they discarded him like trash“ is what it should be talked about as

[@cupcakequeen0617]

Mom and dad is a title that earned. That poor child is going to be traumatized and I hope he never acknowledges those two again.

[@zoeaguirre404]

PREACH

[@anjie3871]

I love this 😌 this is so true!

[@alexennever1132]

The fact that when they adopted him they “looked over” his disability “went in one ear and out the other”. Irresponsible.

[@Alexis-kd9tm]

And selfish!

[@MagieeO]

Right. And now she has the AUDACITY to say we didn‘t know he was gonna have so much issues, we weren’t prepared blla blla. Can you believe the nerve on these people? Its so aggravating.

[@MagieeO]

Nancy yeah I totally agree. The way they talked about “we didn’t know the issues he’s gonna have” really showed that they never even went into this adoption with the mindset of seeing & loving him as one of their own children

[@ddieter603]

It's possible that the professionals foresaw the outcome, and tried to discourage the Stauffers based on what they saw.

[@MsVaughnTV]

As a biological mother of a little girl with autism (and someone who is considering growing my family through adoption), I couldn’t imagine turning my back on the challenges of motherhood in this way.

[@eloisegauci]

Preach! My little brother has autism and he is my best friend, my family and I absolutely couldn’t imagine life without him. You’re a great mother, power to you 💕💕

[@MagieeO]

That‘s what she initially claimed too. So sad that she didn‘t really mean it 😞

[@dollardollarbudget664]

When adopting Huxley They had 3 biological children (1 son almost the exact same age as Huxley) and then after knowing of Huxley's needs she got pregnant and had another son. That - is - when - IT GOT TOO HARD. Only After their 4th biological child was born - at that point they could not "handle" Huxley any more.

[@alexjayne_]

Yes, I agree!!! I noticed that too after watching more videos

[@barbibutton9619]

Exactly!!

[@dreamiet]

But they duct taped his thumps because he sucked his thumps. They have other kids who are older, but they allowed the older kids to suck thier thumps. If one more child is too much, would that mean they would get rid of thier other son if she got pregnant again? Thats not an acceptable answer. If its too much to handle than use contraception. Before the china adoption she didnt have that much subscribers. She ask for funding for him. After profiting off his video, they got a new car, a new watch, a new home, and they didnt want to fund his therapy. Not a good excuse to get rid of a kid.

[@dilyaturadjanova5073]

Yes,that's right...

[@hannypressley343]

@@alexjayne_ don't watch their videos cause they make money off views.

[@michaelclark4113]

As someone who has autism, I feel disgusted at their actions.

[@PlaystationSimmer]

Same here

[@Rhodaaa_k]

I don’t have autism but I was treated differently from my sister very

[@sophiagonzales8974]

Same except I’m thankful I wasn’t put up for adoption

[@sherrimignot4369]

My husband got sick on our honeymoon. I mean really sick. An illness that lasted just over 19 years and included 100's of hospitalfixations, a heart transplant, kidney failure, diabetes, life support at the end. I was 24 years old when we got married. Did I run away? NO! Did I love him any less? NO! Was it hard? YES, YES, YES!!! Did I love him no matter what? HELL YES! I am sick that a child obtained for financial gain only is being disregarded as trash. There's a HUGE difference between me and the Stauffer's. I'm STRONG! I take commitment serious. I love with all my heart. And I fight - boy did I fight for my husband - for the ones I love. Shame on James and Myka. I pray that Huxley is in the arms of a new, better and stronger Mommy and Daddy.

[@-esmee-2697]

Awh this made me cry🥺

[@JKGINS]

I got very sick a year after meeting my partner. He stayed with me and we’ve been together almost 9 years. His family wanted him to break up with me and told me I ruined his life. I’m lucky

[@courtneylovesmaccompact9047]

Damn! What the hell did he catch on vacation?

[@MlleGaufre]

I hope your husband is better now. And you both stay together 😔🙏

[@alanna4520]

Sherri, this broke my heart. That is an incredible amount of stress and responsibility to take on at such a young age. I truly hope he has found peace. You are such a strong person and he was meant to meet you. ♡♡

[@ThenVersusNow_]

My adopted sister is my sister period. To me it is no different, biological or not, no difference. It was never about Huxley, and always about Myka. The doctor wanted to discourage the adoption for Huxley's sake to prevent further trauma. Myka was so self-centered she could not grasp that and did not even consider what this would do to Huxley. The thought of this family profiting off of this makes me so angry. After seeing how mean they were towards the child I am glad he is not with them anymore. I wish they had never done this, but my hope is that Huxley will find a better family that loves him.

[@alexjayne_]

Yes, I agree. It was very selfish of them to proceed with the adoption.

[@jadenfarris2527]

it was really nice to hear this from your perspective, i can’t imagine ever even thinking about literally getting rid of my child

[@alexjayne_]

Totally agree Jaden!!

[@couldntthinkofaname7108]

Thank you now I kinda understand and I get why people are mad

[@loriadams7724]

Huxley is non verbal, so he can’t even voice how he feels about all of this. I don’t understand the thinking behind relinquishing your child. The Stauffer’s have 4 other biological children, including an infant born after they brought Huxley home from China. I can’t imagine making that choice.

