ALL YOU WANTED WAS TO BE LOVED

[@youngkipster]

We should never ever beg for someone to love us. It should be unconditional.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯🙌

[@debbiethomas3080]

100%. I've learned this

[@wendyhannan2454]

I’d never do that, it’s just some times we choose the wrong people.

[@toniaparker3543]

Facts

[@chloerodgers692]

During last year of my 36-year-marriage, I actually said the words, “I’m starved for love and affection from you”…..didn’t make any difference. I could have said, “my car is out of gas” and would have gotten the same response. I did say “I deserve to be loved” (even tho I didn’t believe it at that time….I do now) and he agreed that was true. Our narcs are so complex….I’d like to think they just stumble upon things to say and things to do to throw us off balance….but I think they are practiced and honed.

[@beckyharrt]

After being with a narc, when people are kind it almost makes you cry. Hope you heal good!!!

[@Johanna-ff7wy]

So true🙏❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌🙏💯

[@wendyhannan2454]

Thank you, I can sadly relate to that comment, were just not used to kindness. And we above all people deserve kindness. 💕

[@dmc1806]

I'm a man a father and grandfather and yes I know that feeling. GOD BLESS YOU AMEN.

[@jordanmadaley]

Yea it’s still hard for me to wrap my head around people actually being nice to be. It throws me off.

[@paulag7108]

The one thing the Narcissist can’t give is Love! They are hollow inside. A shell of a person. We have to learn how to love ourselves.💗

[@christine11347]

Self love truly is the path to being able to know your worth and trust yourself. Until we can trust in ourselves we will never be able to fully trust in others. When we learn to respect ourselves the world will follow. Another bonus to loving yourself is it's a Narc repellent. 💪💪

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙏😉

[@angelacahill9083]

No they can't Paula. They study us very well and mimic back to us what they see....so it's fake love. Nothing is genuine with them. They are a shell of a person, empty vessels, with nothing to give. Stay strong and show yourself what they couldn't give you, the love and respect you deserve in abundance. God bless 🙏💜

[@angelacahill9083]

@@christine11347 I agree 💯 with you Christine. Self love = self care. When we do that for ourselves, we truly honour who we are and can see that we are made in the image of God, who is pure LOVE. Then we are loving God and loving our neighbour as ourselves, HIS greatest commandment is being fulfilled.. Our cups will be full and we can clearly pour from it and give the same to others. Your messages are always inspiring, thank you. Have a lovely day Christine. God bless you. 🙏💜🌺

[@christine11347]

@@angelacahill9083 Thank you Angela. The healing path is not linear and really when you think about it can be broken down into stages. I remember in one of Andrew's videos he said that every three months was a different level of growth for him. I'm finding that to be my experience as well. In the first three months you are in a complete fog and your emotions are all over the place. You go through the darkest and lowest parts of your life trying to process everything. You are in the grips of the trauma bond and all you think about is the Nex and how this could have happened. In the next three months hopefully after the trauma bond has broken and the fog has started to lift you learn that not only did you have no idea who the Nex was, but you have no clue on who you are. This is just as scary. It's during these three months that if you are lucky enough to find a coach like Andrew you are reminded to keep moving forward and that self love is the path. During this period it is up to you to figure out what that means and you have to dig deep to figure out who you were and who you have become and it's really hard. In those months you have to accept things about yourself that are uncomfortable. This period of self realization is necessary though in order to recognize the need for change within your, so you can continue to grow. It's in the next three months; which is where I'm now, that you have to learn how you got in this relationship with the Nex, so you can heal inner wounds and never get involved with a person like this again. Each stage is just as hard, but just as fulfilling and rewarding. The more time and energy you put into yourself the more you will continue to thrive and become the best version of yourself. That's where I'm at. The lessons that we have and continue to learn from Andrew each and every day are like a roadmap that helps to guide us from points A to Z. He is an absolute blessing that we all continue to learn from each day. Have a great day Angela. Keep moving forward and stay blessed. God truly has a plan for each of us and with patience and perseverance it will be revealed in time. ✝️💜❤️☘️

[@angelacahill9083]

That's it Andrew. All any of us ever wanted from the start was to be loved. We soon found out that they couldn't love us, they have no genuine feelings....we gave, they took and it was hard work all the way. It wasn't healthy......and you never knew what rules you were playing by from one minute to the next. My heart was always up in my mouth. We know better now to honour ourselves with love and respect. Thanks Andrew for another reminder to surround ourselves with positive people. It's good for the soul.....self care builds you up and that's what we are all doing here on the healing path. God bless us all. 🙏💜

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 💯🙏🙌

[@donnadunn3372]

So true, we didn’t know the rules!!!!!

[@OneQueenB]

First and foremost we all must have SELF LOVE first.

