Dr. Marc Brackett: How to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence

[@hubermanlab]

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[@mugishapatrick8595]

Life changer

[@merlyy8947]

Absolute must This episode. Thank you for sharing. I never miss your content. 🤯

[@emmanuelkakpo1320]

Andrew, what's for lunch?

[@rokomandic171]

This was really inspiring

[@exponentialpotentialNow]

Blessings Professor 😊😊😊🕊️

[@huberfan7]

While watching this podcast, I got frustrated with my wife for throwing out my shampoo, used the hot air balloon strategy and realized how silly it was to lash out over something like that, told my wife I loved her and moved the hell on with my day. It sounds silly, but its these little tools that make this podcast so life changing. Thank you Dr Huberman and Dr Brackett!

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Love it! Every experience is a call for love or an act of love

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[@brittonyb5279]

I really appreciate Mark’s honesty and “human-ness.” He’s not trying to act like what one would imagine as an expert in the field of emotions. Super relatable and helps to give the general population “permission” to be who they are. Thanks Huberman and Mark.

[@DisnStukKk]

Particularly apparent in the example of his mother in law trying to grind him during lockdown. Very relatable and his openness in sharing many stories illustrating we all have feelings. no one person is above another in that area - so for that reason I hope his dad reads what I have to say... Marc's father: Marc's --- may stink, BUT SO TOO DOES YOURS, MINE, ANDREW'S - everyone's does. 😄

[@01hZ]

Doctor* Huberman and Doctor* Brackett

[@socratias]

Please get Dr. K from HealthyGamerGG on your podcast! I feel like you guys could talk so much about loneliness, porn consumption, relationships, the overlap between psychology & neuroscience and so much more!!

[@Nachi_Keta]

Great suggestion!

[@ArikCard]

This is a great suggestion. I hope it happens!

[@ravimahecha]

Yes

[@moatasim7]

not just that, he also discusses about yoga and spritual practices which andrew also shares an interest for

[@Joe_Nasser]

Best comment

[@szumm]

Wow! Dr Marc is my new idol. Hearing about Marc’s feelings and his reaction to his colleagues ridiculous behaviour during a presentation knocked me out of my chair! I don’t think I ever heard a 50+ year old men be so vulnerable, intelligent and honest. I kept listening to this episode with my eyes wide open the whole time. Dr Marc is an inspiration

[@toutounr8120]

Sameeeeeeee❤ what a deep and strong individual dr Mark is!

[@madameaeriel]

“I was robbed of my emotional life as a child” so relatable.

[@nishadh366]

Me constantly trying to get that little girl justice

[@Amandahugginkizz]

Most 80s kids were

[@margauxtbh]

Why is it that I didn't enjoy Science when I was in school, but ever since I discovered Dr. Andrew's channel, I've never been this captivated? Especially with this type of Science that introduces various protocols and zero-cost 'life-hacks' for personal growth.

[@eduardosantana8300]

To be fair, half the stuff you see here isn’t science or even to be taken seriously. And good luck dodging all the scams that are pushed out on you, like ag1.

[@sarangb2272]

Because the Science that was taught in Schools gives you the rule and regulations to create scientific principles. Scientific research is an arduous and time consuming process. Here in these podcasts we are getting baked products behind which countless hours of research went. Someone else basically did the hard part of science for us so that we can enjoy the thin upper crust.

[@Iksvomid]

We don't enjoy things that feel forced upon us. We enjoy having a choice.

[@l.halawani]

Because he's a very handsome dude.

[@jaywon06]

When the student is ready...

[@Johnathan-x6z]

Hi Dr Huberman. I’m 18 years old but I’ve been following your podcast since I was 16. I just want to express some gratitude for the value your channel brings to people like me and other people of all ages. Thank you Huberman for the work and knowledge you put out there to help people continuously improve their well-being 🙏🏽.

[@nas3426]

It will be more polite if you refer to him as Dr Huberman. He’s not your best friend to call him Andrew. Just a thought for you.

[@dinkkystumbler]

Dr Bracket I was so touched by your authenticity ! Thank you for sharing, it was very healing and inspiring for me to hear you speak. ❤Your hard work has not been in vain. Thank you you are a great human !❤

[@hubermanlab]

I’ll make sure Marc sees this note. Thank you!

[@sonjaforrester9255]

Agree completely! As someone who is an introvert but can very social I was relieved to hear I can still have good EI (always learning though) and still be who I am and I don't have to apologize for it!

[@alexlavi3699]

I feel we are so so fortunate to have someone at the caliber of Andrew having these brilliant conversations with equally phenomenal people. Just listening Andrew's introduction today made me listen to the whole thing. What a privilege to listen to these magnificent, bright, people sharing their impressive knowledge with us. What a privilege!!! And it never stops to delight and (sometimes) surprise me how nice, kind, down to earth they, approachable, modest, sincere, transparent, open they are. Thank you!

