ANXIETY: MY TOP 4 STRUGGLES

[@scottgrella6997]

I'm so gonna miss your smile and sparky personality. Rest in peace dear girl! Prayers for your family.

[@pauladeleke8687]

Emily, If you ever think you don't make a difference; you're wrong. Your words and your self-encouragment and thrilling motivation make the many of us who watch your videos quite happy that we have endured another day. You are an amazing woman. All the best.

[@att05026695]

Swearing is f****** marvellous don't stop Emily. I completely relate to chilling indoors on a friday night rather than going out a bar. Happy New Year to you

[@thekenneth3486]

I understand every one of your points. Isn't it maddening that anxiety makes us indecisive, and that adds the worry of trying to make a decision to the original anxiety. It's dreadful.

[@joe246810010]

Seeing your videos once or twice each week relives my minor anxiety. I am still very indecisive. I wast more time trying to decide if I should do something or not then it would take just to do it or ignore it. Thanks Again. I love your stuff.

[@barlart]

Some members of my family have suffered from anxiety and I know from talking to them that it is a really dreadful burden. So much so that it has even lead to suicidal thoughts. That's really frightening and doctors have not been exactly helpful by espousing "advice" such as "pull yourself together for goodness sake". That simply is not good enough. You Emily, are a force for good sense and care for others, even though you yourself are a sufferer. You're a woman to be proud of and I commend you for so courageously covering this topic. I wish there were more Emilies on KZbin but there aren't and therefore it behoves us to be as supportive of you as we can. Gives you a chaste hug.

[@katychilv]

I don't normally comment on videos but I just felt like I should say how great I found this video. I find it really helpful to hear other people talking about their anxiety honestly anyway but it was really interesting to hear about your experience and also more of the facts behind it, I never really look into that I just try and get it to go away but I think that actually might help. Thank you Emily!

[@dorksorcery]

I feel like this is about me honestly. Thanks Emily, now I can just send people this video instead trying to explain! you are absolutely awesome

[@redplayboy3751]

the way you talk and how you look is fine you look very healthy with no anxiety at all

[@Jeffrey23az]

Emily, thanks for sharing and for the advice. A lot of times I choose to just chill at home and watch a movie too. It's not that I don't enjoy spending time with my friends, they are great! It's just that sometimes it feels good to curl up in bed and watch a movie or read a book. Anyways, I enjoy your videos. Hope you are having a great holiday!

[@FDPFrank]

Please, don't stop swearing! You are great at using the right words for the right moods and states of mind. If it comes out natural, let it flow. You're awesome!

[@Ade2bee]

It takes a stronger person not to drink, than to always feel they should

[@beautybellexo6907]

I love your videos because I genuinely relate to you. I have really bad anxiety and I absolutely hate school due to it. I also hate going on nights out and dread them for weeks before. I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels like this😂

[@daveglover992]

You are so wonderfully human! Thank you.

[@joeyavila2820]

I appreciate that you are making this video and it makes very good sense. We all should pay more attention to others

[@jefferykappel9121]

Ok, I have only watched this new clip for 30 seconds, I can relate, even though I am a man and single at 48, I can say "good to you", for being in touch with your emotions, and furthermore, in the past, when I was like that, I became co-dependent.so, I am proud of you, you have the guts to go public with this, you are a fine example of reality, Emily, and I am so looking forward to every single Time you post, because you make me smile, simple but true, I adore you! You are so sincere, I trust my judgement, that's probley why I'm still single. However, please, Please keep up the great posts!!!sincerely, Jeffery p.s. I'm not looking forward to New Year's Eve, and now, I will finish watching this latest from you, and I would like to send you a hat.

[@andyphillips3518]

I've suffered with anxiety since childhood. I actually can't remember a time when I didn't have it. What i found fascinating watching this video is how similar your main issues are to mine. I 've always had trouble deciding things and once i've made a decision i then feel anxious that i've made the wrong decision. I also try not to drink alcohol which is very difficult living in England. You tend to get a shocked reaction from people if you say you don't want a alcoholic drink and they seem all disappointed in you as if you've just confessed to a horrible crime. I've also noticed having anxiety really does burn through energy fast. I identify with that and also getting angry and frustrated at seemingly small things. I also much more enjoy staying in and when out i kinda look forward to getting back home and relax with netflix. I really enjoyed this video Emily, thank you for making it.

