ANSWERING TRANS QUESTIONS CIS PEOPLE ARE SCARED TO ASK | NOAHFINNCE

[@odetoclear]

questions are always good, if the person who you're asking is comfortable with it and you ask in a respectful manner. personally it makes me kinda happy that people are willing to learn about it

[@e.alanis]

True, but always have those people who are very invasive, and makes people uncomfortable yk. Sorry for any grammar error

[@odetoclear]

@@e.alanis yeah, as long as people ask it someone who's comfortable w talking about the topic and are respectful about it

[@rachellenormand9603]

I agree as a disabled person, but the best is when I let kids ask questions. There's never any judgement, just genuine curiosity.

[@waterwraith1189]

got asked invasive questions abt lik periods by my dentist, she shat on other trans patients and how they didn't pass, bruh I'm on T

[@FiveAlive95]

Exactly this! I get questions from clients at work all the time, and most are respectful and tbh I've always lacked a filter anyways. So while I tell them the trans community is by no means a hive mind, I'm happy to share a bit if it makes life a little easier for another person who might not be so comfortable sharing

[@katarinaantic1081]

I misread your name as Noah FINANCE, was really intrigued by what kind of financial questions cis people are too afraid to ask haha. Ended up binging your channel, I love your work!

[@hazytrop]

I CANT 😭 lol

[@officalsharp]

😂💀

[@frystalcrire]

i can not unsee that

[@snowyowlss]

in another video of noah reacting to transphobic videos, he said that some people read his name as noah finance loll

[@Hanakos_Assistant]

When anybody says his name I think they’re saying no offense for a sec lol

[@amehayami934]

Trans girl here I'm 48. If this is a phase this is a really long phase lol and it doesn't seem like it's going to end anytime soon. And happier now then I ever was before.

[@sand_eater101]

Same for me, except I’m pre-HRT (ftm), a minor, and only been out for 2 years. Usually my sexuality phases passed within a few days to a month (as a reference for how quick my identity phases came and went). Idk, but I’ve resolved my sexual trauma and my identity stayed, so I guess that’s a win

[@ahyesbsoisosman2919]

The ✨hello underachievers✨ is so iconic and amazing

[@lexi.brock15]

Yes it is! ❤🤟🏼🌼🦋🏳️‍🌈

[@ELIAHAVAH]

It's kind of taunting tho, because Noah is most DEFINITELY NOT an underachiever, lol. He is like literally touring the US and UK in a band. 😂

[@ahyesbsoisosman2919]

@@ELIAHAVAH ikr, just sorta inspired me tho

[@noahfinncesimp8500]

You are gay me too

[@Sam-zu5mr]

Not really dude

[@AHHHHHHHH.]

Hi, genderfluid person here. I personally don't consider myself as trans because majority of the time I feel like my AGAB (Assigned Gender At Birth), but it's different for different people.

[@bingbozo6969]

Oh wow I'm like the total opposite of that XD but hello fellow genderfluid :)

[@taiyouscandalous1175]

I'm genderfluid but originally thought that I was a trans-girl and I've transitioned slightly so far (but probably wanting to transition more in the future). Nowadays I only call myself trans when it feels relevant/correct.

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

I'm agender genderflor, and I consider myself trans because my identity never really fluctuates towards my AGAB. Technically genderfluid is a subset of nonbinary, which falls under the trans umbrella, so you can call yourself trans if you so choose. I do because I relate to the experiences of other trans people, and face similar challenges.

[@hxneyedbellsss]

hi, demigirl here, i also don’t consider myself trans as i don’t feel like the label describes me and i’m not really doing anything to change myself physically

[@chuuchuuutrain]

What's agab? What are all these terms😭

[@agay1867]

I like people who RESPECTFULLY ask questions

[@Sam-zu5mr]

Bet you really dont.

[@Someone-dv7hw]

@@Sam-zu5mr what are you trying to do other than being an a**hole?

[@Dutch3DMaster]

Honestly, I typically explain to people that I do not necessarily have problems with very personal questions, it's just that some people decide that the really personal type of questions are perfectly fine to ask as the absolutely first one.

[@Dutch3DMaster]

@Ross With No Sauce I have at times responded back with the exact same question, or by going "Would you feel happy knowing people would ask your mom or sister such a question?" Sometimes, it works, but not always.

[@JG-qk4or]

how do i respectfully ask him to be my big brother I have dont mind the i have broken keyboard.

[@antumbraeclipse340]

Even as a child when people called me a girl I'd snap and say "NO I'm not a girl! I'm a tomboy!" Like it was my own personal gender. Few years later on I get to discover I was born intersex (internal workings) and yeah. Makes far to much sense now.

[@summertimesadness1642]

"I am Trans, i have done it." You have done being Trans congratulations 👏

[@jacobrojs]

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[@jacobrojs]

you fr

[@Otigyrum]

There is the "egg prime directive", where you shouldn't ever tell someone that you think they're trans if they've not come to that conclusion themselves. Very rarely will that go well, whether you are right or wrong. Self actualization is incredibly important, the better route is to just let them see healthy trans perspective and if it resonates with them they will have the tools to figure themselves out. Also just being a good friend to those in your life, if they have a coming out it'll be good to make it so they have an environment where they feel safe/comfy for that! Egg is a good term itself, but yeah, never call someone an Egg. I favour the usage where someone who is out as trans retrospects like "yeah in my past life before I cracked my egg". Like its good vocabulary to have, just don't try and out someone who may not even be out to themselves.

[@lostconstellationsband]

This reminds me of the time I told my best friend I was considering making a second Discord account to pretend to be a boy and see what it was like, "not that I'm trans or anything", and both of us agreed that we couldn't imagine me being trans. Fast forward to a year later when I come out as trans on my original Discord. Both of us feel very silly.

[@naluzoniro]

Exactly ! I like the term for myself, because I had a looooooong egg phase (ha, it WAS a phase after all ! x) but just don't force it on people

[@Considerthisplease]

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[@Jax_4200]

Just explained to my mother how trans peeps and different terms for sexuality works, like for an example a cis man and a trans man would be a gay couple and such lol. She tries her best to understand everything lgbtq but sometimes when she gets it wrong it sounds really cute like she’s a little baby ally just learning everything 🥺 (I’m trans ftm btw, haven’t started t or anything yet but I often make jokes about how much my two lil chesticles bother me and she finds my jokes really funny , and it also helps my dysphoria to make fun of my own situation 😅👌🏳️‍⚧️ Edit: For all the transphobes under my comment I know what I want for my own life and you can shove your opinions up your a- No offence

[@bianagranger3509]

LOL🤣 Also I hope it goes well if/when you start T, and same for if you don't!

[@hollyhell3772]

Lol I feel you. I had to teach a coworker once the difference between transgender, transexual, and transvestite after she told us (privately) "wow, that client was super transvestite" and I was just like "wait... how can you... how even... what?". She doesn't know I'm trans, I'm in the closet and pre transition, she knows I'm lgbt tho. It was interesting to do, because she is not lgbt phobic just suuuper confused

[@Jax_4200]

@@bianagranger3509 I’m turning 15 in October and I hope to start T when I’m 16 or 17 since the legal age for it in my country is 16. And thank you :)

[@Jax_4200]

@@hollyhell3772 Lol, confused people can be really funny sometimes 😅😂

[@cantagiousca5220]

@@hollyhell3772 and?

[@Error-kv5lm]

I like getting some out of pocket questions but some are so invasive and bizare.

