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[@Thorayaa]

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[@Zero.0ne.]

Thanks. I think your videos are profound.

[@savoyboddie8959]

If you ever get a chance you should visit Atlanta, GA.

[@Control-Alt-Delete619]

@Thorayaa I think I have a crush on you! 🥰

[@aparna5532]

Am I the only one who constantly thinks about what kind of response I would give to Thoraya for all the questions she asks in each episode if I ever meet her on the street someday?

[@es.cervantes]

Everytime I watch an episode, jajaja is like if I am practicing for a job interview 😂

[@emmanuellaafriyie3222]

I still can't think up answers for some of her questions. This question still bugs me "which stranger can't you forget?" Something like that

[@dashagazo8508]

I met her once in person and she didn't use the video, I was pretty bummed low key

[@Fabio035]

A 10 min Thoraya video typically takes me 11-12 min to finish, because a part of watching it is to pause it after watching the first couple of people and think about what my own response would be 😂🤣

[@victorinprogress]

No. I do that a lot. I love to daydream and imagine myself getting interviewed on a podcast because I’m famous

[@bandanar1321]

Am I the only one who's done nothing in their life because of fear, and who's afraid that it might never change

[@ananimity7332]

You're not alone

[@BigIndianBindi-jy1cz]

same. and i'm almost 40 and it's very scary. feels like there's no point in trying now, that it's a waste of time, and that the purpose of life is to just be addicted to something and seek dopamine where ever it can be found. there's no use for passion, love, or friends, because i also want to avoid rejection. so drugs, basically. life is drugs.

[@ricebun1657]

You are special, I hope you could do all what you imagine. Don’t let your fears break you. You is everything what you’ve got, don’t lose your time :)

[@gigi89]

Nope, you're not the only one

[@gengisanimal1047]

Do something. About it then, time is the only thing that you never get twice

[@VisionaryofMirage]

Am I the only one who feels a high level of empathy with most people I meet; but only rarely feel like I truly relate to anyone?

[@ayinathaniel3055]

Are you an INFP in the Myers Briggs personality

[@toedlicherlusthase]

Rest assured, you are not the only one. It also presents as a deep understanding for people, too, which makes me feel guilty at times, because I get people's motives easily, but others interpret it often as me feeling or thinking like the people whose motives I see. It is hard to describe, and even harder to distance myself from people who do bad stuff, or who think knowing the reasons behind equals being just the same as the ones eg wronging others.

[@VisionaryofMirage]

@@ayinathaniel3055 I actually am usually, very perceptive of you!

[@Masha.S.]

This!

[@nenevalentia]

Same

[@MYSTIQUES0ULCHILD]

Am I the only one who watches her videos for relatability so I won’t feel alone in my thoughts and feelings?

[@whatrtheodds]

Me. I'm an occasional overthinker Weird part about dramatically improving your life is you lose friends. I feel like an traitor and weirdo now. So I watch these to remind myself I'm just a human trying to get by. And eventually I'll create new friends. But in the meantime it's uuuhg lonely.

[@joanjepngetich4982]

I can assure you. You're not am always here to remind myself that am actually human being

[@mazzee]

Not alone

[@daansmets9902]

Am I the only one who experiences a deep, fundamental sense of loneliness that feels unresolvable, no matter how close you get with people, no matter how much time you spend with anyone?

[@Adaobi874]

Why did I feel this on a deep level?

[@srodriguez721]

I used to feel that way until I developed a relationship with Jesus. He filled the void that no human could ever fill.

[@BaloonieFloat]

100%

[@icecreambodyrolls]

Same. I've got friends but I feel alone a lot

[@farahmughal]

Oh my goodness, me too! You aren't the only 1!

[@shonb989]

Am I the only one.. when I meet old people or even see them . I instantly imagine, how their lives were when they were younger. I mentally create a life for them in my head. She was a flapper girl, he was a young mechanic. they met through her sister at the spring fling dance in 1932.

[@kinsley7777]

@shonb989 love that … your eyes see the best times and, hopefully the best *in* people … 🙏🏼

[@bangemsmurf9349]

No. Because I've thought it too......vividly.

[@shonb989]

@@bangemsmurf9349 like fr fr!! Down to their children they have. How they looked as well, back then

[@shonb989]

@@kinsley7777 Never even thought about it that way! 💯

[@bangemsmurf9349]

@@shonb989 what kind of personality they had in grade school/ student they were. Do they miss their youth & did they think life for them would lead them to this point? For those with ailments what was life like prior to?

[@madeoutofglue]

There's a bunch of research on deja vus, actually. One of the strongest theories is that you process the input you're presently living in the area of the brain that usually processes memories so you live the present time with the feeling that it is a memory.

[@nicedward7544]

Deja Vu is a whole different beast for me. I have epilepsy and before a bad seizure I have the worst deja Vu that feels like impending doom. It makes me sick to the point I start to vomit. Craziest feeling ever. I do have scar tissue on my frontal lobe which is responsible for memory. I do have horrible memory problems after my motorcycle accident too. I'll forget stuff that nobody should forget.

