CHINA ADOPTIVE MOM REACTS TO MYKA STAUFFER REHOMING HER ADOPTED AUTISTIC SON

[@knockoutao]

When your mom said "when you leave that orphanage, just like the hospital, that baby is yours." 😭💗Yes hunny

[@pandaray5227]

Yes 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@supernoodle704]

Exactly. She seems like not only an amazing mother but an amazing person.

[@lindapearson3411]

My aunt and uncle took in a child who the adopted by a couple who spoiled her to the point those parents sent her back to Holts. Holts contacted my aunt and uncle. She joined our family when she was ten or so! She has been such a blessing to our family and is now a healthy grandmother. I wonder if having a baby plus a special needs child took her over the edge. We, also, adopted a seven year from Korea through Holts and we were told by our case worker that she had emotional needs and discouraged us from adopting her. It could of turned out really bad, but God had was with us and she is the joy of my life. His mouth is really deformed from sucking his thumb. I can see why they were concerned!

[@mandala314]

I really love this mom! She knows how life works :)

[@pippy68p65]

Awesome muma. 💘💘💘💝💝💝💝💝

[@xoDecemberBaby]

the fact that they sent him to bed early so that their “real children” could have mommy and daddy time is so sick and twisted and broke my heart so much he deserves better and i hope he gets it in his new home

[@briannamarie2178]

Omg 😭😭

[@nicolemariee7940]

Horrible!!

[@ads605]

I was watching a video on them and when I heard that I just couldn’t, that’s something you would (possibly) do to a pet you have, not a child.

[@imconfuseded]

thats so twisted

[@sweetalgakhar3925]

💘😢

[@emmzyjane]

I feel so sorry for him, they deleted pictures of him like he never even existed in their lives. This is really gonna affect him in the future

[@katiemiaana]

just vile- like they were trying to erase their "mistake"

[@BunniBeshara]

They’re still absolute trash, but I wonder if they were asked by the new family to remove them. For his privacy.

[@amyshort5625]

They were told to take everything down

[@alienbean7508]

Amy Short By who?

[@anastasiak6524]

That kid dodged a bullet

[@Equalzer]

Rehoming, what a nice euphemism for child abandonment.

[@sherryblankenship3042]

Agreed

[@mercurious5053]

🤮 Yea.. It's just sick, as if that's even possible with a child. Honestly, I don't like the way people say they "adopt" a dog or some other pet. It's just really weird to use that word, no matter how committed you are or how much you care it's not an adoption.

[@capucinebignan6438]

Feels like they're talking about a cat, which is hella sad

[@kaitlyne1870]

Yeah, I immediately think "we're not talking about a dog here!" My dog was re-homed to me! And I'm sorry, I love my dog and all, but people are different from dogs! I will absolutely make sure my dog's needs are met before my own because I made the commitment to care for her. But my nieces and nephews come before the dog if they need something from me, and they're not even my kids!

[@CandyFlossFluff]

It's awful isn't it. Sounds as if he's basically a dog to them when they use that word. As if "rehoming" sounds any better. That poor boy deserves so much better. I hope someone worth their salt with genuine love to give him cares for him by now. My heart breaks for him.

[@jayhope3701]

People should stop treating adoption like an experience and more like a commitment.

[@sheenaalexis8710]

Like marriage now a days too. Nothing is taken seriously anymore. "Ohhh I like you, let's get married!! the wedding party will be so much fun. And I can wear a pretty dress"

[@jayhope3701]

@@sheenaalexis8710 to be honest, this is inconsequential to me because you aren’t negatively affecting other people or damaging other people for a lifetime by hastily getting married. When you treat an adoption like an experience, you completely disregard that child’s humanity and place them subpar to children who have biological families they are able to be with. It’s just on an entirely different level than making a choice which only impacts the two people involved.

[@irenemarlor4583]

It wasn't an experiment , it was just for KZbin clicks. That's how much they loved him! Poor boy. Hope his loved now. South Australia

[@FukaiKokoro]

Also fertile people need to stop pushing adoption on everyone who’s infertile. Adoption isn’t right for everyone. Don’t tell someone with infertility to just go adopt. It’s offensive for one and not right to invade in others choices,

[@birdgirl8390]

@@jayhope3701 I see where you're coming from, but here's my take on it since being educated on what had happened to me, the following didn't happen to me (luckily) but it's common: this whole thing of "hey I just met you and this is crazy, so here's my number and let's get married" is a common tactic of narcissists. The impact on your life goes from "damn, married and divorced in the same year is def something" to "I lost all my money, my house, my car, my family, my friends and now I'm left with nothing but, cptsd, anxiety and crippling depression" it can def fck up your life 😬

[@janinebean4276]

The parents seem like total narcissists. One thing that doesn’t thrill me is that like NOONE is talking about the dad at all, he is a parents too and also decided to abandon his child.

[@beastofbussycreek]

From what I heard when this all started, he was a big part of the reason *why* they ended up abandoning the little boy

[@maj5192]

Both of them are horrible!!

[@akuaik.100]

Exactly I hate people only criticize the mother but never seem to mention the father, who was horrible two. In a two parents household, parenting is done by both, their mistakes is from both not only from the mother

[@Lindseyisloony]

Some experts watched the videos and spoke about the situation and the general consensus is that Myka is a raging narcissist, but as you pointed out, much less is said about the dad. She is the more vocal of the two by far, as well as the one who's shoved her foot down her throat at every possible opportunity since the very beginning. It's just so much easier for everybody to hate somebody who is so blatantly hateable. Mr spineless kinda fades in to the background, but it's implied that he is also a dirtbag.

[@pamelaboswell9715]

It's always boring jerks who think they're so great. I mean, they're the most mediocre, dull, boring people and the most interesting thing about them is that they trainwrecked on social media. Why do they hold themselves in such high esteem?

[@shb7669]

Myka did not act alone. Her husband is responsible too.

[@audreymai2773]

Nah, she makes all the decisions. Trust me.

[@audreymai2773]

As men always say "happy wife = happy life".

[@shb7669]

Audrey Mai That makes him complicit and therefore a problem.

[@bri6032]

yes! she posted in a facebook group about how her adopted son used to stare at everyone while they ate dinner and it drove her husband nuts! he’s fucking ridiculous and also not a good person!!!! this poor child must have so much trauma and for her husband to have a problem with his son watching him eat? bullshit

[@cpr6760]

Yes, it certainly was both of them, but in fairness to Jim, he was the one who did the most for Huxley and certainly the parent he preferred!

[@icebox544]

I was adopted from Russia when I was four and my parents thought I was healthy when they adopted me but I later developed severe mental health disorders. By the time I was five I’d been diagnosed with severe OCD, anxiety, and PTSD. I would shut down and rock back and forth for hours, I would scream when people I didn’t know touched me, I would have meltdowns if my compulsions were interrupted. Never ONCE did they think about giving me back. Despite the fact that they weren’t expecting the difficulties that they faced with me, they took it all in stride because I am their child. I’m not returnable and neither is Huxley. Imagining the issues that that family probably gave that poor boy is so distressing. Absolutely sickening.

[@andeggbreaks]

I am so glad your parents seemingly treated you with patience and respect.

[@erinaa9486]

Hope your life is full of happiness now ❤️

[@bullnterrier4829]

My daughter has OCD. What a struggle it is. Strength to you.

[@AForestDwellingSpirit]

I have ocd anxiety and PTSD!! As well as ADHD and conversion disorder. I’m so proud of you for being open about your mental health issues. Keep being awesome

[@Elena-bk4fs]

hi Hannah! i was adopted from russia in 1997 as well. i had similar issues and i also had social setbacks, which led to extreme anxiety later on. i had a similar experience with my adoptive parents. i have a biological brother, and thankfully our relationship is great as well. my parents made it clear that they knew i was their daughter from the moment they saw me. nothing could change that. so to me, the stauffer situation is unimaginable. i’m so sorry to hear about your mental health issues and i really hope you have the support you need! ❤️

[@vicoyeyemarz6508]

The Stauffer were so sad about Huxley that they went to Bali 🙄

[@Avonsunshine]

I went through her instagram and I think she deleted all of her pics with Huxley .

[@Milagros81]

@@Avonsunshine yes she did they had some last week and i checked back yesterday and nothing 😠😠

[@cocolime6496]

They probably felt they deserved the treat after dealing with the stress of raising Huxley and the "trauma" of "rehoming" him.

[@winslowmay3178]

Alana Boo yeh I think that’s only because people have been commenting her to take down anything to do with him so she stops getting views and profiting, finally she’s done something in his best interest but he will be online forever and he will find clips I’m sure when he gets older

[@feebsz384]

SOOO heartbroken...😭

[@alyssa6291]

THREE YEARS THEY HAD THE POOR KID. Imagine in those 3 years what he was being treated like?? Then, they delete all post and pictures of him, like he never existed in their life.

[@hanacharyislost5047]

They already made third money off of him I'd their mindset

[@1782mamba]

Alyssa Schlamp so sick, they just thought they adopted a dog. I wouldn’t even do that to my dogs!!! All are different, but they are still living beings! But with a child, the family should be charged!! Better for the baby though NOT to be brought up by such people

[@asmaabdulah1954]

I have a 1 and a half year old and yes I gave birth to him but still I could never even THINK of getting rid of him. I've spent too much time with him. I cant imagine how much love I'll have for him when he's 3.

[@1782mamba]

Asma Abdulah exactly!! After three years and they are not poor... they have money also from viewers to help him get the help he needs. And after 3 years getting rid of him?? That woman needs to be slapped off the face of the earth for her fake video. To you I send love, health and happiness!! Your reward will come, karma will bite THEM in the ass

[@MyName-bi4pt]

Asma Abdulah my thoughts exactly. How can you disassociate yourself from a child like that? Psychopaths can I suppose.

[@daisy3869]

Imagine when he's older and he knows he was abandoned by rich youtube celebrities. And he can watch their videos and even see clips of himself?

[@SusieW-ku4ub]

Hopefully all those videos will be deleted. He shouldn’t have to re-live that.

[@tnikabennett3469]

I know so sad!!!!!!! You are so right!

[@BhappyD]

SusieW Sadly, once something is on the internet, it’s always on the internet. Nothing can ever be permanently deleted. Huxley’s “story” will always be permanently on the internet, and unfortunately he will inevitably have to face that someday. My hope is that he finds a genuine loving home, with parents who are able to show him that he is worthy of unconditional love, and who will build him up and prepare him for the pain that he will someday feel when he comes across his story online. His rights to privacy for his own life story have been completely stripped and robbed from him by the Stauffers. One of the many things they have done to ensure further damage and trauma to that poor sweet little innocent boy. God bless him. 💕

[@ronchojohnson2869]

@@SusieW-ku4ub I was hoping he somehow struck it rich when he's older.