[@survivorfortyseveral]

I am nonbinary (afab) and I identify somewhat with womanhood, like a demigirl sort of thing, but I present mostly feminine. I use she/they pronouns but don’t rlly care if people only use she. I have no plans to transition medically. I don’t identify as trans but sometimes people categorize me as trans because I am nonbinary but I don’t really feel like it fits. But I do know other afab demigirls who ID as trans so it’s very individual I think

[@chuuchuuutrain]

What's afab

[@r0tten.4pple]

@@chuuchuuutrain it's an acronym that means assigned female at birth

[@suchendelokidottir5673]

I'm also demi femme. I know that technically I'm a type of trans, but I don't call myself that because it feels like I would be appropriating a struggle that really isn't mine.

[@purplecloudzz7279]

I'm the aforementioned afab demigirl that identifies as both enby and trans haha. For me, when I first came to terms with being non binary, I hesitated to call myself trans because I didn't experience a lot of body dysphoria(mostly social), I didn't want to medically transition at all, kept my birth name, etc. Basically, I didn't think I was trans enough and I was almost scared to call myself trans, which internalised transphobia definitely played a part in, as well as truscum mentalities that you have to experience dysphoria to be trans. But the discomfort with being called a girl and being seen as one was just too much, plus I definitely felt more neutral most of the time, so I got more and more comfortable with the label, knowing that it's about personal choice than how others see you, if that makes sense? Definitely not saying that's the case for other enby people who don't identify as trans, this is just my personal experience :)

[@survivorfortyseveral]

@@purplecloudzz7279 that’s super valid, for me I don’t mind being called a girl/woman so I feel a bit different about it. overall I’m pretty ambivalent toward my gender

[@Iisho]

Im one of those people who kept my birthname. I'm ftm and my name is gender neutral but is generally seen as more masculine. I actually quite like my name and it doesn't make me dysphoric, so I kept it.

[@joshuanorman2]

Actually so based + people can't use your deadname if you don't have one

[@Iisho]

@@joshuanorman2 Yea! It also makes things easier on my friends. We live in an area that is generally unsupportive of LGBTQ+ topics, so we often have to use our deadnames and birth pronouns. I always feel bad when I call them something that is incorrect. However, they dont have to worry about deadnaming me, so I hope that gives them some relief 👍

[@joshuanorman2]

​@@Iisho omg I hope they become more accepting eventually. My friend wasn't out to his dad so he told us to just call him "bitch" when he's around.

[@Iisho]

@@joshuanorman2 I hope so too. I noticed my mom *might* be coming around to they/them pronouns, which is the most I've seen from her ever. I likely wont be coming out to my parents anytime soon though. I'm planning to do so when I move out, which will likely be sometime after college. So, I have at least 3 more years ahead of me. The main thing is, most of my family is extremely Christian. I do care about my family, they're good people, just stuck in their ways and living in a republic, conservative area doesnt help. I dont want to lose my family but not coming out isnt an option for me, just waiting till it's safe

[@joshuanorman2]

@@Iisho Well good luck man, I hope you live your own life exactly how you want to

[@kieranshae]

omg thank you for saying that genital preference is okay. I think it's okay too. I'm a transguy, and I get called transphobic because I don't like pensis. I've been told my discomfort with penises doesn't matter and I should get over it.

[@GiantRatThatMakesAllOfTheRules]

Im a trans guy and when i was younger, my mum made me dresses, i wore them. Now when my dad talks to me about how much he misses his daughter, he keeps saying , "well, you liked dresses as a kid, so youre my daughter." Dresses are pretty and i dont rememver owning any pants so i couldnt really wear them, what do i do? My dad wont call me his son, it is dreadfull

[@coralovesnature]

I’m not a parent, so I can’t say from experience, but what I’ve heard from others is that it can help to allow parents and others who knew you well as your previous gender a “mourning period” to mourn the loss of their “daughter”. But then they should also realize they are gaining a son. I know it’s probably annoying and frustrating to hear stuff like that from your dad, but it could help him to get over it faster if you tell him that’s okay and valid to experience missing his “little girl”, but just like everyone else (including cis people), you’ve grown up and are a different person now, it just so happens that part of your growing up is being trans. And while he may have fond memories where he perceived you as his “daughter”, it’s not that you want him to forget the fond memories, you just want to make new fond memories as his son going forward. Maybe it could help a little, but either way, good luck!

[@GiantRatThatMakesAllOfTheRules]

@@coralovesnature Thank you

[@sand_eater101]

@@coralovesnatureYes, it is absolutely okay to mourn the “loss” of someone, as long as you move on.

[@Doleryn]

I'm a non-binary Woman, I use They/Them pronouns, but I still live the same way as I was before physically. And I don't like using the Trans term in general, because I feel like it doesn't really fit me as much as other Trans people. But it depends with who I'm speaking, all depending on the context.

[@kavitadeva]

Hi this is a sincere question. If you're non-binary why would you call yourself a non-binary woman? To me non-binary means you don't feel neither like a woman nor a man your gender fluid. please explain to me what I do not understand here. Thanks.

[@_dazai_soukoku]

@@kavitadeva to me I identify as genderfluid, non binary. most of the time I feel like they/them but sometimes the term man or woman feels more like me sometimes or she/they he/they etc

[@territoryxdeath3614]

@@kavitadeva I believe it’s a different way to say Non-binary femme! It means that, while you go by they/them and prefer to be referred to as gender neutral terms, you physically portray in a feminine/female way and are comfortable in a female body.

[@kavitadeva]

@@territoryxdeath3614 you portray in feminine/female ways. That statement was the only one I kind of had a problem with. Because to me I can only speak for my own experience I would say I am non-binary I don't use any terms about myself at all I don't give a crap if someone calls me she it's no big deal to me. but my clothing is not feminine nor do I portray myself as super female. I guess you would just say I'm androgynous. So when you said that part about they portray us feminine and female I don't know that that would be necessarily so if you're non-binary. but I was very interested in everything else you had to say well in everything you had to say I just didn't agree with that one little part. thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate it.

[@kavitadeva]

@@_dazai_soukoku I feel very gender fluid and dress androgynously. I just can't get into using the word they or them. And I don't like it for myself. First of all it's not proper grammar and it sounds like somebody's an idiot. I didn't mean that to be rude to you but to me when I hear people saying they or them it's just really not proper use of the language. So for me I don't care if people say she it doesn't bother me at all because I am a she. thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate it very much

[@SnailTrailJay]

We all know it’s gonna be a good day if Noah posts

[@the_alien_1239]

100%

[@the_alien_1239]

A better day anyways :)

[@Considerthisplease]

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[@jacobrojs]

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[@sardonicrose]

On the egg thing: I can actually tell a story from my own life that directly relates to this one. I have a friend who is a trans woman. She was about 15 when we met, well before she realized that she's trans. My best friend is also our mutual friend. I am about five years older than my trans woman friend (I'll call her "Aurora.") and my best friend ("Amelia") is nearly 10 years older than me, 15 years older than Aurora. I'm Agender, and at that point in time, still didn't come to that conclusion, but knew what struggling with knowing your gender looks like since I'd done it for so long. Amelia admits that she may be considered Nonbinary in some ways, but doesn't want to be known as that. Plus, she's just significantly older and has a ton of life experience on top of that. So, Amelia and I STRONGLY suspected Aurora was a trans woman well before she really got into experimenting with it. So! Did we confront her about it? Tell her directly that we know she's a trans girl? Constantly bring up trans topics when she was around? No!!!! Do NOT do that!!!! A journey of gender identity is something VERY personal, and takes time, reflection, introspection, and experimentation. So, how could we support then? What did we do? We gave her space to grow! When she said she wanted to try certain clothing, we didn't bring up gender. When she brought up femboy stuff, we kept our mouths shut. When she started experimenting with her online presence, we addressed her how she wanted and made no other comment. When the day came that she came out? We accepted her and started using the names and pronouns she wanted right away, and fended off anyone who tried to be fucking rude! After the dust had settled, THEN we casually remarked that we had known for some time, and had a good laugh about it. THAT is how you support someone through their questioning and experiments. Not pushing the topic on them all the time and insisting things, but instead, with openness and acceptance of the changes that come.

