Dating Coach Reacts to CHARISMA ON COMMAND

[@KeenestObserver]

Charisma on command is click-baity and inconsistent. He will keep showing you more and more videos about different social tips and different actors and you quickly loose track of what's important to do. I've learned more from this video alone than many of Charlie's videos combined. This is not to say I haven't learned from Charlie's videos, some have been very insightful. The extended depth of discussion (along with metaphors and examples) adds alot. You've also shown to be consistent across all your points, and I have now learned that embracing my true self and building on it is the best way for me to get rid of social anxiety.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

🙏🏻 Means a lot. I hope you got the free audiobook. It goes further into this stuff.

[@stranger16luis71]

TRUE. But there is one another thing that I find extremely problematic about his channel, and that is every now and then championing some political figures, in his case right leaning figures. He can obviously have his own political inclinations, however using his channel to venerate these people while making it seem as though he is JUST trying to show you how to be like them, while confusing persuasion with manipulation and lies just to present it as a people-influencing tool, to me just seem very misleading. A channel really shouldn't forget it's focus, that really isn't what his channel is supposed to be about. And if you are really gonna talk about how to Charismatic-ally tell the audience lies to persuade (manipulate) them so that they don't see through your bullshit, then seriously change your channel's name to something else, like "Using Charisma to bullshit on important topics" or "Charisma over Authenticity and Truth" or "Charisma for telling lies, not to present the truth well so that people will listen".

[@jackfromthejungle7538]

Well, there is no real schedule to follow to be charismatic, is there? I think he just frequently changes perspective on how to give yourself more potential or to fill out your own potential

[@TheWasher18]

@stranger16 We have to remember that even though Charlie and Crew highlight political figures, we are not forced to think that one is better or worse than the other, a politician who is good at something, might be an interesting video to an upcoming politician. Which way they lean and basing whether a channel is good or bad like that is irrelevant in the grand scheme of what we'll call 'communication' In the end, the point is that someone's beliefs do not matter, if they are good at something and someone wants to make a video about what that person is good at doing, it's up to us as viewers to pick up a skill or learn something from the video objectively.

[@evenaarek1042]

@@stranger16luis71 Where are the lies?

[@estherliefting4403]

I really like charisma on command's charisma breakdowns, however, when you watch a lot of them you kind of get stuck in a place where you want to be like emila clarke, Chris Evans and Oprah at the same time. What I like about your video's is that you're always telling your audience to stay close to themselves, this is great because you avoid the problem of having too many mentors. Thanks!!!

[@Matt_Nor]

I agree with you so much, and honestly i feel the same way about "getting stuck in a place" However... This just thought just crossed my mind. Celebrities are definitely role models in the way they portray themselves. But what you really should aspire to and be inspired by, is to look closely and find what makes them so happy underneath it all what is their secret and key to the happiness and confidence they've achieved? In my opinion. The only way to truly become charming and charismatic is when you worry less and simply embrace your own weird personality. Because that is what's attractive, not the act, but the real you. Something we can relate to with another human ("Your own weird, fun and unique self" Those are Recenello's words from another video) which i really like! When you find *your* true nature and what comes naturally and fluently to you is when you unlock the confidence and no longer feel the need to seek validation from the people around you. If you have ever seen the cast of the Avengers, you may have noticed how comfortable and silly they act around each other. One of the reasons i believe is, they embrace and accept each other for who they are as human They also know their intentions are good hearted, and don't expect anything in return other than being treated as a normal human being. Not the least, they love the company of their colleagues I hope this made sense, and didn't come off wrong or anything? Me no experto. I just love the social aspect and the influence we possess. Thanks for reading!

[@breelopez4556]

@@Matt_Nor facts, about embracing individuality

[@thisisrandomphrase]

@@Matt_Nor You're right. Accept yourself and learn with others and the same time

[@Slyrider777]

Hmmm I never thought of it that way I just looked at it like an analyzing video on separate celebs. And how they achieve it.

[@KevinJusticeWarrior]

He tells you in the video all the time to only focus on one point at a time, you shouldn't try everything at once smh. Thats not charisma on commands fault lol. The celebrities are also just to be examples, they're relatable because we all know them so it draws people in.

[@yko137]

What I learned in this video is just be yourself be genuine and , understand every single individual that you're trying to connect to.

[@thekill1197]

💯

[@oftankoftan]

that's so loose and unspecific.

[@zerotohero3662]

Lol my issue comes with understanding another person and being nice to them bc I'm pessimistic so I naturally see the bad in a person and that ain't great..

[@yko137]

@@zerotohero3662 dude Anthony Recenello talk about focusing in the moment and just being present so you'll see the actual real state of the person and not what your brain think they are.

