An Imperfect Pair: When Cat Energy and Age Clash

[@goldylocks1775]

I find myself in this EXACT situation , the only difference being its an older female cat and a young kitten! Deeply helpful advice

[@rachelcomte8089]

Same!!

[@meow2u22]

Rumi: Yo, kitten, get the hell out of my space! Aslan: Doopy doopy doopy doop.

[@fluffy_catproductions2110]

😂

[@esmeraldahernandez1018]

“Used to walk to school backwards in the snow...on my hands”

[@teenyteeniee]

i laughed so hard when he said that 😆

[@That80sGuy1972]

He forgot to add "uphill, both directions, during regular blizzards, without shoes to keep the feet warm, wearing a coat with holes in it, in hand-me-down clothing, carrying a really heavy backpack that he kept stitching up, with a paper bag for lunch that was supper's table scraps on stale bread, wearing garage-sale eyeglasses and borrowed underwear, and all the while being grateful for what I had." Do older family members still use the "You don't know how great you have it" schtick? I know they did in my day. Because of technology, people my age don't need to make sh^t up for those stories... however, a lot of the LACK of certain technologies made our time nicer. We had things like privacy (you get nailed to the wall for even talking about violating the mythical right to privacy), good ways to handle bullies, better average fitness, eating disorders were mainly starving types so obesity was not an epidemic, people even pretending to be news sources get ruined if they stray from journalistic integrity, you could bury the stupidity of your youth, hackers were a threat to very few and needed to be elite to actually be threats, identity theft was easy to fix - hard to pull off - and was rapidly punished with a heavy hand, etc. Life in our day was hard but we also didn't have a lot of the common headaches that exist now... now, technology allowed even the dimmest people to easily be problems and criminals.

[@nicolesensini6523]

Barefoot 🦶

[@christina7557]

While using my farts to warm my hands😂

[@eriray3646]

First time cat mom over here 👈🏼 Thank the Lordt for Jackson!! I honestly hate hate hate cats, then my kids and hubby cornered me in adopting, and now they’re upset bc I’m his favorite and we’re deeply in love and thanks to Jackson’s videos I was able to even better improve our pet relationship. Cats, I get it now!

[@yae4983]

You're like the 'dad' with the unwanted dog

[@sevencostanza1868]

Haha❤

[@mrsdconley1]

Right there with you.

[@PaleMist]

"I hate them yet they love me." Life is filled of ironies.

[@wildog47]

My husband didn't like cats when we first moved in together. He tolerated my 3. Now that two have passed it was time for a kitten to keep my remaining cat company. And he calls it Our cat and gives him kisses and pets when he gets home from work. 😂 He says he definitely likes cats now

[@gepee3654]

It's really interesting, there is so much to know about cats, but then they also have their very specific personality. I introduced a kitten to my 14 year old cat - never had a kitten before and was afraid of exactly these problems, but the kitten needed a home so urgently, so I tried - and my old male cat just loveslovesloves the kitten. My other cat on the other hand, who is still quite young, could easily do without the kitten, but they get along

[@splendidpan]

Haha i have a 14 year old and a 9month old, 14 year old tries to ignore the 9month old and the 9month old just wants to playplayplay. Guess its different for every cat!

[@gepee3654]

@@splendidpan My 14 year old sometimes wags his tail and lets the kitten chase it, if I don't play enough :)

[@LindaGailLamb.0808]

We had two eleven- year old cats when we adopted a new kitten. When Jingle arrived, yeah, Shadow thought he was a nuisance. He mostly tried to ignore the little, hyper brat. Of course, Jingle hated to be ignored; so he occasionally got a smack from Shadow until he learned the rules. Fortunately, Demon thought Jingle was great. In fact, he went through a second kittenhood, trying to keep up - and we had one little orange bullet and one big, round, 20 pound black cannonball bouncing off the walls. Its a wonder they didn't knock the house down 😨😨🤣🤣🤣

[@wildog47]

Personally matters! For sure.

[@gegftw5270]

same situation but my older cat hates the kitten.

[@Stephie010302]

I'm having this issue at the moment. Just took in a kitten that's about 6-8 weeks old and he's high energy (total extrovert) now that he's settled in and recovered from his surgery. We weren't planning on adopting another cat while we still had our older one, but we found this kitten with a severe eye injury (ultimately lost his eye) and no one would take him, so we're keeping him. Our older cat who is around 12 used to have an older companion cat who died a few years ago and they got along well, but they were both such chill cats. Now this fuzzy terror is running around and has absolutely no chill or cat-manners so it's been a bit of a slower introduction this time around. He's not crazy out of nastiness just overly playful, and our older cat hasn't indicated any hatred to the kitten (just very wary and befuddled). Our older cat has always been a shyer/weaker-willed cat so trying to keep things slow and build up his confidence in this situation a bit more so the kitten doesn't dominate the house..

[@monafan5573]

Pretty sure when my kitten was 4 months old she played for 18 hours a day and only slept for 6... she was ready to play for a good hour and then would rest for 10 min and be ready again. oh man it was bloody exahusting.

[@rachelgrondin998grondin3]

If I may ask how do you do it?

[@TheNumerum]

Exhausting yup, which is why in the future ill just adopt older cats

[@brookesargent8249]

That is my life right now...trying to get a sleep schedule going so the 6 hours of sleep happens at NIGHT so that I can sleep...

[@m49nguyen]

i have a garden, and my cat would shoot out the garden any free time she has after the meal. doesn't mind how much i want to get close to her.

[@WatchtheWaters12]

It’s worse than having a new born baby!! Can’t get a full nights sleep. My kitten is 3 months old and is bouncing off the walls at 3 am for an hour or so. It’s so hard to fall asleep after that.

[@RubensDonut]

OMG, When Jackson started talking like an old man cat I burst out laughing. LOL. So accurate in everyway :D

[@missrarabella]

Me too!

[@PrinceDuCiel7]

That’s my old boy watching the crazy kittens and young adults. Sitting next to me or on his chair, well away from the zoomies and wrestling matches.