[@TheTrippyCity]

I have a theory that they did not do their research on autism and how severe it can be. Non-Verbal is a whole different boat. Maybe she only knew autism from television and movies, assumming he would be like Rainman or Sheldon. One of most common misconceptions I hear about autism is that they will all be genius.

[@username00009]

Barbara Jean she’s a nurse so she should have known. However, it isn’t all that uncommon for kids to not speak at two years old so isn’t it possible that they didn’t k ow he was non-verbal?

[@avasarchives5832]

Kira Hill true! all they did was exploit Huxley and once they realized that he was “too different”, they showed their true colors and gave up on him AND gave him away. it’s honestly sickening.🥺

[@majorphysics3669]

@@username00009 Some kids with autism eventually develop some communication skills, some reverse backwards. My brother is nonverbal on the far side of the spectrum, when he was 5 or 6 he had a couple words like banana and pizza, but now he's 20 and has zero words. Also, with autism, you can throw "its not uncommon" or "its common" out the window lol

[@hamper22]

@@TheTrippyCity That’s because people do realise people with Autism can have learning difficulties on top of Autism.

[@ellamiller6889]

my brother was adopted while he was fighting cancer. he beat it and has been well for 10 years! i hope Huxley has a bright future

[@fireflymiesumae]

She had enough money for a nanny or nurse to take care of him if needed but she just didn't want him in her life. Now she wants everyone to pretend he didn't exist. My feeling's are that she adopted that sick child hoping to make money off him then for him to die eventually so she could make a tearful video but when he didn't she gave him away but may the grace of God keep him alive and well ❤️

[@alexjayne_]

Interesting view! I could see that... I wouldn’t want to think that way but it could be a possibility.

[@AyakoTachi]

Seriously. She could **easily** have afforded a special needs au pair to raise him in their home, stuck them in a MIL suite, etc., saved face, and maintained the cash flow he provided. She must've REALLY wanted to get rid of him. When she referred in previous videos to the brain tumor/wheelchair, I cringed and thought the same. When it became clear that he was going to be around a long time, and non-verbal, she was done. I bet she's had lawyers working on the dissolution for over a year.

[@MagieeO]

She did have enough money. She did because of him, he made her that money. But she didn‘t wanna spend any of it ON HIM. She chose a 70$ treatment for him cuz the 700$ treatment was too expensive. Because God forbid they would‘ve chosen the expensive one and then they maybe couldn’t have afforded their Bali vacation

[@victoriamalone6184]

I’m a home health nurse and I take care of kids with severe disabilities. You don’t need medical training to take care of these kids, because if you truly care you’ll learn and do what you need to. There are so many people who can help with a child with disabilities but it requires sacrifice and if you can manage that sacrafice you shouldn’t have kids in the first place. You NEVER know what’s gonna happen, a perfectly healthy kid could get a brain injury and require help for the rest of their life. Are you gonna rehome them?

[@Mysonismybestfriend]

There is enough evidence through her own spoken words to warrant this claim. Prayers for Huxley!

[@BlondieBrand]

I can’t even imagine the life-long trauma that this is going to cause this child😢 I hope he finds a family that will accept him and love him exactly how he is💔

[@alexjayne_]

Yes I wish him the very best! None of this was his fault.

[@lazygudetama2283]

Girl you were too nice. There is no excuse for them to “return” him. They used him to get money and they deserve all of the hate they’re getting. Whenever you adopt or is having a kid you never know what you’re really gonna get fully. 🙄 this really makes me mad and I’m raging. They 100% need to be cancel.

[@alexjayne_]

I am much more mad but in this video I wanted to be a little more nice I guess! I agree with you.

[@Joy-qw3wm]

Agreed! I was adopted as a small baby ,but had totally bonded with my parents ,that by 15 months ,i had to be allowed home early (Minor hospital op and stay) ,because they told them i was pining for them badly.So glad your experience has been so positive ,Good to have this opinion too.Take care ,stay safe xx

[@neabblessed]

When you adopt you don’t get money. That’s only if you foster

[@davidmorgan758]

Donnie B They’re referring to how much money the Stauffers made off of videos and sponsored posts with Huxley in them, not to mention all the videos they made about the adoption process

[@dreaming9to5]

They have 4 bio children!!! She gave up Huxley around her having another bio baby.

[@alexjayne_]

Yeah I know it’s so sad

[@Murdermagictricks]

She's pregnant now?

[@staceycline4371]

@@Murdermagictricks no she had a child

[@jules1011]

They decided to have more biological children after bringing Huxley into their family. They’re so hurt the family fled to Bali for a vacation. They should be ashamed of themselves, that baby brought her subscribers which translates into money. Shame! If there’s anyone still watching them you should be ashamed of yourself also

[@joymitchem5081]

I still watch them. I love their family. Apparently the only one. You could tell how upset they were on the video.

[@Veronika-yq8xw]

I will probably still watch them. And no, im not ashamed of myself

[@thedolcetto81]

@@Veronika-yq8xw if I may ask, why do you guys watch them?

