Am I happy? Life as a content creator

[@luciebfink]

Thank you as always for supporting me over the years and for coming back to my channel week after week!! KZbin IS THE BEST. :)

[@madelinefagen24]

Are you planning to do another meal prep and party or something live? I wanna hang!!!

[@tessjune88]

It definitely didn’t feel to me like bragging at all. I think it’s really beautiful that you were born into such a loving family and have had such the opportunity to have easy, beautiful friendships blossom from that core family. I don’t have that kind of family, I have had to put a lot of effort and energy into building my soul family, (and I have some incredible people in my life now) I had a lot a lot of abuse in my family. And although it hurts, I find comfort in knowing that families like yours do exist. ❤

[@christinaburns4798]

Don’t ever stop creating, your work bleeds positively. Been following since Refinery29 days.

[@luciebfink]

how nice is this!! Thank you.

[@appropriateinput]

​@@luciebfink 🫂

[@anniechen181]

Hi Lucie! Thank you so much for this video! I would love to see a video of you interviewing your parents about parenting tips. I would be so happy if my kids turned out as mature and well rounded as you and your siblings!

[@luciebfink]

OMG this is so kind. My parents will be flattered 😳

[@mdickens9680]

I was thinking this! Please give parenting classes. Literally all 3 Fink children are awesome 🥲

[@megancox9549]

I appreciate how you try to stay a real person with changing interests and focus on your channel. People off social media don't have a "niche" so it's refreshing how you don't try to put yourself into a box online.

[@luciebfink]

Very true! I think influencers forget that!!

[@chloed8287]

Hey Lucie! So happy you are surrounded by love. I feel like I have drifted away from people by having a really demanding career over the last decade. I would appreciate a video about how you nurture your relationships and rekindle the ones that need it.

[@LR11306]

Yes!! Especially friend groups

[@DominiqueElyse]

I’ve been following you for YEARS since your refinary29 days. Also used to live in NY and hoped to run into you one day. 😂 I’m a mom now and still love watching your videos while cooking dinner or folding clothes. 💕🫶🏽

[@jmgrove4610]

Can you do a video on how you have built this “social capital “ in real life. What tangible habits, attitudes and behaviors you are intentional about. It’s special what you have

[@luciebfink]

love this idea! i think a lot of it comes from the stable loving household i was born into and then the stable loving partner i then sought out following that upbringing, but i'm sure it goes beyond that

[@sirpupwheaton]

Yes! I came here to say this. I know that you didn't choose the household you grew up in, but it would be so interesting if you made a video about how you maintain such strong friendships and a sense of community.

[@allisonpiazza2317]

You have the audacity to be happy, to be financially well-off, to be thin...to be anything but miserable. It says a lot about our society - that so many would rather tear down someone instead of lifting them up (or god forbid just letting them be). Comparison really is the thief of joy.

[@luciebfink]

A truer sentiment has never been spoken.

[@Mayapapaya123]

Only just turned on the video, but wanted to say: dark blue is definitely your color! Looks beautiful with the color of your hair and eyes

[@luciebfink]

Thank you so much!!!! 👀 so nice!

[@patriciacobos]

Years go by and I continue here🫂😘 You radiate love and light, I love you so much💐🤍 One thing I have learned this past year is the great damage judgments do to all of us, judgments of any kind, so when they reach to me I try to remember that "it separates us", "it does not unite us", so if it does not unite us I'm not going to give it importance. How easy it is to say!😅 I wish you the very best Lucie 🌟 Happy New Year ✨️

[@luciebfink]

Love this so very much. Thank you and happy new year, Patricia!!

[@misssoandso]

Molding myself a structurally sounded cup first, then glazing and baking it with a unbreakable defense coat, and finally filling it with love, that’s my plan. Best wishes Lucie and everyone!

[@JenLauren]

i agree its so important to have your REAL LIFE and people who know you OUTSIDE of content, relationships outside of content >

[@ellie__swan]

have been following you since refinery 29 days and love the way you’ve evolved your content over the years! for a new creator like me, you’re such great inspiration :)

[@luciebfink]

Thank you so much!! You've got this - supporting you!!!

[@jasminejohnston5412]

I've always thought that people who go out of their way to leave negative or mean comments have some kind of mental illness. Never in my life have I ever done that, it's such a strange reaction. If I don't like a video or something, I just click off, I never even dislike it lol I just move on and won't watch them again. I'm definitely not going to write mean comments about them or be hateful. I hope people always remember that anyone who is bullying someone online has issues and they're either jealous, bitter, resentful and/or unhappy; misery loves company. How people treat you is a reflection of THEM, not you. Don't ever let haters get you down or take it personal. Not everyone is going to like you and that's okay! Love your videos Lucie! I've been following you for a couple years now and you always brighten my day :) Thanks for unabashedly being yourself and inspiring us, entertaining us, and educating us in the process. ❤

[@tthewizard7667]

girl i’ve been watching you since high school! i’m 22 now an i really have enjoyed watching the evolution of your work from refinery 29 to now. keep up the great work!!!