[@roryroopa]

That part had me dying 🤣

[@addisonfogarty7175]

Your kittens and cats are cute lol 😊😊😊

[@AceyCamui]

I have a 13 year old cat and a 2 year old cat. The elder has no interest in playing, just food and sleep and attention from his humans. The younger is so high strung so we're getting a kitten who is VERY playful lol

[@oliviamcveigh900]

We’re in the same situation and our older cat is scared of our younger cat now, she hisses at him anytime he comes close to her and she runs away. It makes me so sad and feel at a loss. I played with him the last night for over 30 minutes and he seemed tired but when I got in bed he was hiding under it and charged out at our older cat the minute she came over to get in the bed. We were also thinking of getting another cat his age but then I’d be afraid of it being two cats against one. Our senior is dealing with a terminal illness so we’re grasping at straws here, just bought your bully solution so we’re hoping it helps!

[@jamess950]

Did you have any success with it?

[@oliviamcveigh900]

@@jamess950 we didn’t notice any difference, but only had it for a few days before she passed. We really regret allowing that situation to happen and getting a younger cat period, we had no idea we’d only have our senior for another year and that last year would be full of her scared to walk around her own home.

[@fiothefanartist5721]

Hi Jackson! I know you might not see this but I want you to know that I am perusing a career in animal behavior because of you! I grew up an insane cat lover and I would watch your show religiously I just want to say thank you for inspiring me and putting me on the path I am now ❤🐾

[@JacksonGalaxy]

Awww thank you so very much. It’s people like you that remind me why I do it. I can’t wait to have you join the party (or..pawty!) 😻😻

[@Raevyn20]

That look said it all!! 😂 😂 😂 "oh God HE'S back!" and Aslan is all hey whassup??

[@ylvarw]

haha, "get another kitten" that's what I've done =) now my old cat can sit and watch when he doesn't want to play any more and the younger boys get a full workout by their new sister =)

[@tanko.reactions176]

that sounds dirty..

[@kaylyncutegurl]

I have a 2 year old female and just got a 4 month old male kitten. She’s an independent cat and was a mama cat before I got her so she’s pretty tolerant. They play ALL THE TIME. They’re the perfect duo. My other 5 year old female cat on the other hand doesn’t want anything to do with them but watches them play all day.

[@MaatAset]

Coming to this later. So glad I saw this because this is the exact same situation with my two cats! My older girl tolerates the younger one, but you can tell he’s too much energy for her most of the time. I love when I see them grooming though!

[@MakeItMagical27]

My cats are the same age and yet my male has soooo much more energy than my female. She’s definitely in that get off my lawn stage and he just wants to play play play.

[@kristygregg6167]

Duuuddee! Mine too! My female is way calmer and three months older than my male. Between myself and her he runs us out of energy before we can get all of his out. My moms older cat’s do not appreciate the young cats energy, especially my boy-o’s energy. 😆

[@Sarah83_loves_bass]

Same over here 🤣🙈 Mine are probably brother and sister (don't know for sure, because we have them from the shelter) and HE is a lot more energetic (they will both turn 1 in October) 🤣 She likes to chill in her catbed at the window and watch "bird-tv" 😅 But he always comes to annoy her... a real pain in the a** for her 🙈

[@placid222]

do you think that females are generally calmer ? I am about to adopt a kitten, I fell in love with a 3 months old female that is said "playful". But now I am afraid it will calm down soon. Should I adopt a male ? (ps: the cat will be neutered ether way) Cause I really want a playfull cat until it's old !

[@carinawoodmansee9699]

@@placid222 We have both male and female at my house and they're all playful. However, I have noticed after getting them all fixed they became very sweet and love so much to cuddle. Both genders are fantastic and their personality will depend on their atmosphere. If you're very playful so will he or she be. So if that's what you prefer then play with him or her daily. Our cats get outside time every morning where they get to run the whole backyard and they LOVE IT. Good luck!! If the shelter doesn't fix them then do it sooner than later. Intact cats have loads of anxiety and aggression when they reach the right age. Learned that the hard way.

[@placid222]

@@carinawoodmansee9699 Thank you for the enlightenment ! And thank you for the tips ! I am so relieved ^^

[@eresonation]

You have such an eclectic collection of things behind you

[@AxelQC]

I'm starting to feel more like Rumi all the time.

[@darkinside2203]

I have never felt about someone online but you look so fun, chill and very dope to hang out with. Thank you for your videos very helpful 💜

[@bookmouse2719]

When the Cat Daddy vids pop up I go YAY! I just have to watch it.

[@ralseithedarkener9256]

I have a similar issue between my cats. I considered getting one more cat to release some of the pressure for my older cat. I think this might help. Thanks Jackson.

[@bookmouse2719]

good for you, I have 4 cats in an apartment, one is younger than the others and she will attack the female older cat when she's in that mood. I can't imagine getting another cat for her, let me just go insane now.

[@boxeswithfoxes]

@@bookmouse2719 relatable

[@yazzybananas3106]

I needed this video like yesterday lol this is exactly the case with my male and female cat. My female cat is a year older than my male cat who is now a year old. But now they have a rocky relationship. Sometimes they love on each other but is seems like they mostly fight because my male cat just constantly wants to play. My female cat is not having it, shes been stressed (over grooming her belly). I've resorted to getting her meds to keep her calm. Hope this video helps!

[@colourfulchaos9607]

Ahh i needed that video to help me relax MORE about my cat introductions 😊

[@ervinstankovic2462]

You’re the best Jackson! your videos have guided me and kept me positive my entire cat journey(:

[@kewpified]

I can relate so much with this video. I just rescued a 5 month old kitten but my 12 yr old cat is not too happy atm. This will need a lot of work!

[@shundawallace8932]

I can’t tell you how much I love Jackson. This is my story (so far not a whole lot of drama) but this is my story none-the-less. Thank you so much for asking Jackson this question. Now I know exactly what I have to do for my cats. Jackson you have gotten me through some tough times. Everytime I have to lock that baby in the room I would cry but I am starting to see more and more how it helps them both. Thank you Jackson and Thank you Emine (this is my story)! The moral of the story is play play play play play play!!