[@TheoRae8289]

thiiiissss

[@nyandoesthings]

My little brother was the most obvious egg ever, I wouldn't be too surprised if he actually had known for some time and was testing the waters. My favorite was "I want to go on T, but not like...because I'm trans. I just want to confuse people about my gender." Anyway, yeah, I kept it to myself for the next year before he came out to me, besides switching to "my little sibling" and such online when talking about him. I once considered telling someone they might be an egg. Before you get alarmed, I didn't. But they're actually quite old and might have been trying to confide in me about gender stuff and for a brief period I considered talking to them because what if they die before realizing? Then I decided that death comes for us all and we don't know when. But I wonder about that person all the time and hope they're alright and that they might find what makes them happy.

[@Considerthisplease]

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[@jacobrojs]

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[@marievice6208]

Noah is a jewel in my dumpster-fire of an existence and has given me so much conference to be who I am. I’m not trans but genderfluid and some days my dysphoria really puts me in a bad place. Noah always cheers me up and really helped me through a bad time in my life.

[@greyforrest8986]

oh my god i was on t for nearly 3 years and i only stopped getting periods for a few months in the last year and then i started getting them again and eventually decided to stop. i haven’t been able to find anyone who had periods far along as t as well. i’m so happy i clicked on this video and i’m not/wasn’t alone. i recently started taking meds to stop periods so hopefully that works :) i’m so happy to have someone with t effects similar to mine. proud of you noah, love you and keep it up !! love your content and thank you for sharing

[@gummirwl]

My mom thinking I'm a cissie:" there were no signs in your childhood" Me: * *Crying when leaving home bc i don't pass* *

[@evan_is_evil]

fr tho

[@chuuchuuutrain]

Wdym?

[@Sam-zu5mr]

Its sissy...not cissie. Your moms probably right thou. Moms are spot on like that. They know thier kids.

[@evan_is_evil]

@@Sam-zu5mr they meant like cissie as in cis-y not sissy

[@Sam-zu5mr]

@@evan_is_evil oh...fair enough...my mistake. Thanks for the correction👍🙂

[@mattiemakesmusic]

i’m really glad you’re brave enough to do this, especially for the closeted trans men who can’t ask about this stuff (like me). thank you, noah!! 💓💓

[@1stoverthinker]

Honestly I hate being asked "Are you sure you feel like this?" because of stupid stuff like; - I graduated in graphic design and illustration (in my head, for some reason this = feminine? There were like 3 guys in my class if you exclude me and one other trans guy that I know of) - SOMETIMES I "baby talk" to my cat - I like to look at interesting fabric designs, EVEN IF IT'S A DRESS. (I hate to wear them but don't mind looking and can tell when a dress is nice.) - I have plants. Many plants. I love plants. Just like, haha, my mom. (Fuck haters because the air in my room is CRISPY!) - I don't necessarily like a lot of "traditionally manly stuff" (Like hard rock or whatever, never been into shooter games as much or like, vehicles.) - I wasn't very... boy-ish as a kid, more like, very disobedient. (I wore dresses, skirts, I played with dolls, etc.) I already doubt myself like every evening because of all this and whenever someone asks me if I'm sure I need to leave the same space and sit down somewhere and remind myself that the only thing that matters when it comes to my identity is that I feel more myself and comfortable when people perceive me as a guy. However I can't wait for people to tell me "Guys who like the things you do are usually gay though." because CHECK MATE, I'M HOMOSEXUAL. I LIKE GUYS. Little bonus little tiny thing: I have this nifty mental illness that is 99% of the time represented by female individuals in the media and it makes me so angry when people say "guys don't have this illness" like,,, are we really going to gender mental issues? Cool. (This is also a reason why I am obsessed with any media that has a male character with lot of my problems like this, even if consuming it might be unhealthy for me sometimes.)

[@delaneyproctor3491]

It's so silly because there are literally **thousands** of cis men who have the same likes/dislikes as you (of any and all sexualities, not just gay). I really don't understand why anyone would ever ask "are you sure" about something like this, like what do they expect you to say? "oh you know what? I **hadn't** considered literally every other possibility before deciding to tell you, thanks for pointing that out.." 🙄 Also, I really don't think it's inherently unhealthy to consume media that you strongly relate to in some way. It could very well be a life coping mechanism for you, because you know that the character was very likely inspired by someone/something very real. 🤗

[@Charlie-fi5cv]

Remember, gender is not equal to interests, likes, dislikes, or achievements. Just be whoever feels right, whether that's a man, woman, person or other:)

[@ko-wl7vg]

I have that mental illness too. i just got out of treatment for it and i hate that the media says its just girls because when i was there half the people were guys. like mental illness doesnt discriminate and i dont get why people think they do

[@ghurcbghurcb]

@@ko-wl7vg Sorry if I'm being invasive, but... What mental illness are you talking about? I can't recall a single one that would be represented in media as "girls' mental illness".

[@ko-wl7vg]

@@ghurcbghurcb it's all good. im not 100% sure this is what OP was talking about, but eating disorders is what came to my mind

[@maria-sv7yc]

9:05 gender fluid person here, I am AFAB and I present very feminine so I don't call myself trans, firstly to protect myself, like a bigot wouldn't know by looking at me so why would I put myself in that situation, and secondly because I feel that the word carries such a deep meaning for trans people and I feel like I'm appropriating of that word when I don't have to face most of the struggles that many trans people do. I don't mind if other people call me trans tho, especially queer people, but I don't identify with the term cis also, I feel like non binary is the best one for me.

[@coralovesnature]

My experience is super similar, except that I present more androgynous rather than feminine typically (although to most people, they’d still most likely assume I’m a woman). And I feel pretty much the exact same way you do.

[@Considerthisplease]

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[@a.c.1839]

I'd say the deadname thing is also a privacy/doxxing hazard - especially if the trans person hasn't changed their legal name yet

[@tobe3940]

Doxxing? Do you mind if I ask how? As in if a toxic person or an abuser trying to blackmail the trans person with it or take advantage of their fear of their birth name being posted out there?

[@Considerthisplease]

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[@litheralySOcool]

@@tobe3940 its kinda goes like this Know name > know socials > know family > know country > know adress

[@finleydoesstuff5357]

it would be really cool if anthony padilla did a interview with noah. like noah loves answering questions in great details and anthony is such a respectful and fun interviewer

[@gerf2346]

Came out to my mum the other day, id planned it for months and made a book and everything and the first think she said when she saw the giant trans flag on the front was: oh trust me, I had an inkling. And that will forever live in my head rent free

[@zeppar881]

Why be trans

[@giuliaficuccio1373]

it makes me so happy and emotional to know that there's someone out here doing proper education on the trans community and the lgbtq community in general

[@seventhcompactor1505]

There is no 'trans community'.

[@dogenjoyer2480]

​@@seventhcompactor1505saying that something doesnt exist aint gonna make it stop existing chief

[@RosieJohnson-v2j]

@@dogenjoyer2480 Yeah, that's the weakest argument you can use against something. "it doesn't exist" is easily disproven.

