Anorexic Woman interview-Sophie

[@essie7]

when Mark said towards the end, "I've seen much skinnier girls than you", Sophie's silent pause rang so loud. I'm positive that his one statement is going to be her greatest takeaway from this interview.

[@Chloe-rs8nv]

oh no, he said that? her fragile disposition already makes this hard to watch

[@drdwgmd14]

Did he accidently say it?

[@kvnhmmd]

42:48 That's like saying "I've seen much fatter girls than you" to someone struggling with obesity. As a 33 year old male who has always struggled with being underweight, there's definitely a double standard here. It's not ok to talk about someone being overweight, but super common for someone to tell you you're too skinny and 'need to eat more' As a skinnier male, it's also common and frustrating for someone to underestimate my strength. Like, "yes, I can lift this 40lb bag of dog food on my own, thank you"

[@Chloe-rs8nv]

@@drdwgmd14 i went to the time stamp. it wasn't an accident, but it's not as bad as people are making it out to be in the comment section. with context, i found the comment to be unremarkable

[@blckbrdfly7675]

I really cringed when he said that and I was really disappointed in him for saying it. I love him and this channel but to say that to someone with anorexia who LITERALLY just spent the last 40 minutes telling you her insecurities seemed really insensitive.

[@user-fc9pu3ff9g]

I can’t belive he said that he’d ”seen girls much skinnier than her”. As an anorectic it is VERY triggering to hear. Competition and comparison are two big components in the illness itself. Hearing something like that feeds the eating disorder. And leaves you feel not good (skinny) enough.

[@dreamcrazy37]

Yea that wasn’t good

[@piplup5680]

This made me cringe so hard. Why did he think that was ok to say? Especially since he has a daughter with an ED

[@dreamcrazy37]

@@piplup5680 I think he realised and that’s when he ended the interview. I’m sure those words are ringing In her head to this minute

[@piplup5680]

@@dreamcrazy37 yeah I don’t think he meant it maliciously, it was just really surprising hearing him say that after everything she just talked about

[@dreamcrazy37]

@@piplup5680 totally. Even I was triggered ! I’m normal weight but obsessed.

[@anfisakiryanova4552]

When someone told me when I was anorexic that I wasn’t “that skinny” when I was 20+ pounds underweight, it ruined me. I became hospitalized. Why why why would anyone ever say to an anorexic person “I’ve seen skinnier than you”. It’s a competitive disease and any anorexic will take that as a challenge. My god that was horrific to hear

[@littlems.tries-to-fix-it6270]

I was immediately triggered and knew what it did to her and I’m proud of her for speaking about it after. But i do agree with mark, that everyone can’t walk on egg shells because we have issues.. we will find motivation one way or another. Mark isn’t a therapist … But yes, very hard to hear

[@UncomplicatedFellow]

that's because you are crazy it's your problem dont push it on others. if words hospitalize you then you simply need to grow up and get over yourself

[@boycottjews]

This guy is pure evil. He was trying to destroy her for fun.

[@boycottjews]

@@UncomplicatedFellow he gave his own daughter an eating disorder.

[@Maggot_infestedd]

That made me so mad.

[@arianebeauchamp6916]

The core of it: Getting raped is trauma. Getting groomed is trauma. She is in active addiction, due to unresolved trauma. You don’t need to have had a shitty childhood to have been traumatised by experiences you have had. The other part of it, is her belief that she is not good at anything, and has “no talents.” Being anorexic is the only thing she receives validation from, so she’s formed her entire identity around it. That’s hard to give up.

[@cait3]

also there is neglect in her childhood

[@albinofrog5593]

it is very hard to give up. i loved it. it’s still something i grieve. i’m 1.5 years out of treatment and i’m extremely grateful i mostly recovered.. but i still partly miss it. it’s super hard to give up

[@arianebeauchamp6916]

@@albinofrog5593 I’m so glad you are trying to hang in there and have the life that you deserve. Sending you all the love and best for the year ahead. Xx

[@albinofrog5593]

@@arianebeauchamp6916 thank you so much, you as well xxx

[@TheEMC99]

But she was a child when all this happened. She needs to admit she was traumatized/abused as a child.

[@QueenofMarine]

She's 82 pounds, Mark, what do you mean, "I've seen skinnier girls than you"? Why on earth would you say that to her?

[@ammcd2012]

Wasn't he reading a quote?

[@nsw1992]

He was just saying that there’s girls that are way more skinnier, that they are technically dying, like eugenia cooney, that’s sad man. I feel so sad for them :( I struggled too

[@theyreMineralsMarie]

Nothing mark says will be worse than the voices in her own head.

[@xluvbugzx]

@@nsw1992 still, what's the thought process? That's the worst thing you could tell an anorexic person.

[@xluvbugzx]

@@theyreMineralsMarie calm down edge lord

[@czvqn2]

My wife and I lost our beautiful daughter to anorexia just a year and a half ago...this wonderful young woman is so much like my daughter...I can see all the talks we had...all the worry...all the pain she felt for "hurting" us...in Sophia. It is a road I wish for no one, the hardest road in life. Peace to you Sophia, I wish nothing but healing and release from any pain you have in the form of one single moment of personal clarity you may have that propels you from your troubles. All it takes...is one moment of clarity...to see and feel that there is a better way...you are loved.

[@cokeysnose375]

Well said

[@miapdx503]

So sorry for your loss...our young women are so vulnerable, and this world is so wicked. 🌹

[@tammyyarbrough646]

My deepest condolences to your family!

[@Elhastezy888]

So very sorry for your loss💔 Wishing you healing & peace & love & many blessings

[@lanadeltorro7663]

I’m so sorry for your loss.

[@agnesvandal]

Hypersexuality as self harm is a very real thing. It's different than just wanting to have sex for sex, it's like a coping skill. If that's something you struggle with, just know you deserve to be loved and treated kindly outside of anything sexual too. You're worthy of so much.

[@jessicamerced9116]

This comment hit home. I've never considered myself a sexual person despite my many partners and shifting relationships. I never cheated and stuck with one person at a time but it never lasted. I hated myself for how easy I was, cried after intercourse but couldn't seem to stop, I engaged in other self harm behaviors at the time. Now, I'm celebrating a year of abstinence on May 10th, 2022. I'm the happiest I've ever been, I've healed and feel worthy of a good man. By the grace of the Lord Jesus, He has saved me over the years from death..suicide, addictions, and mental illness. The last thing I needed to give up was sex outside of marriage and my weekly wine habit. I give all glory to God because I could have never done it on my own 🙌 God bless you all ❤

[@agnesvandal]

@@jessicamerced9116 sending you love, I'm glad you took the time to do what makes you feel happiest and found fulfillment 💗 this is one of the times where you get to see something happy on the internet for once

[@RafaelSantos-bl1kg]

@@jessicamerced9116 Você acredita em energia negativa de envolvimento com várias pessoas em diversos relacionamento?

[@samantharose2540]

Im on the hypersexuality as self-harm to celibacy pipeline 🥲

[@jtarantula3390]

This comment got to me, I always used it to feel wanted and liked, perhaps loved. When it’d end, I’d feel horrible about myself, I’d feel empty, used. You put into words what I could not.

[@RebeccaGomezToronto]

"I've seen much skinnier girls than you" just guaranteed that she won't be getting better anytime soon. And she agreed with you, SO SAD. I am so proud of her for speaking up about that after she took a minute to gather her thoughts. I had to rewatch that part a few times because I was like there is NO WAY that was just said to an anorexic who just poured her heart out. As a recovered anorexic for like 10 years now I - I just - I just... I am sickened. Sophie, if you ever read this, omg what can I even say, I am SO sorry someone suffering as badly as you had to hear such nonsense, please don't lose anymore weight. Recovery is possible for you! I had the same thoughts about being weight restored and could never imagine myself at a certain weight, when your mind recovers you will realize that your weight restored body is beautiful and still incredibly thin I promise you.

[@sophiamilton1557]

He's listening to her, but her can't BE her. It's not his fault he doesn't have an anorexic manual. And it's clear he said it to give her hope. It's not his fault in her mind it will put her down. At the end of the day SHES SICK. you can be as compassionate as you possibly can but at the end of the day, EVERYONE she comes across may unconsciously say or do something wrong.

[@ktbkimber]

@@sophiamilton1557 Just No. It’s insensitive and tone deaf AF. People with this disorder DIE from it. He shouldn’t be interviewing her if he didn’t have time to read a paragraph or 2 about what it is. Even just based on what she says in real-time is enough to infer it’s not a good idea to comment on her body. She’s not “slim” - Look it up. She’s GD starving.

[@kikimallory]

I know Mark was saying it. Ok’ing from a good place , and I’m sure he learned from this interview how those words can be TAKEN Vs what he meant by them. I agree with you, by hee saying something I don’t doubt that he learned something that day. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I admire him so much for his compassion interviewing broken people, I can’t imagine how much he has learned about humans through his work!

[@NotSure109]

Yawn. Might wanna do some growing up there.

[@KOmyself]

His “fans,” more similar to obsessive fans with a superiority complex thinking watching these videos alone makes them a better human are so disgusting honestly. being in this comment section is sickening and also hilarious how willing they are to ignore basic common sense to keep mark as an angelic figure in their head. i mean this crazy lady^ somehow lives inside his head and constructed a whole fantasy of what mark did after the video like wtf? Clearly it’s not a one off thing and he makes many comments like this spread throughout his videos yet there’s rarely any critics in the comments because they get berated by these people for simply having a different opinion and not using toxic positivity to protect his image, they work so hard like they’re getting paid lol seriously. poor girl i really hope she gets better but she lives in a world where people obsess over weight and where people will comment on her weight regardless of them making themselves to appear more empathetic than the average person.