[@pinkiedlamini7298]

It can't just be the brain processing memories.. Deja vu makes those who believe in reincarnation even more valid and those that always feel a midsing piece in their lives and find out that someone somewhat out there is doing or feeling or thinking of the axact same thing. If you Literally stop dead in your tracks durring a moment you swear you've experienced before....it has to be that we humans are also living in rotation just like the planets. Coz where else? No Jesus ain't coming back, coz we have been telling the same tale every century to a different version of ourselves 😅

[@OsmDinna]

Wow, this is interesting.

[@w....................]

@@nicedward7544 Although it's fascinating I'm sorry it's bad for you. :/

[@Cat_jesus_]

What about when you are dreaming with a complete random situation and it feels like a deja vu but it can't be and you wake up and then months pass by and the situation that felt like a deja vu that you remember dreaming happens irl? Because that has happened to me in several occasions 😅

[@hippychick420]

You're not the only one who thinks trash cans should be everywhere. There's more garbage in places that don't have them!

[@Control-Alt-Delete619]

I sometimes think about it as well. In downtown San Diego there are trash bins everywhere, but too many choose not to use them out of laziness, anger, and many other issues. How often do you think about trash cans? 🗑️

[@Daffolyn]

except Japan, apparently. They don't have them and it is cleaner than where I live where we have them everywhere!

[@Control-Alt-Delete619]

@@Daffolyn in Japan they'll make sushi out of your fingers if you're caught littering. 🍣

[@Catlily5]

In my state they don't have a lot of trash cans.

[@hedgehogshill3522]

I life in germany and almost everywhere I go there are trashcans :)

[@kakathi4776]

Am I the only one who cries at goodbyes because I already miss spending time with these people?😢❤

[@brightshadowdnb3301]

No. I have this all the time, mainly with my dad. (I'm 31 btw)

[@Lefeli37722]

Same here

[@tavarshia3122]

I do that too!

[@firenzetanke2272]

OMG I THOUGHT IT WAS JUST ME

[@myhopeee286]

Same here

[@keith2o9]

Am I the only one who has trouble letting go of old friends when they already have moved on with their lives.

[@mxbadboy263]

No, your not. I wonder if they ever think of me even though I think of them often.

[@sunnym9796]

Same

[@Gio-sw9md]

I feel soo much the guy struggling with jealousy! It's so taboo and so drastically condemned by society that it's really difficult to process these feelings and not to just suffocate them or avoid them. Jealousy is linked to personal insecurities and suppressing it feeds loads of other insecurities as well, creating a scaring vicious cycle 😪

[@pocasanchez]

Have you ever found anything to help ease jealousy? Do you have any idea where it started for you? I'm so curious bc its not something I think I've ever experienced. My childhood was garbage and I'm surprised that didn't ignite some jealousy in me but it didn't. The closest thing I've ever felt is frustration when trying to do something that's easy for everyone else. I totally get down on myself and wish I was "better" but it's never in relation to someone else. I'm just eternally losing a constant competition w myself over here lol

[@Gio-sw9md]

@@pocasanchez hi! What helps me is trying to rationalise it. I analyse what is making me uncomfortable to see if it is something stupid or that I have no control over it. (By stupid I mean some online dynamics that allow you to be in somebody else's life when you really aren't). I try to tell myself that what matters is the time I physically spend with others and that nobody is criticising me when I'm not there: I'm simply not there so nobody will think about me! They're going to have fun with what they have exactly as we do when I'm with them ("them" could be friends,family or significant others): focusing on the present and on the people we have around!

[@Gio-sw9md]

This is linked to the fact that for me jealousy is especially the "frustration of not being there", like a fear of missing out! I think is linked to the fear of people forgetting about me and, at the same time, to the fear of people judging me. I spent a lot of time in my childhood playing a sport: all my coaches were always stressing the importance of showing up to every event they organised even if you didn't have a competition in that event. With these events they were trying to gain new athletes and earn some more money, things that absolutely wouldn't have had any type of return/reward for me. My parents didn't want me to help them and so I got judged and sort of excluded by my coaches and teammates during trainings and competitions, in a subtle and consuming way. I now think that my parents were right but at the time my coach's and teammates' voices were stronger and this led to that sense of guilty and exclusion that I still feel today!

[@Gio-sw9md]

It's clearly not all of the story but it's everything I processed and accepted so far. Thank you for letting me have a mental sum up on my ideas about jealousy. Let me know if you understand everything (Italy) and what are your thoughts on the subject!

[@pocasanchez]

@Gio-sw9md @Gio-sw9md welcome, glad to be of service! Lol thanks for the insight! IMO though, I think you may be misunderstanding jealousy a bit. It sounds like you're dealing w things like maybe FOMO, social anxiety, people pleasing, being overly self-critical etc. To me, jealousy is very close to envy. It's wanting something that someone else has and may stem from something like your sister being prettier than you, or your friend getting that promotion that you really wanted, or someone dating your crush who rejected you, or seeing other peoples vacation pics and wishing that was you, ya know? Idk, maybe I'm misunderstanding you but you really don't sound like a jealous person IMO!