[@HannahRose19960]

@@Veronika-yq8xw your watching fake people who tf adopts a child with disabilities just to gain viewers and then dumps him like trash by rehoming him. They're sick in their heads

[@LL-yb6xl]

I agree. All Huxley Videos should all come off their channels. Money put in a trust for Huxley.

[@alexjayne_]

Yes the trust idea is great so he can get his needs met!

[@encantodesol]

Beautifully put. As a child psychologist, I must say you are very well-spoken and you show more maturity than the lady who "re-homed" her child. God bless your heart.

[@charlesfisher1934]

God bless Huxley. I hope he finds a better family someone who really cares. I have a pet cat and I would never let Meme go.

[@davex66gamingandmorefuncon88]

Charles Fisher myka did care about him a lot

[@tabbyandjackson5395]

Yeah she cared about that paycheck from him

[@fosterrie6435]

Davex66 gaming and more fun Content if she did she would have tried harder

[@davex66gamingandmorefuncon88]

Donna The Second i guess so

[@soju81]

I’m a transracial adoptee, born in Korea and raised in America. My friend is good friends with a friend of Myka. Myka’s friend said there is much more to the story and it doesn’t make the couple look good so that’s part of the reason why we’ll probably never hear the full story. I find what Myka and her husband did to be completely selfish and despicable. They raised money online and received money from the videos on Huxley. I cannot believe they “rehomed” their former child. Most people wouldn’t even “rehome” their pet. Clearly they were in this for the wrong reasons. I do think part of them did care for Huxley but after watching some of their videos, it is clear they favored their biological kids over him. What’s even more frustrating is their crying, whining and begging for grace. They say they care about Huxley’s privacy so they won’t share more. They didn’t care about his privacy when they made money off his videos so why now?

[@Hip.Username]

This might be weird to share but I saw the word transracial and got confused because of people saying transracial isn't a thing and using it to refer to people feeling like a different race, so I googled and actually learned a lot. I'm legitimately angry that the term transracial is being misused so badly

[@CaitlinChaosXD]

They actually did know that he had autism. She made a video where she said a doctor sat them down and told them that it was going to be very difficult and a ton of work constantly and her EXACT words from that video are “it went in one ear and out the other, we could never return our son” LIKE WHAT

[@lauramolina3337]

Mama Moon0609 and even if they didn’t know, if you have a biological child and he/she ends up having autism, that means that you can rehome your child? I think no! You love the child and take care of him/her to the best of your habilities!

[@manalalam1]

There is NO excuse for this family. Poor boy thought he had a loving family. How can they deprive him of that? He might not trust the next family 😢😢😢

[@sabrinakrisb4672]

Film your children all you want, but there needs to be laws against making profit off of filming children on youtube.

[@alexjayne_]

I agree to an extent. I think it should be the same law as child actors!

[@sabrinakrisb4672]

@@alexjayne_ At the least, there needs to be some kind of regulation of profiting off filming children on youtube. If not were only going to have more Myka Stauffers

[@pattihainline1573]

I agree their children bottom line! Its not those kids choice & it's not them going to Bali & owning expensive houses driveing expensive new cars with designer purses & clothes really comon people stop watching this garbage do it for the kids! Boycott boycott and especially the Stauffers! 😵😵😵😵😵

[@-esmee-2697]

Absolutely true! This should not happen again!

[@calmdown9869]

That’s an amazing introduction to have. “I’m a Chinese adopted girl with 2 gay moms but I’m not gay.” Like I already get to know so much about you lol

[@flowingover]

Myka wanted a special needs child and said they could help him. But she never had a connection with him, you can see her husband was the one bonding with Huxley but she is the one that Controls everything in that family. And if it was sooooo hard taking care of Huxley Why would you get a baby in the mix. Everything for KZbin views, you vant say someone is your son and then give up on him because he is too difficult for you to handle. Im so disgusted!!

[@ddixon5896]

Having a child with special needs myself, the statement that they made that a doctor recommended he be "rehomed" is honestly ridiculous. I have a very hard time believing that. There's a shortage of families already. Families who are living in poverty that have children with special needs. Those families aren't being suggested to give their kids away. A doctor has never suggested that to me. They had the financial means to give this boy everything he needed. I question if possibly Huxley was removed and they had no say because of their lack of care or abuse.

[@alexjayne_]

Yeah, it makes me want to know what doctor told them that! Just crazy. You are doing an amazing job!!

[@ddixon5896]

Alex Jayne thank you! 😘

[@-esmee-2697]

Exactly omg! No docter would say that😦 as an adoptee i just know that there is more to their story....

[@cocktailgame6237]

I'm adopted too, and it hurts to hear a story like this, there could be a lot of reasons why an adopted should/will be cancelled, but their reasons are the most nonsense, if it was their biological child then they wouldn't do this, we all know that.... My heart hurts for little Huxley he might be so confused and scared, cause adoption IS traumatising and going through that experience more than once is damaging, especially if the child needs special/extra help and time

[@alexjayne_]

YES! Poor guy can’t even talk and express his feelings...