[@junemarieweaver974]

When I was anorexic my voice shook like this. It was so hard to talk and have the energy to think of what to say even. Wishing her recovery. I promise it is worth it.

[@susiekrabacher7468]

Yes I had the shaking voice

[@seaturtlepoppy7679]

First thing I thought ... It usually happens when I'm really nervous and it's uncontrollable. How long have you been in recovery?

[@yoursweetestmistake7]

Yup I was cold all the time & constantly out of breath

[@junemarieweaver974]

@@seaturtlepoppy7679 it was two years this summer 👏🏼

[@seaturtlepoppy7679]

@@junemarieweaver974 - congrats!

[@jennifermichaels8386]

As a recovered for the most part anorexic, I can’t imagine how horrible she felt being told there are much skinnier girls. It’s the worst thing an anorexic can hear. She even repeated it so you know she feels like she has to lose more now.

[@abellabarbie]

Especially because she is 82 lbs.

[@capnfuzzybutt]

I hate being compared to other women and I'm not anorexic this would hurt my feelings I can imagine how this would affect someone with an ED

[@nanipanini]

!

[@susiekrabacher7468]

Agree

[@juliamacerola3268]

such an ignorant horrible comment on the interviewers end

[@laurenlarkin4112]

sophie’s saying she feels like a shell of who she used to be hits hard. anorexia quite literally sucks the life out of everything it touches. we’re thinking of you, sophie, and we’re all rooting for your recovery.

[@redskyatnight123]

Fuck I feel like that having a drink and drug problem. Life's a bitch

[@suzimonkey345]

Chronic addiction, “sucks the life out of everything it touches” 😔 She’s only 21. Her poor body & brain are still developing. I hope that she figures it out soon so in the future, it can become, ‘just’ something that she went through while she was growing-up… The awful thing about anorexia is how it comes back to haunt you in your 40’s - 50’s. So many ex-anorexia sufferers discover, tragically too late, that they have damaged their hearts & other organs.

[@JoeDidIt]

this woman needs to have her social media taken away she is ruining herself and the young impressionable girls who follow her on tiktok

[@boycottjews]

I want at least 10,000 USD for cringe reimbursement for the ending. "You're not even skinny like the pretty girls" briv

[@mel2043]

@@JoeDidIt whats her @?

[@rosalindkeyes4183]

There is so much more to life than being thin. I've overcome an ED, and 29:52 really hit home when she said she'd rather die than not be skinny. I hope Sophie realizes someday that being skinny is NOT worth your true happiness. I was able to get through it, hoping she can too

[@chrisallen1934]

The minute Mark said “I’ve seen girls much skinnier than you” I was like OH NO! That will spin in her head for weeks. It’s clear that the most innocuous, seemingly positive words can become triggers and weapons in the mind of a person with an eating disorder. What a brutal situation for anyone who loves them. What can you say?

[@SoftWhiteUnderbelly]

Apparently nothing.

[@wes_m]

He's creating some of the most powerful and genuine content on the planet. It's disheartening to see these comment jackals ready to pick him apart.

[@upgrade4347]

@@wes_m most powerful, is that the grandiosity speaking? And then we see the covert come out, apparently i do nothing..... genuine sincerity does not need ego stroking

[@jayrose4748]

Right it's literally the worst thing he could have said to her. What a jackass

[@emilyvanderlaan7699]

@@SoftWhiteUnderbelly if she decides to take that comment as a challenge to lose more weight, that’s not on you. That’s the disordered thinking. Keep doing your thing Mark.

[@BlackGiraffe3]

18:35 she smiled genuinely when she said she was 82 lbs now. In case anyone didn’t notice, THATS why it’s a psychiatric disorder. She was genuinely happy to be back to her lowest weight, you could see the glimmer in her eye but she knows that everyone doesn’t think that same way so her smile IMMEDIATELY stopped and she felt awkward. I’ve had an eating disorder before and to relapse to my lowest weight put a smile on my face because it felt like an accomplishment to me. She seems like such a sweet person, I hope she gets the support she needs to get her health back. She’s dying slowly and she doesn’t know it yet 💔

[@sweetn0thing681]

To be fair she probably does know it, and is either ok with it or doesn’t have the brain where with all to realize how big of a deal that is… malnourishment greatly affects the way you see your life and it’s worth

[@puppytoes6241]

I wonder if she is a Eugenia Cooney fan?

[@cyberhype5495]

Yikes I saw it.... good catch, its like Nick Avacado being happy he hit 400 pounds... they WANT to be unhealthy?

[@regul8or71]

People also smile and laugh sometimes as a defense mechanism when they feel guilty, convicted, embarrassed etc. It’s not always a sign of joy/happiness/pride. Not saying you’re wrong, but I’m not going to read a lot into a smile.

[@angelalynn1979]

I smile and laugh when I feel like I'm telling someone things I shouldn't say, and I don't know why but I've always been this way.

[@loyalwarriorsoul]

Mark please don't ever say to someone who is anorexic that you have seen skinnier especially when as she said it is competitive... challenge accepted. I believe it is important to bring this type of interview but PLEASE be mindful of this in the future. She is brave to tell her story!❤

[@marialiyubman]

You think she’s never heard that? Stop telling people how to speak to others.

[@loyalwarriorsoul]

@@marialiyubman take your own advice!

[@kristykeoki]

Unless you understand the disease you wouldn't know not to say this- he didn't know.

[@turdferguson2]

Stfu god YASSSS SO BRAVE

[@kithand1106]

@@marialiyubman are you... telling them how to speak to others? 😂

[@jessicaelizabeth8621]

She is so right about studies need to be done on her generation. Access to the internet, especially at a young age contains so much negative and harmful content. Despite her coping with her past traumas in this way you can tell she has a lot of psychological resilience. Her cat miraculously saving her life is-- I feel a good omen that she can get past a need for control and find inner peace along with health.

[@patriciafalgoust1068]

It is a form of child endangerment to give your child full access to a smart phone and not having any safe checks and restricrandomly not checking it randomly.

[@dotexe-kr5cm]

Millennials, too. Internet in our homes from toddler age or earlier. And the anonymity of 90s internet is objectively so much worse. The paedophilia/grooming was rife.

[@adriennewhitemusic6374]

sophie, you say you're not good at anything else. but when i watched you talk about your cat, i was almost brought to tears. you're so good at loving and caring for your cat. that may seem small to you, but that's a big deal. you have such a kind heart

[@WhatPlantisthatPaul]

Yes!

[@Sylph-Eater]

... at least she's good at petting cats. She also seems smart enough to get a degree though, I think she just needs more faith in herself..

[@_west33...]

Don't let Satan into your head. She's a lovely woman.

[@fifilamoore1718]

❤❤ Hearing that was super sad too hear, So great At story telling, Maybe helping people in body image one day will be your superpower. I hope your doing better now a year later ❤️🙏🫶🏻fifi

[@terrytownsend5583]

A near miss is as good as a mile

[@Mix56awesome]

She sounded like she really wanted to talk to someone about her life. I hope she is doing good.

[@skeptigal2785]

Surely she's been in therapy and has told her story many times, but I had this sense, too.

[@shawnahathaway4762]

She continually says she's not good at anything but I see a young lady with an incredible ability of self-assessment ... most adults never reach a point where they can be so candid with themselves. Couple that with how articulate she is (when nerves settle down) and I see someone capable of GREAT success. I wish this sweet baby girl success ❤️

[@elizabethbennet4791]

i felt this way as her too. man i wish i had the internet at that age, i'd be raking in the dough tho

[@robm8067]

🤬🤨This girl is dangerous!! 100,000 teens looking up to her in TikTok means she will undoubtedly lead some of them to their deaths. She’s indirectly grooming them. Killing herself is sad, but she needs to ban herself from all social media. Obviously anything goes on TikTok! WTF!

[@vigtime7816]

When he says, "I've seen much skinnier girls than you"..... you can tell that sends her into a whirlwind. She stutters and stammers and cannot get control of her thoughts. Sophie I hope you can get through this. I was very close with a girl that struggled with anorexia and through a lot of therapy was able to "get better" and live a healthier lifestyle these days. I am sure she will carry those thoughts with her for many years to come but by God she has made leaps and bounds. Best of luck to you.

[@NotSure109]

Mark did nothing wrong.

[@vigtime7816]

@@NotSure109 Didn't say he did

[@NotSure109]

@@vigtime7816 Didn't say you did.

[@vigtime7816]

@@NotSure109 Then I'm "NOT SURE" why you felt the need to make that comment! 😂

[@1428monsterdrink]

I really appreciate her honesty. Most people who struggle with eating disorders try and hide it and won’t admit to others let alone themselves. She is very smart and capable, when she is ready, she will get better.

[@viavalentine9982]

she is so nervous!! the tremor in her voice and hands.. opening up like this, being so vulnerable is very difficult. she is a very strong person, and i hope she has a day of personal reckoning soon

[@brookebailey8819]

That’s from not eating

[@JoeDidIt]

the tremor in her voice is obviously because her body is so weak even her voice is shaking basically

[@jbyrd9118]

@@JoeDidIt I think you are right, it reminds me of how an older lady’s voice can sound. 😢

[@JoeDidIt]

@@jbyrd9118 exactly, you got it.

[@viavalentine9982]

@@JoeDidIt it’s probably a combination of both, but yeah

[@sunsetfree5358]

My sister had anorexia. What cured her was she fell in love, wanted to get married and have kids, but she had no periods anymore, and her doctor said unless she gained enough weight to start her reproductive cycle again, kids weren’t even a possibility. Slowly she did gain just enough to start her menstrual cycle again, and ended up with 5 children, who gave her the unconditional love, and purpose that she needed. She began to blossom and thrive, as she cared for them.

[@farmfarmdorrie]

The husband who supported her in this deserves such kudos.