[@amaialezaeta1910]

I love how most things are a universal experience or at least, very common. It just shows that we are more similar than we think

[@Cloud-lx1ou]

I was thinking about the exact same thing..

[@Francesc1983]

Am I the only one who imagines themselves living a different, fantasy life, meeting imaginary people, and enacting full-fledged conversations in their heads while lying awake before sleep takes them? Like, almost mentally playing a role in a script written by yourself before falling asleep?

[@matth_ijs]

Am I the only one who actually enjoys the rain. Likeee nature is beautiful when its raining and it’s a vibeeeee~🌧️

[@rainghostly]

As soon as it rains my mood improves. I also love being outside when it rains and don't mind getting wet.

[@Groundedsquirrel]

You are not the only one, it’s amazing!

[@videe8883]

Am I the only one who feels nostalgic with gratitude when I remember those strangers I have met in my childhood? knowing that I won't ever get to meet these people again and that they exist somewhere at the same time I do.

[@shonb989]

OMG!! No you're not!! I still think about the older gentleman when I was 15 yrs old. Traveling on the Greyhound back home..I had no money and he gave me $5 . Back then I was able to get a whole value meal at McDonald's when the bus stopped. I always wonder if he is ok!

[@smish2931]

No, I'm here😊

[@nancymosby7369]

Goodness yesss 💕

[@_smsma_]

Yup! All the time..

[@Simran-ff1kd]

Absolutely. I feel most sad thinking about the fact that I won't be able to know about them or meet them again ever.

[@es.cervantes]

To you, who google big words just to make sure you are using it right... You are not alone ❤

[@Agent.K.]

Am I the only one who feels like I'm the perfect everyone to myself? Sometimes feel like I'm my own best friend, brother, mate, fan, father, and son. It's like I become 2 people and talk to myself. For example some days I would give myself advice like a dad teaching his son, or tell myself not to worry because I'll be my best friend help during a difficult time. Its like I become how I think a friend should be.

[@Twist3dAng3l]

You're definitely not alone in this. No one knows us better than we know ourselves. In this situation, though, I wonder if this is only true for people who have done a lot of self work/growth to get to know themselves on a deeper level... Therefore, knowing exactly how to comfort themselves from within, whereas most people seek comfort outwardly. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@ZenLifeLivin]

The Kingdom of God Is Within You. Congratulations, you are awake!

[@chickadeeacres3864]

There are teo of you. The soul which is the real you and the ego/mind that believe’s the life story is you.

[@Marpete721]

That woman talking about marriage.. I completely agree. I’m married with three kids. I’m ok with my marriage but recently I’ve had some revelations and feel the exact same way as her. I’ll never again bug someone about getting married. Soft White Underbelly had a great interview with a divorce lawyer regarding this!

[@patriciaangelone2320]

Oh great great video recommendation! I just watched it a week ago and sent it to my partner, whose brother is currently divorcing and we talked so much about if we should even get married and why and for whom even? Wish you the best!

[@derekg5563]

@mommydearest8721: It's just important to recognize what's important. Is having the butterflies your whole life an important goal? Marriage might not achieve that, but may achieve other important things that a human needs in life.

[@derekg5563]

@mommydearest8721: I think, ideally, we would be sceptical about any mindset whether we have it or don't. Being sceptical about marriage and about being with someone forever is fine and good. However, the things that make one have doubts about that kind of thing are in themselves mindsets according to certain assumptions. My example was, roughly, assuming that having butterflies your whole life is a satisfying, realistic, important goal. We can always try to chase something that we think would be amazing, but that's not necessarily going to make us happy because of the possibility of failing to get it, or, that even when we get what we thought we wanted, eventually we don't want that anymore and start to get regrets. It's worth at least considering those considerations. It need not be that way, but the way to avoid this problem is to be aware of the assumptions you're making about a good life, whether they are traditional assumptions or the total opposite or somewhere in between. We make assumptions and we don't want to get trapped in them. "The unexamined life is not worth living," regardless of whether your life fits a tradition or not. Don't let tradition or anything else cloud or deter your introspection. Perhaps you could communicate to your spouse about your situation, and maybe you two would agree about how it's going, and perhaps that mutual understanding in itself could be a connection that you share, in that you both understand the challenges that the other is going through, and just knowing that someone gets that makes it easier, even if on the individual level, it's not easy for either of you.

[@carolyndamico2924]

I watched that video, with the divorce lawyer. That was beyond so real , and what a great speaker. He was so right on. Folks are thinking about marriage. Should watch it. Myself am married, but could be happy being single.