[@joycetheobald1717]

@@alexjayne_ so true. Poor Huxley was non verbal and only a toddler and yet she now claims he wanted to be rehomed! I can't stand their fake, greedy, child exploiting channels and hope they get dumped as well!

[@shannonhensley2942]

She has other children to think of too. Nobody knows how it will work out till their in the home. Unfortunately he did not live with the family until it was finalized and that was the important part. Its not just her here. It was everyone involved in this.

[@-esmee-2697]

YES YES YES! omg i cant imagine what huxley is going through and IM ADOPTED💀shits crazyyyy

[@-esmee-2697]

Today is literally the day i got adopted 18 years ago💀😌 so we always celebrate that but i cant stop thinking about huxley and his situation, absolutely heartbreaking 🥺

[@jinniebread7033]

The reason I followed them was just because of huxley. I want to adopt myself so I looked up to her as an 'inspiration'. I cannot imagine how can people be so cruel and decided to rehome their son. I cant imagine what Huxley must be feeling.. he was with them for years.. can u imagine being forced to leave your family.. I burst into tears everytime I think about it. I'm heartbroken

[@candacecooley9854]

My heart breaks as well. I cry thinking of how scared he is and what he’s thinking. They’re all he knows. I know in the long run it may be best- he deserves someone who will never give up and give him unconditional love- not conditional.

[@pawsitivelifeproject9268]

@Sabine de Vos This Gathered Nest is incredible, I love that family so much!

[@birdyashiro1226]

😭😭😭

[@lordenigma6343]

The China adoption video was recommended on KZbin to me 3 or so years ago I think. That’s the first time I ever heard of this family, and my initial thought was that it’s cringey to show those intimate first time meetings on camera and that there was no chemistry between the mother/father and child. Fast forward, and here we are. What a weird world.

[@alexjayne_]

I saw the short version and yeah I couldn’t see the passion between them

[@suras8984]

They did know they were getting a child with special needs. They sought out a child with special needs. They had 3 doctors assess him prior to the adoption.

[@alexjayne_]

Yes, and now I think that was terrible they went against what people were saying!

[@melissadean6874]

I would just like to say that my son was born premature and passed away of a brain bleed. I would do anything in this world to have him back no matter what if he were just here with me. I can't imagine giving back an adopted child. He should have been treated and loved the same as their biological children that I guarantee they would not give away if they suffered with the same illnesses as Huxley.

[@dianaay6131]

Exactly what I am saying, it is like my parents, who had and expected a healthy girl for all her life, threw my away after I got Encephalitis; because they didn't "sign up for it". They didn't. They did all they could to to help me and support me

[@alexjayne_]

Yess! Your parents are amazing people and you’re so strong ❤️❤️

[@xNeariax]

First off: I'm glad you have such loving parents. :) Now secondly though, personally, I would disagree about "who signed up for what". I wish people would stop saying/thinking that. I know you specifically meant it in a different way, but generally, it is used as an excuse far too often. As a half-way intelligent, responsible adult you should be aware that if you have or adopt a child (or even a pet) bad things can ALWAYS happen down the line. There can always be accidents or illnesses in the future, it's the way of life. If you decide to have/adopt another living being, you take on the responsibility to care for them no matter what, knowing it might become difficult in the future. You do sign up for all of it, the moment you commit to that decision. If you don't know that or are not ready to make that commitment you honestly have no business being a parent (or even a pet owner).

[@mimi-yt7gq]

When they adopted Huxley they shopped for a special needs boy! They said it did not matter what was wrong that they where good with all but 1% of special needs I wonder what the 1% was? They where looking for a child that would work on our heart string and it worked fans gave money, fans tuned in everyday, fans bought the sponsored products it is all sick!

[@alexjayne_]

I know, it’s very confusing when they knew what they were getting into. I have no words 😞

[@Everloveme77]

The fact they shopped for a special needs child and then claimed it was "too much" was terrible. They could only adopt from two different countries because they had kids already (3 I believe) and she did not suffer from fertility issues. So most places will not adopt because of these things in hopes the adoption is more successful. So it was terrible to see they made these choices and then when it was not "perfect" they gave up. To add she also got pregnant again. Which many assume that added to them giving up. Either way my heart is with Huxley and as a mother with a son with special needs, I truly hope he finds a home that is able and willing to love him! He deserves so much better than that situation.

[@MissTopDJ007]

My money is on appearance. It's because it would not fit her "aesthetics" standards.

[@TJMarj]

Good on you for sharing this! These people are a disgrace. My heart breaks for the little boy. They are playing victim?! “It’s so hard for us blah blah” shut up you’ve just traumatised a little boy for the rest of his life.. congratzzz

[@alexjayne_]

Amen! Yes I agree with you!!

[@strawbebbiejam]

couldn't have said it better. who said raising a child would be easy and glamorous?

