An honest chat about femininity and I | FTM

[@Kovukingsrod]

Hia! By uploading this video I realised that something is wrong with the program I use to edit and it is that which makes the quality so bad (and the reason why my last video was only available in 360p as well). I’ll fix that till next time! Sorry guys :( Hopefully the content is alright nevertheless 😅

[@only_selfhatred7211]

Kovu is a unicorn ❤️

[@bluevalu]

Kovu is a unicorn hisss

[@ItsASekret]

Kovu is a unicorn MY EYES AAAAAA

[@MaxMax-dz9cg]

Kovu is a unicorn love you so much

[@abiwhittick7430]

Kovu is a unicorn 👋👋👋👋

[@jillstephenson]

*_THE MAN JUICES ARE WORKING SO QUICK_* *_SPEEEEEEEEED_*

[@blanka1297]

Nyooom

[@ahhh4117]

Are you my soulmate?

[@imapotatoboy6034]

Man juices wow..... XD

[@genesisgrace6751]

man juices

[@jillstephenson]

You can be a feminine guy. It doesn't make you any less of a boy than if you were really masculine. Be yourself, because that's perfect. You are who you are, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise ❤

[@valentina-ll5uf]

WHAT A HANDSOME BOYYYYY

[@Icarus_Odd]

valentina sky definitely.

[@isaac.swanser]

valentina sky me

[@aemo1677]

valentina sky yup

[@doseofscience8990]

Ikr

[@trondchristianhaug1429]

I KNOW! I am in love xD

[@paperghosttt]

"transition should not be about being super trans, it should be about being super you, and whatever you want to do, you should do it! As long as you are happy that is what matters." Very beautiful and encouraging words, thank you so much. This whole video is so nice and real and I feel like I relate a lot to many of the things you say. It is true that you seem confident on camera, but even if you are not in real life, one day, you will be and we all support and believe in you!

[@blockkids]

As a trans guy as well, I’ve come to realize my femininity also. Before starting hormones, I steered away from anything feminine. When I was viewed as a girl, people saw me as masculine, but the reality is that I am more of a feminine guy. It’s an interesting situation to be in, I’m glad you can be open about it!

[@MaxMax-dz9cg]

blockkids same ❤

[@trinitylivingston1286]

Hope you are doing well!😗💕

[@graveyardpansy]

I love this video so so much!!! Also on the topic of “transtrenders” it’s just so often used to invalidate people. I got called a transtrender a LOT before my voice dropped. Now it still happens. I don’t call myself FTM because I don’t consider myself completely binary and didnt ever feel “female,” but I got a comment the other day that literally said “well if you aren’t ftm then you’re a transtrender.” what the frick man

[@Kovukingsrod]

Ashton Daniel what the??? “If you don’t even identify as binary trans then you’re a transtrender” ok nice. Also, I’m happy to hear you liked it! :D

[@trinitylivingston1286]

What's FTM though? That's terrible, remember when I was in middle school I was a huge tomboy and I'd have certain people (like my mom) ask me if I was transgender and I wasn't. I hated it, but I didn't want to change what I wore and did. I still dress tomboyish, but now that I'm older I actually know how to put my hair up and have a sense of style and I still have a weird sense of humor, but lots of guys have that too.

[@greyelliot6350]

@Trinity... FTM means female to male (transgender)

[@forgetmenot277]

Your eyebrows look so good! Also being more feminine doesn't make you less of a boy you do you

[@impact122x]

Kovu, I stopped watching your videos for a while because I was taking a break from KZbin, and I just came back and.... JESUS CRIST YOUR VOICE IT SOUNDS GREAT

[@dunwithyu8301]

and wow your voice is deep

[@QQ-gy2uo]

I am androgynous, proud for saying that myself, and proud of you Kovu, for 'can being yourself'

[@sensitiveasparagus7481]

KOVU YOUR VOICE IS SOO DEEP IM SOO PROUD I LOVE YOU YOU ARE THE MANLYEST MAN

[@yapeney650]

WTF

[@suckduck4469]

OMG IKR IM SO SHOCKED

[@spookisghostly4619]

Great video Kovu I'm a bisexual guy living in a very unforgiving house where I can't express my feminine side as much as I want but this video has helped me to feel better about being feminine. much love.

[@lolgirl9061]

I came out to my mom today and i think she hates me now...