[@joshuadurham9699]

I think from a young age we are taught that marriage is a must do and we can’t be happy and without it we can be happy. Happiness is an individual experience some can be happy married and others love the freedom of being single. Finding what works for your heart is what’s important not what others think you should do

[@ichiakane924]

Am I the only one that still today (18 years old) acts like a child. Because if I love something, a book or series, I wanna love it fully. No matter where I am, when I'm talking about something that I like, you're gonna see me jumping around and being very passionate about it

[@hippychick420]

Never stop being a child. Just know when it's appropriate. ❤

[@damagedcalm420]

No, you are definitely not ( im 49) i still have thingss from my childhood that bring me joy just knowing they are there. i have my so lots of my toys, comics, books and games from when i was a kid all they way tilll now. HOLD on to that passion tight...the world will try and a kill it.

[@cakimiric5034]

I am 38 and I still do it... keep doing it yourself and never let go of it! The world will do its damn best to make you grow up... and no matter if others say that you MUST and HAVE to, no you dont, you should be responsible that s a different thing, but you dont have to "grow up"

[@ananimity7332]

We only get old when we no longer let our inner child play and be free

[@iluvsomebananamilks3367]

that's living my friend. with the pandemic I feel generation z/alpha specifically missed some sort of learning stage. Now that is doing a wrap around and people don't know why they feel this way but that is exactly why.

[@potyi1823]

Am i the only one who pretends to talk to their friends or someone while they're alone and explain everything they do or feel

[@Adaobi874]

No, you're not

[@scorpioslover9729]

The way i do this all the time 😭

[@youdonotknowwhoiamlol]

OMG I ALWAYS DO THAT THANK YOU!

[@carolwarn7497]

That's my morning to a tee

[@MercyOginga]

I also do this. Thanks

[@judys_comment]

am I the only one who‘s asking themselves all the time if that’s all what happiness is?

[@Nikhil52018]

No it's not just you, I am young but i don't remember the last time i was really happy. good things still happen but i don't really think i feel anything anymore

[@fantacyencephalon_jess]

I question myself daily, will I find happiness, what is happiness

[@tavarshia3122]

My happiness is mundane. No social life because I like being alone. If I have friends, it will take years before they are invited to my home. My happiness is working with my hands to craft almost everything in my house, I would make Victorian style furniture and aesthetics. I'm very much a creature of comfort ^_^

[@ViniDSQC]

i believe we must seek JOY not hapiness... as sadness it's just a state...

[@Drewbob1988]

​@@Nikhil52018I'm with you. I can't remember the last time I felt happy, if ever. I feel like I'm just existing most of the time.

[@snejanaceneva3455]

i honestly... don't think i'm the only one who does anything. there's always somebody who will understand and/or relate to what you are going through, what you're feeling, seeing, thinking and so on. that's one of my favorite things about being human. we are not alone! i promise.

[@ny2phillyholloway592]

Am I the only one who finds comfort in the words of a book rather than deal with the realities of life?📚💖

[@_smsma_]

Samee then I will imagine my life if I was a character in that book and just forget about reality 💛

[@Catlily5]

Sure! That's why I have read over a thousand books!

[@laurapereza.7576]

Same here! It's so accurate, actually today, with my twin sister we were talking about finding comfort in books 😅

[@13letras]

If I hadn't lived my ENTIRE childhood and adolescence in books, I wouldn't have reached adulthood.

[@lightwithin5581]

I've been having a rough year with my health. No doctors know what's wrong with me. It's hard to even remember basic things these days, and I have no energy. Thanks for sharing such uplifting content, it always makes me happy to watch your videos.

[@rbwkn]

I'm sorry to hear that. You might be going through a spiritual awakening. It causes a of symptoms. May help to look that up ❤

[@seanseangreen23]

Jesus loves you and I’ll be praying for you.

[@cinderellie9583]

Those are ms symptoms and its incredibly hard to diagnose. Im NOT a doctor and im wrong all the time but thats what comes to mind

[@MrSir-yo8cm]

Sleep apnea ?

[@staycool163]

That could be a number of things. Try not to give up looking for a doctor that WILL find the cause of what is going on with you. I say that because for many years I had some health issues and no doctor could ever figure it out, they would just guess. Now, over 20 years later I know what's wrong and dealing with it daily. Some days are harder than others, but I just try to focus on the good of everything.

[@erlynfancyoilannie0920]

Am i the only one who thinks that, sometimes being strong is very tiringgg,but you got no choice other than being stronggg and keep going. Day by day, step by step.. and to make yourself feel good, im always said to myself.. "one step at a time and smiles" 🦋

[@libratude9595]

Everyone feels that. That's called life and living.

[@damagedcalm420]

no you are not, But is also OK to fall apart sometimes.

[@WhoSays8]

​@@libratude9595 that's not living... That's called "survival mode" & u have to choose if u will stay in that mode, or get yourself to a place where u no longer have to.... Choose the right pill!! 💊

[@es.cervantes]

It is safe to feel and relax, Erlyn. Give yourself permission to breathe deeply and feel, then you can keep going. I know, it is better said than done, it took me time and practice. All the best ❤

[@nancymosby7369]

Agreed!

