My Journey of Self-Acceptance

In this video I'll be going over five methods that have helped me find self acceptance.
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[@ThreeTwentyTech]

Ali's true love is Productivity.

[@shormy4716]

YES 😂

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We Needed this

[@rajghetia]

Always has been.

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@@rajghetia ...always will be.

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Ah and here I was hoping Ali had made some progress on the “wife project” 🤣🤣🤣

[@kilecan]

Husband project actually

[@jackiedelvalle]

I knew 'true love' from Ali would be clickbait.....

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Too

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@@jackiedelvalle I know right! I was like I'm 99% sure this is clickbait but for the 1% chance it's not i have to watch 😂

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Yes, KZbin's most eligible batchelor off the market? Surely not! ;-)

[@chonkydonkyexplains4778]

Last week: “We broke up” This week: “How I found true love” What is this subplot you are teasing us with Ali??

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You deserve a KZbin gold play button for this comment.

[@YnnaLifeinJapan]

I grew up struggling with self-love, as a middle child, I had a really bad childhood, my own mother called me ugly and useless but I never hate other people. I only express hate towards myself and blame myself for everything. But once I realized that I am beautifully and wonderfully made by God, and felt that I am loved by Him no matter what I look or what I’ve done, I started learning to accept myself for who I really am - a beautiful complex human being like everybody else. Sorry just sharing❤️I hope everyone finds an unconditional lover like God. No matter what form He takes in your life.

[@maverickjr371]

Amen to that!

[@YnnaLifeinJapan]

@As far as I know an imaginary friend is something only the person imagining it can create, see and experience. A lot of other people had the same experience as mine so you cannot call it that. But I’m not here to convince you so just please respect. Thank you and have a nice day ☺️

[@Windsguidance]

@ dude go outside and touch grass, learn to respect other people

[@xx-lb7ps]

@ one day perhaps you may come to understand and have a relationship with God as well. I know it is hard to believe something without concrete evidence. Honestly i struggled with such an abstract and what i used to say "lack of concrete evidence" being as well. I was never a non-believer of God, i believed he exists, just not a part of my life. Only when i opened my heart to Him in true honesty did i get my answer as well. So perhaps not now but it takes time and everybody is working on a different time frame :) cheers and wish you a great life mate!

[@Windsguidance]

@ lmao you definitely need to touch grass

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Ali, let me tell you: Every South Asian person goes by life without working on self-love. You are not alone ❤️

[@Saurankhan24]

Exactly.

[@TlhomphoDitedu]

Facts

[@JHS270694]

True.

[@phillipbenoit5179]

Lol it's ok because most Pakistani's are already cute and have fried rice for dinner😆 And whether or not you or I understand how unfair and how we have blessings we have that are "just there" . Accept Jesus Christ as your savior that's yours and my own free gift ✝️🎁

[@genius6084]

@@phillipbenoit5179 no

[@zahrasultan711]

I love how 'Sheen' is on the list of things ( it feels wrong to say 'things' but can't thing of another word 😓) Ali is grateful for

[@tanzaniteaugustine6748]

love the play on words 😂😂

[@DariusTan]

In summary, the 5 methods to help us cultivate self-acceptance are: 1. Practice relaxed awareness 2. Let go of rating yourself/ comparing yourself to other people 3. Practice gratitude 4. Understand forgiveness and compassion 5. Separate yourself from your emotions 🔥

[@moonlight_staryx]

Don't stress yourself for the days you've done nothing instead focus on the remaining chance you have left & work on it☺✨

[@skyer0blue]

I agree with this: to go one step further, I think a lot of people put too higher definition of 'nothing'. For instance just getting out of bed, feeding yourself, practicing good hygiene, interacting with others, letting yourself recharge, going for a short walk, these are all essential things to a content life that a lot of people would discount as having done 'nothing' in their day.

