An Introverts' Guide to Approaching Strangers

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The funniest thing about the approach is the word itself. It even sounds creepy. APPROACH. Sounds like ENCROACH. I don't want anyone approaching anyone. When you are focused on simply being with like-minded, interesting people, you aren't going to be thinking about approaching. You will naturally be GRAVITATING towards the right people without even thinking about it.
This is how you take anxiety out of the approach. By giving it some PRESENCE and some PURPOSE. Which is coincidentally (not so coincidentally actually 🤣) the topics I obsess over in my free audiobook.
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[@95lamp]

at last introverts getting the advice so they very much need but to introverted to ask. Thank you :)

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Hahah Neena best comment. Pinning

[@teamchad0711]

And you are famous and trashed my life.

[@deserea1011]

THANK YOU FOR THIS COMENT!!!

[@bananasrfr14]

Your advice usually goes way beyond romantic attraction. I really appreciate how applicable these insights are in the office and with friends. Keep up the great work

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Of course Pablo. That's my goal.

[@farahhasbany6778]

I love how you pointed out that by planning to approach a person is also a plan to objectify them. Couldn’t agree more, we get so caught up by what to say to impress others that we end up missing the whole thing.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Yup!! Ahh farah I’m so glad that resonated with you. I’m never sure who’s going to connect with something

[@moritz1068]

I like how you’re giving genuine advice on how to live a better life and not just being like those other youtubers that say shit like “women want you to say this“ or “do this one thing to be attractive to women“

[@AnthonyRecenello]

yeah. those guys are jabronies. 🤣

[@zakariaslayer715]

totaly agree

[@samanthaharper9522]

I completely agree, the best connections are formed when people don’t have their guard up. Taking your mind off of having to talk to people and instead just existing and giving off good vibes makes such a difference! Great video!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Thanks Sam!

[@gabrielguzman6018]

What if you don't have good vibes

[@Rickyp0123]

@@gabrielguzman6018 As someone who has struggled with depression, I get your point. It can completely kill your vibe. The trick to overcoming this is coincidentally built into the advice in the video... if you are engaging with your passions and interests, that will naturally bring out your good vibes. Maybe that won't be much at first, but as you engage more and more, and become more comfortable letting your guard down and letting yourself fully enjoy whatever it is you like, the good vibes will come naturally.

[@Trucosdemundogatu]

Secretly listening to the other person's interest its really the key, 4 years ago, a had this girl classmate who was the leader of the class, and had a huge squad of friends, so i wanted to be friends with her too, she was so cool, and as soon as i saw she liked Shawn Mendes, i went " do you like shawn? I like it too!!" And two weeks from there, i was being invited to parties, birthdays, i was part of that big group of friends, and nowadays shes still my bestfriend. :)

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Hell yeah Maria!! You’re an inspiration

[@graced.6711]

It is also a great way to find red flags. People will often be their true self around the friends they are already comfortable with. They will say things they may filter out while talking to you, someone they just met. This way you get to know their true colours before you get too attached. I had this classmate in my master's class with whom I had a really nice, 'deep' conversation once. And that piqued my intetest in him. I started finding him attractive, where I had barely noticed him before. But this one day I was just listening in on him talking with his usual friend group (who were also my classmates) on our way back home from the class in a tram. And I couldn't help but notice that he made a couple of low key homophobic comments (nothing serious or truly offensive, but for someone I'D DATE, that was certainly a dealbreaker for me) and I could retreat before I had to waste any time or energy or emotion and just move on to better things!

[@Matt_Nor]

I like the mindset of "Don't overthink, think less, do more, have common sense and be kind and happy" The first thing we seem to forget is we are all humans on the same boat but social media, news and other platforms have really painted a new not so healthy reality imo #RelationshipsAreEverything

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Mathias, I completely agree. Objectifying people is what helps us make money. But if we're gonna get really deep-if we were all "enlightened", I wouldn't be wearing a gold chain and a fancy blue shirt. We'd all be walking around naked without a shred of insecurity. It'd be a different world. So the balancing act of our "egoic lifestyle" mixed with an enlightened headspace can be difficult. But once it finally gets dialed-in, life gets much easier, more satisfying and peaceful.

