Am I A Bad Mother? | Confessions of an Imperfect Parent

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

What parenting "trends" are you over hearing about? What have you found works for you? Let me know in the comments! If you enjoyed this episode, please like this video and subscribe to my channel for more Not Alone. Your support means the world to me 🫶 Thank you!

[@stayhappylittlemermaid]

Your tender heart is not a weakness, in fact, the world needs more people like you. 💯

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

You’re so sweet 🤍🤍

[@rashimaikhuri8827]

Thank you Valeria for talking about this! This was almost like a little mom therapy session. I am astounded how articulate you are in your thoughts and find just the right words to express. Social media is definitely overwhelming with so many do's and don'ts that it leaves us being critical and some days brutally critical about our ability to juggle between multiple roles. This was very helpful, lots of love and light💜💜

[@darrenwanamaker3326]

You are a great mother Valeria! You are not bad at all and I have been watching your videos for about 5 years and you are very special. You really do appreciate the love and support from me. It means a lot ❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Thank you so much ❤️🥹 grateful you’re on this journey with me!

[@darialushkina1751]

OMG, Valeria, thank you so much for making this short podcast on the topic! I’m sure a lot of us moms feel the same way and are constantly triggered by these social media accounts, so we at least need this to be addressed more for other moms to see and ask ourselves again - do we really need this in our lives? For some, maybe it’s a way of coping with some stress they are under, but once it crosses the line, there has to be a way out🙏

[@barbaraquiroz8338]

Literally have been feeling super anxious, im a new mom and I have felt so confused and frustrated on what to do and whats best for my daughter. She just turned two and everyone is telling me whats best, except for me ! IM SO HAPPY that you spoke about this. I feel like I needed this today 😊 thank you for the encouragement ❤ any other new moms with me on this ? Am I alone on this ?

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

I’m glad this episode helped you🙏🏻❤️ you’re definitely not alone. Sending so much love!!

[@barbaraquiroz8338]

@ thank you very much 🙏🏼

[@danielatodorova7479]

Thank you Valeria for lifting this curtain as well! 👏🙏💗 More and more often I think about the "Village" method and realize that maybe it's time for all this to start happening and normalize it again. Mothers to unlock their (already a bit stunted) instincts, listen to themselves and trust themselves more than another "perfect" account. It's great that you have this audience and the opportunity to reassure us "commoners" and give us faith that we feel and go through almost identical feelings and emotions. P.S. Once I threw away my mothering books and left all social groups, I felt the release of exactly that tension you speak of. It is wonderful to listen and hear yourself and your instincts! 💗

[@zishmasafi4503]

I always say that I have a Phd in my kids, and this video confirms it. I remember when I first became a mom, I was 25 but much more confident in my ability to raise a baby. But then, as any good mother, I wanted to be a better mother and started taking alllll the information in, and now at 32 I feel like I’m more confused than I ever was before. I deleted my instagram app in February, and I have been very happy. I still use instagram if I want to but have to go through Safari which makes it a little more of a nuisance. Anyway, I’m thinking that the answer I’m looking for is probably already within me like I had it all those years ago! Every child and every situation is unique and complex, and it DOESN’t need fixing. It needs compassion. Thank you so much for this video. We don’t need to fit into the roles that the world has decided for us.

[@charo8518]

Yes ma’am! Thanks for making this normal. I keep telling myself I’m not going to read another parenting book and you just confirmed this feeling. ❤❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Glad this episode helped 🫶🏻🥹

[@fairyprincessunikitty2032]

I feel like this touches not only the parental sphere but also the selfhelp or helping industry as a whole.. I listened to so many voices telling me about routines and rituals that I forgot how to built my own, but feel guilty for not sticking to something. I find it very difficult now to listen to and to trust myself in what is good for me specially.

[@DoeintheThicket]

Love your solo content.

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Glad to hear you enjoy these ones!! Thanks for watching ❤️

[@Margarita.Nazarenko]

You crushed it with this video. This generation needs to hear this.

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Thank you so much 🙏🏻❤️❤️

[@KaMiQa16]

I think the truth as always lays somewhere in the middle. On one hand we are bombed by information what we should do (not only about parenting) on the smallest things but in the other we see our up bringing and the repercussion of it where we now needs to go to therapy to fix us from how we were raised. I think we should educate ourselves about rising kids but to take it with grain of salt and forgive ourselves with making mistakes and trying to do things based on our instincts (even though it is not 100% inline with what experts teach us).