[@elliebrinegar6568]

Great idea getting the younger cat a kitten! Hopefully the two of them wouldn't annoy Rumi even more, but most likely I think it would work. 😉 On a completely unrelated note, just randomly looked up who Mr Galaxy is married to... and he has such a lovely, gorgeous wife. If you are reading this Jackson, you two are beautiful together! So sweet! 😻❣👍

[@JacksonGalaxy]

Thanks, Ellie! I’ll be sure to pass this on to my wife Minoo!😻😻

[@barbarahawkins7864]

I had bad trouble between my 1st & 2nd kitty... until I rescued my 3rd kitty! Fixed all the stress 👍🏻

[@emilycolella526]

Exactly the situation I’m in!! Thanks Jackson!! I needed this video! I have a 2 y/o female and just got a 4 month old male! This little dude has SO MUCH energy and my older cat is NOT happy! I was already playing with him as a means of expending his energy, but I hadn’t even thought about putting it onto a schedule! I think that will really help

[@kevinguernsey8413]

Thanks you so much. We have a 2 1/2 year old we adopted when she was approximately 10 weeks old. Our other cat is a tuxedo we adopted from a shelter when she was 1 1/2 (now four). The younger one attacks the older one and the older one sounds like she is being killed. However watching this and another video of yours helped us see that there is no blood, pee or running away after the tussle helped use see it is not as bad as we thought. Thanks again.

[@samanthaw3845]

My mom adopted one of my male foster kittens (he’s almost 2 now, but still hella playful), but Mom is also pet-sitting my dad’s older female cat while he’s out of the country, and this is 100% their interactions. Thank you for the advice, Jackson!!!

[@lincolnandkiwi5766]

I’m glad my cats are able to play and understand each other ❣️

[@kristygregg6167]

This is exactly what we’re going through with my two younger cats, both 3yr olds. And my moms two older cats, both 8yr olds. My moms oldest of her two litter mates is the alpha so she’s not bothered by my two. Her other cat is the Runt of the alpha’s and often is chased by my two young energetic cats. Mom and I have both been making an effort to play more with all the cats. Before watching this video I actually started noticing my energetic Bombay’s energetic streaks and have been trying to match it to run his energy out. This video was confirmation. Thank you cat daddy for the help, the real, and the genuine. And sharing your content here on KZbin. Thank you so so much!!! My moms cat Runt has been licking her fur off. We’ve took her to the vet and we’re trying different things from playtime with all the cats to calming cat specific diffusers, as well as creating positive moments between my two and my moms. We decided to start having our cats eat lunch together as it’s the only meal on the same schedule. I work third shift. Mom and I have been learning from “My Cat From Hell,” and are so thankful for the learning opportunity we have from this community on KZbin. Thank you EVERYONE! ❤️😻😻😻😻❤️

[@shadowedaethyr]

This is the video I needed! My 7yo recently passed so I adopted a kitten to keep my other 7yo company. Still undecided on adopting another kitten to help the young one’s energy level.

[@mazzyelf]

This was a really helpful one for me thank you, I'm getting a kitten in a few weeks but already have a 17yo best friend lady cat that doesn't do much any more I'm well prepared to play with the kitten until the cows come home but not so secretly I'm hoping the kitten energy will encourage 17yo Kira to start playing again for a better quality of life (ATM she basically lives on a cushion in the bedroom, she's happy and content but I think she would benefit being more active a lil)

[@nettejean5912]

How did it go? We brought home a 13 week old kitten with 2 senior cats and all he wants to do is chase them. It's bad. He is terrorizing them. I can't seem to get his attention enough to not go after the male and female. She wants no part of him.

[@barbarateterus8252]

This one is SO HELPFUL! Watching all your videos and I’m Slowly seeing changes 👏❤️

[@mooboo1365]

Exactly the same issue we’re dealing with now introducing our 12 week old kittens to 8 year old cats. The struggle is real! 😹😹 thanks Cat Daddy for the tips!

[@malaiqa7164]

i’ve been introducing my 4 month old kitten to my 5 year old cat. what worked for you?

[@vanessataylor5108]

Did you guys find anything helpful? I’m introducing my 8 weeks old to my 7 year old, both females. We are on day 3 of scent exchange. Dominant one is starting to accept the smells and come in the house more now. But took a whole day for her to come in the house. We moved little ones base camp to the upstairs bathroom so eldest had the Downstairs to herself and she’s feeling more confident. She came upstairs for the first time last night! So slow but hopefully they can co exist x

[@kevinguernsey8413]

I had heard of walking in the snow uphill both ways to school and back home, but never on your hands. Laughed out loud. Thanks old timer ! LOL

[@msg2099]

Thank you so much for all y’all do!

[@richruelas]

Thanks Jackson, I will take your advice and try. My kitten keeps trying to play with my senior cat and she is not having it. I know I can count on you to deliver on what to do. I’ll keep you posted

[@kayatwood5183]

Three cats were differently the answer for our family. We had an 18 year old with a 6 week old kitten. The older cat seemed to hate the kitten but adding a 3rd was a great answer.

[@Dianamarlenee]

Omg I needed this!! I recently adopted a kitty

[@sevencostanza1868]

Hey Jackson! 😊❤ Thank you for all that you do! Ty for the reference to Dennis and Mr Wilson- you flored me!😆

[@ScottRedstone]

Again, so glad we found you. Koji is now with us for almost a month. The play before meals is working well and so is the boil then simmer routine. He is so much fun. We got a harness and will introduce it to him slowly. Today my husband played fetch with Koji. He’s been working with him and they played five rounds. Toss the mouse and say “fetch”. Koji pounces. Then Steven says “bring it” and the mouse is dropped into his hand. Lavish “good boys” given with his favorite treats. We even have it on video.