[@Matt_Nor]

@@AnthonyRecenello I couldn't agree with you more, Anthony. And in todays society, our options are close if not near limitless to how we express ourselves. Whether it is through material, our looks, or personality. As strange as it may sound... i would call it a art. An art to master. Our way of self expression and mastering it to leverage the message we want to send. Not to forget the power and influence we *ALL* possess and carry around. It's about how we choose to use it. Some don't or never realize the potential they have, and some are on the journey exploring it. Discovering it. If it makes sense? Haha! And that's what i really like about your content. Being yourself regardless of who you are, and building your own personal network with beautiful people... without the unnecessity society sometimes force feeds you to believe. Oops?! Hah! I got a bit carried away, haha

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Yes well you are an artist. There are a lot of people that aren’t artists so they can’t live like this at least consciously.

[@jacklim8184]

not necessarily looking for dating tips, i just watch all your vids because youre very entertaining, but i really think that you give great advice i (a desperate introvert) met the person im currently interested in by doing literally exactly what youre saying - to the t - lmao i gravitated towards a group i had things in common with at a place that suited me (a nerdy convention + a group of cosplayers that were wearing costumes from my fav show that i was also wearing), they invited me into the conversation and the rest is history. just like... awesome. approaching someone from a stance of genuine interest and friendship usually jibes way better than OKAY HITTING ON A PERSON IM GONNA HIT ON THEM OKAYOKAYOKAY, y'know?

[@OmegaF77]

Our boy in the striped pajamas giving us the advice we need. Thank you.

[@sophialarosa5864]

this is one reason I'm glad I'm still in school, because it seems so much harder to meet people once you're out

[@maced640]

True. Because you have no reason to leave your house except for work.

[@20KingofKings10]

on the bright side you dont have to spend time with toxic people and can create a supportive enviroment based on your interests

[@iFkNxLegend]

If you ever leave your house and the pandemic calms down it’s pretty easy. Just walk up and say hi

[@artisticagi]

Going to events but this is true too.

[@anna.318]

SAME. That's why I'm dreading life after college😭

[@aoir3y259]

Thank you for the video man. Many people may feel ashamed to look for answers to these questions but this really opened my eyes to better socializing experiences I could be having.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

My goal is to make this stuff mainstream

[@gabytovar6868]

Anthony: Maybe she likes The Strokes... Me: Bruh, I love The Strokes

[@Leo-ig5vu]

i love the strokes too & the wallows 😉

[@Theloveinabubble]

This is gold! As an introvert, I met guys I liked (and dated some) doing my favourite activities. It is way easier, it feels more organic and also you get to know the person in their real form. Even though I would go sometimes to nightclubs or a party, it wasn't the best setting for me to meet strangers (maybe some friends of friends)

[@useraccount4542]

Always look forward to the uploads! Also just super helpful Anthony. Something super down to earth about how you explain things. The part about “performing”, how approaching as a “manly” guy or even considering an approach style is perforative. Not completely being yourself. I related to this with more than just talking to girls but just with anyone really. Another great video

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Ali just know that your comments are what keep me coming back each week to make more vids. Please don't ever stop. 🙏🏻

[@arby7316]

As a person who naturally plans every single thing I say, this video has been very eye-opening for me. Thank you for making this

[@katrin6388]

still waiting for the "how to make friends" video lol

[@MrCaw77]

I notice girls do this all the time. For instance me and my friend are talking at a bar, and I notice that these two other girls are across the bar, and then suddenly talking louder right near us

[@josipistuk7902]

From all the videos ive watched you taught us that we should have the mindset to first to make friends and from that love will follow.Easier way to approach people from my point of view is to not expect anything,just go introduce yourself and be you.Find the middleground to talk about something and youre good to go. P.S. This is how a real men talks.Women are not a object and we often forget that.