[@luciebfink]

So sweet, THANK YOU!!!

[@tthewizard7667]

@@luciebfink omg she noticed me 🥹

[@bethanyharker3456]

This makes a lot of sense!! I have been following you for YEARS and I love love love your content!!

[@luciebfink]

Thank you so much!! I'm so happy you're here.

[@galifiron]

As usual Lucie, you’re so human, authentic and wise. This video really helped me and made me ask myself some hard questions. I saw some comments asking for a video with your parents for their parenting tips and a video on how to nurture and develop loving relationships - I couldn’t agree more. Such an amazing support system seems rare to me, and I’m sure you’ve put a lot of work into it yourself. So would love to see those kinds of videos and soak in more of your and your parents wisdom! Love you!❤

[@AmericanCoyote]

I love you Lucie ... You're so open informational and educational a great example of a human being thank you for all you do

[@luciebfink]

Wow thank you so much.

[@birdie6916]

Nice video and perspective, Lucie. I agree--without a solid foundation of support (ie, family of origin or chosen family) and a strong sense of self, negative comments and criticisms are breeding grounds for unhappiness and misery. I think most people who make these mean/nasty/snarky comments are--deep down--very unhappy with themselves and their lives, which doesn't make them bad people...I think they see someone happy and doing well at life (in comparison to their own thoughts about their own life) and instead of saying they admire you or that they wish they had the same opportunities, privileges, and financial security, it comes out with a lot of negativity, because they are envious and perhaps grieving a life they feel is unattainable. I'm not saying these people are right, but empathy goes a long way in this life. I'm a bit older than you and have been on both sides of the coin despite my very supportive circle--some of which I have in family, some of which I've cultivated. Never would I dream of making a negative comment, ever---but have I sometimes felt a pang when what I desire is in my face on another's social media?, sure. And if it's too painful, there's always an option to unfollow. We're all human. Sometimes it's hard to be happy when your world is imploding, which is why it's so important to have a soft place to land. For those that do, cherish it. For those that don't, witnessing you with love and compassion. We never truly know what another's journey is until we've walked their path. 💖

[@luciebfink]

100% - I too feel those pangs when there's a touch of jealousy. In those moments, I always try to push myself to celebrate others and share something kind. It always makes me feel good :)

[@jch9301]

I don't always have time to watch your videos but have been following you for years since Refinery 29. This video topic was really well done. It's such a mature way of looking at social media as a job and shows your self awareness and maturity, and it shines compared to lifestyle KZbinrs that are younger or have stumbled into fame very quickly. You're so lucky to have the social safety network in your real life and you expressed that in such a kind way. Great video, and I feel like you'd do great if you ever do a podcast or longer content!

[@luciebfink]

Thank you so much!!!! I am actually launching a podcast in 2024! :) STAY TUNED. It will be posted on my youtube channel.

[@strawberrykatnz]

I think some influencers get more negative comments than others because of what specifically they're doing rather than the way they look. So for example, issues with family vlogging and child exploitation and people literally having more children for clickbait on KZbin and sadly it really does happen. It's leading to real life stalking which is a HUGE issue. But I think you are right about the stress response aspect. Some people can be unnecessarily receiving negative comments because of what they're wearing or wearing the wrong shade of makeup which is super trivial and not actually important but basically mean - bullying. I'm so happy you discussed this!! Because it's so so important to point out. I agree, the intellectual comments or the having a nanny for extra support. Kudos to you for being straight up, being proud of your every decision even down to the nanny. Nothing wrong with getting a Nanny if you can afford it. I am pretty sure most parents would choose a nanny over daycare if they could afford it lol. I actually love that some of your content encourages healthy debate. I think it's important. I learned so much about sugar levels from you!! You are super informative. :-) I also love that you quote Brene Brown. Her research is outstanding. I own most of her books. Everyone should read them. Stay happy Lucie! Spread the positivity and love. :-)

[@strawberrykatnz]

I would be so interested to hear your take on a couple of things: the growing issue of family vlogging, just your inspiration in general, if someone who's never done KZbin before - what do you consider to be the foundation or starter toolkit? Eg equipment, ideas, editing software, project idea from brainstorming to inception. I've been super curious.