[@alexandras484]

Verfaelschte I'm so sorry for you, I hope you can get through this. But I don't think that she hates you, she probably needs some time to process it. I hope it will get better with time

[@marleenvalster5930]

Verfaelschte we dont hate you crew your mom whoooooo 😁❤️(sorry if that came out weerd)

[@Jimmy-zp8en]

Verfaelschte stay strong, if she don't accept you, is not a real mother, she has to ignore prejudices and hate to learn to love.

[@only_selfhatred7211]

Oh no! I’m sure she doesn’t hate you

[@jeeprso2030]

Im so sorry to hear that, if you ever need to talk about it, im here! I can give you my social media so we can chat...

[@jillstephenson]

KOVU! YOUR VOICE. IS. AMAZING. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@jharmonia7329]

Hey Kovu, it is 100% okay to be a feminine guy, and that does not invalidate you or make you "less trans" in any way whatsoever. You do you! Express yourself in any way that makes you happy! I support you, bro! :)

[@miloamsel2673]

Dude I fucking love fashion. I love making myself look good, put together nice clothes, wear heels, take care of my appearance such as my skin, keep my brows in shape my facial hair at bay and I really have fun with makeup and hairstyles. I only started actively trying to look good when I entered college, because I thought "people aren't going to make fun of me anymore, I'm going to look good and feel good and be confident and a model for everyone" and I managed to, but in some occasions my classmates were actually kinda gross with the compliments they would give me when they saw me as a girl. That frightened me from being feminine (I'm not saying that those words made me a transman, I just wanted to play the perfect girl in college) and as I started to transition I tried to keep from those things I loved, dresses and skirts and makeup, I thought people wouldn't take me seriously as a man if I did these things and much like you, a guy friend started to give me advice and he basically told me that I couldn't even accessorize as much anymore if I wanted to be a "real man". I was quite down at the idea of giving up fashion, nails and makeup to fit into a stereotype, until I found K-pop videos in which idols actually make use of these things and are still men no matter what anyone says. I'm still struggling to wear these things that I love again, and it would help a lot if my friends and family could still recognize me as a man and respect me even if I come to school wearing a dress or if my voice was deeper like yours, but to be honest, it's okay to express yourself however you like, the world just isn't ready for it!! That doesn't mean we won't do it still.

[@lauw428]

I'm so glad you're talking about this, bc I feel like this is a very important topic but a it's not talkee about a lot in the community especially with all the toxic masculinity and stuff! Also, doing your hair is something every dude does, especially the cis guys in my class touch their hair more than their phone like damn. and the whole outfit is really working for you dude, the eyebrows and the hair and shirt (it's super rad damn) and just generally your face is just muchos handsome.

[@LivingOver60]

Lauw! Very important topic? Especially when the Muslims get a hold of you.

[@lauw428]

JJ R what is that supposed to mean?

[@dunwithyu8301]

I relate to this so much already. I am trans and I've tried so hard to be girly and feminine. now I'm becoming myself and I feel slightly better every time. you are not alone! I also did the toddler thing where I still liked to be girly now and then. and I still do! it doesn't make you any less valid ❤

[@danielspaniel9121]

OKAY I’M TWO SECONDS INTO THE VIDEO AND YOUR VOICE DAMN DUDE

[@australianpolarbearda6271]

I get what you're saying about labels and all that. I live these kids talk videos. They make me feel better about myself and hearing you talk about things like this just helps me understand what I feel so much better.

[@ninashenk_]

You are the emo father. You need those black nails and the flippy hair 😂

[@romaneparis7628]

Yep. We're too young. And people want us to know what we'll do with our lives. (personal life, work etc.) But hey! It's not simple! But that's okay. I'm so proud of you little lion! Stay strong, stay you and don't hurt yourself.

[@Kovukingsrod]

Romane Paris thank you so much ❤️

[@chiarasmmk4518]

Omg you changed soooo much.I can't believe that it's you in the cam.I'm following you for actually so long and I'm so shook,but in a positive way,who you changed in the years!!!I'm so f*cking proud of you dude!!

[@chiarasmmk4518]

*how

[@louckahhthefish8651]

I totally get still liking femininity! At the moment it is almost 'unheard of' to have dysphoria but also like femininity. Your gender expression and your gender are completely different. Just know, how ever you present or identify, we will always be here for you xx

[@oliviam6874]

Kovu you’re a beautiful and amazing person. You are so brave and brilliant I love you so much. Your videos are very helpful for younger viewers like myself, thank you

[@LivingOver60]

It’s Me Bitch what makes him “brave”?