[@LavenderHoneyASMR]

I hope the child sues one day for the profit these “adoptive” parents made off of him

[@shirley6067]

Myka uses the weirdest language when referring to Huxley, like "rehomed, former child, etc" and it just sounds like she's talking about a dog which just really shows how she felt about him

[@gothnerd887]

What I've learnt over the years is that Americans see autistic people as animals

[@idylledoll]

I love my dogs as my own children and would go homeless before ever giving them up. She talked about him like a broken appliance.

[@thegameowl11]

And that is only half of my justification for my F*ck America mentality I might have in a fit of rage. I’m just grateful that I was able to find an understanding environment, within the country somehow.

[@potmki6601]

This is insane, there is no such thing as "former child"

[@slipstreamxr3763]

@@gothnerd887 I have Asperger's and I can attest to that.

[@arianaw4989]

“Being an Asian in a white family” I’m so grateful your mom considered that important variable! 💕 your mom is amazing.

[@alexjayne_]

Yes! Thank you!

[@ladieesc0]

Yes! Her mom is very woke lol. As loving as many people are they try to explain that love by saying “I don’t see color” and in an effort to show that love they are being dismissive of it. I love that her mom wasn’t like “oh we loved her so much we didn’t see color” Nah, she’s like we loved her so much we considered who she was and the fact that she was culturally in a whole different environment. They acknowledged it but didn’t treat her differently . I appreciated that

[@pellaw8011]

@Hollywood Hollywood Hollywood Hollywood hun, are you lost? go find a bridge for your troll self

[@LadyScaper]

I wish I could like your comment more and give kudos this mother more. Dismissing race in an interracial adoption does a disservice to the child. Too many parents with good intentions dismiss and... I would hope it’s something that would be counselled on at the beginning of the adoption process. For an interracial adoption it’s inevitable someone will point out race and parents who didn’t grow up with the tools to talk to their child on race really need guidance as... any POC household, they gonna talk about race, because they HAVE to. It’s literally a survival tool for a raciallized group. I have so many white parents not understanding they can’t side step the issue because they didn’t have the tools or simply know enough about race to know it MUST be addressed for a growing child. Children get the tools on how to cope with race issues from their parents. To this KZbinr (I found your video through suggested videos), your mother is absolutely awesome. Truly. 💕💕💕 She is a treasure.

[@penepenpen]

Family isn't always blood. It's the people in your life who want you in theirs.. Family its about who is willing to hold your hand, when you needed most. Family its not blood and flesh, Its time, caring, and sharing Little Buddha

[@solidnem]

Your mom is one gorgeous and sophisticated classy lady.

[@brendadickson8871]

Yes i agree

[@jamilaosman3628]

Right.. Shes amazing

[@tamtam4692]

Shes awesome

[@HotPotathoe]

A G R E E D ! 💕 she is a lovely woman and I’m sure you’re proud!! ❤️

[@tiaw95]

100%

[@Kevinthewoman]

I'm adopted from Korea. It was never a secret from me, my parents told me as soon as I could understand and let me know it didn't mean they loved me any less. Both my parents are white, and we grew up in Colorado, where it's primarily and all white all Christian community (at least in the town we were in) and man, my parents couldn't go anywhere without someone commenting on why they were "failures" for not being able to have a biological child, and how it was morally wrong for them to not have a white baby. My brother is also adopted but he's adopted from a Colorado and is white as well. Growing up, I always got the "oh so he's the real son the right?" And when I mention he's adopted to, they always ask if we were adopted from the same family, and I never knew if I should laugh or cry and that. My parents spend years fighting for me and spend so much money, I can't imagine giving up a child, let alone a child you fought so hard for, just to give up so easily. Family doesn't always start in blood. We now live in Hawaii, and its funny cause no one gives us a second glance when I introduce my mom.

[@rynnmedia]

Was the town Fort Collins, by any chance..? I’ve visited there for family a bunch, and I can only recall white communities and churches. Just asking out of curiosity! But I’m so happy your family stuck up for you. That’s so heartwarming to know that they never let the negativity get to them.

[@harushouse]

How awful of those people! I hope they feel ashamed... But I am so happy you guys found a place to be happy 💙

[@vihaze6725]

People are the worst. So glad you were adopted by good ones.

[@maopark]

I'm so happy for you! I'm glad that you were adopted by a loving and caring family!💜

[@Kevinthewoman]

@@rynnmedia oh! Very close actually! We grew up in Greeley, its about 15-30 min away from Ft Collins if I remember correctly. We went to Trinity Lurthen which was a Church as well as a school. Thank you by the way! Im truly blessed. Funny story, while I knew I was adopted and I'd hear the whispers, I never understood what other races where until someone called me a Chi**k and my mom went ballistic and she had to explain to me about it. I awlays assumed I didn't look like my parents because I was adopted, not because we were a different race, i just saw the as my mom and dad and since mommy didn't give birth to me thats why we look so different. my parents always just taught me people are people and you treat everyone the same, so it was a hard term to grasp as a child on why people judge people based on their colour of their skin tbh. Plus my mom also taught me the importance of my Korean Heritage as well, and taught me my own culture and even offered to take me to Korea or awnser any questions about my birth parents. I never did have any desire to. As far as I was concerned my real parents where them and I wasnt missing anything if they choose to give me up. Its absolutely wild to think someone could so easy give up a child they adopted because of a few problems, and then vocally say they want to adopt again. Thats wild

[@dalcon555]

I'm a child welfare social worker and I just found out about this whole mykka stauffer thing and it just fills me with so much rage. You want to know what the truth is? There are a surprising amount of children in the child welfare departments who are from failed or broken adoptions. So many people love the idea of being an adopted parent and then when they realize that these children come from difficult backgrounds that come with trauma and attachment difficulties they start acting like they might as well have picked up a broken vacuum cleaner. Too many damn times I have to sit there and fill out paper work for a new dependent child because their adoptive families couldn't stomach having to deal with the fact that a child, even a new born, is going to have emotional trauma connected with the fact that they are adopted and it's going to take a LOT OF WORK. And I have to sit there, and smile, and wait until after work to cry for these poor fucking children who are now being retraumatized for a second time being told that they weren't good enough for their "family". Kudos to you and your mother. I would love for your mother to have more opportunities to speak to other potential adopting parents because she said it best "once you take that child in your home, there should be no question that that child is yours, for better or for ill you love them". Blessings to the both of you.

[@sherryblankenship3042]

Thank you so much for the work that you do.

[@JCC_1975]

Bless you. We adopted our beautiful daughter and this whole thing breaks my heart and to read your comment I'm now crying even harder. We want to adopt again and have decided to go through DFCS to adopt siblings. There are so many children who need a family that will love them unconditionally. Thank you for caring about the children under your charge. 💜

[@rhahavyb]

You’re a really good person! seeing this stuff is probably incredibly hard, and you are incredible strong! I hope you also get time to care for your self the way you care for these children

[@0Yazz]

Reading your comment made me cry. It's such an added, unnecessary, and easily avoidable cruelty to these children who did nothing wrong and don't deserve it. They're no less than any other kid who lives with a family, and yet they grow up feeling forever inferior because they "weren't good enough." Thank you for sharing and thank you for the work that you do.

[@soniespindola]

I dont understand why they didnt report her to cps for ducktaping his thumb..ducktape on his thumb...

[@_strawberry.fairy_]

It made my skin crawl hearing them say “his forever home” and “forever family”. that poor child was never anything but a pet and way to get clout in their eyes.

[@stevieb.5836]

**Yep. And even a pet shouldn’t be returned for store credit like they did with that sweet boy.

[@mryoshi1221]

those are terms used for pets, not humans.

[@TheRealKarmaquarius]

yep, the way she talked about him 'oh melts munh ehart' for things he did, firstimpression i hgad is 'hmm as if she was talking of a pupper or a kitten' not a baby

[@ciara7172]

"Forever home" should be a given.

[@ciara7172]

@@mryoshi1221 my thoughts too

[@AmethystSnow]

I think the fact she had a baby pretty much immediately after adopting Huxley shows she only did it for the views

[@opalfishsparklequasar8663]

☺💖💎🏆

[@jmk1962]

In the UK if you have birth kids and want to adopt, you have to have quite a big age gap with your birth kids being older and more independent before you can adopt so that the adopted kid can get the attention it needs and doesn't have to compete with the birth kids. The Shauffers had a birth son almost the same age as Huxley and the had a new born baby in the last year, so wrong. I think this is what the professionals meant when they advised the Shauffers to not adopt him because they knew he would need 1:1 attention and probably to be the only child in the home. Myka ignored all of this advice, but I also blame the Chinese adoption agency, they should not have placed him with them and three birth kids so close in age.

[@AddBowIfGirl]

*They. It’s her husband’s fault too.

[@Analysaddict]

I kinda get the vibe that they didn’t like him or were even disgusted by him. You can tell that by the way they talked to him

[@AmethystSnow]

@@jmk1962 I agree. I guess they were approved because they were affluent and could afford extra help if they needed it. I can't think of any other reason an agency would send a baby halfway across the world if there was a possibility he'd be overshadowed by bio kids.

[@outside8312]

Huxley was extremely attached to Myka. He loved her and she used him. He was making tremendous progress and was a very loving boy. I can't imagine how distraught and confused and abandoned he must be feeling

[@Mariekr49]

No he wasnt he was to her husband yea not to her he hated her

[@Wxtst.3]

@@Mariekr49 Oh what makes you think that? I didn’t watch them

[@unapologeticella4540]

Poor baby😢 ive been going back to study some video and hes hugging her and looks at the camara i hope when Myka watches that it haunts her forever

[@babyfarkmcgee-zax3785]

He was attached to James, and she made her contempt of that fact pretty clear. I think that was the biggest reason she put him out like last week's garbage. The narcissist can't handle not being adored and revered, especially when it comes to someone they view as inferior, such as a small child.

[@fredericksaxton9782]

@@babyfarkmcgee-zax3785 Actually they thought he was gonna die in a few years. They probably were going to use a Chinese terminally ill kid's death for clout, but when they realize they would be "stuck" with him for the rest of their lives cause he wasn't gonna die they threw him out.

[@Broompilot-qr9bt]

my best friend adopted from China in early 80' s she was on " healthy baby list" turns out she had mild case of cerebral palsy...That baby couldn't be loved more and is currently attending Geo. W. U. to become an adoption attorney

[@reaputnam]

George Washington? I go there!! All the best to your friend! 💕

[@margaretforsey7763]

Roberta Hoffman Oh, it is so nice to hear a story of someone doing really well despite challenges. Hooray for your friend!

[@miizedwarDcuLLn]

Form what I’m seeing in comments a lot of adopted children from “healthy baby list” turned out to “not be so healthy after all” 🤔 fishy.

[@cimmi1727]

Made my day 💙

[@sowonkim4806]

@@miizedwarDcuLLn this is from hearsay from my parents, so might be false, but china used to have a huge problem of overpopulation. So i believe that is one of the ways they try to 'get rid' of all those poor kids

[@ryanalyssa8907]

I really hope they find him. The fact that the police can't find him is so worring.

[@reyhancleary1285]

I hope too, Pray for little Huxley.