[@lilysyaya1]

Thank you for your insightful information on this sensitive issue. My husband and I are the parents (not biological) to an amazing 14 year old daughter who is on the spectrum. Life for us was changed the day this bundle of joy came into our lives. Yes there have been issues but we had issues with our biological daughter too who was not on the spectrum but had medical problems her age now is 34 married and a mum. At no point in time did we consider giving either child up though it’s been a financial strain at times especially as we get no support from our Governments NDIS funding as we were lost in the system. We will always be our daughters parents and do everything possible to help miss 14 to become a caring responsible adult no matter how hard it is the good time’s far outweighs the hard times. Our daughter is kind,friendly, generous, forgiving and loving not judgmental at all. That’s all we can ask for is a good hearted person and we have her. I find what these people did abhorrent as a parent and also as a human being.

[@johannacannella909]

Read about this yesterday and I was shocked. Thank you for opening up about your own experience.

[@alexjayne_]

Thank you for listening! If my story can help anyone I’m happy to share it! 💙

[@judyboyle9232]

You are such a wise woman. Thanks for sharing your life!

[@catchtwenty22]

Ran through so many Stauffer thumbnails. Saw yours and I was like this girl is the mvp. Thank you for the commentary. ❤️🙏🏻

[@alexjayne_]

Thank you for watching. I’m glad part of my story could be told because some people can’t relate and see how bad this is.

[@CathTG18]

Thank you for putting your mom on your vid. I really appreciated it even tho I couldn't sleep, it triggered me. I have work to do obviously. I just appreciate your journey and appreciate your mother's UNDYING love and support. That's the way it should be. I'm so happy to know about you and your mama.

[@jesseeec]

I pray that the stauffers was the last traumatizing phase of his life. Pls god help this little guy out. Please let some light shine on him. Please ensure he is safe and well and has a bright path ahead of him. ❤️🙏

[@alexjayne_]

Amen 👍🏼

[@annehorrigan570]

Amen...💜

[@Mysonismybestfriend]

Amen

[@janabug68]

Thank you for sharing your perspective as it's a very needed one. As somone who works with kids, this whole thing saddens me. Huxley is non-verbal and he's probably very traumatized. He was probably traumatized before getting there and now even more so. They seem to have wanted a child with special needs to exploit and, as you pointed out, they had resources and could have gotten him help to give him the best life possible. I hope Huxley finds a family willing to give him the life he deserves.

[@tamaramoscowitz1241]

These are deplorable people and need to be canceled from youtube and tik tok.

[@alexjayne_]

I do think canceling is not right. They need to take accountability for their actions.

[@liza6162]

I hope you get to learn more about your Chinese culture, it’s such a rich and beautiful culture with so much history, there’s so much to learn! I’m american born chinese and I too didn’t really feel too connected to my heritage, I definitely went through some identity crisis of sorts like most asians Americans ...until I grew up and started to learn more about chinese culture and I appreciate it so much more now, I’m so proud to be Chinese!

[@michellewright9133]

You are very well spoken! Thank you for being an advocate for this little guy! I truly appreciated you explaining all this! You should Do another video now that you have more facts!

[@alexjayne_]

Aw Thank you! I might do one with my parents in the future.

[@michellewright9133]

Alex Jayne that would be a great idea to get your parents perspective too!! ❤️

[@mariaphares4783]

I'm adopted as well and a mother. I have a son who is developmentally delayed so this hits home. I also wonder if they would give up on their biological child? When you adopt a child, you have a life long commitment! Yes, it's freaking hard! But you are their parent! Never in a million years would I ever think to give up my kids no matter how hard it may be! My heart is broken for that little adorable boy! 💔

[@alexjayne_]

Absolutely! And they were not forced to have another child!!

[@mariaphares4783]

@@alexjayne_ adoption is already traumatic enough, (leaving your country, your culture, your language, coming to a new world, calling strangers mommy and daddy), let's add more abandonment issues. I wish I could give that little boy a hug and the love he deserves. ❤

[@juliemarchant7667]

I loved hearing your opinion on this! I second everything and as a fellow adoptee I resonated with your opinion a lot! 👏🏼

[@alexjayne_]

Thank you! I try to see both sides but I don’t think this has a good side at all.

[@Sickle_cell_warrior85]

It was nice that you shared your opinions and experiences with the world. Nice to see honesty and unscripted videos. Thanks😊

[@jadamurray8183]

Loved the video, it would be great to see your mums’ reaction to the story and their take on it!

[@alexjayne_]

Yes! That would be a good idea!!!

[@maddietsou2776]

This story has brought up so many thoughts and feelings for me, and I’ve really been wanting to talk about them. I first want to say I do not support their family’s decision to rehome this child and give him to a new family. My sister was also adopted from China and she is JUST AS MUCH my sister as my biological brother. There is no difference, and I can’t think of any circumstances in which we would ever give her away to another family. I agree with what you said: when you adopt a child, you are making a COMMITMENT to that child, to be their family from then on. However, I am also an ABA therapist and I work with young children with Autism and severe problem behaviors every day. Because of that, I can say that I do understand if the family felt that they just did not have the capacity to take care of the child, or if they felt that their other siblings were being hurt by the situation. My coworkers and I are regularly hurt by children under 5 years old, from open wound bites to concussions. Some parents genuinely cannot provide the help and support that would best help these children on their own. That being said, I STILL do not support them choosing to rehome the child. If anything, they should have gotten him the help he needed or found a good residential facility that could give him that help, but he would still be their child and they could visit and support him in that way. I also feel SICK thinking about the way this child and his story have been exploited by the parents for years, and that they would still have the audacity to completely rehome him is crazy to me. I would think they would have the resources to get him the help that he needs without having to give him to a new family. Overall, I think this was handled so poorly, and more than anything, my heart aches for Huxley. I truly hope that his new family is going to be wonderful and can provide him with the help that he needs (I believe I read that his new mother has professional training to work with children with developmental disabilities, so I am optimistic about that).