[@jaz9053]

Can you please do a “dating expert reacts to” Jeff and Natalie PLEASEE

[@delilahcarrasco858]

“ they are not a thing, people are not to be WON” Spoken like a real Man, thank you for reminding people of that. Much love and blessings. 💗☺️✨

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Delilah!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@makeru6781]

This video is perfect. I’m going on vacation with my buddy and I wanted to meet new people but meeting new people is really nerve racking

[@AnthonyRecenello]

🙏🏻

[@enderlie7885]

Imagine how amazing it would be if all this would be thought in Schools , like everyone would and will agree that KZbin is more learning sourse than any other... And actually it is sad :(

[@BertyBertsson]

Being an introvert isn't the same as being socially awkward. An introvert is someone who has a low social battery. They get tired of hanging out with other people. It's not the same as not being able to talk to other people. It's a common misunderstanding and something I hate. I am introverted, but I am also incredibly social and radiate confidence in the company of others, but I get incredibly overwhelmed by being social. I can only talk to other people for maybe 30 - 60 minutes before I get an headache or anxiety because I'm feeling "trapped". I don't want to be somewhere I have talk without being able to leave when I want to. I hate that feeling. Though no one can tell, because I am the one talking the most and cracking jokes left and right while everyone laughs. Every time I tell someone I hate being social and that am an introvert they get confused and surprised. It's always the same. I have to explain what an introvert really is every time. Only introvert people actually know what it really means to be one. Every one else including this channel thinks it's the same as not being socially competent. EDIT Okay, maybe I misunderstood you. I'm an idiot.

[@dahliaherrod4301]

I understood you perfectly well and happen to agree with you. I've had that same conversation myself with people. I worked retail for years which really pushed any remaining social anxiety out of me. I can last a few hours if given time to prepare before my battery is completely drained then I need at least a day to recover. I've learned to accept this trait about myself and understand it's not some character flaw or personality trait issue. I will say Anthony's advice though is very useful for someone like me who does have a hard time finding like-minded people to befriend and/or date.

[@guillen2789]

But what if the s/o you want to talk to is sitting by herself on her phone all quiet?? And what if you see someone in the mall or grocery store where they are moving around? Or what about if they're with friends? How would you talk to her without disrespecting or interrupting

[@felipebaratacerceau4510]

Great questions. I see very few situations in which you can use what Anthony is saying here.

[@davidobrien3669]

I 100% agree. I joined a dodgeball league 7 years ago and it changed my life. I used to be the shyest person ever and had no friends. Now while I am still shy at times, at dodgeball I am super confident and I have so many friends from there.

[@pixielou4135]

Late to this vid but just wanted to say thanks for giving exactly the info us introverts need to hear! As someone with social anxiety I stress a lot about “approaching” people - I feel I often put them on pedestals as I try to “earn” their attention. But this advice was really calming and takes the pressure out of social interactions - you reminded me all my strongest friendships were formed naturally because we had common interests or gravitated toward each other, before I had a chance to say “ok I’m going to go speak to this person” and stress myself out. Just discovered your channel and loving your vids!

[@FiIIerguy]

Great advice on meeting strangers. Sucks that too I'm too introverted to approach strangers.

[@DamyLv]

good and very easy to apply tips, however i still feel struggling. Both my job and interests involves 99,9% men and i have few chance to have girls around. I feel ok talking to stranger and meeting new people, my "issue" is creating and finding those opportunities (mostly because busy crowded and loud places makes me feel uncomfortable). I know all i probably need is to leave behind something to make space for something new... change interests.. any advice for this?

[@lynnes1864]

maybe develop a genuine interest in a hobby that has a more even male-female ratio?

[@saltyshapeervessel2.062]

Welp.. I'm a piece of crap.. Guess I'm a psychopath

[@yolanda9730]

What if you have Social Anxiety Disorder? And can't even go out? Or don't have friends to go out with? Tough one right?