[@Sharon-u6i]

I don’t even know how I found this. I was literally watching a an animal KZbinr can’t remember the one and had muted my TV and was coloring for like an hour, and I look up and I see it from the very beginning and unmuted the tv wondering what it was, and became intrigued and I am 39 minutes in and I am loving it. I also feel so fortunate that God put this video in my random plays. 😮 and to think I’d been thinking for months on how I could grow emotionally. Have been but this knowledge i’ve learned so far is wonderful. I’m excited to meet the new me when I take all this in and apply it.

[@pro100olga]

The fact that I can listen to the long and meaningful conversations with top world experts for free - this just blows my mind every time

[@jimmycom13]

@@pro100olga Same. Every episode that I watch I learn something that transitions into my life daily.

[@katerinapalivoda4725]

absolutely true... we are fortunate !

[@littlebird4515]

​@Sharon-u6i if you're just discovering the Huberman Lab Podcast, you are in for an amazing journey. The Universe has given you an incredible gift.🙂

[@sonjaforrester9255]

Dr. Brackett needs a podcast. I need more of him. I want to learn more but I also love his authentic personality. He makes me feel more accepting of myself!

[@Type1DiabeticApril]

100%

[@DeedraStrang]

Through Marc Brackett’s amazing Ruler program, our elementary school students and teachers developed more effective emotional skills and a more compassionate school culture. Using Ruler tools and strategies guided us in handling conflicts and managing challenging feelings. Marc was an inspiring and transformative Uncle Marvin to Mercer Elementary School. Every day we shared our feeling and developed strategies to achieve our goals. It changed me, to start each lesson asking- “How do you want to feel in speech today?”

[@SuzannePoschet]

The only ruler program in elementary I knew growing up in the 70’s in the South was the paddle program 😂they hung it on the wall and you got it for misbehavior 😅

[@nancyasaunders]

This guy is awesome. As a former kid, a parent of grown kids, and a former teacher, what he is doing is essential and long overdue.

[@shirintobie-paul3501]

Thank you Dr. Huberman, team, sponsors and supporters ☀️

[@tropicallymixed.]

For those of us raised by Baby Boomers, we really need to give them grace and consider how they were raised. We really expect the offspring of the generation that survived the Great Depression to have emotional intelligence? I give my mother grace because she had a mother who raised seven children on her own. How can I expect my mother to have emotional intelligence? Our parents were survivors and they believed their role was to feed us and put a roof over our heads.

[@barbarafairbanks4578]

Good take on the (often overlooked) differences btw generations & their 'flavor' of raising kids, based quite a bit on their OWN upbringing. It appears that many gen-z'ers are going 'no contact' with their parents - leaving many of these unfortunate parents hurt/confused/saddned - not to mention completely perplexed over what they actually did to their kids to have caused this. This 'no-contact' phenomenon seems (from what I've read, of late) to be gaining momentum in the GenZ generation. I do think that today's technology, unrealistic social media, and completely different social/emotional environment we now live in - is largely to blame for this unfortunate development in extended family life. 😢

I don’t remember exactly which generation is which (sorry for the laziness and not googling it), but I remember growing up in the 80’s considering absolutely embarrassing to talk about feelings. Or mental health, for that matter.

[@SisterSunnyFreeSpirit]

❤ truth. Each generation does their best. Without all the previous generations … we wouldn’t be. Evolving. Together.

[@KamelaParis-zi1jo]

"Doers"not "thinkers" nessesarily.

[@CM-ey6qy]

@@KamelaParis-zi1joYes! 🎯

[@bqpdobqpd]

I don’t know if people know this, but “emoji”is a Japanese🇯🇵 word, made up of two components : “e” is “絵” which means picture or paintings, and “moji” is “文字” which means text or characters, so it literally just says “picture characters”, which is exactly what they are. And I found the topic interesting because I feel exactly the opposite for the Japanese culture as I think having emojis makes the text conversation more enriching and eloquent. Now, I do acknowledge that by using a single emoji to express feelings, we are cutting our effort to elaborate our emotions using words. But in Japan, no one expresses feelings, period. People never tell you what they think, and expect that you guess it right. And surprisingly, people do! (How😭😫🥺)So in a high context culture like this, tiny as it is, an emoji is a great hint to solve a mystery within our communications, and that’s probably why there are so many of them with the slightest difference in nuances. Another important aspect is that Japanese being low tolerant in reading text in general, we use emojis to not exactly to omit elaboration with words but more for the benefit of readers. In Japan, most restaurants have menu’s with pictures and many even have replicas of dishes by the entrance. Another example is that it’s rare to see instructions or manuals explained without pictures or drawings by steps, and I couldn’t believe that only-text cook books exist in the US😅 Because we hate so much to read anything in plain text, and don’t want to be asked nor spoken to by others, visually rich communication style has developed so that we can keep on with our telepathic way of dealing with each other🛸👽🛸 As I’ve been in the US and have lived most of my life speaking in both languages, I still find it strange and sometimes scary how Japanese people get away communicating without really communicating…😢 I’ve got into fights with my own mom, telling me how I shouldn’t be so straightforward or that I “should read her mind”, but also had many occasions where people thanked me of how honest I was to tell them what I really thought, so things might shift…and hope these cute little 絵文字s could serve us all well❤😆🎉🎉

