Anal Sex 101: How To Try Anal Sex

So… you’re curious about butt stuff.
You’re not alone! Over the last few months, we’ve seen a dramatic increase in questions about anal play.
If you’ve never ventured backdoor, it can seem a little intimidating. So today we’re teaching you the basics.
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0:00 Intro
1:22 Why you should give anal a shot
2:59 Our top tips for beginners
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[@davidellis279]

What a lovely sensible couple talking about a really sensitive subject in a way we can all understand,some couples like the idea others don’t but at least we all now know we’re not the only ones interested in this.

[@richardhankla6887]

Fantastic class...

[@johnduffy6546]

A very nice tutorial.... Thank you

[@lightningdt1]

First time watching, you guys are great!

[@vanessaandxander]

Thanks for watching!

[@bradleya.wright4072]

After listening to you both about this subject I feel better about myself.

[@pickels5184]

Girls either love it or they don't

[@aroorsinghdhillonmaluwalia6500]

Very good information. Thanks.

[@rodneymorris2695]

Very informative thank you

[@susanisaacs7487]

Very informative and interesting. Thank you so much❤

[@user-rd8vh9wo6n]

Have you had anal sex?

[@user-es4fs8mw1f]

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[@akadirnilavane2861]

Useful information!

[@vanessaandxander]

Glad to hear that!

[@ascott4606]

How do you get the traffic cone out....asking for a friend 🤔 (I'm joking, we used a flared base parking cone) 😄

[@toddoakes458]

Good advice thanks todd

[@adrianminks5328]

Pretty informative👌😎 thank you.

[@user-lz9sg8yi5o]

It is amazing

[@Jstreamssr]

I admire a couple being open to talk about a subject that so many people find dirty to taboo. I've experienced it a couple times (giving) and me and my partner both enjoyed it.

[@davidockley2987]

"my partner and I"* grammar

[@johnrusso6169]

Yes, it's actually for both. I personally love it.

[@mikelowrey5275]

Cool videoclip

[@alickak8346]

Fantastic Information but still cant do it..and will never

[@hvxcolors396]

People heavily in love with each other sometimes want to come as close as possible to each other. Anal can be part of that urge to 'melt together'. It doesn't have to be something for later in the relationship. or just because you saw it in a movie.

[@deannaseabolt5441]

I love it so much !!

[@RuafMichael]

thanks this helped me so much!

[@Krystallynn-rc2mp]

Interested… I juu it st need to get into it Intriguing

[@desmondbeckforf6245]

Love it

[@user-su2oy2mh3e]

I like learn more about the video here alot

[@CoralynnMurray]

Great information and I loved the bloopers at the end. 😂

[@_Lazare]

Lol

[@user-es4fs8mw1f]

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[@svenlarsen4876]

Don't worry those bloopers wash off 😂

[@davidellis279]

I think both of you have to be into this sort of thing,taking about it before hand and then proceed very slowly if you both agree to try it and of course lubrication is a must and plenty of it.

[@ezrataylor8602]

thanks for this

[@user-es4fs8mw1f]

Helo Hello

[@user-no1oy4nu3h]

It feels great

[@sudiptapurkayastha5524]

Great way☝️

[@ronaldovilar3849]

Boa tarde !! Ronaldo, do Rio de janeiro Brasil 🇧🇷

[@LDM662]

You'd be surprised at the number of women who like it

[@sierra141]

Well as a TGirl myself its always expected 💋

[@KpxUrz5745]

I would be surprised, because I've never met one.

[@LDM662]

@@KpxUrz5745 I sure have, One woman I had preferred it over anything.

[@DanishKhan-xd2yh]

​@@sierra141hy🎉

[@muammericke3416]

Very beuatafil nice

[@TheAffrojutty]

It’s HOT!! Both giving and receiving ✌️

[@fredfear7107]

Living in Europe in my 20s (1970s) it was often an option. Always considered fun.

[@user-gw6vf1tw7c]

It’s very pleasurable

[@gerardhayes2707]

I want Vanessa to do most of the talking

[@leonidasspyropoulos849]

You are a lovely couple. You make everything feel normal. Thank you.

[@reshanasukwah6537]

😂😂😂how did i even come across this video 😂😂 ... sometimes i wonder if KZbin n my mine have some connections 😅

[@allymukhsin2962]

Are you a man or a woman ?