[@buzz_bzuzz]

Hey, I’m agender but only use that label when I have to explain my gender to people. I don’t feel like genders suit me and feel no connection to any label regarding to gender. As an AMAB person, I don’t call myself trans but don’t call myself cis, because I’m neither, I’m nothing. On the contrary, I DO call myself gay because that label feels better and the gay male community is toxic enough so it makes life easier.

[@buzz_bzuzz]

@@stephenholland4441 Two questions: 1. Why do you use God and the Bible to justify your bigotry when there are so many rules that we ALL break like: • Wearing gold (“Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments.”) • Getting round haircuts ( “You shall not round off the side-growth of your heads nor harm the edges of your beard.”) • No work on Sundays (“Six days shall work be done: but the seventh is the sabbath of rest a holy convocation; ye shall do no work therein: it is the sabbath of the Lord in all your dwellings) • Not buying houses (“The land must never be sold on a permanent basis, for the land belongs to me. You are only foreigners and tenant farmers working for me) • Lying (“Fo not deceive or cheat one other”) • No mixed fabrics (“Neither shall a garment mingled of linen and woollen come upon thee”) • No divorce (“What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate”) • Don’t eat fatty foods ("It shall be a perpetual statute for your generations throughout all your dwellings, that ye eat neither fat nor blood.") And with that, I’d like to ask how many of these rules you actively follow with your heart and soul. If you aren’t going to comply with God’s word, why use it to be a dickhead to other people? 2. When you boil down the idea of two genders male and female, you’re basically talking about one’s sex, whether that have a penis or vagina. Scientific studies have been conducted that have concluded that people who are trans, people who are non binary and people who fall into the labels of different identities (like gender fluid, neutrois, demigirl/boy, gender queer and more) all experience gender differently. Studies were taken from the brain activity of many non-cis individuals that found the brain functions of said individuals to be different from their cis counterparts. I acknowledge that there are more than two genders, you however clearly do not. Is it because you hold such vintage beliefs? Is it because you are scared of changes in society? Are you not willing to try to accept those of us who are different? I KNOW who I am and what my identity stands for. You can NEVER take that away from me. Not one person here can invalidate someone with a clear conscience, especially if you’re a fond follower of religious teachings. Religion isn’t a construct on which the belittling of minority groups was intended. Religion is supposed to enhance the communion of society. Don’t ever use that as an argument when there are many other religious followers who are perfectly able of conceiving non binary gender identities. Bonus question: Why are you on Noah’s channel when you’re clearly transphobic? What good does that bring? Any?

[@stephenholland4441]

@@buzz_bzuzz "Why do you use God and the Bible to justify your bigotry..." It's NOT "bigotry", or "transphobia" though, it's FACTS! 🙄 "And with that, I’d like to ask how many of these rules you actively follow..." You mean laws that were a part of the old covenant? Then none, because some of those were done away with some 2000s years ago after the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus Christ. None of us are going to fully comply with God's word, because of our sinful nature and rebellion against God. That's why we need a Saviour to be washed from the stains of sin. Faith is what saves, not works. "I acknowledge that there are more than two genders..." Let me tell you are harsh truth: Anything more than two genders, IS FICTION! "Are you not willing to try to accept those of us who are different?" They aren't "different", they are DELUDED, and should be treated as mentally unstable! "Is it because you are scared of changes in society?" Yeah. The changes are called CORRUPTION, INSANITY, IMMORALITY, and DEPRAVITY! "I KNOW who I am and what my identity stands for." So you, a male who calls himself "agender" (when there is no such thing as "agender"), "knows" who he is, while making up a false identity? Yeah that really sounds like you "know" who you are...NOT! "Not one person here can invalidate someone with a clear conscience..." Are you talking about yourself?! If so, then no, you DON'T have a "clear conscience" if you're calling yourself something as fictitious as "agender". Religion and Christianity are separate. EVERY form of religion is Satanic idolatry, and leads souls to Hell. Christianity is about repentance, salvation, and having a personal relationship with Christ. No other name but Jesus can save!

[@elizatilsizoglou5946]

@@stephenholland4441 God also commanded to not judge others. That's His job. But here you are being a bigot

[@buzz_bzuzz]

@@elizatilsizoglou5946 he deleted his comment, he couldn’t own up to his own actions. Must’ve been my list of things God forbids

[@Considerthisplease]

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[@TruceLucid]

I love how sweet and understanding you are in answering these questions, while still educating people and having clear boundaries 👏 There are no dumb questions but I still don't understand why people would ask you about anyone's deadname 🙄

[@ShiftyApparition]

Every once in a while I'm like "huh, I wonder if this would be supportive or intrusive". Then I think about it for a while and always end up deciding that I should just keep my mouth shut. If something comes up then maybe, but I have the internet for weird questions.

[@milestherealalpha]

7:27 YES YES YES IN MY CASE, this is coming from a trans guy that was born with a gender-neutral name. i still felt the name to change it because it made me feel feminine since i was also born female. it's always different for others though !!!

[@mariecat1806]

I may be in the hospital throwing up blood, but when Noah posts a video none of that matters, you drop everything and watch it 😂💕

[@beanery8743]

I came back from an MRI, and same. But I really hope you get better!

[@mariecat1806]

@@beanery8743 I hope you do too! I’m going to be having an upper endoscopy to look in my stomach tomorrow so hopefully they’ll be able to start treatment after that!

[@beanery8743]

@@mariecat1806 good luck on that, hopefully nothing is wrong with your stomach :]

[@Sam-zu5mr]

REALLY?! He isnt that fascinating.

[@beanery8743]

@@Sam-zu5mr he doesn't have to be, for me he is a role model and he's honestly pretty funny

[@Alex-kz4tn]

My favorite moment as a trans man was when I gaslit 2 teenage boys into thinking I was a cis man with a hormone deficiency Simply because I didn't want to answer questions bc they were already asking questions abt my sexuality

[@cloudymay5600]

I’m non-binary and afab, I want to use any/all pronouns, but since I’m not out to many people I feel insecure abt saying that. I can’t say what it looks like from the outside, but strangers are constantly gendering me in different ways (calling me “sir” or “miss”) so I think I present pretty androgynously. Recently, especially, I’ve been presenting more masc and I really like it. I don’t know about the trans label until I’m further along in my gender discovery.

[@coralovesnature]

I’m also cool with any/ all pronouns. I think it tends to be harder for some people to grasp than being binary trans, so I also often feel insecure/ unsafe about telling people this irl sometimes. But alas, at least we have each other!

[@nicokelly6453]

I'm nonbinary and absolutely call myself trans, which has a fun story with it because I came out to my dad saying I'm trans and he got very confused so I had to explain that binary and nonbinary trans people both existed. I call myself trans because I feel I fit under the definition and because I align myself with trans community and history.

[@shadesofcallum]

you know it's gonna be a good day when noah posts 👑✨

[@WabbyWaffleBhoi]

Hello again

[@shadesofcallum]

@@WabbyWaffleBhoi hi!

[@shaunclarke04]

“If I was nonbinary I wouldn’t call myself trans, that’ll just confuse people” Exactly the point! I WANT to confuse cis people it’s hilarious 🤣

[@existenze69]

You’re amazing Noah…as usual; an inspiration for today’s youth 🤗😊

[@ggbonnie030]

Being apart of the LGBTQ+ community but not being trans myself, I love videos like these that help me understand the experiences of other people in our community!

[@SarahCupit]

An answer for the gender neutral name changing: My dead name was gender neutral but I still changed it because it was more popular in females and people would assume I was a girl, and I talked to my friends and they said when they first met me they didn’t know my deadname was gender neutral and thought it was just a female name.

