17 Tips for Helping Someone with ADHD | Relationship Skills

[@DocSnipes]

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[@SaddlebredLovee]

Can you link the other adhd video that goes into more depth of the symptoms please?

[@noface3928]

I often felt worthless as a child because my teachers would become visibly frustrated with me. I didn’t know how to explain to them that I wasn’t doing it intentionally and how extremely difficult it was for me too. What made it worst for me was that my family knew I struggled with ADHD and even mocked me for it, but didn’t take the steps to get me diagnosed and treated. I’m 24 now but I still get flashbacks of how neglectful my environment was

[@DocSnipes]

That’s heartbreaking and I am sorry it happened to you. What tip from the video will you use first to cope with ADHD?

[@Not-the-usual-BS]

😢😢same here and I’m 48 and I’ve lost so many jobs because of this disorder but it hasn’t stopped people from complaining about me being too slow or everything else they complained about!!

[@jrod7017]

The multiple, and/or moving alarms are helpful. Education for those around us, especially our intimate relationships, I believe, have the greatest impact on our relationships and immediate environment. Thank you, Doctor Snipes!

[@katreades-kt8jv]

Hi - I saw your post and felt I needed to reach out. I know it has been a year, but - It is super important you get some support now, especially because it sounds like your upbringing was pretty toxic and unsupportive. You name neglect - a form of abuse that often goes unnamed, so you are connecting your dots, and that is pretty amazing for someone so young! Counselling or therapy to help you work through those memories and feelings. Get on a wait list for some free community services, what ever you can do/afford for yourself. I write this because it took my kid, and his autism and ADHD for me to get the help I really needed to work through abandonment and neglect, to be able to be in right relationship with my kid and moving forward together more positively. I have come to many of the strategies in this video - but strategies for everyday wont touch the stuff underneath. Both together is the bomb. Self Care and self regulation are priorities when there is trauma. Please learn to listen and care for yourself in the way you should have been cared for, in the way you wanted to be cared for. Sending you love and light in the ether ❤

[@mimigirl3362]

I’m so sorry to those of you who have suffered with this. My bf 58 yrs old has dyslexia and undiagnosed ADD. I get so frustrated and I’m trying to understand his brain. I try not to take it personally. I hope we can get help.

[@lisamilby]

I have ADHD, as does my dad, my husband and both our kids. I think I need to post this for my daughters-in-law! One thing I learned from my dad is that you have to make sure to get the person's full and undivided attention before talking to them. And even then our attention might wander! Communication is absolutely key, though; both talking and listening.

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you so much for watching . What is your favorite tip from the video?

[@lisamilby]

@@DocSnipes honestly the idea to reward doing tasks you/they don't want to do with tasks you do want to do. One I wish I'd thought of when my kids were growing up! My husband uses the multiple alarms and reminders. So many things I recognize in your descriptions! Really an excellent ADHD video!

[@sawtellemary362]

Of course everyone benefits from this but people who are cognitively challenged must have their giving and receiving message focused and confirmed before moving to next part of message.

[@tjtampa214]

Yes, even when you know they don't mean it, it still can hurt your heart.

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you so much for watching. What is your favorite tip from the video?

[@vegone8894]

This is what I struggle with. I can tell myself they don't mean it, but at the end of the day, it eats me up and I don't want to be around them.

[@rookkun8205]

Doc talking about the background noise I need going on while I listen to her videos while I do my work. We've done it. We've come full circle.

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you so much for watching. How are you planning to start addressing ADHD?

[@timk7073]

Thank you for this, Dr. Snipes. When I was a young child, at the beginning of the school year, my horrible 3rd grade teacher told me that I was not as "bad" as she had been warned by the other teachers I'd had. At the time, I said to myself "what is she talking about?" It was likely my ADHD that drove my prior teachers nuts, and at 49, I am just figuring this stuff out. I also think this dovetails into some of the scapegoating abuse I experienced throughout childhood. I often said to my late Mom, "I just want to be (and feel) 'normal.'" I knew (and was told often) that something was just not right with me.