[@sjm9876]

Desire for motherhood brought me into recovery too!

[@amandalynn9237]

This is such a beautiful comment ❤

[@devilsoffspring5519]

It's not falling in love that "cured" your sister. Has nothing to do with having kids. It's just being married. Women pack on pounds like crazy once they're married, to the extreme irritation of their husbands. It's doesn't even matter if they get married when they're really thin and 19 years old--they fatten up like a good farm cow.

[@avotecast]

With all due respect, I'm absolutely GOBSMACKED that Mark would say that. After she spent damn near 40 minutes telling him about how anorexia is like a competition, he STILL said that? Tone deaf and insensitive, even if it was accidental.

[@avotecast]

@fern smith what makes you say that?

[@CP-ir3ft]

@fern smith i don't understand why he'd do that :(

[@mysmirandam.6618]

So he said it in response to her referring to other people's picture in their head of a more emaciated looking person, in other words he was quoting what others meaning well might have said to her he did not say this to her and she even addressed this yall taking things outta context

[@mysmirandam.6618]

@fern smith your face is embarrassing

[@Bug_Bomb_Baby]

@fern smith look at this whole ass channel. You really think Mark said that to be hurtful? Mark doesn't always say the right words, but you look at all his work and the help he provides for people you can kind of put 2 and 2 together. Really not that complicated... but you must be new here huh lol

[@ctwriter1670]

We had an anorexic son. Started in high school. Wanted to get abs. And then it kept going. Yes it can happen to boys too. As is clear from this video, the illness is hugely psychological. What they see is not what healthy people see. And accordingly, requires everything we’ve got in professional help. Again as you can see, even that isn’t enough. We got him into treatment before he turned 18. That was key. At least we could control him a bit at the time. And btw, not easy to find treatment for males. But it still lasted through college and got pretty bad. Slowly, after 10 years, he’s much better. Looks normal and is highly functional.(you’d never know there was an issue). But still has remnants of eating disorders. It’s a baffling disease. All in all, we came out OK. It can be done.

[@adamc7918]

I hope he's doing great

[@upgrade4347]

Good work, do you know of any out patient treatment centers for males?

[@pjrichards3974]

Thanks for sharing your story. It gives hope to all that are still struggling.

[@allshedoiseatanddash5805]

❤️❤️❤️❤️ thank you for not giving up on him.

[@franciscodiaz3028]

I was anorexic in high school. I was under so much pressure from everyone and everyone was telling me what to do so I told myself the one thing I can control is what I eat. The less I ate the more I felt that I was regaining some control. I'm sorry to hear about your son.

[@angiea995]

I cringed when Mark said he's seen skinner because I knew exactly how she would interpret that comment. I love how she asserted herself at the end to explain how commenting on weight is not OK. A year ago, I was eating a high raw diet (for health reasons) and I lost 16 pounds unintentionally. People would not stop commenting on my weight which made me EXTREMELY uncomfortable, and I think all of those comments led my niece to develop an eating disorder. She's doing better now. I think what's so important for people who struggle with these types of disorders is that they learn how to love themselves and learn how to WANT to treat themselves well. These are incredibly self-destructive behaviors. YOU CAN CONTROL how well you treat yourself and your body. I hope her journey leads her to find self-love.

[@craigthomasc2543]

The Chanel is great but I have noticed on several occasions some of the interviewers questions/responses show why they should be carried out with a professional who has insight into trauma and psychological effects.

[@angiea995]

@@craigthomasc2543 I can't disagree. Situations like these are tricky because these are normal interactions and responses that people will have regardless of where they are. It's challenging for a person to understand another struggling with mental health if they have not. I know his goal is to spread awareness so the role he plays is concerning documentation. Although, I think on several occasions he has been able to help. Life is a learning experience, the more people can successfully practice love and compassion, the more we can help alleviate problems like these or even prevent them from happening.

[@jsavannah123]

It was so reckless of him

[@angelofdeath275]

@@craigthomasc2543 theres a chance that people go to him because they don't want to go to a professional.

[@craigthomasc2543]

@@angelofdeath275 definitely he is doing great work overall

[@vaekkriinhart4347]

the story about her cat is awesome.. jumping on her mom's chest to wake her up, alerting her to this young lady having health issues.. Amazing

[@piamp1454]

❤

[@GG_11_11]

Mark is smart enough to know not to comment "I've seen much skinnier girls". Assuming positive intent that you didn't intentionally say this but it sounded that way. And then when Sophie got uncomfortable and began to let you know you crossed a boundary, it got awkward and you wrapped up the interview. Maybe it would have been good for you to take the "effective criticism" in the moment and let Sophie process her feelings. Please ask her to do a follow-up interview soon so we can know how she is doing and you can apologize. In the future, please do some research on triggering questions that relate to your guest's lifestyle/illness, it may take only 10 mins of your time but save them unneeded further distress.

[@LifeofLuti]

agree-a little research beforehand

[@ferninthehouse]

he shouldnt have said that but yeah the interview was already being wrapped up before that. you can hear him say before that comment even happened "well thanks for doing the interview" but it ends up continuing for a few more minutes while that conversation goes on

[@marniekilbourne608]

Yes, that is very important.

[@vaekkriinhart4347]

damn.. give him a break.. He meant no harm

[@NatAlexis96]

this!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@David-qf8pr]

You can hear the nervousness and anxiety in her voice. Hope this girl finds peace.

[@rachelrucker5642]

Yes, I thought so and possibly weakness.

[@bashmeesh]

Not weakness. Strength.

[@nicolesawyer7117]

@@rachelrucker5642 nothing weak about having the courage to tell your story on here.

[@rachelrucker5642]

@@bashmeesh let me clarify, I'm just speaking in regards to physical weakness. Not proper nourishment for her body No way did I mean she was weak in spirit, emotionally, mentally, or character.

[@rachelrucker5642]

@@nicolesawyer7117 just physical weakness. Not any other way.

[@danicamargarit6832]

I'm 31, I relate to so much of this. Talking to random men on the internet for attention and being groomed into things I shouldn't have done. Sending love to you Sophia. Its a hard road so many of us have walked with you.

[@ChrissyCupcake]

Same 😭😭😭 I didn't realize the damage until I watched this video...

[@BritTellstheTruth]

Totally relate

[@b52270]

How sad...

[@danicamargarit6832]

@@michaeldes1800 exposing myself on Webcam, sending pictures, sexting, etc.

[@danicamargarit6832]

@blowsss me are you joking?? You mean I wasn't a victim of these men because my parents didn't know the dangers of the internet yet??? I grew up during the time where the internet was growing into what it is now. My mom had no idea I had access to these chat forums. No one knew what was possible yet. I agree that my parents should have checked into it more and kept a better eye on me, but at the same time, the internet was new. I knew about things before my mom did. She had no idea that I was talking to so many people because she didn't know forums like that existed. Honestly your response makes me very fucking suspicious of your internet history. How many young girls did you prey upon before parents knew better? You seem like an absolute creep. I hope you never have daughters because I worry for their safety.

[@6955beniegn]

should have another interview hour with her, this is just barely scratching the surface of her pain, or bring her back for an update, please, we are all rooting for her and cowboy

[@MrsTessWren]

I agree… especially when she brought up all her other issues especially BPD and taking adderall and all the other appetite suppressants. There’s a lot going here.

[@dovegoddess1100]

Did I really hear Mark say to her "I've seen skinnier than you" ?? 😱 The woman is emaciated. I was shocked seeing her limbs in the full length photo. She's going to take what Mark said and think she isn't thin enough and starve herself even further. Sometimes he really doesn't think before he speaks 😒

[@Michelleelise444]

ugh....

[@v3nus1nfurs]

@@juniperjane8719 yes, exactly! It can trigger people watching this 😐

[@granny58]

Yup. Emaciated. Maybe he's seen thinner in their coffin.

[@angelofdeath275]

@@v3nus1nfurs the entire freaking channel is triggering.

[@mysmirandam.6618]

So he said it in response to her referring to other people's picture in their head of a more emaciated looking person, in other words he was quoting what others meaning well might have said to her he did not say this to her and she even addressed this yall taking things outta context

[@gabriellamayes9134]

I’m 29 and considered a millennial and I’ve also grown up with the internet. It’s very dangerous for children 💔

[@miapdx503]

Very!

[@ankur2766]

You're a groomer?

[@expendable.1]

I'm 41 and I'm considered a millennial as well...the oldest generation of millennials lol

[@scottwright388]

I agree, and I don't think it's all that healthy for adults either. I myself indulge more than I should, but I'm also the guy that would be sitting in a waiting room, watching everyone else with their face in their phone.

[@gabrielle-d1b]

@@ankur2766 that's not what groomer means, fool. Ppl who oppose the parental rights bill, those are groomers.

[@Rebecca-wite]

42:50 the worst possible thing you could’ve said is “I’ve seen much skinner girls than you” honestly never comment on an anorexics weight. She may take this as a challenge.

[@lynnhexler-haan3357]

@ Rebecca Shit! I heard that.....

[@tammyyarbrough646]

I was pretty shocked that he said that, too! That could definitely challenge her to lose even more!

[@Rebecca-wite]

@@tammyyarbrough646 probably will, I could tell it completely stunned her soon as he said it. I don’t think people know how much a comment can effect you being anorexic

[@emilyv2728]

I gasped as well. This is not appropriate to say. Not all anorexic people are extremely skinny

[@Rebecca-wite]

@@emilyv2728 no I know, I’m guessing he wasn’t warned before hand

[@kattcares]

I know a lot of people are reprimanding Mark for his comment at the end but you know what I love more? That she called him out on it and taught us all a very valuable lesson. Like she said, we may say things and we don’t know that it will do harm because that’s not our intention so her calling him out and highlighting that for him and all of us was such a powerful moment. If you get to read this, you are so strong and amazing. I can see you want to be happy with yourself and your life-because you came on this channel, because you are in therapy, because you care about your cat (just to name a few things) Even if you feel like nothing has worked, you’re trying things to find a solution. Keep going. I am sending you so much love and light. Thank you for being open with us and sharing your story.