[@stephenhopewell1377]

@@skyer0blue you're very right❤️❤️

[@stephenhopewell1377]

I love this💗💗

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True

[@FarhanHasan7]

Loved this!

[@JocelynJBartolome]

I love how you wrote Sheen as someone you're grateful for! So wholesome ☺️

[@Decoded24]

Sheen has really filled this man in love and understanding emotions.

[@helensmith4297]

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I'm so happy for taking the bold step in working and investing $2000 with Expert Mrs Alice after a week I received $19,680 to my bank

[@IsaacJoshi]

My motto with self love and self improvement: "love yourself as you are and love yourself enough to want to get better"

[@ThreeTwentyTech]

Your new apartments looks so nice and modern.

[@Jubair194]

Once I found love and then there wasn't. Sometimes it takes losing it to give you the opportunity to start to love yourself. Now I love myself and I am a productivity beast and I have my beauty too.

[@HoangHieu-kv2sp]

Your honesty with yourself and with your audience brings inspiration & healing for me. For so long I’ve been struggling with demon of my past, things I’d failed to do and had so much regrets in life. These words really changed me: “No amount of self-improvement can make up for any lack of self-acceptance”. For many years I haven’t been able to be at peace with myself. That explains a lot why I invested so much in self-improvement, and why I could never susbtain a productivity system that require a strong stable metality to begin with. I have always been a fan of yours since the early days, witnessing your journey of learning, changing, and be more aware of self through good times and struggling times. I hope the best for you, for people around you.

[@sacdaabdurhman]

"It does not matter how slowly you go, so long as you do not stop." I might not know you but you will succeed. This is something people won’t tell you NEVER GIVE UP.

[@whatevermalik3630]

Things I am grateful for Anguis,Sheen. My heart melted

[@Shannyyyyyyy]

Ali is grateful for having Sheen 🥺🥺🥺 How adorable ❤️💎❤️

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[@princessivyarmas4396]

Hi Ali, I just want you to know that I consider myself a very lucky person for finding your channel. I'm just a new subscriber this year and I can't express how thankful I am for discovering you and be enlightened by your video content. This may sound unrealistic but since the day I've found your channel, I noticed that I have improved mentally, physically, and emotionally. Although I'm not able to execute or follow all of your methods, because our lives move differently in a lot of ways, it still helped me to be a better version of myself as well as cope up with my relapses. Thank you for guiding me how to live my life more happily and productively. THANK YOU SO MUUUUUUCH!

[@tomasdolezal8303]

Hey Ali! I've been following your journey for several years but this kind of content was exactly what I've been missing here. Not because of content itself but because of you. I had a low-key impression that you go too hard on yourself, always grinding and wanting more for yourself. That's a good motor to keep things going, but not the ultimate motivator. In Czech, we have this idiom: „Fire is a good servant, but a bad master,“ and the exactly same can be said about desire for more. I'm really glad you deal with these topics recently. You are such a great person and you need self-worth more than self-improvement, just like everybody else. Thanks for everything you do and taking care of yourself.

[@sashalilly5093]

Also Ali you don’t always have to build a rigid ‘meditation’ practice! Just doing it when you can for however long you can is enough, e.g., noticing instead of listening to music when ur travelling, letting yourself sit with negative feelings, being present when you’re brushing ur teeth etc. Ur doing great already! 💜

[@ZoeysMusings]

Yessssss Sheen made it on Ali's list of things he's grateful for and I'm here for it!!!

[@farvaalikhan3761]

Closing eyes and pushing our thoughts away was common but I love this idea of noticing our thoughts and feelings ,it is indeed a very good way of self acceptance!But I’m always running towards perfection 🥺

[@stephen-finance]

This is a great topic! One of the criticisms that I sometimes hear people levy against self help/personal development gurus, youtubers, etc is not talking about self acceptance enough. Now I can send them this video, when I see this complaint next.