[@that_cat21]

The other day at school we had to write down feelings and emotions that are familiar to us and those that are unfamiliar. One of my familiar ones was confused, because I often am - mostly about my sexuality because I truly do not know. I feel like if I do a little bit of experimentation, then I’ll find out but I’m not ready? to experiment. (I totally haven’t typed out this comment like 5 times and deleted it every single time)

[@Kovukingsrod]

That_cat21 yeah that’s what I do, I don’t know exactly how to label myself tbh but I’ll just go with it and see what happens :)

[@lauw428]

I also really relate to your ideas of gender shifting, like, I look at gender and gender a lot differently since I've figured out I'm a dude. I used to just repeat whatever I saw on tumblr because I had no clue, and now I've developed an actual opinion. Nb people are totally valid in my opinion, but I do seriously not think such a thing as like,, astrogender or chairgender exists, and I think they might be confusing gender identity with gender expression, or they are trying to figure out who they are.

[@ry4mu]

Oh my gosh, I love your voice!! It sounds so masculine and silky. (that’s a weird compliment Jesus)

[@bubsmybeloved]

this has nothing to do with the video but i was in school today waiting for my class by the window of another class and i look through the window and at the front of the class there was bunting that students hhad made. i got really happy when i saw multiple transgender,pansexual and asexual flags it just made me happy for some reason

[@000zempic2]

İ was looking out the window in class one day and across was another class and i watched a teacher climb out the windows, get a rock, and then go back in the window.. Sorry that was super unrelated but i felt the need to share it for some reason

[@greyelliot6350]

WHY DO I RELATE TO ALL OF THIS!!! THANK YOU KOVU!!!!

[@cameronmat]

Its very refreshing hearing someone with a very similar transition as mine. I was very feminine, I wore princess dresses as a child, always wnated to wear heels, and loved fashion. After transition I'm still trying grasp my own femininity, and I realize it will be an ongoing battle. Thank you for talking about this

[@marmarpederson1381]

This is a really nice video. As a FTM trans this really helps, thank you SO much!

[@katsudon2511]

Kovu i completely support you no matter what path you choose to take in life, please don't let all the hate get to you and stay your amazing usual self

[@jude8067]

I understand the fear of saying you're trans, because as soon as someone hears that online about me it goes from, "oh, you're such a cute guy." to, "you're so pretty, I want you to have my kids..." and it's uncomfortable and weird and I end up blocking them, it doesn't help that I'm 15 and my parents aren't supportive, I only barely got my hair cut (i've been trying since I was three) I know what you're saying about people seeing you as confident though you aren't. I used to bury my emotions and not let anyone in to the point my parents though I was lying when I said I wanted to go to therapy. I didn't want people to know what was happening because that would give them power over me, so I didn't for a long time. My parents were actually the ones who questioned my gender first, and having not done research I gave the wrong answer, so when I got the right answer (for me) they basically said 'no take backs'. It hurts the worse when I'm going through a wave of dysphoria induced depression and my mom will say something like 'I gave birth to a girl' where she picks fights about it with me. It makes me scared to answer my sisters honestly when they ask me, "do you want to be called pretty or handsome" of course I appreciate it but my parents are so overbearing when it comes to keeping me as 'their little girl' they don't understand it makes me despise them.

[@emperor_elkcip4260]

Ludwig Beilschmidt Antonio Carriedo Ivan Braginski you'll get through this. I've been there. 19 now and have an appointment with a gender therapist next week. My parents are like that too, but they're doing better. I know it seems like so far away, but when you turn 18 they can't control you anymore. My parents aren't supportive but they aren't kicking me out of the house. Especially since they questioned your gender first and they're so protective over you they will probably eventually accept you. It might just take time for them to realize you're serious.

[@cowboyfunkk]

I GASPED when I heard your voice! Haven’t been here for AGES! HOLY SHIT WOW

[@aamonblue7483]

This describes how I feel so, so perfectly. Low confidence, dislike of self, femininity, all of it. You explained it better than I ever could. Thank you so, so, much Kovu. Now I know how to explain this whole 'sudden transition' to my mom. Thank you!

