all the stuff I wanted to buy but didn't

[@AlchemistLynn]

Drop shipping has ruined Etsy for me because they have so many shops on there saying that it’s handmade and plated gold and all these other claims but it’s just from AliExpress and they’re selling them at like 30, 40 or $50 more than what they’re costing. For jewellery especially, I only purchase from reputable places like Ana Luisa. For rings I love antiques ❤

[@angelaa.9915]

Yep, Etsy is now a no-go for me, ESPECIALLY for jewelry. There are still genuinely handmade things there, I try to filter through the type of item and the region (like Eastern Europe for linen pieces) to try to suss out what’s legit. I recently bought a dress with custom sizing from a brand I found on Etsy, but I know that Etsy has been shady with their sellers for some time, so I ordered directly from her website instead.

[@shawnaripari]

i realized this with jewelry too and it's sooo frustrating and time consuming to check if something is original or aliexpress. It's making etsy terrible for small businesses and I hate it

[@chelseag3365]

Yes I feel so bad for the legitimate small businesses / single employee shops on etsy :(

[@frankievermin]

I don't really have this problem much because I wear goth fashion and I usually only use etsy for patches, but anytime I look at band tshirts/hoodies on there I have to double check to make sure it's not dropshipped. So frustrating.

[@tinylittlebutstillalion4101]

I just wanted to say, that i have heard that temu is known for copying from small designers all the time. I have not bought from temu and i am not going to, but maybe they have copied the cardigan i dont know the company that you talked about, and greenwashing is sometimes really difgicult to see. I dont know if i heard this from you or another youtuber but no matter if fast fashion or designer all clothes can be classified as handmade because there are always human hands involved in making clothes, clothes made in bad sweat shops are also handmade, because there are still not a Maschine invented that can do what a human hand can when sewing clothes.❤

[@shawnaripari]

I originally saw the strawberry sweater on aliexpress, which is a website known for supplying cheap products for companies to drop ship or white label. It may be possible that aliexpress stole this design but it seems far more likely to me that this isn't the case. This is also true with the handmade part, so thanks for the reminder

[@sukievw]

@@shawnariparii’ve been to a mure & grand store, the cardigans had some of the hallmarks of cheap sweaters- the strawberries looked sewed or glued on, rather than knit on like a higher quality garment

[@angelaa.9915]

@@shawnaripariyeah the thing that raised my eyebrows is the sizing… totally understand why you’d be turned off by that and it absolutely SUCKS that it’s fully within the realm of possibility that that brand is out-and-out lying about the provenance of their products

[@MichelleTurnerNY]

@@shawnaripari I have absolutely seen tiny indie designers knocked off on aliexpress, so I'd be more likely to assume that was the case here unless the store has more products that can be found on dropshipping sites.

[@jochenkraus7016]

​​@@shawnaripariWhy do you think the design wasn't taken from a small designer when it got clicks on social media? Some time ago that was one of the things people called out Shein for. Or do you think it's probably not stolen in this particular case?

[@kirbinthekrab]

You are like the calm, well thought out shopping angel on my shoulder 😂😂😂

[@kayleemitchell8071]

I am addicted to journals and planners and love to watch videos on people meshing the two together. I talk myself out of planners, stickers, journals, and tapes DAILY! watching your video did help me declutter my (save for later) cart on Amazon. I kept telling myself it was a want and I have products that already do that thing

[@ricoco450]

For blush dilemma, I heard a tip recently to try putting contour products on top of blush to make them more muted. I would guess eyeshadow could also be used. To get to a cooler toned blush, I’d add a tiny amount of a bluish color to a pink blush. To get to peach, you’d want to add orange. Learning color theory for mixing paint has come in handy time and time again for me.

[@angelaa.9915]

Wanted to add that if you want to neutralize any cream or liquid blushes, I’ve found that green color corrector works so well!

[@shawnaripari]

ohhh this is a great tip, I'm going to try it out

[@ah57588]

I've used eyeshadow before. For that I would dip into a face powder and then dip into the eyeshadow to make the shadow less pigmented if you're gonna use it as a blush. I also love this for when you want to try extreme colors like purple and yellow without buying anything new

[@angelaa.9915]

@@ah57588 that’s so smart! Thanks for sharing the tips

[@nd4856]

I’ve literally been bingeing your content the last few days 😂😂🫰🏻

[@shawnaripari]

Glad to hear you're enjoying my content!