[@angelacahill9083]

@@donnadunn3372 Yes they do - there were no rules of engagement or instruction manual to follow. The game of life had a whole new meaning when we were with them. Have a lovely day. God bless 🙏

[@angelacahill9083]

@@donnadunn3372 I think if we did Donna, we would have ran for the hills. Have a great day, God bless you 🙏💜🌺

[@chloerodgers692]

When my ex brought home divorce papers, all I said to him was “I just wanted you to hold my hand” and he responded with “I can’t do that.”. He gave up 36 years of marriage because he couldn’t bring himself to just hold my hand now and then. How tragic. I didn’t ask for anything else. I feel sorry for him but have learned to take care of myself now, first, instead of him. Hard to do when you wrap your whole world around him….it has taken over a year for me to even start knowing myself and to view that time as my “education.”. Learn so much from you, Andrew, as well as your followers. I know I am not alone.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight 🙌🙏😊☀️

[@zulemaflores1234]

Can you imagine my many years of being gaslighted. At times it makes me feel so ashamed of being manipulated. But I didn’t know! My intuition did always say, “something is not right”. 2 years ago I found-out about narcissism. Many people out there will die not knowing that they lived with a narcissist spouse all their life. This is so sad’ Many people out there don’t understand “narcissism”. I also know that people with narcissist disorders are influenced by evil forces; trying to destroy empaths. I’m so glad that the Almighty has my back.

[@maxahissou7574]

He truly does! Glory and Honor is always to God!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙏💯☀️

[@concreteangel3422]

All I wanted was to love them. I didn't even demand to be loved. I believed what was promised - that I was loved / cared for. I just wanted truth. I created the perfect feeding ground. Thank you, Andrew. 😄💫 Education sometimes is as simple as just knowing what happened was not because of me and that my "wants" was good and normal. The confirmation is like breathing fresh air.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏🙌💯

[@lynnfincham6839]

Totally agree x

[@Joy-zn2lo]

Took everything away from me. Leaving tonight.

[@nadiadavis7844]

Hope it works out for you ❤️

[@angelacahill9083]

Sending peace and positive wishes your way. Stay strong! Hope it all works out! You can do this. God bless 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending strength and positive energy 🙌💯🙏

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Congratulations. Good luck. Better times are ahead. X

[@shad5637]

Spot on Andrew that was all i wanted my heart is broken my brain is tired so much push pull im drained i pray i can get out .i wanted appreciation so grateful to you

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏🙌💯

[@debbieramsey2696]

Pray. God will give you strength. God bless.

[@debbiethomas3080]

Don't give up. It's always darker before the light appears. Trust me. I'm coming out

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Good luck . Get free recover. 👍❤

[@barbaraviniegra]

As usual so on point. I was on a hamster wheel to be loved and to be treated with kindness. Never will I beg someone for kindness and love again.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌🙏

[@kimgordon3695]

💞

[@CynthiaSchoenbauer]

Yes. Aushee

[@frankdavf4599]

Happy Sunday you all over the World!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 💯🙏🙌

[@christinacirillo54]

I was wondering why I couldn't feel a deep connection. It was superficial. Now I know why! Thanks Andrew 🙏❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome ❤️🙏

[@michaeljackson7361]

I always thought it felt lopsided.

[@wendyhannan2454]

We give, they take ..

[@daniellemorse6929]

Such a great reference to the person helping you. Narcissistic people never want to help and definitely view us as being needy or helpless when everyone needs help at times. But when they need something, we should be at their beck and call. It is so backwards, so exhausting, so tiring. 😞

[@pollyjohnson-allthingsgood]

You want to be loved and you want to give love in return. This is fundamental to the human condition but there are many people with hidden agendas. We know the narcissist can’t love. In 12 years the narcissist I was with was all consuming who never helped with anything I ever needed help with but, my gosh! I had to be there 150% to help him! Totally non reciprocal on every occasion. 🙏💙🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙏🙌

[@spacegirl226]

Same. Exact. Thing.

[@kimgordon3695]

#Reciprocity #EmpathSuperPower

[@1010QUEEN7]

Same here 🎯🎯🎯

[@BarkingForBroccoliBG]

Word

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌🙏

[@Razainthewoods]

Isn’t it ironic that they don’t text you back right away saying they didn’t have their phone on them and then when you are with them they cannot talk to you and be present because they are on their phone nonstop! 😂 Another great video! I’m working on loving myself and surrounding myself with good friends.

[@christine11347]

This was the absolute story of my life until I hit that block button on the phone and never have to worry about it again now. It's a great way for them to gaslight, manipulate, bread crumb and give you the silent treatment all at once. It's so rude and cruel, but that's who they are. They all work out of the same playbook. It's absolutely mind-blowing.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 💯🙏🙌

[@Razainthewoods]

@@christine11347 I agree totally. A friend of mine said once that the Devil has been around for so many generations that he has had time to refine his playbook. That playbook is used by the devil and his minions because it works on so many weak people. I have found prayer to be a magnificent protection from that evil.