[@disneyprincessintraining2725]

Dude, I wouldn’t even be willing to rehome my cat, let alone one of my children. It doesn’t matter adopted or biological, they’d be mine and my babies. That said, I have a question. I speak Mandarin Chinese and as such have considered adopting from China. Would it be helpful for a kid if an adopted parent was able to speak Mandarin or would it make things more difficult for the child?

[@piiinkDeluxe]

as far as i know, and i am no professional by any means, it would help them a lot. Especially in the beginning. it is a cultural shock anyway and this will make them feel less foreign and they would be able to communicate and understand from the start. it is also good for them when they learn where they come from and learn about the culture of their home country. if you have other kids, let them take part as well.

[@Hollyfae]

Thanks for sharing your take. My heart hurts for this little boy. When you chose to become a parent - bio or adoptive - you have to take that commitment seriously. You are that child's shelter from all storms. As a mom, the idea of giving any of my kids away - regardless of their issues (autism and epilepsy) - is the stuff of nightmares. I can't imagine how they sleep at night. Hopefully the little guy will end up with people who have compassion for him, it doesn't sound like that was the case previously (based on this situation) Sidenote: my 8 year old son just popped his head in to see what i was watching and said, " SHE IS BEAUTIFUL." Nice to be reminded :)

[@pennarmstrong7965]

I'm heartbroken. I'm adopted too, and it really hurts to hear a story like this. They need to delete and demonetize the videos with Huxley in them.

[@-esmee-2697]

Yhe im adopted to and was literally mind blown when i heard about this from my sister, like wtf is their problem fr absolutely disgusted by them🤮

[@IndiaASMR]

Same :(

[@alannashea6344]

I loved watching this video and looking at your perspective. I myself am a mother of a child with autism level 3, he’s 7 and nonverbal and not potty trained so he’s very similar to sweet Huxley. This hurt me knowing she rehomed this child because she would’ve never done that to her biological kids. I could’ve never imagined giving my son away, it’s not even an option and I feel that should’ve been the same for Huxley.

[@handfulofgames4666]

Thank you for sharing your perspective!

[@alexjayne_]

💜💜💜

[@rukia1216]

Hi Alex, My husband and I had a daughter with profound birth defects that we were not aware of born in 2013. She was born with esophageal atresia with TEF, heart murmur, dilated left kidney and brain damage aka cerebral palsy. Not once did we think of giving her up. Not once! She spent 4 months almost in the nicu where she coded twice. She’s almost 7 and has had 40 surgeries. We didn’t know beforehand of her issues but even if we did we would have kept her. She will need medical care until the day she passes away and that will never deter us from loving and keeping her.

[@AlexaPaige]

just breaks my heart 💔

[@alexjayne_]

I know 😞

[@HenaHamz]

At first I had no idea who these people are until I realized I used to watch Stauffer Garage. Not really sure why Myka is the only one being cancelled, it most likely wasn't only her decision to abandon Huxley. Also, it was very illuminating to see your perspective, this video was very important to anyone who doesn't think "rehoming" (or whatever she wants to call it) is wrong. When you adopt a child, you don't get to decide you don't want them anymore.

[@Mysonismybestfriend]

Oh yeah he’s a pos for sure. Need to be cancelled

[@hell-o-kitty24]

The issue at hand is horrible. I too have a child with ASD, a child conceived by fertility specialists. He is an only child. People always ask, why don't you have another. Well why? Because having a child with special needs is very very difficult. It requires lots of time and tons of patience. Others that have multiple children often don't give attention to their other children because the child with ASD requires lots of time for therapies and often the household revolves the child's emotional needs. Couples that have a child with special needs have higher chances of divorce. It puts lots of stress in the couple. It is very very stressful. You loose friends, relatives and often do not get invited to social gatherings' due to the emotional meltdowns of your child, that last for a long period of time up 1hr. Your child doesn't fit in with typical peers as they get older...its a painful. Going back to the issue at hand, adopting....international or local is a very honorable service. Getting educated and networking on resources to help the family cope with all the necessary challenges.

[@hotscorpiorouge]

You are such a beautiful, intelligent and insightful young woman. Thank you for sharing your insights and views on this situation! x

[@redbonbon9287]

I don't want to repeat what everyone else already stated, I just want to say that I feel that Huxley is definitely better off with someone else who cares about him, and takes care of his needs. I am aware of stress that this child is exposed to, but imagine how this family would treat him if there wasn't an option to return him, since they weren't capable of meeting his needs and handled themselves the way they did. I read a comment that Myika wrote on fb asking what to do about Huxley's fixation with food, expressing that it creeps out her husband, and the rest of the children- and this was in 2019. Imagine how mistreated he would be having stayed with them, since she would get annoyed with his needs and duck taped his finger because he is sucking his thumb.