[@noface3928]

I’m sorry that happened to you. It really shows how ignorant people are, especially about mental health. Teachers were one of my worst fears growing up because of that. I felt worthless and like I couldn’t measure up to their favorite students who were more engaged and “smart.” Now I work as a registered nurse in my dream specialty and a lot of people look up to me, but I still get small flashbacks from those rude comments.

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for watching. I am sorry that happened to you. What tools from the video would you use to cope with ADHD?

[@timk7073]

@@DocSnipes I put my keys and wallet in the same place every day. Also, while working at my job from home, I usually have some kind of media turned on as background noise so I don't get too bored. Finally, creating checklists for chores has sometimes been helpful.

[@Annalorraine2x]

I am severely dyslexic and major diagnosed with ADHD. Thank you for your channel with all these wonderful channels. I know why my life is the way it is but you give tips how to change. Thank you.

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your experience. Living with both ADHD and severe dyslexia can be incredibly challenging, but it’s clear that you’re not only gaining insight into why things are the way they are but also taking steps toward making meaningful changes. That’s such an empowering mindset! Remember, progress happens one small step at a time, and even minor adjustments can lead to significant improvements in how you manage day-to-day challenges. If there’s a specific area of your life where you’re looking for more tips or strategies, feel free to use my clone at DocSnipes.com/clones. If you’ve found this video helpful, please consider sharing it so others can benefit from these tips as well. What’s one strategy or idea that’s worked for you so far? Your insights might inspire others!

[@DocSnipes]

Being in a relationship with someone with #ADHD can be challenging (even if the person you are in the relationship with is yourself!). If you have been in a relationship with someone with ADHD (especially if you do not have ADHD yourself), what is your favorite self-care tool?

[@jeremiholley7473]

Love

[@jeremiholley7473]

Thank You Doc

[@timk7073]

The part about useful "distress tolerance skills" @ around 11:50 really rings true for me. One thing that works best for me when I become overwhelmed (and unhinged) is to go for an intense bike ride (big hills, long distances, etc.). Going for a hike in the woods and/or playing with my dogs for an hour or more also does the trick. Basically, any intense physical activity will do.

[@NoxCattus]

Forgiveness and education-we both have ADHD. My partner has known for decades they have it, but isn't medicated. I got dx'd during the pandemic and am medicated. It's been a challenge...sometimes a hourly/daily one even

[@lillianbarker4292]

Noise cancellation headphones 😂. Learning to address irritations with a problem solving, loving attitude. Lots of waste baskets. Taking trips without him sometimes. Putting a time limit on listening to rants when he forgets something important. Knowing it’s not about me but the ADD. So we’ve been married 38 years.

[@VKMerry]

Why does my brain change when KZbinr asks me to ring bell, subscribe or like or dislike(it doesn't matter to computer, they both show interest). No normal person wants notifications. You have 8 seconds to catch someone's attention. The top KZbinrs do not ask for anything or make a joke about it. What a concept!

[@judithwallace2091]

Your work is consistently excellent! I really appreciate your style and attention to detail. Congratulations on your first 275K subscribers! Outstanding!

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you so much for your kind words, Judith! Thank you for watching. What is your favorite tip from the video?

[@meganfox5219]

This is soooo helpful… haha I lived most of my life not knowing I had this until my son was diagnosed… after I figured it out the light bulb went off and it helps me to know that this is. Thanks for all your great videos

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you so much for watching. I am sorry it took so long for it to be diagnosed in your case. What tips from the video will you use to improve your son’s life and your life as well?

[@Sh00tingstars17]

Thanks!

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome. What was your favorite tip from the video?

