You must also set boundaries to protect your own mental health. Women will drive you crazy.
@winnieminyalla94302 жыл бұрын
Not only women but also some men
@algobo2 жыл бұрын
And any person of any gender
@lukeArmstrong5242 жыл бұрын
My ex gf broke my boundary. She knew clear as day not to do it. I had to cut all contact and walk away. Always respect yourself.
@veritasliberabitvos4546 жыл бұрын
This is something (boundaries) that are important in everything we do. Need to let her know the not negotiable things like; no hitting, no name calling, no white anting and the ones that if violated multiple times (like around trust / or violating you me time with trivial things) that consequences will happen. Not negotiable is a walk off the lot, this is no recovery, and they are common sense and you must enforce them no matter how hot she is. Great video. The delivery on these is very important. Respect and clarity helps and use this time to find out her boundaries and the why.
@travisandrews39092 жыл бұрын
She should Respect u
@thecowboy96982 жыл бұрын
"White anting?"
@notperfect.forgiven60424 жыл бұрын
Thank you for clarifying boundary reactions. My ex-fiance would get very upset with me when I would tell her that she was not going to bully or control me. She said I was mean for doing that. This video has confirm that I was on the right track when I left her. Thank you for the confirmation.
@travisandrews39092 жыл бұрын
You should of walked away
@kelsnake2 жыл бұрын
Relationships are but learning opportunities to grow. If boundaries are an issue, then that is the growth area to be worked on.
@delusionsslayer72856 жыл бұрын
Impressive explanation. We must definitely set genuine boundaries in the relationship. To give our partner an honest reason to stay with us.
@travisandrews39092 жыл бұрын
U have to give our partner an honest reason to stay with us
@kevinmitchell86505 жыл бұрын
Respect with me is paramount!!! It will not be all for me and it will not be all for you. Do the golden rule!!! Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
@Ace.0.0.0.3 жыл бұрын
Try do unto others.. then split. (Joking)
@busyrand6 жыл бұрын
Wow. This was very fruitful. I really appreciate the specific examples. I learned something from this. I've never had issues with personally having strong boundaries, but I guess I could've communicated things more concretely. Thanks for the wisdom.
@davidbarth805 жыл бұрын
I wish I could've communicated my boundaries better. Directness doesn't always pay off.
@Thomas-102310 ай бұрын
I can't get enough of this. I recently enjoyed a similar book, and I couldn't get enough of it. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn
@xolaniphililemema86696 жыл бұрын
Some girls need to be boldened in this communication facility, they tend to be scared by the questions.
@olivierfaber84786 жыл бұрын
Good point next video a step by step" how to argue with a woman" 😁 Like many men i had to deal with manipulation and ignored it completely, walk away, push, pull.Once back after a while this pattern started all over again. Like talking to a wall..But good boundaries is a must, most men fear that you loose a woman..
@mustaphadoaa10246 жыл бұрын
Thank you Apollonia. Being confident and having self dignity are what make a woman respect you for boundaries to be formed. By the way, you are wearing a nice skirt. I trust your style Apollonia. I'm happy that you are fully expressing yourself by wearing your favourite colour. Allah bless you Apollonia.
@codymcneal41525 жыл бұрын
I have boundaries in relationships she has to be honest loving caring supportive family oriented and have morals and be faithful
@ms.camillewarrenempress315 жыл бұрын
Bingo . If she can't you move on.. !!! Take care your own responsibilities
@HeatherGerhardt6 жыл бұрын
Boundaries are sooo important.
@j13263 жыл бұрын
Everyone talks about setting boundaries, how to express yourself, and people say “be specific” about boundaries… but I want to know what are boundaries! I want to know 5 examples of 5 different boundaries..
@Iamdeejoker2 жыл бұрын
Thank you I’ve been looking for examples as well
@frederickhoward55986 жыл бұрын
I have this profound quest regarding dating, relating,and mating... When did it get to be soooo complicated with such, we're merely human...although acting otherwise! Are we actually devolving???
@QBlond846 жыл бұрын
When u ask women what's going on?? they always said nothing nothing... Then she goona dump you off 😂
@robert68335 жыл бұрын
Love this one too. Another great video about boundaries! Great post, AP. 🙌🏾
@optimumJC4 жыл бұрын
Your advice is the best, hands down! Thank you for all these videos.