[@Ayzlin]

Oh wow...I didn't realize people were so mean to you. I love your perspective on life/social media and I love that you have loving friends and family 😊 Awesome to have such a wonderful support group ❤

[@luciebfink]

Thank you so much!! And honestly, it's not so much that people are mean directly towards me... I think many people just don't like public figures in any way and are just rude in general to anyone putting themselves out there.

[@kosipova01]

That’s a great analogy and I’m very happy you have such a wonderful and supportive group of people around you ❤ thanks for the reminder that everyone needs to focus on personal relationships!

[@selin3282]

this was so well articulated!! absolutely love this video and appreciate you sharing!

[@sierramiller5226]

So grateful for you to have such a full cup. Love you!!!

[@TheAllibug125]

Lucie!! Thank you so much for being open and vulnerable. Your content is one my longest and best (Instagram and KZbin) and I feel the genuine love you have for yourself and those in your life 🖤 it’s what makes me coming back to your content every day and week! P.S. you are GLOWING in that blue plaid jacket 😊

[@luciebfink]

This is so nice, THANK YOU SO MUCH!

[@Rigatoni27]

I feel like this is a direct benefit of “doing the work”. It’s so beneficial to have your own REAL community so you don’t rely on trying to collect acquaintances on the internet! Makes your content more authentic too and no clout chasing. Go you Lucie!! ✨

[@heastwell91]

Love watching your videos Lucie! Always feel like I’m sitting down for a catch up with an old friend xxx

[@luciebfink]

Biggest compliment :):)))))

[@christinaobo]

As a newbie creator, this was SO HELPFUL to hear, especially the metaphor with filing your cup! Thank you for sharing this with us all x

[@luciebfink]

Love hearing that this helped you!! xoxo wishing you the best of luck on your journey!

[@xtinriver143]

thanks for this lucie❤❤❤ you are such a positive and inspiring person. Learning so much from you :)

[@justmeherexx482]

This was a delightful video. It’s very apparent that you have a fulfilling private life, and sharing some of it with us makes you seem more real, which makes you very relatable. It’s so mind blowing to me that years and years ago I was listening to your dad on the radio, and now follow you here on KZbin. It’s a small world after all. ❣️❣️❣️

[@JenLauren]

LOVE this style video & love you! i love your journey and your answer too

[@mejuliette1436]

To add to your cup - love your life journey and your experinces! I'm greatful that I can watch and learn from you. Have a nice day!

[@makayla4292]

you are such a light! I love these types of videos and I would definitely listen to a podcast if you made one!

[@katjafortic7066]

Thank you for this video! Perfect for new ones on the platform ❤

[@jodiminsky5268]

The people who are commenting with negativity are some of the saddest and most unhappy people. It’s a shame that not everyone has supportive family and friends. If every creator recognized that, maybe it wouldn’t sting so much. Unsolicited criticism reflects a depressed individual who is hurting others because they are hurting.

[@Daisies816]

I'm sorry not everyone has been kind to you. I thought you had a wonderful personality when I first saw your video on how cranberries are harvested, and I still check out your videos every once in awhile. I hope your cup never runs dry.

[@oneofeverything9820]

Wow, this is incredibly insightful. Thank you for sharing 💕

[@cynthiacarvajal4486]

I love you Lucie! I feel as if we grew up together lol. Even though my life is completely different to yours this was very helpful❤

[@LCsandiego]

Love this! You go girl!❤

[@nasd7925]

Hi,i'm an OB/GYN,i don't know if you have any video about your child delivery,would like to know about procedure...btw;i liked your clarification with positive vibes

[@caryntonh1037]

Do you think the influx of hateful comments has made creators pull away from their communities? So many people I’ve loved to follow for years have changed their content in a way that feels really distant. Comment sections are no longer places to interact, instead it’s a one word response to get a DM for a link. The content itself also feels like creators have pulled away. I’m curious if anyone has noticed the same and if you think it is related?

[@hayleecaldwell1030]

I relate to the negativity as a teacher. Both unkind input from kids and parents.

[@Koleszko19]

🙂🙂

[@nopenopenopenopenopers]

This was good until the end when it got boring. Wish it had been cut to 15-16 minutes. At a certain point, it got repetitive.

[@madelinefagen24]

I was not bored for one second! I thought it was pithy and well-executed.

[@nopenopenopenopenopers]

@@madelinefagen24 Why are you insecure on behalf of someone else, to the point of feeling the need to post a rebuttal? I highly doubt you'd have posted your little comment on your own had I not posted mine. Grow a backbone.

[@Loramend]

Are you bouncing on a ball during this video?

[@APtherealmissP]

Thank you for this wonderful video. I have nothing to do with KZbin professionally and this still touched me and made me think about my cup 🩷 Thank you!!!