[@pikachupokemon734]

Val, I've known you for a while, and already know you are an incredible mumma.♥️🧿

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

❤️🥹 thank you love

[@mia933]

dear Valeria, I hear you and I feel the same. mother of two boys. what I think is the most important of all and for every segment is to understand that comparison is the biggest source of frustration, and that people often want to live lives they can't. I live the life of a woman who works from 8 am to 5 pm, I can't live the life of a woman who is at home with children all day, but I can make the best of it, my life, my time, my children, my decisions, and when you understand that, you judge yourself less and really everything is going better, and I also thinks that it is important to listen to your children, really listen. we learn a lot from them,, and it's perfect that we're not perfect, ups and downs, but Valeria, as long as we question ourselves and analyze, I think we're doing a good thing, because we care and ultimately that's the most important thing. love. and you are a wonderful mom and woman and I learned a lot from you even though your life is different from mine.. but we are all unique in this world, so are our children kiss

[@larrywatson3479]

Hello beautiful Valeria! You are a very special person! You are such a loving and caring Momma! Your boys are so loved by you and are so blessed! Jacky, Ben, and Maxie absolutely adore you it is very special to see!They light up when you are around! You are so caring and loving! You are doing a fantastic job as a Momma! Love you so much Valeria! Love, Janice and Larry Watson. Pittsburgh PA. USA

[@farzaanahhurley8771]

Same…I’ve come to the same realisation. Trevor Noah’s “For kids or anyone who’s ever been a kid” podcast really puts it into perspective.

[@TheLeka7]

Funny enough, when I just had my baby I was reading tons of parenting books, anxiously going through all the advices and trying to figure out my way. I was VERY depressed 1st year of the motherhood, cause I had no idea what I was doing and why my kid was not reacting to all the “advices” from the books. My mom was keep telling me, you cannot raise a kid by reading a book and I argued….damn but she was so right! At least now I know🥲

[@annamarihiljanen5221]

Yep there's so much bad and good information about raising kids that I can see how people would get lost in it! It's probably the best to trust your intuition as a parent.🧡 When I was a kid my mother would slap me when I misbehaved and would ignore my emotional needs in many situations. She didn't know better. Now I have forgiven her. Also, what she did I wouldn't say traumatized me. But I also know that her not knowing how to raise me obviously affected me. I'm okay and I'm a strong person as adult now, and very big part of that is because of my mother. She also did other harsh sounding but very necessary things to me and for me in my childhood. In my opinion the so called gentle parenting that's now in fashion is absolutely not the way to go either. I can see effects of that in my job of 12years now. Kids have definitely become more manipulating and less respectful towards adults. It's a no go. And no, you don't need to beat your kids or anything that sort to have them respect you. Also, I'm sure Valeria and Gary are both great parents. Their boys have 2 intelligent people with skill of critical thinking as parents.

[@GoodHabitsHappyMind]

Omg 😳 I did the same ❤❤ I’m on your channel first time through this video and you just said everything what I feel like 🥲Thank You xx

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Im so glad this resonated with you ❤ thanks for watching!!

[@GoodHabitsHappyMind]

My son is nearly 2 and I just learn thing most important thing in time that the most he needs in his life is “my Love “ don’t over think of I’m taking him enough for play groups , make him toddler Insta food ect

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

👏🏻👏🏻 this

[@alezandradavila2581]

Girl same I never leave my house

[@fairyprincessunikitty2032]

Why are we like that, collectively ?! 🙈

[@das0205]

This is 💯! Keep doin you gurl!!

[@anamarija265]

So you were feeling overwhelmed in the morning and you opened Instagram and foud something educarional which triggered you, but it si their folt for posting it. Triggers are about you, not the page you follow. And as it triggered you and was too much for you at that point, it probably did someone else's day better. Bottomline, you have to take care of your emotion, overwhelmnes etc, that is your responsibility. Not a hate comment, just this first sentence younsaid says it all. ❤

[@HasmikVardanyan-it5cl]

Love you💋💋💋🧞‍♂️🧞‍♂️🧞‍♂️🌺🌺🌺

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Sending love!