@danielsalazar62116 жыл бұрын
Interesting topic but the question is if I set clear relationship boundaries can some women be held accountable if the decide to change the rules.
@joetrueblood76636 жыл бұрын
Well I gave her a year to figure things out, so now I'm letting her go cause nothing has changed with her not giving me time, I'm done now and now she will try to get me back but she let it go to far, not interested anymore 😒
@14kurtismiller5 жыл бұрын
A year is not enough time bro, give it another five years.
@bear1more2875 жыл бұрын
Honesty ,Respect are common sense in a relationship,although too many people don’t have no common sense that’s the problem
@bnwo6 жыл бұрын
I didn't get a chance to answer your video topics ask on your IG, but can you make a video about how you argue/disagree constructively with a woman? I've been told I come off intimidating when I argue, but I feel that I'm simply being to the point and being objective.
@NoName-zb1gm2 жыл бұрын
This is intimidating stuff. If you have to go through all this work maybe the two of you aren't a good match. If you are easy going and carefree and giving and unselfish, find someone like you who appreciates you. It's not just about finding someone who is good looking. Compatibility is very important.
@Stanton7584 жыл бұрын
You are a beautiful woman your video has given me some clarity on what I'm going through
@raiderlove59233 жыл бұрын
I so need this video. Thank you.
@michaelleedavidson55715 жыл бұрын
I finally found out how to comment. Women don't read what I write - they READ what they THINK THEY ARE SEEING. "I want a loving trusting non-smoking smiling woman who listens to me the first time I say something not necessarily agrees with me ! She should have at least 5 of the 7F's FAITHFUL, FUN LOVING, FRIENDLY, FEISTY, FRISKY, FOOTBALL, FROLICKING ! "
@martineastland24553 жыл бұрын
I love my fiancee but told her from the start that I wasnt putting up with ANY bullshit from her, shit tests, fucking around on me (as im well versed in all the signs of cheating), or mind games. I love her but i told her id walk out the fucking door in a heartbeat on her and hers if she takes the piss!
@lukeArmstrong5242 жыл бұрын
Yes, and they will test you.
@deedontcare5845 жыл бұрын
Been with my woman 7 years everytime she disrespects I stand my ground and tell her to respect my boundaries she gets insecure “why you being nasty to me” lool some women just can’t handle a man who stands his ground , in the past I use to react and be all angry but over the years I just learn to not react and stay grounded give her my honest opinion but it still seems to clash with her / she’s a Sagittarius so I guess respecting other people’s opinions can clash with her at times lool
@josec38233 жыл бұрын
7 yrs and she still crosses your boundaries? No my friend... You have no boundaries if after 7 years you still tolerating that shit. Once someone crosses that line a man who has strong boundaries walks away.
@joejenjust5 жыл бұрын
Excellent Video. Love it. Thank You
@alfredclarke96476 жыл бұрын
As a woman wants a man, a man wants a woman. It's a two way street. Women have to tell men there feelings and not just play mind games and " Woman UP"!!!
@DRGUANE6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for these tips, I have watched the other video so I guess I was ahead of the game on this ome😉
@scott.joshua2 жыл бұрын
The link and the end card are inaccessible on mobile
@matthewholden97146 жыл бұрын
Best one yet, without being controling...
@ApolloniaPonti6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Matthew!
@Acid17715 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the videos that help out a lot 😌🙏🏼
@ayoubsadi51863 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@robertyoung63205 жыл бұрын
So I don't see how its boundaries but I see the boundaries of being truthful or being too truthful being too truthful can hurt the feelings so there's a balance
@juancarlosrodriguez28285 жыл бұрын
Does everything you speak of,work in long distance relationships?
@olglez92303 жыл бұрын
I was dating a woman once. I set a boundary. I wasnt happy with her being on her phone too much. I respectively said that this bothered me. She said sorry. But then 2 days later said she saw no future
@bobbymitchell82736 жыл бұрын
Ok i understand the boundaries yes !! But yes u do have 2 be clear really good tip !!!!!