[@mehnazfatema1182]

I knew it . I knew it. True love is accepting yourself the way you are and it teaches us to work with what we have and do better ❤️

[@ananthu8909]

This video feels like such a breath of fresh air. Feels more authentic, and defintely a welcome change from all the "how to get better" at this and that videos. Though I practise gratitude, after watching this video, I realized that I often direct it outwards and very few times towards myself. That is a great point, I feel, and something that I'll incorporate into my practice from now on. And yes, treating negative emotions like a floating leaf and not getting overwhelmed by them--another point that gave me pause. Thanks Ali for a really good video!

[@pietart3596]

Thanks for summarising everything that's needed! Self acceptance has always been hard for me but I've realised over time there's no good reason to compare yourself to anyone else. Everyone struggles, and life experiences shape us. I am good enough the way I am because I wouldn't be on this path otherwise :)

[@toni-marielamonth8319]

When I saw the title "How I found true love," ITS THE FASTEST THAT I'VE CLICKED IN MY ENTIRE LIFE

[@jassimkoya]

This is probably the first video on YT for which I'm not disappointed about having been clickbaited. 😉💯

[@TuomasKivioja]

Really amazing that you are sharing this Ali, huge thumbs up. Self-improvement is amazing and can change our lives but at some point we need to accept that we are good enough. Otherwise the pursuit of more and more productivity etc will never end and we'll never be fulfilled after all.

[@rajsreesarkar8826]

Ali is just like THE most honest person I've ever come across on Yt

[@shraddhamishra4066]

Aww you're grateful for Angus and Sheen! That's Adorable ♥♥♥♥

[@pennyprodigyshorts]

hey ali thank you for helping me throughout gcse, i'm going through my as levels now and i've been taking lots of advice from your study videos ❤️

[@CFury04]

Self-expansion theory. It's hard to find someone we can self expand with until we are able to expand in ourselves first. Self acceptance is part of the self-expansion process. You're doing so good in life Ali. You're always improving yourself in all aspects of your life and expansion with another will come in time.

[@maribelriosyoutube]

Ali you have inspired me so much and I’m so grateful for that. Remember we are not human beings having a spiritual experience but spiritual beings having a human experience. Love you are making videos on this topic now 💛💛💛

[@teenafrench7236]

You are a faithful person...it's why you put so much effort into your life...you are a believer...that's plain to see...and I think you are Great!!!

[@RichPlusHappy]

Practicing gratitude and loving yourself... That's all what you need 💛💚💙

[@junaidur_rehman]

Ali’s true love is providing us with insane value each and every time. This guy is literally like a machine churning out 1:1 value for the small cost of a cheeky like 🤩👍🏽

[@rp0110]

Im actually so surprised you made a video like this. I've followed u for a while and I would've never expected u to make a video like this lol. But I'm glad you're touching more onto your emotional side and giving yourself more love ahaha. Thank u for the video ❤

[@aneed2read]

In Option B by Sheryl Sandberg, she speaks about the passivity of gratitude and how it can be really helpful to include a 'What went well today/yesterday?' question into your journalling to allow you to take some credit for the parts of your day that went according to plan or exceeded the plan. I LOVE YOU ALI XXXXXX

[@SmartHobbies]

Comparison only leads to unhappiness. You are beautifully and wonderfully made to be unique. Enjoy it.

[@santiagotovarlara6409]

Wow! You should really be proud of yourself for realizing this! Gongratulations, dude 👏

[@jaimetan]

Excellent advice and self-realisations! It’s lovely to see you grow and mature… loving the depth in this video, looking forward to seeing more. Also - there’s a LOT of overlap between Stoicism and yoga philosophy, so the deeper you go with the yoga and meditation, the more you’ll see how the ancients across time and space just “got it”, this life stuff.

[@markuslandington2593]

Satisfaction in relationships comes from seeing yourself as a bowl of ice-cream with all the different and awesome flavors. Another person will just be adding another flavor(s) to your existing personal collection of flavors. Self acceptance and self love must be realized before going into a sustainable relationship.