[@instantgratification1937]

Wow Kovu this is EXACTLY the video I needed honestly! I'm so glad you talked about this (I'm the one asking about questioning yourself btw). It's a very important thing to talk about and I haven't really seen anyone do that before actually. I just love how you're so open about matters like these because it really does help people, even if it might be a little uncomfortable for you sometimes, especially online. So I guess, thank you for making videos, they're very inspiring man

[@ValentinaLichman]

Thank you thank you thank you for that video, it's so important for me right now. Also your voice is a song of angels honestly

[@fluoritine6316]

Kovu!!Thanks for being honest it really helps people who are dealing with the same thoughts/feelings

[@neocided2173]

I’m very grateful that you have the courage to be open about stuff like this. And honestly; totally feel you! I’m also in the process to transition and toxic masculinity has affected me a lot as well. Your personality is amazing and you’re allowed to be feminine. Always be yourself. You’re beautiful from the inside and outside

[@laurenreedy6522]

I’ve been following you from the beginning. I originally followed because I thought you were smart and creative. To see what you have blossomed into today makes me so beyond proud. I would have never guessed what a strong individual you would grow up to be. I have loved you even from the beginning. Your so smart and talented and I’m so proud of you for being able to talk about these hard topics. Keep being you because you so wonderful!

[@mycobacteriem2540]

ngl I hate the idea that in the ftm community feminine things are seen as awful and bad and we cant like anything feminine at all. I dont like to call myself trans, but thats the label society would give me, but i also like some feminine things. i like taking care of my appearance and with my nerd hobbies i enjoy a lot of things that are targeted to girls. you becoming more comfortable with liking feminine things is great, took me me a while myself to get used to the idea since i'm still in the process of getting on hormones. it hurt me even more trying to get into the community and seeing people basically making fun of feminine guys, and i still have fears even wanting to call myself trans instead of just introducing myself as a guy and people thinking im a feminine guy

[@ethanlivemere1162]

How is every video you make so good? Like, seriously. They're all so inspirational and relevant on so many levels. Keep being awesome!

[@ДінаАгафонова]

AAAAHHH I NEED MORE SUCH SUPER LONG TALKING VIDEOOOS

[@Kovukingsrod]

Dina Agafonova I’m so happy to hear you liked it! :D

[@feelicadiewald2458]

You seriously have one of the most beautiful personalities ever and I want you to know that I will always support you no matter what. And the fact that you know that you're too young to know who you are is definitely one of 1000000 reasons to look up to you and I literally love your point of view on so many things. I love you so much and I hope that you're doing well.

[@nia4509]

your deep voice and the rain together is making my ears very happy

[@NewView638]

I really appreciate your honest, transparent, courageous video. You do a great job of articulating the confusion of gender identity while honoring your internal truth as you understand yourself. Very insightful.

[@vandodbrandli9448]

A dress is just a piece of fabric, a freakin piece of fabric. Fabric is not feminine nor masculine. People tend to overthink things and not be willing to hear the facts. Also, I didn’t think any different of you after I watched that video. You are you and that’s literally the best thing you can be. I will always be here if anyone needs to talk or just want a really weird friend lol😂 And I am Norwegian lol. Ver deg selv, ikke la noen stoppe deg❤️ I have a crop top in my closet that I wanted to get rid of cuz of dysphoria, but then my mom convinced me to keep it and I’m so glad I did cuz then I can think about the day when I’m comfortable enough to wear it.

[@bluenovack3038]

Once and awhile I think about something really hard.. and then I find a video that explains it perfectly. Thank you so much Kovu! You have lovely timing.

[@leag6894]

Kovu that Video helped me so much. Thank you, thank you, thank you. You have no idea how much all of your honesty can help other people out there. You’re my hero honestly

[@laur9208]

hello! :) #notificationsquad we will always be here for you!

[@dannyonsaturn5458]

HOLY SHIT IVE NOT WATCHED IN A WHILE AND YOUR VOICE IS SO MUCH DEEPER NOW OMGGGGG AND YOU SEEM SO HAPPY TOO AAAAAA i’m SO GLADDDDDD I HOOE YOURE HAPPY OMG

[@P5238c]

Femininity is beautiful!!!