@geezmoneyy6 жыл бұрын
GREAT VIDEO....NEEDED THAT ...THANKS !!!
@Txs1234 жыл бұрын
Nice video madam so happy hear u
@ulysesordaz49814 жыл бұрын
Están bien rifados tus videos amiga, gracias.
@HeadlinersCuttingZone2 жыл бұрын
Okay i have 1 question how you set a boundary with a women im dating who has teenager and adult kids i understand i respect she has kids for example: say we go out to dinner or movies and she is on the phone texting her kids over & over all the time and i feel disrespected and there not texting anything important and i tell her about it that it bothers me because im here try to enjoy moment time with you & she thinks im trying to control her im not ill say why it bothers me because as akid growing up and had friends who always ignored me made me feel not important so know im a grown man & have value to myself i feel i need to be respected can someone answer my message please thought's 💡?
@christopher-yi3rm9 ай бұрын
and girls who txt 2 men the same time online dating and say they are single although seeing a boyfriend once a week and the rest of the week they are online txting as many men as they can find to hookup late that night and only interested in men and how fast they can change lovers.
@TheForgivenman3 жыл бұрын
The more I listen to this lady the more I understand why you have to LOVE a woman to stick with her. Women are so complicated
@oscarascencio8132 жыл бұрын
My. Grand father gave me an example of what’s is principal. And you put the yoke of oxen as example He say the yoke arre the principal and the oxen will work together under the yoke But remember if they don’t understand each other and get alone in one goal they won’t perform a good strait line in the field. The oxen they need to understand each other. Other wise ones they put the yoke in their neck tfey know what to do and what’s is their job And they respect each other . That’s is true the yoke are principal in from each person and just like man have principal we need to find out what’s her principal too so we can understand each other Hey I learned when I was a kid you thought I remember until u screw up twice I remember but I learn more lesson the hard way for not remember this old advice in life
@lemontmiller64476 жыл бұрын
I set boundaries by following two rules...1. Don't tolerate bullshit. 2. Don't accept bullshit. I'll explain what I mean in details...etc
@johnroberts105 жыл бұрын
What happens when your ex girlfriend shows up with her new boyfriend at the same restaurant that you're at? Then what?
@jhonhernandario23354 жыл бұрын
If you are the owner of the restaurant... cahrge them more .... if u are just a costumer too just mind your business
@lukeArmstrong5242 жыл бұрын
Just ignore her like she doesent exist. Talk to other women if you can and let her see you.
@waltersharrow4066 жыл бұрын
This video was definitely another great one, very helpful. Awesome job 😉 Us men can build a house, and we can build a car. But when it comes to women 🤯 lol Thanks for your help.
@ApolloniaPonti6 жыл бұрын
lol. I think men need more credit. ;)
@matthewl75246 жыл бұрын
Hi Apollonia I just got out of an long relationship about a year now and there’s this girl that I like and I know she likes me too.but she wants me to stay single much longer..I really don’t know what that means.why she would say that
@sucram10156 жыл бұрын
Is there any reason?
@14kurtismiller5 жыл бұрын
She may want to date while you sit and wait for her.
@georgewiel6 жыл бұрын
Wonderful deep dive into boundaries with a great example on how to communicate boundaries with strength.
@ApolloniaPonti6 жыл бұрын
HI George! Thanks so much! :)
@IrfanAhmed-hj9zc6 жыл бұрын
Hey Apollonia, this is the only source to connect with you. I have shared you about a girl with whome i am in long distance relationship now. But i come to know that she is very much shy its been a month now and she isn't open up yet... She refuse to say i love you, she said i feel shy.. I will say it by myself if its don't bother you. But still she has not said anything.i feel very disappointed because of her behavior.. Please suggest me something to deal with her shyness. Thank you.
@rahntv43406 жыл бұрын
I got a question... So me and my ex broke up from me cheating and we are trying to work it out but I recently found out that she was hiding a guy by saying it was her cousin the hole time we was dating and now that we not together but we are trying we been on a few dates and talk every day but she likes him to I don’t know what to do because I love her and I think I’m better for her can you guys make a video and give me some help thank you...
@laurencecanderva61316 жыл бұрын
The trust is broken bro move on To the next girl and keep ur head up don’t cheat this time.