[@handsoapsoup5907]

Am I the only one who LOVES this channel and thinks you are an AMAZING content creator. People like you deserve to be influencers and make loads of money, not people doing dances or pranks.

[@angierox6964]

The dancers and pranksters can earn a lot of money, too… But she is absolutely amazing!

[@josephdylan2424]

❤️❤️

[@tickleman127]

What's wrong with dances and pranks

[@VeganSemihCyprus33]

Dominion (2018)

[@analogmatrix1442]

Thoraya influences me and many others to be more empathetic. I would say she is one of the best real influencers. Also maybe Thoraya does not need loads of money and values these interactions more than fame or wealth?

[@DanielaBodoh]

The third one IS SO RELATABLE. I always think that people secretly hate me or think I'm annoying and they're just being nice to me. I think it stems from the fact that I once had terrible roommates who were not very nice people and clearly hated me, though never said it to my face.

[@marie-clemencebouvier7218]

Me too, all the time

[@Catlily5]

I think that I am annoying people because I have annoyed a lot of people in the past. My nickname in middle school was UrkeI.

[@brianas444]

I feel like deja vu is the only universal experience that slightly feels like time travel.

[@empath3133]

Am I the only one who is constantly hopeful about society even though I keep getting let down? 😂

[@D_Dizzy_]

Am I the only one who feels inconvenienced by having to sleep? I hate thinking of needing to sleep when I could be doing something so much better!

[@folakemiememakpan469]

OMG. Same here. Just this morning, I was telling my daughter I wish we had 48 hours in a day and didn't need sleep. We'd get so much done that way. Lols

[@youdonotknowwhoiamlol]

No, definitely not!

[@will4127]

I understand this feeling completely! Why is it that nature has made it so that we have to spend an entire third of our lives just lying down and doing nothing? It's so annoying!

[@Rouven22]

Am I the only one who finds comfort in melancholy?! Thoraya is such a magnificent videographer, everyone in your videos looks so real and beautiful in their own natural way! love ya! best channel on this platform. enjoy the daily melancholy

[@viiiRA_]

Am I the only one that still believes in (real, healthy) love. It seems like people care more about what they can "gain" or playing victim or persecutor, or afraid of getting hurt deciding to "go their own way". Am I the only one who loves fully and bravely.

[@DomWasHere]

You’re not, but I hope to one day gain the confidence to love this same way. It’s exhausting and painful living and loving from a place of fear and insecurity and struggling to combat it. I admire you.

[@Catlily5]

No. Other people like that are out there!

[@will4127]

I'm sure you're not. I'm something of a coward when it comes to social interactions, so I don't "love fully and bravely", but I want to.

[@dashagazo8508]

Am i the only one who feels like my existence, and connection to reality is a profoundly beautiful mystery?

[@will4127]

Same. I've had these weird moments every once in while where I can't help but find my existence, my awareness of it and just the existence of everyone and everything else in general to be incomprehensibly miraculous. It's really surreal when it happens.

[@dashagazo8508]

💚

[@yoursoulempower]

damn if we expressed this as humans on a daily, we would be so connected, inspired, innovative, and come up with solutions! I love this series so much. 🤟

[@adrianasolari492]

agreed!!! we're all human.

[@ironyrules5164]

Am i the only one that fears he will be alone if he really tells everyone what he thinks?

[@joannalatrak4138]

Hey just a lil advice that might help you because I can relate to your thoughts: “you can’t say something wrong to the right person”. Have a nice day

[@joannalatrak4138]

Hey just a lil advice that might help you because I can relate to your thoughts: “you can’t say something wrong to the right person”. Have a nice day

[@coritellastory]

The offering of struggling with jealousy hit hard. You are not alone and we can allow others and allow ourselves to be what we need

[@nerd26373]

These confessions are surely interesting. People come in and say things and we learn or take what we can in return. Overall, we always look forward to see more.

[@sokaroka1]

I really needed this tonight. I am struggling with changing a lot as a person and growing apart from my friend group. It is nice to feel connected to people through this video. Thanks

[@damagedcalm420]

You are not alone. ❤ Changing yourself for the better is damn hard, give yourself some slack to #uck up.

[@lollypoplani1]

For the deja vu thing, I once heard that it’s the version of you from a parallel universe that’s doing the exact same thing at the same time as you in this universe. So the lines kinda “cross” and that’s why you get that feeling. I LOVE that, and I’ve gone with that answer since lol

[@ijustneedmyself]

I read an article that said it's possible deja vu happens when the brain misinterprets the current moment as a memory hence the feeling that it has happened before.

[@Cheese_crackers]

Am I the only one who thought that little girl was gunna suprise us all by saying something so profound but ends up just saying "ducks" ... lol... my mind went to "I like turtles" immediately lol

[@RachelKay528]

We definitely need more trash cans! I understand logistically it would require more workers to empty them, but it's so needed! Not just in big cities either. If we give people more places to throw things out, maybe they wouldn't litter as much.

[@OhtheSuffering]

Am I the only one still waiting for that day in my life when things finally change for the better?