[@krzlcve]

tysm for bringing attention to it :((( it's such a horrible situation

[@sunrise7187]

Omg this story/case was in the news... i live in Germany.

[@alexjayne_]

Wow! I did hear it went international! Crazy!

[@sylvia8112]

The same in UK, I think they must be in complete shock it went so worldwide.

[@thehustlinhomemaker1467]

There are MULTIPLE videos of Myka talking to her viewers about the medical reports and information that had up front about his health issues..SHE WAS INFORMED. Well informed. She has an entire video about it saying quote "even if he needs medical care our entire lives we have already bonded with him without even knowing him yet". She did this purely for profit.

[@prerza]

Much love to you alex. My heart breaks for Huxely :(

[@alexjayne_]

Mine too 💔

[@themuffonator9262]

thank you for sharing your perspective on this. i have a special needs brother and as hard as that is, my parents would never give him up.

[@r.frosales3232]

You wont even see huxley's pics on her instagram. They really want to forget him or anything connected with him 🥺

[@sharlie-kaybarlow6933]

Parents maternal instinct is to help your child to give your child every opportunity to thrive and support them. How horrible to throw away an innocent child.

[@megvoss7707]

Something isn’t right with the situation. The authorities are now involved. “Re homing” an adopted child is basically black market adoption. Zero regulations. I’m adopted (clearly not from another country) My parents both worked full time. I wasn’t born with delays, but born from a 14 yr old addict. So I had my own set of issues. Somehow they figured it out.

[@MsKrankshaft]

Thank you for your down to earth attitude and relatable personality. You've gained a new subscriber and I wish you all the best and look forward to discovering new and old content 🤗👍

[@joycem751]

It’s funny how they put adoption journeys “Private “ and there was only 2 videos available

[@alexjayne_]

Wow!!

[@marie01ism]

Go to Myka’s instagram. Its like she never posted a single pic of Huxley or did she deleted them all? Either way, its like denying his entire existence

[@sarahludwig7436]

Carol ine she deleted every video with him or about him, and any photo with him in it.

[@marie01ism]

Sarah Ludwig just wow!! Its like he never existed to her. She even change her status to mother of 4 now

[@JustSitAndLaugh]

A lot of people got annoyed when the videos were still up though because they said she was still making money off of him...

[@frogman4840]

Honestly, this is the kind of stuff that terrifies me. I am not adopted, but I am in a situation that could easily put me into the foster care system if the right people found out. I see a lot of myself in Huxley, since I have multiple mental illnesses/disorders; the big "scary" one is OSDD-1B, along with just being a teenager could label me as a "difficult" child to adopt. I think what this family did was incredibly immature and irresponsible, and I hope that Huxley will find a good home.

[@kristinaarredondo9162]

Go watch without a crystal ball she knows alot and also talked to someone close to them they both are evil I never comment but this just really got to me I was adopted I had alot of issues growing up

[@alexjayne_]

Wow I’m so sorry you went though a lot Kristina. I have been watching her videos today! She very informative.

[@kestendavis8753]

I just wanted to say thank you for this video and for the video that you shot after this with your mom. I found it very interesting to hear your take on this incident. Having gone through a failed adoption attempt with someone very near and dear to my heart I cannot imagine giving up a child after bonding with them for 3 years. In the course of the adoption that wasn't my very dear friend spent a week... just a week... with this baby. My friend was adopting as a single parent and the baby turned out to have severe disabilities and require 24/7 care by someone who was licensed. The adoption that wasn't broke everyone involved for a while. I can't even imagine breaking a bond after having a child for years. That child was in our lives for a week. My friend did go on to successfully adopt a child that they are able to care for fully. But none of us will ever forget the adoption that wasn't. It was probablyThe hardest decision my friend had ever had to make in her life but it was the necessary choice. She made it through with the support of her agency.

[@trackrat7424]

I think in the long run, Huxley got lucky to get away from those narcissists.

[@kss51282]

Thank you! As an adoptee myself I had very similar questions and thoughts.

[@davex66gamingandmorefuncon88]

But why 😭😭😭huxley is gonna have a hard time now I know it was hard I respect them but if I adopted a baby I wouldn’t give up on them even if couldn’t care for them properly I would try my hardest Huxley must be so sad

[@alexjayne_]

Same!!! I agree 💯

[@beccalynn239]

My heart hurts for this babyboy. I have a nephew with SEVERE autism. He can't walk, talk, use the bathroom on his own, or even feed himself. He is the sweetest most loving kid you could ever meet!!! Special needs kids are different, and clearly this family wasn't great enough to have him. God please look over this child.. please make sure he's in a safe space. Please let him know he IS loved!!! Amen

[@dizdane5549]

they know what they are up against before adoptin Huxley..oh & their long holiday to Bali, check that out. Thanks😁

[@alexjayne_]

Oh I know! I found out about that after I made this video. That’s just awful!