[@SPGWhistler]

Thanks Emily, that was very helpful for me to hear. My wife struggles with anxiety and you helped me understand in a way that she has never been able to describe to me.

[@HugoTeerds]

A very brave video again Emily! It takes courage to talk about yourself that honest. It's much easier to lie to yourself as so many of us unfortunately do. Keep up the good work and show us how we are ourselves deep down below our daily masks . . . . . Also you are a lovely lady . . . .

[@18twilliams]

It sounds like you are on track now.You can meet someone special anywhere! Not only at a bar! Seems when looking you won't see when you aren't looking it will hit ya! Great honest vlog!

[@RichDunn]

That was really brave of you, to be so open and honest about your personal experiences. I found it very enlightening and educational. Thank you very much for sharing.

[@jimdeane3667]

Hi Emily. Regarding your cold, get enough rest and feel better. Love the direction you're going in this one. It seems refreshingly real and honest. Great job! I hope Mr. Right crosses your path soon. But even if he does, do stop your Vlog.

[@stevenknight8762]

Thank You, Thank You, Thank You! For being courageous enough to share your experiences with this issue. I have a family member who has a similar issue. You're the best!

[@redsnappersadler34]

What a beautiful & helpful video. Thank you

[@thecrows2370]

idk why but i cried watching this video emily. tc

[@montana1951]

Thanks for this video. I think you can see by the comments that you helped people.

[@sinesurfer]

Anxiety, the emotion that stops you moving physically forward and five years later it's the emotion that makes you wonder why something so simple was so difficult. (At the time of course the cause of anxiety was your legitimate focus of your attention). Love your work, it's honest, candid and heart-felt.

[@emmkreiss8243]

It's ridiculous how much I can relate to this video. Thanks for sharing Oprah's interview. Taking a step back when feeling overwhelmed, really grants you the perspective needed to make small decisions leading towards the right path. Good stuff. Also, Happy 2017! Feel better soon. :)

[@S23kp4]

Thank you for being so frank. My goodness, you are so adorable! Your videos are clever, honest, frank and often funny. Thanks for posting these videos!

[@johnrideout5056]

Thank you Emily.....I deal with this daily and you have gave me much to think about.....Thanks

[@Wobblie75]

It is so good to hear others go through "all" the same things, make us with anxiety feel less "odd." I go through all those struggles as well. Thanks Emily

[@1baboon1]

Can't say enough how great these videos are and how much it helps to hear someone talk about triggers/thoughts or coping mechanisms.

[@char123451]

Hey Emily. I totally agree with all of your points. I also find that I compare myself to EVERYONE and feel threatened a lot that people are better than me :(

[@CBennett271]

Thank you Emily for being honest about your anxiety!

[@marcusf9009]

I really related to this Emily. You don't usually head about the concrete effects of stuff like anxiety and depression, so it's easy to think like 'so your just sad and worried? for no reason?' Really great to hear someone honestly say how they feel about people's reactions to their anxiety. You're definitely not alone!

[@psyclotronxx3083]

I've suffered from anxiety for the past 20 years. i finally was able to get it under control through diet, exercise, and medication. I know exactly how Emily feels. Nice video Emily. I liked and appreciate it!

[@benjaminbarker9070]

lots of insight on your part to share this at this time.people suffering anxiety all the time can find the holidays especially tough.im coping better without alcohol these days but its comforting to hear you and read what people are sharing to remind me that I am not alone.thanks emm.nothing but love for ya.

[@_Kreature]

I love how genuine you are Emily! I have suffered from PTSD ever since I was a child. Not having anyone to talk about how I was feeling until I was a teen, it was a struggle. I battle with myself constantly, wanting nothing more than to be like my peers.("normal") It took me until my 24th birthday to really start understanding my condition and learning to coop. I too use to drink, which I found out later made my mental health worse, so I went completely cold turkey. I lost many friends in the process because I didn't want to drink and I didn't want to go out as often. But not 3 years later I'm in a better place mentally and physically and I'm surrounded by friends that care. And although they will never completely understand, they love and support me all the same :) I'm glad mental health has come into light, and has started conversations that lead to more awareness. Hopefully one day we can put an end to mental illness or at least find better ways to help those with them. Much love and respect

[@sayantipaul4694]

Thank you Emily.. this video was a big help.💖

[@CornFly2011]

Just love these videos, feels so honest

[@ahmad199749]

It is hard to express your real feelings , it feels like a knife stuck in the throat , and when you finish your body become fuzzy , it feels like a feather nailed to the ground . Emily every time I see your new video it gives me hope and pot a smile on my face . ❤️😊

[@vandertuber]

Merry Christmas! I hope you feel better, from your flu and your anxiety both. Having a good sense of humor probably helps with the anxiety, and from watching so many of your hilarious videos, I can see you definitely have that. Don't worry so much about what other people think about you.