[@whitepaws2485]

haha aye i had some fun trying to introduce my older cat ora (tuxedo ) with my new kitten bubba( norweigian forest ) the energy they have is crazy, i learned taking him walks in the morning helped so much, and through time a bond started, and now there tig n tag mates and both comes walks now :) a lot of work, but at the same time a blessing. my furr babies, and learned how to do this from the cat daddy videos, thx jackson

[@victordelcarmen6205]

I love to hear that

[@Dignitatis]

Thanks so much Jackson! This is just what is going on in my house. We got a new 3 month old girl kitten on Sat. and our 6 year old girl wants nothing to do with her, lots of hissing and nasty looks at her and me! I have been playing a lot with Toula, so I am doing the right thing, now I'm just hoping that Marigold will eventually come around and be friends! Thanks again, I don't know what I'd do without you!

[@francoscola5826]

How did it end up Joey?

[@twocathome399]

what happened with the cats?? i’m going through the exact same thing with my 4yr old and my 7month old rescue 🥺

[@cristinepatricio8098]

this seems to be answer part of my issue, my youngest is almost 1 and my oldest (resident cat) is almost 6. even tho I did proper introductions, Raza (youngest) always had too much energy, while Nova (oldest and resident) wasn't all that interested. after trying almost everything, me and my bf decided to get a 3rd cat, a kitten to play with Raza. And today I see this video I was like, oh my god... someone wanted me to see this lol

[@christophersmith8316]

It is an idea, but in general the kitten energy drops off after 1 year and the energy difference is much less.

[@ladybagels6523]

I got 9 month female and 3 month male they play pretty well since she still has a ton of energy she even bust open my bedroom door to announce she was ready to play with him for the first time

[@friedegglet]

When I have intentionally added a young cat to the family I have always gone with two and it works really well. I used to get two and when they would age and one pass over the rainbow bridge, when I was ready I would get two kittens. It seemed to give a new lease of life to the older cat while also giving them the chance to not be involved in the youngsters shenanigans. Over the past few years I have had strays turn up which has changed things somewhat, I get them vet checked and neutered and if they are a good fit with the others (ie the cat family vote yes), they can stay. Otherwise it's rehome. My oldest is 18 and nearly completely blind, my youngest around 2. There is respect to the old girl or a face cuffing to the youngers. She may not see them well, but she can still land a punch if provoked.

[@boohoo5750]

Thank you I would’ve never entertain getting a third cat. Brilliant thank you

[@kindaklueless]

This video came at the perfect time for me! I was just wondering what I could do to help better move along the relationship between my cat and my new 5 month old kitten. :)

[@madape13]

We are having the same issue. 6 weeks in with our 13 year Old vs 13 week old. Will try these suggestions for sure. Hanks heaps for the help, love your channel 😀

[@autumnpully5849]

im glad my cat gets along with my kitten. Had a kitten show up maybe a month ago at the back door and the rescue was full so we ended up keeping her around. First week was rough but with some proper introduction we got the 3 year kitty old playing with the kitten. Not sure how old the kitten is but shes prob about 3 lbs now. They play tag and wrestle (nicely).

[@bardlemon5635]

Thank you! I've been having this issue with my 17 year old, and 4 year old. The way you explained it makes so much sense. I always thought the younger one was just trying to establish dominance

[@RandyColby]

Oh, this video is exactly what we need in our lives right now.

[@MegaTine007]

Hi Jackson family. I have gained so much cat knowledge from this channel, I’m so grateful. My situation is a bit different : I have two grey cats brother and sister 1.5 years old, super close! They are so playful and affectionate. This month I introduced an adopted 10 week old kitty with that high energy (orange tabby) . The integration went smoothly and my cats accepted the new kitty. After the transition process they all eat together, sometimes sleep together, they run around and play together and my grey cats bathe him! I thought the bonding was going so well except for interactive playing with me….I have been trying my best to equal time with play but it’s been hard because whenever the new kitty comes into the space to interact with the toy my older cats just quit and walk away. Even when I try and bring them to another room to have one on one , they HATE when a door is closed and are obsessed with that instead of the toy lol I feel bad because they like to play it’s just not sharing with the new kitty. The way they walk away seems so sad. I think I may be overthinking it and maybe they just need to get used to the kitty being around and then they’ll engage with play again? Any advice for this situation where my cats accept the kitty but just don’t like playing around him. I feel bad they’re missing out. Thanks so much !!

[@rayehodgson1409]

Jackson, thanks for confirming that I had left too much on Baby's shoulders. I got Calí (kitten) for Baby's (3 years old) companion. Baby took good care of raising C - taught her all the good cat things. But Bae has had enough of Calí's high energy. I need to play more with Calí. I also adopted 2 of Calí's siblings (oops 2 litter...neighbor finally got dadcat neutered, momcat scheduled for spay). They are 8 weeks old. Plan is to have Calí spend energy with younger sibs (C is now 6+ months old) and take some pressure off my Baby. Baby gets lavished with affection multiple times daily.

[@chrisodebeek787]

I had a bit of the same situation, only my first cat is adult and still young and wants to play. Just had to get used to the kitten. They now start to play together and love to wake me up in the morning. The more the kitten grows and calms down,how better this is going.

[@jamiehime]

I recently adopted 4months old bonded pair. And I also have a 7y/o resident cat, who I thought was playful, until I my bonded kittens came 😸. The last part of the video when Jackson said the old one watching from his wheelchair is just like how it is at our house right now 🤣. My old cat doesn't like my twins but I've started feeding them together from the day they came. It's only been a week, but hopefully their relationship gets better.

[@immadolphin181]

Thank you, Jackson. Your videos really helped me introducing my cats to each other. Especially the feeding times when they are eating near each other. Allows them to check the other one out in a relaxed way.