[@Turnpost2552]

Na I am just hear trying to hear her side of the story. I had thought anorexia was based off height. Like most girls want to be smaller then there other partner but her height was average 5 4 so she is quite middle line. Apparently I am wrong. its more attention seeking, her trying to be ok with her body and failing, and competitiveness with this artifical sport that she feels a false sense of validation from it. It started from male validation, but was it from good looking guys validation or was it all guys?

[@vverkest]

The folks who comment will "pay it forward" in a mf STARBUCKS line and then criticize Mark (a photographer) for his psych skills. I'm glad when people check Mark on his ignorance, but HOT DAMN he can't be a specialist in everything and he shows us a great example of how someone unacquainted with an issue would approach it with empathy. I'd love to see how much Mark's haters contribute to charities each year.

[@CM7777...]

​@@vverkeststop worshipping this man. You are making him rich. The only thing he does is listen and post for you losers that need to be entertained by the sad trainwrecks he finds for you. He puts up backdrop and listens. He doesn't really care who gets hurt

[@tresbonoeuf]

I don’t even think that any lesson was learned by him, though. He brushed it off as “you can’t tell any woman about her weight”… Given that he’s done these videos for a while, he should have learned by now to educate himself about harmful things he can say to people with psychiatric disorders. So irresponsible and shameful, Mark. And no response to any of this criticism. Wow.

[@KaraLey98]

@@tresbonoeufI’m amazed you think he even reads these comments!!

[@laurscrayz1]

I am 37-- we had AOL chatrooms and AIM when I was in middle school. I cannot even begin to tell you how damaging it was to hop on the chats when I was 12 years old finding so many random other '12 year old boys' (actually probably 45 year old men) to talk to all day and night--- and I would. Some nights I would not even go to sleep chatting to people all night long before school the next day. This went on for YEARS and formed my perceptions of how men should talk to women when they like them. I have had a difficult time deciding the difference between good and bad men throughout my adult life as a result of it.

[@miapdx503]

Thank you for such an accurate insight on the effects of toxic media on a young girl! I saw my children and the effects on them...they thought I was an ogre for being strict about it, but I kept them safe. Their naivete was scary...

[@NAT-turners-Revenge]

There was *HELLA* pedo's on yahoo chat. I'm 38 and remember chatting between ages 16-19. It started with cbs reality tv chats. It was rooms labeled for youmger for older and all kinds of dirty things.

[@puckloki873]

Stop playing. I had AIM etc. And that doesn't mean I'm stuck in a 12 year olds mind.

[@Elhastezy888]

@Lord Brain go get therapy. To leave this 💩💩💩 as a direct response to the O.P. ❓ come on!! C O N T E X T is important. Go get help. Seriously

[@Elhastezy888]

@@puckloki873 who cares if you had a.i.m. your experience was different. Doesn't mean anybody else is "playing" What's with ALL the ignorance - people with zero insight??????

[@amandawalls7993]

Trust me, as someone who suffered from eating disorders for many many years, you can recover! Your value is worth so much more than numbers on a scale. ❤

[@cmay5145]

How did you recover longterm? Food isn’t like alcohol it’s everywhere and we all need to eat some of it to avoid fainting etc. I couldn’t bear to gain weight and go up a clothing size, apart from when I was pregnant

[@jlynn699]

As a survivor myself .. you can totally recover body wise but mentally I truly believe it’s a life long battle disease . At least that’s been in my journey

[@Karyjaym]

@@cmay5145 unfortunately anorexia is similar to substance abuse disorder or alcoholism. I’ve been anorexic since I was a tween. While, yes we recover it’s always always always going to be on your mind. Eating meals can make you very anxious even long after you’ve recovered. Hopefully I was able to help you out on the topic. If I didn’t just let me know and I could possibly explain it better.

[@annam3449]

@@cmay5145 Ive experienced years of having a terrible relationship with food as it’s such an everyday part of your life it’s so hard to deal with. I will say there’s so much hope to have. With growing in life as a person and becoming more self loving and gentle with myself and tackling my shame I was able to get better. It’s such a baby steps process. And it’s alllll about changing your mind which is a hard thing to do but our minds are indeed able to be re-wired. It’s so possible. A huge part of changing my mind was being mindful about how I’m feeling and learning how to listen to my body. It’s amazing how much our body’s tell us if we listen and I will tell you it’s such a beautiful incredible feeling to learn how to listen to ones body. ❤God loves you and sees your in all of your struggles, he wants the best for you if you trust him and let him in. You always have a friend in Jesus if you feel like you’re along in this struggle. You can do it.

[@fuhmepls]

ED are not real

[@sarahpale-in8100]

I’ve noticed quite a few comments on this video saying that you never can truly recover from an eating disorder. I want to refute that from personal experience. I suffered from an eating disorder (anorexia, binge-eating, & bulimia) for 9 years. In the midst of my disorder I truly believed it would be something I would suffer from for the rest of my life. In my senior year of college I met a very good friend who helped me open up emotionally and recognize that my ED was not going to go away on its own; I would have to put in the effort every day to heal myself. So I did. Over the course of a few months I read a book called Intuitive Eating, I started strength training with Caroline Girvan, fostered a growth mindset, completely removed social media from my life, and I started treating my emotional issues with meditation practices and breathwork. It was one of the most difficult yet liberating things I have ever done. Now I am fully recovered and I am never looking back. I never ever comment on KZbin (this is my first comment), but I think it’s important for those struggling with an ED to know that recovery absolutely is possible. Make efforts to change your mindset towards food and your body. Be receptive to a different way of thinking. Consume content that promotes a healthy way of thinking about food and your body. Change will not begin unless you start showing up for yourself. You are not a special case. You can recover. It’s easy to use your ED as a crutch to avoid addressing your underlying issues. But believe me, on the other side the grass truly is greener. No more brain fog, no more emotional black hole, no more obsessive thoughts about food. You will be so much happier than you are now if you simply start. If you don’t know how to start, get help. Reach out to those you trust and open up or get a therapist that specializes in EDs. You have the capacity to change yourself once you start believing you can. Much love ❤️

[@dominiquerousseau1982]

I love your comment. Thank you for posting it.

[@yumihs2]

Thank you, I think these kinds of comments are very necessary cause when everybody says "oh you can never heal from an ED" it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, and I do believe you can heal from a variety of mental disorders (though not from all of them).

[@viennejolie4893]

I agree and have experienced the same. My eating disorder is in my past and doesn’t bother me and I never have disordered thoughts anymore even though I was severely anorexic for more than 5 years. When you heal your body your mind will get the chance to heal🙏

[@crazysistaful]

I also love your comment. I made a screen shot of the second part.

[@uteswanepoel5602]

“You can’t talk to any woman about her weight”?! THAT is your takeaway? I can’t even. Yeah, dismiss an illness and a gender simultaneously.

[@edwardbedrosian2272]

hes not wrong tho

[@Dycehart]

@@edwardbedrosian2272 this is an extremely harmful mindset and excludes male anorexics

[@edwardbedrosian2272]

@@Dycehart he's not wrong tho

[@vapues873]

I love this channel. I truly do. My only caution is to be thoughtful about editorializing the narrative. One of your amazing gifts, Mark, is in creating a safe space for people to share their stories. I’ve noticed, on occasion, that the disconnect is when your own opinion enters the narrative. Do what you do best, creating this platform for these incredible narratives to unfold and in creating space for us, the viewers, to arrive at our perceptions of these raw and powerful self reflections. Thank you, Mark. Your work is transformative.✌️❤️🌻

[@SoftWhiteUnderbelly]

This is a perfect example of how to effectively give criticism. Thank you Wendy

[@vapues873]

@@SoftWhiteUnderbelly - I am a professor of social work and use your videos each semester. Your work is infinitely more impactful than any textbook or lecture. I have also watched some of the videos where you have been interviewed. Your insight about the fundamental value of love has transformed the way I teach.

[@anamariagodo5475]

@@vapues873 we need more professors like you 👏

[@vapues873]

@@anamariagodo5475 - you are too kind. Honestly, the world needs more people like Mark.

[@sike4867]

@@SoftWhiteUnderbelly I think Chris allen also gave effective criticism but you got defensive unfortunately

[@Godisfirst21]

5 years ago I was 106 lbs. I had a terrible relationship with food. I looked back at my passport picture and I wanted to hug myself. Yesterday I joined the YMCA and I got weighed for the first time in years. I weigh 159 lbs. I don't care. I'm happier at 159lbs.

[@amber76OH]

Congratulations on taking your life back. 👏 🖤

[@wilson8979]

Great! You are very healthy now

[@Jamzee]

Keep up the good work.

[@THISandTHISandTHAT]

Nothing wrong with being 106 lbs actually, but I don't know your height. I don't think being nearly 160 lbs as a woman is healthy tbh unless you're super tall. I'm in the Healthcare field so I'm not talking about what looks nice, I'm talking about what's going on inside your body. All Americans are overweight nowadays and think women are supposed to be "thick" but it's very bad on your heart and your joints in the long run. Stay healthy!

[@emmiewilliams7546]

Amen..its just a number

[@toedstool]

despite her story, a lot of her language shows that she's done a lot of work on herself and has a lot of emotional intelligence to be able to reflect on how she got to where she is. that stuff is really hard and I'm so proud that she's been able to do so

[@littlems.tries-to-fix-it6270]

Learning the psych material unfortunately doesn’t equate to wanting to change

[@Caderdi]

Honey, you have a great heart and you sound like a good mama and your kitty needs you. Not everyone is good with cats. Don't disappear, the world needs you and needs to hear your story. You're a powerhouse and you don't realize it.