[@thelegacyshow4248]

I've learned that charisma on command is legit

[@katty7344]

I definitely agree that you should trust your vibe. I had a manager tell me every single day that I need to be more energetic but I trusted my instincts and kept my more chill vibe. After a few months she got fired and my new manager told me over and over that she was envious of my ability to always be "zen and composed". Most of my friends tell me that their favorite quality in me is my calming presence.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

👍🏻 haha love that story

[@NapoleonCalland]

Be yourself. All the others are taken. ;)

[@joshuaanthony3262]

I feel like charisma on command gives you the structure of charisma or social skills but then Anthony shows you how to implement them. I feel like both work together. I personally think Anthony’s platform or structure of his videos is more engaging and seeing his face while talking adds some value to it all. You see the genuine expressions and it comes across stronger in my opinion.

[@intrigue8664]

Both together make a really good teacher. Informative & application

[@helgard36]

Agree 100%. Anthony seems to cover the mindsets (or "inside to outside" processes) much better. Charlie's vids do often mention these mindsets and vibes, but focus more on the techniques ("outside to inside" processes - in that by using the techniques, one's mindset gradually adopts them). The two are complementary - one needs both to effectively develop charm/charisma.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

@@helgard36 Just so yall know-I teach the "outside" stuff mostly to my clients when in applied settings. But I've found that 90% of the time-everyone already has amazing social skills. So it's really unnecessary to teach on KZbin. What most people are lacking is self-esteem and social strategy. And when those are there, the social skills come out naturally.

[@AftermathNihil]

Well said

[@1anfinity08]

Charisma on command also talks about popular introverts like keanu reeves and others. Maybe you would agree more of what he says on thise videos

[@T1J]

i get really suspicious when i see the words "dating coach" but you seem to have some positive and non-toxic ideas as far as i've seen :)

[@AnthonyRecenello]

its SO WEIRD that I'm a dating coach. i teach everyone so I'm actually a social and relationship coach. happy to have you here. :-)

[@Blessings7916]

You are an amazing couch, all the best to you sir.

[@NicoleO21]

Is it just more or are these videos like therapeutic? The music, the commentary are so interesting. Feels like I'm finally understanding some of my struggles when it comes to socializing

[@sthoughtsarchive2791]

yow no this is serious THIS IS URGEEENT

[@blondie9909]

Yes, the minecraft music makes me feel like im in my natural habitat

[@priscilamorales6997]

The best part is that they are so engaging that we can forget about our own issues and with the celebrity examples we can detach to then come back to our own scenarios with a clearer mind

[@sophiamoreno648]

Her smile is soo contagious, did anyone else find themselves randomly smiling with her? Her personality also shines through in the movie ” Me Before You”

[@ItsAmo]

Yess!! I usually find the happy and overly active and extroverted people in movies annoying af but she was so cute and just such a ball of light!

[@kristofkovacsRisy]

Before the video: I'm confident that Charisma on Command is good. After the video: I've found another channel I can learn from. I do understand what both of you say, so my goal is to find what's ideal to me.

[@pedroloto]

Watching this type of videos makes me feel like a robot learning how to interact with humans 😂

[@jystardustfan7170]

Lol that’s a great way to put it haha. I’ve never heard that one before but I completely agree

[@TiPitSgtBuddy]

Due to my being the kid of a public figure, I didnt know how to not act before people. Learning these techniques is robotic at first until it becomes your default. Even your actions now are learned from your environment, why not get better programming?

[@MrShysterme]

Honestly, I've thought before that it was designed to mostly help people on the autism spectrum that favor a set of concrete social rules to guide interaction. If someone (neurotypical) watched and tried to implement all of Charisma's video, then it would make them a nervous wreck. ("oh crap, I messed that up, I should've been more like Keanu Reeves there when he was on Conan O'Brien in 2018")

[@ak205]

It’s funny that someone here mentioned autism - autism is at an all time high right? That’s no coincidence. Socialising is a lost skill, especially for peeps who are younger than millennials who prob don’t know what that is...

[@emoke150]

Hahahaha me too 😄

[@edveras6200]

What I love about Anthony's videos that I unfortunately can't get from Charisma on Command is how strict Anthony is about being authentic versus creating a certain personality, being in the present moment vs being in your thoughts, and being all about what you can provide for others versus what you can do for yourself. Anthony is all about Charm and Charlie is all about Charisma. I have lost myself in the study of pickup for most of my life until I realized that pickup only masks the problems that you have within yourself that leads you to be a person that you're truly not. I choose charm because I dont have to be nervous trying to be someone I'm not and can just focus on being myself in the present moment and connecting with people that do the same.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

I love this comment so mucho 🙏🏻

[@CybertroninfiniteOfficial]

I love both channels, they develop two different aspects of a personality and they really help, but of course they can't replace who you really are but they can sharpen and tone it

[@edveras6215]

@@CybertroninfiniteOfficial no reason to sharpen or tone who you are, you are already great and you won't realize it until you stop giving a fuck about what other people think and focus on who you are in the present moment and not who you want to be. Most people judge if they are good enough by how other people react but no one will know you until you give up the fackness. You as a person will only change naturally by what you know and what you take away from your life experiences and the study of pickup doesn't focus on knowledge it focuses on the personalities and social strategies of famous actors or people to change who you are to make a person believe that they should like you for someone elses personality.