[@That80sGuy1972]

I was blessed with a pair I had decades ago. Two males: a cat and a kitten. I went to the shelter for a kitten and ended up adopting the cat that was caged with it. Separating the two really freaked both out. I asked if the cat was the kitten's mom. He doted over the kitten on top of the other behavior. Their relationship was explained to me. While they were back in the cage, I looked over to the pair. The cat was grooming and comforting the kitten. Needless to say, I adopted both. At my home, I kept seeing the cat bringing the kitten to the litterbox. Within a week, he did not carry the kitten, he grabbed him by the scruff and walked him to it. That was the moment that I realized that using the litterbox was not in the cat DNA but something they did as a courtesy to their humans. I've tried to adopt feral cats who did litterbox behavior, only they did so by tipping over garbage cans and burying their mess there or using laundry piles. The kitten grew up to be a personality clone of his adopted dad, a totally chill cat. By year two, you would swear they were brothers from the same litter. As old cats, they were extremely tolerant of kittens... the only cats I ever had that were like that. They tended to pin "attacking" kittens down and groom them, rarely really swatting them. Playing with the pair was not so easy because they mainly focused on each other. The best cat toy I ever had for them was one where they swat a ball on a track back and forth... and each took an end. In a previous life, I believe they were twins.

[@stephaniemay9997]

I love this so much - what a special pair

[@That80sGuy1972]

@@stephaniemay9997 They were. Except for cats born from the same litter and raised together, I never again met any two cats that were that close. Just remembering them always brings a smile to my face.

[@rosetheunique9781]

My cat bites me before I go to bed he's playful in the night time and sleeps at day time.

[@TotallyAGoblin]

gotta play before bed, I got a kitten and I gotta spend about 2 hours wearing him out before I can get any sleep

[@rosetheunique9781]

@@TotallyAGoblin The same

[@rosetheunique9781]

@@user-iv7hn8bo7v I'm planning on making him some toys and also making a schedule so that when it's night time he knows play time is over.

[@Dignitatis]

@@TotallyAGoblin That's what I'm doing now with my 3 month old, it works!

[@ruthypie0708]

I feed my kitten right before i go to sleep. he poops, plays then he’s quiet during the night. I have kids so they play with the kitten through out the day which tires him out as well as playing with my dog. He loves to rumble around the floor with my dog, it kills so much energy for both of them. It’s been awesome.

[@AllThingsThatMatter]

You’ve read my mind! I haven’t watched yet but hoping for some help. All my kitten wants to do is love on and play with our older cat and he gets very aggressive and vocal with him as a result. He’s even taken to growling (those guttural ones we’re all familiar with) when the kitten is nowhere near him or if the kitten even moves or walks past! He’s become more reclusive, doesn’t sit in the living room at night and sleep next to us anymore... and my kitten doesn’t get the picture! Going to watch it now and hope for a solution!🤞🏼

[@AllThingsThatMatter]

Okay update after watching video! I do play with my kitten cause he has a lot of energy but maybe I need to ramp it up a bit more. I take him outside daily on a harness but it has to wait until the evening when it’s cooler due to the heat here in California. I don’t really have the opportunity to do it in the morning because of the heat and work. My older cat, however, is an indoor/outdoor cat (has been that way since my mom got him at a year old) and he escapes outside as soon as he’s allowed. This isn’t very unusual compared to before the kitten, but he is now much more impatient and vocal when he is not allowed out. My kitten will pounce on my cat to play and is immediately hissed, swiped and growled at. He will also sometimes chase my older cat because he thinks it’s a game. Besides additional play, how can I get him to stop jumping and chasing him? They eat breakfast and dinner at the same time frame every day and their bowls are close to each other. Here is no problem because they’re focused on eating. Sadly, a kitten playmate is not in the cards because it was difficult enough to convince my dad to get the kitten and he will definitely not allow another! If anyone has any additional advice specific to my cats, please let me know! I will be much appreciative!!🙏🏼

[@kellyfowler6426]

@@AllThingsThatMatter You and I are in a similar boat. I just rescued two siblings, girl and boy. My older cat, almost 9 years old, is not thrilled about it at all. They are extremely energetic and want to play with him sooooo much, but he doesn't want to. He has finally gotten so he will be in the room without constantly growling if they leave him alone, and fortunately they have each other to play with, but there are flair ups. I have noticed that when he reprimands them he actually doesn't try to hurt them. If he wasn't growling it would look like he is play wrestling. I am hoping things will get better with time.

[@jessicagrande6760]

@@AllThingsThatMatter How did the things work out for your cats? I'd really like to know, because I'm in this situation now...

[@AllThingsThatMatter]

@@jessicagrande6760 it’s definitely improved a lot with more time. My kitten is now a year old so he’s matured and settled down a little bit more, still very rambunctious and young, but they are getting along more. They’re definitely not best friends or very close, I think my older cat at 10 years is just too used to his solitary life, but he tolerates him. They do still fight, initiated on both sides, but it’s clear that it’s more play fighting than anything else. We also took my older cat to the vet and we have him on anxiety medication now to help calm him down. Around the same time as we got the younger one, we had to make him an indoor cat only instead of indoor/outdoor because of coyotes in the area, so that was not helping either!

[@jessicagrande6760]

@@AllThingsThatMatter Thank you for your response! My resident cat is also an outdoor/indoor cat, and I'm thinking of making her an indoor cat to spend more time with the new cat. Although I found it worrying that it didn't help in your case... :( Geeeze, why does it have to be soooo hard :((( My resident cat is not willing to sit on my laps anymore, she doesn't want any petting from me... that's so heartbreaking...

[@pwcho50]

Jackson, can you do a compilation video of all your videos you’ve made that pertain to shy/scared cats aka The Wallflowers?

[@EveryPeachInReach]

I would love that!

[@stephendeak4910]

Jackson you are off the chain OMG!!! off teaching with super stupid humor makes me break while learning soo much Tanks Cat you are beautiful keep em coming PS i'm all scribed up and ring that bell

[@unrulyjulie4382]

I'm lucky to have Cena as my BIG kitty boy. He is a 4 (ish) yr old newly neutered male who is a 20 lb (not fat) love bug. He absolutely adores kittens. He cleans, teaches, guards and plays with them.

[@noeraldinkabam]

5:19 holy crap, that’s a lot of food!

[@KittyKraftStudio]

My first cat was really upset with the first two kittens we got after him, but when he hit like 12/13 years of age he actually started loving kittens. He would play with them, sleep with them and let them groom him, so the kitten would grow up being loyal to him. 😂 He got so much more playful when a young cat was in the house. It was really cute.