[@RoyAlexander214]

Mark is putting out some of the best content on KZbin. The realest content by far. Keep doing what your doing sir. As a heroin addict your videos help me when I’m in my feelings and your videos help me see that there is hope for the lost and forgotten.

[@davechristian7543]

wat about the slabbers down in slab city my frined 'there pretty cool too/hasha 'peace.

[@elisaschulman2356]

I feel you.

[@elizabethfeliz221]

True

[@dickmonddickelheimer9452]

Its exploitation

[@tahcria]

Please take care of yourself!

[@profe3330]

This is interesting. It would also be interesting to see an interview with a person suffering from Binge Eating Disorder, which is apparently much more common. Unlike anorexia, eating disorders leading to obesity have been politicized to an absurd degree, and it would be great to hear somebody discuss their real life experiences without a lot of boilerplate about "diet culture" and "marginalized bodies" obscuring the real story.

[@quinnthecairn]

KZbinr kashi star talks about her binge eating disorder. She started as a mukbanger but recently opened up about her struggle. It’s fascinating

[@g0refairy]

I wouldn’t normally comment but i’ve never related to an interview more, everything Sophie said resonated with me. I had the same type of relationship with men from a very young age using sex as self harm as well as struggling with an ED/Body Dysmorphia. It is the most exhausting way to go through life because your mind is consumed at all times. and drugs seem like the only way to free your mind. I have a very hard time imagining a life for myself free from my constant obsession and desire to be skinny. Minimize and shrink myself as much as possible. It may be a life long struggle but I really hope one day you are able to see the beautiful and complete person that you already are.

[@bettywhite2694]

I never knew I was a celiac and why I was sick all the time growing up. I was 6’2 130lbs and always sick. Got bullied (punch,kick,choked,food poured on me) constantly in school. Turned to drugs to help deal with it just so I could feel normal. One day I went to see a specialist and they knew right away I was a celiac. Had my blood tested that day and late it was confirmed. Once I changed my eating habits I gained weight and stopped using drugs. It was a crazy time in my life now that I think about it. My parents divorce and my gf killing herself cuz her dad was graping her. All I can say is best of luck, life’s one hell of a crazy ride

[@stevencaseymiller8376]

How you doin'?

[@josephnelan6046]

@@bettywhite2694 your ALIVE

[@dickjohnson9582]

Have you tried blue chew for your ED?

[@littlems.tries-to-fix-it6270]

❤️

[@hwago123]

When she talked about the internet being her abuse., it was spot on. The internet has been an awful influence in so many ways for our generation and humanity as a whole.

[@phutureproof]

it's not the internets fault that humas are terrible to each other :(

[@amrajtanda951]

Thank you for giving this woman a platform. Eating disorders are so prominent. I recovered from anorexia in 2017 and never looked back. It's extremely debilitating and very difficult to overcome. You got this Sophie, I'm rooting for you! ❤️

[@partywoodchuck]

Sophie, from one recovering anorexic to another...With all due respect- I would argue that happy people don't base their self worth on whether they were able to resist 120 calories of pretzels that day. Fixation on self-harm like anorexia is a natural coping mechanism for depression. You are a beautiful person who nursed a mom cat and her kittens back to health during a global pandemic! Your body is the least important part of who you are. You can and will create a fulfilling life worth living for yourself. Thank you for doing this interview and being open with your struggle ♥

[@philipjones3793]

Yes the internet has been massively problematic for our children. It REALLY sucks. So sad. Too much information, too soon for these children. My heart goes out to them all.

[@Aimee1andOnly]

I'm shocked that after she opened up to mark and told him all of her fears and struggles surrounding weight that he would in turn tell her at the end that I've seen much skinnier girls than you. You don't even have to have an eating disorder to know that that type of comment will send someone with ED into a tail spin! I don't believe he has seen much skinnier girls probably ever. People don't live much longer once they get below 80 lbs. I am proud of her that she called him out on that comment 👏 and then he seemed to completely brush it off when she did call him out like she was being too sensitive or something 🙄

[@theresaskrzynski9916]

I love cats. Cowboy sounds amazing!! I wonder, Sophie, if you could ever imagine your beautiful kitty losing her hair, becoming lethargic, turning up her nose at her bowl. I'm sure that you would do everything in your power to nurse her back to her old self again! As she began to have her fur restored to its natural glory and when she resumed bounding around the house, l have a feeling that you would be extremely proud of her, and yourself!! Cowboy did everything she was able to, to save you once. But now she needs your help! Be there for her. Show her how grateful you are that she rescued you. You will never regret it. 😌 Peace 🐾

[@keirasmith5706]

Best comment ever. Never thought this.

[@VioletteToussaint]

Also, Cowboy needs her human!!

[@rae9922]

i really needed to see this comment. thank you for this perspective 🤍🤍

[@sirendipitybritt]

This is beautiful!

[@natalies.7]

when she said she doesn’t think she’s good at anything or has any talents except for her looks… broke my heart she is so intelligent and compassionate

[@monikamalinowski]

It's crazy to hear her talk about how she wasn't abused when she also said she was SA'd multiple times by different people. Seems to me that having anorexia is the only control over her life since other people always took advantage. She said it herself too but she doesn't want to get better and it's sad. I hope she can recover

[@justcallmebon2684]

I think she meant by her parents or family

[@lexim.9814]

I used to be chronically anorexic and I didn’t want to get better either it is the only thing we have to hold onto that we feel gives us worth

[@leahflower9924]

She might've meant her family was good

[@lilithjade4363]

her talking about her connection with her cat was really beautiful and relatable

[@suhaylah-3070]

Mark is so cringe sometimes. For someone who does so much work trying to shine light on different perspectives, I wish he’d educate himself on how to handle those different perspectives and experiences with more care. In times when I think and hope this is great educational and empathy content, giving people the opportunity to tell their own narrative and demystify hard issues, all of sudden Mark speaks and I realize he needs a bit more education in order to hold that content too.

[@KiraPravahiPerformanceArt]

agreed

[@nanipanini]

make a channel, show mark how to do it

[@lilithjade4363]

yeah there was one interview with an addict and he was basically forcing her to talk about SA in her childhood and then she straight up asked if she could use in the room while she was being interviewed after he asked about her assault. she was clearly triggered and wanted to numb herself after

[@leahflower9924]

Weird maybe because of the hair and the eyes and her sensitivity she reminds me of Karen Carpenter

[@ldyshallott]

I know her struggle, the shakiness in her voice… I want to wrap my arms around her and give her the warmest hug and tell her she is enough. I’m 3 years recovered ❤️

[@SuzanneDeniseB]

Sending love 💙💙

[@theoniway2323]

Mark: “I’ve seen much skinnier girls than you.” 😳 That comment will play over and over in her mind and make her want to get skinnier. I understand the mentality. She will use that comment as motivation to get tinier. I struggle with body dysmorphia. I see myself as extra large even though I wear a size medium. It’s a mental struggle. My dad made me promise “not to get fat” when I was a kid so I’m always self conscious. I’ve started doing Hot Pilates again which makes me feel really good in my body. Taking it one day at a time.

[@Smashley8708]

I cringed when he said that too😖 I know he didn't mean it in that negative "competitive" way but her mind will replay it over and over in the worst way. When I was 18 I was in a relationship with a older man and it really messed with my mind, it was abusive and toxic. I ended up pregnant at 19 and started really taking care of myself "both mentally and physically "for my unborn baby, my son saved my life❤❤ I pray you continue to heal and succeed🙏❤🤗

[@drdwgmd14]

Good for your dad, he is looking out for your health.

[@theoniway2323]

@@Smashley8708 thank you, I wish you the same 🙏❤️

[@maxmeier532]

that is such a simplified idea of how the psychology of anorexia works. It's completely deterministic. She is anorexic and noone made her that way or said something that made her go that route if she wasnt determined to be it in the first place. She certainly doesnt need anyone to tell her she is fat, or thin or tall, or small, to think what she wants to think.

[@karrZ-mi5km]

@@maxmeier532 Just because no one said one single comment in and of itself that "made" her go in this direction, doesn't necessarily mean comments/ opinions won't be hurtful.

[@staceylinnell3119]

She seems so sweet and smart. Way smarter than the interviewer in fact. I truly hope she finds something worth getting better for and choses to live. We need more nice people like Sophie in this world!

[@ASBGRL1]

The ADHD is so painfully obvious. This girl is brave seeking help and being transparent. Cowboy 🐈‍⬛ is an angel . The root of high achievers and perfectionism seems to play a strong role in dynamics between siblings and parental relationships. Her brother is probably neuro typical and she is swimming upstream trying to control the only thing she thinks she can , her weight . Trauma and ADHD are intertwined so tightly . Im praying she wins her battles and sees her tremendous worth

[@mysmirandam.6618]

This is such a good comment 👏

[@le2458]

100% I see my ADHD totally mirrored in her speaking and thinking patterns 😬 those things aren’t the end of the world but the endless string of other bad things that can happen because of it is devastating.

[@rachelmazza4079]

Same, I have ADHD and have struggled with an ED. It’s weird how the two are related. I didn’t even notice her speech pattern until I read this comment and I was like oh, that’s exactly how I speak so it made perfect sense to me and my ADHD brain.

[@boycottjews]

If you don't eat you shake.

[@boycottjews]

Adhd is myth. Doesn't exist. You're just undisciplined. Self discipline, but you expect someone else to force you. It's cringe.

[@2passportsandpostcards]

I’m only 6 minutes in and all I can say is (non-judgementally), there’s a lot to unpack about Sophie already.