[@CybertroninfiniteOfficial]

You can always improve for yourself, not for others.

[@edveras6215]

@@CybertroninfiniteOfficial agreed no reason to improve yourself for noone but yourself. Only way to improve yourself is to change what you know and what you have been through. For improving social skills it's by engaging in more social activity and not by changing your already great personality.

[@phantomdancer3279]

14:40 preach brother...I don't know how many times I tried to create this persona of this fun me and it just never worked out because I would always burn out too quick. You have to learn to be comfortable in your skin and use whatever you have as your strength instead of looking at it as a weakness.

[@dranupam301]

I think this video best illustrates the difference between charisma and charm. Charisma, being the ‘performance’ that it is, involves a lot of work and external facades. Charm is something you develop from inside out. Best take home:Trust your real vibe. And from there you MAY even actually become funny/silly like you intend on being. But TRYING to put on a facade will immediately take you down a dark alley of performing. And no connection ever comes out of that. You just change one thing within and everything falls into place without. Beautiful 🙏🏽

[@adenjohnson5733]

This is the greatest crossover ever 😂

[@ahnrho]

Agreed.

[@EricWen]

In this video you align a lot more, but the more you watch his videos he talks a lot about tactics to charm, gestures to MAKE other people think things or feel things, how you can do things to trick yourself into being more charming/getting attention...which I think are problematic. Not toxic, just a little misleading and comes off as manipulative/inauthentic. I like your stuff bc there’s nuance and you don’t encourage ppl to fake themselves or manipulate people to liking you. You help people genuinely like themselves and love other people. Your stuff hits much more on personal identity, attracting the RIGHT people and self acceptance than I believe Charli’s stuff ever can. Keep up the magic man

[@AnthonyRecenello]

🙏🏻

[@kristenbeukeboom8999]

i do agree that trying to remember specific things to say is gonna take you out of the moment but seeing examples of good habits (like using affirmative and encouraging words) is something i find really helpful

[@addisontaylor5979]

Welcome to my feed. Thanks for the non-toxic observation of another person's work. Refreshing stuff for the internet

[@alinar8936]

Embracing your vibe and being present...turning the flashlight outward instead of inward...finding the treasure in everyone...there are SO many amazing gems in here that I’m going to have to come back to this video and tackle them one by one! Thank you for your wonderful content!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

🙏🏻

[@owenzhub]

I never watched Charisma on Command's video to learn to be charismatic, but rather to learn why certain celebrities are so likable. That's how I interpret his stuff - not as advice but just breaking down why someone comes across as charming. I guess some people might then try to apply that to themselves, but as an introvert, I never internalized that this was something I could pull off and still seem genuine. I figured all this was intrinsic to people's personalities.

[@Ourfriendvirch]

Emilia Clarke is one of the most likable people ever her personality is really contagious and every time I watch her I laugh and my mood changes and makes me feel better

[@RoseyRebellion]

As an actor, it's about being in the moment, being free with your emotional expression, listening and responding, and reading the room, an audition is not like any other interaction, so being comfortable is a task within itself. Once skilled in channeling energy, emotions, and being in the moment, it allows for true interaction.

[@israfelshadowlight11]

this reminds me of a video i once watched about popularity where they said that more popular people don't focus on how to be liked and trying to get people to like them, but instead they focus on what they like about others. also links in well with your idea about turning your thoughts outside of yourself

[@kaaramburo]

I tend to be more on the introvert side. In the past, I was working with a team where they were trying to force me to be an extrovert. I explained to my boss that I was always polite and friendly, and that I didn’t feel I was fluent enough in English or knew cultural differences and nuances, to joke around and stuff. My department was restructured, my boss is another person and I am working with different team members. I never felt pressure to be a certain way and we get along great. I feel much more confident now, without forcing myself to be someone I’m not. ✨Also, my English got a bit better thanks to our interactions 💕

[@orestispalampougioukis6043]

I love Charlie and his channel, however, even if I didn't, you just got a subscriber just for the fact that you are so honest and open with your compliments towards someone that could be considered a competitor.