[@JTSGYM]

Thanks for a good video. I struggle with anxiety and PTSD and you are spot on with all these points. My friends do NOT understand and say all those things like "I miss the old you... you used to be so much fun...." It is good to spread awareness -- none of us are perfect and we need to all understand that others are going through things that may not be visible physical issues. Best wishes Emily

[@LPJ2]

"Fear lead to anger, anger lead to hate, hate lead to misery." ----- Yoda

[@martenjustrell446]

no - it's "hate leads to suffering". Sorry neard power u know.

[@EchoSixMike]

Damn, I thought it was hate leads to power....

[@vandertuber]

hate leads to power is the DARK side version.

[@Onmysheet]

Thanks for the input Yoda.

[@powpowdingdong]

I thought it was "I hate sand, it's coarse and rough and irritating and it gets everywhere which leads to suffering"

[@kirstiehill7245]

Omg you're so honest happy that you left your job and it was a good decision yea lovely

[@dwatercraft]

Virtual hug and love to you Emily, As a guy who has had anxiety and mental health issues I know it's dam hard. Thanks for promoting awareness. I am one of those people who can be in a room of thousands of people and still be alone.

[@benthediceman1]

Yeah those sound pretty familiar. I love naps because starting to take care of myself is a good idea. Constant fatigue, no drinking, but I should eat healthily. Recently got a thing to colour in.

[@NGAGNON15]

This is a beautiful and makes me feel so happy because other people totally get it. Knowing I'm not the only person out there like this makes me feel better. I struggle with depression, anger and anxiety issues and though I take meds and try to stay positive, sometimes it literally feels like drowning. Being ill this past 18 months has only made it worse of coarse, but I find peace and solace in hearing from or about others, how they are doing and things that have helped them. Also, just knowing I'm not alone or the only one in the world with these "things" helps enormously. Thanks for the video Emily and thanks for continuing to lift spirits, make people smile and feel less alone.😄

[@cflisthebest]

Emily, I am one of your biggest fans. I think you're amazing and I understand what you are going through. I have dealt with Anxiety for a few years now. You are so fun to watch, as well as inspiring. I think you're smart, sexy, confident and so brave. I also love how your channel has progressed. (Btw, I am on Twitter named Cflisthebest and you have responded to me a number of times..) Keep doing what you love and don't let anyone stop you!

[@Kittykat716]

I relate to every single thing you discussed. I have Bipolar Disorder and struggle with anxiety and depression on a daily basis. Thank you for spreading the word and shedding light on what it is like for those who don't understand. Love you tons! -Kat

[@georgemixelogj9749]

You are a wonderful person. Enough said.

[@TheFirstone99]

Sometimes we dont even know how dear we are to someone who dont even seen us, however Emily I can tell that over time seeing you on youtube and following some 15% of your lifetime made me understand you and know you as you are. Just know that many of your followers love you like I do.... be positive, be cool, be beautiful like you are always ... there are people that will support you whatever happens! From Armenia with love!

[@nedgley1]

R.I P SO SAD

[@davidblack5857]

I never had problems with anxiety or depression until I'd been retired for a few years. I actually felt guilty about my symptoms, because I really have the perfect life. For me, medication really worked. I have to say you are an awesome women! I love your videos, your honesty and vulnerability. Thank you for sharing your life.

[@jaredwhieldon4640]

Nice video keep up with the good work love your channel i love how you cover a wide range of topics. hope you had a great holiday

[@gutz1981]

Honestly, anxiety and the failures in my life often make me want to leave the world behind and live in the mountains away from the rest of the society and the bullshit of my failures and live off the land and be free and be a mountain man. Don't know why, but the thought helps me.

[@nariko47]

gutz1981 This feeling is so real, and you're not alone ...

[@fredzetts95]

gutz1981 yeah, I'm in too.