@johnlabello9195 жыл бұрын
I have heard so many videos on the importance of setting boundaries but fall short of give examples or offering some kind of list to go by. A list you could provide at the end of the video would be nice since your goal is to note make a long video. A list containing many examples of health boundaries and just flat out deal breakers. Now I get it, this list of boundaries is supposed to be something that's structured for me and what I will and Won't tolerate as well to have some skin in the game too in generating such a list. Let's take for example someone like me, who's laid down like a door mat while NPD and HPD woman walk all over him for over 30 years. Mostly due to marriage/relationship counselors as well as relationship books suggest doing whatever it takes to keep your one sided abusive relationship going at all cost so that divorce doesn't become an option. Most counselor s and relationship books fail to have a chapter on what to look out for if your spouse presents these certain traits and if so run for the hills and file asap since it only gets worse. Sorry I went off on a tangent. Ok I'm back, LOL Any who, guys like us may not even know that a boundary has presented itself since this behavior have been our norm & not even recognize that gas lighting and word salad conversation should be deal breakers. This list should be clear on what's acceptable and unacceptable behavior and how it should be handled. Examples of what that consequence should be when the behavior or boundary is crossed. Because in may experience it will be crossed and tested over and over again. If you made it this far I want to apologize for my poor writing and grammar skills and if you were able to decipher through it to have at least gotten my point then that's all that really matters. This 2 figure typing of mine is making my fingers tired. LOL
@annastone56243 жыл бұрын
Good point. A lot of people giving advice have no concept of the spectrum of behaviour and how dangerous some people can be. It sounds like you figured out a lot on your own. Well done! Wishing you better connections on your future journey.
@benalexender30464 жыл бұрын
Thanks 😊
@eliguriel63886 жыл бұрын
ONE word - GREAT !!!
@ApolloniaPonti6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Eli!
@eliguriel63886 жыл бұрын
Dear Apollonia, Every video is so simple, concise, and most importantly it is true that it is simply wonderful.
@parveenkumar32086 жыл бұрын
Breathtaking video
@ApolloniaPonti6 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@omnibrain86 жыл бұрын
Some people don't have boundaries but are ready to abide by their partners values or rules.What is wrong with such people?
@ApolloniaPonti6 жыл бұрын
They haven't figured out who they are and might wonder why internally they aren't happy.
@MegaEmagic16 жыл бұрын
I Like this video I have a question How do you know a women's intention? 🤔
@ApolloniaPonti6 жыл бұрын
By her actions. How she shows up with you and if she is meeting you halfway. Is she reciprocating?
@MegaEmagic16 жыл бұрын
@@ApolloniaPonti sometimes not all the time.
@bengift1014 жыл бұрын
6:43 Apollonia called it
@ליהיימליך6 жыл бұрын
wow, that's a great video!
@rolandrufino31674 жыл бұрын
Mom told me ignore she wants me jealous but I cant believe she chose them ova me really hurts and get me angry I trust her but still I dont trust them she shouldn't do me that I care for her alot does anything she wants spend my last think she even has my son only reason she say we together
@juanpablo88865 жыл бұрын
Great video. Honesty and respect does not mean different things to different people. Honest is just that. Do not lie. Respect is just that, do not be disrespectful. Unless is it that women need to know super specific things so they know what they can and cant get away with? Also what is your stance on gender roles in a relationship? Do you believe that mean should be the leaders of the household and Women are submissive handling the nurturing aspect? I do not mean the extreme where the man says what I say goes no matter what and the woman just does what she is told. What I mean is as a family we all have our talking point and opinion of how something should be done but at the end of the day the family trust that the man of the house is making the decision with the best intentions of the family in mind whether the decision he makes works out or not. I do not mean submissive as in a slave either. I mean submissive in a feminine way where it causes the man to actually take a moment to reflect and actually think things threw instead of him saying, "well she does what I say anyways" and has that self absorbed narcissist mentality.
@jrtheinvestor43544 жыл бұрын
Great information, and such a beautiful face to go along
@loufaulk47316 жыл бұрын
Ok here's something I call being honest to me if I ask a woman I'm interested in how many men has she been with I expect an honest answer and how would I know she is telling me the truth because to me that is important
@kelliwallen97635 жыл бұрын
That's a 2way street...