[@shelbymasters]

most gender neutral names were originally associated with one sex, or had different variations for each sex. alex was an abbreviation for alexander/alexis and eventually just became a popular name itself. my boyfriend is ci, and his birth name is skylAr, but spells it as skylEr because he prefers that spelling even though skylar with an a was originally a boys name and skyler with an e was a girl name. i do understand though, my name was strictly a boys name for a very long time, but now 98% of people with the name are girls. i also went to school with cis girls names michael and hunter! if i have another daughter i plan to name her tyler, but ironically enough i hate that name in regards to guys lol

[@Considerthisplease]

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[@veryunnormal]

your videos make me feel more comfortable with who i am, i am a "half closeted" trans-masc and you just make me feel like i can express myself. thank you

[@cassieopea]

Hey Noah! Thank you! Ask someone who is cis, i have questions im not sure if are offensive, you help answer them and its great!

[@lizzienoll02]

i haven’t seen you in 4 years… i’m SO GLAD YOURE THRIVING

[@salamanda11]

These questions were surprisingly well-intentioned! Unless you just ended up picking the nice ones. Lol. I loved the poop question.

[@AlixHallow]

I really need to say how impressive and lovely your wording is. You explain different things in the best, most respectful but realistic way. Anytime you started to say something and I assumed it would follow with something really icky or negative, you surprised me. You even got me thinking about a few things that could be considered harmful to trans people that I didn't realize. I'm 29 and I gotta say you're incredibly mature for your age, and people will learn a lot from you! Good luck on your journey, from a fellow trans man.

[@tonytheparamorestan]

ok a question more for the people in the comments rather than Noah but has anyone else had this experience of being fine with your birth gender for the majority of your life but the more you are being directly referred to as THAT the more you are uncomfortable with it? I am a biological man and now at 21 having lived with a father who tries to make me into a self-centred hypermasc sexist trash I hate being referred to as a man/guy/boy. I also heard that not understanding gender as a concept is common for neurodivergent people - and I am one - so now I identify as agender and use all pronouns but idk. is distancing yourself from your birth gender after being beaten to death with it a common thing or do I just need therapy 💀

[@mikealheit8116]

I guess I have a similar sort of experience because I didn't really feel uncomfortable being gendered female even after coming out as agender for a while and then dysphoria suddenly hit me like a delayed freight train a while after when i was still hearing people call me 'she' (even though at the time I used all pronouns) like I was a girl, so maybe it's a thing of not feeling super uncomfortable with it just because people didn't overly highlight it so you ended up thinking of it as gender-neutral in your head? (I'm probably not explaining well but that was kinda my experience with it)

[@oh_look_gay]

I'm a trans guy, and before puberty I didn't mind being seen as a girl, I just didn't think about my gender too deep, I was busy having fun as a kid lol and I didn't have any knowledge of trans people. In middle school after puberty started I began dressing more masculine, and began to hate feminine clothes. I also had a phase of hating pink stuff but I'm over it lol I didn't realize I was trans until I was like 16. I'm 18 now. I wish you well on your self discovery journey

[@melissel5648]

From my own experience as a trans guy, who struggled a lot (and still do) with being a guy because of all the hyper toxic masculinity I wouldn't say not liking being grouped with guys is necessarily a sign of not being one. But for me, I know that being considered one makes more sense than anything else, even when I hate it. If it doesn't for you, I would say it definitely is a sign and thinking you're trans when you're not is actually much rarer than the opposite :) But in the end, only you can tell who you are and thinking about what you need/would like gender-wise instead of how to identify could also be helpful. I'm sorry you had to go through it and wish you the best ^^

[@catz537]

It's interesting you say that cuz I'm autistic (AFAB) but I don't like being referred to as a "woman" - not necessarily because I associate negative things with the word, but I just don't feel like that word describes me. As I've gotten older, I like being called a "girl" less and less too, but that could just be an aversion to being infantilized. Idk, it's hard to tell the difference sometimes between not liking when people use certain pronouns/gendered words to describe you because you don't identify with that gender as a whole, or simply because you don't identify with something related to that specific word. Or maybe you just don't identify with *some* parts of what you were taught about what it means to be a "man" or a "woman." To my neurodivergent brain, gender just isn't real. It's a made up concept and all the ideas about gender and what it's supposed to mean is meaningless because everyone has different ideas for themselves about what it means, and about what their specific gendered identity means. One man could have a completely different idea of his gender than another man, even though they both identify as men. So it just seems really strange to me that we still try to categorize and cling to this abstract thing

[@auntieaoife]

Yes definitely. I always knew there was something different about me but I wasn't really able to identify it until I was almost 36, before which I would have said I was comfortable with my gender. Knowing changed that, and I couldn't ever be comfortable as a man ever again.

[@Leo-ct2ng]

The ONLY reason I’ll ask the bottom questions is because I want bottom surgery and I want to know the spicy parts because that’s important to me 😅

[@the_alien_1239]

That’s kl!! I don’t want bottom surgery I don’t think but I do want top surgery and i get wanting to have knowledge abt it!!

[@auntieaoife]

That's not a cis person asking though ;)

[@thecorlorlesspig1993]

@@auntieaoife that was you?

[@Sam-zu5mr]

Trust me you dont babes. This is coming from a Cis male.

[@Leo-ct2ng]

@@Sam-zu5mr ???

[@prageruwu69]

i like the word egg bc its almost always used for people referring to themselves. when i was an egg i was really dumb and clueless about my gender and i like making fun of that.

[@p1aydumb280]

Agree, early into HRT and transition is all consuming. Trans woman who loves your work Noah.

[@Alastair-fu3nk]

I am trans ftm but am not on tetosterone or have got any surgeries so I like to watch these videos cause it helps me learn more about this type of stuff and what I might want to do in the future

[@evan_is_evil]

same

[@solarpixiejournals]

You have such charisma....I just love your videos.

[@danielreher1987]

Have you been checked for Endometriosis and PCOS with the heavy bleeding or is that just your normal. I know it varies from person to person. I'm only asking because I have a friend who has the conditions and has a lot of pain because of the cysts. If it's too personal a question you don't have to answer. I'm just trying to get more educated.

[@NOAHFINNCE]

nahh i haven’t n sometimes wonder if i have it but i’m starting blockers soon so it shouldn’t be as much of an issue

[@tankgirluk3515]

I was about to make this comment too. I had periods exactly as you described, it meant a day or two in bed every month, even had a massive ovarian cyst that I had to have removed in an emergency surgery, until I had a Mirena coil fitted. Which as a Genderqueer person, afab but feeling more masc, just felt like my body was launching a personal attack! Hope they can find something to help you Noah xx

[@Considerthisplease]

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[@CloverPawzDrxgonz]

I look up to u sm. Ty for making these vids. As a transmasc who’s a minor who hasn’t gotten anything but blockers, these videos rlly help! Ty!

[@cameurysm]

7:32 my deadname is gender neutral and i changed my name to another gender neutral name 😎 my brain is huge 10:13 i think its funny if its like a hind sight thing, like if theyve already come out and theyre referencing things they did before they realized they were trans and them and their friends joke about them being an egg back then. but i agree with noah on the fact that calling somebody an egg before theyve come out isnt right. you dont actually know until someone comes out

[@myra0224]

People should stop assuming things about other people, why do they care so much about all that. Just let people be who they are and figure themselves out on their own pace and if they're a feminine guy, identifying as a man, then let them be a feminine guy ffs 😭 (sorry, I can get really annoyed by these things... I just don't understand ://)

[@cameurysm]

@@myra0224 i agree with you. if they come to you and ask for your input and theyre questioning their identity then sure, it might help to talk about being trans. but if theyre just gender non conforming then people really shouldnt say anything to them about it

[@cameurysm]

@@sanaslay4326 felt like it lol. my other name just doesnt suit me anymore. i also associate it with femininity. at first i wasnt gonna change it but then i realized i wanted to

[@Considerthisplease]

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[@Salem_oconnor]

I love u so muchhhhh ever time I’m sad or mad or whatever I put ur Chanel on and it instantly makes my day better

[@liamfrederic5203]

I think with calling people egg, I think it’s okay if the person does it themself like hahaha it was so obvious looking back but I agree, it’s rude to call other people that who might not be ready to deal with that question or just aren’t trans since you can never really know unless the person tells you!