[@lillianbarker4292]

I wanted to divorce my ADHD husband because we didn’t know he had it. How could he be so messy? Why can’t he help me keep the house tidy? Even when we knew what was happening, different behaviors were so difficult. But he’s a wonderful person and we have found accommodations. I put baskets in strategic places he clutters up-just don’t make them too big because they have to be decluttered. Wastebaskets have to be placed near where he sits. There’s a place to put his keys. I’ve learned to tell him when I need quiet.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching and for sharing

[@Dulce-cm2kx]

Thank thank, thank you for such helpful tips. You gained a new subscriber!

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome. Thank you for subscribing. I am truly grateful for that and I appreciate you watching the video. You can find other videos on ADHD at: kzbin.infosearch?query=ADHD

[@Dulce-cm2kx]

@@DocSnipes. I will be binging on your videos!!! I need to educate myself as much as possible on the subject. My foster child was just diagnosed with ADHD.

[@dee0731]

Thank you Doc Snipes 🙌🏻 God just blessed me two weeks ago with a great man of God who is diagnosed with ADHD. This video will help me to understand what he struggles with. Merry Christmas, God bless you Doc Snipes 🙌🏻🎄☺️🕊️

[@DocSnipes]

Merry Christmas and God bless you, Dee. I am sorry about your partner. What tips from the video will you use to help him?

[@MabelOzigbo]

Thank you very much Doc, this video has been relief for me,my son has ADHD, I didn't know it on till few months ago he was diagnosed ,he is 20,, he struggled with rejections, frustrations because no one understands what was happening with him, He is now in the university but He cannot focus on his studies,but hyper focus on his phone, laptop or Tv, that he doesn't remember to eat or go to sleep when he supposed, he is always disorganized and forgotful, he find it difficult to adjust or take correction, he lack self control,if he sees anything he likes around him ,eg cake or pizza,if he doesn't get it,he becomes rest, in morning He cannot get out of the Bed on his own if I don't go and wake him up,He is never time conscious , now I have better understanding of his condition and how to help him. Merry Christmas

[@ITSRAYANNNN]

I’m watching this video for myself so I know how to be a better person. Thank you.

[@DocSnipes]

You're so welcome!

[@lebmanrocks3949]

This particular video is just what I need at the moment with my gf. Thank you, Dr. Snipes.

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome, Lebaman. I am looking forward to seeing you at the premiere. Please let me know what you think of the video.

[@lebmanrocks3949]

@Dr Snipes The premiere was quite informative and insightful. I made sure I took notes. I have come to realise that my gf isn’t ignoring me, but it’s due to her ADD. Question: if her and I don’t talk during the day (it’s an long distance relationship), will she end up forgetting to talk? I just don’t want to seem clingy with texting her incessantly in fear of this. Thank you.

[@lebmanrocks3949]

@@DocSnipes She also has depression on top of ADHD, which makes it more difficult sometimes to discern when we're texting. I don't know if the lack of conversation is from her ADHD or depression (in which I obv need to give her space). BTW: She has seen doctors for these maladies.And right now I don’t know what to do.

[@robyndudley9684]

This is perhaps the best video I’ve listened to on the subject. I see myself and others in so many of the traits here. I’m not officially diagnosed, but pretty sure I’m checking all the boxes here. This video is extremely helpful in how I can check or recognize my own behaviors but also helpful in how I can deal with my manager, who I’m 💯sure he is ADHD. Thank you for this!

[@DocSnipes]

You’re most welcome. Thank you for watching the video

[@benjiivlog7567]

Very powerful Video a lot good explanations❤ thank you doc snipe for putting this amazing content been learning about my ADHD since I started watching the video on your channel on ADHD in Adults.

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome. Thank you so much for watching. What tip from the video will you use first to start addressing ADHD?

[@sarahshaw-sehgal1146]

Doc snipes I am so grateful for you 🙏🙏🙏 you really resonate with me and I appreciate you posting these videos so much. Thank you ❤️

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome. I, too, am grateful for you. What is your favorite tip from the video?