[@brittonyb5279]

Great comment. Super interesting

[@itssoaztek4592]

Thanks for elaborating on the use of emojis in Japan! What I did not understand in your comment is exactly why Japanese are so reluctant to read plain text? Is it considered difficult to read text (perhaps like I am reluctant to read math equations or computer code because it is somewhat difficult for me to parse?) Or are people reluctant to read plain text in Japanese because perhaps it is more cumbersome to accurately express feelings and such? I am just wildly guessing here, hopefully someone who knows can chime in.

[@monavallejo]

Thank you for sharing this, didnt know 🙏

[@AK-hn6xb]

I love this! Lived in Okinawa for 5 years and I hadn’t made this connection ❤thanks for sharing!

[@l.halawani]

You should be dolphins then. It maybe anecdotal but I've heard they are able to reproduce the sounds they receive from their echolocation to transmit the image they saw to other dolphins.

[@ShirleyMcalpine]

What a breakthrough, two emotionally authentic men in the same room at the same time!😮 All humanity will follow your your lead!🎉❤😂😊

[@sophiajmc]

I really enjoy episodes like this, where your guests explore aspects of human behavior that I wouldn’t usually notice in myself. And thanks for always asking the best questions to get the most valuable insights from them!

[@maciekwais]

"We need a World in which everyone will get emotional education." Couldn't agree more!

[@prmft94123]

Oh Marc! The story you told of the other professor showing the video of a child being bullied and saying "That was Marc before he got his black belt" touched me so deeply- and with the sadness I felt rage and identification. When I was newly licensed, almost 30 years ago, I was in a training through an Institute in San Francisco in which I'd been chosen to present a case over a period of the entire first semester. It was a difficult case, and I'd chosen to present it because it was difficult for me to identify with my patient who was very much involved with paraphilia that involved scatological practices, and there were a couple of other clinicians who objected to my being chosen (by the leader) because of my inexperience. As the weeks progressed, there was much rolling of eyes and expressions wanting to "dump" me in favor of someone else presenting, and even though the psychoanalyst who was leading the group said that she had no objection with my presentation, she caved to the pressure of these couple of participants and prematurely ended my time presenting (which was supposed to last for the duration of the semester) and chose someone else to present (with less disturbing material). Years later, she approached me and asked if I had "survived" that horrible experience, so at least there was some acknowledgement that she hadn't handled the situation well at all and that it had been harmful to me. Fortunately, I was in analysis with a skilled supportive analyst and had the support of a couple of the other participants, but the ostracizing and contempt of these couple of more experienced clinicians was very hurtful and damaging to me at the beginning of my career. Forgive the lengthy "comment" along with my other comments here, but I found this episode to be so stimulating and evocative that I wanted to share this.

[@tazeenmohsin]

Ive been a fan since the past 2 years. But this would be my most fav podcast. Dr Marc's transparency and humanness blew my mind. Not only were my theoretical knowledged and learnings enhanced but I learnt more on how compassion can turn into purpose. Beautiful human being.

[@Mindi-b9f]

I want to acknowledge Dr Brackett for alchemizing the cruelty and abuse and neglect of his childhood into an illuminating way of relating to oneself and others and the world. I was especially moved in how he addressed the fellow presenter who showed the film clip. And when he said that punishment doesn't work--I feel so much affection for him! Thank you for the honesty and vulnerability you both express.

[@AlexDebeli]

Thank you, Andrew, for keeping us interested in science & life! 🙏

[@eporresnyc]

Dr Brackett has partnered with my kids’ school for a number of years. He’s terrific and so is his book. “Are you really the DIRECTOR of the school for Emotional Intelligence?” “Not tonight!” Priceless. Thank you (for your sharing of) science!

[@AarthiRanganathan-j2c]

The effect of Bullies even till date to Mr. Marc is astonishing, nobody really does move on from the hurt. It is highly essential to keep our kids safe from such bullies as this affects things life long. This candid discussion is worth all the 2 hour and 34 minutes. Kudos to Andrew and Marc for enlightening us.