[@2passportsandpostcards]

@@cassidy1718 the obvious multitude of mental struggles - internet / social media consumption that made her spiral into anorexia, the low self worth regarding her intelligence, hobbies or interests unrelated to physical appearance and looks, the early onset of sexualized behavior (being groomed by older men only at 12, boyfriend at 14, sexual abuse from other boyfriends)… she then mentions all the drugs use, impulsivity and body dysmorphia related to BPD, which does make sense. I also sensed her heightened anxiety in her voice all throughout the interview. I wish her well and hope she will want to heal soon. She is still so young, it is not too late.

[@2passportsandpostcards]

She also said she doesn’t remember much of her childhood, which doesn’t sound like a necessarily bad thing, but probably not a great thing, either.

[@sketch735]

@@cassidy1718 it means she has a lot going on from her past. She says she wasn't the victim of abuse then reports having been groomed and assaulted.

[@megan807]

I agree after watching all of it. And so much more that needs to be unpacked that wasn’t even talked about. She needs intensive inpatient care. She’s an adult; but someone can still get her held because she is a danger to herself for sure.

[@maxmeier532]

@@2passportsandpostcards I dont remember 90% of my childhood and I am absolutely sure that is absolutely normal, cause a lot of trivial stuff happens in childhood that doesnt leave a mark at all. "Today I made a big duty, first time in the adult toilet". 1/1/1994. Yeah, no. The brain of a child, that has a very limited impression of reality, is so busy developping at all there is just not a lot of room to memorize random stuff happening.

[@agostocobain2729]

She is so beautiful, and articulate, but when she speaks, her little vulnerable voice trembles. It makes me want to just protect her. To think she was taking her shirt off to older men when she was a baby. Those jerks took advantage of a child 12 years old dude. You do have self worth Sophie. Go to your local college and take painting and drawing classes. You're going to do amazing work, and it's therapeutic. You'll make yourself proud. You should try it! I can tell your an artist.

[@freereinartstudio1463]

Yes!!!

[@agostocobain2729]

@@freereinartstudio1463 Oh wow cool channel I'll sub and check it out...

[@frogtownroad9104]

@@agostocobain2729 A lot of people exhibit that same vulnerability on this channel, and they’re not manipulating. They’re just partially stuck in adolescence or childhood. One gentleman has a stutter and is an alcoholic. It’s a little hard not to see him like a little boy who needs help.

[@sherryd.3425]

Thank you for your kindness to such a vulnerable spirit. Self-worth is self-determined, however. It never comes from others. She is just beginning to understand that she has value. It's not enough. To sustain life we also need to feel meaningful and significant in life. She is speaking of addiction and compensation and control. Saving life, humans or cats or any life, could save her. If she can transfer her selfish obsession with herself to sustaining the single breath of a living being, she will grow stronger. I have fifty years in on this topic. You can transfer the obsessive, self-absorption to lift others. That is NOT the one thing she is good at!

[@mirella7792]

@@sherryd.3425 Your so Right!! I totally Agree with you Sherry!! Great Advice!! Thank you for sharing that!! I needed to hear that also! God Bless!🙏🏻🌅

[@shawnawaterford1808]

She hit the nail on the head when she stated that she has made it her identity. She won’t get better until she decides she wants to get a life. Sounds harsh but I lived it. She found a community where she fits in and others look to her for inspiration and it makes her feel special. It’s very sad. She needs to try really hard to find a purpose in life, something she values more than being emaciated. More than feeling cool on social media. She says she doesn’t want to die but she hasn’t truly decided that yet. When she does, she’ll eat to live. She’ll eat like her life depends on it bc it does. Hopefully she survives that long.

[@AmazingRebel23]

Anyone with a disorder should get off the damn internet and go meet real actual people they can actually hang out with. This is coming from a hoarder. You know if i met people i could bring over i would cut it out. Only problem is my town doesn’t have anything for people my age to do. I live in a boomer-focused town and all the 20somethings here have no life and sit in their houses being sad.

[@Mia15239]

She doesn’t want to die. Just because you’re starving yourself doesn’t mean you want to die 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ but yes her behaviour of starving herself is damaging her body and ultimately more damage towards death but people who have eating disorders don’t do it because they want to kill themselves otherwise they would just go commit suicide immediately. You feel good eating less because it’s adding to the goal of being skinny, and that affirmation and validation just from knowing you are losing weight in your brain and seeing your body getting smaller, you get such a damn strong high in your brain from it. A feeling of validation, hence feeling loved. It’s just really like … hard.

[@dotexe-kr5cm]

No, it doesn't work that way. You still can't stop even knowing that.

[@KaraLey98]

I’m sure she doesn’t think she could die from this. She probably feels invincible.

[@lilymulligan8180]

My thoughts exactly. Her entire purpose in life is her ED. "It's the only thing I'm good at" "I'm part of a community" "people look up to me"... If she can find something else to fill these roles for her, I think she'll do well. But that's gonna require a lot more healing around all the inner pain she's running from.

[@jennyrodriguez2310]

Oof. This one hit me hard. I became bulimic as a teen and didn't really stop until a few years ago (I'm 26). I invited men to use me and thought it was weirdly empowering but didn't realize that it was a form of self harm until I listened to her describe it.

[@jennyrodriguez2310]

@@michaeldes1800 yikes bro

[@marylougeorge9890]

That was interesting. Something to think about.

[@nicoled7717]

I was in the comments section about to post these same words. I've watched this video a few times today, because it hits so close to home. Right down to the 12 y/o Omegle'ing. I never thought it to be empowering though, but I did realize something had snapped & I went wild for some time. Hearing her refer to it as self harm is far too accurate, I've been thinking about it all day. It's actually brought me some peace because that part of my life has been weighing on me heavily lately, & I've been trying to figure it all out.

[@jennyrodriguez2310]

@@nicoled7717 exactly. And how talking to older guys/men as a minor online seemed like something all my friends were doing. Unfortunately I did meet up with one, but he came to his senses and decided risking it with an almost 17 yr old was not a smart move ☠

[@nicoled7717]

@@jennyrodriguez2310 I wish the guy I met up came to his senses. I was 12 years old & was convinced to sneak out to hang out with my "17 year old" boyfriend. Who ended up being in his late 20's. But that's a whole 'nother episode of SWU lol

[@scottwright388]

I'm glad I was a teen in the late 70's early 80's. All this crap social media is very damaging in my opinion, and I don't think it's necessarily healthy for adults either. I truly believe it's only going to get worse in time, with generations growing up with a smart phone as their number one companion.

[@edvh88]

As someone who also had a supportive family and abuse-free, happy childhood, I too am disheartened at how much male approval mattered to me, too. And how much I put mens desires before even thinking about what I wanted. Looking back, as a 34 year old married parent now, I was so wrong and I undervalued myself so much. Plenty of people are willing to take you as you are.

[@MrsTessWren]

Mark, we need a Sophie update, please! Love you guys🖤 Thank you

[@artisticautisticasmr1500]

She nailed it at the end. It’s not only about control, wanting to shrink until you disappear, and a lack of valuing yourself beyond your body. It’s a cry for help. It’s unresolved, repressed childhood trauma. Stuff you couldn’t talk about. You can’t say I’m dying inside, so you show it on the outside. This was very relatable. At 21, I thought my family was okay. At 39, five years into my own anorexia recovery, I’m completely estranged. I remembered the truth...at least enough to know I would never recover as long as I was in contact with them. In treatment, I saw so so many women who were like me but still in denial. I mentor people with ED now. The truth is, as long as denial reigns, recovery is extremely elusive. Anorexia is a beast. EDs are the deadliest of mental health disorders. This is so serious and so tragically common, but please believe me- Recovery IS possible. It’s the hardest most worthy work of my life. I do it for myself and my children. I do it for anyone and everyone watching me. That’s how you overcome, by reframing all of the beliefs and thoughts into something empowering. Competition turns to compassion and collaboration. We CAN do this.

[@Ilovemybf4345]

It is so hard for no reason im over it mentally mostly everytime i gain the weight i always loose it again

[@artisticautisticasmr1500]

@@Ilovemybf4345 Not for no reason. It is hard, but we can do hard things. I understand the mental exhaustion. Reframing thoughts can feel like near constant work. Feel free to keep replying. You aren’t alone. How long have you been in recovery? Do you have support?

[@5thdimension625]

One factor in developing Anorexia is fear of one’s developing body and emerging psychosexual development in adolescence. Her negative sexual experiences/trauma in adolescence left her having negative interests in future sexual relationships. One thought is the “boy body” many female Anorexics develop is an attempt to thwart any future sexual experiences or attention from the opposite sex. I’m impressed she was willing to discuss her sexual trauma as many Anorexics refuse to discuss their sexual history dysfunction and personality features. I wish her the best. Anorexia is so woven into every aspect of personality making it difficult to treat.

[@Randompotatoes-qs7bm]

Yup. It’s just one factor though and is not true in all cases of anorexia/eating disorders. (You didn’t say it was, I’m just adding to the discussion 🥰). I personally didn’t experience sexual abuse and didn’t want a child’s body. I have no idea why my eating disorder developed. It was confusing to say the least. Im glad that I was fortunate to recover.

[@JaZmine147]

I developed the exact opposite eating disorder. I fed myself to obesity so men wouldn't look at me THAT way. Took years to recognize and finally get help.

[@bebop54]

@@JaZmine147 it's a kind of armour ...a shield of protection.

[@alexcisneros2980]

Hit the nail on the head. She keeps saying she had a good childhood no abuse with supportive loved ones yet she was sexually abused like crazy. Raped physically and online. That Omegle shite destroyed her clearly yet she doesn't seem to acknowledge it's all that sexual abuse that fked her up. She downplays it a lot.