[@Catlily5]

Yes, but I am 48. I realize I have to work to change my life for the better. I have worked on myself but things change little by little for the better. Not in one day.

[@LissGautier]

the first guy literally described exactly how I've been feeling the last couple of years 😢

[@andrijanastojkovic6838]

Same, I hate it when I can't snap out of it

[@thenazly.]

I immediately cried when I heard him saying that and I don’t cry easily. I really thought I was alone feeling like this. My friend calling my name, talking about things to me and I know they’re talking but I can’t hear them it’s all blurry. Everthing is blurry. I’m so relieved I’m not alone but also I’m sorry somebody going tru this

[@HelpfulLie]

0:59 you're not alone brother I feel the same way.

[@DrProgNerd]

When I was a kid - raised by a single-working-mom - I spent summers with my grandparents (mom had to work during my summer break). Consequently, I was around my grandparents' friends. Seeing what marriage turns into after 30-40 years shaped how I saw 'til death do us part'. These were not happy people. They were generally annoyed with - and resentful of - each other. The Oscar Levant quote "Marriage is a triumph of habit over hate" - while seemingly pessimistic - has a lot of truth to it. Some marriages are great....but a lot more are soul-suckers. I relate to the lady at 7:10.

[@Hockey-jk9kc]

To the person @7:13 - My wife and I have very different vows from anyone else I know. They say we will stay together "[...]as long as we compliment each other's happiness and are healthy for one another." We also based our vows off of a quote from Lord Elrond of Rivendell in Lord of the Rings which says “No oath or bond is laid on you to go further than you will. For you do not yet know the strength of your hearts, and you cannot foresee what each may meet upon the road.” By this, we are not married and promised to each other "til death do us part," but instead we are married for as long as we want. Yes, people can and do change. We accept this, and if we do part ways, its ok. It is part of life. Divorce/ parting ways is not a bad thing. Divorce/ parting ways is better than staying in an unhealthy marriage. Now this doesn't mean we just give up at the first hardship. We have gone through several hardships since getting married 2 years ago. And yes, I would be very sad if we parted ways, but we acknowledge that people change, and that is ok. We have the ability to parts ways and go upon our own chosen path. Also want to note we are both atheists so we are truly not bound by any promise to any god to stay together longer than we want. Write your own vows. Make life what you want it to be. You do not have to do what everyone else says you should do. We certainly didn't. I love our vows, and I think it is a beautiful thing 💚

[@whattheBEE93]

I love this

[@pegtheshrek9512]

That sounds so amazingly healthy, good on you both for having the consciousness to be yourselves and go your own ways! I appreciate you sharing this and setting a great example of how easy it can be to live outside the box. May you both grow in the same direction in similiar speed and be happy together as long as it will last! 💚💚💚

[@ErManu10]

Am I the only one who likes to imagine how my life would have been if I had been born in the country I am traveling to?

[@cynthiabustamante2884]

Am I the only one who gets excited just thinking about all the books I want to read. I'm truly happy when I have so many words to read,feel.

[@tamago2474]

Really liking the prompts in these recent videos, thanks Thoraya!

[@hereforit2347]

I so agree with the last lady @07:10. I am a hopeless romantic but have always questioned the institute of marriage. I feel like it’s a trap. Who wants to stay with someone for the rest of their lives out of obligation or duty? Is that what love is? We can commit without promising to be with someone forever. People fall out of love, become disenchanted, fall for other people, or change their minds. We should allow ourselves that and allow others the same. There’s nothing like being with someone simply because you *want* to be. Like she said, some relationships do last a lifetime, some don’t. The notion of “living in sin” is antiquated and silly. I don’t believe relationships are sanctified by marriage. Was marriage instituted by man or by GOD? I honor and respect marriage, marriages, married people, and their vows. I think it’s wrong to mess around with someone’s husband or wife or for married people to cheat unless their spouse is aware and okay with it. 👰🏾🤵🏾 💍

[@DARF1000]

Your videos calm my heart and soul.

[@erlynfancyoilannie0920]

Same goes to me 🦋✨

[@motiveperson143]

Same here ❤️

[@popharbor3604]

Wow, this was such a good one! A seemingly simple prompt but you really learn a lot about each person by what they chose to share.

[@Its_sissy77]

Am I the only one who’s guilty pleasure is when I’m talking to my friend and they are having a hard time explaining something. And i try and help them explain and they say, “YES that is exactly what I was trying to say!” It makes me feel so happy to help someone even in the littlest way possible.

[@fitwesdaily]

Am I the only one who has understood and dreaded the concept of my own death since I was a toddler? I actually cried about it as a toddler and then lied about why I was crying because I thought my mom and sister would get upset.