[@jackyang938]

Thank you Dr. Marc Brackett for your work, knowledge, wisdom, truthfulness, and vulnerability. Uncle Marvin would be proud. We all need an Uncle Marvin and to be Uncle Marvin for those in need, including ourselves.

[@ManishFrenchStudio]

I’m constantly blown away by the quality of your videos! It’s clear that you put so much thought and effort into each one, and it doesn’t go unnoticed. Your creativity and attention to detail are inspiring. You’ve created a space where learning is not only fun but also super effective. Thank you for everything you do!9.8k

[@TXBro38]

Nice bro

[@majito4370]

Andrew thanks for introducing us to Marc Brackett, what a beautiful and brilliant human being. This ep has been highgly therapeutic and revealing in many ways... Andrew what a terrific work you are doing here on planet earth... hope you get our gratitude and love and find it rewarding somehow.

[@oxanapan]

Have noticed, that huge empathy and understanding go out from people who struggled of hard experience. But they could find enough courage to overcame it, became open fragile persons to share that knowledge with others. In case to protect world from repetitiveness of that hard experience.

[@jordanblake26]

Always love to listen to dr. Brackett. Wanted to ask did you read book called Grow Beyond by dr. Nathan Chambers, everyone is talking about it and its a must read now

[@jenniferallen1911]

I can’t find the book.

[@ralstonawayan448]

From a man who survived bullying, thank you. I am very emotional listening to this. To all the children going through it today, I hope they find the courage to stand up for themselves as I did.

[@shirintobie-paul3501]

I forgot to thank DR. MARC BRACKETT☀️ This episode is a gift!

[@PGproductionsHD]

You can edit comments you know

[@gracetallar3468]

I agree that just labelling the emotion is not sufficient to manage feelings and moods. However it is a first step. Knowing why shows you a trigger of your emotion and this is developing self-awareness.

[@adrianirunceanu]

What a great episode (sensitive, funny, etc.) ... definitely in my top 3 so far. Thank you so much. I have learned so many beautiful things. And what a great person, dr. Marc Brackett. I am very grateful for everything he shared during this discussion. And I will definitely look up after his book.

[@martbright]

This is very powerful. I was bullied as a child and bullied in academia much later, to the point that I gave up on my career. I never wanted to have children because I couldn’t face the idea that my children could be treated in that way.

[@DrYouMrTube]

Gratitude and being content with your life as a daily thing changed my life. You realize you have a lot and start to enjoy, instead of endless pursuit of future gratification that never happens. All people I know that are not happy keek seeking future goals over and over,non stop thinking once they get that, they will be happy. Doesn't work for anyone...

[@TXBro38]

I'm in that trap... I just have to get ganged up on by masculine guys

[@kalyan.krishna74]

Dr. Andrew from the depths of the heart,any amount of appreciation or adulation won't be do justice or be a hyperbole for your persistent efforts!! You are a true blessing to this society, I worship at your alter 🙏 !!

[@lindaelarde2692]

Loved this discussion! I resonate with the "overwhelm" description. Mornings are hardest for me...i wake up in full on scanning, planning, problem anticipating/solving mode! I began a morning routine of breathwork, meditation, yoga, exercise, and gratitude journaling to start my day in an intentional, grounded way. When I can't quite get there, I practice self-compassion for being a work in progress. 🥰👍 As Kermit the Frog said, "It isn’t easy being green." So true.

[@johannalackie6638]

Thank you Marc, for all the parents out there that needed to hear this. The world would be a better place if people would be able to talk about their feelings and ask others how they are. ❤

[@ubaidgul6686]

Checklist while getting ready to watch Dr.huberman's podcast -Pen -Notebook -Headphones -Distraction free room.

[@margauxtbh]

You and I both, classmate!

[@inventiveowl395]

Minus the distraction free room. I need a right amount of distraction otherwise I can't focus.

[@rents5667]

I need to start taking this approach. Thanks for sharing this

[@mohammedshafiq1919]

Not reading the comments

[@RachelRiner]

Is listen better when staying busy cleaning (or I should say I clean better when listening)

[@laurengarcia2568]

Wow unbelievable. I’m in tears. I will try harder to talk to my teen to let him know it’s ok to feel. I need to stop fearing these conversations.