[@dieseldavey]

gutz1981 it's a lovely thought.

[@story1162]

ahh that would be cool! like build a tiny log cabin next to a waterfall.

[@GoranUlcinj]

whole world would live with you, what than?

[@Silirion]

Hi Emily, What you described here are symptoms that I recognize from the aftereffects I myself suffered after a burnout. I wish you all the best and hope that you are feeling well atm. Bless! Xoxo

[@slowhand5003]

Right on Emily. I suffer from anxiety too. I HAVE to get enough sleep. I stopped drinking 32 yrs ago, so good for you. I get angry but don't allow myself to most of the time, so I learned something today, along with being indecisive. Let It Be and This Too Will Pass are my favorite sayings. Let Go And LOVE Home is where I want to be-David Byrnes

[@cornwall9]

Rest in peace Emily x

[@mikeet69]

Emily one of the best videos of your I have watched. You were very open and honest with your thoughts and feelings which can be rare. I think everybody has some anxieties though some have more and they are more intense. Having said all that I wish people would think more before they speak. No you Emily, but those who make quick comments without thinking them through. Happens more to the young as we all learn things as we age. So please do not worry about the cap, how many times you have worn it lately, or what other people say about it. Just keep being yourself and saying whatever you have to say. If people do not like then skip or do not watch. Too much negativity in the world already. Besides you look great in almost anything so who gives a damn. Hope you feel better soon because being sick for a while is another thing that can make people anxious. And the other 4 you mentioned too. So keep your chin up and thanks for your efforts with the new videos. Great to see an honest woman. Cheers.

[@DennisDA]

I've suffered both anxiety and depression. Something I heard really helped me to cope with the stresses I was going through. The body's reactions are first of all, normal. They are really our body's way of telling us something is wrong. What this understanding leads to is a greater acceptance of ourselves. This, alone, helps to ease the (mental) strain we are going through. The television personality Megyn Kelly once said that "“You have to be dreadfully unhappy to pull yourself out of a malaise." We sometimes need to be forced to look for help, and our jumbled feelings are just the thing to get us going. One more observation I received from a mental health counselor many years ago: "The only way out is through.' To me this means that there is no quitting on myself. Whatever the problem is I have to go though it so see the other side. I hope these comments help you or someone else struggling with deep emotional issues.

[@zyadm97]

I am totally agree with "not making decision" thing. Also your self-confidence shaking, anything can hurt you or offend you.

[@navmohindra579]

Emily...trust me being sober is so much more attractive to me than anything else...when your under the influence your not coming from a real and honest place.

[@donaldsachse4817]

I hope you feel better Emily.

[@shaunhall8424]

Happy new year Emily hope you have an awesome year.

[@rolfsinkgraven]

I think one of the most important things to do in that situation is to let this person know you care and that you're there for them. Don't make them feel like you're being judgemental(telling them how wrong they are for what they're doing), but let them know that you care and want to see them on a better path. Everything they're doing is ultimately up to them, but you can influence that by letting them know that they're not alone. Great video i agree with what you said.

[@aprilreed7807]

I definitely agree with these and feel the same way especially about making decisions! love your channel and love all your videos!

[@katemaginn4700]

Best video to watch! relate to all x

[@susanneschultz9688]

I'm thankful you share yourself and I appreciate not only the education, but your allowing us to personalize from your unfiltered view, making better relationships ourselves being the hopeful outcome. Alone time is very important and so are keeping hobbies - so don't FOMO - the universe will bring "him" to you when it's right - even then, please continue to keep nights of "you colouring in with Netflix". Thank you for the thoughtful work you put to your videos

[@bryanbreuninger8320]

This is now my favorite video of yours! It helped me realize a few things like why I crash when I come home from work, I am afraid of high places but I try to swallow my fear and I go up anyway ladders, and buildings and stuff all for the paycheck but when I am done soon as I can I sleep so exhausted. Thank you

[@felicityball4336]

Thank you for this video! Currently sat here catching up whilst wanting to rip my none stop itchy throat out argh! I hope you're feeling better by now! I do believe this is the first KZbin video I've ever commented on & it's totally worth it because anyone out there with similar mental health issues like myself can connect with what you have to say, I think. So thank you!!! I don't drink for similar reasons and gave up years ago with the judging responses/looks. Nice to know I'm not the only one out there! Funnily I always put my indecisiveness down to being a Libra, potentially need to reassess that thought! Again it's good to know I'm not the only one!! Xx keep up the good work