[@cats1900]

This is good to hear. I may be getting 2 4 month old kittens in a month. I have my baby who is 12 and his 14 year old brother. After losing 3 of my older kitties this year, I really want some joy with new fur babies but I'm afraid my older kids will be upset.

[@KittyKraftStudio]

@@cats1900 I hope it goes well, kittens seemed to really keep my older cat young. Still normal for them to take a few days to fully warm up to each other, but my he embraced his new kittens pretty quickly.

[@cats1900]

@@KittyKraftStudio Thank you for the reply. Its been a tough year and the idea of getting 2 new furbabies warms my heart. I just worry my remaining older boys will be less then thrilled. They both are still very much into toys (lasers or interactive are their faves), I just don't want to make things worse since they lost 3 of their housemates.

[@alexagray8089]

This video has shed a lot of light for me! My family now has a 10 week old kitten we just got named Rhys, and a 6 year old cat who is our first kitty named Figaro. We kept Rhys in our room for the first three nights, set up base camp in there while Figaro has his own in our foyer where his food is. When we got home we gave Figaro Rhys’s blanket to sniff for scent swapping and then on the third day while Figaro was outside we let Rhys make himself comfortable around the house. We give them treats when they’re near each other but Figaro still won’t eat them if Rhys is next to him, they sniff nose to nose without swats, but sometimes Figaro will vocalize and hiss, and he has swatted a few times but only when Rhys is following him too closely. All Rhys wants to do is play and hunt and Figaro gets spooked if Rhys chases after him, which we try to not let him do, we then separate and let Figaro go back outside. It’s been less than a week since Rhys has been here but I’ve been trying to find a silver lining or a way to make this better for both as Rhys wants another cat to socialize with and Figaro just wants to lay around. We want him to be able to come back into the house comfortably and want to stay in it. He is inside-outside, that’s how he was when we got him, so we let him outside when he seems distressed. But he also seems a bit scared of Rhys too. So this video has helped give me a lot of insight on what to do going forward.

[@bluwud]

I'm dealing with something similar, I have a 9yo cat and recently got a 10ish week kitten. Kitten's really clingy and despite me trying to drain her energy with toys and all, she still wants to play with the other cat. They do chase each other around the house, dispute their territory over the 3rd litterbox and so on. My older cat, though, she's used to being the baby of the house and she'd always cuddle with me and sleep near me...now whenever I got some alone time with her, it's always interrupted by the kitten and she's really bothered by it, so much that she hisses at me, or at the kitten, or both, and she keeps her distance from me. I try to get her into play sessions and she's clearly interested and she does play. It's just that at that exact moment, even though we have like 50 different cat toys, the kitten wants to play with the toy we're already playing with, so my older one either loses interest or gets angry and leaves. It's pretty sad, because I never intended for her to feel replaced and I also miss her. I give her extra treats and all, but it doesn't make up for the fact that she's not the only cat in the household anymore.

[@caseyb4425]

I hope things got better. I'm going through the exact kind of situation right now with my 13 year old female and the approximately 2 month old male that I found/rescued. It is heartbreaking to think she is feeling alienated. Whoever would have thought that saving a baby kitten would turn out to be a bad thing....

[@matamgirl]

I have a six year old cat and a two year old cat. I got my older cat a kitten and he had a lot of energy to play with her. It was great but I got him from a cat cafe and I knew he liked other cats. I foster kittens now and let me tell you it’s hard when you have one kitten left. More than one will play with each other. One drives both my cats to distraction.

[@Liberty_Tree]

Thanks for all you do Jackson

[@aleyshahennessy7170]

Hi, I have a two year old Siberian (Binx) and a 10 week old kitten (Bobby). Binx was very unhappy initially having Bobby here, he’s only here 3 weeks, now Bobby is absolutely trying to fight him all the time and I’m so afraid Binky will hurt him by accident as he’s so much bigger. It’s as if Binx tries to humour him until Bobby comes at him repeatedly and won’t stop so we separate them. Any advice would be really appreciated!Binx for background was a rescue kitten and we had him since he was about 5/6 months old. He is also neutered. Binky tries to be near him but just relaxing and Bobby gets so excited every time he sees him. There’s been a few wrestling style moves where Bobby has been put down by Binx, like pinning him. Bobby is claws out and Binx isn’t. I know it’s early days yet but I’m terrified of Bob getting hurt.

[@ragdollcats4ever]

Thank you for this video, I am having a very similar issue in my house. I just ordered a treat puzzle for my problem child and will take him on more regular walks (He is already comfortable on a leash)

[@anyjen]

I've got a grumpy old lady cat, and when I found out there was a kitten that desperately needed a home, I did what Jackson suggests at the end... I got a second kitten. They became the best of friends and mostly left the old lady alone to be grumpy from the comfort of her own bed. It's hard to have three cats, monetarily, but it's worth it.

[@screamycat]

I've got a 14 year-old tortie and a 4 year old tuxedo, both girls. Fiance got the tux at 1 year old. She's turned my tortie into a kitten. Total 180 from when she lived with my mom's ginger boy. Went from living with a bully to having a sister.

[@Nottherebutthere]

Your vids that are popping up for me right now are very appropos right now. Just adopted youngster with 3 year old, because older cat has not accepted older one or male. I am at wits end.

[@pamelacristina9573]

This video is 2 years old and still so helpful! 🥰 I have a 14y/o cat and about to get two 4month old girls to bring some more mojo into our lives! I'm so excited and nervous on how our cat will react!!

[@alonsoyreginaquijano3729]

Hi Jackson. I’m from Peru. I have two female cats. Asia is 6 y/o and Luna 5 y/o. I adopted both when they were 5 weeks old. Asia is one year older. Their behaviour with each other is exactly the same as these two cats. It’s not an age difference issue. I think is jealousy and both want territory and human possession. They share eating space and litter with no problem. But my bedroom and tv room is Game of thrones.