[@avishkar_raykar]

It was the much needed podcast topic for the today’s youth. Thank you Dr.Huberman for this podcast and the podcasts of the past🙏🙏

[@ExecutiveZombie]

For today’s adults. 😎😇

[@avishkar_raykar]

@@ExecutiveZombie yeah your right but it’s even more important for today’s youth as per me

[@ExecutiveZombie]

@@avishkar_raykar All of us.🫡

[@mariavasilenko5080]

This is one of the most insightful, intelligent, humble, and thoughtful conversations on emotional intelligence I ever listened to! I feel being more equipped with truly good tools to understand what’s going on with myself and others better! Thank you, Dr. Brackett and Dr. Huberman! 😃

[@olgazavilohhina6854]

¡Hola Profe! Identifying emotions requires actually knowing the language and being able to have a conversation. Even if only with yourself. My grandmother was not only an intelligent, brave, beautiful woman, but also a Russian language teacher. She used to drive me crazy with her game "Find 5 synonymous", for the words she thought were misused. And then I was asked to think deeply and choose the right one. I have no words to thank her for all the lessons she taught me.Thank You for this conversation. And Thank You for Yor hard work and care for all of us.

[@KateDayko-k8q]

My grandmother was deprived of the opportunity to study her native Ukrainian language by the Soviet authorities.

[@80anakome]

​@@KateDayko-k8qwhat's the difference between Russian language and Ukranian language, because I, as a Serbian speaking person who used to watch Soviet films and nowdays watch Russian films and Ukranian videos, can't seem to recognize which language is beeing used 1:54:21

[@KateDayko-k8q]

@@80anakome vocabulary, pronunciation, grammar, usage of Slavic words. There is a huge difference between these languages.

[@griddyp1792]

You have no words to thank her after she taught you so many!? Unbelievable

[@henryforman9904]

Every time I hit a “wall” in my life and don’t know what it is or how to control it, the Huberman podcast has always got a resolution for it and it can be quite scary sometimes, because it’s like he already knows what I need to be educated on, and this is why I’m incredibly grateful for this podcast, Thank you Andrew.

[@serenetgl]

Completed this episode over 3 days. Started applying the tools on Day 2. Felt the change IMMEDIATELY. Thank you Dr Brackett for your courage to share your stories and for your work! ❤️

[@drmarkweinert]

Thank you for the excellent Podcast! As a Physician with a special interest in communication let me point out the compassion part: Compassion is essential for good patient care. Dr. Stephen Trzeciak has documented and proven this scientifically in his 374-page systemic review of compassion, comprising more than 1,000 articles from the best universities in the world.[20] Trzeciak is an intensive care physician and he was initially convinced that he would find the opposite when - as the author with the most impact points at his university - he was asked by his dean to find out whether compassion can and should play a role at their university. That was in fact the starting point of his search for scientific evidence, which ended in the book Compassionomics. You might get him on the podcast as well. It will be well worth it!

[@rayaanebelgasmi6205]

I did open this episode after the episode on skin health as an afterthought, this episode made me laugh, cry and question my feelings. Just Bravo , what an inspiring episode, please we need a second episode with Mark.

[@kaleidoscopicboo]

righttt ?!! It was soo goood

[@BelelachiliG299]

I really enjoyed the conversation and was thoroughly captivated! Dr. Brackett shared his experiences and knowledge with transparency, authenticity, and honesty, which was touching and inspirational. I hadn't heard of him before, but I'm definitely going to learn more about him and his work. It's great to hear that there are schools helping kids develop emotional awareness and intelligence at a young age, something I didn't have growing up. I hope this type of curriculum is implemented in all schools. The world would be a much better place. Dr. Huberman always asks the best questions! Thank you, Dr. Huberman, for this gem!

[@carly102982]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[@speedemonxs]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

[@snoopdoff]

Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

[@47151632]

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

[@speedemonxs]

Is he on instagram?

[@snoopdoff]

Yes he is dr.porassss.

[@yhk1883]

From listening to this episode, I come to a conclusion that life is a quest to overcome the struggles imprinted in us in our childhood and youth. It's been my hypothesis for a while, and now it is a theory! ha! So, what I've learned is that we need to embrace and accept who we are, and try to become someone we wished to have when we were a kid.

[@badrmourad8293]

Hello Andrew, I know you read all the comments. I wanted to thank you for your unbiased and methodical work, and suggest you to do an episode about video games, especially on how we could apply the reward system of video games and apply it to increase daily life motivation.

[@NicholeGowNyk]

I absolutely loved this man. What an inspiration! His vulnerability was so authentic, honest and brave. Just such an amazingly articulate man. I loved his passion for his work. I wish I could work with him. Thankyou for this podcast Andrew. So valuable. Everyone should listen 🙏🏼

[@zombiepigboy]

The app mentioned seems super insightful. It looks at the data like a happiness P&L Over a month, you’ll have 30-60 entries. Over a year, you’ll have 360-720 entries. The beauty of this is you’re now detached. It’s just raw data of many present moments stacked together. You can see just how many times something made you miserable or happy. It’s no longer discarded into the memory abyss. If something has made you happy or miserable 20+ times, it’s impossible to bullshit yourself anymore. Without this data - it’s so easy to bullshit yourself. Then you can build friction around happiness/contentment limitations and also make happiness/contentment assets frictionless. Strip the liabilities and double down on the assets.