[@chloe-fy4wc]

agrred, it’s so invasive

[@Considerthisplease]

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[@Rorygloryhole]

Honestly the only interesting name question would be where they picked their name from, seeing as they’re mostly teenagers/adults, sometimes the names will have a lot of meaning, or they’ll just been something iconic

[@gingercore69]

About the dead name question, it wouldnt bother me in particular, but i would always answer something random

[@potterlover96]

Love videos like this, I'm a pan cis man dating a trans man, and when I first met them I didn't completely understand it all having never been through it myself, but they were so lovely about explaining it all to me if I ever had questions :D thanks for the video!!

[@bingbozo6969]

Top surgery question: How much does it hurt while recovering and for how long? (I'm thinking about getting top surgery and I'd like to know)

[@10stxar]

It hurts a shit ton

[@ezrabennett7793]

Depends on the person.

[@evan_j]

For a few days mine was just tender to lie on or when it got bumped. But I know of people who had pain for weeks.

[@passionate_possum_pal]

Depends.

[@chuuchuuutrain]

@@passionate_possum_pal I see u on Summer's channel lol

[@tombrooks5933]

you are an exceptionally bright person and i wish there were more of you in this world.

[@anarcho_enby_]

it's an interesting point about non-binary people calling themselves trans. I'm agender, but often say non-binary because it's an umbrella term and it's easier to explain, but I do not say that I'm trans. By definition, trans means that you identify with a gender that you were not assigned at birth, but as an agender person I do not identify with a gender so by definition it does not fit me. I still consider myself to be trans-allinged because I still experience the same transphobia and exclusion that all trans people face, by I am not by definition a trans person. When I explain this to cis people it blows their mind that I can be non-binary and not be trans. If we lived in a world where trans people were completely free and equal - a utopia - then I would not consider myself trans aligned because I would face no prejudice on the behalf of my identity and I would just exist as an agender person.

[@wooitsesme]

Hi Noah, thank you so much. Your videos have been so helpful and I was able to come out to my parents as omni last week

[@scheiegal2266]

I'm trans femme The weirdest question i have ever been asked is: do you start having a period now? I'm pre (and will ever be) op and if there is blood down there.... I'm rushing to the doc instant

[@skittle38]

AFAB here... trust me, you don't want any of that XD

[@Sam-zu5mr]

Respect lady. Easy for girls to transition to males...not so easy the other way around- much more phobia out there aimed at MTF. It's also much harder to transition physically....so yes, as a Cis guy...you really do have my respect girl👍💙

[@shelbymasters]

i've never actually seen this question, but i think they just haven't realized that you need a uterus to have a period. surprisingly even most biological women don't know that all a period is, is when the lining of your uterus sheds as the result of an unfertilized egg. when pregnant your uterus doesn't shed because it is what forms the placenta, which is why pregnant women don't have periods. (so if a woman eats the placenta after giving birth, she is eating 8-10 months of menstrual blood.) so it definitely would be a medical concern😅

[@scheiegal2266]

@@Sam-zu5mr I wouldn't say it's harder to transition mtf or ftm either way. It's different. I guess there is more hate against trans femme people cause deep down every transphobe knows we are women and they are mysgonists.

[@Sam-zu5mr]

@@shelbymasters chicken, I'm male and even I know this. Wat school did you attend. Who doesn't know this. But ur missing the point. The question was after having hormone treatment I.r. testosterone, does the menstrual cycle still continue?.....the only people to answer this question is trans men and doctors. Hense why I'd imagine people ask this question in the first place. Personally I really dont care to know.

[@coralovesnature]

As a non-binary person who hasn’t really made any changes to “transition” per say and doesn’t plan to, I don’t usually refer to myself as trans, but if other trans people want to include someone like me in the trans umbrella, I’m fine with that. But also, I don’t really consider myself cis either, so some people say if you’re not cis, then by definition you must be trans, which kind of makes sense to me. So in short, I’m fine with either being or not being considered trans, as long as I’m not considered cis.

[@Ash_6614]

i'm genderfluid and i definitely consider myself trans

[@adamant5419]

as long as your gender fluid never actually sees the light of day, we'll be safe.

[@Sam-zu5mr]

If you say so. Who are we to disagree.

[@Dutch3DMaster]

6:42 It's mostly just that the skin shrivels a bit more because of the reduction in swelling bodies being used just to keep them healthy (spontaneous erections) but the amount of swelling is typically retained. It's a common misconception that the penis becomes much smaller, it just appears a bit different but it can still get back to size when erect (which is why the reduction in healthy swelling can cause pain when it does swell because it's needed, especially in the beginning of HRT). What does shrink however, are the testicles, they return to pre-puberty size (this was the case for me on cyproterone-acetate). 7:28 Fun stuff, that was my old name, and I changed it because I wanted to make sure people could not be in doubt about my gender, given that my profession according to some people is not particularly feminine. Another thing that a lot of people suggested I'd do (feminize my birth-name) was not something I was keen on doing, given the fact that there have been a couple attempts of trying to bully me in elementary school when my behaviour was easier to associate with the girls than with the boys with boys using that feminised version of my birth-name. Given how I was exceptionally confused for hearing that name, because in 1 way I liked it and in another I didn't understand why boys were giving me a girls name, I didn't want to be reminded of that everytime I would hear my name. (Also, most people who suggested that option as unwanted advice at that time typically didn't know that Iris was also basically thought up by my parents in the case they would've gotten girl twins instead of boy twins, so they felt I should pay some more respect to the name my parents gave me).

[@SeverusSnek]

9:00 as a trans (ftm) person when I identified as non binary before i knew I was a male I did not identify as trans however there are people who do and like Noah said there is *NOTHING* wrong with identifying as non binary and trans

[@skittle38]

I'm very open about being trans, so I get a lot of questions too. Usually from eggs, actually, it's really cute watching them slowly discover themselves and it feels great knowing that I'm a resource

[@idk1782]

this isn’t relevant to the video at all but i love your vids and i’m also trans, i have a boyfriend (he’s cis) and i was his ‘girlfriend’ for about a month until he realised he was gay and we broke up but stayed as friends then like a year later i came out as trans and we got back together a couple of months ago and every time i get my period he’s so cute, he tells me a lot that having a period doesn’t make me any less of a boy and he wears a pad too even though he doesn’t have to obviously but he does it bc he’s supportive and he always says boys get periods too and if anyones reading this, he’s right you’re not less of a boy bc you have a period and you will find someone who makes you happy and treats you well bc i always was worried i wouldn’t bc im trans but i have, have a good day

[@TheOnlyRiceDemon]

This is the cutest thing I've heard today.

[@noahe.2861]

This is actually so cute. Also the beginning of your comment, and I don’t mean to sound insensitive, would make a great Young Adult RomCom??

[@queerstudbroalex]

So sweet!