[@idahojoe8232]

Thank you! Info is helpful. I work at a homeless shelter.🙏 Matt 11:28-30

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you so much for watching. That’s an awesome thing to do and I am grateful for you. What tips from the video will help you help people with ADHD?

[@idahojoe8232]

To start, setting achievable goals during case management.👍

[@deniselewis5844]

So timely! Thank you.

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome. Please let me know what you think of it. Thank you!

[@_.Candii._.Yamz._]

Hello!! Love your channel!! Can we get a list of the tips please. I’m a single mother self diagnosed parenting a diagnosed 12 year old and I’m struggling!! 😅

[@Radianty_Ella]

Great idea!

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you so much for watching. You can make a screen shot of the list and use it when needed. What tools from the video are you planning to use first to address ADHD?

[@EkkoPixxie]

The irony of me skipping back every 3 minutes bc I've started "multi tasking" is not lost of me lmao

[@DocSnipes]

Lol. I appreciate you watching so much. What tips from the video will you use to address that, except skipping back every 3 minutes?

[@carl5764]

Thank you, this really helps me with my ADHD woman ❤

[@DocSnipes]

You’re most welcome

[@williamjones854]

Thank you

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome. Thank you for watching the video. What did you find most helpful from it?

[@emervillemain9440]

An amazing video.

[@DocSnipes]

You’re most welcome. I am grateful to be of service. Also, I’d be grateful if you were to share what you found most useful from the video. Additionally, if you're interested in more tips on the topic or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.

[@oteuferth]

Thank you.

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome! Thank you for watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=ADHD

[@Iam_Celene]

Both me and my boyfriend have adhd and I’ve done a lot of work to get over social anxiety. However and I’ve struggled with this too, he seems to get fixated on one thing and nothing else matters. For example he’s into the magic the gathering card game and sometimes those games can go on for like 4 hours straight and I just don’t have the patience to play a game for hours like that. How do I tell him I’m not interested in that but wanna focus on the relationship we have and build some memories together. I understand we all have our things but seeing him and his friends play it can get emotionally draining because they get so into it. I’m 23 and I don’t wanna leave the relationship but it can be excruciating because he’s so infatuated with the game where to a point it’s fine, but I would much rather live in the real world 90% of the time. I also helped him clean his room and the next time I went to his house it was so messy as in clothes were everywhere and I really do care for him but it can be hard

[@AngDevigne]

Thank you 🙏

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome. How are you planning to start addressing ADHD or helping a loved one cope with ADHD?

[@jamieseiple]

Respectively, MOST people hear ADHD as a negative and it gives them an excuse and a crutch, especially young people who are finding themselves and insecure. I still prefer the term high energy. I also have seen more success getting rid of the drugs and labels then using drugs and labels

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for watching. If I name the video using the term “ADHD”, the probability of it reaching someone who is in need of help increases. What did you find most useful from the video?

[@johnwhiteleather3565]

They they they, it’s me me me. Good video. Thanks.

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome! I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=ADHD

[@khvuyen]

Hi, Dr. Snipes. Do you have any tips if I get really bad anxiety over things I do subconsciously? For example, I can type just fine when I am not thinking about it. However, when I think about exactly what letter I need to type and where it is, I mess up really badly.

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you so much for watching. What would it say about you, if you were to misspell a word? What benefits does this anxiety bring? What is it trying to protect you from?

[@mightyminx6653]

I was inschool at the wrong time. ADHD wasnt really recognized so i feel like my education was lesser then everyone elses.. No one talked to me about what i would have to do to go to college .. It ws haard i did graduaate but that was where my education stopped....

[@DocSnipes]

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video

[@toddparry6568]

Recent dx, with complex I'm a. clinician, yet the big struggle is with my wife... Self deprecating...SLDD...any ideas

[@DocSnipes]

I am sorry about your wife, Todd. I added SLDD to my list of upcoming videos. You can contact me by becoming a member of the channel at kzbin.info/door/AE3JJi8tX7gfhZEXCUGd_Ajoin and, in doing so, joining my telegram group where I answer questions for free.