[@captainfrosty31]

They can't find him? Wtf? Why? What has she done with him?

[@psycho5815]

B Beanz yes what has she done SOMEONE ANSWER

[@reyhancleary1285]

This situation is so heartbreaking . I hope that baby has a happy home where he is. Can't stop thinking of him.

[@202cardline]

I think it was confirmed he is somewhere in the foster system so someone is taking care of him. It's a fact though that children can 'disappear' in terms of records when they are in the foster system, it's a mess.

[@Shan-lp2iu]

30 seconds in and i can already tell how much your mother loves you.

[@LUVBUG24K]

It made me cry 🥺😭

[@Patrick3183]

Of course she does. She’s her MOTHER.

[@OneZzz]

Not all mothers love their children.

[@itsjustmeflo8684]

Same. Almost made me cry instantly 🤣

[@MissTrueChizz]

unrelated but your mum is great on camera - she speaks so confidently, definitely should have more videos with her ☺️

[@eleibert]

Haha yeah I want to hear her moms opinion on everything. I appreciate that when she doesn't have the information or isn't familiar with something she does't speculate, she just says she cant speak on that because she doesn't know. It is SO REFRESHING!!!

[@Hannah-nh5qj]

And her cute smile!! Love her!

[@DaddyScribbles]

My thought too. Wow.

[@kerryc1241]

yes!!! i want to hear more about her experiences

[@Yourmomma160]

She reminds me of my professor

[@quantumcommunities7618]

Your mom is so fricking rad. She's just frank and real but you can tell she's a professional, competent mother and person. Bless you. I'm a dude in his 30s crying listening to how strong your mom's love is.

[@sittiemaimonahabuat5402]

True to that!!! She's more than awesome!

[@chilibean2396]

I was thinking that, but you put the description of her love so well!! If you are going to adopt a any child you better make sure your love is strong

[@pokeczarelf]

She may look old, but her heart is so strong.

[@gregmcgregginton574]

She looks like a real stand up lady

[@nikapolskaya8324]

@@pokeczarelf your comment is just sooooo inappropriate

[@lovelysolstar]

They just didn't love him. Simple as that. Had they loved him, none of it would've mattered to them. They would've done everything to help him and raise him. It's so sad.

[@daniellachanelle4142]

This isn’t true. I know of a mother who had to adopt away her daughter because the little girls disabilities was to expensive, to time consuming (she was a single mother and had to work) and it broke her heart but it was for the baby’s best. They still see each other every month but doesn’t mean moma don’t love her baby. Giving them a better life is love too.

@@daniellachanelle4142 I don't think they meant that in every rehoming scenario the parents didn't love the kid, they meant that they just didn't love the kid at all, because they definitely had enough money to take care of him. According to another comment under this video, they went on holiday nearly straight after rehoming him, so I don't think expenses were a problem for them.

[@ts1331ts]

Daniella Chanelle okay but this is different. they CHOSE to adopt him knowing he has special needs. That is not okay. You can’t just return a child you adopted like a pair of jeans you bought. They’re monsters for doing that to him

[@sailorprincesscute]

When I first read about this story I felt like they never saw him as their child.

[@EfootballC7]

Daniella Chanelle this is completely different they chose to adopt this child and she specifically wanted a special needs child!

[@chronicmommy]

When she talked about not wanting to miss any of your first’s ❤️ that’s a mother’s love and Huxley didn’t get that

[@alexjayne_]

❤️❤️

[@missdoommm]

I miss huxley..its soo sad he's not with them anymore. Its so unfair. They love him with all there heart.

[@kellyp081]

I am so mad that they “rehomed” him. It pisses me off. But then again, I Pray that it was for the best and that he is better off without them. Obviously they didn’t care about him and didn’t love him how they should have.

[@pjjohnson4804]

@@missdoommm what is unfair? That they wanted a special needs child, but "rehomed" him? I guess that comment makes no sense

[@OK-hi5ym]

@@missdoommm they love him? They literally chose to "rehome" him like an unwanted animal (not through official adoption agency channels I might add so he could be with any random family, not one that is held to the rigorous standards of an legal agency) because he didn't fit in with their lifestyle and having to care for him was inconvenient. They went on a lavish vacation after, again by choice, giving away their CHILD. They clearly couldn't wait to be rid of him, as a vacation like that would have been much harder with a special needs child. The only part of this that is unfair is the damage this will do to Huxley, he didn't asked to be adopted by two money grubbing clout seeking self obsessed "parents". They never loved that child, they loved the money, internet fame, status and sympathy that he got them. Also its "their heart" not "there"

[@elisiad9298]

When she said “re-abandoned” in place of “re-homed” that was such a perfect description. I can’t imagine how this will affect Huxley as he grows older. My brothers and I were adopted when I was 9, and my youngest brother was 5...he has had it the hardest out of all 3 of us, and we all have abandonment issues as well as the need to feel safe rather than loved. They abandoned Huxley, there’s no other way to describe it.

[@c.b5996]

Maybe a Freudian slip on her part? Didn't catch that in the video so I will have to go back. They abandon Hux, plain and simple, you are very correct on that.

[@emmahopexx8992]

he will most likely grow up to hate myka

[@vanatile9525]

I completely agree, but I just wanted to say, I hope you're in a better environment along with your brothers. Have an amazing day :)

[@ChickenOfAwesome]

It's especially harsh when you consider that the poor kid had autism, which can make attachment and socializing difficult, and its likely he has additional attachment issues from neglect early in life - it will have taken him so much more time to form new attachments and trust his new family, and now he has to start from square one all over again. It's heartbreaking that anyone would get him attached and settled and learning to be loved, and then dump him with someone else like he's a sick pet they don't want anymore.

[@tuschi8039]

It also makes me so, so sad and angry at the same time... ... My husband was also adopted and even as a grown man he sometimes suffers because of the trauma. Even if he was adopted by loving parents and got all help he could possibly imagine. So I'm so heartbroken for that little boy to be left twice :(

[@Thatonebrownhuevito]

I can’t imagine how happy your mom was when you called her “Mommy” for the first time

[@jenniferpower981]

💕👶"Mamma"..😍🥰💋💕

[@KristiContemplates]

I can 🥳

[@iadesigns]

Your mother was reading that woman's narcissism, her tears were definitely fake..she knew exactly what she was getting into and didn't need him anymore or to wanted to provide for him now that they had a new baby.

[@kalinedleewil152]

Lik how she wanted a child with a disability or disorder that's easy but other people think is hard so she can b a savior to other people's eyes in public .I didn't know of stauffers but the second I watched her old videos I knew who she is and see right thru her .

[@ThimbleFox350]

@@kalinedleewil152 No disability is easy especially for a toddler, her failure to understand this is probably part of why Huxley never attached to her.

[@kalinedleewil152]

@@ThimbleFox350 I mean about that post myka commented to a china adoption agency asking " what's disability that is easy to manager but others think is hard ?"

[@heatherc3488]

Thimble Fox she lied about that too to help fit her story. if you watch old videos you can clearly see that was not the issue. There are many videos showing his affection towards her in the first year after he was adopted

[@AddBowIfGirl]

Vanna Kegley Huxley had an adoptive _father_ who was just as responsible for his adoption and knowingly benefited just as much from the ad revenue the child brought in so why are most people only targeting the mother? They both went to Bali after everything, not just her.

[@eequalsmcdonald]

Two poised, intelligent, engaging and loving women. I love seeing adult daughters possessing confidence that was instilled into their personality from the powerful women of whom they were raised.

[@user-vf1nt8we6i]

eequalsmcdonald - thank you for your comment. That is exactly how I feel about my mom and it made me feel so happy.

[@br00klynnative58]

Aww something positive about women.. Yay

[@nel.-d362]

Here’s to rad moms

[@stellarkat4657]

Best and most impowering comment I've ever seen.

[@BookBird2963]

I'm also adopted from China, and I had and still have similar problems. I was also from the healthy baby list. I ended up developing some physical disabilities later on. Upon seeing the news about Myka and James rehoming Huxley, both of my parents started crying, and it's really hard to make my father cry.

[@P3891]

Right because unlike Myka and James your father is human.

[@BookBird2963]

@@P3891 Yea. I'm glad I was adopted by a mother and a father who are both human beings.

[@P3891]

BookBird 2963 I would hope so😂

[@Itisheylel]

I’m glad to hear that you’re in good hands~ 🌸 It makes me truly sad.

[@anaphylacticpete5788]

@@P3891 Huxley was adopted by lizard people

[@kotaniyumiko]

your mom is so empathetic and smart, I could hear her talk all day.

[@sherryblankenship3042]

Ahhhh, thank you

[@mickeymorris4534]

Myka also posted about how “annoying” it was that her adopted son would eat too fast/stare at them while they ate. My adopted parents had that same problem with me and my brother when we were babies. But instead of COMPLAINING ABOUT IT ONLINE they took us to a specialist who advised them it’s common in babies who come from bio families were food was scarce and they were able to help us from there.

[@kittyherky3781]

Your adopted parents did it out of unconditional love, they acted like real parents. On the other hand, Myka did it to gain popularity, youtube views and financial compensation. Huxley was an inconvenience to her.

[@chantelguinn7517]

THIS. it's a food scarcity thing. The fact that she found it annoying and not heartbreaking shows she's a gotdamn sociopath.

[@LPSTEENSCREAM1000]

My sister has autism and she has things she does at dinner. She stares sometimes but she hates when others stare or talk near her plate because it might be infected by us.

[@madamjaynie87]

This just shows how damn petty the Stauffers are. It bothers them so much when he watches them eat. They are such ass---...

[@superrduperr3397]

Baby staring at you when you eat is wierd ??? Gosh I learn new things everyday about American people smh, I just think it's normal n nothing related to scarce food theory lol 😂😂 maaannn

[@LavenousForever]

The thing that kills me is that if he was her biological child, you can’t just “re-home” him! You would find them resources because they are your child and you do what is necessary for their wellbeing. They kept saying they weren’t equipped. Then get educated!!! Find resources, aids, and whatever you need. But don’t give up on them! That’s your kid! But clearly they didn’t feel that way

[@lexipeun593]

I cant believe that they were Huxley's parents when they were just going to use him for clout. Parents like that shouldnt be parents at all

[@katiepuperi3942]

yeah there's literally a clip of her saying they are sending huxley to the cheapest speech therapist instead of his current one because it was too much money while she was also wearing a cartier bracelet

[@xuxora]

Katie Puperi - i said the same thing without reading your comment but yeah that was messed up 💔

[@sofiabillingsly9969]

Katie Puperi cc xx x xx xxx

[@desireeshafer1524]

The real kicker is that they were informed about his disabilities and were told it was going to be hard yet they still went through with it.

[@ririwatermelon8681]

the thing i always wonder is, if Huxley was their biological son, would they still have ‘rehomed’ him like a pet? i don’t think so when you adopt a child, that child is YOURS, the same as a biological child. you can’t rehome them once you get bored or stop getting views. edit: everyone seems to think i don’t understand that people give up their biological children. i fully understand that, i am just stating that in this specific case, my personal opinion is that if Huxley was one of their biological children, they would not have abandoned him.