[@Hunter-eg9tp]

The tease on strengths definitely was the guidelines I needed to have consistent (non-serious) teases per say. Thanks for putting this skill into words.

[@WendyMenjivar_Videos]

Thanks for mentioning the thing about not always having to raise the energy in the room. That was one of my problems with Charisma On Commad's video when I first saw it. I knew that I could* (and have) turn on Emilia Clark-type charm, but it's the energy that I'm not always feeling that turned me off on it.

[@kristenbeukeboom8999]

The high energy thing really works for me because i find that when i tell myself to be more energetic, it naturally brings my energy way up but if i let myself be energy be low i feel worse and i tend to fade into the background of the group. Of course it all depends on the mood of the room though.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Presence is the deciding factor here. When you tell yourself to be energetic, you are also signaling your mind to engage with the room. When you allow yourself to be low energy, you likely associate that with detaching mentally from the situation. But what if you could extract the presence from your energetic mood? What if you could feel that engaged demeanor while still being calm and reserved if you wanted to? That there is the secret sauce baybay.

[@planetary-rendez-vous]

Damn, he's actually right about energy levels. Be an extrovert, or be an introvert, but don't try to imitate what you're not. Charlie is an extrovert so that's why he's saying what he's saying. Maybe he misses the point of introverts.

[@chocolateicecream6995]

makes sense. I don't like teasing people because I don't understand the social nuances of it, and I don't really laugh at people's jokes unless it's interesting and funny, which comes across as uninterested or polite laughing. I will not change that because it would be disingenuine to me. I think introverts can be charismatic in a different way. If you see ted talks with introverted people, it's as powerful or impactful as extroverts. It's all about confidence, genuine-ness and purpose I believe. There's no one out there that doesn't have an interest or doesn't have a personality. It's just the confidence to display yourself.

[@mielipuolisiili7240]

However some "introverted" people (a lot of them actually) are just shy and would be able and like to appear more extroverted if they could break out of their comfort zone.

[@planetary-rendez-vous]

@@mielipuolisiili7240 Or you can be an introvert and not be shy. It's good to recognize introvert as a legitimate type of human instead of thinking they are bad extroverts.

[@mielipuolisiili7240]

@@planetary-rendez-vous I am aware of that, but for a lot of people that isn't necessarily the case. Besides a true introvert would be unlikely to be interested in Charlie's channel anyways I would persume.

[@planetary-rendez-vous]

@@mielipuolisiili7240 I'm an introvert and I'm interested. Why? Because it's valuable. I'm not a genius regarding relationships so it helps. Don't mix in energy attitudes with behavior valuation.

[@ElizahMendoza]

I agree with what you said about feeling what you feel in the moment rather than force yourself to change what you feel because i tried to do that before and it just made me feel drained

[@davidyuan1402]

You made excellent points I completely agree with you! When you try to "put on" energy it's very tiring and at the end of the day even though you made everyone else happy you end up feeling fake. Thanks for reacting!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

🙏🏻

[@micaela5461]

Love that flashlight analogy. I think we can forget to be the observer because we’re so worried about how other people are observing us.

[@raquelcrochet_designs]

I watched Charisma on Command for a few months and then youtube recommended this channel to me so yea these two channels are very similar and fascinating. It seemed to me you were a little negatively predisposed before reacting to the video so it was really fun watching you discover how similar you two are.

[@Tsochar]

I think the main difference between you and Charlie is Charlie focuses on what to do and what not to do where you tend to go more into good mindsets and how to do these same things more easily and naturally.

[@furyberserk]

To me, it's more that CoC gets your foot through the door, but Anthony let's them know the real you.

[@maip.nasthethird261]

You genuinely seem like such a naturally light and bubbly person, a bit cheesy too, and I think that's why we're all here for it. You seem so loving. I hope fame doesn't change you - your fan

[@paulomendoza94]

This is great mate! It shows that a fellow youtuber can help solidify another channel. Kudos to both of you.

[@nileyfan1998]

Anthony and Charlie is the tag team we didn't know we needed 😂😂😂😂

[@camakayee]

Watching these videos is comforting knowing that I'm not alone in needing help dissecting social behaviours! I used to think I had undiagnosed autism because it felt like most people instinctively KNEW these social cues and I had to spend time analyzing them and copying others...whether thats the case or not, I think on some level everybody needs to be taught these things, whether subconsciously or consciously. Thank you for making these videos!! Subscribed

[@taylorspahr6291]

Greys anatomy fans speculate that Ellen Pompeo and Patrick Dempsey had feelings for each other in real life. Their characters chemistry together is amazing and it’s hard to believe that it was just really good acting. It would be interesting for you to watch interviews of them talking about each other or even scenes from the show to see if you think it was really just them acting. Either way I would love to hear your take on the whole thing.