[@maddie8415]

I love the term "functional dupe". We all have our own specific tastes, and I can't tell you how many times I've been eyeing (or even buying) something and realize it's just like something else I already have. It makes sense to be drawn to similar things repeatedly, so simply looking at what you already have can be enough to make the new shiny thing less enticing. Regarding the tinted glasses for migraines...I've dealt with chronic migraines since I was a kid and I've actually tried something like this. I wasn't really impressed and what I'd recommend above that is a pair of transitions/photochromic glasses that lighten and darken with the sun. Or just carrying sunglasses with you and switching to those when you're in sunlight. I think people are kind of trying to reinvent the wheel with these other tinted glasses.

[@shawnaripari]

you're spot on with the functional dupes. I find this especially true for makeup for the reasons you've said. You like something so you tend to be drawn to more of the same. As for the glasses, if I ever did purchase them they'd be for indoor only and from what I can tell wearing sunglasses indoors isn't a permanent solution. I'm generally fine outdoors if I have sunglasses, but because i'm home 90% of the time, that's where most of my migraines happen

[@maddie8415]

@@shawnaripari Yeah, I think Theraspecs and tinted glasses that are supposed to help migraines are mostly meant to mitigate florescent lighting like they have in places like schools and offices. I got them when I was working at a place with this kind of lighting and didn't notice a difference with my migraines, personally. I am generally sensitive to light, but it's more of a factor with sunlight, as I believe you were mentioning the effects of increased sun, too. If I have an active migraine pretty much any light bothers me and just putting on some sunglasses indoors actually helps me more than the Theraspecs did. If I'm in pain like that I just don't care what anyone thinks 😆.

[@shawnaripari]

@@maddie8415 yes, this is what I heard as well with theraspecs. I sincerenly appreciate hearing your experience!

[@CocoKitty19]

I've been loving "everyday May" so freaking much ! It's so nice to have deeper and longer videos from someone as articulate and sensible as you

[@shawnaripari]

This is so kind, thank you so much!!

[@BreezyBanter]

Love the bold lip! I always find it really interesting to reflect on items I really wanted and didn't buy, so it was fun to hear the items you discussed.

[@shawnaripari]

Thanks so much and I think it's so fun too! Glad you enjoyed the video

[@ghostreyn]

For graphic tees, if there is one you notice is peeling or cracking and you really like it, one thing I started doing is using a thin layer fabric paint in the same color to patch it up to make the graphic last a bit longer. The color won't be as bright but fabric paint can act like glue and can still last through multiple washes.

[@morganwentworth2041]

I have gotten into trouble looking for "the perfect x." Even if I find the perfect thing, I'm going to want to try other things to see if they are MORE perfect. Trying so hard to be content with what I have rather than being that guy from the girl with the red dress meme

[@heartfacedgirlieee]

I agree with you on finding brands/outlets that sell things I'm interested in owning but not purchasing atm. Most of the 'online shopping' I've done this year has been to find locally made, ethical clothing stores, that make & carry clothes for people with a leaner/longer body, prioritising natural fibres and overall longevity of the garment. Also, makeup-wise, I have fallen out of love with doing an obvious look. I wear sunscreen, with a layer of translucent powder over (to mattify it), sometimes a blush (I've repurchased the same one 3 times now), some mascara, always lipgloss but sometimes a lipstick too. My skin looks great, I feel more like myself. So, nothing else appeals to me anymore, and I like that. Excellent video! :)

[@RongRoseLiu]

Canadian from Ottawa here. I was hugely influenced to buy Province of Canada for the same reasons you were, they felt like a sustainable version of Roots. I finally bit the bullet and actually PAID for shipping (if you can imagine that lol) to try their products with a pair of classic cottage cabin socks. While I saw in their listing it’s not all wool it lost its shape every wear to run half down my feet. I kept on having to take off my boots to adjust. It turned me off of their products forever. The equivalent from Simons is all wool, cheaper, lasts “forever”, fits well without shrinking after wash and having to be stretched out like typical wool.

[@shawnaripari]

noooooo I hate to hear that you had such a bad experience. Simons is an interesting case because I have found some good brands on there. Some sustainable and/or canadian brands. Even when that's not the case you STILL raise the point that sustainable brands don't inherently = better

[@Alexas.nobuyyear]

Ugh I too love a graphic tee, and I didn't realize how many I currently own until I filmed my closet reorganization and wardrobe try on (as part of my no buy year). Successfully deinfluneced myself from wanting any more of those 🙃 I also have a strawberry cardigan similar to that - mine really is handmade, but it's not one of my most worn pieces because I dont want to ruin the knit by washing and it's also so distinctive that it's not super versatile. So maybe not the best choice anyway!