[@drdeb_ocherry]

"Re-home", equating with animal. Is most insulting part of it.

[@c.e.9280]

Yes you can „re-home“ your child. This is what is happening all the time.

[@kuroe-chan5190]

Unfortunately some do. Not everyone is mad to be adoptive parents. I feel it takes a special person to give that type of unconditional to children that aren’t yours. Those parents are a blessing

[@KanityOnePieceChill]

You think there are no parents who "rehome" their biological children because of things like this? I am 100% sure there are.

[@fyroblox5059]

@@kuroe-chan5190 but they had him for THREE YEARS he felt like they were family, and the doctors told them it would get harder

[@BeatrizPereira-mk2cr]

In the beginning I was so FURIOUS that a rich white-savior lady thought she could just “pick up a kid” and decide “oh I don’t want it anymore, I’m done” and that’s it. No strings attached, no one bats an eye, not my problem anymore. Now, all I can think of is: THANK GOODNESS she gave him away to someone who *genuinely* loves H. and is willing to put their time and energy to make his life better instead of pretending it’s all sunshine and daisies. Even if H. had “more issues than disclosed”, it’s our job as parents to simply roll with the punches. Parenting isn’t conditional where, if a child doesn’t tick all the boxes YOU want them to tick, you can simply “pass it on to the next person” but sometimes I think: maybe this is for the best. Maybe now H. is genuinely happy, thriving and has the therapy he requires. Greetings from Antwerp, Belgium! ❤️

[@malimillions]

You are so right. I hadn’t thought of it that way!

[@NJlovessinging]

I agree wholeheartedly!

[@mashakalinkina7207]

She should have just used birth control. To have an infant After re-abandoning the kid who Already exists is so insane, selfish, shows her value system.

[@alexjayne_]

Yeah it seems that way... just sad

[@lesleypyles5318]

I believe Myka got pregnant again for views. Being a "mommy " to alot of "kiddos" is *was* her brand. Taking the pregnancy test, announcing it to her husband, naming the child, etc, etc. ..all guaranteed to bring in a high number of views. Therefore bringing in more revenue.

[@thebookofkate812]

She’s pregnant again?!

[@amandadevlin579]

@@thebookofkate812 no but she just had a baby within the last year

[@keris81]

This is my main issue too. She has a child with an issue and then she has another! Wtf

[@mashakalinkina7207]

“Re-abandoned” is a Fantastic term.

[@alexjayne_]

Omg yes!!! Good term to use in the situation.

[@davex66gamingandmorefuncon88]

Alex Jayne no it really isn’t it’s a sad term :(

[@brandeerodriguez8536]

I do agree it is a better term in SOME cases. But it also makes us very ignorant because not every adoption story is the same. Some children in poor countries are adopted, not because they weren’t loved but because their parents knew they couldn’t give them a life they deserve. Some mothers could also possibly die during birth. Not every situation is the same. Just food for thought

[@meowJACK]

@@davex66gamingandmorefuncon88 it's sad but it's the reality tho. it's not fair to the child and his experience to try and put some cutesty, happy-sounding term to it rather than the reality of the situation.

[@maritoh.6710]

EXACTLY

[@laurareichaiet6398]

This is all to true. I was adopted at 13. I am now 26. The abandonment and self doubt issues have never truly gone away.

[@sophiagee]

Sending you love! ❤️

[@411dedrick]

Me too😔

[@bebebebota11]

I was adopted at birth, but I also have those issues. I guess you learn to live with them, knowing that they are a part of your story and not your fault. It's hard.

[@stefanieevans713]

Sending love ❤️

[@reshibunny9684]

When she said "I will make an impression of it if its ok for you", seeing parents treat their kids with respect is jarring, it makes me really hopeful

[@brigittem2231]

Yep this woman is a great example

[@sherryblankenship3042]

@@brigittem2231 ahhh thank you!

[@bayshayne]

Though y’all aren’t blood related, your mannerisms and personalities are so alike and in sync. Sending you both so much love. You both are such wonderful and beautiful women 🥺💕

[@starless1444]

That's very true. You can tell their bond is solid.

[@melize7035]

that's what happens when someone raises you, it has nothing to do with genetics

[@feebsz384]

LOVE the authenticness (sp?) of this Mother/daughter duo

[@alexandrasdrapetomaniacmin7186]

MélissaEnvy It's *both*. Nature VS Nurture experiments have thought us that biologically unrelated children raised in a family will develop mannerisms and much more similar to the parents who raised them and the siblings they grew up with. But also, siblings separated from each other and their parents at birth have been found to share mannerisms, and to have chosen similar spouses, the same religion and share tastes with both their siblings and birth parents. And obviously, some people, raised by their birth or adopted family share no mannerisms or physical traits or ways of thinking with anyone. So it's not obvious lol. And I find it beautiful.

[@leonieperreault2895]

My father and grandparents...you'd never imagine it was any different. I love them so much and they never made me feel like we weren't the same DNA. My dad was adopted a year apart from his brother that was adopted too (not same parents). And they love my dad and uncle regardless because no matter what people like them, like this girl show that it's not all about DNA. That family is much more than that.

[@DarkAurora2002]

When you sign the adoption papers that should be the same to you as giving birth to the child. If it's not you have no business adopting a child

[@paulitamme]

I feel like it is even more responsability. When you get pregnant, there's a posibility that you didn't want to have a child, and just happened. When you adopt, you CHOOSE to have a kid. You choose to go on a process and even choose the kid. It is a 100% a deliberate choice. So you might realize after giving birth that you are not fit to raise a child and give them up for adoption, but, if you adopted a child, you had to make sure you could take care of him/her.

[@ussyv3578]

@@paulitamme Not every pregnancy is unplanned or accidental, just fyi.

[@strife6697]

@@ussyv3578 I'm sure she knows. But unplanned pregnancies are still very, very high. In 2011 in the US, almost half of pregnancies were unplanned/unintended (according to the CDC). I don't know what the 2019 stats are, but more than half of pregnancies were accidental in 2008. Just saying... I agree with them both, but I'm sure people also give up (or abandon) their own biological children if they're too overwhelmed (or too selfish) to take care of their child's special needs.

[@ussyv3578]

@@strife6697 This is very true, I just wanted to point it out because the way they worded it made it sound like all pregnancies are unplanned or accidental and that parents are never "ready". Some parents go through a lot preparing to have a child (or adopt one), so I just wanted to point out that not every parent is just *"Whoops, got a baby now, what am I supposed to do with it?"*, y'know?

[@timani6682]

UssyV no she didn’t. She said “there’s a possibility” it’s unplanned or unwanted

[@christina3601]

I agree! Re-abandoned is a better term then re-homed. I feel so bad for that little guy! It's so sad to think that little guy is now having to go through that trauma all over again! Not to mention they were treating him differently then they were treating their biological children, so maybe its for the best that he won't be with Myka anymore! Hopefully he will go through less trauma with this new family then he was going through with Myka and her family!

[@sarahnichols4253]

Christina that's the hardest part for me to watch...they treated him differently😔 They never should have been approved to adopt. KZbinrs shouldn't be able to make money off exploiting children, especially adopted children.

[@ncoppens]

The chance is big that he will have a better family now luckily, but re-abandonment is for sure damaging.

[@ThimbleFox350]

@@sarahnichols4253 I think this case is a good reason we need to have similar laws set down for adopted children as we do for foster children in regards to what you're able to post online about them. This case highlights that adopted children in the US are open to exploitation from people like the Stauffers. They made over 2 million dollars off of Huxley and he will never see that money. This needs to be prevented from ever happening again.

[@hannahg2672]

Was it Myka herself that worded it re-homed?

[@sunnylove1492]

@@hannahg2672 yes

[@Lindseyisloony]

She's not just a nurse, she's an oncology nurse and she believed he had a brain tumor. That makes it way worse because they paid for his adoption with DONATED money! Asking for money implies that you don't have enough, so how exactly were they planning to pay for treatment for a child they thought had a brain tumor?? The answer is that they weren't. They never planned on paying for treatment, which is basically proven by the fact that she openly said she was not willing to pay for him to go to the necessary therapy and instead sent him to the cheapest possible therapist. I'm telling you right now, there's no such thing as a $70 therapist that does that type of therapy. They sent a nonverbal child to somebody who was only equipped to talk verbally capable normally functioning people through their feelings. It's now being reported that he is suddenly speaking now that he's with a new family, so that tells us that the Stauffer's either weren't making a real effort in that department or that they treated him so badly that he didn't feel comfortable speaking for them. I wouldn't talk for people who duct taped my thumbs to my hands either! Some people who are qualified to speak about the psychology behind their behavior have expressed suspicion that they adopted a child they thought had a brain tumor for one of two reasons (or maybe both). Either they adopted him under the delusion that he might magically be cured with little or no effort (not an unheard of thing for blindly religious people to convince themselves of!) and gain them attention by being a miracle, OR they adopted him fully expecting him to die and gain them attention by being a tragedy. That sounds SPOT ON, especially since Myka stated that she was tired of working with cancer patients because of the emotional toll! They were very obviously NOT happy to find out that he had autism instead, which any actual human would be over the moon about. There's also the fact that people who are experiencing grief and guilt over not being able to figure out how to effectively help their special needs child DO NOT go and have another baby. They're so narcissistic and out of touch that they clearly believed that no biological child of theirs could come out less than perfect. The universe clearly saw fit to spare that baby rather than giving it special needs to teach them a lesson. And thank heaven for that because unlike almost everybody else, I do not agree with the accusations that they never would have "rehomed" a biological child. People give up their biological special needs children all the time and I firmly believe that they would give up a biological child too if they felt as inconvenienced by that child as they clearly felt by Huxley. Literally everything about this story is sickening. They've even had the audacity to blatantly blame him for all this AND to act like they are now protecting his privacy by privating a lot of videos and taking down pictures. It's obvious to anybody that's followed the whole story that they simply want to forget about him and avoid hate comments on those videos and pictures. His name and his face are out there FOREVER now and some of the people making videos about the situation are being straight up disrespectful and delusional by refusing to say his name or show his face. That isn't for Huxley's already nonexistent privacy. It's for them, so that they can emotionally distance themselves from the story and pretend that they are making some sort of difference in his future. It's pathetic.

[@n0odles86]

Liquid gold! I go with the latter. She expected him to die. You saw that interview, right? She gave H as a failed business transaction example.