[@user-jy5kg7vq3u]

FANTASTIC

[@sunnyjim369]

Thankyou ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@MercyAragon-ck6jj]

THANKK YOU!!!!$!

[@nickhardy8300]

I love it. Male or Female.

[@yaolo97]

Are you bisex?

[@brendachristy1813]

Very curious.

[@vanessaandxander]

So many people are curious about trying Butt Stuff, but they have no idea where to start! We definitely recommend checking out our Butt Stuff guide, which gives all the tips and tricks to having a safe, pleasurable, pain-free experience! Head to shop.vmtherapy.com/butt-stuff/?ref=yt-analsex101& to check it out! ❤️

[@blackj7549]

Hello beautiful can I get to know you sweetie?

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[@jamesgiacomo9468]

Amazing

[@user-qk9zx3vp8r]

It's really pleasurable I tried with my partner and now she enjoys it more than the normal one

[@jasonbrown4841]

Great video. - good tips! My ex-wife and current wife both enjoyed it. Its fun to explore with different lubs but we enjoy liquid coconut oil the most. A bit messy and feels awesome!

[@paulnichols2]

Coconut oil is great.

[@mardishade8151]

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[@yonusmohammad7649]

Good informatie thank you

[@user-dn2wg1fs3n]

Yes thank you

[@freddiescott1465]

Amazing Love it

[@vanessaandxander]

Thanks 😆

[@Gigi-bo3zr]

I tried to get guide about talking too your partner about sex but I couldn't find it on the website and the link doesn't take you to it

[@vanessaandxander]

email us at [e-mail]! - Team V&X

[@user-es4fs8mw1f]

❤❤❤❤Helo baby you beauthiful ❤❤Uuuufff Uuuufff baby you ❤❤❤❤

[@andywartovo7151]

i love it 😉

[@kabugodavid7834]

Very nice

[@user-de8wt4oc6d]

I would like to try anything one's but she doesn't like it we want do it anymore!

[@epcservices6018]

Coconut oil & condom very useful.

[@stuka97]

This is something new? Just about every girlfriend I've had in the past were more than willing to explore this and after all why not!

[@angurisloud]

No, not at all - cultures thousands of years ago were into anal. It's not called "greek" for nothing...

[@NUMMEHARBEN]

How old are you? 20-30, 30-40 etc. I think it could be a generation difference. I am 60-70 and first time having anal sex with my c-k in a woman was when I was over 50 and the youngest woman 42. I have been bringing up this rather quick in the later relations and it worked rather well. I also mentioned to them that I also like if they do some kind of anal to me very easy and that made them doing that to.

[@AntjeRoestenburg]

Tried once, never (ever) again

[@arunagunawardana4142]

I likt try it. Please help me..

[@terranceali2429]

Intrested

[@robertalcala1385]

Of course !😊

[@user-oc6lr1gd4p]

I've seen worn and when they get connected they don't wash and they give head afterwards

[@gregmiller5037]

I love it.

[@devbachu7072]

I toi pleasure

[@StarlaHope-od3ix]

Wtf!!! What a recommendation 😭

[@markrich7693]

Can I practice first

[@dfferentpoint]

Relaxing

[@ascott4606]

Relaxing? I haven't tried it in a while, perhaps things have changed back there in 30 years 😳

[@TimeTraveller3256]

Meamd my girlfriend watched this amd had amazing fun

[@peterphillips8857]

As long as my partner enjoys it that's fine by me as long as all precautions taken before and after she's happy 😊 I'm happy

[@bitey-facepuppyguy2038]

A true gentleman in 2024.......go figure.

[@mzaccagnini7179]

I've always liked it . But there is a stigma about it. You just have to be open minded.

[@justhere420]

How open minded are you ?🤗

[@shcade8926]

“Just a poop filled world” I’m dying 😂😂👍🏼

[@extremeknucklehead3637]

That was a crap joke

[@BinsLaisha]

Haha, I can't stop replaying this! Too good! 😄👄👄👄🍌🍌🍌

[@vanessaandxander]

Glad you enjoy it!

[@Livecat-TV]

Ooh nice

[@gerardhayes2707]

I'm a submisive male so I love the Woman to be in charge an DOMINANT

[@katiel1979]

So you’re gay ?