[@iallegedly8442]

*Thanks for the feedback~~~I have something big I'd love to introduce you to feel free to chat me immediately for more enlightenment.

[@iallegedly8442]

@+1𝟸𝟷𝟶𝟹𝟶𝟻𝟽𝟻𝟿𝟾

[@brothersvanhees]

This video was on point. Self acceptance is so important. I hope that more people feel motivated to love themselves more thanks to your video. Keep it up, Ali!

[@ellieyanng83]

You really help me to clear my negative emotions. I feel happy now.

[@annepower3313]

Only just found you, was just about to go to bed then KZbin thought I might like to see one of your videos...here I am 3 videos later - hooked. It's like everything you talk about is what I need. 😃🤷🏼‍♀️ Thanks! Altho it's Gona be hard to get up for work in the morning 😴

[@SpiceCity]

The original student doctor we all appreciate and live for!

[@motivationbaychannel6891]

We all know how important it is to live with purpose, but sometimes life can seem so hard. Jim Rohn tells us it's also hard to put our dreams on hold. Most of us start out imagining something great for ourselves, but life often interrupts. But if you've ever seen someone with serious disabilities do incredible things, you'll know that nothing is impossible. Live with purpose, and without excuses.

[@anamargaridamachado3909]

Entering the most relevant paths of all! So happy for you Ali 🙏☺️

[@bluespark9927]

I really appreciate Ali putting subtitles in🙏 it's great

[@riyavarghese6124]

Love how authentic this video is, would love to watch more videos like this ^.^

[@MichaelNealeYT]

I have recently started practicing Stoicism and have definitely found self acceptance. There are times that I struggle, but everyone does

[@k_davidenko]

Finally Ali goes a bit vulnerable, love it! Thank you❤️

[@anxen]

In this episode of Zen and the Art of the Productivity Maintenance we learn that we shouldn't take anyone for granted, including our very own selves.

[@nabilahhuda1996]

Loving this new territory you’re going into, Ali :)

[@casiragui52]

I absolutely love this video. So many things to review in my life. Big thanks for your help. ♥

[@IrrationalPye]

You seem so much happier than usual in this video, Ali!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Ali, it’s the bare minimum to be a better person and to work on yourself, but it’s nice to see you come along so far. Good luck!

[@inferno7289]

This is such a precious video, I hope you make more videos on this as you progress on your self-acceptance journey!

[@intentionalliving7326]

People tend to think money is the solution to everything, but it is not. So happy you’re making these kind of videos✨

[@Saurankhan24]

Coffee Angus and Sheen are on Ali's grateful list.😄 great.👍

[@_aiborie]

Loved how your time living with Sheen had a profound effect on you. I'm still following that amazing woman.

[@ohrlolohr]

I love this new part of you! I really enjoyed the video and learned something meaningful. Thanks Ali! 😊

[@rohanmeda6171]

One of the most important lesson I've learnt is to shorten the hindsight window which is basically feeling gratitude for the events in our life that we feel were not good but thought us something. by shortening this window we can start feeling grateful to all the situations in life and also think what can I learn from this event

[@dalinaroz]

This is one of my favorite videos so far:) Thank you, Ali!

[@AStarlessReader]

I'm really glad you made this video. Your productivity videos are really helpful and all, but I also went through this "phase" of reading Cal Newport and listening to podcasts about finances and minimalism, only to realize that being constantly under pressure to be PRODUCTIVE I forgot what that even meant. Yoga and meditation helped me a lot, acceptance through Stoic philosophy (altho it's so popular nowadays and there are some dangers to go over-board with it, the same as with productivity), reading fiction books, but most importantly learning for the sake of learning, not some extra points for university, all these things helped me to do more "unproductive" things that paradoxically made me a happier and more productive person.

[@iallegedly8442]

*Thanks for the feedback~~~I have something big I'd love to introduce you to feel free to chat me immediately for more enlightenment.