[@arlet101]

"Find the treasure" is such a fun and to the point analogy that immediately stuck with me. And I think this is the best part of your teaching - you bring the essence of what charisma and charm really is about. I appreciate your work ❤️

[@Doppadubli]

hearing you discuss forcing vibes and being inconsistent in your interactions later on really resonated with me-- and i realize ive been doing that for years. thank you

[@chchcho]

I love that you're making weird faces and talking with a funny voice and just fooling around more than before. At first when you started showing more of your playful side I was even a little bit shocked haha, cause I didn't expect this, you're so collected and reserved all the time 😅 Now I get that you were just a bit camera shy and I'm glad you're feeling more relaxed when making videos 💜💛

[@AnthonyRecenello]

🙏🏻 which old vids were you referring to?

[@chchcho]

@@AnthonyRecenello the ones where you answer different questions reading them from a list of paper, for example 😅

[@AnthonyRecenello]

@@chchcho oh that waas like five yrs ago. yeah on camera im anxious

[@chchcho]

@@AnthonyRecenello I'm glad you're getting more and more opened and.. spontaneous I guess 😅 Also, are you ever having a break from replying to your fans? 😂 Seriously tho, take care and have some time for yourself 💛

[@juttaduncan33]

Wow, thanks Anthony! Really relate to your teaching, especially the things you feel so strict about. The past few months for me have been a journey of really seeing what my personality really is and where it is comfortable and happy so that I can just be relaxed! I feel like I can be the best person I can be by simply being exactly how I am in any given moment. I'm glad you're teaching this too. Really wonderful and clear.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

🙏🏻

[@snowkkona786]

please do Jenna and Julien!!

[@lindanise1357]

Oh my goodnesses!! I felt that! I’m a little extroverted and more introverted but I always force the vibe of an extrovert and then I will lose all this energy and hide away but people will still be calling me and expecting the very high vibe and it’s very exhausting.

[@lullemans72]

i've been practicing game for many years, but i just came across your channel via this video. you seem to have a really genuine, fun and respectful vibe which i really like.

[@AnaHernandez-rn8vs]

I have watched that channel too and I like it, I was so nervous about your opinion and I really love how honest and respectful you were about it, that's why this is one of my favorite youtube channels :)

[@biacarreira3075]

I love your chill energy, you seem like such a nice person to have a conversation with. Love your videos! xoxo

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Thanks bia

[@BarelyNoticeable]

That whole thing about staying your vibe really just flipped my perspective 180 and you just won yourself a new subscriber

[@BenjaminBK]

Anthony: "He should not say to not to tease someone, teasing is okay, but tease on their strengths, that helps to connect to your friends" *continue video* Charlie: "... tease but with compliments, this helps to connect to your friends..." *Anthony flips out*

[@kingthormak5821]

Hey, I know that you haven't watched Game of Thrones, but you should definitely react to Charisma on Command looking at Tyrion or Tywin Lannister. These are, in my opinion, one of the best videos they have created because in there, principles we come across in everyday life are shown, and they are backed by some amazing examples provided by the show. I would love to hear your perspective on these topics because I think you and Charlie complement each other's content so well and would, therefore, love to hear your thoughts on this. Just a suggestion.

[@airca_]

You should react to Jenna and Julien or Heath and Mariah

[@iloveband111love]

Or Jenna and Kermit 🤣🤣

[@francescacamara8274]

Heath and mariah omgg pls

[@caroliinec]

Enjoy content from both of your channels so it was so cool to see your respect and agreement with Charlie's commentary. Would be so fun to see a collab with you two in the future! Or even on his podcast!

[@castroirabradleys.4655]

The key to charisma is to be yourself. Being yourself shows confidence that you are not afraid of any judgement. Being yourself is genuine and not fake. Being yourself is unique coz nobody has that. People will get attracted to you because being yourself in current society is what they lack. So they come to you and subconsciously ask themselves "what makes this man charismatic" they want your vibe. Your true self you got nothing to hide.

[@castroirabradleys.4655]

And if you are being yourself, you got nothing to worry about yourself, you are confident. Your attention will be more likely to be outside of your brain. You see the world better, listen better. And most importantly understand and connect.

[@musicaljunkyart8756]

Also I really like the way you are not forcing people to follow steps but instead you try to encourage our inner self and trust our emotions. It's like I am watching a science channel and we discover together the way people function by making assumptions and observations in a playfull way and not because of some theory that explains everything and everyone. This helps a lot in the learning process because it allows us to experiment with your suggestions and level with you in a more personal way. At least this is how I am experiencing your content! Keep up the good work!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

🙏🏻

[@martina57]

I just discovered the Chanel and I am obsessed🖤

[@Enzo-si1it]

The clothing and perfume company?