[@christine11347]

@@Razainthewoods I agree 💯 Becca. God sees and hears all prayers and walks beside you every step of the way. Your comment makes me smile because we are strong. This thankfully is a very unattractive quality to Narcs and keeps them away. You know you are doing really good when you can shutdown a Hoover even in your dream😂😂😂😂 It leaves you feeling just as amazing and empowered. Waking up feeling very strong. 💪💪💪💪 Have a blessed day.🙏❤️🙏🕊️

[@cynthiaannupham9276]

I literally said that exact thing when I came out of my 30 year marriage.🤦🏼‍♀️You are so right on target with what I experienced.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏 🙌💯

[@angelacahill9083]

Me too! 32 years of marriage + 4 years dating. It's a long time. We went into it with good intentions trying so hard to make things work. They didn't want that and genuine love is not that hard - it's gentle and kind, never looks for faults in another. That's why it hurts so much! We a grieving for our hopes and dreams, that we never got from the relationship. Keep strong and keep walking on the healing path....God's light is shining on us all now. 🙏💜🌺

[@kimgordon3695]

To love & be loved 💞

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌🙏

[@stohandmadejewelrycraftcorner]

Thank you so much. This is so true. Love is all I wanted. Instead, I had to wait, wait, and wait! I did more giving than receiving. You get tired of that kind of relationship. Yes, I am moving forward and learning to add new people in my life.🙏🏾😊💕

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯🙏

[@casperinsight3524]

Abundant Blessings of quality people who honor and respect you 💫💙💫

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌

[@lisabarrow5]

I was asked by co workers this weekend to stay my full shift even though i could have left early because we had enough workers because THEY LIKE WORKING WITH ME!! Holy shit!....made me feel valued.....shocking!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉🙌💯

[@dashanefedova6009]

All I wanted to love and to be loved, in reality everything been sucked from me: my energy, my time, my health, my vitality, my dreams, my personality and left me with no identity in crisis situation and I know for sure, its will be difficult to trust again

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending strength and healing energy 💯🙌🙏

[@christine11347]

Take time to learn how you got in this relationship in the first place. Through self reflection and self love you will begin to trust yourself again. Listen to your gut it's a very strong indicator of what is right and what is wrong. Take time to heal. One of the greatest things I heard last week was don't ever compromise yourself or try to dictate your partners activities out of fear that they will cheat or abandon you. The fact of the matter is it's going to frustrate them and if they are going to leave or cheat they are going to do it anyway. If they do then you don't want them in your life. It really makes sense when you think about it. People are going to do what they want to do regardless of what you want them to do. Know your worth and take time to heal. We all have abandonment issues and fears coming out of these Narc relationships but it's how we deal with them and heal from them that will determine our future paths.

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

It can be a slow rd to recover but your loving heart deserves to feel love back to keep going and real love will find you . X

[@christine11347]

@@JohnSmith-wo7ns 🙏Amen I agree 💯. As my daughter always tells me everyone's person is out there and when we find them we just know. Slow and steady is the path. Once we know our worth we will never settle again. ❤️

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

@@christine11347 you're very wise and very helpful Christine ❤👍

[@wandaschroeder9172]

So right on Andrew. I have eliminated several people from my life. Sadly, one is my brother…I miss our talks and the good times we had together. I DON’T miss the manipulation, the insults or the judgement. I pray that one day I can let him come back into my life but that’s up to him, so who knows. At first I felt sooooo guilty….we HAVE TO love our family, right?!? Toxic is toxic and never ok. Thanks for being here. Have a wonderful week and continued healing from your surgeries! Much love to everyone.♥️🌹

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙌💯🙏

[@tanyamiller6275]

Thank you for saying that because apart from my abusive ex who I got rid of I had to get rid of my brother too - and yes I also feel that GUILT. It’s a horrid feeling 😢 but good thoughts to you I really hope maybe one day he will see his ways as being destructive

[@lynnfincham6839]

Hi. Same. But whole narc family ! If you love your brother and after education from Andrew you may find a way forward with him but have boundaries and use grey rock. Don’t beat yourself up it’s sincerely so upsetting but once you gain knowledge you can see it more clearly . Best wishes 🌼

[@tanyamiller6275]

@@lynnfincham6839 love that I truly do but even understanding sometimes can’t undo what has been done

[@donnaveirs8930]

@WandaSchroeder I had to do the same thing. Cut my older brother out of my life. As time went on, his dominating conversations, and loud yelling got worse. I escaped abuse from a narcissist, so why should I put up with that from my own brother. Your're right, toxic is toxic. And life's too short, for it in our life.

[@soniasaurus5345]

Thanks very much Andrew for this video 🙏💕. The narc decides to oppress at every opportunity. So if u want something done they will delay and feel good about making u wait!! What right minded person does that!! Yes we all need quality ppl around us. I feel as if I have suffered “brain damage”. Literally and am serious. My brain quakes anytime I empty my spam folder and I see “just his name” never mind reading the bloody email which I don’t. The other thing I suffer from is memory loss. I can’t remember stuff I did as recently as yesterday never mind last week or month.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏🙌💯

[@KadyPowellAEROPOLEONEKD]

Psychological torture can actually cause brain damage to the frontal lobe. It can be shown on a brain scan. I am in EMDR therapy for dehumanization and heavy psychotherapy. I nearly suffered a psychogenic death after months of being stuck in an attic not moving or eating, not sleeping, crying, emotionally drained and decimated, alone and isolated with nothing in several feet of snow in a small town with no economic base. Then I found Andrews channel, and the realization process began because the education he delivers is amazing. Caring about someone they discard after devaluing is more of a burden that being naturally reciprocal during the relationship was.