[@MaynardsSpaceship]

Wtf 😭

[@Alexandra_Wolf]

I agree they thought he was sicker than he was. He’d pass and they would get even more views and people would think they are saints for taking in a child who was sick and then who they lost due to a brain tumor. They wanted a physical disability and didn’t want to deal with a lifelong struggles. I have to wonder if something more sinister crossed her mind snd that placing him with other people was an alternative to something darker

[@kellirae3221]

They probably have insurance that would have paid for a brain tumor but not for ongoing therapy. Plus they could set up GoFundMe for 'other' expenses. I doubt they wanted him to die, but autism isn't a cash cow like a tumor is. Private adoptions are often like sales where the adopting family pays all costs AND pays the person giving the baby up. Usually that's a young mother, but in this case I'd bet they made several thousand. That's why they didn't just go back to the original agency. They are scum. I don't know why they aren't being investigated as unfit parents for their other children. They clearly use all the kids, and giving away their sibling was probably very traumatic. I wonder what other mental abuse they've been thru

[@streya1995]

Love your comment. It was spot on

[@CAsaidit]

I 1000% understand why people are criticizing the parents for ditching Huxley, but let’s not forget Huxley deserves more and deserved more and they were never giving him their all. This could be his major second chance. I hope he is now on a far more productive trajectory.

[@YuLingZeng313]

I definitely agree. I hope that Huxley will now get the support he needs and deserves. I personally find more issue with money they made directly off Hux (i.e. sponsored update videos). It would be nice to a. prevent this family from adopting again (which they were planning to) and b. for at least a portion of the money to be put in a trust fund for him to use as he grows up

he lost 3 years!!! he will definitely have issues in the years to come! maybe trauma for the rest of his life! so f*** this people!!!

[@jessbelen1492]

Same but the problem is that they used him for money and fame.

[@butterflygirl141]

I hope so, but it’s likely that they’ve further traumatized him...

[@jennawinkelman8260]

Know one knows where the child is! Pray that it is the most wonderful, loving,patient, kind, caring parents!

[@swttuth0329]

Just like “Once your leave that hospital, that baby is yours..... once you leave that orphanage, that child is yours” 👏🏻🙌🏼

[@ainejameson3496]

Your mom seems like such a sweet lady. When she was talking about how she didn't want to miss a single moment with you made me cry.

[@BrunaNeptune]

I'm an adopted native American girl. Now something that happens... is that if we are still in the foster care system, our tribe can take us from the foster care parents and put us with a relative (this being my bio grandmother). My adoptive mother literally went into a depressive state and my adoptive dad thought she was going to die. No joke. Once my bio grandmother knew she couldn't care for me, she decided it was best for my adoptive parents to have me. I wasn't even a year old when I went through that. I'm 24 now and I'm forever grateful that my parents raised me. ❤

[@Hearth123]

I'm so sorry you and your family had to go through that separation but glad you ended up with a good forever family. I have 2 Native American foster brothers, they're fantastic boys, but Tribal politics are definitely a different arena

[@irenemarlor4583]

I'm glad your with a family that loves you that's important. I too was adopted by English people, I'm Aboriginal woman now 62 but I knew they loved me. South Australia

[@bigsistahtips]

I love your parents. Beautiful people.

[@freak16]

That's a mother right there.. do you see how here eyes sparkles when she is telling her daughter's development.. and tearing up remembering the sad things. Huge difference from Myka.. that's why I never believe her being truly sad cause she doesn't care. Thank your reactions now I don't feel bad cursing Myka in my mind 🍀

[@heartsmyfaceforever8140]

Yes! This!! Mykas eyes didn’t well up once in that whole video of her talking about a child she JUST lost. No matter what the actual reason for giving up on him was, you’d think she’d have some emotional response talking about him after raising him for three years, but there was nothing- just her squeaky manipulative voice.

[@rosecox8115]

Yeah I felt like Myka was just crying because she got caught. She was crying because of the ridicule of the internet, not because she missed or regretted giving up Huxley.

[@vvs7185]

exactly!

[@mandapaige1]

I think she is truly sad, I just think she is truly sad for herself. She wanted her adopted song to complete their lives and when she saw no, it’s not like a fairytale, she gave up. Sounds very narcissistic. Idk

[@taylorarmstrong7826]

I wanted to rehome a DOG (that I trained it’s a long story lol) and I cried the whole time I looked. I couldn’t do it to him. I can’t imagine her being able to give away her child

[@Chakura]

The rocking sounds like a method of self soothing especially for a child who doesn't get enough attention during their early development

[@weemann4155]

U kinda right. Rocking is a common stim with autism that usually sparks up during sensory overload (although not always during that). Its like bouncing ur leg when ur anxious, it’s a calming thing

[@mightymelkor]

it is. i am 21 and i still rock back and forth to calm myself down and i usually don't even notice until someone points it out.

[@amandaserena2007]

Yup. I rock and I'm 35. I was actually doing it when I read this comment.

[@kikachuuuu]

I have a good friend from Romania .... he grew up in an orphanage he rocks quite a bit he told me there in the orphanage it’s only a matter of time before any of the new kids start rocking all of them end up doing it because they’re just left to their own devices staring at walls all day

[@Tara-id3rk]

Yes, she explained it’s a self soothing movement

[@DiannaMarie92]

I am dying to adopt, especially older children. Because everyone wants a damn baby 🤦🏼‍♀️. But this was like a knife being twisted in my stomach hearing and seeing that family throwing away a beautiful perfect child.

[@Jana-fs2qf]

Me too, my family fostered several children. The oldest they fostered was 13 along with his 4 year old sister. They had many issues like PTSD, the little girl was very touchy and sexual. He hated being touched and despised motel rooms. There was a lot more issues. But we did end up adopting them. I understand that older kids are typically not easy to handle but once u find a connection, all the struggles are worth it.

[@cringesicle7827]

Same! I have a plan on adopting a 16 y/o, then a 13 y/o and then a 5 y/o, I know I’m gonna be paying a lot of money, but I just want to help out these older kids in the orphanage. Everyone always goes after the babies and it makes me feel bad, like what about the older kids??

[@DiannaMarie92]

Cringesicle OK so I actually know a legitimate way around that where it’s not so expensive. Register your house and such like that and get it legalized for fostering and as you’re fostering the child you can officially adopt them the process is not only shorter but as well as less expensive doing it in that way.

[@Blueberryminty]

it is understandable as for an older child you really have to be strong and stable, while with a baby people can grow into being a parent for them. That's not something you can with an older child, you have to be ready from the start. on top of that, they can have a lot of bagage and your whole family have to be in it from the start and have to be prepared. you have to expect a rough road and learn to love a child that might have all kinds of issues and be a parent for them while they already have a mostly developed personality. Adopting an older child is much more like taking in a stranger in your home and is a step to far for many people. It's indeed sad, cause they can really use a home, a home where they can come to even after 18. Once over 18 the chances of them finding a home where they can be the child (as in the one that will be taken care of unconditionally) is almost extinct. There are not many healthy ways to find that as an adult.

[@stevieb.5836]

AND The Stauffer family’s ignorance and irresponsibility will likely lead to stricter regulations and/or costs that will add more barriers between children who desperately need families and potential parents hoping to adopt. It’s already almost insurmountable for many families to adopt...and now these wealthy, exploitative, abusive, neglectful people are making it MORE difficult for people hoping to adopt. The implications will be very far-reaching. They should also have open cases for their bio kids...the family likely has other issues that need to be explored.

[@AC-zn1wq]

I feel so much for Huxley. I was adopted at 16 out of foster care, but my adoptive mom was abusive and cared only about the money. Kicked me out at the age of 17. So I left and moved to Chicago. I feel so pain for him. It hurts. So much.

[@somegirl4631]

that's horrible! are you ok now?

[@lindsey246]

❤️ love you

[@AC-zn1wq]

꧁ME ꧂ yes I am. I’m doing good, I live by myself in my own apartment and car. I’m focusing on becoming an makeup artist and do works for magazines. I no longer have contact with my real family or adopted family.

[@somegirl4631]

@@AC-zn1wq ❤ lots of love and respect 😁

[@AC-zn1wq]

꧁ME ꧂ Thank you 😢♥️

[@mbr7156]

"Re-abandoned" *YESSSSSS !!!* that is the exactly correct term.

[@macarooni4023]

The thing is with Myka is that she was on camera saying how the orphanage told her and warned her multiple times about him having very severe issues. She heard this and let it go out the other ear, I personally find that sickening that she lied about that and didn’t take what they said seriously and further traumatize that poor child.

[@bobjames6284]

Narcissists are like that. Warn them all you want, but they're always convinced that none of that applies to them, as they're smarter and more competent than anyone else.

[@TimoteoDeBaum]

Her motives were more important than the warnings of well-being for the child.

[@keiona2545]

Someone said they were initially told they were getting a baby with a brain tumor. Based on speculation they wanted this child to be temporary in their life and once they found out it was a life time commitment to have a child with autism they didn’t want that. Scary watching videos and more and more you see they were looking for a wow factor to get as much money as possible and even asked for donations at one point

[@rgrobinsonxoxo]

Keiona this social media stuff be making mfs go so low. But either way that shows her character. Sis was literally told that it would be a tough situation, but she wanted to act all high and mighty like she wasn’t gonna fold

[@happyfungirl100]

Also, even if they "didnt know", you don't get to know if it's your bio child! It's your CHILD and you made a promise. I could even understand if it was a couple months, but they kept that poor boy for 3 years and let him get attached to them :( I want to protect him

[@TMB62]

My special needs daughter sucked her thumb until she was 9. I'm so incredibly furious with this woman.

[@Bethany0420]

I was taken from an abusive situation and was in the system and then adopted into a bad home and I sucked my index and middle fingers till the age of 13, it's extremely common and a way to self sooth. I can't imagine duct taping any child's fingers!

[@ExtinctEmu]

I have atypical autism and I sucked my thumb until I was 16....

[@EE-gz5xu]

Im 18 and i still suck my thumb :v

[@Livlocalmartian]

My uncle is late 30s and still sucks his thumb. Nothing is wrong with him, but he never stopped for some reason. But I totally think that taking away any persons’ soothing mechanisms or habits from them is ridiculous. Regardless of age

[@juliaholler260]

I’m 19 and I suck my thumb and my father is in his 50s and he still sucks his thumb as well!