[@shawnaripari]

You're so right. When pieces like the strawberry cardigan are distinctive you really feel the wear and they're not as versatile

[@josiemaromi6981]

Graphic tees can be so cute!! If you ever need a reason to not buy one, remember that the prints are often made of phthalates, and they release microplastics in the wash. 😔

[@shawnaripari]

this would only be true for t-shirts that are heat printed of some sort vs screen printing right? Screen printing is like printing with a stencil and dye opposed to transferring some sort of plastic design?

[@josiemaromi6981]

@@shawnaripari Tbh I'm not sure but I think you're right! I know the heat-press shirts use a vinyl (plastic) for the design, but for screen press the design should be "inked" in to the fabric like tie-dye, right? Everything in moderation! 🤷‍♀️

[@kathygann7632]

For blush, go to cosmetic counter at Macy’s and Nordstroms, etc and tell them concerns. Ask for the paper face to pu the blush on to keep the color and their suggestions on where to wear it. Don’t buy it! Then, when you need a blush, look at your samples, and either buy one, or match the color to another brand.

[@TheMari189]

OMG! THE Jashii Corrin. That would’ve made my week. This year I’ve been on a Journaling rabbit hole and found myself watching Journalsay hauls and filling carts of stickers and washi. Told myself I don’t need every aesthetic out there I have enough supplies already. Working on spending what I have at the moment

[@saraashkir5793]

Loll shawna I was staring at the thumbnail for two minutes trying to figure out where the lady’s legs are on the left. I saw a torso and shoes and was like “what kinda perspective is being used here” 😂

[@shawnaripari]

omg I didn't even notice that when I was making the thumbnail this is so funny now that I can't unsee it 😂

[@ddbookie]

You will not be disappointed with the tower 28 at all. I’m a lip gloss girly as well and they are wonderful. I recently missed place them in my room and I bought them all over again. They are that good.

[@acureformyheart]

About the strawberry puff cardigan, there were a bunch of small knitters/crocheters online during the pandemic that had this type of sweater they were making that suddenly blew up and got copied by every single fast fashion company. You could totally find the original but I've forgotten who made it although I do know its very expensive (too much for me atm)

[@belindagritter1572]

I had 7 items in my World Market basket trying to check out. The system indicated there was a problem with one of my items but did not specify which item. All looked good in my cart. I would have had to call to find out what was wrong. Sometimes the universe gives you a sign and this was one. I left the site. No more waiting on websites. So, did I need any of those items? No. Two were for gifts but easy come, easy go. There will be other opportunities before Christmas for unique gifts. So much easier now to walk away. Re: blush, for most of my life I had one blush. When that was gone I replaced it. That’s how far we have all gone down the road of excess without even realizing it. Back when we had 2 young children and I was a stay at home mom (those moms are also working all day every day for their home and family - no shame) I only wore a dress once a week to church so I only had one dress and I wore it every Sunday for three years. I finally got a new dress and it was exciting to me. The hubs went with me - that never happens - and it is still a nice memory 50 years later. There are no events like that when you live with excess clothing. You are more likely to have decision fatigue and end up hating everything you have and wanting more. It’s been a long time since we lived that way but it was better and definitely more satisfying. We had some financial goals and a lot of pressing necessities. Self-discipline has gone by the wayside and I strive now to get back to that way of living. It’s not that we are unhappy now. We were happy then and happy now but there is now a drive to do better. My children will have to dispose of our things in the not too distant future, given our ages, and I would like the flotsam and jetsam of our lives to be gone so they can just divide up the good things that they want and get rid of the rest. I write this as a caution to those of you who are younger to live more simply with the things that bring you joy. Then the purchases of what you need and make your life better will be satisfying. Not to say that material possessions can make you happy if you are not content inside. Craving more and more is doing business with an insatiable monster. It leaves you feeling empty very soon. Well, my rant is over, go in peace. 😂😊

[@angelaa.9915]

Just a heads up re: k-beauty sunscreen-sometimes (not always) it can take a while to ship. I’ve had to buy something less than ideal in person because my order took 4+ weeks to arrive. I always keep a back stock now and thankfully they actually have decently long shelf lives. Also, that iUnik one pilled like a MFer under makeup for me and I’ve heard others on KZbin say the same. The Beauty of Joseon one is my go-to and I can wear it all year long; bonus points, because it’s a lightweight formula, I find it palatable to reapply over makeup 😊

[@shawnaripari]

thank you for all the very helpful tips!! you made me realize that in all the videos i watched on the iunik the person did not try it with makeup so I wasn't even thinking of that

[@strangelillas]

So many things i wont buy but reaaaally want. I just know i dont NEED these things.