[@OohTarquin]

Only girls and women have periods , btw

[@stuff2802]

Gross and weird heterosexual couple

[@menherabulove]

Hey! Transmasc Enby here! Just wanna say you helped me come out to my mom (she supported) And I’ve recently started guitar! I love your vids man! Keep it up

[@bdyvynls]

when noah says "hello underachievers" it makes me so welcomed istg

[@finny3990]

I'm a trans man and holy shit I didn't knew that periods don't stop for everyone after taking hormones. When I started taking testosterone I had my period once again. For the last two years I only had like two to three time where I had some cramps, that are exactly what my period cramps were like. I'm so sorry for everyone who's still experiencing periods after starting hormones. Honestly I can't imagine how terrible that feels, I completely freak out when I have cramps and am reminded of my period.

[@spicyramen3546]

Recently I came out to my mom as Trans, FTM. I’m twelve, I’ve known since I was really little. I told her that it was just how I’ve always felt and she told me it was bullshit and I’m going through a dumb phase, a phase that will end with the help of god. It felt terrible but I’m trying to stay strong! Thanks Noah for the awesome video and stay strong everyone in the comment section.

[@Sam-zu5mr]

Your mums right. Your too young to know for sure. However you do wat makes you feel happy. As long as when you go into your 20's after having transitioning....you dont regret it, detransition and blame the professionals for convincing them you were trans, when you weren't. Because too many FTM detransitioners are now doing this and it's just plain wrong.

[@nilladrawsstuff]

Stay strong! I've had a similar experience coming out as pan. Imo, you need to just wait until you can move out and live comfortably on your own, that's what I'm doing. You could also explain to them how it works, because with super religious people they usually don't have any other experience with LGBTQ+ people but the things they were taught as kids (they're from the devil, they're just confused, etc.). But definitely make sure you have friends you can talk to and a good support system at school for when the transphobia gets to be too much.

[@atlas3611]

My mom and dad (and basically my entire family) are the same. I'm a thirteen year old. I think your mom should support you whether it's a phase or not. Remember to stay strong! (as Nilla draws stuff said)

[@Sam-zu5mr]

@@atlas3611 parents try to protect thier young from making huge mistakes in life. What you feel at the moment is real....but as we age we change mindset, opinions. The teen years are the most turbulent years of any persons life. As I said.....sometimes parents know you better than you know yourself. We have been through the teen years, it's a time of questioning who you are, finding your identity and it starts at puberty. So dont hold it against yr parents for trying to bring you up without harm. The fact they question your judgement, should tell you how much they love you and want you to grow into a strong, secure, happy independent individual. Parents get it more than you will ever believe or understand. You will one day, especially if you have children yourself. The pitfalls of teen years a very very confused self discovery maze to navigate through. This is not invalidating how you feel...its about supporting you to making sure your not creating a mistake that you could all regret in time. Your sure now....but that might just change as you grow. Then again it might not. But parents have to protect, if that seems they are denying you...they aren't. In fact by questioning your mindset, their actually testing you, making you question yr decisions, so the decisions you make are true to your inner self. Parents parent. Its thier job.

[@lucas_8514]

@@Sam-zu5mr it's perfectly okay for parents to question a major thing such as identity, but it still should be done tactfully. saying things like that still comes of as invalidating, and that will only make the child distance themselves. also, if they're being downright dismissive (as op's mom seems to be) then it's definitely not only about protecting them from making a mistake, and there's some hate for the group the child could be part of if i's not a phase involved.

[@therealsalamander413]

i used to and occasionally still do get worried that it's a phase, but since figuring out im genderfluid and not just binary male and am probably just experiencing a different part of my gender at the time, it's been significantly less of a worry for me

[@phoenixfoster7891]

Great video! Thx for making such great content

[@muffim_tv]

just found your music on spotify and lo and behold you’re on my youtube page!

[@GK-we6gi]

I'm non-binary and I do actually consider myself trans, I experience dysphoria, I want to transition medically and I don't really identify with my agab but much more (though not fully) with being a guy. But just like Noah said, it really is different for everybody, I know lots of nb people who do and who don't consider themselves trans :)

[@TheoRae8289]

Pretty much my experience right now.

[@Considerthisplease]

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[@luka7678]

You can consider yourself whatever u want but if u do have g3nder dysphoria ur trans and if u dont, ur not trans. Some nb people do it for trend and others have some different mental issues and they self diagnose themselves

[@EvanNeedsTherapy]

10:00 I think this one can be a bit of a misunderstanding? It’s usually used for people who aren’t ready to commit to the word trans yet, and I’m pretty sure it’s very uncommon where it’s a label other people call you an egg. Like, it’s usually trans people who feel like they aren’t “trans enough”, they vent about experiences that to outsiders seem very trans, and like, unusual for a cis person, and then slap a “still cis tho” on the end of it. From my experience it’s more of a joke about trans people feeling like they need to reach a certain level of trans to be accepted or valid

[@PurpleMoon799]

i have a question! would a trans person gravitate more towards dating a bi/pan person because that person wouldn't really care what they have "down there" as opposed to a straight/gay person who might have a preference?

[@Iisho]

That's a little situational, based on the "who might have a preference" bit. (nearly everyone has preferences, and I'm not only talking about what they prefer their partner/s to have "down there") Personally I don't really "gravitate" towards people of a certain sexuality. Just gotta see if they're cool with what you got.

[@user-if9pb1fz9w]

Hi I'm non binary so I can't speak for trans men or women, but for me yes I exclusively date bi, pan, demisexual ect people because tbh it's just much easier, especially being masc non binary because alot of time gay men and straight woman expect something that's just u know.... Not there and it can get ugly real fast. Multi sexual people (in my experience) just tend to adapt a bit better and be less rigid in what they want bedroom wise. However just have to say this isn't always that case, u just kinda have to be careful.

[@nicokelly6453]

I think that definitely depends. Because bi/pan people can also have preferences (and can also be transphobic), while there are some gay and straight people who won't care. I think bi/pan people are more likely not to care, but it really depends. I don't gravitate toward any particular sexuality necessarily, so long as the person is respectful and recognizes my gender identity and isn't anti-trans.

[@queerstudbroalex]

Trans woman here, i personally don't care about people's orientations.

[@Considerthisplease]

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[@FinnPethybridge]

A situation I'm in is where I'm an AFAB non binary lesbian and i have short hair and dress very stereotypically masculine but I dont want people to think I'm a guy or that I am AMAB

[@tinker651]

In all honesty, as a cis person, ill Google my question if I feel it would be weird or disrespectful to ask directly. I'm also a morbidly curious person so I get into details lol. But I really appreciate episode's like this ❤️❤️

[@seventhcompactor1505]

You're a person, not a 'cis person'

[@dogenjoyer2480]

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[@Randomratz240]

​@@seventhcompactor1505 cis people are people who still identify with what they were assigned at birth, a valid term

[@seventhcompactor1505]

@@Randomratz240 wrong

[@mabelberger1485]

Yess I can already tell this is going to be a great vid

[@Aspensauce64]

Personally I’m somewhere under the non binary umbrella and consider myself trans even though my presentation usually fits my agab. It’s all down to preference, and at the end of the day it’s not like there’s a rule book on terminology you can and can’t use

[@luka7678]

Yeah there is a rule book to be a trans you have to have g3nder dysphoria and to be nb u just need to say youre nb. Thats the difference

[@-toby-329]

OK so I figured myself out, he/him pronouns make me most comfortable but I still get so paranoid that I'm faking all this for attention (even when I know I wouldn't) and that's because I don't like any of the typically masculine things and don't have dysphoria that badly. I mostly feel a longing for a male life, but I feel so feminine and I hate it about myself. I'm scared that if I don't for some reason always think about being a guy that I'm not and I am a girl, but whenever people refer to me as my birth name or feminine pronouns it sticks in my head and I'm unhappy with it. The major issue is not having dysphoria a lot of the time, which I don't know might get worse when I come out- it got worse after telling 1 person. The fact my experience has been so different to the things I hear on social media makes me doubt who I am even more. I don't know maybe I'm just having a hard time accepting myself. I'd appreciate some advice though please?