[@iallegedly8442]

@+1𝟸𝟷𝟶𝟹𝟶𝟻𝟽𝟻𝟿𝟾

[@shraddhamishra4066]

Ali has really had an update, He gracefully thanked us for Watching the Video, Mate, You're evolving

[@Hamza97]

nice, grats on 2m brother

[@antiresistance]

Adonisssssssss.......

[@jenwithjvinco3734]

I love it, great video. I really support your introspectiveness and how you're seeking out good things.

[@TheperfectfrenchwithDylane]

Your place looks great by the way, love the new look of the videos.

[@basitmasoodi5360]

The filming style reeks of Matt D'Avella inspiration.

[@mananjain8322]

Such an intelligent title and a really thought provoking video in a good way :)

[@honeydew75]

I've been trying to practice self love/acceptance recently and kinda used to dismiss it too, feel a lot happier already and more productive interestingly enough. Especially with praising and affirming myself more, I think for me it was reading Tiny Habits that sparked this change

[@1991Depa]

Such a coincidence! I am much in need of self-acceptance. Thanks Ali!

[@harisali3462]

The quality and lightning of this video is insane

[@thinksmarter7159]

Found you last night, still binge-watching. It's like I found the cure to all diseases. I feel I need to say "great bicep flex" and "check them fashion glasses" :P

[@lamenter6932]

I'll say it will elad u to nothin but whatever

[@notyourlocalkid4074]

@@lamenter6932 i think the problem is you, since i started watching his videos and actually applying his advice to everyday life i’m confident to say that my life has improved tremendously

[@lamenter6932]

@@notyourlocalkid4074 lol roasted

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Ali, I’m so happy to see your move to London.

[@rahulboby7754]

You HVE to make another desk setup video and another home tour video!!! Very excited for this!

[@FavoriteTechX]

Productivity is love Productivity is life 😅

[@fradiasmi607]

Thanks a lot Ali. I think that clear state of mind is the key to productivity and this video helps me to clear my mind

[@santiagogiroski]

One of the habits that has improved my live the most in the last year is doing a yoga session every few days. I don't even have to schedule it because my body (especially my back) will start asking me for it if I've been siting at the desk typing for way too long.

[@sitarasubboh2765]

While this video is rare diamond, worthin for people who are suffering from different axiety disorders, no word to explain this,, success ahead of it..❤Big Love Ali Abdaal ❤Stay blessed

[@jmcallisterhq]

Thanks for the interesting video! Had me with that title though 😂

[@zziniko]

Whoever’s reading this, you’ve got this and you will succeed! ❤️❤️🕊🕊

[@HKBshow]

Absolutely love you and where life is taking you:)

[@ggukiescave]

congrats on 2 mill!

[@rasikavinod]

This is such an awesome topic, GO ALI!

[@arshan6760]

"How I found true love productively" there I fixed the title

[@imanaturaltcm]

Loved this video. Such a powerful topic to speak about! 👏

[@mehedipavel1721]

No amount of self-improvement is enough to make up for any lack of self-acceptance. I understand it after passing through great suffering.

[@VocaloidThalia]

Productivity. I'm sure his true love is productivity.

[@eulaliacampelo]

This video initially reminded me of Jung's concept of individuation... it's beautiful

[@rayhanulchowdhury3560]

your 2 seconds off having more ads --> shows true dedication to fans

[@EconWithDrA]

Love the new backdrop. And yes to self love.

[@underquartz9481]

Youre Amazing Ali!

[@katty1277]

Love this video Ali! Thank you!

[@FredBremmer]

Is there a code or a free access link to the Skillshare course on Stoicism mentioned around 6:20? I don’t see one in the video description. Thanks.

[@Saurankhan24]

We need your house tour🤩 your background looks so modern.

[@mohammadmunawarali6676]

Your new place looks Awesome! Great Reboot Ali!!