[@SP-qc7nr]

Omg you're adorable!! Loving the eyebrows

[@linuskerr]

You put the words on my feelings perfectly. Thank you for this video. I've seen some of your videos over the years, but today I've really seen your channel for the first time. I can very much relate to you in sooo many ways. We are the same age, I live in Sweden, I'm trans too(a girl but still) and I can really feel you. Thanks too for talking about detransistioning and taking it slowly. I'm in the prosses of talking to a GIC and I want to transition but I'm also scared. Finally also thanks for ending videos with the "Take care of yourself", it really helps.

[@miss.you.dearly]

Man. What an icon. Kovu, i love you so much and im so glad you are getting happier and more confident on the internet. Im proud of you kovu❤💛💚💙💜

[@tyson5222]

I'm so glad you talked about this!! As I listened to you I was like YES. YES. YES. I love how honest you are, thank you for that, and for sharing your experience and thoughts and feelings, because it really helps. And I'm SO glad you are at this point where you are more comfortable with your femininity and that you are happy :)))) thank you, Kovu ♡♡

[@ThinkerNinja]

Thank you for your honest and thoughtful reflections! I also really appreciate your charitable orientation towards others - it can be too easy to dismiss other people's struggles. Hope you continue to share your thoughts and experiences Kovu :)

[@dddaizy3141]

I haven't visited your channel in a few months, and AHHH YOUR VOICE! IM SO FUCKING PROUD OF YOU AND I LOVE YOH SO MUCH 💖

[@catarinafontes5097]

this video is absolutely great. it’s really amazing that you’re approaching all of these topics!! and that’s it, if you change someday that’s fine and you don’t need anyone’s validation cause we’re all valid :)) and I’m super happy that you are growing to be more and more confident with yourself, keep it up!

[@badchroma]

Hey, I just wanted to say you're such an icon and your wise words have helped me a lot. I'm 25 and slowly coming to terms with the fact that I'm trans. While growing up identifying as a girl, I started experiencing mild to heavy dysphoria when I was around 23. I started to label myself as non-binary even though I knew I'm more trans-masculine and now it's reached a point where I just wanna wake up and look like the man I know I am. It's confusing as all hell, questioning myself so much, but I hope I'll reach the day where I look in the mirror and finally see the real me looking back at me, smiling.

[@dang6477]

I love how real you are- I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being trans because you know what you are and we see you how you want to be seen! I’m not sure if you’ll read this but you actually helped me come out and I came out by sending some people your ‘I Am Gay’ song because it was sometimes just a lot easier... I sent them the bi part and I know what you mean. I’m always worried people will think ‘ooh bi is so basic and it’s just a faze lots of teens get it’ it’s really annoying. I know you’ve probably got it way harder but I hope you’re okay and we’re always here for you to talk to😊🌈 sorry this was so long♥️

[@ccbb8115]

Your voice has gotten so deep and you sound like a badass little bean and I’m so proud of you for opening up!!

[@rosiebarn-es8918]

This was actually very informative, I am struggling with trans issues as right now. And with expectations and so on mentioned I have been panicking about them. Reassurance has been drilled into me by all my cis friends; but to have an in-depth video explaining all this from someone who has experiences all this its eye opening. Thanks for the amazing video (again) they are really useful to many people in my position. x

[@tonikiisler4777]

Glad that you uploaded this video and shared a part of you with us. Keep going Kovu!!

[@0_deleted_038]

Heyo. I asked my mom recently if I could get my hair cut short, like a males haircut. I Also told her about my girlfriend. And now she's reeeally judging me. You're a massive inspiration Btw. You help me a lot through some times. Love your channel :v

[@troygharibani6618]

This is so so so relatable so thank you for sharing. All that you’ve shared is really important to hear, for me and everyone else.

[@Meeko4eve39]

I'm so happy for you that you're in such a good place 😊 Like, not stressing yourself too much about how you see yourself. And, honestly, people should be happy for you to have come such a long way to finally also be comfortable enough to start experimenting more with your gender expression amd stuff ! That's so awesome!!! I'm so proud and happy for you !!!

[@msblue-bl6rw]

Let people say what they want. You're kovu, you have your own body and your own life. It doesn't matter what other people say. I love seeing your videos how you talk about your gender and your problems etc because you look kinda free and happy. I learned so much from you. You found your own way to be and nobody can tell you how you have to be or something.

[@mr.reflxn]

So glad that you shared this! I find myself dressing more masculine than I actually want, to be viewed in a certain way, but in a perfect world, I think I would wear more feminine clothes. When I go to stores, I also like to look at the feminine clothes, which sometimes makes me doubt my identity (which is dumb, I know) Thanks for making this video, its really validating.