[@Bonjourdimanche]

Malcolm McQueen 😂😂

[@blondie9909]

No one: Andrea from the devil wears prada :

[@marksudell421]

Charlie is good at breaking things down. He's good at explaining why celebs are charismatic. But, he doesn't have enough info about how people can do the same. There's no "How-to"

[@UnDefinedLegacy]

I think it's up to people determine it for themselves. Everyone has their own habits.

[@Omniryu]

Charisma is very nuanced and not a one-trick pony. Different strokes for different folks. What works for me may not work for you. It's about getting in where you fit in. The bad thing about a "How to" is that it'll eventually fail...because instead of learning how to make YOURSELF charismatic, you're learning how to act like somebody else. When you act like somebody else...you don't understand the nuance of what makes that "character" charismatic.

[@treasurewuji8740]

The same reason Joe Rogan is a commentator instead of an MMA coach.

[@bruh-kj1qw]

I think being more authentic and being yourself is the best way to be charming , I'm no coach but people I'm usually attracted to and many others are people who are real. Yes you can improve aspects but don't try to change yourself but try to improve yourself. We all have flaws to improve but if you try to change yourself it's not fixing the problem your just ignoring it.

[@makekotor3722]

I don't follow his channel but watched his video "4 activities that will dramatically boost your charisma" where he mentions taking improv, toastmasters, brazilian jiu-jitsu and doing mini experiments in social situations all created the foundation for his charisma. It's interesting because Olivia Cabane who wrote "the charisma myth" says how she always tells her clients to do improv, bjj and tango to develop their personal charisma.

[@CybertroninfiniteOfficial]

I love both channels, they develop two different aspects of a personality and they really help, but of course they can't replace who you really are but they can sharpen and tone it. In the end, we're all trying to be the best version of ourselves.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

🙏🏻

[@MonteCarloHD]

I love and understand the explorer going to each island to look for the treassure! Because people are the treassure! Well done coach, I subscribed!

[@cincin5078]

wow, I agree when take your focus on your thoughts and actually look around you it feels lighter.

[@cougarfly1]

6:00 Thats exactly what i've learned recently. Enjoying every moment of life. It made me descover the world in a completely new dimension. Like one year ago, i was really depressed and wnated to end my life. But managed to take a turn and started Slefdeveloping, reading books about it, going to the gym and so on. I've started to enjoy my life and learned to love every single moment in life. So guys, if heres anyone who suffers, change your habits and focus on selfdevelopement. Start to see things trough your eyes not trough your mind. I made it out of depression, started new friendships and because i enjoy life like never before, people espacially girls started to want to be with me. Never give up on life! give up on your bad mind and your bad habits. LOVE YOURSELF because if you don't no one will!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

🙏🏻

[@BlancaEstella4837]

U are so authentic dude, i love u

[@andreydidenko8352]

So good to see this channel to grow because I gotta say I've learned so many things from this dude holy crap! 100% going to get audio book.

[@christineribone9351]

Anthony, I watch Charlie's channel very often. Thank you for recognizing his talent. For such a young guy, he has great insight. The places where you disagree with him, I have to agree with you more. I think my own personality is similar rather than Charlie's. Whenever I put on being funny or outgoing I flop. When I'm more in tune with my own energy it feels more natural and sincere for the situation. I am not always charming and outgoing, but I can be at times. I connect to your teachings more than Charlie's. I'm happy to have discovered your channel. Thanks again for a great video!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

❤️🤘🏻

[@musicaljunkyart8756]

I really agree to what you are saying at 18:00. I remember a sentence, from one of Irwin's Yalom books, saying that when we mask of suppress our emotions that we genuinely have, they will always find their way to be communicated into another person consciously of subconsciously. That's why we need to trust our emotions and have the confidence to be ourselves and don't try to hide or manipulate others. So having this in mind I noticed this phenomenon in my interactions and found it also to be true!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Yes. Thanks for that comment

[@justanotherrandomdisneyfan3717]

Great video. I like the steps too, because I know I won't remember everything people say but if i'm in a weird situation it is easier to recall steps for me.

[@lolabongola]

22:33 thats why i absolutely love listening to you and i find your videos so much helpful than Charisma On Command. the thing is you're really explaining the topic and make it understandable. with C.O.C. it's just receving those tips (that are a lot of times about how to not be yourself) but not understanding the complex topic such as relationships. that made me make so many mistakes while listening to C.O.C. than while listening to you. thank you Anthony, you're really someone we needed here on yt!

[@asuryan]

I've actually learned a lot from Charisma On Command.