@lukeArmstrong5242 жыл бұрын
Never ask, she will never tell you the real number..🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👍💯💪
@M_elliote343 жыл бұрын
I feel like you’re saying the guy Has to have all of his shit together and do all the work, and all of the communicating.
@ApolloniaPonti3 жыл бұрын
It takes two to communicate.
@ilovehuahin45635 жыл бұрын
Good vdo.
@samuelmutwale6613 Жыл бұрын
Will and Jada 🥲
@williamharrison13365 жыл бұрын
What if the woman won’t communicate
@ballers91722 жыл бұрын
Then move on find another woman there's plenty of fish in the sea
@Juli-n-David2 жыл бұрын
Amen
@CCCC-tq8yo6 жыл бұрын
Did ur bf do all the moves on ur videos????
@micahmistretta14486 жыл бұрын
I know you be yelling Apollonia 😂
@ApolloniaPonti6 жыл бұрын
no way! lol
@wasssup75734 жыл бұрын
‘Look what happened to Will Smith’ it’s not enough to set boundaries, 1st time they cross them you leave and let them contact you
@lukeArmstrong5242 жыл бұрын
Leave and watch them chase. Then decide if you even want them back.
@nelmat55364 жыл бұрын
I need help
@CandyLemon36 Жыл бұрын
The richness of this content is a guide through life's journey. Reading a book with related material was transformative. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn
@charlesabernathy22522 жыл бұрын
Excuse me. I am like a school student who is infatuated by his teacher, i.e., I like you.
@Zen-ii7ds2 жыл бұрын
Restraining order
@SirJames1005 жыл бұрын
great
@DEMETRIUSblaze6 жыл бұрын
I have limits and boundaries to what I will not let happen is anger and jealousy when I have my video game and alone reflect time that I'm not spending time with her like I should, I would say too possible woman look I'm a introverted I value my Alone Time I need space to be me and I'm not engaging in this talk anymore, cool video as always, and you have amazing smooth long hair it's very unique
@felixkhale6 жыл бұрын
Good
@cashflow2day5 жыл бұрын
Wish I would’ve found this video earlier
@tombraider17925 жыл бұрын
cashflow2day don’t do it buddy unless you want your relationship to go down hill, you really need a lesson on understanding today’s women
@mauricedrew31504 жыл бұрын
The great philosopher willie Wonka...STOP, DON'T COME BACK!! JUST BEFORE THEIR DOOM!!!!
@JohnJohn-xx7wy4 жыл бұрын
Watching this 2020 and hearing aboit will smith 😅
@recyclespinning98394 жыл бұрын
Why would a woman test man. Didn't her parents teach her boundaries. This just seems recipe for break up. I mean you actually said , she may test him to see how far she can go?? Huh But yeah I was with a woman that did not respect boundaries, entitlement was her middle name😒
@davidserrant9764 жыл бұрын
I was wondering the same thing. But then again we not in their mind.
@lukeArmstrong5242 жыл бұрын
Women by nature test men. Women test men until the day you die.
@mutungiedmund23556 жыл бұрын
I have fallen for the wrong people of Late who Love money more than me
@EC-it2fx3 жыл бұрын
This is relationship advice for a woman
@Mike-xv8hi Жыл бұрын
I would like to find hey lady that would accept me for who I am and it wanted to find and learn more about the Lord and that would understand and I could understand and work together for each other and the better and it's of each other
@lolsucks35996 жыл бұрын
U cant explain honesty and respect? Or did I misunderstand you?
@mrmoha19876 жыл бұрын
Not clear just go through your video again.
@ousman52326 жыл бұрын
Your action is fucking calling me.
@michaelcummings61785 жыл бұрын
woman have boundaries ? ? ? HA HA HA HA
@Mike-xv8hi2 жыл бұрын
No conversation but setting boundaries and rules and you know they're talking to you but they have no conversation with you it's b*******
@mrkellycottle4592 Жыл бұрын
I can’t believe you are using Will and Jada as a example for setting boundaries. Don’t raise your voice but you can sleep with your sons friends them go on television and call it a entanglement. You lost all credibility with that statement. Unbelievable