[@BlueJeansandJellyBeans]

It does feel like that. The memory thing will get better it is caused by trauma.

[@spacegirl226]

I had memory loss too. Part of it was from trying to cope with the extreme neglect. The other part was the medicine I was on to help me cope with the extreme neglect. Coming out of the spell has made my brain simultaneously feel like swiss cheese and lead. I'm heavy, and there are bits missing. I used to have a fantastic memory for details, but now I laugh if I can remember what I did yesterday. It worries me just what a toll my marriage took on me. How many other dormant issues am I going to discover one day? God bless you in your recovery!

[@soniasaurus5345]

@@spacegirl226 u too 💕🙏 I appreciate u being able to relate but saddened at the same time for u😢. I pray we all recover from our horrible experiences as quickly as possible. May God bless u all. 🙏 I had no idea memory loss was caused by trauma and now that I think of it, my memory loss started happening a few months into my relationship along with my hair falling out.

[@alexhage8092]

You're a blessing, "all you ever wanted was to be loved" is the ultimate thing about this, I just can't believe i fell for the mirroring and masks they fogged me with. Thanks for all the videos

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯🙏🙌

[@raYrefiedAire]

Right in the feels... Namaste 🙌I'm not one to walk on egg shells...

[@raYrefiedAire]

Keep flexin you're Empath superpowers you're appreciated more than ya know...

[@CC-br9qg]

It feels like a curse. I am suffering so much, and even after this cruelty I still love and have love for him. This has broken my spirit.

[@cafe4cat2nap]

the Beatles hit that one on the head, "can't buy me loooo-ooove . . . " thank you, for keeping it real on a Sunday!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@monicaflurer1012]

Andrew, I was married to a narcissist for 28 years. I have 3 kids. I never knew what a narcissist was, did not come from a background of abuse. It took me many years to realize that he was toxic. I left three times and went back 3 times. The end came when I literally felt like I needed to commit myself. He didn't think I would leave. It was the best thing I ever did. Unfortunately my children have been through so much trauma we have lasting issues. I have laterally isolated myself from all my friends except one that I recently reconnected with. I have no desire to be involved with anyone except my kids and immediate family. No desire to ever be in a romantic relationship at all. We lived in so much chaos, gaslighting, verbal and mental abuse for so many years I just want to be alone. I am hoping that I will want to be the vibrant fun loving person I used to be but I find it difficult to get there.thank you for all of your advise. I listen to you and think yep, that was My life, that's how I lived for so long. How and why did I stay, I still can't answer that question.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending healing energy and strength 🙌💯🙏

[@williampicton7072]

Surrounded by narcissist my entire life. 2 horrible marriages to narcissists. But now since I understand the truth. Honestly Andrew thank you so much! I have hope for a better future!!! 😁👍

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏🙌☀️

[@lisazane3553]

Love flows through you and to you. 💞 Repeat that to yourselves! Don't allow the "vampires" (metaphorically) steal your beautiful energy, instead be a beacon of love for others to find. ☀ "I am a beacon of love" Thanks again Andrew for helping us on our path the enlightenment, healing and expansion. Namaste 🧘🙏🦋🌺💞

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏🙌💯

[@donnadunn3372]

Yes you don’t need to be in love. Friendship is a wonderful thing!!!!!!

[@Tammy-hm9zr]

I am so ready for friends and learning from good people again after being so isolated ❤️ let's do this 🙂

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌😊💯

[@shad5637]

Yes they make you wait and wait just a real friend would be beautiful one day

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌🙏😉

[@mariaawake4502]

A narcissist has no intension to have a fair , give and take relationship. She/he feels entitled and superior and draws you in with deceit and phoniness.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@Bianca-sw5id]

Oh geez 🥰 Andrew 🥰 , knees operation , wow 🥰 I hope that Andrew 🥰 is feeling great now 🙂 , it sounds quite I tense 🥰🥰🥰

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😊💪💯🙏

[@denisguay4315]

That is the kind of person i am, helping others and the only thing i ask in return is a thank you. With her, I don't want to help her on anything. I stopped given my energy and i keep it for other peoples that do appreciate me for who i am. Always thank you Andrew and hope your knee and eye are doing well. Have a great week. 💪💯🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙌🙏💯

[@myst2.0]

What a beautiful , Inspiring comment, if only we could all learn to give without expecting back and doing from the Heart. There was a time when people were genuinely like that. However it says in the last days , men shall become lovers of themselves.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯

[@kimgordon3695]

1 Timothy 3: 1

[@nancyh.570]

You couldn’t be more correct. Toxic, stressful heartbreaking. I was in love and was devalued. Such a waste. Only way to go now is forward… thank you for your time and insight Andrew..🌺