[@morgane.04]

Asuryan same :)

[@ashashish3796]

Hey Anthony 👋 it's Ash again.. I love COC and you too... But I don't know there is something about your philosophy which i think is more natural.... because before discovering your channel i used to watch Charlie everyday but more i practice them more i was stuck in my head as what should be my next move....but after listening to your audiobook everything is clear..bcoz now i know difference between charm and charisma.....as always love you.

[@saltgame5823]

i like charisma on command. i like hearing how your opinions both differ and also somehow relate to charlie. i like how you are natural to who you are and id like to practice this when i get the chance

[@michelfantommusic2493]

I’ve been binge watching your videos for a few days and reallly like your stuff! Ive watched the charisma channel for some time and really like your feed back as a person who is a little more introverted like myself and the charisma videos seem to be coming from a more extroverted perspective. Great advice and keep it up!

[@barbarabenoit3667]

"He is like a brother from another mother." - Yes you are. I feel like a conversation, in which you two talk about coaching and your approaches - where you agree and where you differ - and how you came to arrive at your own conclusions, would be a very interesting thing to watch and to listen to.

[@Blueeyesinthesky]

I think charisma on command is awesome. And to be honest it’s helped me grow A LOT in the past with anxiety socially/internally and breaking out of that. It legit taught me how to become so confident in myself. But I follow your channel for the same reason I follow his; to learn about people and how to become a better person myself .

[@andrewhakomakigranger]

Man you kinda tapped into some of the unspoken criticisms I have had of Charisma on Command for some time now... He has a lot of great insights... but just when I'm ready to trust him he comes off... tactical. You seem to have authenticity as a guiding star, which I appreciate, and it seems to give you some good insights regarding Charlie's breakdown. So thank you, glad I watched this video.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Thanks Andrew!

[@AftermathNihil]

Awesome that you reacted to this. That's why I subscribed to you😂you gave a lot of similar advice to that channel. Very reliable stuff.

[@cyphus5]

On his comments about being an explorer, I also like how Jordan Peterson puts it, "Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don't." He goes into greater detail in the book, of course.

[@Blessings7916]

I would like to see couch Recenello and Charlie doing a show or a participation😍 You both are golden minds to me💚

[@swoosylee2644]

TEASE SOMEONE ON THEIR STRENGTHS!!!!! The most straightforward logical consistent advice on teasing I have never been able to learn :') until now MUAHAHA time to use this on my frands!

[@joseespinoza1669]

Always pull key stuff from every vid, keep up the great work.

[@missmarjum]

I totally agree with what your view on raising the energy is.

[@nehla.jahangiri.9059]

The way I love both of your channels, also seeing things from different perspectives is amazing

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Happy to hear that!

[@tennesseewarminster8591]

This was so uplifting and helpful for me, thanks so much 💜

[@danielecho-chambers9807]

I was expecting some sort of hot take/diss track sort of video so i clicked just to find out with some skepticism. However, you ran right out of the gates with the utmost respect for them as a content creator, kudos to you, and wortha subscribe

[@KonjikiKonjiki]

I hope you get to do another reacts to CoC! As a newer fan to your channel, and a longtime follower of Charlie's, I find the contrast really illuminating! My fave CoC vid is probably the one on Craig Ferguson; Charlie clearly adores Craig, and it's so nice to see his genuine self shine like that. :)

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Me too

[@domg2965]

Lol randomly going through youtube, and come across Anthony, who I went to high school with. Glad to see his channel is doing well. Keep up the good work

[@AnthonyRecenello]

What’s up bud! You’re doing GOOD?

[@domg2965]

@@AnthonyRecenello all is well and GOOD. Where are you these days?

[@morgane.04]

my two favorite social skills youtuber in one video? HELL YEAH

[@szymonbalcer]

The 3-2-1 ending is my highlight of the video as laughing off your own mistakes portrays confidence and is indeed attractive. Well played Anthony... well played. 😂

[@minombr1654]

You should do a Classic Charm of Adam Driver. He’s got a really serious yet goofy charm but he’s also a gentleman

[@AnthonyRecenello]

I plan to

[@OutOfTheBoxThinker]

You raised some great points there. Charisma on Command provides soundbite size, easily digestible and often on point advice, but he's lacking depth and nuance that is often key to making that advice work. Thank you for fleshing out his ideas and adding that much lacking depth and nuance!