[@luckyduckydaisyflower2344]

I always feel like I'm in trouble......become empowered and be able to tell the haters to fluff off? Hehe a gal can dream

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for watching the video. What would you need to become empowered?

[@luckyduckydaisyflower2344]

@@DocSnipes savings and a side hussel..that's a great question and I'm actively working on it:) solid question!

[@Dayzzd]

Yesterday, with the assistance of AI, I pretty much came up with an entire rough draft to a novel. And it lasted all day into the night. Then today, i kinda transitioned back into my weekly routine and realized I was supposed to be doing something important. I feel like the day slowed my whole week down and I lost track of time. Why are my symptoms more recognizable and prominent as I've gotten older(32)?

[@DocSnipes]

ADHD symptoms can become more recognizable and prominent as you get older for several reasons. Here are some key points to consider: * Increased Responsibilities: As adults, responsibilities often increase, including work, family, and social obligations. Managing these responsibilities can be more challenging for someone with ADHD, making symptoms more noticeable. * Hyperfocus: People with ADHD can experience hyperfocus, where they become intensely focused on a task to the exclusion of everything else. This can lead to losing track of time and neglecting other important tasks. * Time Management: Adults with ADHD often struggle with time management and organization. This can result in difficulties maintaining a routine and keeping track of important tasks. * Transitions: Transitioning from one task to another can be particularly difficult for individuals with ADHD. This can lead to delays and a sense of losing time. * Increased Awareness: As you grow older, you may become more aware of your symptoms and how they impact your daily life. This increased awareness can make the symptoms feel more prominent. Tips for Managing ADHD Symptoms 1. Prioritize Tasks: Make a list of tasks and prioritize them based on importance. This can help you stay focused on what needs to be done. 2. Set Alarms and Reminders: Use alarms and reminders to help manage time and transitions between tasks. 3. Break Tasks into Smaller Steps: Breaking tasks into smaller, manageable steps can make them less overwhelming. 4. Create a Routine: Establishing a daily routine can help provide structure and reduce the likelihood of forgetting important tasks. 5. Seek Support: Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who specializes in ADHD to develop strategies tailored to your needs. If you have any more questions or need further information, feel free to use my AI allceus.com/AskDocSnipes

[@stevenanderson5272]

I just got diagnosed at 51

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for sharing that-it’s never too late to gain insight into yourself, and getting a diagnosis at 51 can bring so much clarity about challenges you’ve faced and how your brain works. It’s a big step toward self-understanding and empowerment. Now that you have this information, you can start exploring strategies tailored to your strengths and needs, like breaking tasks into smaller steps, creating structured routines, or working on emotional regulation skills. Remember, ADHD doesn’t define you-it’s just one part of who you are, and learning to work with it rather than against it can open up so many possibilities. If you found this video helpful, please consider sharing it with others who might benefit. For more in-depth tools and resources, visit DocSnipes.com/Clones.

[@michaelcombrink8165]

I try to ask for help but it's hard to explain and nobody seems to understand unless they struggle too

[@DocSnipes]

It's challenging to explain ADHD to others, especially if they haven't experienced it themselves. Seeking help from professionals who specialize in ADHD can be very beneficial, as they are trained to understand and provide effective support. Online communities and support groups can also be valuable, offering a space where you can connect with others who share similar experiences. Remember, you're not alone, and there are people who understand and can help. Also, please feel free to share what you’ve found most useful from the video and, if you’re interested in learning more about ADHD or to search for videos in the video library, don’t hesitate to use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes

[@AD-Dom]

I’d love for my partner to watch this, but sigh, she will never. My adhd is something I can fix. 😂😢

[@DocSnipes]

I am sorry your partner won’t watch the video and I appreciate you watching it. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=ADHD

[@IamusTheFox]

We're not verbose we're like a water hose.

[@dee0731]

Thanks!

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome! Thank you so much for watching