[@13letras]

I understand what death is since I was 5 years old but I'm not afraid. In my case, it will be a relief. It would be better if I had never existed (and my wish is to disappear without leaving a trace since I never wanted to be here) My only fear is the PROCESS of dying: I can't stand any kind of PHYSICAL pain. Mental suffering is bad enough

[@fitwesdaily]

@@13letras Even though I'm against death, I also wish I hadn't existed and that I didn't have to experience mental or physical suffering. I fluctuate between being suicidal for reasons most people would consider nonsense and being ok with things even though logically it doesn't make sense. I only feel true comfort when I believe that I will one day, somehow, make death a choice.

[@13letras]

@@fitwesdaily I have a very clear reason why suicide is the only possible way out of a no-win situation. The problem is that I'm a coward because: a) I'm afraid of pain; b) I'm afraid of surviving with sequelae (my biggest fear) I don't think I will ever have the courage to make death a choice. But I'm genuinely envious of those who have it. Unfortunately, my physical health has always been excellent, so it is likely that I will die at a very old age.

[@Winsky82]

6:38 imagine getting a deja vu at this moment

[@wander570]

I’m really liking these new questions Thoraya. Please keep doing what you do!

[@stellaalemanno1932]

Am I the only one who loves people? I don't know, it feels like it's cool to say stuff like "humans are the worst" or "I hate people" every time something remotely annoying happens, like it's lame to admit that we have so much beauty in our kind. I get it, of course. It's hard to look at the bright side when the bad is so overwhelming, but then I look at videos like this and I feel so much love for people I've never met. I think they're beautiful, I think they're unique, I think they're kind, and I love how different they are from eachother, cause that's what's so great about humans. When I watch videos like this I just feel at peace.

[@aparecraft]

Same!

[@will4127]

Only when I'm drunk :D

[@melaniewanner7728]

Individually, humans are beautiful and to me they feel like an endless sea of mysteries that one can discover. I really believe that most people are good, but unfortunately, as a group, we are easy manipulated by those who have no problem using other people for their own gains.

[@munchinwithmel]

Completely agree. I love people and I love humanity

[@WhoSays8]

The women talking about marriges... im feeling that whole thing 👌👌😌

[@losgaba]

I know I'm not the only one who sees the world as it is, and it is very, very bad, but always ends the day asking myself, "Am I the only one who feels this way?"

[@kinsley7777]

Thoraya, I think you’re the only one who can get people to open up like they do for you … always such interesting comments {& dances !}

[@ananimity7332]

Thoraya I love questions that make people think so I really love these videos! You put out such beautiful, thought provoking videos. Thank you

[@antje8303]

Am I the only one who sometimes wonders if life is actually an escape game and those who choose to leave it early are the ones who have actually figured it all out?

[@femmesaufront9005]

Life is not an escape game, it's a mission. Choosing to leave early is believing the lies that make you disqualify yourself. Be courageous. May the Truth be revealed to you. :)

[@pikmin7658]

100% relate to that !

[@motiveperson143]

I love you thoraya ❤. You inspire me the most

[@wordsbykatarina]

Am I the only one who, even though I’m grateful for life, have always wished an apocalypse would happen and wash most everything and everyone away? 😢 So I may be mostly alone, not feel overwhelmed by life, people, the system and can just .. be

[@notwilla]

NO. And the weirdest thing is I love all these things in my life so much, but every now and then I wish I could be completely alone just for a second

[@ibrahimsyrgamer2606]

I loved this. Pls do more of this

[@rml9629]

Am i the only one who has to keep such a huge painful secret? It hurts so much and it weighs heavy on me every day.

[@smish2931]

Let it out in the comment section of some video. You'll feel much better😊

[@Catlily5]

No, many people have a very heavy secret. I hope you find a safe place to share it.

[@Beansthatwerespilt]

Safe space here👋

[@selfmadelen]

i love these videos. Proves how much we're all so connected, different but the same too.

[@meifennellysieu7510]

1:45 I got really excited with the lady who practices writing with her non-dominant hand. I've made several attempts to do that since I was a kid, and now I can do a lot of things left-handed as well as right-handed: write, use a knife, throw a football. It feels really fulfilling when you get to a point that you can just do BOTH.

[@tarararararaa]

I love these kind of videos because they remind me that we are all just humans. We are all learning and experiencing things our own way and we are walking our own path. I love being a human and i love seeing people live and experience stuff!!! Even though we are so different we all sometimes think about these silly little human things 🌸

[@mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat]

Good morning Thoraya! Its always a pleasure to watch your videos with such personal experiences! I'm excited to watch! ❤

[@Lefeli37722]

Am I the only one who is struggling with living ? With love ? Am I the only one who can’t believe that people really love me ?

[@nypokpupok]

i think that deja vus tell you that you're on the right path, like you doing things right and just hit a checkpoint, and the deja vu reminds you of that. It's the path that was choosen for you and you didn't get of track yet..

[@fitwesdaily]

I think in similar ways

[@nypokpupok]

im not alone 💕🙌@@fitwesdaily

[@FlowerlyF.]