[@keho723]

Exactly the video I needed right now!!

[@Maplesjade]

We've adopted an 11 month old female, very dainty very gentle, Zhia and our 3 year old Ezreal's playstyle is very rough. We introduced them slowly and seperayee them for the first two weeks, positive association, treats, the whole lot. They get on but randomly Ezreal (older cat) will grab her and bunny kick and bit her at the neck. She meows and hisses and he jumps off her most the time. We seperaye them but then they both go looking for each other immediately?? She's not scared or anything but yet she hisses. Very confused as to how to go forward, help Cat Daddy!!

[@victoriah593]

I have the same Problem!! My 3 year old plays or fights with my 2 month old kitten and I feel like they take it too far and my 2 month old hisses...

[@kitkelley6775]

i have a 10 year old and an 8 week old and theyre at a similar stage right now! 8 week old has his own space, and 10 year old is a climber and can get to places 8 week old cant! that helps for us, along with a lot of play and treats for both!

[@carlyehuynh1785]

Thanks for the video! Trying to figure out how to keep my cats from whacking each other 😬

[@melinnamba]

There is currently a very similar dynamic developing between my two cats. They are 8 and 10 years old and have been living together for 7 years. However the 10 year old has shifted to old man energy, while the 8 year old is still as playful as a kitten. And the tension between the two is rising. Her favorite game is playing chase, which I as a human can't simulate all that well, so I have been contemplating to introduce another cat that can match her energy.

[@MikePinter262]

Thanks for all the positive messages to help us help our cats!

[@kailynbuske6662]

This was super helpful thank you so much!

[@beetosbeef]

my two male cats are 7 and female cat is just 2 months old, this makes me really happy to know ive been doing the right thing with them meeting! they eat together and I play with her before she sees them so she's less crazy. both boys like watching her as she runs around and plays with me, but she's far too small right now to play with them properly. about 6x smaller than them big boys to be exact. they're both still a bit hissy with her currently but no swatting so far, that's gotta be a plus for cats who've never even met a kitten. earlier today she ran up to one of my male cats and rolled onto her back and he didn't hiss which was awesome. I was told male cats accept female kittens better than male kittens because they don't feel threatened, it's definitely showing. they aren't being aggressive and just walk away when she's being too high energy. I love cats!! ❤

[@sabrinaschirinzi9759]

What about when the little one eats everything ! He empties the bowl of the resident cat

[@kitha8913]

i have an 11 and 3 month old pals ... they play perfectly together... A liiiittle jealously from the big one , but nothing really bad :) Love your videos , mr. Galaxy :)

[@ct7437]

Exacte what we needed. Thank you so much !

[@zubuxstein]

I always follow JG recommendations of scent, making them eat behind a door, never see each other, and once the encounter on a positive vibe w adult supervision lol, yes about cats supervised. Do not ever let them figure it out and try as much as you can it is a good encounter. I was quick to bring the kitten when the domestic was 10 months old. JG knows well and his recommendations are accurate. They will have a little hissing, probably some pulled hair, but it will pay off. Bring a foster kitten if cannot keep another one. My two kittens/teenage cats are now best friends. The domestic cat has mellowed out, much more playful. I cannot have a 3rd, if ai want to keep feeding them quality food. Between cat litter, food, veterinary visits and just the time needed for them, two cats max for me at least for now.

[@jacquelynpowell7964]

I wish everyone would understand there is a limit to the amt. of cats they can comfortably have.Sometime 2 cats have a warm, affectionate relationship and if you adopt a third boy yoeu're in trouble!It can affect the balance in the household.Cats don't need just a home but TIME for each one. Time for grooming, cuddling, playing and being paid attention to. Also even a kitten may get sick or have a terrible accident and you'll end up with a huge vet bill. Be prepared. to have enough money. If you have 2 or 3 cats they could all get very sick at the same time! Adoption is an important time to really think about having ALL the resources you need for your cat.

[@evaparker7142]

I love how you describe the walk to school

[@jifi-0178]

Cat daddy Jackson - You had it easy. I walked backwards, in the snow, on my hands AND UP HILL both ways. Ya, times were tough. :-D

[@AxelQC]

Aslan is such a great name. It means lion in Turkish, and also comes from the Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe.

[@saige80]

I wish our interaction with our cats were as civil as this! We have an older female cat (14yrs old) and we recently took in two sister kittens at 2mos old (now 8mos old) and my older cat hates them with a passion!! This is crazy to see because our older cat is the sweetest cat but when she sees the kitten sisters there’s an evil that rages inside of her that we’ve never seen before. My older cat was a rescue that we took in when she was 5yrs old. So she’s been with our family by herself for 9 years. We thought because she was so sweet she would enjoy the company (naive of us…I know) but now they’re all stuck in the house together and it’s like watching an evil grandma scold her grandchildren every second they’re near each other. The kittens are naturally inquisitive of her but she won’t let them anywhere more than 5ft of distance without her hissing and going in for an attack. They’ve been together for 6 months now and I just think it’ll be like this until my senior cat crosses through the pearly gates. I sure hope I’m wrong because we’d love them all to get along.

[@carinawoodmansee9699]

Okay..... We had a cat in our house who did not like other cats at all, very jealous kitty. At the same time, very lonely kitty so we got her a kitten to play with and she just LOVED IT. However, he turned out to be a very playful kitty and a fairly large one too but peaceful. As he got bigger she disliked him more and more everyday, he was such a handful. So yeah we did go for a third kitten. Guys.... He was so excited he hardly tolerated the introduction waiting period. One day we had the kitten in the living room with a screen up so they could sniff an see each other without touching and at one point, I got busy doing something and the kitten got out😮. I didn't even notice for a little while but when I finally figured it out those two buds had completely bonded and it's been that way for a year now. So having a young kitten around for another young cat to play with will make all happy 👍👍👍

[@MadameZoosh]