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Hi Yolanda, I recommend checking out my free class at soulmatemethod.com

[@yolanda9730]

@@AnthonyRecenello Thanks so much Anthony

[@yolanda9730]

@@AnthonyRecenello I started listening to the soulmatemethod but it's targeted for Men.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Just change the words to women and you’re good 👌🏻

[@akiraasmr3002]

Im a bisexual dude and ive been using this to talk to another dude I like and so far we have become good friends finding out we have the same interests and still working on maybe more while ive been lightly flirting with him and hes responded good so far we have been getting alot closer thanks to these advice tips.

[@battledraw]

Do you think people need to be "compatible" to be in a relationship or could you build a strong relationship with anyone?

[@AnthonyRecenello]

You could, but the question is do you want to? Everything is a personal choice. I need compatibility since I’m a super passionate dude.

[@lzi9452]

Anthony Recenello that’s interesting, oddly enough I find that the strongest relationships and deepest bonds I have come with people I initially disliked, my closest friends are people by default I would otherwise hate

[@bloems.2505]

Maybe you can do a podcast and tell your own experience?

[@AnthonyRecenello]

That's the plan. Just waiting to hit an audience threshold. Right now not enough people would listen. Thanks for thinking of that though!

[@koalakid1884]

"I am not a prize to be won"

[@WinVault]

Damn so happy I watched this, kinda been thinking a lot about this and concluded to the same points you made Best thing I can do is be on my purpose and strive to become the best version of myself but at the same time put myself in social communities of shared interests and be more socially biased! :)

[@katrin6388]

but how do i approach them without coming off invasive?

[@Cocolicious1111]

I feel like I don't have much social experience, exception of being online but that..well personal experience shows negatively. I really appreciate you and all your videos! It's helping me learn and adapt to socializing in 2020 heh ^^ I think I've been viewing it wrong when I should just be vibing and not acting like someone or something I'm not. God bless you!! You are helping so many people, keep it up please

[@vml9314]

I find it very easy get excited about randoms conversations and think about things I’d like to say, but this is where being shy comes in and I just CAN’T start talking to strangers

[@evancross]

hey man, loving the audiobook! haven't finished yet, but it's good stuff.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Great. Keep me updated king

[@Chrisopsful]

Thanks for answering my questions. :)

[@AnthonyRecenello]

You da man 🙏🏻

[@elinbird00]

Wait so I have a question what if ur to embarrassed to get ignored? I used to be very bad at approaching ppl I got kind of better but i still always have that fear

[@rfridaythe13th]

can we get a part 2 to this video. i'm already successful in this stage. however i have a problem realizing when woman are interested. woman are contacting me. should i be inviting them to my place? try to kiss them at the end of the night?

[@NevahLose]

Christoph, your accent is fine, and thank you for making your video questionso that Anthony made this one...

[@Chrisopsful]

Then iam glad. :)

[@yasmin-sq5pi]

i just found your channel and i already love it. sometimes i wish you were brazilian, so you could react to some brazilian ‘couples’ haha love from brazil 🇧🇷❤️ amazing video btw

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Hey yasmin! So glad you found me!

[@nicky1259]

Why are you so attractive?

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Are you a bot? 🤣

[@nicky1259]

@@AnthonyRecenello Hmm...maybe?

[@GirlDo3]

@@AnthonyRecenello lmaoo

[@juliamarinho5343]

That was what I was thinkin about...

[@williamizm3745]

Only one advice really works for that. Count 3 seconds and go in. Adjust after.

[@Bag1]

I have never clicked this fast in my life

[@GalenAus]

i dunno man i feel like a lot of women resent being approached an events where they are at to have fun, and not be hit asked out on a date. It's great for making friends for but not necessarily for pursuing it further

[@indoorphine]

Jeez this is really good shit. I love intelligent men, Anthony is super intelligent and perceptive. Waiting for more content Tony

[@isabelmccormick4972]

I also had a thought for a video idea.. I think it'd be cool to break down why characters (like Tommy Shelby) have a certain charm/likeabilty/pull, despite kinda being a bad dude lol

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Thanks! yeah that would go under the Classic Charm series. Just suggest that to me in comments or on instagram.