[@AvenueCornerMusic]

Hey Emily. Such a good video!! Firstly I found out about adult colouring books yesterday and was gonna buy one to try and relieve my stress levels. Glad that someone dealing with anxiety has found them useful. The only times I've felt lethargic and tired is after I've had a massive panic attack, I've not had any in 5/6 months which is really good and my therapist has helped loads, having panic attacks is so horrible and I can only imagine what it was like for you having them constantly. I've never found that I was indecisive at my worst last year but I knew I wanted to go out but I also knew I was too anxious and was having panic attacks but didn't know that at the time. I hardly went out and even this year it took me quite a while to go out socialising and going on dates. I totally get the quitting your job one, I've considered quitting so many times but with my anxiety not actually being in work would make me worse, so I stay in work and am finding it easier as the weeks go by. Thanks so much for making this video. You're such an inspiration and I think that mental health issues shouldn't be taboo. Merry Christmas and happy new year Emily xox

[@DWIZZLE21]

I actually recognize myself in what you describe. Especially the indecisive part. Maybe I suffer from it as well.. Never thought It'd have a name...hmm

[@ImpartiallySpeaking]

Such a terrible terrible loss. RIP Emily.

[@thomas.alexander.]

All the things you are saying, Emily, make perfect sense to me. I agree with your approach to speaking about the subject. Indecision is a big one, and I find that getting angry at myself is my go to solution, but it's unhealthy to use this method of beating oneself up for being indecisive. Finding the right place to be yourself is the most important thing you can do. Small social groups where you don't have to put on a brave face or feel judged are the best. I have one bit of advice for you Emily, I would avoid fellow Anxiety sufferers as potential boyfriends, as the empathy and connect one feels when meeting a fellow GAD sufferer is not worth the potential nightmare when both people are hitting their dark place.

[@anthonylessthanzero1498]

Been there and done that! I still have it but not as bad. Very brave of you to talk about it. Take care and stop and breathe now and then. We who suffer from it, sometimes forget to take the time breathe. Best wishes Emily....

[@BlutigeTranen]

I have struggled with anxiety and chronic depression since I was around 14 years old. One of the hardest things to do is to let go of all the little things that pile up in your head. I've tried medications and therapies for years. At least a dozen different medications; all of which failed. Some of which made things worse, some of which made me suicidal. In the end... I wound up using marijuana to see how it helped... it was the first one to ever help! And now I can use it legally which is even better. I agree, those coloring books are awesome. They help you zone out and let go of trivial things that an anxious person would normally stress over. The hardest part is getting those who don't struggle with anxiety to understand your struggle with it and the best ways to help you with it and having them understand that you aren't being anti-social or mopey or anything like that. Great video, Emily. Thank you for sharing.

[@Reno500]

wow....love the new content. so honest and insightful. love it!

[@emilyhart]

thank you so much xx

[@galogiha]

how about the overthinking? that really pisses me off. and the drinking... well, funny enough, I kinda overdo it when I'm stressed. I find earplugs and the right music helps a lot.

[@Saleemumar]

I can't get enough of how beautiful you're. It's like watching an angel talk.

[@lawrencecastro12]

You described my anxiety perfectly. Thanks I don't feel so alone or weird anymore 😊

[@keithvannote729]

Take time to UNWIND and be good to yourself :) Rely on the Sisterhood. It is a joy to see you interact with your sisters.

[@BerryOonincx]

your colour therapy book is an amazing stress/anxiety reliever, i know what you mean when you talk about rather stay indoors watching a movie than going out to a bar, maybe it helps to find a bar close to home so when you decide to just go and see what the evening brings you can always go home in a jiffy. That thought alone helps me a lot from time to time. p.s they really should have smiley's on youtube :D

[@chrisdavies1265]

Emily....using the same words as me ! thought I was nuts !!!!! love xx

[@rodneyskene4180]

Sweetie, I too suffer from anxiety. I have fatigue issues and have ruined many relationships both personal and professional with anger issues. I never hurt anyone physically, but was a very unpleasant person. I eat comfort food daily. I have become very indecisive. I don't trust my decisions. I often waste money to temporarily feel better. I really send best wishes to you, and anyone reading this relief from anxiety and mental peace. Emily, love your videos and thanks for bringing this topic up. (Swearing helps lol!)