[@johanneshelama8855]

Kovu I’m so so proud of you and I’m so happy that you’re on T. But when I started watching this video I started crying. I heard your voice which is so deep and masculine and I’ve never been so jealous of something before. I’m 15 and my parents don’t let me be on T before I’m 18 and it feels so unfare. I know other 15 or 16 year old boys who are already on T and nobody questions their masculinity. More than anything I hope that I can make it and stay alive and healthy for 3 whole years before I can be myself. If you read this far, I hope you stay strong and enjoy the little things in life, I love you and you are good enough. 🧡 I’m trying to tell these things to myself too :)

[@crimsong_shep6449]

I’m around the same age as you do I relate a lot to you. I’m like pre everything (I’m not out) so I completely understand you saying that being seen as a girl hurts, it hurts me too. It’s so hard being misgendered all the time, and for reasons I’d rather not discuss I can’t come out, not yet, maybe never I have no idea. I’m happy you’re becoming the person you want to be and that you’re becoming happy with yourself, continue to be strong and be you! Nothing is more important than self love!

[@camilleclaire5856]

KOVU!!! I missed a few of your videos because of finals so I haven’t heard you in a few months and I legitimately gasped when I heard your voice!!! I dont know if you realize but your voice is SO much deeper than it was even a month ago! Congratulations on your progress dude! I’m literally so happy for you and keep doing what you’re doing! 💛💛💛 (ps, i love the yellow!)

[@caslam9332]

MY MAN I HAVENT WATCHED YOUR VIDEOS IN HALF A YEAR AND OH BOY YOUR VOICE IS SUPER DEEP IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU MY FAV MAN

[@HellenHofstadter]

You're so sweet, and even when you're so young, you're okay with it, you're so mature for your age, you're such a nice human being. Thank you for sharing this with us.

[@emosmututtut1697]

I‘m glad you’re making these videos because it helps me and a lot of other trans teens to feel excepted and that we know we are not some sort of alien if you know what I mean. That we are humans too and that we can live a good life. Thank you for being here.

[@finnegandunn]

Thank you Kovu, Seriously Thank you so much

[@endlessoblivion3284]

Hi, I appreciated your video very much. Anyway, a couple of months passed since I visited your channel, so when I came back and heard that your voice has lowered, I smiled in joy. Congratulations for your progress! :)

[@dylanoliver4861]

like always this video helped me so much. lately i've been having a bit of an "identity crisis" and i've identified as ftm for almost two years but due to a lack of support nothing's changed, and i've lately been really scared maybe i'm just female and i'm confused or lying to myself or something. but hearing you talk about this (especially the part about "technical tumblr definitions" but still just classifying as a guy made me feel better. it's almost hard for me to want to hit post on this comment because like i'm so scared of admitting my doubt, and i get so scared i'm not trans but like, idk if i was cis if i would be scared of not being trans. it's all really confusing but like i *want* to be trans, not because it's trendy obviously, but i just *want* to be; i guess maybe i'm just mistaking my dysphoria as that? holy shit it's so confusing. my dysphoria's slowly faded over the years and i just can't tell if it's me getting used to it, especially because my therapist has been working with me on becoming more comfortable with my body for so long. either way, if you read this, thanks once again kovu 💙 and if anyone has ever felt similar or has any advice or comments please please talk to me about it, haha, reassurance/honesty always help.

[@someslavwithsunglasses8309]

Your voice is adorable!!!!

[@nikbesalty5865]

I personally don't understand why as a transman you would want to dress and be feminine. Me being a transman as well I have always wanted to look and be as masculine as I can be but not because of how society makes me feel I need to, rather it just makes ME feel like a man. which makes it my own personal opinion on what a MAN is. And that's all being a MAN and being a WOMAN is. It's a personal view on what you feel is manly or womanly. There will always be someone who will be disrespectful about feminine transguys because "why didn't you just stay as a girl?" I often ask myself that when I see feminine transguys but then I realize that femininity and masculinity don't determine YOUR gender. I honestly hate having that kind of mentality, however I do try to work on it. It is still okay for you to be however you want because at the end of the day, as long as you are happy, then no one else needs to understand. Don't push yourself past your comfort zone to make someone else happy and be you. You are very brave

[@aliciablanco1834]

Omg Kovu don't let the hate get to you. You are an amazing person. 💖💖💖

[@elizabethclaire6799]

I love the videos when you sit down and talk, and I love the others just as much. Just do what makes you happy and life your best life. Love u kovu!