[@TXBro38]

I need to get loads

[@designbyellie4291]

This is a powerful and completely useful conversation. Thank you to Dr. Huberman for interviewing the brilliant Dr. Marc Brackett. His work needs to be taught in all of our schools.

[@sherryvollmar8262]

Loved, loved, loved this conversation!!!!! Thank you!

[@kristyll40]

Once again, this is the conversation I didn't know I needed to hear. I have never thought much about emotions but the death of my mum earlier this year has completely upended my life, and It's like I either feel all emotions at once or I feel nothing. This conversation, as well as the ones with Dr. Martha Beck & Dr. Jamil Zaki has been so profoundly helpful with understanding my emotions as I go through grief that I never expected. Thank you for the work that you and your team do, it really does make an impact.

[@zulinalalji]

Dr. Brackett, you are everyone's Uncle Marvin with the work that you do. @Huberman thank you for having Dr. Brackett.

[@marthachacon4027]

One of the most meaningful, deep conversations in months. Thank you!

[@newday2637]

Wow, such an awesome interview and topic. Dr Bracket is so great, he is so knowledgeable and down to earth . The fact that he shared so many of his difficult emotional experiences was so touching . The topic is very important in this day and age Thank you for sharing

[@maciekwais]

Incredible authenticity from Dr. Marc. Incredible person. Huge respect for being able to convert all of this suffering to a system that teaches children EI. Unbelievable achievement.

[@prmft94123]

So important! So often we'll unconsciously "choose" to have one feeling rather than another. For example, we would all rather feel guilty than powerless, something that is almost universal when someone we know or are related to commits suicide. We tend to "wouldda-couldda-shouldda" because if we can imagine that there might have been something we could have done to prevent the suicide we can retroactively feel more powerful, whereas the reality is that we were powerless which is a less tolerable emotion.

[@barbarafairbanks4578]

The wouldda-shouldda- couldda - emotions you've mentioned - is actually a pretty universal response to grief - specifically in an unconscious desire to magically fix the situation and reverse the fact that the loved-one HAS died. (Completely unconsciously...bc of course a sane person does know death cannot be reversed. But, this is in large part 'denial'. Most everyone goes through this 'if-only' thinking (if only I'd done this/that, or I hadn't done this/that - they'd still be here. And yes, it is very much a guilt response, but is largely unconscious. Th8s thinking is also a strong signal that the mind/heart has simply not accepted that death. That's the denial part of the 'stages of grief'. The way to find our way out of this 'if-only' torturous thinking is to admit (and declare) to ourselves, that we did the best we could. We did not do anything to harm that person (pet) - we did what we truly believed was best for the situation at the time. Sometimes it does take days, weeks, months to continually remind ourself, 'I did my best, with what I had/knew at the time. Helps, also, to go over this with a grief counselor - to finally be released from this guilt & unconscious sense of denial of the reality. But, I have to disagree that the guilt expressed as wouldda-couldda- shoudda in this type scenario, is a conscious emotion one chooses, over a feeling of powerlessness. We don't 'choose' it - it's a defense mechanism.

[@prmft94123]

@@barbarafairbanks4578 Of course. When I state that we "choose to have one feeling rather than another, I precede the word "choose" with the word "unconsciously." It is indeed a defense, and frequently a useful one which I keep in mind when I am working with someone in my psychotherapy practice as we navigate through their grief.

[@barbarafairbanks4578]

​@prmft94123 OPF! Sorry, Marc. Hadn't a clue that was you I was 'replying to' with my know-it-all post on your woulda/coulda post. I thought I was replying to some unknown in the comments section. ...and then of course, I MISSED the preceding word 'unconscious' in your post (40 lashes for moi🙄) Thanks for replying😊 Thanks

[@prmft94123]

@@barbarafairbanks4578 You WERE replying to "some unknown" (not Marc) in the comments section. My identity is the (@prmft94123) that precedes the "comment," but if you'd like me to be "known" rather than unknown my name is Patricia Ross and I'm a psychotherapist in private practice in the SF Bay Area for the past 32+ years. No offense taken. I figured that you'd missed the "unconscious" simply from the nature of your comment. No 40 lashes necessary. A perfectly human mistake.

[@alinemoran8301]

Omg! Inhale no words to express how much this guy touched my life with this interview. Beautiful story. What a humble man

[@ArikCard]

Good morning Huberman and squad. I'd like to request a clinician working with adult patients with Interest Based Attention. I've seen the episodes where you break down the use of stimulates and I appreciate when you give your understanding and pair that with an interview with a clinician. As always, deepest gratitude to you and the whole team.