[@Tugger_Case]

I "feel" for you kiddo. I have aspbergers, my Dad had aspbergers, and my son has aspbergers. My other 4 kids and my wife have ADD and my youngest daughter has an anxiety disorder as well. One of the main way's aspbergers manifests itself is anxiety, then there is depression and the inability to socialize (there so many other symptoms as well). I was born in 1957 which means that my parents thought I was insane, because my other 6 siblings were all "normal's". So having grown up in the country I became feral. At 15 my parents required me to leave our home, at which time I went to work on a farm (which is basically what I have done all my life anyway) and at 17 I graduated, finished the haying season, and joined the Marines and never looked back. Being a Marine all by itself was difficult enough, being a Marine with un-diagnosed aspbergers was a "mother"! Although anxiety in the Marine Corps was kind of a benefit (kept me on my toes!)...... So many of the things that you mentioned are well known to me either having gone through it myself or vicariously through my kids...... Good Luck!

[@xman870096]

Good for you and deciding to put 'YOU' first; my anxiety took the form of excessive concern for my loved ones well being. I realized that I can not live their lives for them and the best I can do is offer the advice and wisdom of my years, it's up to them to decide to use it or not. Doing this I learned two important things; the people I care about are going to do as they please, and their successes and failures are their own. I also learned that MY worst fears and worry for them are not going to help them or their 'situation' any, so to do so is wasted energy and really futile.... I can't say I don't worry any more, I'll always have concern for the people I love, but my worrying to extremes served NO ONE and only made me ill.... Once I realized this it became easier to let go of much of my anxiety and as such my relationships with my loved ones has improved and I sleep better most nights.....

[@nathanappleby5767]

your my fave youtuber and i watch your videos everyday your the best youtuber and i am the worlds biggest anglophile and i love you so much and i was suffering through anxiety also plz plz plz mention me in one of your videos and you have the best accent

[@annamccormick7904]

I religiously watch your videos but this one has hit home. I've been suffering with anxiety really badly for the last year which resulted in a nervous breakdown and depression in August... it's the worst! I've never been "that" kind of person. Decision making is definitely my biggest problem. I've finally decided (after months of deciding what to do) to quit my job too and move to the other side of the world to start something new.

[@emilyhart]

wow maybe that big change is EXACTLY what you need, good for you. How exciting!!!! xx

[@kirk1363]

Great talk! I wish growing up more people talked as candidly as you do about everyday challenges. I don't suffer from anxiety the way you describe but I also get the sense of isolation and that not everyone cares or understands why you do what you do. All the best in 2017! Keep the videos coming, anyway you like, they are all very worthwhile.

[@sasquatchandme3673]