I have two senior cats (13) and I'm currently cat-sitting for a friends' cat, which is about 1 year old. The young boy was found in a field as a very young kitten and then grew up around a dog, so his body language is a bit different from what my cats are used to. The first "date" our cats had was to see if they would basically get along and not unalive each other on sight, since I know my cats do get along with dog visitors at least. I wouldn't say it was the best experience that could've been, but nobody wanted to harm each other. Basically it was like in the video: young cat wanted to play, old cat didn't understand wtf this other cat is doing here and why he's "talking" so weirdly. That was the first time I heard my male cat growl and hiss, btw. The young cat was mostly interested in playing and exploring and it took a while for him to understand that growling means "back off". Still, we decided to give it a try with the option to relocate the younger cat to another catsitter (or just keep the visitor locked in a room by himself) if needed. It's day 4 out of 8 now and they co-exist way better than on day 1. The young boy learned my seniors body language quite well now. They eat next to each other (mostly my male cat and the young one. my female cat is a grumpy old granny that prefers to stay at a safe distance from him) and sometimes even attempt to play together. However, it is more than obvious that the energy levels don't match at all. All in all it was/is a learning experience. I learned that my cats aren't territorial and they could get along with additions to the family (though I would introduce them the correct way then, with separate rooms, etc.), but mostly that I would definitely get two kittens so they can exhaust each other. 😅 With this, I just wanted to share my experience but also say thank you, Jackson! For everything! 🖤

[@evhimwtfan]

This is my 2 cats exactly. I think my 8 year old cat gets tired just looking at my new 4 month old kitten. She wants to play with him, but he's just not interested at all.

[@sbkmarkel]

THIS! I wish he would discuss more troubleshooting stuff in detail. Like what do you do if you did the intro right, but the resident cat starts swatting the kitten, and the kitten doesn't stop wanting to play and doesn't get the hint? Let them continue? Limit the time together? How much time? How many times per day? And more video clips of what "normal" swatting is like and what concerning behavior is like, etc etc... It's all great info, but way too general.

[@evhimwtfan]

@@sbkmarkel i did supervised together time. It took a couple of months for the resident cat to initiate play. He has enough after a few chases and then lets new cat know he's had enough. If she doesn't get the hint, I step in and play with her. Also, I think that as long as they're not hissing and growling at each other a few swats (no scratching!) are okay. You will learn to notice aggressive behavior the more you know your cat.

[@rel256]

Hi, how are your cats now? Are they getting along? Playing? I have 12 yo and 2 months old kitten :) Going through this hissing issue

[@evhimwtfan]

@@rel256 Well he is now almost 12 and she's 3 so the energy thing is almost matched. They, sadly, never became friends, but at least they tolerate each other and no fighting, so that's a plus.

[@cateburnham473]

We have a now 11 year old and a now 7 month old kitten. Our older cat was 10 when we got our kitten who was at the time 4 months old. Our kitten doesn’t get tired and occasionally jumps on our older cat. It’s getting harder and harder to distract the kitten and he often gets tired of his toys. We purchased the bully spray which has helped some but now it’s almost like it makes the kitten want to lunge again. I don’t think another kitten is the answer. It has been stressful enough with our new addition. I feel frustrated

[@rebeccaliebregts]

I got a second cat (kitten) about 2 months ago. We are still stuck on just feeding together and playing next to each other. The moment my kitten gets close to the older cat, my older cat freaks out. Even across the room, my older cat is hissing (and growling) at the kitten. Before getting even close to her. It seems like she's more scared of the kitten than aggressive though, as she keeps her ears up. We work with the base camps, schedules, and plenty of affection and treats, but it's not working yet. My older cat even seems to grow a bit adverse to my partner sometimes, which works in the kitten's base camp (the study). Unfortunately, we do not have enough room for a third cat (and basecamp). We're just going to keep trying and might try just letting the kitten roam free throughout the entire apartment. See what her big sister will do...

[@twocathome399]

how did it go?? need the advice please sams situation 🥺

[@rebeccaliebregts]

@@twocathome399 They don't hang out together, but they live next to each other peacefully enough. It helps if they are around the same age; my older cat just wants to chill and kittens would rather play. Simply keep up routine, switching territories and swapping scents and it will work out eventually. (Whether it takes a month or a year.)

[@NatYourAverageNerd]

I got lucky with my second cat experience! I had prepared the base camp and was ready to do the several-day introduction process, but my new kitten (3-4 months?) leapt from the box and met Macchiato (my 8.5-month-old Torti girl) immediately. I supervised the entire time, tried to be calm about it, watched them play, and tried to separate the little boy as planned after an hour. When I did that, Macchiato started meowing, which set the kitten off, so I reintroduced them and they started play-fighting. I tried putting him in the travel carrier so that they could be in the same room together and process each other. Then, they both started meowing again at me, so I let him out. Less than two days later, Macchiato started grooming him and he would follow her around wanting her attention. On Day 3, he started to request her grooming, so she now does so and he rarely growls or hisses if she goes a bit too rough. The fact that they bonded so quickly was not only a huge weight off my shoulders; it was a sign that I had found the right pair of kitties to share my heart and home with. They now sit together, play with each other (and me), eat together, and even meow at me or use the litter box at the same times. I couldn't be luckier.

[@beetosbeef]

thats awesome! just this week I've had to introduce my new 2 month old(Percy) to my two 7 year old brother cats (Archie and Merlin). I was going to do the typical process, but on day 1 Archie got curious and pushed open the door of her safe room to steal her food. coming face to face he hissed at her and took off. day 3 now and all 3 eat meals together and can sit/play in the same room (supervised). they both hiss at her regularly but no swatting or attacks fortunately! I'm taking it as a positive

[@davidhamid8025]

I have a 17yo female and a 10 week old male kitten I just found outside. Help! He’s very friendly, she won’t let him near her. Her bubble is getting smaller though

[@SSsmith24]

David Hamid time lots of time and keep them separated and just introduce them slowly,,, let them see each other they will get to know each other,,or u sure hope so

[@davidhamid8025]

T Tagg I ended up finding a new home for the kitten I found. My 17yo cat is much happier now that he’s gone, but I do think she was starting to tolerate him. It was a month with both of them.