[@gerardnll2]

I love how you throw your strokes albums opinion in there xDD totally agree tho. ;)

[@CrazyzzzDudezzz]

Hey bro. I like your work a lot and I think you’re a smart dude. I’m going to level with you because I want people like you to succeed. You can take this or leave it, completely up to you, but I’d feel like a bastard keeping this from you. Truth is, your videos on the dating psychology of celebrities will take you far. I’ve never seen someone do this nor to such a professional caliber. It’s new, educational, and honest. I’m not here to tell you what to do or what videos to make. You are at total freedom to run your channel any way you want. I just thought I would let you know so when you have 1 million subscribers, I can say I called it.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Thanks bud. I 100% agree with you. But if my subscriber is going to send me a video question, you can damn sure believe that I’m going to make a video for him answering it. Also this is only the first video of four this week. 😉

[@chriscolt9626]

Soooo... just go stand over by hot girls. Check.

[@Vapoor]

Hi Anthony, I really appreciate all of the work you do. Especially this video because I have had really bad approach anxiety that I've slowly been working on the past couple of years. Your analysis is very eye-opening. I hope I could get your insight into a question. What are your thoughts on trying to reconnect with someone after two years? It previously ended with my insecurities getting the better of me. The pandemic isn't the only reason, but it (and other factors) has made me reflect more on that situation. Thanks again for all your hard work!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Thanks so much vapoor. Based on my massive experience in this area and coaching in this area, I suggest you forgetting about that and meeting new people. 👍🏻

[@nadinem5981]

But how do you do this when you’re not in a situation where you can just get closer? Very specific situation

[@Retr0ver4]

Public transport terrifies me.

[@KreeZafi]

Bold of you to assume I leave the house

[@MCSorry]

Yo this video is really relaxing 😌

[@professorcubanmalone9954]

Dope video as always! It would be cool to see a comparison video of david duchovny and Hank Moody

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Lol I think they’re basically the same person.

[@rinaldohricko]

But it's so hard in corona times. I live in Belgium and you can't go to social gatherings and cool stuff :( Bars are not open. But bruh.. What I'm I talking about? I'm 16. We have this weird system at our school bc of corona. For example when you are with 10 kids in class. The half has to come to school and the other half has to do work at home. So I don't see my friends when I'm at school :/ I have a girl bestfriend and when it's lunch time we can go out to have lunch. But I can't go with her all the time like in the past because she has a boyfriend. When I'm with them I feel like a third wheel. This system is making me very depressed and I have no one to have lunch with or just make new friends.

[@Demitrival]

Anthony looking cute to me lately

[@borken87]