I don't feel like I struggle with anxiety anymore, but as I listened to your video I found myself relating to many of your struggles. I had very similar anxiety issues to yours back in my twenties. I never thought of them as anxiety at the time, of course. Not until your video provided the context in hindsight. But for each one, a solution eventually presented itself...though some have taken me longer to overcome than others. Anger - I was the classic angry teenager until someone told me that 'Only I could make myself angry'. I scoffed at that initially, but it intrigued me enough that I tried it the next time something set me off. It worked better than I expected, and eventually I began using that choice to control not only my temper, but a lot of other emotions too. It wasn't a quick fix. It took a lot of practice over many years, but eventually I disciplined myself to be chill in most situations. Fear, however, is my eternal nemesis. I still force myself to do community theatre and karaoke periodically just to prove to myself that I can. But I've pretty much mastered the art of approaching pretty girls and getting up in front of crowds. I have a rule about fear: If I discover that something scares me, I find a way to confront it. I take it up as a challenge. I don't always succeed, but I got over fear of failure a long time ago. Tiredness - I am not, nor have I ever been, a 'morning person', and if I don't get 6-8 hours of sleep at night, I'm completely useless as a human being. However, in your vid you talked about how you would leave social engagements early (to the chagrin of your friends) in order to get a good nights sleep. I had (and possibly still have) a social anxiety issue that prevented me from hanging out for more than a few hours with a large group of friends or family. I never went to concerts, I avoided malls, I simply lost all focus when in a crowd for too long. Nowadays, I treasure my solitude. I moved to Alaska for a few years and being out in the middle of nowhere really helped me find my center. I'm back in a more densely populated area now and when I feel the social anxiety coming I just go for a walk or a drive, and if that's not possible, I love a good book or the internet. Alcohol - I've never been a big drinker. No one in my family drinks and I never enjoyed the taste of alcohol enough in my misspent youth to bother drinking it to excess. However, while living in Alaska, I discovered that drinking is more than just something people do...its a social qualifier. (I suppose that's true everywhere, but I never cared to notice until my only social outlet became karaoke night at this small-town bar in Alaska). I started going for the karaoke and not drinking, but I really didn't start making friends until I had a drink in my hand. I never needed to drink much, just be seen with a beer bottle in my hand, and it was enough for the whole room to warm up to me. Indecisiveness - I struggled with indecisiveness for years! But I never linked it to anxiety until you mentioned it. I've always been an overthinker. I was a perfectionist and more than a little OCD from my teens into my twenties. I liked to have a plan and a backup plan, and a backup-to-the-backup-plan...you get the idea. But all of that planning was done in advance so that I could avoid making on-the-spot decisions, because I loathed them! I also had a best friend that was a textbook Alpha Male and liked to make decisions, so I usually just rolled with him. However, he inevitably moved away and I had to start making decisions for myself. Honestly, I think that scared me more than a little bit, but after an long and awkward period of adjustment where I made many, many mistakes...I eventually started making decisions for myself, big decisions, and pursuing my dreams. I just wish it hadn't taken me so long to figure all that stuff out. Anywho, I've clearly rambled on for far too long. If you've read this far I applaud your patience. I love your videos :) Got hooked on the funny ones, but I love these too. Keep up the good work. I look forward to the next one.

[@SalLeeParadise]

You help me so much Em! I can so relate

[@autumn0953]

Emily this is great advice not just for anxiety but any mental health :)

[@emilyhart]

Thank you so much x

[@Avonidsed]

I find your points about anxiety spot on. Throw into that mix that I have diabetes and that's a fun mix. Part of the while fight or flight thing is your liver, in anticipation of you needing energy, tries to be helpful and goes "here, take this, it's dangerous to do alone" and squishes a bunch of sugar into your system. Which if you have anxiety happens all the time. For a diabetic not so helpful.

[@benlw2]

Several points... First, anyone that judges you because you won't drink is a shit friend. I recently attended a friends birthday party and one of his friends just could not get his head wrapped around the fact that I don't drink. He kept asking question after question and eventually started making lame sober jokes until I and several other people at the table let him have it. Secondly, your ideal evening of getting food and coming home to watch a DVD or Netflix SOUNDS HEAVENLY! I think you'd be really fun to hang out with. Finally, I've always liked your videos but I love the new direction of your channel. You're always funny but your vulnerability and honesty has taken your channel to another level.

[@patrickdavis8271]

Thank you for this video Emily.

[@dustinshadle732]

I'm 37, struggle with anxiety and depression. I lost lots of friends because I stopped drinking

[@christophe_atx]

It's funny you do videos on anxiety. I'm a new subscriber and I was enjoying getting a laugh from someone new, that's you, while I'm dealing with a period of panic and anxiety myself. I've been prone to panic and anxiety since I was 16. I've gotten quite good at dealing with it over the years but I let things get too far sometimes and end up paying for it. I Appreciate you, take time whenever you need and I look forward to the next one.

[@idontneedthis66]

"We can all have a chat about how fucked up we all are" OMG I LOL'd at that line! Everything you just described, especially the stressed relationships, indecisiveness, and lack of sleep, has been the story of my life. Oh and can't forget the 4 visits to the ER with a 180 BPM heartbeat that definitely felt like a heart attack, and required ER grade Ativan to stop (side note: that stuff is AMAZING. Not a care in the world when you're on it). Sounds like you're on the right track to getting healthy and managing anxiety; to hell with what other people say about the going home early and not drinking (or as much) cause they can't understand and you have to do what's right for you. Just know you're not alone in this one. All the best, - D

[@DTRB56]

I relate to so much of this, wish I'd know it years ago. I especially liked the thing about decisions. I've always been terrible at them. I now see the connection to anxiety. My solution for years now has been to wait until the moment the decision has to be made. In that moment I find it is always clear as to what feels right. For sure this can annoy people, but i have learnt to not let this effect me.