[@christinasweetheart2810]

You said that spot on in my circumstance. I became anorexic when I was only in 6th grade. I remember being in Catholic school and I had already started my period in 5th grade when some of the other girls actually started making fun of me because I had apparently started my period before them. For some reason they started picking on me because in their head they believed that if I had my period I was apparently a "slut" and this was way back in like 94/95. So I had this idea that if I lost weight I would reverse my puberty and maybe delay it until other girls started to develop. (Because I was stupid back then and didn't understand how things work)....this went on until I was about 15 but my lowest point was when I was about 13 and got down to 69 pounds and I'm 5'11 now but I was probably about 5'9 or 10 then. I got on a G tube and couldn't take it any more that's when finally I started seeing my nutrieniest and a great therapist. Now I'm 40 5'11 and 165. It still bothers me from time to time but I decided to get educated about weight and health which helped tremendously.

[@aprilashworth5991]

Get rid of social media!!!!!!!!!!! No facebook, no Instagram , or negitive groups on internet. I did it and I promise you will feel peace and you will learn to except and love yourself. We all have personal issues and sometimes they never go away but you can get stronger and learn to deal with the triggers 💜 I myself have struggled with my weight through my life so far. Those negitive thoughts never go away but there is hope.. you are beautiful and not just on the outside and should not be defined by by your weight or looks. Dont give up !

[@miapdx503]

To set yourself free...what a gift. Your wisdom is refreshing. 🌹

[@dejuhvu1793]

I deleted my FB & Instagram about 10 years ago after I graduated high school. Best decision of my life.

[@railroadforest30]

I only got KZbin

[@marylougeorge9890]

@Koala Beer. Facebook has some Very helpful support groups.

[@johntirado-glover3574]

As someone who always has struggled with weight & body image, i can relate. The struggle is real. My heart hurts for her & her sexual trauma is deep. She seems like a nice & lovely person. I wish her the best.

[@Vandetta333]

If only she could see what we see…such a beautiful, intelligent and worthy young woman. She’s a blessing, yet doesn’t know it.

[@abandonedstraya5264]

She is beautiful such a shame that disorder has troubled her

[@hplarli510]

True! 🙏🏻❤️

[@marylougeorge9890]

If each of us could see what others do, we'd be an emotionally healthy world. Except for Putin. Not so much. (Sorry. Couldn't help myself. There was an opening and I Had to take it!!!🤣🤣🤣)

[@snowbunny783]

I feel this. It’s a great reminder on how toxic social media is for everyone, but especially young girls. Wishing Sophia positivity and hoping she can find her path to recovery soon.

[@wyntahb3968]

U kno u could just turn it off right

[@wyntahb3968]

U kno u could just turn it off right

[@marylougeorge9890]

@@wyntahb3968 Addiction is addiction.

[@brombromsmuva9215]

Before social media, it was ym and seventeen magazine and sports illistration. Are you really going to blame media for everything. I wanted to be skinny as a teen too.. but not to the point of killing myself. These indivuals are mentally sick.

[@snowbunny783]

@@brombromsmuva9215 in no way did I say that social media is the only culprit for ED’s, but are you really going to act like social media hasn’t greatly exacerbated these issues in our society?

[@miriamtaylor4405]

There's nothing wrong with being checked on something that you shouldn't have said. Now you know. Happens to all of us

[@anaiselektrareyes389]

Im currently in recovery and I have watched so many videos of people sharing their experiences. This interview really hit home. There were so many things that she said about men, hypersexuality, feeling like your body is the only way you can get anything that resonated so bad with me. Maybe there is a formula for EDs

[@victoriadeangelis1709]

When Sophie said “the abuse in my childhood was the Internet”, I knew i was going to connect with her story. The way that gen Z has grown up alongside and attached to the Internet is so damaging in so many ways… We are exposed to everything at such younger ages, it’s harder to think for ourselves and actually take action in our lives. Sophie, I developed anorexia around 12 years old. Although I have since recovered, the thoughts of always feeling fat have stayed with me. like Mark said, I think the core of it all for you is that you don’t love yourself. It is really hard to when we spend all of our time online, consuming the lives of others, comparing ourselves to them. Schedule some time away from the screen, pick up a new hobby, or return to one that you liked as a kid, this is what helped me. You are not talentless, as evidenced by your story, you are unbelievably strong. You’re going to get better, you’ve quit the drug use and so the hardest part is over. I believe in you! Sending love ❤️

[@johnnymycat]

I think she gave the right answer to the question why? It's the identity. She finally has something to hold on to- "I'm a person with eating disorder". That's why it's so hard to make changes, and let go of, probably, the only identity she's come up to through her whole life. It takes a lot of courage, patience and work, but the change is quite possible. Wishing her all the best. You are seen, loved and appreciated. 🌸❤️

[@johnnymycat]

@Genevieve Pilz I think everyone, at some point in life, has struggled with the question of its own identity. Depending on the childhood, social, economical circumstances, we find ways to deal with it. Or not. Which is, sadly a big problem. Society has done very little. The only thing that is offered are realty shows, social media platforms, and overall a content that has only one message- here's something to think about. Not your own life, but someone elses. The pressure of how ones life should be, or how it should look like, the way it should be lived... But at the same time there are people who raise questions, who make an effort to contribute to the welfare of others by making people's voice and stories heard. Like this channel. Like you. Like me. Like Sophie, who shared her struggle with us, and made us all think about the subject, even though she may not be aware of this.

[@tashamolly7136]

I struggled with anorexia for a solid 5 years .. I relate to this girl so much.. I barely have the words. I’ve been recovered for 4 years it is possible thank you for sharing this story

[@demelzakonoplyanka8550]

would you say she is ruining her looks with the ed?

[@kissmygrits2373]

PLEASE DO MORE EATING DISORDERED VIDEOS! It goes hand in hand with drug, alcohol, sex and self harm abuse like cutting, etc. Bring more of this to your platform, ppl need to see this!

[@barbaranicols5733]

I think at 21, she is pretty self aware and very cognizant of some factors that may have shaped her path to ED, she seems to have a good understanding of her psyche and how her body is being affected. I feel like she could be a good motivational speaker (once in recovery) for young girls, about the dangers of social media.

[@ladymopar2024]

He is very pretty I bet you it's taking quite a bit of therapy to get where she is today

[@xxxxxxxxx1652]

there are no words to describe how much i love this, as someone struggling with an ed myself, i'm sending her all the love

[@miapdx503]

Love to you too! ❤💕🌹

[@Sunshine-gh6vy]

You are a beautiful soul ! Sending you all the love

[@madisyn111]

i hope u get healthy i love u

[@KimbradleyMasterGardener]

I wish for you all you wish for her! Love, Nashville Tennessee USA 🇺🇸 ♥

[@Emietmolaisa2012]

same ♡

[@Progr3ssNotPerfection]

It took me a few decades to be free from anorexia, loads of stuff happened in this period of time and once I thought I had lost everything ( the looks I had cared so much for on account of some events) and faced a breakdown, I experienced an awakening. 6 years later, at 46, I’m someone I’d never ever would have imagined I’d ever be. So much different from everything I used to consider worth aspiring to. Im pretty sure plenty of people would look down on the lifestyle I choose to have now if only they were fully aware of it but I no longer need their validation. So much is ahead of you, I’m positive that at the end of the path that’s unfolding you’re going to find to peace. Sending sisterly love your way, Malgosia

[@viennejolie4893]

As another former anorexic I relate and I am really happy for you🙏 do you and keep loving yourself🙏

[@jaclynm7122]

This is heartbreaking. She said the internet was her trauma, which I agree with, but there was so much more that she doesn’t realize. There has to be a reason why she sought validation from males, her dad especially. I can relate to her because I had anorexia and still continually seek validation from males, specifically men in positions of authority. Right now it’s specifically my therapist, and it is extremely painful to be so attached to someone who you can never actually see outside of one hour a week. I’m sure she had something happen to her early in her childhood that she can’t remember.

[@frankcano4893]

I hope the dudes that were involved with her watched this and reflect on their actions so they can teach their children or family members about being respectable humans... fuck man. My heart goes out to this poor girl.

[@kristinab1078]

She was in too many compromising situations at too young of an age. I'm not sure how that happened or why there wasn't more monitoring, but she was used badly. Her self-worth seems to have been deeply impacted by those experiences. I hope she can recover from all of this and live the life she deserves.

[@angelofdeath275]

they wont unfortunately.

[@Randompotatoes-qs7bm]

Her cat cowboy saved her 🥺. So sweet and pure. I hope she recovers; this beautiful soul.

[@amnaklacar5891]

I see a lot of myself in this girl its crazy how easy young girls turn to seeking out male validation online, so wierd. I was also severely underweight most of my teens and probably up to 23/24. Thankfully I got to my sences at 25 and didnt do much damage. Hope she finds the same clarity I did.

[@marcelapenaloza8202]

Yeah me too. I wish her the best

[@stevencaseymiller8376]

How you doin'?

[@diannh2894]

🖤

[@Skp186]

Sophie please keep working toward recovery. You are valued. Your family loves and needs you ❤️ You have so much life to live....so many wonderful experiences to explore! We are all rooting for you ❤️

[@Leasahayrs]

I totally agree and understand with everything she's saying. I've been anorexic/bulimic for about 25 years. I know I will die fat or eventually have dementia and forget I care about being fat. It just never stops. It's like walking around with your weight number hovering over your head. you don't want to get better because then you'll get fat again.

[@a.wanderer5006]

May I ask why be so concerned with your appearance? So what if you get fat? (you probably won't) I grew up hungry so I have never understood anorexia. I don't understand why people would be so obsessed with their appearance. It's seems like unhealthy inward focus on something very unimportant.