[@easternflower6476]

My sisters were left in a farmers field in Guangdong China when they were 3 weeks old. They were behind in every facet developmentally. My parents gave them just as much love as they gave me and we would have sold our house and lived in a tent if it meant getting them the care they needed. Abandoning them wasn’t even in the realm of wildest possibilities for any of us. EDIT: Today my sisters are in 8th grade and thriving! They are pure joy in our lives, and we enjoy celebrating and learning about Chinese New Year with them each year. We made sure they always knew about their culture and the country they came from, and we all learned and educated ourselves together :)

[@nessyness5447]

My cousin is adopted too, from morocco when she was 3 years old, and my uncle and aunt loved her a lot. The problem is that they over spoiled her and she took advantage. She is an horrible person because her parents were not able to tell her no since everytime they tried she brought up they didn't lover for being adopted. She used this to get away with everything as kid, i would have to lend her all my things to " give example", but she would not lend anything. When she was 9 they brought for the summer an 8 yo girl from sahara who they had ..mm i don't know how to say it in english. Godparenting? They had kind of fostered her but in her country with her parents and they sent her money for clothes, medicine, studies etc ( they have been doing it until she became an adult and as far as i know she was able to get a high education thanks to that and not being separated from her bio parents). This kid was the sweetest girl ever, she was so polite and so good, she almost cried in emotion the first time she saw a pool and and potable water inside a house( that's for getting an idea of how poor her village was). So obviously we all wanted her to have the best summer ever. But my cousin soon became jelaous ( she had already done it with me, she would not let my uncle tell me tales because he was her dad and not mine, accoring to her, mind you, i only see my uncle in summer and christmas, they live in another city, and we used to be very close because i loved his stories about greek myths and even his explanation abouts rocks, he is a geologist) of the attention to the other girl. One would think being adopted she would have exra compasion for that girl. No, she was so horrible to the poor girl that my aunt and uncle decided that sadly they could not bring that girl another summer because they could not subject her to my cousins abuse. They would send extra money so maybe she could have vacations with her parents or just improve their house full time, but no putting her under the same roof as my cousin. That also made them decide against adopting a second child. Over the years my cousin became worse, as she grew up she started to even yell at her parents if they didn't obey her. Three years ago, her bio sister found her on socila nets, and they met. Turns out the bio mother was schizophrenic and had violent episodes ( hence why my cousin as a baby was taken from the woman). When the bio sister met my cousin, she told my uncle and aunt she was concerned that my cousin had inhereted the same type of schizophrenia cause she had behaviors very similar to their bio mother ( mind you, no one had informed my uncle and aunt that the bio mother had mental issues that could be hereditary, they just said she was a prostitute who gave the baby away). My cousin own bio sister got mad at her for how she was treating her parents sayinh she was ashamed of sharing blood with her. Imagine how bad you have to be for that. And despite all of that, my uncle and aunt have never considered for one second giving her up or even just kicking her out now that she is a full grown adult and potentially dangerous for them. She is their daughter so they will deal with her even if she becomes dangerous, and if she needs psychiatric help so be it because even as an adult she is still their responsability since she is their daughter. On the other side i have a much more happy story of a friend's aunt who adopted a 4 year old chinese girl, who grew up to be lovely person and got over her trauma ( she had shackles marks in her ankles when they brought her and very scared of anyone touching her). She is a really sweet girl but because of her trauma it was very hard for her parents ( and all the family, really) at first becaus they have to be very careful in theri interactions etc. It was a hard process but they didn't give up, the whole family welcomed her and she was able to recover and thrive.

[@birdgirl8390]

Damn those pesky ninjas are cutting onions in here again >:'(

[@erinnmcnew9080]

My sisters have a similar story! I just don't understand people like that couple. I get so confused when people say things like 'real siblings/parents' in reference to my bio siblings, or my sisters' bio parents....like....they exist in the physical realm and they are my sisters....how much more real do you want? The idea that someone could want to abandon a child they had adopted is as foreign and horrifying to me as abandoning a bio child.

[@advena996]

@@erinnmcnew9080 awww, that's how it should be, and what you, your sister and every other kid in the world deserve! The people who are abandoning their adopted kid are terrible...

[@LetsSeeTarot]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@sugarfreshh7991]

God bless your mama. Her message was so well spoken ✨

[@alexjayne_]

Thank you so much! I’m very lucky to have her 🧡

[@tunghuimin7755]

U guys are such lovely people, great video !

[@santajayclause1768]

She is lucky too, bless you both!

[@kalinedleewil152]

I needed to see this ! Everybody needs to listen to this video ! Thank u😇

[@HoneySuckle123]

Her mom is beautiful inside and out💕💕💕

[@kathylester7865]

I was adopted at birth and after 57 years my most profound anxiety is still rooted in the fear that they might give me back. This is shocking.

[@awearysonata4147]

I’m so sorry you are burdened by that. I can’t imagine your pain

[@heartsmyfaceforever8140]

I’m sorry. I was in the foster system and bounced around. My biggest fear even as an adult is my loved ones deciding they’re done with me even to this day. I know it’s not a rational fear but I have to talk it out with myself that it’s not going to happen at least once a day.

[@ravenbeaudoin109]

All you adoptees out there, you guys are wanted and loved. Nobody is gonna give you away, I promise ❣

[@-esmee-2697]

Im sorry you feel that way❤️ im also adopted, but my struggle is that i feel like i have to be the best at everything to prove that i was worth adopting? Idk💀 i just want you to know that your parents love you and would nEVER put you through that again❤️🥺

[@Ds-dd3jz]

Its normal that you still have that feeling Kathy. The moment you were taking away from your birth mom, you got a trauma. And this trauma (and loss) you are dealing with your whole life already. I’m adopted myself and I’m now 30, I’m in the process of dealing with the loss of my birth parents. It doesn’t matter if you were a baby or not, it’s still rooted in your body :( I hope you can find a way of dealing with this, I know it’s hard.

[@juliannar9376]

If he wasn't adopted, if he was their bio son would they "rehome" (abandon) him?

[@Blueberryminty]

something tells me they might... they could have put them up for adoption if they didn't fit their life... allthough I do hope they at least love their biological children unconditionally... cause what if one of them ever needs extra care or anything else time and energy consuming.

[@ashleycaron6953]

I don’t think so, i just have a feeling from seeing how the treat there children.

[@gwacie98]

Blueberrymint They referred to their fourth biological baby (born AFTER they adopted him,,) as their “hardest to handle” or something like that but they weren’t considering “rehoming” them 🤔

[@KvDenko]

they never would. Myka said that they would if something serious happened, but I'm 100% sure she was just saying that

[@rebelgames2546]

Yes they only care about money and if anything or anybody gets in the way she will remove them form the family

[@brookestewart9222]

This woman is so calming to listen to i would love to have her as a therapist lol

[@sherryblankenship3042]

Thank you so much!!

[@sherryblankenship3042]

@v. vargas ahhhh thanks . I am honored!

[@jillyoung8323]

I loved hearing your mom and her complete transparency and honesty! Keep it up, ladies!

[@karinaflores5201]

When I adopted my cat, I did not know he was abused as a kitten. I didn’t know he would scratch me violently for a month and that I would spend so much money on vet visits. I was 18 years old, earning minimum wage + a college student. My time and money were important and difficult to share but I made it my duty to give this cat the best care EVER and a great life. It was my mission to let him know he was loved, and to introduce him a quality filled life. All my money went towards him. I switched to online school. It took some time to get on his good side but I NEVER thought of rehoming him. How would I help him if I sent him off just because things were different than I expected? What type of person would I be to adopt a cat that feels just like I do, to then give him away as if he were a sweater? From the moment i adopted him, I knew everything that had to do with him was MY responsibility. 4 years later.. my cat is the most LOVING and energetic cat. The first time he rubbed his face against my cheek... i still cry when I think about it. A child is particularly difficult and different than an animal. I don’t understand how someone can re-abandon a child or a pet. As a mother of four she knew better. I know it’s difficult for all of them, but I honestly feel that the child will be emotionally overwhelmed and unstable

[@M_SC]

You are a great person but your goood qualities also make you vulnerable. Be careful in romantic relationships. Learn about narcissistic personality disorder and avoid such people .

[@katelyndodge2762]

Af there’s no “fixing” someone with a disorder. They can learn coping skills and with certain disorders, maybe take necessary medication. But the main takeaway from experience with someone like that is that it’s not then who has to change, it’s what you can adapt to and change about what you expect from someone with a prescribed limitation to their mind and/or body.

[@sunitasingh-oo9mz]

U restore my faith in humankind. Thank u for existing. 🙏

[@cepheus9856]

You're a great cat mom.

[@tessacarstairs5998]

You just restored my faith in humankind :D

[@ravenautry4958]

The police released a statement a week or so, not sure, about the whereabouts of Huxley. He has been found and is doing well. I'm in no way, shape, or form standing up for Myka. I'm disappointed and disgusted in her for what she has done. I just wanted to let others know about Huxley.

[@Maya-dw5jz]

I'm glad he is doing well I hope he will be happy!!

[@relent-lass7510]

Thank you for letting us know

[@randl7423]

Well technically the police said they could find no physical evidence he was being abused, that the Stauffers verbally denied human trafficking, and that they were closing the file. Insufficient evidence of trauma during a visit here or there isn't evidence of proper care, unfortunately. I dearly hope he is receiving love and compassion and attentive parenting. But we don't have any actual evidence that is the case. 🙁

[@ineedhoez]

Thank goodness.

[@cathecavanaugh615]

Thank you for the information .many people are breathing a sigh of relief for that .many people will continue to pray for this little guy anyway .that's great because all kids need prayer . its true THEY all need prayer !

[@peachlife5118]

Your mom is sooo angelic and a wonderful lady. Unfortunately some people should not even have kids, adopted or bio!!

[@alexjayne_]

I agree! Thank you so much, I am grateful to have her

[@priscilaalr]

Alex Jayne she is really nice and beautiful, just as you! Awesome family! ❤️

[@KarleeBoohoo]

As a birth mom, stories like this warm my heart. I got pregnant very young and chose adoption, I was fortunate to be able to meet the adoptive parents before birth and get to know them. The "baby" is now 26 years old, and has met my 3 children that I raised. I was worried that he would hate me for keeping them and not him, but, he held no anger, he had a great childhood with lots of love from the parents who adopted him. ❤

[@amberlee635]

lol another adopter fakes being a "birthparent" (are you an adoption agency owner too baby seller?)..

[@Kamumeshi]

@@amberlee635 you commented a year ago and then came back to spread more negativity lmao?

[@jgallub]

I was adopted from Korea when I was 3 months. Never had attachment issues with my family, but I still did have difficulty understanding why I was given away. I went through stages of grieving to finally accept why I was put up for adoption. Also anyone that says something so adamantly like she did, “ my child isn’t returnable,” but then returns the child, makes me think she planned out returning her son.

[@Em_Elizabeth]

I had a teacher whose older brother was adopted from Korea. He said that growing up together, being raised as brothers, he felt no different towards him than to any other sibling.

[@randl7423]

@Your fav latina That theory would explain her behaviour. I can imagine her thinking, "The views will be incredible if he passes away!" 😟

[@Simone-ft6hn]

I can’t remember where I saw it but someone said she thought she had a brain tumour which actually turned out to be just autism. So yeah, she probably expected him to die eventually so she can rake in more dollars.

[@liviestar365]

Your mom is so well spoken, is she a teacher?, I really like that she call it what it is, reabandoning

[@ugget7104]

Are you suggesting it is impossible for someone to be well spoken if they are not in a skilled employment?

[@dreasonf]

@@ugget7104 What a nice answer, It's an honor Mr President !

[@bitchmaffia9956]

Natalia Januchta what would make you think she’s suggesting that?

[@blankuser987]

@@ugget7104 you must have some pretty long arms to reach that far Natalia! interesting mental gymnastics you did there, must be a pro! :))

[@water4649]

Natalia Januchta 👁👄👁 no

[@laurac86]

I guarantee that Myka wouldn’t have given away one of her biological children....

