An Honest Conversation About Our Friendship - Ep. 2

This episode was filmed in March 2021.
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00:00 - Intro - Welcome Matt!
02:31 - What Is Matt Doing Now?
07:42 - Why Does Our Friendship Work?
19:19 - Distinguishing Being Friends And Coworkers
23:55 - What Do People Get Wrong About Friendship?
28:27 - The Challenges Of Making New Friends
31:58 - The Challenges We’ve Faced As Friends
41:02 How We Deal With Challenges Within Our Friendship
51:05 - The Complex Dynamic Of Our Friendship
54:22 - The Problems We Faced During Covid
58:52 - How Do You Find New Friends?
01:05:17 - Social Anxiety After Covid
01:07:17 - The Importance Of InvestIng In The Relationships You Already Have
01:12:57 - Outro
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[@rooshi7]

God I missed Matt. Cant wait for his book AHHH

[@loyzeke]

WE LOVE MATT

[@moosehaokip2360]

Yes. Matt is like a calm sea I love his vibe

[@thenemophilist8581]

@@moosehaokip2360 same here... I love that guy

[@vitornogueira05]

Me too!

[@FWtravels]

I love how they don’t interrupt and they let each other finish before responding.

[@nustuffout]

It is incredible to see how sincere but also how everyone lets each other talk. The patience speaks volumes.

[@sunnysakchiraphong2532]

thats how u know people value each other's opinions. Real ones listen to hear, not to respond.

[@CJ-gp9cn]

When Matt says “you can dive into that if you want”, offering space to another to express their feelings ❤

[@johnadams1700]

12:18 Thomas’ way of politely telling Matt “you were always the grumpiest when filming” lol

[@aubinhezagira7814]

Truly shook by this conversation. I've been following your journey for years now and like many of yes theory fans, I've always felt or seen some kind of parallel in your lives and mine. A sense of discovering, allowing yourself to pursue your dreams, your friendships and projects, the end of college, your creative work... But this conversation resonated with me dearly. As a creator, even with the truly amazed feeling you get when you see yes theory video's, I always wondered what the other tip of the Iceberg. You can only imagine that your journey come with its challenges. Not in a negative way but in a very human, profound, normal way. I was surprised by the wiseness of your conversation, the unedited, unfiltered, rawness of it. I believe that challenges always comes to make ourselves "pause" and connect within ourselves. The three of you are mastering that process. You're right Matt, you can’t take people to where you haven’t gone. And you guys are getting very conscious and making your surroundings conscious too! Bravo

[@junekdial]

It is complicated and that’s why having your brand being worn around the world is amazing and you did that. And that’s creating friendships all around the world. I think you guys are missing the point you said out for. Obviously you’re having some internal struggles. But you guys need to believe that you would you have accomplished accomplished is so much more than anybody that I know. You’ve touched 1 million people by having them do things out of their fear factor. And you want people together and they love you for that and we love you for that.

[@rbarber]

Vulnerability is often the hardest but most fulfilling discomfort to experience

[@fokusinvestor]

Have you ever thought about an app like parship / tinder for your community? Where you may sign up with ur abilities, the things you‘re untested in, region, and the things you are wishing for in a friendship. So that these people may find eachother? So no dating app, a friendship app 😉

[@marianaruy1363]

That's kind of like their Facebook group and subgroups work!

[@allisonfreed]

For real, everyone should go sign up for an improv class. It creates some of the best friendship because at its core it's all about communication, trust, and collaboration. Plus, if someone's seen you act that weird, you're bonded for life.

[@Frenchy88888888]

It's definitely not healthy to only see "happy" people/relationships on social media. Especially for people suffering from some forms of mental illnesses (even though we re making progress). It can create this false expectation of what one "should" have. But we re not perfect, no one is and no relationship is. It s very nice to see you being vulnerable and real. For me personally it's reassuring and it helps me accept my feelings of dissatisfaction as something normal especially when you the people I look up to share similar feelings. Even if our lives are completely different, I relate and it helps. So thank you for that. Peace and love

[@georgecrosby5690]

I'm so bothered by the couch blocking a door. HAHA

[@safinbadminton]

It's so nice to see you let everyone speak and don't interrupt others while talking!