[@lifebeginswithaseed]

@@a.wanderer5006 You are 100 percent right, but the world puts an unhealthy focus on outward appearances. It's sad. That's why in scripture God says to come out of the world. For more reasons than specifically this obviously. I've dealt with a lot and found that when I focus on helping others ( friends, parents, neighbors, needy) it takes me out of that funk.

[@Elhastezy888]

@@a.wanderer5006 funny i grew up malnourished in poverty also & anorexia hit me like a ton of bricks once I got to 15. The womann in the video explains it pretty damn well, it's connected to trauma, it's connected to the brain. It's also connected to growing up, growing into a sexual adult & not having the tools to do that with maladapted brain patterns

[@ChubbyKittyMeow]

@@a.wanderer5006 it’s about taking control over your body as that’s the only thing anorexic people think they can control. She said in this video “ i lost weight, and I was good at it and I was never good in anything before”. Of course, behind all of this is a lot of others mental illness like depression, anxiety, self esteem problems ( especially with teens).

[@msshrute8787]

Forgive me I’m ignorant to this, why not try focusing on strength? it would actually improve your looks and health rather then just not being fat. does the illness try and convince you that healthy isn’t something you deserve?

[@dirtyky9309]

“I’m not good at anything.” Wow. Likely a perfectionist. Hope she pulls through.

[@243wayne1]

She won't.

[@kristykeoki]

Most anorexics are perfectionists.

[@ezlanpowers]

I'm really proud of her for sharing her story so candidly, I'm sure many years in therapy has gotten her to this point. Sophie is absolutely right that we should not be commenting on peoples body. And that most people with eating disorders are NOT underweight. They just make up the most visibly disabled majority of folks who get help. Treatment centers won't take me at my weight and my diet is similar to Sophies. My weight is seen as gluttony, while many anorexic folks on the underweight category are taken seriously. I hate that there is just one idea of what gets the help needed. Many folks do not know they even have disordered eating habits to start with. I think the real education we need to be teaching to our children, is emotional regulation and adulthood skills. We teach kids so much in school but rarely do we prepare them for their aging process. And then we need to be modeling health self esteem and communication. Sad part? Not going to happen until folks start going to therapy or listening to their kids who do. For 21 years old, Sophie is extremely articulate about her experiences from a therapy lens. I want her to know, merely being a woman in this country is enough to predisposition you to this life. Let alone a very smart one. Let alone one who has BPD. I've been seen as all three too and we are targets for this life. This thinking that we are only worthy of life when we are shrinking. I'm so sorry to anyone who is living this way. It is god awful not feeling at home in your body...I remember being 95 pounds and five foot eight and sucking in my stomach every day as early as seventh grade. I do know my roots...I can't talk on them. But if anyone here cannot recall entire years of your life, and find yourself hypersexual, you are reacting to SA and the grief trauma it causes. I'm 28 and my body count is not measurable. What is measurable now is the appropriate level of grief for my life. It seems Sophie has not found the answers just yet, but I hope they reveal themselves so she can get to a measurable point too. There is recovery to a point of normalcy if you keep going....please keep going everyone.

[@kbisamfg]

What about not remembering years of my life and being the complete opposite (asexual)?

[@leahbrigman8068]

I think she identifies with just being anorexic. She doesn't want to be better because then she will lose her identity that she has worked so hard at personafying. However, she is so much more than anorexic. There is life after recovery. Years go by and the thoughts get quieter and one day that anorexic girl you used to be is just that, a girl you used to know. Recovery takes time but I promise, it's so worth it. I'm free and I pray that she can become free from her ED as well.

[@noxi9290]

When she said that it was the only thing she was good at I felt it in my bones. It’s the only thing that keep you going. Seing the number on the scale going down and down it’s the only victory, the only hapiness. The rituals, the restrictions, the rules that you made up (and sometimes doesn’t even make any sense) that IS what’s keeping you alive. Biggest irony is, that’s also what’s slowly killing you

[@tinawindham6958]

I wish they could use that self discipline in a different arena. I can’t imagine wanting to fend off pizza or ice cream let alone French fries. Pastry shops are so pretty and smell so good I wonder why I’m not diabetic. I hope she can find a way to let go and enjoy the fine foods we have in this country and how accessible it is for most of us. We are really a great country👍🏻❤️

[@noxi9290]

@@tinawindham6958 ik you mean no harm but tbh this is not self discipline this is a disease. A disease of the mind. So it’s not even about the food, you can be anorexic and still love food and find it delicious. It’s not the food you hate it’s yourself. If you ever meet someone with an ED pls don’t tell them this, this is very triggering :(

[@boycottjews]

POV you're looking at the comments shocked that "mark" would call her chubby and roast her like that.

[@lml656]

@@tinawindham6958 Wtf is this comment.

[@msshrute8787]

@@tinawindham6958 first off nobody knows what country you are from, this is the internet. Based of the ignorance of your comment I’ve definitely placed my bet

[@ryantoledocosta]

A bulimic person telling their story would be interesting too. I’ve been suffering from Bulimia for over a decade and there isn’t enough insight into this mental illness. Please bring over your channel someone who suffers from bulimia to tell their story! This disease is so sad and needs more awareness!

[@sallyann985]

It would be especially interesting if it was a male sufferer (like you).

[@angelofdeath275]

no

[@Kerry-ft2zf]

Sophie you are clearly a very intelligent young woman, you just haven't found your calling yet

[@DeViLzzz2006]

You can't find it if you are not looking for it. She needs to find something she can do that will make her truly happy. All throughout the interview she talked about how she could do nothing but be pretty for people and that is extremely sad. She needs out of Cali and honestly probably needs to cut ties with her family and friends. They don't seem to be doing anything to change a thing.

[@khalilahd.]

Agreed

[@shutnawi6635]

@@DeViLzzz2006 don't say that. it's terribly difficult for her family to deal with her as is, what good is cutting them out of her life going to bring? she loves them. and living in california has nothing to do with it-maybe initially, from the people who surrounded her. the last thing a struggling person needs is moving away from all they know. imagine all the added stress.

[@daleshuger]

I'm 44...still dealing with this (since 11). What I can say is that at one point, a switch flipped. Everyone had given up on me, and that's when the desire for control went from wanting to be sick to wanting to prove them wrong about me not being able to take care of myself. I never fully weight restored, but I got myself to a place where I was stable and I stayed there. As a f-- you to everyone who said I couldn't. I don't know how to get that switch to flip, but maybe if you can think about refocusing your desire for control to a desire to keep yourself stable--it's worth it for the independence and the trust you regain, not to mention the ability to engage with the world again. And you don't have to "give up" the ED completely.

[@rayappley]

I have been struggling with bulimia for 8 years. There is nothing you can say to someone that will make things better or worse, it all depends on the voices inside. It is also true it never goes away. But you can learn to manage. For me it started to fade away when I found things that interested me more than weightloss. Not even a relationship, I mean travel, hobbies, sports, stuff like that, I just kinda got bored with all this. It definitely comes back from time to time but it does not control every thought and every day anymore. I think just getting older helps sometimes, you learn to prioritize

[@melindasnyder5974]

Totally agree-when I was in my early 20’s I went from overweight (5’10” 250 pounds in high school) to a healthy weight of 160. But looking back, I had the anorexic mindset and the same tendencies that this young woman has minus the drugs which thank God nobody ever offered to me because I can’t say I would have refused. I just couldn’t maintain that weight because I was eating maybe 1000 calories a day and exercising obsessively. I’m back up to 235 now and am trying to lose weight again but without using self hate as my main motivation. And it’s hard, and the thoughts do come back, all the time. I still check myself every time I walk past a window or mirror to see how much my stomach is sticking out. But I’m in my late 30’s now and I have gained a lot of perspective and feel mentally so much stronger now. It may never go away, but it does get a little bit easier not to let the thoughts control your life. Hope you continue to get well and enjoy your life 😊

[@leahrice8735]

social media is so damaging. it ruins self image , leading to self worth. the Instagram models getting attention from young men is so common now, just ended my own three year relationship because of my ex constantly looking at these models. damaging for sure, he had been doing it for years

[@vigarobugsbunni]

I am so grateful that she is so honest, this is helping me protect my kids. Shes describing what we all though social media and teen relationships were doing but never really had proof of.

[@drdwgmd14]

How do you get men to stop looking at these models?

[@adamfoddy9851]

"I suffererd no childhood sexual abuse" Goes on to describe a great deal of childhood sexual abuse

[@The_Isaiahnator]

Denial and repression.

[@adixon4824]

Sounds like she thinks her underaged consent negates the abuse (which it doesn't).

[@student22044]

Let's cut Mark some slack. Sophie was very brave to be interviewed; she undoubtedly knew what was involved, but wanted to spread awareness regardless; she also nailed the issues around control and trauma, recognising her conditions and the effect they have. Very self-aware. I see and hear you Sophie. Very few people would truly understand this devastating and life-threatening condition unless they've been through it; Mark is doing his best, we would all struggle to say the right thing 100% of the time, and perhaps we learn more because Mark isn't afraid to make mistakes and move on. Give Sophie the credit she deserves; she understood this and calmly explained why certain comments aren't helpful. Thank you Sophie. Thank you, Mark, for your perseverance in the face of so much criticism; you make human mistakes for us to learn from, and I appreciate it. This a is great and informative interview for anyone willing to switch off their judgements and actively listen x

[@dianedandrea8601]

Well said…

[@user7311]

mark, poor choice of words throughout. as someone who has come incredibly close to death due to anorexia, i was appalled. please do better. sophie, i am sending all my love to you. i am in the same place. one step at a time, sweet girl. i am so sorry for the mistreatment you have endured. i resonated immensely with your past experiences, and with feeling as though starvation is the only thing you’re good at (that can’t be true, by the way). sunshine will come, but you have to work for it. you know that. you’re in my thoughts