[@jlpkbrb1086]

I wonder how her biological children feel about Huxley. I wonder what their conversations with them were. If their kids are compassionate and good humans who are heartbroken or just like their parents and dont care/happier without him

[@donjp6553]

She probably would’ve aborted them if the tests during the pregnancy came back abnormal. Like, I seriously think she would.

[@girlwhomustnotbenamed4139]

@@donjp6553 And that would have been her choice and 100% the responsible thing that wouldn't have hurt anyone, unlike having a child and then abuse them bc you can't take care of them. Exact same thing as taking someone from an orphanage even tough you can't love and take care of them. Your comment doesn't make any sense so stop virtue signalling and policing other people's bodies. Spare the criticism for people being irresponsible and neglecting or abusing actual children.

[@sarahok4197]

Shay Rose probably . She has no love or bond with those children

[@2turg_2furious]

Lustthen Consume they might think they are replaceable. Like you don’t meet mom’s standards you’ll be gone like your brother.

[@frappalina]

My mum used to volunteer in an orphanage holding newborns who had been abandoned and singing lullabies to them. She was an angel on earth

[@strawberrycherrybaby]

That touch can help prevent a lot of trauma and neglect issues earlier, your mom is a saint ❤

[@nalaqueenofthejungle]

We adopted an older child from China last year. I’m not going to lie, it was incredibly hard in the begining. He had (still has but much less) EXTREME anger issues. Throwing things, growling like an animal, grabbing a knife when he was angry, running away from us, etc. He was fighting us HARD. But we knew that he was fighting for his life. He didn’t know us. He didn’t know if he was going to be safe. He grew up in baby fight club. His anger kept him alive in the orphanage for so long. Through love, patience, therapy, and MOST IMPORTANTLY US AS PARENTS CHANGING SO WE COULD BE THE TYPE OF PARENTS OUR SON NEEDED. It was 100% on us to learn how to love him where he was at, not him coming to where we were and be the kid we would wanted. He still has some struggles but he has learned a brand new language, how to express his emotions, how to be loved, how to love in return, and how to just be a child. We have a long road to go but i would not ever give up on him.

[@heyhi8586]

Ik its self explanatory but can you expand on baby fight club?

[@vicfern]

I'm so happy for your family. You're full of love

[@kal-muzel875]

Fight club... I didn't even know that baby fight clubs existed I can't begin to imagine how kids are treated there

[@BewareOfTheLamaworm]

Hey Hi it’s probably just a phrase for orphanages and foster homes. You have to fight to get what you can in the sense of being aggressive, scary, and even actual fighting to get food, clothes, and necessities. Most kids barely get the minimum to survive in those places

[@rx500android]

You sound like great parents. I hope he grows up to feel more secure and I hope he will only get better and better ❤

[@VanessasCrochet]

Huxley will now be grieving for this family as he will not have the ability to comprehend why they are no longer around. They have turned his world upside down, inside out and ripped it into shreds. They should be held accountable.

[@mrsthebeatles8159]

I also imagine his inability to communicate will Express himself in different ways such as crying tantrum self injury or injury of others I hope his new family gets him some ABA Therapy and help to process and set up a communication system

[@morganfreeman9106]

My mom and dad are foster parents. The analogy they used to explain to myself and my siblings what these kids had gone through will always stick with me. We were super into Star Wars when my parents were first certified and ready to get their first placements, so they compared it to Alderaan. “These kids have had their entire planet blown up. What seems normal to us won’t seem normal to them. Everything and everyone they knew was taken away. Now it’s our job to help them to feel safe.”

[@Leolover777]

That is what pisses me off about the whole situation. To him the family is his security and he needs that to develop emotionally, mentally etc... I do understand that is can be overwhelming sometimes to have a child with special needs, but there are services!!!!!! There’s early intervention, there’s education for the parents, so I do not feel bad for them.

[@jelwell87]

Those abandonment issues can and likely will affect the rest of his life and relationships going forward. The least they could have done is financially secure his mental and physical healthcare going forward.

[@nancybusso6171]

My late husband and I adopted 5 daughters, 2 from China and 3 from Cambodia. They are all in there 20’s now. Your adoption is very much like my first adoption from China...very delayed, etc but that child was MINE the second Holt sent me her photo! One of my daughters from Cambodia was 5 yrs when she came home and now she is a professor at a college, aged 25 yrs. When I was able to bring home her bio sister aged 9 yrs she excelled in school also! All my daughters came with “baggage” but we dealt with any problems. They are all doing very well now and I love them dearly. I have 2 bio sons and my husband had 2 bios also. There is no difference in the love I feel for each of them and my husband felt the same way. I was adopted domestically 70 yrs ago.

[@alexjayne_]

You’re an amazing person. You did a great job 💜💜💜 Thank you for sharing your story

[@nancybusso6171]

@@alexjayne_ People always told us how "lucky" the girls were....but we always said how lucky we were to have them in our lives!

[@drdeb_ocherry]

HOOYA! Bravo too you!🏆❣️🥰

[@BrittBeeMcGee]

God bless you and your family. 🙏🏼

[@060525]

God bless you Nancy!

[@ShamanSquirrel]

This is literally the 1st video I've seen where someone said it was weird as hell that they kept saying "rehome" like the kids a dog.

[@crazmonkee123]

Adoption is so hard. I was adopted from Hong Kong, China at the age of 7. I stayed with a foster family and was extremely attached to that family. Up until they decided they couldn’t afford to keep me and gave me up. I was in an orphanage before I started living with my foster family in HK. I’m now with an American family and admit that I do have some issues due to the fact that I was abandoned twice in my life. I can’t imagine the trauma this child is going to have later on. Thank you to you and your mom for sharing your perspectives on this very serious issue. It’s so important that people become educated about abandonment and how much trauma and PTSD that child will go through. Because of what I went through, I have an extremely hard time having close relationships with people in fear I won’t be loved, or if there’s something wrong with me and they’re just going to abandon me eventually..etc. But anyway, I love your video, Alex! Thanks!

[@mmichy]

Thank you for sharing ❤️ some things are out of our control and I’m sorry that some hurtful things have happened to you. I hope that you can find peace within yourself & with those who truly love you like your American family. May God bless you ❤️

[@venicemidnight]

Reading your story was really heartbreaking. I hope you feel you've found a good place now with people that will be in your life for a long time. I truly hope you are ok and happy ❤️

[@xiaoleinap5430]

You are very strong and brave! Hope you all the best for your future!

[@the_rachel_sam]

My little was adopted from China, as well as her two siblings (not biological, but adopted as well,) and her family basically abandoned any Chinese, or Asian in general, aspects of her heritage and culture. She became a typical SoFlo girl. We don’t really talk anymore, but I am actually considering adopting in the future (health issues) and I was wondering-would you, personally, should you have been adopted and raised by an American family at a young age, want to keep that cultural aspect in your life and blended with a typical Caucasian lifestyle? Or would you prefer to just live a typical life in your new cultural environment?

[@merry_christmas]

🤍❤️ you're stronger and way more loved than you'll ever believe you are 🤍❤️

[@Dako108]

When people delved into Myka's records, it turns out that she was lying about her being a Registered Nurse. After getting in trouble at work in her last nursing job, she failed to renew her license and stopped being a RN in 2012. Years later she was still saying on camera that she was a RN.

[@Emily-jg4eo]

Whatttttt

[@zazaap]

She attacked a pregnant lady on the job. There was a lawsuit against her filed under her maiden name. Google and it would come up.

[@bararobberbaron859]

@@zazaap Yeah, I believe she threw a metal cart at a pregnant co-worker, super classy move..

[@zazaap]

@@bararobberbaron859 Myka & 8 Passenger Mom are vying for top spot of biggest narcissistic psychos on youtube.

[@superalex381]

zazaap FACTS!!

[@Easydecisionhardlife]

I can’t even give away my cat, let alone a human being

[@beachgirl445]

i know right! i have a problem with people that get animals and then give em up... so this myka girl and her husband are repulsive!!!

[@JustNatax3]

I still cry over my cat I had to rehome due to an extremely long hospital stay and rehab. I still miss her every day. It was the responsible thing to do. But it was the worst too. Edit: hospital stay on my part, not my cat!!! I knew I wasn't going to be home consistently for months on end

[@Enchanteresse_Sif]

Nati Whatever that must have been really hard. I hope you’re doing better now.

[@adrianazashen]

The way she described her daughter is the way i felt when I found me cats lol

[@BookBird2963]

Same! My cat is my baby. My literal daughter. I could never do that to her.

[@missmirandaelaine]

I also really wonder how the other children are going to feel once they're old enough to understand what happened. They're probably going to end up really resenting their parents and understandably so.

[@bebebebota11]

They are probably going to grow up thinking their mommy can 'rehome' them if they are not perfect kids.

[@silvergirl2847]

That's putting it mildly.

[@oliviahernandez9777]

@@bebebebota11 EXACTLY. obviously huxley comes first, but the bio kids are going to realize their parents would have given them up had they not met their expectations. how horrific. to know ur parents are capable of that. to know they view children as disposable. god it's infuriating.

[@sophiaharkness1986]

I know and it was obvious the other children had a really close bond with Huxley and they didn’t pick up on the way they’re parents were treating him

[@gothnerd887]

They'll probably end up thinking that Hansel and Gretal is a true story

[@rmercedes971]

This lady had no business adopting that child. None! I hope he’s with a better family, and that he can heal from this dark time in his life.

[@desireevega7787]

and also those parents need to face the consequences of what they did and they need to support Huxley financially, that's the least they can do considering they literally made money off him.

[@donnapiraino3323]

Well Myka said he did have attachment issues....However on the videos he is seen kissing her, interacting with her, returning hugs to her and putting his head on her shoulder.... Myka duck taped his thumbs to prevent him from sucking His thumbs for comfort, to soothe himself...However she let her older child suck their thumb....He was segregated from the other children's schedule....Myka loves the spotlight..She is an attention seeker..Loves the Drama and views KZbin as Her Acting Debut....Shame on both of them...They basically did the equivalent to Child human trafficking

[@GJS-live]

She's a potpourri of Cluster B.

[@krystalfloods6197]

maze I was going to say the same thing! I don’t think myka knows what attachment disorder is

[@km12054]

Can we stop calling it "rehomed" this is a child not a dog, call it what it is...a failed adoption.

[@Iggystar71]

Karen McCaffrey Thank you!!!

[@Prettymapleleaf]

Myra actually called it that herself.

[@patrickhyatt172]

People are ignorant, what do u expect?

[@mackarenaramirezhumana4078]

Abandoning

[@frahn1702]

That’s what the Stauffers called it

[@MG-uz5mr]

Sherry (Alex's mom) is the voice we need on KZbin. I love how fair and balanced she is in her assessment of not only the issues at hand, but also her own boundaries in knowledge. The thumb-sucking part isn't just that Mykka didn't do it for her bio kids, it also has to do with the fact that their dentist recommended it as H was at high risk for dental issues in the future. People need to be careful that we don't criticise others for our own ego, getting excited to "spill the tea" and trash talk whoever is marked by society right now. The goal is to acknowledge the real errors and correct them, so we can all learn how to behave better

[@sonjadover2715]

Excellent point. That had never occurred to me.