@Anthony Recenello: "Introverts Guide"... 1. Go to a place with a lot of people. I despise places with a lot of people. 2. Go find your tribe. I don't have a tribe. I don't like hanging out with multiple people that I do not know. Maybe I am comfortable around 10 or even 20 people that I do know some of but I'd rather have some kind of surgery without anesthesia than to meet more than 2 strangers at the same time. I also do not really want a thousand friends. I want one or two max. Who has time for more? I want a woman who is my best friend to spend a life with maybe. However I do not want to go into some bar, club, or whatever and meet a couple strangers at the same time. I also do not really have a lot of hobbies or interests. I am very introverted normally. I can get really comfortable with people I like and I am up to do nearly anything with these people. However alone I do not even like doing anything at all. Due to the nature of my job I moved to a city where I do not know a single person. My collegues all live in different cities and I have literally not a single person to do anything with here. I forced myself to do stuff alone but i DREAD it. It is literally torture for me. I dread going into a bar alone. I dread meeting a couple of strangers from maybe a sportsclub or something alone....There is not much I am compassionate about. I like shows and movies and some computergames but I really do not want to talk to strangers about these things because while I am interested in watching "game of thrones" I am really not interested to discuss it very much with different people. I would like discussing it with a person that I already know and like but not with strangers. And here is the huge problem. Where do I find "my tribe" when I have literally nothing I enjoy doing with other people for the sake of the sing I do? I enjoy doing pretty much anything with my best friend but I would not enjoy any activity with a stranger. In short:I do not enjoy meeting new people. I DREAD meeting multiple strangers at once. 3. Just "gravitate" to the people that you relate to the most. As mentioned before I do not know if I relate to anyone before I get to know them. I relate to a certain kind of humor, to honesty and to people accepting me even if we have very different views of certain points in life. I do not know if I relate to a person before getting to know them one bit. I don't "relate" to someone just because he likes the same show in netflix or movie or game that I like. 4. I want to you to decide what you are interested in. That is the problem. I am literally not interested in much and the things I am interested in are mostly things I can do alone almost as well as with someone together. I am in my mid 30s now and I have thought about this a lot. I have tried out hobbies and stuff but I really do not find anything. I really am not enjoying asking strangers questions or speaking about the books, shows, movies or games that I like. This might be okay with someone that I already know a bit and like but I would dread starting a conversation over something like that. 5. You say "forcing" conversation is bad. Every single conversation I have with a stranger where I do not have some kind of "mission" (like getting a recipie at the farmacy or the tires in my car changed) feels HELLA FORCED for me. So the things I DO like are pretty nerdy and I'd say the percentage of women in these areas is veryyyyy low. So dragging myself to some kind of computer game or movie convention or meeting or club will result in me being in a room with 95% men. Most of the women there will be there because they are together with one of the men there. I do have literally ZERO interest in meeting any men. I do have zero interest in meeting men to be friends with either. I dread the situation in whole. I like hiking. I enjoy hiking alone a fair bit and hiking with a view people THAT I ALREADY KNOW a bunch. I dread hiking with a group of strangers. I went once with a group of 4 people. I dreaded it 10 minutes in. I thought about jumping off that damn mountain a view times. They were boring as hell, talking about boring shit all day, their humor was not even in the same galaxy than mine and I know after 5 minutes that I do not want to spend another minute of my life with any of these people. Again "Look for events"... I DREAD GOING TO FUCKING EVENTS. Meeting 1 stranger or having a conversation with one person I don't know is lightly stressful. Having a conversation with 2 people is painful, 3 gets dreadful and having to talk to 4 or 5 people with the intend to make a friend or something is pure agony. It is not that I fear people or speaking to them. I speak to small groups of people and give presentations for a living but I have a goal there and they are there to listen to me. It is different. Telling introverts that its "easy" to connect with people in a certain group is like a monkey telling a fish how easy it is to climb a tree. Maybe I am not only introverted, maybe I am on the edge of the spectrum, maybe I am a sociopath. For sure I am really wierd. Meeting people is ALWAYS hard. Meeting new people is VERY HARD!

[@felipebaratacerceau4510]

Sure it's an out of the box thing to do, but I don't think it helps very much in bar or club situations. In clubs the music is often too loud for you to listen even to your buddy who's talking to you, so listening to others, even people who are close, is often impossible. In bars/pubs, you're in a table, the girl you want to build a relationship with is in another and the indistinct sound of people talking together often makes impossible to hear what some specific person is saying.

[@rafael6049]

Hey Anthony, great video! I was wondering how can someone improve their social skills (interaction)? By the way, glad to see some actually good content and talent on youtube besides these bullshit yt pickup artists. Keep it up 🙌

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Thanks Rafael. That’s part of my intention. Clean out the scum PUA ok youtube. First of all, you need to be meeting as many new people as possible. I can give you all the advice in the world but the real first advice is go meet 1000 new people and get back to me with your results.

[@rafael6049]

@@AnthonyRecenello yeah Im working on that eheh Do you do any type of online coaching?