[@kittylynne592]

How do you live with the fact that you're so fucking handsome?!?!?!

[@tjdare939]

I have so many Non-binary, Genderfluid, and trans friends and I just see them as what they want to be seen as. It doesn't bother me, I don't look at them and think 'Oh I remember when you looked like this, and your name was this.' This video did help clear some things for me, thank you!

[@Dealivedpool]

When you chose your "new name" did you feel euphoric when you hear other people say it? (I am non-binary and wanna know what if I should feel euphoric or not) can you like so Noah sees it?

[@myra0224]

Honestly, it 100% depends on you. I do feel like a lot of people would feel relieved and happy when people use their real name instead of their deadname, but euphoric is a big word 😅 But you don't HAVE to feel a certain way just because someone else did. You'll figure it out yourself if you want people to call you by a different name and they use it 💖 Personally, I do feel a bit more happy when someone uses a nickname they made for me (I'm not sure about my gender identity yet as I honestly don't identify with any of them) instead of my birthname

[@n3g4tive_cr33p]

When I told my friends to use a new name on me, it did make me feel euphoric when they said it, because it just felt right. But it depends on you as a person, to some it can feel weird for a bit because that’s not what your used to, and that’s perfectly fine!!

[@usermcskull4713]

Trans girl here, yes! My name's Sarah btw

[@Jupiterfangs]

For me, it depends on who says it, and sometimes (when I’ve felt like I wanted to have a different name again) it has felt kind of off but everyone has different experiences and I’m sure I’ll find the name for me eventually :)

[@evan_j]

I haven't fully transitioned yet. Some people use my preferred name and it gives me a sense of relief and it's more comfortable than my real name. Like breathing after holding my breath.

[@auntieaoife]

7:30 I'll answer this from my perspective: kinda. That is, my chosen name is the feminine form of my birth name. While my full birth name is definitely masculine, I used to go by "Kris" before coming out, which is gender neutral, and now only go by "Kristy" which is distinctly feminine.

[@asherikamichaela8425]

Newbie around here, so... hi! 😁👋 I can answer the nonbinary trans question, at least from my own experience. Maybe it'll help someone else. I'm afab and genderfluid/neutral, mostly the latter. I'm also neurodivergent and I think this has something to do with my gender and sexuality (I'm demi-pan as well). All this being the case, the term "girl" never really felt like it fit. Neither did "boy," though I often gravitated more toward things "traditionally" guy-related. These days, I'm more in the middle in terms of my interests and my feelings about my gender is kinda just "meh 🤷‍♀️." As such, I've never dealt with gender dysphoria. I am thinking of changing my name and will be going for a consultation soon about having the associated parts removed, but my reasons aren't really related aside from the fact that I don't care enough to keep them around. On the name thing, well, I share with a certain Greek tragedy character whose family Freud had _disturbing_ interest in. It's hard af for most people to pronounce to boot, so... nah. The surgery, on the other hand, would be for medical reasons. My hormones have been wild ever since I hit puberty and it's gotten to the point that it's actually debilitating. It's even put me in the hospital twice with the need for transfusions. So taking all that out would greatly improve my health. May or may not go for top surgery too since that is also an issue, just not as bad. (Let’s put it this way. I developed early and a _lot,_ to the to the point that I passed for 20 at 16. I could never do more than jog for a short distance before it became painful. I'd just rather not deal with them too if I can get away with it.) All this to say that, while I'm an enby, I don't consider myself trans, though I can see why others would in their own situations. It really does depend on the person.

[@nob0dy_imp0r1ant3]

9:49 "-what? You egg? *Stabs him*" This is my favorite Shakespeare sentence and now it makes just more sens for me

[@f4ll3n_s3r4ph]

okay, i need someone to help me with my gender identity crisis. i am genderqueer, which means my gender identity is somewhere between male and female. the way i experience being genderqueer is comparable to being genderfluid, but with a distinct difference. genderfluid is to have your gender identity change at times. like, sometimes you'll feel like a girl, and other times you'll feel like a boy, or inbetween. it's the actual changing of your gender identity. the reason why i compare my genderqueerness to genderfluidness is because instead of my actual gender identity changing, my gender expression changes. like, sometimes i feel more feminine, or more masculine, or more androgynous. the reason i bring all this up is because i want to look like an actual guy sometimes, but i'm afab (assigned female at birth) and my lover is obsessed with my female body. he's pan, so i think he'd be okay with it, but i can't be sure and i'm too scared to ask. i think i will today, though, so i'll keep y'all updated. how do i: 1. confront my lover about my gender expression issues? 2. properly express how masculine or feminine i am while being in the closet? thanks for your time! - marxine nova

[@f4ll3n_s3r4ph]

update! i have talked to my lover about this, and he says that he'll think i'm hot no matter what!

[@noellecelnik4347]

1:35 can't wait to see that clipped out of context on the daily wire

[@scribblesketch]

My general rule for asking trans related questions are definitely would you ask a cis person this? Or, is this a personal question?

[@deldarel]

With the phaloplasty question, I thought it was 'can you choose a side' until I properly heard size at 2:42 and the idea of a 'functional tail' kept floating in my head.

[@lunawolfheart336]

Every time I get asked what's in my pants this is my response. Well I haven't had bottom surgery so you can figure that one out for yourself.

[@kurapikakurta1997]

7:29 For me personally, yes. I had a feminine name that could easily be changed to masculine if I took off one letter, but I never wanted it to be that similar. Instead, I took my nickname and removed and added some stuff. It just sounded too close to it and it made me a bit dysphoric with that memory of the name.

[@deadflypremium]

I've noticed people saying that someone is transphobic because for example they're a straight guy and wouldn't have s*x with a trans woman It's really weird to me because some people define they're sexuality with being attracted to a gender for their genitalia (not only that but just the point) and some people define their sexuality as just being attracted to a gender in general

[@Trees...]

At 12:17 It's the same concept. Not alot of people are saying that straight men are transphobic for not sleeping with trans women. It's when you say that she isn't a woman and that's why they wont sleep with her, Hope this helps! :) There is also a video on Noah's channel that is about super straight, which seems to be what your talking about. I recommend checking that out. :)

[@coralovesnature]

Obviously, people can sleep with or not sleep with whoever they want (with consent of course), but I think the more irritating part is the assumption that a trans person will not have the parts they want to be sleeping with. For example, if someone says they wouldn’t sleep with a trans woman, it’s usually because they’re assuming she will have a d*ck, but that may not be the case at all. One could say instead, that they wouldn’t sleep with someone who has a d*ck. Conversely, if someone says they wouldn’t sleep with a trans woman, even if she has had every possible surgery one can get and is essentially indistinguishable from a cis woman, that’s where it starts to come into the transphobic territory. Because at that point, it doesn’t have anything to do with having different parts, etc., it is solely based on trans status.

[@zehrverygood]

@@coralovesnature No, onky biological women have vaginas. They are very much distinguishsble.

[@GhostlyToast99]

Ay friend! Just wanna say ya look great- I didn't know you were Trans when people mentioned you to me- and I just wanted to let you know that I GODAMN LOVE THAT NECKLACE