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌🙏💯💯

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

We've all been there Nancy is so cruel and hard to recover from. Good luck to you. 👍❤

[@perrissmith8809]

I always think to myself... looking at all of our content creators... man or woman (regarding narcissist abuse) .... I literally think, how could anyone let this person go! What a loss for them! Man! What a loss.... all of you are such a catch! Only an idiot would mess up something you all hold... you are all truly so beautiful & amazing!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful message 💯🙏🙌😊

[@mhardy9809]

it hurts so much, feels like burns all over the body, like o the heart is torn out of the body ... very painful ... long

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending positive energy 💯🙏🙌

[@mhardy9809]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 🙏❤️

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Try to take each day at a time or an hr at a time. Real love will find you soon . Not fake love abuse.

[@julieschubert4014]

Totally makes sense!! He would never help me , would make me wait constantly or ask 6 times before he would do it. So frustrating, so glad I’m out . Still detaching as much as possible with kids . Never had my back .

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉🙌💯

[@brianreed8271]

After all the horrible relationship was over with. I mean it was bad really bad. The last discard was brutal. For divorce was behind me she Hoovers me. She tries to explain to me how she hates her first husband, but she will always love me. Scared the f*** out of me.

[@frankdavf4599]

Be safe, be well, stay strong and sharp!

[@lindyinclusive8163]

I hear you! My narc sister just tried to Hoover me cause it’s my birthday week and of course wants to be included! lol no way…. And you will find that beautiful soul that loves you for you and not be a taker!!! Stay strong dear! 👏👏👏❤️❤️🎉

[@nadiadavis7844]

You deserve so much more - stay strong 💪

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙌🙏💯

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Stay strong dude. Keep that creature in your past.

[@francescabento1705]

It's amazing how they can really make you believe they love you when they want something after giving them what they want the I love you disappears.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉💯💯

[@hennisincoff502]

Hi Andrew, thank you for showing how to focus on ourselves in a positive loving manner. I hope your physical recuperation continues to help you heal, (& thank you for sharing that) & the day surrounds you with compassion, perseverance & tranquility..namaste ❤🌻

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Namaste 🙏 🙏🙌💯

[@heatherroberson1648]

Self love in action is our homework from Andrew. Practice it everyday. Every one of us deserves love ❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯😊

[@elizabethblessing1454]

You make me remember i am a warrior !!! Thank you ❤️❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💪☀️🙌🙏

[@marybarton5651]

Just to be me, without judgements...with acceptance, respect, trust, friendship, comfortable silence where words are not needed between people...

[@Leah-fw5kn]

ALL YOU EVER WANTED WAS TO BE LOVED!!!! YES SIR I SURE DID!!!! AND I WANTED TO LOVE HIM.... SOMETIMES IT STILL HURTS SO MUCH. LOVE YOUR VIDEOS 🥰🦋🥰🦋🥰🦋 HOPING YOUR KNEE GETS STRONGER AND STRONGER AND ALSO YOUR EYE.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 💯🙏🙌

[@AnneDahl-rr6wd]

Yes, thats how it should be, asked for help and get good help without counting, so can be grateful and giv back good energy to such persons❤ no backthoughts

[@victoryministries2193]

Boundaries Woooohooooo!!! Been learning to pause and evaluate my motivation for doing this or that, taking an unemotional look at what this or that is doing for the askers, and honestly asking myself if it’s on MY AGENDA or really just on theirs. I’ve been surprised at how much internalized discomfort and negative energy I feel when doing that stop and think exercise. But that’s nothing compared to the joy and freedom I feel after I say NO!!! Lovin my boundaries!!! Life gets better one NO at a time!!! And I’m kinda digging the startled and confused look on the face of those takers who had grown accustomed to stepping all over my boundaries before 😎 Thanks Andrew!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏💯💪

[@GinjaNinja01]

When one TAKES and doesn't GIVE BACK...it is a form of THEFT. Our LOVE, AFFECTION & KINDNESS...were STOLEN from us and...frankly, imho...that ain't HONEST! It isn't even basic courtesy...protect your wonderful Heart...always. Great piece Andrew, many thanx...may all your days be blessed.

[@englishrose6627]

In the beginning i was just a new possession to be shown off...Then later to be chucked away as rubbish

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Respect love loyalty. You deserve nothing less. Remember that.

[@debbieramsey2696]

Your light is shining today. I'm so happy for you Andrew.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙌🙏💯☀️

[@---_277]

Yes. Absolutely true..just someone to love... that would be lovely and who loved back in the same way. I had a situation worked for a family member at holidays once a year, the first meal together at the table just before eating would begin, disparaging, denigrating, belittling, ridicule and deriding behaviour of one on the other! Terrible to watch or hear for anyone, the result someone walking off after working solidly hard all day to punch a wall in anger and desperation. This relationship later floundered and complete no contact and separation was achieved, I was deeply grateful that it did. One way love here which was completely destroyed.