[@adamcollins915]

Best way to combat approaching fear - have a few drinks.

[@tonii5690]

Works for me. It also helps with people who are boring.

[@Vincenze]

Love this. Was at a cafe today and there were a couple of women in front of me and I was curious about them. Heard them mention a sport I'm into a few times and chimed in, turns out they go to the same gym as me, and we had a pretty good chat. CONTEXT. It's great to have this style and open up opportunities especially in a world that's becoming more and more isolating. :)

[@tanonymous3678]

Hopefully after the quarantine, everything you said will help me to go out and to be an extravert.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

BOOM. Did you know you can actually TURN YOURSELF into an extrovert? It's magical. I teach it.

[@Spectre-ni1hv]

love your vids, there really helping to change my mindset

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Happy to help!

[@graced.6711]

Omg that 'Yeah Yeah' was sooo German it was almost a JA! 😂

[@Chrisopsful]

Just realized it. :D

[@Medietos]

Anthony, if you coached me to get into easy dating with equal-level men within my wanted age-span and sphere of interests, not being (ab)used and not being co-dependent not get sleepless, not dirty myself in over-arousal, and getting well married, I'd see to it that you received a Nobel Prize.

[@gabygaray7304]

I just wanna say I love watching your videos! I learn something new every time 😌

[@AnthonyRecenello]

🙏🏻

[@Proposal12]

Good advice , impossible during lockdowns ...

[@godididiya9091]

Hello Anthony, I must say I really enjoy your contents. I just allowed my youtube on auto play and I randomly landed on your Channel and then I couldn't stop😂😂😂. Thank you😊😊😊.

[@jocelynsteffens1427]

now this is the video i needed

[@37thraven]

You're describing my life! I even jokingly call myself a "meetup junkie" these days. Not saying that to humble-brag - I spent a good 20 years painfully shy, introverted, always feeling distanced from people, talked over, unless in one-on-ones. And through a lot of trial and error, and an explosion of growth in college, public jobs, etc. I got to a point where people assume I'm a raging extrovert. The beautiful thing about Anthony's tactics is that slowly people will start to want to open up to you. Most importantly, take note of what he said: stick to what makes you you. You're just trying to find ways for that to shine a little

[@jtcoates2435]

You're amazing keep up the great work!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

NO U R!!!

[@graced.6711]

So... now I just have to find a Jenna Marbles fan club in Berlin. Got it!

[@GirlDo3]

But how do you become friends with guys? My 17 yrs old ass finds them mean and most of them ignore me for my attractive friends. I really don't get them lol.

[@DAMNBros]

The first two Strokes’ albums were indeed God albums

[@AnthonyRecenello]

You said it partna

[@roxanep.3557]

I've never thought of meeting people in that way, it seems so much easier than before😂

[@nadinem5981]

I don’t have natural social faculty or whatever

[@shoham2792]

this sounds like a legit good advice. how didn't I think of it before?

[@432hurtz]

you're a spitting image of my 6th grade. math teacher lmao, keep up the videos though man.

[@Otawee]

Problem is I don't know single place for the people with my interests and my culture in the country I live in

[@rinaldohricko]

I live in Belgium and I agree with you

[@torimorrow9499]

I struggle with this thank you for the informative advice!

[@benjaming9912]

Step 1: Meet people Covid: yeaaah lets not do that

[@haryanshkharadi560]

do cillian murphy please i beg you

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Lots of requests for him so I’ll add to list

[@yassinesousi949]

can you do the camila cabello and lauren jauregui (camren) tell us that camren is real

[@jacobjones5470]

Anthony, would be very interested to hear your opinions on nofap or semen retention. Do you think it is an effective way to start bringing relationships into your life or does it do more harm than good? Thanks for the excellent content!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

I think it’s silly. Porn however, is a problem for men.