[@CM-yz3ze]

A very mature answer from Thomas on what drives you towards autonomy or loyalty. It's not necessarily about co-dependence, it's the cultures that we come from, and how they view the "burden" of support. The Global North north prioritizes independence far more than many other areas of the globe, whereas community care is a given in others. Recognizing that it's not about what's wrong and instead about what your norm is, is a huge help when having these conversations!

[@ComfortFreeQuests]

It’s so awesome how you put you hearts out there, Matt, Thomas and Ammar. Thank you for inspiring us to be the better versions of ourselves.

[@camilla9301]

I love Matts voice - so calming☺️

[@koppig1527]

Thanks for making this podcast truly entertaining! I love the great way you encourage communication and positivity in a relation this episode , by sharing your experiences and errors with it. BuT you guys have sooo much amazing stories/experiences and I wanna hear them bro!

[@cloty23valerio]

I find this conversation therapeutic.

[@fabulousfab7080]

Love this on so many levels, thanks for allowing me to grow with you, and thank you for sharing your experiences as friends, it truly helps me as I am 21 and starting my journey in self growth and learning about boundaries and relationships between friends, family, etc. as well as strengthen the relationships that I value most and want to grow with :) I hope you all keep being the best versions of yourself and I’m exited to see what the future holds for us all including the book Matt is working on :) ❤️

[@leeproulx7412]

Really enjoyed the conversation. It‘s incredible how they found one another to develop this Yes Theory channel and found ways to survive the chaos of this type of relationship to still be one of the most uplifting channels on KZbin. So grateful that you guys continue to create amazing content.

[@TheLouChannel]

This so real and raw. I loved every second of this podcast episode. Thank you guys for being so open and vulnerable 🫶

[@bensaunders5500]

So so happy to see the 3 of you together! Wish we could see more of it, but I’m pumped that Matt gets to follow his dreams and do what actually makes him happy 🙏🏼

[@alexespinoza5572]

I have recently watched all your guys videos and lately I’ve found myself on edge waiting for uploads and just finding out you guys started a podcast makes me think it’s taken away from the out put of videos but that’s okay the content is amazing. And I just saw the psychedelic honey video and that was AMAZING. Something I would have never got to see without you guys. Please do more videos again!

[@fothrmuckr]

Love to see it. I was waiting for this! You guys are killing it

[@shaunahernandez9308]

Hey guys. I really really enjoyed listening to this episode discussing your friendship. I feel so aligned with what you guys are saying in regards to my own relationships and it’s reassuring to know that my feelings and thoughts surrounding relationships are not isolated, despite the fact that we’ve been more isolated from everyone given the world’s status. I appreciate the rawness of this conversation and seeing the depths your relationship has gotten to. Always a fan of all 3 of you, rooting for your individual evolutions and supporting you as you support each other. Can’t wait to listen to more💛

[@amygarner1812]

I love the transparency of what you are trying to achieve with the podcast. This approach + offering has a lot of value + is much needed in an age of highlight reels, with people only seeing the edits of other people's seemingly perfect lives + 'overnight success'.

[@carinerugorirwera1619]

I really enjoyed this deep dive in your friendship dynamics. Honest and graceful with one another as well. I will definitely be coming back for more.

[@daveforz]

Gonna listen to this at work. Looking forward to more episodes!

[@jinanearaqi1614]

I love hearing you talk Matt... It is really inspiring to see how you embrace your feelings even when they might be antinomic and how graciously you balance your commitment to yourself and the people you love

[@fokusinvestor]

Well I think that’s the best yes theory episode I’ve ever seen. Not as entertaining but man what a great conversation. Thanks for the openness. I loved to see how good this conversation was for you. 👍 thanks

[@kenzokiseki]

Amazing episode. Made me realize how right I am about the path I need to take with my friendship groups

[@Beast_theory]

Amazing podcast love the honestly so much wise advice

[@thejadenlp1]

Amazing and vulnerable conversation. However, the audio needs to be louder

[@KorinaRunningFromPerfection]

Love the episode! Would it be possible to have higher sound volume by any chance?

[@aloisgraber7813]

You guys inspire me to grow. Thank you so much

[@kurtisperry6524]

I'm so glad that I've been able to experience your life journeys. It's brought so much light to my life and I really appreciate you guys with the motivation. I hope you guys continue as long as you can to bring joy to the world. Yes Fam for life!

[@ChaoticRain1]

Matt's story about that girl who said she's been dating 8 different versions of the guy she married made me tear up. Beautiful mentality!