[@hr7763]

Gods, I needed this. I'm really not comfortable with my gender and how femenine I am, like they contradicted each other. It's so good to know I'm not the only one who struggled with this Again, thank you Kovu! 💚

[@likasteur4565]

I just started watching this video and i haven't been on your channel for a while. OMG your voice has gotten so deep, i am so proud of you and of how far you've come❤

[@zokhay5914]

I really like those super long videos! Like i watch them before sleep and idk i never really thought that much about male transgenders and femininity and i like listening to you and yo be whoever you want to be

[@imapotatoboy6034]

Ps: your voice sounds so cool now I really see the difference! Sounds. Nice! Oh yeah, not saying I didn't like your past voice all your vvvoices are cool so satisfying lol

[@sjfletcher_]

This video is so comforting, thank you for making it

[@charliealexparker3633]

i love your voice, it is nice to hear you talking.. i don't know why, but i have that great feeling that whatever you will ever say i will trust you. Thank you for every single video on your channel! You are doing great

[@kainovember]

This video is amazing, dude. I've been questioning my gender a lot lately, because I do some stereotypically feminine things, and I like some feminine parts of me, but I don't feel like a girl. I've just been saying I'm nonbinary, but if I embrace that identity, then I feel like I shouldn't go on T. Idk, it's confusing. But I'm really proud of you for making videos like this. They have been helping me a lot, and I'm sure they've helped a ton of other people too 💙

[@cerysstringer3473]

Can I say that I just absolutely love you and you are one of my favourite people on the internet and you make me so happy x

[@transientdaydreams]

It was really refreshing hearing you talk about things like still admiring feminine fashion and not realizing you were trans at a super young age. Those things both apply to me too (hell, I didn't figure it out until I was 24, and I didn't even question if I was not cis until I was over 20) and yet I don't feel comfortable talking about it openly because it goes against the "narrative" or whatever. But honestly, I don't want to be really masculine. I want people to see me as a guy, but I like being a fairly "feminine" person in a lot of ways. I like glitter and pink and purple and theater and fashion and plenty of allegedly "girly" stuff, and that's 100% okay. If the whole point of transitioning is to be more of one's authentic self, then there's nothing wrong with being more feminine or more masculine because it's part of being authentic. Also, I guess I'd been jumping around non-chronologically in binging a lot of your videos, because I got to this one and your voice was so deep all of a sudden! It makes me really happy for you. :)

[@lpa1365]

It has been a while since I haven't watched your videos, (I got surpised to hear your deep voice haha) but you seem so relaxed and happy with yourself now, it makes me kind of want to keep hope too. Thank you for all of what you said in this video I just needed it.

[@leoalexander4880]

as a gay trans guy, i feel this so heavily. i've only ever painted my nails silver or black before because i've been afraid of colored nail polishes because i feel like i'll be read as a girl. the other day i painted my nails this blue-ish grey color and it made me feel really good. i'm three months on t and recently i've become a lot more comfortable but i still feel soooo dypshoric. i've always said "once i become comfortable enough, i want to do drag so so so bad." but i'm not comfortable yet. i'm very proud of you for doing your drag video because right now, or even in a month, i couldn't imagine doing that. thank you for this video because i felt like i was the only one who really struggled with this 💕💖 much love

[@hetalian5662]

Hearing your thoughts is so refreshing! Thanks for sharing!

[@oliverreiser5265]

Regarding that comment about people looking up to you, thinking you’ve got all your shit together; I don’t look up to you, but I do appreciate you for just being in the same place that I think a lot of us young trans guys are in. It’s actually kind of comforting to see someone who is the same age as me who don’t fully have it together and that have insecurities. I feel like trans people are expected to fully understand themselves and come to terms with it a lot faster than cis people are. So, thank you! It means a lot to me that you just exist as a normal trans guy.

[@Aa-ig6zo]

This video helped me a lot!!! Thank you again. I knew you were young but I completely forgot you’re 16!! You’re such a mature baby 💙

[@monettyler428]

I really love the talky videos Kovu. I love hearing your opinion and personal experiences

[@saff1257]

i haven’t heard your voice in a while and it’s so deep, sounds amazing