[@veronica.theswamphag]

i love this shirt so much I can't even focus

[@samlucas6827]

You should coach skippy

[@AnthonyRecenello]

I reached out to him. DM him and maybe he’ll accept.

[@androssteague]

What if you don't have natural social faculties? sorry but I need a script I need to know what I'm going to say before I say it. After all I am an introvert.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

You do have natural social facilities. And you do not need a script. And being introverted has nothing to do with this. You might not even be an introvert. What you have is an ego that is protecting you from rejection. You have to acknowledge this before you can grow past it. You are no different than me. It’s now time for you practice meeting new people. There’s no way around it. Having a script will only hurt your progress. 🙏🏻

[@OutOfTheBoxThinker]

I don't know any communities I relate to where single women are common enough to have a chance randomly encountering one. From LEGO to board games, those communities are all predominantly male, and the few women in those community are either not single, not straight or not mentally stable. Also, people tend to go to events and other places in tigh-knit cliques, and such cliques usually aren't very open to allowing strangers in. This makes it pretty impossible for me to meet single women "in the wild" that are even remotely compatible with me.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

I don’t believe you actually joined these communities. How old are you?

[@OutOfTheBoxThinker]

​@@AnthonyRecenello I'm 39. I've been in 6 relationships so far. 2 of my exes were introduced to me by a female friend (whom I met online). Those 2 were my shortest relationships, both lasting 3 months. The other 4 exes I all met online, through respectively MSN, social media & dating site. These relationships ranged from about 6 months to 10 years. Anyway, I never joined a LEGO club. But I did use to frequent the weekly play sessions at a local board game store for some time because I thought it would be a fun & easy way to meet new people. I eventually stopped going because - even though I'm a board game enthousiast myself - I still felt like an outsider. I felt I wasn't part of the in-crowd, no matter how well I socialized. Also, I barely ever saw any women there. I also went to my regional equivalent of Comicon a couple of times. At events like that everyone seems to be there to hang out with their friends. And in a setting like that, I don't have a clue how to mingle with new people. Also, I hate large crowds, which doesn't exactly help either. So I stopped going to those as well. Now, I did meet a single 31-year-old woman I'm very much attracted to a few weeks ago... in a therapy group I'm going to 4 days a week in an attempt to recover from a major depression. Even though she's pretty shy, I have noticed her become more playful and talkative during the 3 weeks since I first laid eyes on her. And her body language possibly suggests that she's interested in me as well, although this might just be wishful thinking / me imagining things. Either way, in all of my life, this is the closest I've ever come to meeting a potential love interest and getting to know her organicly. And it scares the **** out of me, for a whole bunch of reasons... even though (probably because) this is the kind of woman I totally could see myself have children with.

[@ryanstarlight8018]

It's funny how you started talking about photography because I wanted some advices about engaging conversations with strangers on the street to take pictures of them.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

🥰

[@vleradrenogllava9965]

React to Zac Efron and Lily Collings Friendship Test , they are literally adorable.... and i kinda think that they are into each-other

[@AnthonyRecenello]

I def will

[@tatianaoblomova9696]

Love this shirt, it suits you a lot. As an overthinker, it'll be hard to not think when wanting to approach someone. I guess my problem is anxiety, not introversy. I'll get there sometime, thank you for another wholesome video.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

🙏🏻

[@Joseluis_408]

Great advice, beautiful shirt

[@danny365gamz8]

Very insightful.

[@MrIzakie]

2:36 unless u are a pokeman master

[@iola4451]

I’m a completely different person around my friends and people I don’t know closely. The only way I get friends is by waiting for my one friend to make friends and slowly opening up to them. I feel like this is not going to work forever and I am really scared that when I go to my new school I won’t have any friends, because I come across as completely shy and have no personality.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Hi Lola! That's going to have to change. It's time for you to start. Easy solution: Just compliment someone when you see something nice they're doing or wearing. Then introduce yourself. That always starts a conversation. (It's what I do)

[@iola4451]

Anthony Recenello thank you for replying. I’ll try that 😅