[@n0odles86]

But who said the dentist recommended it? Myka and her pathetic husband? Or was the dentist on camera saying that? Cos I can tell you, with a daughter who had the thumb sucking addiction, our dentist never once told us to tape up her hands. Gloves, that awful bitter stuff you put on nails, positive reinforcement. Duct tape on the hands is tantamount to child abuse here in the UK. You'd be investigated by the SS.

[@randl7423]

I agree about Sherry. She is the opposite of the entitled unreasonable Boomer stereotype. She's a kind, responsible, real grown-up. Happy to see that and their strong bond!

[@ericsbuds]

this may be true, but damn its hard to find anything nice to say about them

[@tara_ble1705]

@@n0odles86 also, it is very clear both Myka and James over exaggerate many, many situations, so.....yeah. Most children who do the pacifier or suck their thumb ARE prone to dental issues, but again, that’s yet another example of the difference made between him and the bios.

[@mrmvpvip]

I agree with the part about "health" being a broad spectrum, especially in the poor sections of China. I don't think one can expect a baby being abandoned in a village in suburb China can be in fully good health (which is unfortunate). So even if you're opting to adopt a "healthy" baby, one should be prepared to deal with some medical needs, be it physical or psychological, of the baby, which is what parents do. It feels wrong to hear Myka talking about the baby not being "as it should be" as if she was talking about a product she ordered from Amazon.

[@LilKingler]

perfect explanation honestly, especially her viewing the baby as a returnable item

[@Hortonheardahoe]

Exactly. These are neglected children. There will be some issues, whether physically or mentally. That should be assumed!!

[@margaretrangel7223]

Exactly. A baby could be totally healthy too and still develop issues later on. I hope Huxley finds a forever home.

[@aplainjaneproduction8285]

And I believe they wanted a special needs child

[@shayrah3443]

Wow your mom is so well spoken and articulate, no wonder you are so confident. She's an inspiration to all women who are looking to adopt in the future. I can just tell she's loving and strict like a mom but also like a friend. Thanks for sharing the other side that is successful adoption and raising children, this perspective was much needed.

[@tara_ble1705]

Yes, she absolutely is. If only every mother was so wonderful-myself included. A lot less therapy would be needed.

[@becsylapp9218]

I hate the term "re-homed" as well. It absolutely does not sit well with me. Thank you to your mama for chatting about this. 💕

[@alexjayne_]

I’m glad you enjoyed the video! Thank you so much!

[@juanitaschlink2028]

Yup. As soon as I heard "re homed" I raged. This child is not a goddam pet!

[@ariel4778]

hearing you talk about how the babies would just rock to soothe themselves breaks my heart. babies at that age are so innocent and they deserve love and care and affection.

[@kylabella05]

Huxley was in an orphanage, than with a foster family (who he bonded with) than adopted by the stauffers, and than he was abandoned by them. So technically he was abandoned by his mother, “by the orphanage”, by the foster family(not their choice) and than by the stauffers. This poor baby. He did not deserve this treatment.

[@julia_condor]

and I saw someone saying it was harder for them, having to make this decision

[@courtesy3993]

why did he leave the foster family? I'm not English, is a foster family like temporary?

[@FrauleinValissa]

macveel veelmac Yes. Foster families are temporary families. It’s a better environment than the orphanage. The foster family usually gets paid for taking care of the kids. Kids leave their foster home when they find the adoptive home, which is supposed to be permanent XD

[@shelley5455]

Poor Huxley 😥😥😥😥

[@Linalinaanil]

I think you used the word “than” wrong. It’s “then” it’s a little confusing:)

[@katiemac4290]

"Rehome" is a word I use for plants or household items like furniture. I wouldn't even use that word for a pet. If it loves you and depends on you and you leave it behind then its abandonment period. Thank you mama for sharing your opinion!

[@Stuffcrapnthings]

Pets are not people so the comparison is ridiculous at best.

[@thejustinwestra]

Debra Lewis How is that a bad comparison? Pets bond with their owners, and if they are abandoned or “re-homed” it can greatly affect the animal’s behavior. This happens to children to a higher degree. If a child is abandoned or “re-homed” it can have a lasting affect on the child’s development, as well as mental health. This comparison was used to essentially say, if it’s wrong to abandon your pet, it’s even MORE wrong to abandon your child.

[@katiemac4290]

@@thejustinwestra thank you!

[@cara7579]

Debra Lewis a baby and a pet both rely on you for shelter, food and protection how isn’t it a good comparison. stop defending them abandoning their son

[@mysweetenerworld]

I can’t imagine sending my pet back to the adoption center, let alone send back a child. Heartless people💔

[@ejc5480]

The so-called "orphanage rock" was very common amongst people who were institutionalised, particularly from a young age. It's a self-soothing, sensory response to little-to-no stimulation and interaction from other people. Years ago if you went to any poorly-run (as most were) institution that housed people with even mild learning disability or mental health issues like depression you would get lots of rocking which would make people appear 'scarier', less able or more ill than they actually were. It's a symptom of massive neglect. So happy you got the love you deserved.

[@meaganadwyer]

I just started bawling as soon as she described "orphanage rock". How anyone can just abandon a child, especially a hurting child, after you have made the commitment to that child and told it that it is yours.... I can't even fathom the inhumanity and callousness.

[@blumerlredpilledgirl8958]

I’m not sure if you believe the 800,000 children who go missing every year. There are some people who do not consider babies or children valid humans. The amount of abortions every year. We do not value life. Very sad.

[@BusyAngel9999]

Yeah I started crying right then and there. Children can’t speak how neglected are they that they can’t use the only way of communication because nobody listens to them. that they have to soothe themselves. I cannot imagine how anyone working in an orphanage can see such a thing from the most defenseless innocent creatures in the planet. I could not bear to even hear about this much less see this!

[@nope.thankies]

@@blumerlredpilledgirl8958 oh, no no no don't make this about that

[@truthseeker7997]

You can feel the love this mother has for her daughter.

[@Jenny-ch6gc]

I like how your mom said when you leave the hospital/adoption center that baby is yours，made me in tears. Every baby deserves to have a awesome mom like her.

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

Quote from my mom(adopted, but my REAL mom): we don’t even give dogs back to the shelter. You make it work. A commitment is a commitment. Children don’t bounce back after a while.

[@ciararyan8268]

Children are not internet props to boost your social media: the only justice to come out of this would be to make sure Huxley is safe and to remove all the children from Myka Stauffer home. She clearly is not fit to be a mother

[@jeanneanne3095]

As an adoptive mom of three, I confirm everything that your mother says is true. Myka is a nurse and has the knowledge to care for this child, she also has the money to care for Huxley. What she lacks, is compassion, the desire to put the time in, and unconditional love for this boy. Myka is fake, and she faked her way through the adoption process to get Huxley. God bless you Alex. Have a beautiful life, and God bless your mother. 💖🙏🏻✝️ I highly recommend the book Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier to all adoptive parents and adoptees to understand the damage done. Your mother is correct when she says that Huxley was “re-abandoned“ not rehomed.

[@aleahlund123]

Yes!

[@yanithsaherrera7533]

❤️❤️❤️

[@newnana9070]

Mom wanted recognition for adopting Huxley. Reabandoned. If you can’t handle imperfections in your child, don’t become a parent period. No child is perfect, NO CHILD! No mater what you hear from parents. We are prejudice. You can just throw babies to the curb/ in the garbage. This person doesn’t need children. Period!!!!!! No pity for her.

[@blublukourtney1951]

@@newnana9070 yeah even with biológical children, you dont know if they are gonna have any kind of disalbility when they are born. I really doubt that if huxley was her biológical kid, that he would be "rehomed" because it was "hard".

[@para-yw9dn]

@@blublukourtney1951 exactly! if it was her biological kid she NEVER would have reabandoned him like that.. like she has the money to care of him

[@lilysinclair5283]

Your mum literally sounds like the perfect person to look after lil Huxley

[@verucasalt9182]

Lily Sinclair she has done her motherly thing and I assume the only babies she is expecting to look after are alices ones . 😬

[@daliasamad1541]

Dulcinea Del Toboso ????

[@texasburbs4380]

As an adoptive mom of a special needs child from Korea, what this family did is unconscionable. They are simply terrible human beings....parental love should NOT be conditional. We used Holt as well and I cannot say enough great things about them. Kudos for you to continue to support!

[@sherryblankenship3042]

Loved Holt

[@Arabica]

When you adopt a child, you’re vowing to accept them with every beautiful flaw and imperfection they have; you are vowing something permanent you can’t undo. Shame on myka.

[@Pointlesspeach]

Exactly. It’s the same when you decide to have a child. A child will never be perfect. But it is your purpose to love them and help them however they need. Of course it is going to be difficult. And that’s why people need to be able to make the choice for themselves if they are not *ready* to have a child. Because once you have a child they are yours FOREVER. The fact that someone brought a child into their family and then later decided ‘no I don’t want this child in my family anymore’ is an abomination.

[@emmab5204]

And her husband. Lets not forget he's just as guilty

[@whalepsychologist]

Shame on James too!,

[@Em_Elizabeth]

And to integrate the child into the family.

[@gabbi892]

Good on your mother for not being one of those people who adopts a child who looks nothing like them but doesn’t acknowledge the fact that their child is of a different ethnicity and thrown into a white (or whatever race the family is) family. I feel like that’s all too common and leads to identity issues later on in life for the adopted child.

[@NordicFreyja]

I agree, and I have those issues, and the funny thing is that I am white in a white family, and have those issues... So you can have the same skin color but different ethnicity and still have identity issues later on in life. Side note if there is any spelling errors sorry, English is not my first language.

[@sophiegrace8043]

In a human development class I took, we are taught that the best and healthiest route adoptive parents can take is to fully acknowledge their child's adoption and where they come from.

[@onmycameraroll]

Carina: wow! Never considered that.

[@para-yw9dn]

@@NordicFreyja yeah i cant imagine that even if it is ethnicity.. like dang sorry about that i hope you're doing better now.

[@hallowedbethymelancholy8299]

I agree.

[@rachlong4705]

Just saw an article a couple minutes ago that they are now under investigation, by the Delaware county sheriff’s office, over this whole situation.

[@andrielisilien]

Yes please, they deserve to be prosecuted to the fullest extent!! How dare they do this to a child. 😡

[@shelley5455]

Good! I hope they take this case seriously 😡

[@yezmita16]

🙏🏻

[@Jo2Lie]

But I'm wondering what happened to that poor baby?

[@clairereilly5962]

the police are also looking into how they treat the bio children as I doubt they are legitimately good parents even to the biological kids

[@lyaadonara1386]

I want to teach myself to have this lady's heart. You are so lucky to have her as your mom. God, I'm crying & I'm not even adopted or anything close.

[@sherryblankenship3042]

Ahhh that’s so sweet