[@---_277]

Not totally clear this, just updating. I worked for a married couple. It was them that separated after one was deriding the other and me having to sit through it.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏

[@perrissmith8809]

RECIPROCITY it’s my favorite word! Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏🙌❤️

[@Star-ze8dh]

Yes, all I wanted was to be loved..that’s why I got married. I had no idea I would never be loved. 😱 It’s also why I was deceived and waited so long to leave. A covert narcissist will say they need and love you! That’s why these relationships last longer than those involving overtake. It’s hard to understand this to those who haven’t experienced these relationships. It’s what keeps us there longer! All the while all the insidious behaviors are even more twisted, your mind and heart are held in bondage, extremely covert, under the radar, hard to detect or pin point. The light has now revealed all the hidden darkness of the lies and deception hidden in the shadows.. ✨💪🏼💡 ✝️🌈🌿🦋 Marriage is supposed to be the most wonderful experience we can have with another person, and the closest relationship ever experienced between two people. I completely agree with all of your descriptions of a healthy relationship! 🙌🏼It’s to be reciprocal, an ebb and flow. Two people wanting the best for each other and the relationship. It involves.. trust, care, compassion, respect, togetherness, support, kindness, listening, sharing, communication, passion, patience, friendship, forgiveness, be valued, hope, each giving 100 percent. Allowed just to be & yes someone who’s just happy to cuddle 😁 One day if or when we want, we will find that special person. I trust God. Thank you for this video. God bless you always with His very best and keep you safe and well Andrew. 🙏☀️✝️❤️😊🌟

[@vickery8205]

Wow, Andrew!! 40 k subscribers…go you! Congratulations 🎈🎊🎉🍾

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 💯🙏💯😊

[@connylemaire]

YES TRUE LOVE ❤🙏❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

❤️🙏🙌

[@silviaveisz3312]

Praise God! A wonderful testimony! Go Andrew! I wish only the best for you. May God bless exceedingly and abundantly more than you can think, ask or imagine! I'm so happy for you! Bless the Name of the Lord for your victory! Peace!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 💯🙌🙏

[@happyhealthyblessed]

Yes this is the truth. My mother and father never loved me. So I married into a highly toxic family and ignored the red flags. Thank you so much Andrew another great video. God bless you my friend!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏💯🙌

[@debbiethomas3080]

I'm learning to love myself and to be my own best friend. Once I can distinguish true from fake, I'll choose people who add beauty to my life. I don't want people who act like I'm a burden. Hope you are feeling better, Andrew

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful message 💯🙌🙏😊

[@michellemooney4225]

This video is beautiful. Thank u

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@GeoffWidders]

Hi Andrew, loving your videos, learning every time I listen to you. I did 40 years in hell, discard day was planned over years. More of that another time! I like that you say, "God bless you." We are traumatised people and some of us find God. I would be interested to hear your take on that. All the best, Geoff [I hope that it won't be thought that my need to be the first to reply to your latest video was narcissistic of me! ;-) ]

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏

[@Bianca-sw5id]

Exactly 💯 percent correct 🥰 , I thought this person was honest when said very early in the relationship 🥰 that felt connection with me , and then when I felt more than the connection later on I was ignored. . .

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

You’re welcome 😊

[@izawaniek2568]

Spot on Andrew. We need to surround ourselves with good, healthy, kind people who want you to succeed and you want them to succeed. And we need to carefully choose who we Let get into our lives! Discernment is crucial and boundaries are key to successful and meaningful life.

[@CynthiaSchoenbauer]

This is a perfect video for me to view today! I have come to a crisis point and have to start standing up and asserting for these kinds of relationships to come to me. Thank you for your head and your heart. I was crushed with demands and no way to accomplish them with no help, and then blamed. I kept falling down and died then in my soul. Only medication was there to help and even that help is very limited to keep me from severe feelings of not being able to get backup again. I tried to show others what I needed but the respect and apologies never came. I was forced to forgive by my faith. I feel like I have been traveling toward my death by sacrifice, no matter what I do... Thanks, Andrew, for helping bring this to light.💡

[@elsagournay6660]

I thank the youtube algorithm for putting you in my path.... you have no idea how much good your words are doing to me ...I feel less alone seeing all the people in the comments that are going through the same thing....all I wanted was to be loved. It just wasn't the right person. Greetings from a Mexican lady living in France 🇫🇷 🇲🇽

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 💯🙏🇲🇽🇫🇷🇨🇷🙌

[@donnahazlett7305]

Thank you Andrew. This was beautiful.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌💪🙏

[@joanneloesner1264]

So right Andrew. All relationships should be just as you described to the positive in all types of relationships. I am seeing that so clearly now having endured a period of illness and seeing the reactions to a request for help from various relationships. I have been deeply hurt and disillusioned but also warmly surprised by those who love more than you thought. So it's been a painful process but one of great enlightenment. Thank you Andrew for all you give every day. And congratulations on hitting 40K subscribers. You've only just begun. Namaste 🙏❤👌🌈🙌⭐⭐⭐