[@TXBro38]

I'm down to get relocated

[@linakay8324]

Andrew, thanks a lot for this podcast - it really moved me. Short story - once my sister asked me to translate the emotional chart listing the variety of feelings but I refused to translate the 'bad' ones... this is how head in the sand I was! I'm a bit better now, but hearing Mark talk about the differences in feelings and how we describe them - peaked my interest even more and I feel there is hope when we practice with awareness. What saved me was coming back to body: nature therapy with sensations, breath meditations, sauna and sports. Wishing best of luck to us all on this journey 💚

[@louisezilliox1600]

Great conversation. Thank you. How wonderful it would be if everyone in the world learned these skills to support themselves and others. I've listened to Marc on Feel Better Live More and also read his book and it was a reminder to me that I need to revisit this.

[@summittspawn]

DR.MARC, Thank you SO VERY MUCH. Words cannot express my gratitude for your honesty, vulnerability, and hard work. Thank you. Thank you.

[@AK-hn6xb]

This was so great!!! As a very extrovert person, I HATE text messages. (They are fine for quick messaging but not for keeping in touch.) During Covid when everyone started video chatting and calling/ texting I felt SO DRAINED. To the point where I had to physically leave my phone at home during my lunch break when working remotely- just for the break from technology. My introverted young adults- just fine. As a matter of fact, my daughter will not answer her phone unless I text first, hahaha!

[@shaheedanizar9347]

This is one of the best podcasts ever. Amazingly informative, for sure. Dr. Marc Brackett - is very real human. His research and teaching is a gift to humanity.

[@mommybreakdown]

Thank you, Dr. Huberman for your humble nature. It’s really inspiring to listen to someone with a wealth of knowledge feel like a peer. I notice how very few times I feel your judgment, but rather your inspiration for continuing to be my best self. It’s hard sometimes to listen to experts and the way you respond during interviews brings a beautiful homeostasis. I hope that makes sense. 😆. Have a fabulous week!

[@mommybreakdown]

I finally finished the rest of this one, after a busy week, and I’m glad that I did. The last 20 minutes were so profound. Educating children is the answer. Thank you, Dr. Brackett!!

[@ManolaGarcia-t3v]

I agree with Dr. B. I think that it’s very important to teach academics to people but it is also very important to teach them Emotional Intelligence. I’m hoping for a healthier community. Thank you Dr. Huberman for bringing Dr. B to us.

[@colleenfavor1303]

I think I text in-depth conversations that can be intense as I write better than I speak. I tend to put more thought into written words than speaking face to face

[@kelseynatemartin345]

I’m at about 1:24’ish and am thrilled to hear Brackett describe how when one someone becomes aware of their emotion, they can begin to address it. I have 3 kids (11, 14, 15) and for the last 5 years I’ve been committed to asking them to identify their emotion. This question is such a staple that we even have a poster in our living room of the emotion wheel which identifies the primary emotions and which category the secondary emotions belongs to. Anyway, I tell them all the time that emotions are like a student in class who knows the answer - his hand is up, he’s waving it, stretching as far as it’ll go, saying “oo oo oo”, just being a total distraction, but what happens when we call on him - his hand goes down, he’s sitting still, and now you can actually focus on what you’re doing. Love this topic! Thank you Huberman and Brackett , I’m totally enjoying this episode!

[@DanielAusMV-op9mi]

I love seeing Andrew taking notes and looking so deeply invested in the information/person that is there

[@waggingsuccessotr4746]

Thank you Andrew for finding your way to my iPad over 4 years ago. Helped me change many parts of myself. Too many to text. lol. But reason I’m texting is to agree 100% with the texting part. I have a very hard time replying if there are more than one person. Think about how everyone will interpret. 😒

[@TrippyHippieGypsy]

I woke up today at 4 a.m. I usually fall asleep listening to KZbin and I couldn't be more grateful that I woke up hearing this the work that you both do will change this world it inspired me and this will very much be a video I will come back to the message resonated with me to my core thank you both so much for sharing your experiences wisdom and knowledge I've gained immense inspiration and healing from this knowledge and I will carry that with me and try in every way to implement the things I've learned here today❤❤❤

[@Freebirddee]

For a moment I felt normal when I heard Dr Huberman say he doesn’t like texting either. I also dislike social media. All of it has made us lazy humans!