[@CultureAndLove]

awesome point on cultures choosing autonomy and cultures choosing loyalty when one or other has to be chosen staying globally sensitive is vital, I think, to your global scale and strength. thanks for the discomfort of love expressed in your podcast.

[@nicoibarra1008]

Love these conversations

[@AaronK343]

Beautifully raw and vulnerable

[@alis5423]

So good to see three of you together after such a long time.

[@JoelineNorris]

Friends are family you get to choose. This is so inspiring - thank you guys 🌸⭐️✌️

[@lencrites7044]

The fear of going forward and thinking about the hurt of growing apart is present. Growth and change is never easy but being committed to the transformation even if you end up not on the same level. Be aware that spirit is all around. You are doing something that is phenomenal. I think our basic tendency is waiting for failure. Not have expectations as to any outcome down the road is a cardinal rule. Not Understanding love f’ ‘ ‘ a lot of us up.

[@berdawn82]

I was about to be real mad that I didn’t know about this channel but then I realized it’s NEW!!!! Love this so much.

[@lucygonzalez-zo5nz]

I’m so late to the party. I just have to say how much I love watching this conversation. Men expressing and sharing their feelings. What a bleeping concept! Congrats gentlemen. I’ve been catching up on your videos old and new. My son who is 26 already made me aware of how late I actually am. Seriously what you guys have created is so beautiful. I feel grateful to have found your channel even if it was just recently. I feel so inspired. Thanks! PS. Everything in moderation including saying YES

[@aidanwood7204]

These are the type of guys who should be hosting a podcast. These three are all amazing role models for young men and I hope boys in there youth today can find role models as self-aware and open as these three

[@vkiks6889]

I miss Matt so much…. Glad to see them all❤❤️❤️❤️

[@davidlakhter]

love you guys!!

[@chaitanya737]

All the best matty for your book. I'd love if you show up like this more often. 😉

[@latiffvally6443]

Oh my word! Before I start.. Magic.. Is what u guys have created and shown to the world! Growth was the reward for all the 'sentiments' you guys experienced.. Together! I really could go on but my point to u all is that.. Whatever it takes.. U 3 are Leaders already and this was accomplished with commitment through working and allowing each other to be themselves. Matt is doing what his gut is telling him to do.. And he should and I'm proud of that. We never know what other 'gut' feelings will surface for anyone else but again.. Live your lives.. And don't let Yes Theory fade away! U guys have made history.. And continue doing so. This podcast was so unique yet so profound. Matt is taking his 'leave' and he will make the best of it.. But I know the Co founders (all of u) have many more books to write together! In Sha Allah. God Bless💙💙💙💙

[@kevinvanmoorsel]

Love this

[@BenHirons]

Love you dudes x

[@bumwog]

Great podcast boys! Please boost the audio a bit next time though it's a bit too low

[@TheSnokeShow]

Good to see Matt on camera again! I know he's doing well and can't wait for the book

[@robinchills]

Love it boysss ❤

[@Pamant16]

Is so genuine and beautiful this conversation but the recording of it is from more than 1 year ago...how authentic does it feel now? I'm curious what Matt has been up to in the meantime since the comunity had no updates in such a long time...I hope you guys are ok and you managed to find new creative ways to develop your friendship

[@Azizur_93]

Maaaan I miss Matt, been watching all the old videos lately just so I can see the banter by Matt and prefer the podcasts to be a video anndddd Kara and Nate got a shoutout!!! 🙌

[@hannahodonnell3587]

I’m a huge fan of Kara and Nate also. I think it’d be really cool to see if they’d come on the podcast since both channels have the same kinda style/theme and talk about how the relationship aspect plays apart in all this.

[@AhmadullahTanha]

Every single overnight success always have that kind of mess coming with it. Whether it costs friendships, or collapse at its peak. The slower the progress is, the more people can think about it and differentiate between business and friendships, underline what is encouraged and what is not, and those conversations if done at early stages of success can save everything. That is unfortunately not understood if you are at the early age of 20s and everything you do provide with massive results. Yes, nothing go smoothly in life (that is the reality, whether we allow our minds to accept it or not), but if there is a win win solution brought to the end of it, I guess that is what truly matters. I have to add one thing - in life it is not about getting everything, but how you made people feel about you and that is the only thing you can reflect on when you are in your last years of your life.