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Namaste 🙌🙌💯😊

[@winniewingfield]

You're correct and I'm keeping my distance from my narc ex. No reconciliation whatsoever.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯💪🙏

[@jeanwolfendale405]

Great advice. I am fortunate to have kind dependable people around me however, occasionally someone appears to test their luck for the purpose of draining your time and energy and I've had one of those individuals recently who came to me in the form of a nuisance neighbour and after the way I tackled this, I'm certain he won't be back. I wish everyone peace including my neighbour.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 💯🙌🙏

[@Butterflybishop7001]

😊thank you ❤God bless you all. We love you Andrew ❤ 🫶🏾🫶🏾 🙏

[@TR-nv3if]

All you’ve said and described strikes a “ big” bell.. “well said”. 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌🙏

[@katherinec4474]

LOVE this!!! Thank you so much🙏❤🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌💯🙏

[@thirstonhowellthebird]

The energy of survival, wow, that is so well said. From the time I can remember being alive which I guess would’ve been somewhere around the age of a very young child that’s the energy I was around. Survival energy, where you dodge the bullying, accusations, lies, triangulation, alcoholism, abuse both verbal and physical and all the things that go along with a toxic family system. Sadly that system usually extends through grade school and high school and then one finds out in the middle of their life that was the energy one lived in, survival energy. It’s like stepping out of a tornado when trying to break free. It’s literally, healing that is, like stepping out of a tornado. You never know that you’re in it until you get out of it because not only do you think it’s normal and that’s how it is in all families but the very people who you love and trusted are telling you that you’re the problem. I would rather be alone than ever be around people like that. It’s shocking that some of my closest childhood friends, maybe they weren’t that close but at least people who I called my friends were engaging in marriages in threesome parties and all kinds of things that I would never have thought of in a million years. No wonder I was excluded. One girl who used to be by best friend has been married now five times and I used to want so much to try to remain friends with her and felt like I was the problem. Oh my God I can see it so clearly now. Dysfunctional people will accuse you of being the problem so they don’t have to look at themselves or change or even try to change or even think about trying to go to therapy to figure out why they do the things they do. They knew I would never participate in something so disgusting. Rejection is God’s protection. Great video.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙏🙌🙏💯

[@hugmc]

Human nature every one wants too Love and be Loved but it’s hard too achieve and most empathetic people may never get there some may. But narcissists never will but they’ll kill everyone around them with a thousand cuts 👍

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@lordsauto]

Ur lucky you live there looks peaceful

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌😊🇨🇷💯

[@murielmartin3288]

Just want to be loved Hard to find friends No more abuse

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯😊

[@christine11347]

🙏🕊️

[@jenqueenlychitra5855]

Nice and it's true. we wanted to be loved. Thank you

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@leonorabrandscheit]

even this titel hits hard, but its to get pushed forward💚

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯

[@deborahkalavrezou2385]

Healing and love to you and all here. As long as we see ourselves of value, we have hope.🙏🌹God never intended for anyone to suffer.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙏🙌

[@deborahkalavrezou2385]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I am going in for Ms Classic British Isles. I was chosen 30 women from over 1000. Thanks to you. You are a massive motivator! I cannot thank you enough....Use my quote anywhere.

[@sharonshim5046]

@@deborahkalavrezou2385 congratulations. Nuff love from Jamaica 🇯🇲❤🌴🌺🙏

[@deborahkalavrezou2385]

@@sharonshim5046 Thank you so much

[@sharonshim5046]

@@deborahkalavrezou2385 Wlm big up nuh.🇯🇲🌴🌺

[@cinthial7220]

Yeah you have that right Andrew, the sleep was so restless the little you could even get. I remember waking up many many times all hours of the night from the stress and the toxicity. One thing that drives me crazy even from friends they do you a little favor and they expect things in return. Especially the men thinking you are going to go out with them even though you have been clear about that for years. Or they do you a favor and they think they need sexual favors for it. That’s why I quit talking to everyone. And also having to be careful not too talk too nice to men you don’t even know because them again they think you are hitting on them, which was not.

[@mariamccauley2922]

I feel trying to be loved is so dangerous now that the narcissistic sucked that out of me. The hopes the dreams.

[@cheralyse1352]

I thought if I GAVE enough, if I pleased the other person (mother, sister, daughter, boyfriend) then they would have no reason NOT to love me, or at least, not to turn their backs on me. There was never resciprocity. I was always treated as though I didn't matter. I'm smarter now, but so much older now. Glad you're hand is outreached to me, Andrew. I feel safe.