Oh gosh this puts a smile on my face! I love the honesty.. weirdly enough once the „awkward“ thing is said it looses its heaviness and I can relate to so many things😊 thank you for your videos ❤

[@emiliariecker6828]

I love those videos. I can relate to many awnsers

[@paulasalvo]

the last girl was SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO REAL for everything she said, i love her already and i agree with everything she said!!! I hope she never changes

[@bessymathers7473]

please make this a series Thoraya!

[@Hugo_o96]

5:27 that was like the cutest thing she could have said 😭

[@slavisa46]

I just want to say to the 3. guys who are afraid that they won't have real friends. I mean, if you've been friends for a long time, and it's true that you annoy your friends, I think it's like having a family - sometimes some of them annoy you from time to time, but in a lovely way they seem to accept you, no matter what you are doing or have something that annoys them. It's love! And I have some friends who upset me for so, so many times, but I still love them and accept them and spend time with them. Some of them I don't see sometimes for a long time, but they are still my friends. And it took me a long time to realize that you can be imperfect and still deserve love! ❤

[@WishAtElevenEleven]

If the last girl who is cynical about marriage can release herself from the societal pressure to find a husband, I think she could be quite happy having a string of shorter term relationships that set her sole on fire, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Not everyone has to subscribe to the same relationship model.

[@groovies9]

Except at 40 50 60 70 80 and if you are lucky 90.....there is no family community .Love and connection is not meant to be a soul fire passionate thing. It is a stage in nature. Look at how you feel about your best friends for guidance .

[@whattheBEE93]

I don’t feel pressured in my mind, I promise you! I just see a lot of emphasis on it from society. Also, some women like women 😉

[@whattheBEE93]

Or rather the short term ones

[@Catlily5]

My boyfriend says marriage is for the children to have stability. We never had children so we never married. But we have been together for 12 years by choice

[@elexis4856]

Your content is a Breathe of fresh air thank you !

[@emme_elli1454]

A classmate of mine had broken his arm when we were in 3rd or 4th grade and since then I've practiced writing with my non-dominant hand. That's been about 3 decades now. Love this video! It shows how we're not the only ones. I too disassociate at social events, especially if the conversation is not my cup of tea.

[@margohall-snyder972]

Even if you are truly in love in the beginning doesn’t mean it won’t change. 27 years later their feelings can change and it’s only a piece of paper ❤

[@356diane]

work in healthcare. Several patients have reported they have done the blurry vision glasses off thing all their lives when they want a barrier between themselves and everything else to feel calmer more focused. incidentally they were also cool people you would want in your life.

[@katefranzen3727]

this was such a good video idea and i hope you do more with this exact prompt. it helps people feel less alone with their thoughts and how their life is. i noticed how a lot of my feelings are shared with others but we just never talk about them so how would i know that? that’s why so many people feel alone.

[@MimiMaskerade]

The brain from the last girl is so stunning. She in general is stunning, inside and out. Such a beautiful soul.

[@zoelkastelic2696]

The one who practices writting with the opposite hand is not the only one ...🖐

[@EricaGamet]

I practiced eating with my left hand in case I ever broke my right... didn't want to starve. Also writing. I now eat as much with my left as my right... and can still write with my left hand. I'm in my 50s, so I've had a lot of practice!

[@motiveperson143]

Am i the only person who is scared sometimes to go blind or deaf? Also, am I the only one who gets small painful pimples, one on my lower lip and one upper lip? 😄

[@sadaf8787]

No😂

[@damagedcalm420]

no you are not, but i also think how wonderful it would be sometimes (Not to lessen anyones struggle)

[@erlynfancyoilannie0920]

Nope, u're not alone 🙈

[@Catlily5]

Yes, I have pretty bad eyesight and when I was younger I worried that I would go completely blind.

[@sivanisudhakaran3067]

Oh thorayaaaa❤❤. I love this idea because I always think about a lot stuff and if other people are thinking about it too

[@xandyr427]

I love this one!

[@annika2566]

Am I the only one who romanticizes her life like it is a movie in every little situation haha?

[@loomonda18]

3:40- I do the texting thing all the time too! Maybe it's a lack of confidence thing lol I catch myself doing it a lot

[@ilma_mirtu4326]

I love how you make me believe there are truly genuine and honest people in the world

[@rodney5497]

I definitely understand the guy who talked about jealousy of others. There were times recently when I struggled endlessly with hardships bringing me down and then I’d see others who seemed so happy on social media. All I could think in those moments is what I would give to be as happy with my life as they are. It’s especially easy to make those comparisons when you’re going through tough times.

[@QUEEN-df1mc]

7:14 No! You're not the only one, I'm 27 and I'm still not sure about marriage, I'm not fascinated by marriage, and I always keep avoiding relationships.

[@zozodabozo]

8:00 I agree she said that so well💗

[@sabriB189]

Beautiful video Thoraya 🥰

[@lorettahiggins3717]

I love this question! It helps people to realize that we all have insecurities and we're not the only one.

[@littlepatata1187]

Am i the only one who can't afford to purchase love because I fear that it will cost my liberty? I love my freedom too well ו×

[@Catlily5]

What do you mean by purchase love? Can you really purchase it?