[@redacted4601]

I hope you can come visit Cebu, Philippines. You can go swimming with the whale sharks, trekking and there are lots of beautiful waterfalls. And you'll love the beaches here too. I really do hope you'll consider it.

[@golnoushtavakolmoghadam2683]

45:00 such a great way to put it.

[@armandob.castenelli3525]

I love you three. 💪💪💪🙌

[@AJ-ht3kf]

I was with someone who called me insane for mentioning this "people change, there are different versions of someone in a relationship"...

[@vishalpokhrel9012]

Matt🔥🔥🔥

[@nustuffout]

Heck yeah!!!

[@yhamrosare7408]

I missed you, Matt! I missed the OGs of Yes Theory. ❤️

[@abdulwasayjunaid6778]

Matt we need you. Just for one video on Yes Theory.

[@dsgrbrowne1]

It is so interesting to read the body language.

[@aslimahcomacasar3229]

Hi YES theory, pls consider visiting Marawi, Philippines. 🥺

[@ifweseekay]

MAAAAATT! it has not been the same without this trio and also Derin! But the channel is still great

[@Copedipper94]

Can you guys come out with a DVD of all your shows?

[@ninastone3659]

I hope to think like Matt someday.

[@abc-pn2eb]

I love Matt’s shirt. Is that Ragaman? Same with Ammar’s

[@loyzeke]

ily matt

[@shireens]

Mattyyyyyyy pooooooo we miss you!

[@sadaf3471]

Waiting for Matt's book :)))

[@CultureAndLove]

Ammar, I recommend Christine Hancock’s first chapter in The Significance of Singleness, if you want a phenomenally informed conversation regarding the current societal esteem on marriage as opposed to friendship:)

[@ramiahjames5303]

I freakin miss Mat

[@premkhadka1996]

Love from nepal🇳🇵

[@deepanjanchakraborty7707]

I think you should place your mic somewhere and the sitting setup can be improved. Yet the Content is great ❤

[@whoknows9487]

Where can I get that awesome jacket Matt is wearing?

[@claraloves3853]

missed you matt 🥺

[@ComfortFreeQuests]

Ammar, how can I get in touch with you?

[@allisonfreed]

Balance BETWEEN a bit of both. Double down on at alliteration.

[@altamashkhan4064]

Surely gonna read Matt's book!!! Maybe it's name would be Matty poo 😅😂😂

[@mydogisbailey]

hoping matt and ammar have been able to managed their disagreement! conflicts are inevitable, even when working with friends. its a sad truth. sometimes friendships are weakened by business, but sometimes business also arises from friendship.

[@chaitanya737]

Bring Naval Ravikant on your podcast.

[@sharonmmbone8181]

Maaaaaaat!!😃😃😃❤️

[@TateSpirit]

This is some high-level shit, man!

[@noahtriumph1560]

Matt Dajer 😍💖💖💖

[@mayael-attar6402]

Can u guys please increase the volume of your mics or somethin

[@iklassig3245]

Matttttty poooooooo !!

[@shakos4105]

Matt explains things very well, I can honestly relate to a lot of what hes saying.

[@denkerecke3853]

Honestly, it seems like all three of you are on a different track right now. Like everyone of you shifted his focus on something different. Its like you are reflecting on the past and trying to "fix" it, without really connecting; almost like you three have different conversations and just add something here and there. There is no flow in the comversation. Maybe it is really time to realize your own versions of yestheory and focus on what you really want. Just from the business-perspective. The "fixing" of the friendships, in my opinion, takes time and honest conversations. I think sharing about it just makes it harder, even if its more transparent.

[@urfijahan1379]

Derin

[@NotGabeButMaybe]

Sheeeesh

[@PUMPINGSHARK]

Ah ! About time guys wtf!! Haha

[@misunderstood2107]

💛🧡💚

[@junekdial]

Am at,😊

[@ibrahimshakil109]

Matt is by far the wisest of them all. I can’t wait to read his book. I feel like there will be a lot to learn from it.

[@fabulousfab7080]

16:56

[@DreamXP]

Did Thomas fly to the U.S for the podcast? Or is it in Europe?

[@hashimfuad4510]

This podcast is filmed in yes theory house in U.S

[@amirra7926]

it was filmed last year

[@vjunnia.king6]

@@hashimfuad4510 In the beginning it clearly says “this episode was filmed in March 2021” LOL

[@hashimfuad4510]

@@vjunnia.king6 oops 😅🤣🤣🤣