[@Lorij-xy5ww]

Do you have transtions in your glasses? I Do its glasses and shades in one.

[@AlchemistLynn]

The bright lipstick looks so pretty on you ❤❤

[@shawnaripari]

thank you!!

[@lylxla8070]

as a fourteen almost fifteen year old gir who has grown up with a mother who has never been able to manage her money/ has a issue with hoarding, i have seen her spend money on useless things my entire life and then she would have to support us paycheck to paycheck because of it. your video have definitely given me perspective THANKYOU 🩷🩷

[@shawnaripari]

this is so sweet! Thank YOU so much 💕 Wishing you the best

[@Labbfreak]

As a >35 year old who grew up with parents with similar impulsive spending habits, I want you to know that you can break the cycle and creating a budget that honors both your wants and needs in a reasonable way will help a great deal in the long run.

[@Labbfreak]

Also, creating a savings plan now (even $5-10 a month if you have any money coming, increasing as your income increases) will help build that muscle and shift some of the dopamine hit from spending your watching that money grow. And when you have an opportunity to start a retirement fund, use that same approach with keeping up with a minimum contribution so that temporary/immediate expenses don’t steal from your future self. It’s challenging to learn this on your own but I have full faith in you!

[@MommyDontSeeMe]

I had a father with a gambling problem and a mother who was a saver extraordinaire. The best thing I've learned is to buy classics that are the best I can afford and learn to take care of them. (Our last car lasted nearly 20 years.) The worst has been spending money is BAAAD, so I wait too long to buy something I really need, but now it's gone, and I just have to take whatever I can get, at whatever price. My mother used to tell me, when I wanted something she didn't think was necessary that when I made my own money, I could buy nice things for myself. And now that I'm there, I have no practice in actually doing that, but maybe too much exposure to saying no all the time. So I'm still learning to make good, timely choices.

[@Letiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii]

damn! the video just started, but that Italian Summer graphic tee looks sooo cute!! I dont like wearing light colored shirts so thats usually the main thing that stops me from buying graphic tees.

[@princesscharlott1983]

Oh my gosh your videos really shout my name. I have an addiction (I really feel it is - I know how ridiculous it sounds and is but just cannot not do it) but issue with buying things in multiple colours/ prints. I don’t have a single thing in my wardrobe that I don’t have in another variable. I am mismanaging my money and home finances in doing this but I seem to struggle to break the habit. One quality basic t - I need in 8 colours, dresses, skirts, blouses, coats. I justify it by saying one for each mood, season, feeling, warm and cool versions. Of every length. And also two sizes of most items too. In case my weight fluctuates. I don’t know how to stop it, I really wish I could moderate my shopping habits.

[@AlenaDeChaves]

I love your content, is so genuine and so eye-opening! I'm trying to not buy anything for the next 3 months, because i want to go visit my parents who live in another country and i have to save some money. This kind of videos help me the most to realize that i don't need anything else. Thank you Shawna! ❤

[@shawnaripari]

Thank you so much! Best of luck on your no buy 💕

[@vobots]

love/HATE ENTIRELY the targeted ads i get on instagram. it’s scary how well it knows what i like so i’ve had to be incredibly diligent about evaluating said thing, otherwise i’d be spending money on every other ad i come across. the recent ones that are hitting my feed are a clothing brand called toad & co and a skincare brand called prequel. i have to constantly tell myself that i don’t currently need any clothes or skincare, i am not budgeting for these things, and that i am happy with the things i am using now. i’m quite good at not actually buying anything from targeted ads, but my god do i dream about it sometimes 😂

[@arianagandu]

If you have a blue color corrector you could use it to make you blushes more cool toned

[@mollyb7305]

I think I’ve seen a way to fix or repair the vinyl type decals on shirts or whatever.

[@Kelsylynn]

Hi I’ve been to mure and grand and visited their location in New York. I even met the owner. I believe you’ve found a knock off because these pieces are knit/crocheted so it’s hard to get a diverse range of sizes. The sweater I have is probably one of the best quality knit pieces I have Edit: and looking at the piece, it would be impossible to mass produce it bc of the way the sweater is knit and attached to itself, you cannot do some of these details with a machine.that being said though, some of their pieces say “ I cried today” or “ USA” , not exactly “original “ designs.