[@strothermartin5368]

Up the One Way street!😭

[@neilbeech4093]

My parents never explained sex to me

[@ruthann2993]

Interesting

[@paulclairethomas1344]

If it is consensual, approached with consideration, all participants are aware of the task involved and well "prepared" What is there not to like and enjoy..? You will never know until you indulge yourselves.. Get the "stigma" out of your head..

[@1Whitetail]

Sounds like you guys like it, my wife loves it.

[@jamescampbell5316]

GREATTTTTTTT

[@laurancetikale626]

I love it

[@richardsalinas2033]

I believe if your in truly in love with a certain person as long as your not hurting the person don,t think there anything wrong with what ever you do with your love one i your bedroom.

[@sammikumari3506]

Good

[@user-rd8vh9wo6n]

hsy

[@user-es4fs8mw1f]

❤Helo baby ❤

[@KolkataMarineHobbyist]

What good ?

[@cdrg.d.giampietrousnret7048]

A Must Need

[@_Lazare]

Lol

[@quintlouis4697]

Backdoor, that's the only word my missz will accept,and us kiwi couple love it 👌

[@LoveAlwaysWins333]

What does fluid bonded mean?

[@vanessaandxander]

Hi Candace! Great question. Being fluid bonded basically means you're in a committed relationship where you've actively discussed and decided not to use barrier protection, and thus share bodily fluids like semen, saliva, blood, and ejaculate.

[@fattfish9517]

@@vanessaandxander whats the difference between semen and ejaculate

[@richardthenryvideos]

​@@vanessaandxandershould just stick with marriage

[@frlocs2naturalstyle]

There is nothing better...

[@justhere420]

😮😘

[@Herzankerkreuz67]

Love your honesty 😍

[@jemzz2517]

❤

[@calvincondos2586]

We always managed to work it in a few times a month.

[@1Whitetail]

We do the same but closer to twice a month, she likes it 😊

[@markjenner7199]

A case of turning the other cheek😂

[@JOHN-ly6yp]

I have found many women very curious about this through mutual understanding and patience it could be done with any woman I have never had a complaint all these times what out a condom I get mud on my turtle but there's always soap and water

[@doctorpete1]

Awesome!

[@rustysilk685]

European woman like are more into it

[@jaunelanders5273]

YES !!

[@josephayemi4499]

Want to really try it but but worry how she'll feel it

[@user-kf5hz3cr7y]

Отлично чувствует,не беспокойтесь

[@MercyAragon-ck6jj]

Back door hahahaahh

[@kishka7winecountry]

It can be very nice!

[@nasa_sidthesciencekid3105]

To each is own but 😳

[@cheriecrettol1620]

Im a RN. Enough said

[@NUMMEHARBEN]

RN?

[@Mark-wm1tj]

She's really nasty 😢 O-Yeah

[@jacquelinewood5023]

I have DEFINITELY missed the intrigue wagon on this topic. I have tried it before. Unfortunately for my rear, with the wrong partner. However I personally have never been interested in it. It just doesn’t appeal to me in the slightest. If my partner wanted to try, I would be willing but everything about it turns me off. To each their own, it’s just not my thing.

[@shanelogan1518]

That’s too bad. I find that all of my partners have enjoyed it but I always started with a little rimming and made it a part of our routine first. Next you may insert a finger after some rimming that was slightly penetrating of the anus. After she was comfortable with regular fingering during doggy, I would ask if she would like to try my penis. Lots of lube and going slow, never had any problems.

[@niladrimukherjee2098]

Ok Lady & Gentleman let me put it very straight - DO U PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH ? Expecting a straight answer 🙂

[@GodfridahKamwenda-it7er]

It's just for money monitoring on KZbin don't believe everything on social medias 🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃

[@NUMMEHARBEN]

I can see how they talk and react that they obviously are doing it.

[@1Whitetail]

Answer is yes... often

[@DavidPerez-oj2dv]

OH, I FORGOT LUBE

[@greggrowe7048]

Can be amazing ... can be nasty. Know when it's good to go but expect occasional ... ahh problems.

[@joemcateer6398]

I didn't hear you talk about lubrication

[@leilahakulinen]

At 5.32 a lot of lubrication 👍

[@user-cy9pl1fc6k]

Pleasure

[@mundosam]

Santorum

[@panscentralexpresspresents4733]

The word : mmmmmm

[@kthx1138]

Do it in the shower, so if there's any "cleanup on aisle 9", you're already in the clean space with soap and water to wash that shit down the drain!