[@Theresa1010]

Oh my goodness, Great message! Thank you for your videos and others like you who have helped me understand so much and my journey is just beginning. Again thank you for having the courage to be so raw with what has happened to you and use that to help inform other survivors. 🙏🦋

[@lorina-janebuonanducci.1042]

Love and equal consideration👍 not a one way ciphen. Andrew we see now. Thank you for being here. Have an awesome day. 💙☀️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙌💯😊

[@angieRN73]

Thank you Andrew, as always! 😊 take care.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯🙌🙏

[@Shyann1]

U give me Hope for humanity Andrew. Sometimes i think this world is depraved. But then someone like u will shine your light so brightly for all to see..and u change others frequency and vibration into positive healing. Thank U...Blessings & Namaste

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Namaste 💯🙌🙏

[@thekellers5041]

Gee. Just that title had me 😭I wish the narcissist had passed me by so I could have had a chance at real love. Now I just want to be left alone. Exhausted by the nearly 60 years of dealing with f-ed up narcissistic people. Their unconscionable selfishness & lies & cruel behaviors are now so visible to me. I can’t unsee it. Every time I meet a new one now I just want to expose them so they know I know and disengage immediately to completely rob them of all the pleasure & happiness they get from claiming me as ‘supply’ payback for all the narcissists who took my love & swindled me out of ever receiving genuine love in my life.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌🙏🙏🙌

[@tsrottweilers]

Every. Single. Word.. Andrew. Said.. Is.. True.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌🙏☀️

[@garyschneider2170]

Andrew, again,, you nailed it! Gary Schneider Alameda, California

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 💯🙏🇺🇸🇨🇷🙌

[@DigMinistries2911]

This… all of this. Exactly…

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙏

[@OSTARAEB4]

I put my foot down when I had a female friend stay at my place on four separate occasions. She was a friend and I realize what a NARC user she was. She lived a thousand miles away and I believe I was just taken for granted. She had credit problems and lived well beyond her means. It was apparent some sort of childhood drama occurred as she acted like a child and would occasionally kick me. I never saw anyone act like that. She liked me but I don’t care for women. She once tried to grab my hand when we were in a mall once and I stopped like a statue and told her NO. I sensed there was a lot of tension with her father due to her what I believe were constant lies and manipulation to her father about her exorbitant spending habits. She had a massive credit problem in her mid twenties decades ago. She got angry with me when I told her I didn’t want her staying at my place and started whining on the phone like an obnoxious child and said, “I’ve done favors for you” which wasn’t true as I never asked her for anything but I helped her out with a rummage sale. To cut from being verbose, my point is don’t get involved with people that have a negative 850 credit score and are inconsiderate, irresponsible with their own affairs. Desperate people like this latch on like remoras and use you. Anytime I’ve done a good deed and favor for someone it always impacts me adversely. These people will take you down with the ship. As I stated, I was not attracted to her or any woman but this was decades ago before background checks. Caveat Emptor people to latch onto you as these people are trouble. Desperate people that have nothing to lose will target you to feed off of your everything.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙏🙌

[@eloisem3214]

Beautiful video Andrew! I needed that today. Thank you! 🥰🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏🙌💯

[@kimberlyturmel5538]

Thankyou Andrew!!! I certainly learned to Love and Appreciate Myself!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@lynnfincham6839]

🌸I think you SEE people now , you just know 🌸

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉😉💯💯

[@cautiouslyoptimistic1962]

So very true. I did everything I possibly could do to win his love. Though I had gotten away, I still just wanted him to love me. To the day he died, it was all I ever wanted. 34 years of my life spent. He never did.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌

[@christine11347]

My heart goes out to you God bless. Praying that in time you find the love you always deserved. No one deserves to go through life feeling that way although so many do and sadly accept it. Take time to heal and know that you deserve the best. God bless ❤️

[@cautiouslyoptimistic1962]

@@christine11347 I gravitated to him because I was abandoned at least 12 times as a child/teen by my mother. I was born from a 'hostile' womb. I wasn't loved by her. She liked to tell people the story, of how she didn't name me. It had been a few days and she hadn't done it yet, so one of the nurses came in with her arms in the air and said "I know what we'll name her!" and so it was. She thought it was funny. By 2 years old I had received 2 units of blood because I was so anemic. The younger of 9 pregnancies, 6 that lived. My oldest sib was 15 when I was born. I was primed for someone like him. Even when I told my Mom I think I am making a mistake, after we got engaged, she said oh he'll be alright. He was laying on her couch drunk at the time. So I believed her. She wanted what was best for me..right?

[@cautiouslyoptimistic1962]

@@christine11347 Thank you! Received and appreciated!

[@cautiouslyoptimistic1962]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Ty for being here for us, I don't feel 2 things anymore. Alone, and I no longer blame myself. That part ate up a good part of 41/2 years of my life after it all ended. God bless you for helping me know the truth. It will be 6 years in July.

[@tangelacarter6620]

Thank you so much!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@anonymousimus101]

The video title hits home... I badly needed this video today... Thank you from the bottom of my heart...

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯🙌💯

[@masterblogger1crucialtimes838]

My narc wife will be served with divorce papers any time now. And guess what? She moved in with my mother and will be served at my mothers house. Guess my mother is her temporary source of supply. She has been trying to turn my mother against me. This is all so messed up. I am at the point where I cannot wait to be free.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending healing energy and strength 💯🙌🙏

[@awildadavila4142]

True story Andrew! Horrible not to feel love!!! So sad... Live/ Learn!