[@exomake_mehorololo]

I have NOT bought a lot of things 😅i now have the opposite of urge to buy. Even when I see things I like I have this strong urge not even rational thought to not buy. Especially make up & skincare. I guess it's a counter reaction to my past behaviour, finding more hobbies, having a lot and wanting to downsize. Even if unrealistic I want to use things up. I still like make up and skincare. I don't feel panic to have to declutter things in droves BUT the thought if/how to simplify is still present all the time. I feel like it's unfinished business 😅so I want to keep making progress. And there is make up I know isn't for me. And things I don't use. Not buying, using and downsizing is just a strong feeling... It feels more serious & long term than in the past. Like I'm on a mission or something... I feel weird saying it and not sure I ever really felt like that but it's just somehow an important thing going on in my mind. Can anyone relate?

[@shawnaripari]

I definitely understand where you're coming from and it sounds like this might be a good thing

[@Iquey]

We are all gonna die someday. It's a morbid thought, but I'm trying to leave the world a less trash filled place than if I bought everything I wanted.

[@chelseag3365]

Planner girly here - im always here for anything but also like your stationary commentary 😊

[@angelaa.9915]

I’ve gotten into the habit of talking myself like this when I’m on the verge of buying something (or more accurately, when the company tries to get me to buy something by dangling a carrot like a sale): “I could buy this right now, but let’s say I don’t. Then what?” And it’s amazing how quickly my mind gets to: “Well, I’ll live. I won’t have this graphic T, but I do have 10 other T-shirts in my closet. And if they have this 20% off sale today, they’ll probably have another one later this year,” etc.

[@shawnaripari]

ouu yes, love this thought process!

[@TreelessPlain]

On the topic of sunscreens, let us know if you end up trying the Kbeauty options. I’ve loved every one I’ve tried and I love that they’re cost effective as well.

[@HeavymetalHylian]

Hi! I work as a medical assistant in a doctor's office who specializes in migraines and headaches. Light is not a trigger for migraines, the sensitivity to it is a symptom of it. If wearing sunglasses help to improve your symptoms, then it's always encouraged, but know that light sensitivity is not the root cause. It is most often neck generated. Try laying on your side in a neck-aligned position (nose, chin, and breastbone in a straight line) for at least 15 minutes with an ice pack on your neck. This can help to calm down some of those irritated neck structures and get the weight of your head off your neck and shoulders.

[@tiffanymaclennan]

Mostly here to say that Dear Friend is my favourite hang out

[@shawnaripari]

absolutely jealous that you get to hangout there on the regular

[@daisymcadams2935]

Loved this video! I hope you do more like this in the future. I don't mean to encourage you or anyone to buy more, but man the Beauty of Joseon sunscreen is amazing. It's honestly a bit too expensive for me, but I will still keep buying it, because that way I won't waste any money trying out sunscreens that might or might not work out for me and I know it's going to be a guaranteed love.

[@pauline_paez]

Coming on here to say i love all your content!!! ❤

[@shawnaripari]

thank you so much Pauline 💕

[@user-ix3jx9hf7r]

Not me just learning that makeup expires lol. I’ve been using 10 year old lipstick. It takes a lot of effort to apply lol

[@imaginarycosmetics]

I don't know if it would work on your skintype and on top of your foundations, but Mac Modesty could be a good nudey mauve blush on you and the formula works well as a cream blush on my cheeks (normal skin, no foundation). On me it's a true nude but normal nude (or even "rosey" and "mauve") shades on the market right now look straight up orange or even yellow on my complexion.

[@shawnaripari]

if you're speaking about the lipstick it could be worth a try because I do still own it!

[@imaginarycosmetics]

@@shawnaripari yes, I'm talking about the lipstick!

[@reggaeful]

cool lipstick color!! I've been enjoying these everyday may videos, really interesting topics

[@kathygann7632]

Neutropenia sunscreen is inexpensive at Costco had has SPF 55. IT CC+ has spf 50+.

[@philhagls4276]

I love that your videos are so long!!!! 🎉🎉🎉

[@themagicknightress7132]

Do you only own six shirts?

[@CassieLivingLife]

Girl you just love t shirts it seems 😂😂

[@shawnaripari]

yes 😂 it is, in fact, a problem

[@gwenmph]

DO THE GLASSES, they have helped me so much!

[@meditationzone4599]

Lip stick color 💯

[@melstephen5191]

💝💝💝💝💝