[@jerusalemlady9372]

Wow, I can honestly say that this was the most profound podcast I’ve ever heard. Tuned in not expecting something to affect me so deeply and it’s a story that’s so relatable. This helped me understand myself and my own childhood. The episode is a real turning point for me to also recognize adult bullying. Thank you for such a gift!❤

[@kaleidoscopicboo]

So raw, so human, so resourceful!! Thank you Andrew for bringing and having such vulnerable conversations on a "science" based podcast!! Never have I ever cried (multiple times) while listening to a conversation between two MEN! ❤️‍🩹❤️✨ Looking forward to more such episodes 🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@pro100olga]

Knowing that even an emotions regulation expert has difficulties living with their in laws makes me feel better about myself 😂

[@nataliajimenez7373]

This is one of the best episodes and guests that you have ever had. I was so inspired by Dr. Brackett’s story and teachings that I bought his book and recommended the podcast to my husband and friends.

[@landonmorrison9334]

More of this, professor! More about the hard Neuroscience of emotions, the affective neuroscience that Godfather and GOAT Dr Panksepp revolutionized the field with

[@enikosoos9889]

The honesty and knowledge showed by Dr. Marc Brackett is extraordinary. I loved every second of it. Thank you both of you for your work!!!

[@HeatherQ333]

I get what Andrew is saying about emoji's... however, I love emoji's because it allows me to add at least a little more information about my messege. Obviously they are generic and lack a lot of complexity but I like to use them so the person reading my messege at least knows that I am being friendly for example. Especially. Because they do add life to a messege that is otherwise kind of lifeless.... so if it's in a negative way then, it's felt that much more too...in a negative a repressive way... I don't think we should stop using them though.... maybe once we start using voice recordings or video's to comment instead of typing!

[@neeleshboddepalli6355]

For anyone searching " how we feel " is the app and I want to thank both dr. marc and dr. Huberman for giving us this opportunity to learn about emotional intelligence, just know that I can't thank you enough and I hope dr. Marc's curriculum gets implemented in every school in every country!

[@neeleshboddepalli6355]

Just letting you know if you read this, uncle marvin has reached to streets of India!

[@sew1what]

I was forced to quit 9th grade due to extreme hate threats against me and not one single adult in my life could/would step up...create a safe place for me to get an education. People don't know what to do with systemic racism. It affects our whole society and well being on every level 😢

[@jennyretief4978]

Listening to Mark is like going through an old box of photographs and cards. So many bad memories and experiences flooding back. One can but live with it and try to respond and react differently

[@NehaRathore-e9r]

I needed to know this. Thanks for the podcast on this topic. Gratitude, From India 🙏

[@karinekmk9293]

Andrew, Marc : this podcast theme is so important. I remember one of Andrew's (about PTSD, I think), where it was said that, the more words people use to describe their feelings/emotions after a traumatic event, the better they recover from it. So true. I DL the app, it's incredibly rich and detailed (love the "moves" section !). It's a bit challenging for a French person bc I don't have all the english vocabulary for the emotions, but the little description of each one helps a lot. Will use it daily, i clicked on surprise me daily for the emotions check. If it helps me regulate mine, I will recommend it to my english speaking students. Thank you so much 🙏

[@mannequin4sale]

Huge respect to Marc: what a lovely person + a great podcast ❤🙏🏻 (emoji-addict 😂)

[@SaltedHope]

Please have an episode on Teen Nutrition and Fitness. My two teens along with all of their friends are all at the gym everyday and trying to be healthy. Although its common for a lot of high school girls to starve themselves and many of the kids these days are being influenced by social media and a lot of misleading information

[@DAnielSaddique-iw7zd]

Grateful for the knowledge Andrew u share.

[@aarkinsahu970]

What a privilage it is to listen to renowned scientists for free. I truly can't help but to say that Dr. andrew huberman has changed my life for good!

[@jaywon06]

Andy Dick is dropping knowledge 😊

[@Eganmejenn]

Best episode yet. Really enlightening, I hope to grow up and be half that brave. I am 62.

[@bioptimization]

Could you do a podcast about learning languages?

[@mangethezwane4729]

@hubermanlab is my fav podcast channel especially when you have guests. this channel provides many life hacks that are needed for adulthood especially in this information saturated world. you provide scientific information in a distilled manner so that one can relate very easily with complex subject. a loong winded way to say THANK you and KEEP doing what you do. Thank you to your team as well.

[@HareKrishnaPerth]

1:32:00 in the Finnish language, they have a different word for both of these types of envy. One pleasant, one not.

[@roxanaiulianafrincu1107]

In Romanian we have a word that describes an emotion (or several emotions at once), but without translation in English, which is “dor”. Dor means to long for someone you love. Related to the French words douleur, meaning pain, or deuil, which means mourning, dor is used to express that you miss someone, as well as the bittersweet feeling you have in those moments.

[@wotruannwah5678]

Betterhelp has such a terrible rep on youtube, I'm surprised you took the sponsorship.