[@beckfry5374]

What I found most interesting in this video was the way you were talking about charism on command, Charlie. You started the video with saying his is the channel would recommend second to your own, putting him on a lower level than yours. Which of course naturally with your experience and qualifications but and interesting choice to that at the beginning of the video as the first thing people hear. And your compliments to Charlie are majorly centered around him doing what you would do, though you do also compliment him on things he does well on his own. I also found it interesting when you disagreed with him you deployed the classical rhetorical tactic of anticipating criticism and responding to it. Which can be an effective tactic in strengthening your argument. Though depending on the use could also come off as defensive or manipulative. Especially as it can be combine with straw manning, which yours was not, as you didn't understand this person I love is a frequent response to internet criticism of anyone. You also followed up your criticism with several jokes and references to him being more numerically successful than you, almost mirroring what you both said about making jokes about the other persons success. But you did for most of those still make them comparatively to your success. Charlie has way more subscribers than you, not just a lot, and it would be nothing for him to get 10,000 likes but it would for you be something. Now this is only the fourth video of yours I've seen, so I can't tell if these speech and rhetorical patterns are typical for you, or warrant more consideration. Do you usually rely on slightly self effacing humor is typical of you. This is different than your other videos so I find the comparison intriguing. As for my general observations on the two of your styles of advise. Your approach is more wholistic helping people attune to their own sensibilities and use that to guide them into more positive relationships, and relies on a person's ability to recognize those instincts. His is more formulaic applying to a more specific situations. Which I could see being useful for people who aren't sure of their instincts because they aren't practiced in listening to them or misinterpret them. Though I think they would be less useful in general situations and more applicable in the form of using his lists almost like cbt, cognitive behavioral therapy, where you can practice the behavior pattern in theory mentally/on paper or even in person if it situation applies to the situation until the pattern becomes natural. Those are just my thought now I'm going to go watch some more of your videos.

[@gabrielnicolettiestabel8951]

I felt a similar thing with his comments on Charlie, not an aggressive pattern, but a weird and subtle way of showing superiority over his work and building up on compliments that he redirects to himself by saying that he thought the same. As my first impression this seemed a little bit off.

[@pancakesourdough8057]

I think that if you put too much emphasis on social relationships and especially yourself in them, it becomes a source of anxiety not enjoyment. Not every social interaction is or needs to be meaningful, it can be like your afternoon coffee, a nice touch or add on to your day. You immediately become more attractive and charismatic when you learn to take social interaction at ease and you begin to be at ease if you don't take yourself or everyone else too seriously.

[@MrBrrrki]

Great content. You disect human interaction so well. I wish i knew this things you talk about 10 years ago, but i guess you have to learn some stuff by yourself, but it would have sure made things easier in my 20s...

[@AnthonyRecenello]

I’m 36

[@mikerousi443]

Can you make a reaction to the "Being ugly:My expierience" video? Its about a guy who got rejected hundreds of times by girls based on the way he looked and got treated very badly in his relationship cause of it as well.

[@doctor4961]

Link?

[@MrYoYoBoBoChaddyInsaneZhangII]

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[@greaterpainter7996]

I think there's value in both of their styles. The advice of making something your own and being true to yourself is great because it means your being authentic, which is something that so many people lack because they are so often trying to be someone else. However sometimes you just need to be told, OK, if this is your objective here's how to do it. And you go "oooooooh yea he's right, that's a great point" and then you can take that as actionable advice and start to work on it.

[@lina_roche]

Please do a Tom Hiddleston Classic Charm video! 🙏😍I love your channel!

[@bellafinkler2198]

It would be so cool if you did a classic charm or something like that about Elvis! Probably the sexiest man to ever live! 😍😍 Love ur videos!

[@ryleehilliard5811]

i predict your channel blowinggggg up within the next 3 months remember this

[@factsverse9957]

This is the first video I watched from Anthony!

[@shloka3915]

And here I am, 3 months after your post, subscribing to his channel 😌

[@andreaw2053]

The point about introversion and having high energy. Watching this I realised I'm generally a very low energy person. Being extroverted is hard for me and if I do something spontaneous it's something to take note of - I almost never do. That being said, I do take things too seriously sometimes and being a bit more silly and relaxed and having more fun could do me good. Learned something from both of you. Thanks :)

[@Archimarathon]

Got my sub. Thanks for building on Charlie’s video and giving an alternative mindset. Cheers. More of these please.

[@makaylamikesell1760]

Personally, I agree with Charlie on the energy thing. I think being introverted vs extroverted (or anything on that spectrum) is a completely different issue, as that whole concept is about where you get your energy from, not how much energy you have. I’m personally an ambivert, as I share the abilities of both introverts-getting energy from internalization-and extroverts-getting energy from socialization. Everyone’s energy wavers at times, and I don’t think that’s anything to be ashamed of, but I do agree that people generally appreciate when someone lightens the mood by upping the energy level of the room. That’s not to say that you should always do that, and I think Charlie’s point was just that Emilia is very good at it and does it often. But it is a helpful tool for stressful environments, and, being an actor myself, it is one that I strive to develop and make use of in those harsh audition settings.