[@pepsidude2007]

Hi adopted here too First time watcher and new subscriber!! Now going to bing watch yer videos!!

[@StopPlayingAtLife]

What brand deals? Most have already pulled out or said they wouldn’t ever work with Myka again...thank God they’re not just as sick as those people are.

[@alexjayne_]

Yes I know that... I meant they were getting them with Huxley and could afford treatments and therapies for him at the time.

[@cmwillisful]

Well yeah, because the consumers would dump THEM.

[@layplum]

I’m adopted from Russia, and trust me I got plenty of problems but my parents would NEVER have even thought of giving me up. That’s not an option. When you adopt a child, that child is yours. I have 3 adopted children myself now, and the thought of giving any one of them away makes me sick. Those are my babies.

[@reaganmary]

them doing "research" was probably them banging their heads on keyboards and calling it research.

[@MissLaceyNoel]

My family adopted a pug 13 years ago who had some behavioral issues. He ended up ruining all our apts..my mom was going to rehome him and when she found him a home she couldn't do it. We ended up keeping him till his dying day. We spent money we didn't even have to try to save him. We just lost him last month. We would do it all over again. You shouldn't ever give up on someone you loves not a dog, not a human..nothing. I hope that the child is okay and hope his new family doesn't give up on him. So sad. 😔

[@jesscollazo]

Great video! I just can’t understand how they could do this to their son! Like I highly doubt she would do this to her biological children!!

[@hollyh5032]

If she got more views and money she might do it to her bio kids.

[@alexjayne_]

Yeah I couldn’t see her do it with her bio kids either.

[@TheVeiledMystery]

the hardest youtube story i have ever watch, crying river right now and my heart got broken into pieces like i couldnt breath! huxley is so precious and to go through all of these is just so traumatizing.

[@christinakav5029]

I have five natural children and haven’t ‘rehomed ‘ any of them!

[@lindastrandquist2429]

Might have wanted.to at points but would never have gone through with it. Just frustration in a situation

[@annehorrigan570]

Maybe "rehome" them to Grams for the day, just for a break mama!✌💜😆

[@autumnevans5991]

I was adopted locally roughly 5 years ago, I wasn't in a system, let alone a whole other country. I had a woman come into my life who acted like she cared and loved me and she took care of me for a while. When we separated, it was hard on me. I'm a 17 year old. I cannot imagine how hard it would be for a nonverbal CHILD to have a family presented and then taken away. Especially when you don't comprehend the situation, nor do you realise that the way they've treated you was wrong on so many accounts. I hope Huxley is safe.

[@Kuzakistheone]

Great video! Thanks for posting :)) I'm so disappointed in the stauffer family. They are an embarrassment

[@alexjayne_]

Yup, this whole situation is not okay

[@_lillianma97]

I came from your video with your mom and I agree. It is frustrating and truly upsetting/disappointing. Poor child.. no one deserves that kind of treatment ESPECIALLY IF YOU CLAIM you’re going to love and care for him like your own.

[@calleigh4287]

It’s so GROSS that she ASKED subscribers for $ and monetized videos with him. In their crying video she’s wearing a watch that costs over $1,000! After they returned Huxley, they went in a trip to BALI!!! That’s an EXPENSIVE trip! Money was no issue for them so they could’ve helped him with whatever he needed. It’s not like he was violent and hurting them, hurting the other kids, etc. When u adopt u “don’t know what you’re getting” but u also “don’t know what you’re getting” when u have your OWN biological children. You might be able to tell about major birth defects and things like Down syndrome but you won’t know about developmental disabilities and delays when birthing your own child from your own womb. She wouldn’t return her biological children so why is Huxley different? When u adopt a child it shouldn’t be with the intention to treat them differently than the biological children. Idk I could go on forever because this whole situation makes me SO ANGRY. You don’t keep a child for THREE YEARS and then “return” it. I PRAY he isn’t emotionally traumatized later in life but also his WHOLE LIFE is on the internet already WITHOUT his consent. Ok sorry let me stop lol. Thanks for making this video it makes me want to speak on this as well.

[@Mysonismybestfriend]

Unfortunately this is traumatizing for a 5 year old. I pray that God helps this child and his new family can get him therapy.

[@anonymous123-t9u]

As a Chinese adoptee myself, I’m glad you made this video. ❣️

[@sadiejay4819]

I report her Instagram everyday. Somehow she’s still gaining followers

[@alexjayne_]

I heard she bought some

[@LMW1503]

The story you shared about how your adoptive parents stayed in contact with the other adoptive parents of your fellow adopted sisters warmed my heart. What a lovely lovely thing for those parents to do for you all. I wish Huxley had been given the same care and consideration.

[@kylieschofield5156]

KZbin has to take down all the vid's of Huxley as she's still making a lot of money off him.

[@CGYay]

They deleted them per their lawyer

[@jospargo4730]

We have a son adopted from China who has autism. He is precious and perfect and my son. Period, forever, no matter what. This story makes me cry. They are not worthy of this sweet child.